What Was It Like Being The Child Of A Teen Parent?

serious children of teen parents what was growing up like mom had me at 16 for a while my mom did what she could to provide for me somewhere down the road she decided that partying and having fun were more important I spent my childhood living with my grandma and being supported by both her and my grandpa they didn't do everything parents should do for their kids this may sound mushy but they really are my heroes my mum went down a really crappy path and I would have been right there with her had my grandparents not stepped up they helped pay for college bought me my first car gave me a place to live rent-free raised me from day one and never once asked for anything in return I just got my degree just bought a new car and landed an awesome job and now nothing will make me happier than to walk the stage at my graduation ceremony with them watching my mom had me when she was 14 she was debauched by her dad my life wasn't bad I grew up with my mom's grandma and so did my mom my dad was arrested and is still in prison today but I didn't even know she was my mother until I was 10 I thought she was my sister my mom went to college and managed to get ahead I moved in with her when I was 11 she took great care of me obviously she had trust issues and never got remarried or even dated I guess my dad kind of freaked up the relationships for the rest of her life I missed out on lots of stuff my mom was in school my entire childhood and my grandmother was on disability so we had some financial issues after I was 13 my mom was financially stable dand had a decent job things turned around after that and when I turned around 14 I had a pretty normal childhood no financial issues pretty easygoing life it could have been much worse than it was luckily my mom was able do what lots of teen moms can't which is get ahead my mom was 19 when she had me something happened when I was a baby that involved me getting hit in the head with something my mom and her boyfriend went to court and they never found out who did it I was put in foster care and then my grandma got custody of me she raised me my mom would call periodically and every time she did it just kept getting worse for me to deal with she would say that she'd call in the next few days but not call two years basically I developed really bad trust issues on top of feeling like the one person in the world who was supposed to care about me didn't so I hadn't still have issues with depression and Trust I don't know who my dad is she doesn't remember my grandma is my hero though she didn't have to raise me but did and I am so thankful for her I'm a woman my mom does have borderline schizophrenia and personality disorder asked my grammar about it a little while ago she doesn't hear voices or anything that crazy she just goes off in her own world I also told her about all the things you all have said about her and how she's a bit famous for being so awesome it made her day yikes that's rough thank goodness for Grandma my mom got pregnant with me as a junior in high school grade year 11 at 16 years old and had me at 17 few days before the start of her senior year the man who got her pregnant told her he was 18 when he was really 28 this man is my biological father when he found out my mom was pregnant he left her after my mom had me we lived with her parents and her older brother and they were fully supportive of her they adored me and I was beyond spoiled as a baby not with toys or anything but with love when I was three months old my mom started dating a guy who was the grade below her they fell in love got married when I was almost four after they both got their degrees my dad worked at a crop elevator and my mom became a nurse I never noticed money was tight as a young kid my dad bought my mom a puppy for their one-year anniversary and even though I was an only child we had fun I was again spoiled with love and at Christmas I always got what I asked Santa and mom dad for we did move around a lot before finally settling down in my parents hometown when I was 10 a year after my mom gave birth to my first brother and at 15 she gave birth to my youngest brother both are healthy and happy and now eight and five years old now here is the kicker I did not know the man my mom married wasn't my biological father because they started dating when I was three months old he was the man besides my grandparent encore who I recognized to love me I never questioned that my last name on my birth certificate was my mother's maiden name or the fact that the father's name was not filled in because my mom had me so young once they got married I went by his last name without getting it legally changed they sat me down one day and told me everything even though I was upset I still loved the man who raised me my dad he is amazing man and doesn't have to be a father to me but he chooses to be I am very lucky anyway after I turned 18 and I got my last name changed to my stepdads last name and I am very happy my biological father has tried to reach me through Facebook saying that he loves me bull crap I just told him that I wanted nothing to do with him and blocked him anyway I've lived a very happy and loving 20 years even with teen parents not all end up raising crappy kids my dad parents besides his mom love me and so do his siblings and their spouses I've never felt unloved or unwelcome by them I know my grandma loves me but she sure as heck doesn't like me or my mom or any female I don't know what her deal is TL DR mom had me at 17 married another man I call him that have two little brothers live happily ever after happy endings yay my mom had three kids by the time she was 20 and