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what moment completely shattered you ruined you or broke your heart completely serious wife died from cancer in 2007 she was 50 and we'd been married 29 years she was the light of my life and although I function I will never be the same this is the only one to get me in this hole thread this is my worst fear you find the strength you need when you need it at least I did my advice is live your life fully now don't put things off never know how long the threat of your life is my grandfather doesn't speak English he hasn't for any of the 24 years that I've been alive and I don't speak Portuguese so I've never had a very close relationship with him nevertheless conversation was not necessary for me to realize what kind of a man he is this is a guy that ran his own import / export business loading and unloading trucks until he was about 83 he would wake up at 5:00 every day cook breakfast for my grandmother and serve it to her in bed had to work at 7:00 a.m. until 5:00 that night and then come home and make dinner for her rinse Washington repeat he built their house with his own hands daesil upkeep himself grows crops spices and some vegetables and still somehow found the time to raise ten kids long story short he's a very hard man in my eyes that is why when I came home from uni last December for my grandmother's funeral I was blown away this stark monolith of a man who had never shown the slightest trace of emotion around me was a wreck as you'd probably expect him to be he wasn't wailing or making a scene he was just sitting there in front of my grandmother's casket at the visitation service silently weeping for hours he didn't sleep that night and when her funeral came he did the exact same thing he stood there through the burial weeping and when the time came for everyone to throw their handful of dirt into the ground this man fell to his knees and let out the slightest whimper it was the sound that broke my heart because even at the faintest volume I heard this man's entire life shatter in that one breath my grandmother was buried a day after what would have been their 70th wedding anniversary and this year not three days ago I had to relive that moment it was the first Thanksgiving we've ever had without my grandmother and my grandfather refused to partake he just sat on my grandmother's bed the entire day silently weeping it wasn't until I saw this man crack that I realized what it truly meant to love someone with all your heart and simultaneously what it meant to truly be heartbroken at it a word my brother was staying with us and had gone upstairs to take a shower I had a bad feeling after 15 minutes and no water was running I knocked on the door and didn't get an answer I ended up pushing the door open and saw him covered in his own blood in the bathtub it felt like hours for the ambulance to show up even though I know it could have only been a few minutes my mom went to the hospital I had to stay with my year-and-a-half old nephew they didn't think it was right to have him see any of it I ended up cleaning up the blood myself so my mom wouldn't have to it was five years ago and I remember it like it was yesterday my mother saying it was my fault my father cheated her because I wasn't perfect I was 12 damn I witnessed my 11 year old cousin's death during a family vacation about 16 years ago I was really little so emotions weren't really a thing yet but two things said in one conversation years later were really difficult to think about my dad and I were talking about him my dad told me that he had been teaching my cousin earlier that day how not to be afraid of a baseball flying at his face so that the other kids on his team would stop making fun of him when we got to talking about the aftermath of my cousin's accident my dad said something to the effect of it was really surreal to realize life had to keep going the day there was an ambulance in the driveway people crying tons of chaos and none of you the other six cousins got it all you guys wondered was some mac and cheese after what felt like an eternity of waiting hearing my mom break down and cry while telling me that paramedics couldn't revive my two and a half year old brother I'll always remember that day pretty vividly I was only eight and blamed myself edit thanks everyone for your kind words it was almost 12 years ago that this happened and I no longer blamed myself it has certainly made me cautious about my kid and pools and when I can afford it I'm going to start her on swimming lessons oh man I'm so sorry to you and your mom as a mother myself that really pulls at the heartstrings there happened to him if you don't mind me asking halfway through boot camp they woke me up in the middle of the night to tell me that I had a phone call this was not common practice it was my mom telling me that my dad had just had surgery because of walking pneumonia my parents had been divorced for years so this was strange also when I graduated boot camp my dad couldn't make it but he paid for my mom to go also strange when I saw my mom after the ceremony that's when she told me that he had lung cancer and it was really bad I saw him during my boot camp leave and he looked pretty bad but his spirits were upbeat when I went back to a school my dad and I became at auntie's best customers I talked to him every night on the phone for like an hour or more like clockwork I'd head to one of our pay phones with a seat call him chat and we just chat for hours about this and that mostly about me telling him about my day