Walking on Eggshells: Recognizing the Signs of Narcissistic Manipulation

if you are or have been in a toxic relationship  especially with someone who has a cluster B   personality disorder such as a narcissist you have  certainly heard the phrase walking on eggshells   which is commonly used to describe a state of  Extreme Caution where a person feels the need to   be overly careful with their words their emotions  and their actions in order to avoid upsetting or   angering the narcissist I'm Lise Leblanc and today  I will give you 10 signs to recognize whether you   are walking on eggshells. In this video, I will  specifically refer to romantic relationships but   this information also applies to other types of  relationships whether that be with a parent a boss   a friend or anyone you are seeking approval from  and or connection with. At the end of this video,   I will explain why walking on eggshells does a lot  more harm than good okay so here are 10 signs that   you are walking on eggshells sign number one is  that you become very very hyper Vigilant you are   constantly feeling on edge watching engaging your  partners every word mood and behavior trying to   predict prevent and protect yourself from their  explosive emotional reactions and punishing   behaviors sign number two is the heightened fear  of experiencing these negative consequences which   can include verbal abuse emotional manipulation  as well as a variety of other negative behaviors   that the narcissist will resort to when  their insecurities and anger is triggered   the third sign that you are walking on eggshells  is that you are becoming progressively submissive   and subdued constantly fawning trying to please  and appease the narcissist number four you feel   emotionally drained and defeated because no matter  what angle or approach you take nothing works and   as time goes on you feel more and more helpless  and hopeless and you feel like a total failure   number five you are constantly censoring your  thoughts and masking your emotions watching   your every step and you're behaving in ways that  are not aligned with your needs your values your   personality in other words you're putting on  a facade and suppressing your authenticity in   an effort to keep the peace so your sense of self  gets eroded to the point that you don't even know   who you are anymore you don't even know what you  like your self-esteem and your self-confidence   are shot and you gradually lose all sense of your  own identity number six a huge sign that you are   walking on eggshells is that you feel invisible  and insignificant so small like a tiny fraction   of the person you used to be you are in such a  compressed state of being having reduced yourself   to fit into the narcissist's Tiny Box living in  this tiny bubble with this tiny purpose of trying   to satisfy the narcissist and you feel pathetic as  you shrink more and more you lose all of your own   self-respect number seven you are shutting down  and you've stopped trying to communicate your   needs because any time you try to speak your truth  and express your feelings it seriously backfires   number eight you are in a constant state of  confusion even when you recognize that this   relationship is toxic and that the narcissist  is the one poisoning you you will continue to   question the relationship question if you're to  blame you will ignore your intuition and your   own logic and stay stuck in the dissonance it's  like you become paralyzed and trapped in the very   situation that is slowly and systematically  destroying you number nine you are constantly   prioritizing the needs and emotions of the  narcissist while neglecting your own needs your   own well-being and your boundaries and despite  you giving up your own needs and doing everything   to please The Narcissist the overall toxicity in  the relationship continues to build and intensify   instead of recognizing that this is toxic and that  there is no way for you to cure their narcissism   you still are stuck in the belief that you  can save them number 10 lost but definitely   not least when you are being subjected to  persistent mistreatment manipulation or   provocation it can eventually lead to reactive  abuse this typically happens when you realize   that despite your best efforts to please and  appease your constant Fawn response is not working   it's not keeping the peace it's not preventing  drama or conflict or protecting you from harm   and so you may shift into the fight response after  walking on eggshells for so long you're probably   extremely frustrated and desperate like a pressure  cooker your pent up anger May erupt once it hits   a boiling point and you may react with hostility  or aggression towards the narcissist now this is   not an excuse or justification for aggressive  or abusive Behavior but it is a maladaptive   response to ongoing persistent abuse which you  will need to take responsibility for and make   adjustments to correct the situation that is  causing you to behave in these ways the reason   that consistently walking on eggshells does more  harm than good is that it inadvertently reinforces   and enables the abuse of behavior the narcissist  is not facing any consequences for their actions   and in fact is being reinforced so this  perpetuates the toxic Dynamics in the relationship   and it's important to recognize that walking on  eggshells is not healthy and it's not sustainable   it undermines emotional health stifles  personal growth and it keeps the toxic   Dynamics going making it impossible to have  open communication trust or emotional safety   if you find yourself in a situation where you  are constantly walking on eggshells you need to   consider seeking support from a trusted friend  a family member or a mental health professional   to explore healthier ways to navigate these  toxic Dynamics to set better boundaries and   really to start exploring your options and to  reevaluate your relationship and your life to   learn more about toxic relationships click on  the link above if you enjoyed this video please   like comment and hit the notification Bell  and don't forget to subscribe to my channel   and if you want to learn more about how to  recover from a toxic relationship check out   my toxic relationship recovery program that I  Linked In the description section of this video

Channel: Lise Leblanc

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Length: 8min 13sec (493 seconds)

Published: Mon May 29 2023