two more by 26 I guess we had a normal life we were not raised by our grandparents because she married my brothers dad of 16 and my dad 19 she did check out of being a parent when we were older though at 12 years old I could come and go as I pleased her and my dad got a divorce and she was single for the first time in her life so she wanted to be selfish we had food and clothes and stuff but we made all decisions for ourselves because she was tired of being a mom we were treated as adults from a very young age just because she didn't want to deal with it we all turned out really good and responsible none of the smoke or drink and don't use drugs she put us on birth control as soon as we told her we wanted to freak were allowed to sleep over no problem my mother was a teen mom both of my sisters were teen moms they all had a really hard time some of it came from financial issues and others just from lack of maturity and time all the kids knew their dads they had different levels of participation my grandparents loved all of us now that everyone is grown I feel like my mom and sisters are sort of P they never got to do the fun young stuff like college parties being free mom had me when she was 18 dad was 19 and opposed to a lot of the other comments here I think the only thing that differentiates me from the norm is just the reaction I get when I say how old my parents are dad didn't do anything illegal and they married when they had me they've been together ever since I never grew up thinking it was weird or anything only thing that was probably different was that when I was four or five I rarely saw my dad as he was in college he'd always come home quite late other than that I'd say it was a good life growing up both sides of my family get along really well main thing to get out of this is just because you have a child at such a young age doesn't mean your life is ruined my mom had me when she was 17 at the very beginning of her senior year in high school my dad was never in the picture the way I see it I grew up with her I was there when she graduated high school her first job I remember when she turned 21 I was there when she got married too young and then got divorced I remember when my grandma was diagnosed with cancer and I watched my mom take a care of her every day until she passed I even remember the moment I realized she was broken I was eight but how I watched her rebuild could create a life for us I saw her fall in love for real and then get married again I remember when the doctor told her she couldn't have any more kids and I was lucky enough to be the person to tell her that the pregnancy test looked positive while we stood outside the bathroom not entirely understanding the gravity of the situation I was holding her hand when she gave birth to my brother I'm 21 now and living at college now I really feel like I'm writing this from the other side of things it's amazing to see her have the life everyone hopes for happy marriage cute kid I'm not saying everything is perfect but I'm so grateful I got a front-row ticket to her life I attribute everything I am to her and the tough choices I've watched her make also perhaps more important than anything I remember the day she got ready at gold the woman is truly my hero I watched my mom grow up too I remember where she was at 27 compared to where I am night and day my parents were 16 when they had my elder sister and 23 when they had me 25 when they had my younger sister both my parents finished high school and went on to get middle-class jobs so money was tight but not awful my mother was in foster care at that time so her only other family was a brother a year younger my father's family however ran our apple orchard and farm so although they weren't rich by any means we always had plenty of homegrown food we were also given about 30 acres to build a house on by my father's family when my parents were in their late 20s so that helped immensely we always raised animals so that just added to the healthy food we had access to I always noticed my parents were a little different from many of my friends since they were usually younger than their parents they were once strict at all and I can't honestly remember ever having the restrictions my friends did growing up stuff like curfews and whatnot they were also very open about fracking and drugs with us they eventually divorced when my younger sister turned 18 my dad said he was sticking it out for us kids they didn't really have any problems but they had learned over the years that they didn't really love each other and had decided when the kids were grown they would split you and pursue more fulfilling relationships my sisters are still P off about this but I was just like meh your grown ups make your own decisions about your life I still see them and I'm not bothered by it that's actually very mature of him I admire parents like that I am a child of a mom who have birth to me at 16 years old my relationship with my mom isn't steady but we love each other my mom tells me stories about when I was a baby and how she worked three jobs and lived on her own after her parents kicked her out my dad didn't stay in the picture very long and I rarely speak to him my mom is frequently worried about me and at times tends to be a bit overprotective because she doesn't want me to go through what she did overall my life is no different than many others and having a teen mom has not changed Who I am my mother was 15 and my father was 18 when I was born back in 1983 my father was physically abusive towards my mother and they ended up getting a divorce a year after I was born my mother 17-18 at the time worked two jobs and I spent time with a sitter I remember