after about three months he wasn't doing so well even though I was in the middle of nuclear field a school electronics they were going to give me a week off so I could go visit him also highly irregular this would force them to have to move me to a new class I had airline tickets all set to leave on Friday afternoon to go home and spend a week with him on Friday afternoon as I was finished up a few more classes my chief and the base chaplain pulled me out of a transistors lab my dad had died that morning hours before I could see him again when the husband of a close friend told me that she died as well as her unborn baby in a freak incident a week before giving birth I felt agony for her for him for their baby for so many for so long she was there for my baby when she was born and I was going to be there for her it's been almost eight years but I still wanted to cry edit thanks for the support I haven't talked about their deaths in a while and didn't realize how hard it still is for me to discuss here's the freak incident one of her internal arteries ruptured because it was their first pregnancy they didn't know that her ill feelings were from bleeding internally and not from going into labor it was a week before her due date when she passed out her husband carried her to their car called the hospital they lived close by and got her into the ER unfortunately she died from internal bleeding and so did their baby my sweet friend and her baby are buried together in the same casket the moment I found out my fiance cheated on me is the moment I knew I'd never love anyone the same way I had once loved her when I found out that my best friend had committed suicide I was 15 I had to tell my dad my mom when she got in from work I'd known her since kindergarten telling them was almost as bad as hearing I'm 29 now and I still miss her every damn day my mom died when I was a senior in high school it all seemed very surreal and like she had never actually left since everything of hers was still in the house where she had left it at her funeral after hearing my brother and sister speak make morbid jokes as our family tends to do and just generally do the normal funeral stuff it finally hit me it had been several days since she had passed but it just hit me all at once like a bag of bricks that I would never hear her voice again she would never be there to nag me when I needed to take out the trash clean my room do my homework or the million other things that she had to constantly remind me to do that was the moment that I broke down and started sobbing I hadn't shed a tear up until that point maybe it was shock I don't know in that moment I realized that I now lived in a different world one where I would have to finish growing up without the aid of my mother edit I apologize that I will not be able to respond to everyone's comments thank you all for the kind words it's good to know that I'm not completely alone here my college graduation bachelor in architecture ded didn't come because he didn't want the hassle of asking for a day off work boyfriend out of town because he planned a trip with his friends with no regard for the date mom came but a week before she told me she didn't think I would really graduate after the ceremony she suggested celebrating its subway never felt more proud of myself or more alone than that day selling my childhood house my whole family died in a car crash a few months before and selling it finally made me realize I had nothing left of my old life this situation as a whole gave me PTSD but I've learned to cope with it having to tell my mom that my dad was cheating on her I've had suspicions for a while because he had brought this woman over to stay the night in the guest room went to gaming conferences with her and we even had neighbors telling us that they had seen him out at dinner with her on multiple occasions while I found the phone bill when it came in and saw hundreds of calls to this woman late at night after my mom had gone to bed and on every holiday I think my mom was in denial but I couldn't watch her sit by while he just annihilated everything that marriage stands for I would often come home from school I was 16 at the time and find her crying on the kitchen floor I think the worst part of it all was that my dad to this day swears up and down that he wasn't seeing this woman even though he admitted to dating her shortly after the divorce and is now married to her the part that really breaks my heart is that I'll never be able to forgive him or consider him a father figure in my life at it major thanks to whomever sent the gold this was a difficult situation so I really appreciate it my ex-wife had cheated on me once so we went through a year of marriage therapy which amounted to nothing she still stayed out late coming home around 4:00 in the morning or so we eventually tried a short-term separation in which I spent two weeks in this god-awful apartment I thought I had learned to appreciate her more but she seemed absolutely delighted by the break from me after that we agreed to do a long-term separation I would stay with my parents and at the end of the summer we'd see where we were so in February of this year my parents packed all my stuff and at age 26 I moved back in with them a few weeks later I get a call she's pregnant the father's one of her drinking buddies I'm not an angry person by any means but I do King lost it I was under the impression there was still a chance and for a few years beforehand we had been trying to have a kid with no success but her kid was born just a few