when we finally got a mattress to sleep honest night and how hard she worked to keep out poverty hidden from me I never really felt like we were poor but looking back it was obvious I think I was lucky because I've never seen anyone her age work that hard to provide a seemingly normal life for their child I'm 30 now and when she was 30 she was worrying about how to get me my first car it blows my mind my mother was 44 when she had me but 17 when she had my sister after comparing childhoods we can't really find many differences apart from a bit of a beam there done that since there was another four kids after my sister and before me my mother had a very bad childhood growing up her dad abused her she has suffered from minor learning difficulties be polar and a personality disorder all her life which wasn't properly diagnosed until early this year she was told it was depression and she's not got a great relationship with her mother who had her own problems with men my mom was 17 when she had me - an older man that was 22 at the time who didn't take any notice of me until I was 16 but that's a story for another time I was a very ill child when my mum gave birth to me I was dying but the doctors got me stable from that point on it was touch-and-go up until I was about 6 months old I was in the hospital more than I was at home going through two lumbar punctures I have very bad bronchiolitis and asthma and had three different types of inhalers after coming out of the hospital and getting to go home my mum couldn't really cope with her small income jobseekers dole in our tiny shared flat with a bo Varun mate she would constantly ask her family or friends to look after me while she went out food shopping or whatever but wouldn't come back for days going on drinking benders although she loved me and showered me with love and any small gifts she could afford she just could cope mentally and I don't not blame her for this my mum got into the wrong crowd of people and they dragged her down further she had actually hung about with someone and let me be around someone that would later turn out to be a murderer now this destructive behavior contained until I was about 2.5 when she met me stepdad who was run continues to the best male role Emmental I've ever had he did very well from himself he was 19 he drove his own car his own mobile and on about two grand a week this was Northern Ireland his 96 feet he was my mum's knight in shining armor come to take my mom away from this place forever he wanted to take me into my mum over to Scotland for a fresh start my granny and the rest of my family did not like this and tried to have my granny adopt me but that didn't work after a couple of months of working things out my mother the only dad I've ever known and myself made our journey over to Scotland I genuinely think my dad saved my mum's life and gave me a brilliant one I dread to think what would have happen to us if we had stayed in Northern Ireland I visit my granny and auntie's at least once a year as well so nothing changed in respects to that either I totally read this in what I imagine your accent to sound like anyways I'm glad things turned out so well I can only hope things turn out well for my son I had him when I was 18 my mum was 18 when she had me she was friends with the wrong people and made some decisions she now regrets my father was as on drugs and was affiliated with a gang my mum wanted nothing to do with him and SP him off he repeatedly threatened our lives to the point where we couldn't leave the house my family grandma and two uncles moved to a small town with my great-grandparents when I was 1 this drastically changed all of our lives for the better my grandma and great-grandparents played major roles in my life especially while my mom was going to school and getting her degree my mom has been open with her experienced seasoned has guided me to do the opposite of her we're extremely close and I consider her to be my best friend to this day she reminds me that I was the best thing to ever happen to her my mum was 17 when I was born my dad was 22 I don't have much to say because I have a good life I always had everything I needed and wanted and can't complain all I know is my father was with my mother because he thought my mother's father was rich he jokes about it all the time but he loves my mother and when he went to tell my grandfather he got his daughter pregnant he just said you are going to marry that girl and they did they are happy now and they like to say I'm an undesired miracle my GF at the time got pregnant our junior year of high school let's call her Tracey she was 17 and I was 16 my parents didn't take it well and kicked me out of the house I mostly blamed Tracey for the whole situation and denied I was the father to anyone who are asked when my parents heard I was denying I got her pregnant they decided to let me come back so I was not exactly keen on telling the truth after that the night Tracey had our daughter let's call her Sammy I got a call from her father saying even though I didn't like the situation Tracey and I were in I needed to step up and take care of Sammy I went on a rant about how she was probably sleeping with someone else and no one really knew if it was mine or not but he hung up and I didn't hear from them until my sophomore year in college Tracey called me out of the blue to tell me she could not forgive me for abandoning her but Sammy at least deserved me in her life I agreed to a visit and we decided to meet in a diner not far from their house I can't even describe the emotions I had when I saw Sammy walk through the door Tracey sat across from me but Sammy asked me to move over so she could sit with me then she hugged my arm and said she was happy to meet me there is a certain feeling you get when you realize all the decisions you've made up to that point was a mistake I had that feeling x10 this outgoing smart funny angel off a girl wanted nothing else but to be with me through that whole dinner she stared at me while hugging me like I was a star I had only one thought after that I don't deserve this from that night on for a couple months I would call Tracy weekly for a visit after I graduated college Tracy decided she didn't feel like being a parent was for her anymore and said you are more suited for it anyway the first year with Sammy was not the smoothest because of my schedule but once I realized Sammy was my number one priority and changed jobs it's been nothing but amazing I'm happy I'm there for her now and that she's happy to be with me things never go as planned but sometimes going through the hard times make the good times even better good for you perfect example of how it's never too late to redeem yourself my mom tune 16 a couple of weeks after I was born my biological father dipped before I turned 1 and I grew up one my mom grew up since my mom was a teenager I had the luxury of growing up in a house with my mom grandparents and uncles so despite not having a father there was no shortage of people in my life to fill that space when I was 9 my mom got married to a man who has ultimately been one of the best things that has ever happened to me granted I didn't feel like I missed anything by not having a father it was really great to actually have one the only really crappy thing is that my biological dad his name is Jamie had a crap ton of bastard kids that all call me their brother and I hated crap I ran into Jamie once at a Sam's department store when I was about 12 and he said you know who I am don't you I'm your daddy he frickin said he was my daddy I told him I did no he was and that he absolutely wasn't my father and bore no relation to me in any way my parents then went ahead and signed the papers to have my stepfather legally adopt me and made legal actions to make sure Jamie had to avoid me in every way possible in the end it all worked out really my mum went to school and took care of me the best she could and now she's the president of the radiology department at a big Orthopaedic Center here in GA my stepfather who I refer to as my dad if anyone asks is a flight medic on a helicopter which is baddest I'm very close to my grandparents and uncles and plan to name my first son after my late uncle Alex I now have a kid brother by my mother and stepdad which is cool my parents are 32 and 31 now I'm 17 and they're wildly strict for fair reason TL DR mom was 16 dad ditched had uncles and grandparents instead fine childhood got new dad old dad and his army of bastard children are crappy doesn't matter had restraining order family is well-off my mother had me when she was 16 my dad was 19 she dumped me on anyone that would take me my dad was an over-the-road truck driver when I was four they had another little girl a year later another little girl when the third child was still an infant my mother started having an affair with a guy and she did it in front of me I told my dad they got divorced she found out she was pregnant again tried to pin it on my dad little boy came out a spitting image of her new lover her boyfriend was abusive to get into me CPS got involved after a while and told her that the boyfriend goes or I go she told them I could go since I didn't pay the bills my dad told me he couldn't care for me so my aunt and uncle raised me I have nothing to do with my mother haven't seen or spoke to her in over a decade I have a lot of trouble coping in everyday life situations as I feel everything is always my fault everything seems to come back to me in one way or another I suffer from bipolar disorder and an anxiety disorder I've started to develop a girl phobia over the last several years I can't commit to anything haven't had a steady job didn't compete high school or college shrug I try though I don't think I would still be here if it weren't for my amazing husband the man has a heart of gold and patients like you wouldn't believe my mom was 15 when she had me and 16 when she had my brother my dad was 20 when she first got pregnant after my grandfather was talked out of pressing charges and/or killing my dad for statutory debauchery my grandmother had a chat with my mom to discuss options abortion adoption being raised by grandparents etc my parents decided to get married and try to make it work I've heard stories about how when we were very little my parents threw parties with us underfoot and made poor decisions but around the time I started making memories they had cleaned up their acts a bit we were never well off and my parents divorced when I was 10 there were three kids by then but the only thing to stand out in my mind as a difference in my childhood is that they almost never took us to the hospital split your lip open put some ice on it split your scalp open dad all sewed up with a needle and thread you can't see the chalkboard in class sit closer we beat the statistics that say teen parents will have teen parent kids I was married at 21 still young but eight years later still happily married and my brother is happily single at 28 my mom got pregnant with me when she was 16 had me at 17 we were extremely lucky that my grandparents were supportive and did not kick her out we are a somewhat religious clan so it was certainly a possibility she dropped out of regular high school went to night school instead and worked during the day so she didn't just leech off her parents my biological father split