days ago and rather than being depressed or angry I think it was a good thing because I just didn't wanted to hold on to that anger maybe she deserved it but the kid didn't I hope he has a good home my life's all topsy-turvy now but I want that kid to grow up well at it there's a good handful of comments that are saying things like a the [ __ ] has it come into her I've gone through the anger and the depression and I'm not 100% through at all but it's really not worth being angry over anymore I luckily have come out of this with nofas iCal consequences no alimony knowledge that I was at least faithful to her didn't lose any good friends her parents still like me etc so I'm fine with knowing that she's going to live her life and I'm going to live mine neither of us want to battle over anything we just want this done and over with my middle school girlfriend had moved away and even though we'd had split up we'd stayed in touch over MSN she had been diagnosed with cancer and was going in for treatment this was not her first experience with cancer she had written a sort of just in case goodbye note after six months of silence from her and I emailed her and received a email from her mother saying she'd not made it i sat on that for a year it was so alien she was so far away and I'd never see or hear from her again it took so much out of me to get over her death a year later she logged into MSN she explained it had been a joke I haven't trusted anyone since in 2010 I lost my mom my dog and my cat in the same year it started with my dog he had stage four cancer and then had a stroke one morning it was the first time I had to actually be there when someone I cared about died I held him in my arms as the vet put him down I felt him go limp and died in my arms three months later my cat started howling out of nowhere one night he had been in perfect health when suddenly he collapsed when I took him into the vet the next morning he was already feeling cold to the touch but still with us he'd had an aneurysm in his spine and was leaking blood there was no way to repair it so I had to once again hold a loved one while they died by my decision three months after that my mom was hospitalized she'd been sick for a while leukemia the said it was serious so I flew out from the other side of the country to see her she was bad off but healing and they said she'd be able to go back home in a few days I laughed with her and told her there were easier ways to trick me into a visit just before I was getting ready to fly out again we got a call in the middle of the night she'd had a stroke a really bad one the docs had her on a ventilator and let us know that there was a very slight chance that they could repair the damage but she would be a vegetable the rest of her days dad and sister already decided it was left to me to cast the final vote I had to decide to pull the plug my decision once again led to the deya th of someone I loved dearly once again I had to hold a loved one while they died in my arms that moment broke me I haven't been the same since it's been three years and even writing this is starting to get blurry and I'm choking up it doesn't get easier dealing with death and those close to you it changes you in permanent ways like losing an arm or a leg you have phantom memories triggered by sounds or sights sometimes the way someone makes their pasta sauce will bring back a flood of memories it fundamentally changes you if you'll indulge the metaphor a little longer you'll see that like a missing limb you heal by adaptation you slowly adjust to the new reality until you barely remember a time when that wasn't the norm you still remember them and think of them you simply learn to live with the changes until it no longer feels unnatural it just takes time to to adjust and adapt the closer you were to them the harder and longer a process that becomes I'm getting there but it still feels wonky and painful I'll never be the guy I was before but I'll be the guy he changed into miss you mama right now my nine-year-old niece is losing her battle to brain cancer I was there a month and a half ago went trick-or-treating with her her brother and my daughter we knew the news then but she has deteriorated rapidly no longer can walk sleeps alone and has very few lucid moments got a call from my mom to come quickly so making arrangements to travel there this is one of the worst tragedies to hit our family but seeing my brother who himself is very ill being shattered by losing his daughter is the most heart wrenching thing to watch I honestly think he is not far behind her he's so ill I think he is just hanging on for her damn I can't even imagine this I'm so sorry you and your daughter had to deal with this my best friend in the Army got killed by an IED in Afghanistan about four years ago he had just proposed to his girlfriend over Skype and she had said yes weeks before seeing that pain killed me at his funeral what broke me was me telling her a year later while she was crying to me that Shane would have wanted her to move on and not to feel guilty basically I told my best friend's fiancee that it was all right to move on and date again I still feel conflicted that it's what he would have wanted but also I don't know war sucks thanks for listening to another episode of red attacks subscribe and activate the notification Bell so you won't miss any stories feel free to share your own stories below in the comments have a good day

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Length: 16min 4sec (964 seconds)

Published: Tue Sep 10 2019