pretty much immediately after he knocked her up and I have no idea Lia's I really don't care mom met my stepdad when I was around five and we moved in with him a few years later they got married and when I was 12 had two kids of their own it took 12 years and joining the army for my mom to realize that he was a lazy selfish spoiled temperamental butthole and finally divorced his sorry butt he made my life suck most of the time and the divorce made me realize that I'm much happier fatherless interestingly I found out a couple years ago that when our church discovered that my mom was pregnant with me they tried to force her to go up in front of the congregation and read a written apology saying how sorry she was for her mistake that she told them to freak off haha go your mum for the last part that's really rude for someone to try and force an apology out of someone for something that doesn't even affect them my mom was a teen mom 17 when pregnant 18 when I was born and it was just fine growing up the only problem was my dad developed alcoholism when I became a teenager so that was a lot to deal with however as far as childhood we did not have the most money that we got by and could still do things my mom and I have the closest relationship we are like best friends I think there's something to be said about a responsible young parent because they can relate to their kids so much easier than when they are 30-40 my mom and dad had me at 18 and we lived with my grandparents for the most part I didn't have a bad childhood by most means I wasn't abused or neglected at all I was well taken care off this seems petty but the thing I hated the most was is that every holiday or birthday we're gift-giving was involved it was like my mother and grandmother had this huge freakin spat about who could get me the better gifts and it was always my grandmother because she actually knew how to manage money and whoever gave the better more expensive gift was the better parent so I have had to listen my entire life I'm 24 now to my mother B and moan about how I couldn't give you nice things like your grandmother couldn't oh my god it still goes on to this day just yesterday I got there well you were raised by your grandmother and I have to live with that for the rest of my life Jesus it gets tiring my dad wasn't really around ever poor musician and all that but we hang every few months and his side of the family is cool when I was about 14 it became blatantly apparent that my mother was a sea crack addict only because she went to rehab I was oblivious entirely oblivious I just thought she was lazy slept a lot couldn't hold a job and couldn't keep her word I couldn't mentally except she was a drug addict until I had to visit her in rehab I spent all my time focused on schoolwork and spending time at my boyfriend's house or friends houses so that happened and explained so much if I was a self-absorbed defensive teenager trying not to let other people's Bulls including my own families get to me so I just pretended it didn't matter to me that took some years to come to terms with she's ten years clean now but no matter what any time I hear someone say I wish I could be a kid again my first thought is nope heck number number I'll live my life on my terms with people who know how to keep their frickin word I love my mom to pieces but man there are some things you just don't get over I was born when my mom was 16 and my dad was 18 my relationship with my dad was always strained from what I've been told he was a pretty carefree guy before I came along and he had to grow up practically overnight it's alway felt to me like whether he realizes it or not there's been some level of resentment there because I was the cause of his life changing like if it weren't for me his life would have been more fun for longer on the other hand I wouldn't trade my relationship with my mom for anything it's always been almost more of a friendship than a mother-son dynamic she trusts my judgment and I trust we advice I know I haven't made her life easy but I know I couldn't ask for a better mom my parents were 18 when they had me neither of them had their high school diploma all spoke fluent English they started a house cleaning business together when I was six months old they would often work ten hours a day when I was three they sold that business and opened up their first restaurant by the time I was 11 they were multimillionaires they beat the odds my wife and I were teen parents we were 18 my 18th birthday and my son's 0th birth they were in the same month we made the decisions early on for my wife to be a stay-at-home mom I went to school and worked I slept very little I think he had a fairly normal childhood it started out somewhat poor I made $25,000 per year but our state at the time had a great health care program and we kept our living expenses low we always had lots of family around my wife and I had a relationship with plenty of ups and downs which gradually smoothed out as we grew up she had some typical alcoholic father issues which exacerbated things sometimes but overall I suspect our fights were no worse than what most couples out from time to time I used to think that it may have been to his detriment to witness the rocky side of our relationship but now I think it is better to see conflicts dealt with even when it's ugly rather than growing up in a perfect household never learning to deal with conflict when he was six I finished my engineering degree and got a real job overnight our income doubled I advanced quickly and income doubled again in another five years or so so he quickly went from being raised by poor college students to a solid middle-class upbringing today our son is 17 and is an outstanding student talented musician and all-around good guy he is quite introverted much like myself and interested in technical science mechanical things like me he has three younger brothers now we now live in a nice town with world-class public schools I have a great six-figure job and have a healthy college fund for him unlike my parents I have the tough conversations with him and try to provide him with direction while encouraging him to seek his own path it may be a little forced but he hugs his mom and I and exchanges I love yous every day he is a great older brother now that I am in my mid-30s I really don't think there is much that I would change about how we have raised him if I could go back and do it over with the knowledge I have now I probably wouldn't have had four kids and wouldn't have spaced them quite so far apart three years on average my mom was 17 when she had my sister and 18 when she had me she was married but my dad was a deadbeat so my mom worked multiple jobs to support us we were really poor for a long time we were on food stamps and welfare for a while when I was about 12 my mom finally got a decent job it still wasn't great $40,000 a year to take care of a family of five but aroused we're better so she was around more she divorced my dad during my first year of college right around the time she started making more at a job my little sister benefited from this but I didn't because I was already out of the house she later remarried a really awesome guy and no longer has to worry about money things are a lot better for all of us my mom was always really responsible even though she was so young when she had us I look up to her a lot because times were but she never gave up and I've learned to really appreciate the things I have and now that I'm in my mid-twenties it's really awesome having such a young mom we like friends now we talk all the time and she's still young and energetic ten stroke ten would have her as my mom again grandparents day at school are those your parents no they were my grandparents was born when mom was 19 my bio dad left her when he found out that she was pregnant spent a lot of time with my grandma after the first 3-4 years of my life because my mom had to work me and my grandma are still pretty close so there's that it's just like growing up normally but you get much better lectures about safe freaking not meaning to offend anyone with the statistical differences in mental health criminal records and economic achievement would suggest otherwise of course there will be people who had teen parents who do very well for themselves but the evidence shows it's a lot harder I'm definitely a better parent now than I would have been at 19 I was born when my mom and dad we're 18 and 19 respectively but my brother was born when they were 16 and 17 they both only wanted what was best for us my dad had been basically doing coke and smoking weed in the city for most of his teenage life this was in Florida in the 80s and 90s and my mother was just some girl from rural Florida however when my brother was born they were both prepared to raise a child even if they had to ruin their life doing it my dad's family was in a very good monetary situation so money wasn't an issue will he still dropped out of college to work to make extra money for his son and his girlfriend because she had been kicked out of her house after I was conceived they decided they wanted to move up north so that my brother and I could get a better education my father lived in the Northeast for a bit when he was younger and really liked the area my dad worked his butt off for 15 years of his life to give us the best life he could possibly give us while my mom supported him through the whole thing becoming a father helped my dad to go from being a coked-up city kid to a successful man with a nice house and a and he also gave me a house to living food to eat the best school he could give me and did everything he could to make me and the rest of his family happy my mom was 16 when she had me my dad was 17 I am constantly amazed at the job that they did raising me my dad joined the military so that helped financially but there were still some issues but all that really did was teach me the value of money the biggest thing I think that was different between my parents and other parents is that there were still children themselves I basically got to watch them grow up but now that I've grown I can appreciate what they did for me in order to give me a normal good life they are both truly my heros floors and all and I know I would not be the man today if it were not for everything they did for me to rectify their mistake that was me my mother had me at 19 and I know dang well I'm an mistake and I'm not supposed to be here I've accepted that I've never met my father or known him he lives in Colorado now halfway across the country my mother killed herself when I was five years old and I was raised by my aunt and grandparents might I add my grandmother is really depressed and hardly leaves the house and my grandfather is out of the country often for work my aunt only moved in here when I was about 10 years old so for a lot of my youth it was just me and my grandmother in the house we don't live in a neighborhood and since I'm also an only child I was painfully and to social until a couple of years ago I'm 16 now academically I'm doing great I've had a little bit of a love life but not too much due to the fact that I'm still rather introverted I finally feel kind of normal not completely though but that people accept me and don't hate me I was a freak in elementary school I was raised pretty well though I don't believe in any afterlife but wherever my mother is I hope she's happy and proud my father's side lock the family is fairly well-off and my mother's is not we lived with my grandparents until I was five during which time my grandparents and my father's brothers took care of me whilst both of my parents went out and got jobs in that five years they had saved up enough money to build a house together and from that point on we lived very normal lives sorry to disappoint if you were looking for stories of great trials and hardships my mother was 18 when I was born she got pregnant senior year and dropped out she got shotgun married to my dad and quickly and they set up shop in a small apartment that lasted less than a year so my mom and her mom raised me my mom went to night school to get her get and then more to get training to be a secretary we were pretty poor for most if my childhood but she busted her but she also partied still I remember parties until 2:00 a.m. that five year old me would try to sleep through she has always been a mom but she never fully grew up if that makes any sense I have all sorts of crazy growing up stories because of her my mom had me at 15 nothing too crazy we lived with Grandma and Grandpa until I was seven I am in some of her high school graduation photos now that I'm an adult if we go anywhere together people assume we're dating I can't imagine how hard it was for her but looking back now she did a heck of a job my mom had me when she was 18 my dad was 21 they had my brother not long after the first two years were fine but then my dad cheated on my mom and took off my mom didn't take it well and we lived with my dad's mom for two years while my mom went to school then we moved in with my mom's mom we were always moving my grandma was married to some man that isn't my mom's dad and he's a creepy creeper but he physically abused me from a very young age until I was 12 he abused my mom and my aunt when they were young as well as well as my mom's friends anyway my grandma mostly took care of me we moved every two years and when I was in second grade my mom took off without word for a few months if she did come back but was really distant it hurts a lot I still worry about her leaving from then on my grandma pretty much looked after my brother and I although I was still being physically abused by her husband he even put cameras in my room once I developed breasts my dad was pretty much out of the picture until I was 12 when my brother and I move with him he was abusive as well and I ended up getting kicked out of 15 only to move back into my grandma's house it was very traumatizing to be around her husband again and to this day I see him once a month and he still touches me I'm 19 now I have no contact with my dad I have an okay relationship with my mom financially we were up and down right now we're down I am NOT going to say I'm totally normal and happy but I have a good job I've never been pregnant I am NOT addicted to drugs or alcohol I'm happy with how I turned out my brother was pretty baby but he just got kicked out of my dad's house too we're working through it I'm sorry if this is all over the place but that's my experience my mother was 17 when she got pregnant with me and 18 when I was born I'm 21 now and the only thing I have to say about her as this she tried sawed-off there were a lot of dangerous situations I was put in such as my unstable father's presence he's a chronic em user and all-around addict my mother's and willingness to be without a man in her life this led to an unfortunate physical abuse incident that happened to me when I was 3 I'll spare the gory details my steadily increasing family five siblings two sisters and three brothers all younger and my eventual stepfather helluva helluva helluva whoever whoever whoever whoever whoever whoever who after he passed away my mother became understandably more and more difficult to handle until one day shortly after my birthday that year she called the cops on me for wielding a weapon at her I was actually cooking dinner for our rather large family and was irritated so I yelled at her while I was cutting celery for something trivial I left that day and have since raised myself I didn't drop out of high school apparently uncommon in the south and have since graduated college with an associates and am now gainfully employed at a well-known engineering and construction firm please try not to get pregnant before you're able to withstand the mental emotional and monetary pressure it doesn't hurt you nearly as much as it harms the kid my mother was 19 we were on food stamps welfare until I was about five I did not meet my father until I was in my teens even though I knew who he was where he lived my grandparents didn't treat me any different from my other 30 or so cousins my mom was 19 my parents found out she was pregnant in October got married the following February my parents are still very happily married my mom had me at 16 she worked her butt off and moved out of my grandparents house in less than two years she provided what she couldn't we got by without tons of help she's a very prideful woman she left my biological father when he tried to use her for a punching bag when I was about six months old so she broke three of his ribs and I didn't meet him until I was 13 I've talked to him maybe three times eventually she married my stepdad more for security than love I hated her for it then because we did not get along well at all when I was old enough to appreciate it it made me love her even more she sacrificed many years if her life essentially to make sure I grew up more comfortably she's now with a man she loves and I love to know sob stories here my mom taught me to be strong honest and to take responsibility for my actions and we couldn't be closer as a team parent 21 now I'm just glad that so far things are going well and hopefully I don't do anything stupid to mess this up my mother and father were both 16 when my mother got pregnant with me she had me at 17 and they got married soon after though we grew up in poverty my parents stayed together for nearly 20 years and they were amazing to me despite the fact that we were living on the edge of subsistence they never abused me never did drugs and rarely drank I knew my grandparents and my parents kept in contact with them after I graduated high school with enough scholarship money to go to the local university with a full-ride I went on to join a volunteer program for a year and with the scholarship money that I got a fathered school I am attending college for biomedical engineering bio instrumentation and making money while also maintaining a 3.8 pa despite the stigma that I am from a white-trash family my mum fell pregnant with me when she was 16 in a Mormon family she was the black sheep of the family she raised me along with my dad until I was six my dad was too young to handle the responsibility but my mom is my hero to this day she raised me while working two jobs and never was late to pick me up from school or mr. school show she is now a fully qualified accountant and has a beautiful family with two other daughters and a loving husband although it was hard we lived on the cusp of poverty mum had a shot left our next meal sometimes she is a true story of how if you believe you can turn your life around we are still considered the black sheep of our otherwise Mormon family something I can live with for my mom not aborting me a good friend of Mines mom was 13 when she had him 13 he's grown up to be one of the most respectable respectful people I have ever met I'm delighted that he's become a teacher and hopefully will teach a new generation of men like him I was born a couple weeks after my mom turned 16 my mom had no clue what she was doing she was very much into the drug scene which led to a lot of problems in general it also led to a lot of living with other family and a lot of relocating her and my dad were never married and after they split when I was 2 I didn't see him again till I was 11 my mom was too young didn't care I don't really know to stop a lot of things that were happening to me as a child years of physical and mental abuse from family and friends she never listened when the sexual abuse was brought up and the physical and mental abuse was being done to her - if she couldn't wouldn't stop it happening to her it sure wasn't going to stop for me if anyone cares to know more feel free to ask and I can elaborate my parents had me at 16 mama and me lived with my grandparents until I was four and then my parents got married my mama didn't want to get married just because of me and that's a good thing I think I hated moving in with Daddy after they got married I hadn't really had to do anything up to this point and slept and my mama's bed and got my way I went to bed when did around 10 and Daddy thought I needed rules I begged for my parents to get a divorce at this point my parents were 20 and daddy had to get used to living with me and mama both so I kinda get it two years later my parents had another kid we weren't poor but my daddy got laid off and my sister was sickly he got another job but neither went to college and my mama struggles to stay on one job very long I will never forget Christmas when my sister was born I got a dollar board-gaming not very much for Santa my grandparents made up for that I can honestly say my grandparents have spent thousands on my Christmases over the years but money was always tight I wasn't allowed to ask for things in the store when my siblings were born we weren't brought inside stores I was oldest so I began cleaning the house and doing laundry and dishes at age nine I couldn't play until they were all done and my room was clean all right lose TV and reading my parents had lots of rules for me and invaded my privacy a lot my mom took $300 I had earned at my job at 13 to pay bills because she'd spend money on fast food and other things I wasn't allowed to shut my door ever old my dad would take it off the hinges I was an t allowed to be alone with a boy and I still find it weird to hang out with a guy if I am NOT dating them so I don't approve of opposite gender friends very much but while texting is one thing oh and frickin drugs and things air and disgust you learn at school and I was told not to get pragmatic I'm super close to my grandparents I hang out with em I grew up with them and not other kids so I and told I act like an old lady by my family people think my dad is my so because he is baby-faced and I want to puke when that happens I have to take care of my mom and as I've gotten older I realized I'm the adult not my mom she asked me to punish my brother in multiple occasions idk socially I feel like my parents kind of screwed me up maybe I'm a bad person and just want someone to blame I am scared of other people my dad used a scare method to get me not to do things how biting my nails will make me eat poo and die how walking bare that maggots can get under your toenails how if I'm not careful a stranger will kidnap me I was also blamed for a puppy's death once idk I rambled but I'm gonna share anyways you have been visited by the wealth wrath subscribe in 12 seconds and he will share his wealth with you like and subscribe you magnificent person [Music]

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Id: n139f_uq_K8

Length: 46min 49sec (2809 seconds)

Published: Thu Apr 16 2020