UNDERSTANDING THE PARTNERSHIP OF A RELATIONSHIP by Lisa and R.C. BLAKES

good evening good evening good evening good evening I'm trying to talk in the direction of this mic I have somebody on here with me tonight apologize put my hand over the screen I have somebody on here with me tonight that you all have been asking for you emailed me almost every other day or every day about when is Lisa coming back on the channel Lisa here's Lisa good evening everybody text somebody and if my voice fades out is because we're working with one night and we got to figure out how to I can get her to do this more we got to figure out how we can get to Mike's working tech somebody and let them know that Lisa and I are on tonight this Sunday night I thought it would just be a great discussion for us tonight to deal with relationships we just come from Detroit yes and a Women's Conference and we had a great time there she and I actually talked together what was it what was your impression about Detroit people there it was absolutely amazing I just enjoyed our time there together and sharing with the people and the women of God that came out they came from all over the place they really did I mean it was amazing to me you know people drove ooh you know it's just always amazing when when I travel and it was great having you know actually having you there with me because usually when I'm traveling I'm by myself but this time you were with me and the people were actually more excited about what she had to say them they were excited about what I had to say so she kind of took the took the show from me but tonight we want to deal with Lisa and I want to talk about the same thing we dealt with in in Detroit of course we're not going let's do the whole thing but just kind of skim it and maybe we can get Lisa to spend more time on the channel with me discussing you know issues like relationships but we dealt with partnership in relationship and how people have to work together as a team yeah in the relationship you become a team yeah you become a team and that we started off talking about how the unspoken truth about relationships is that it's a waste of time now listen to this statement very carefully it's a waste of time if there's no purpose to the connection mm-hmm you know most people or let's say a lot of people base their relationships on you know sex and attraction and when you boil it down sex and attraction there's no purpose in that it gets old it gets old and it's there's no foundation to start with you know if if you and I are trying to you know like you and I just celebrated 24 years of marriage well you've not been in the game long enough to know that this wouldn't last it based on those days that's right it just wouldn't have lasted there had to be purpose and if you're trying to build a relationship based on sex and attraction we really boiled it down to the fact that you know that's that's no different than animal on the street mm-hmm there has to be purpose has to be purpose and but when you have purpose in your relationship then you have something to work together towards absolutely then you begin to start setting goals to achieve that purpose yeah the purpose becomes the driver the purpose becomes the engine of the relationship you see the Bible says in Matthew 19 and 6 wherefore they're no more two but one flesh what therefore God hath joined together let not man put asunder now you know I'm a little different than a lot of religious people right I just don't believe God put everybody together nay he didn't yeah I just don't believe that God put everybody together did not and when God didn't put you together there's no purpose because purpose comes from God and and anything that we're trying to do that lacks purpose is not going to ever fulfill us and God actually puts you together for purpose he puts us together for purpose he gets an individual one individual another individual together that he may accomplish certain things in this life through those two absolutely you kind of talked in Detroit about how because the people say they always so I'm like I'm trying to you know so I gotta let you talk I know you don't like to talk when I gotta talk I don't like all those email too much I'm taking over but you talked a little bit about how to dynamic between you and I work about how God brought us together in purpose and how you helped me to fulfill certain things that are in me and how what God has given me helps to fulfill certain things in you just talked a little bit about that correct as far as even in ministry in ministry you know initially when we first got married it was a time where we had to really grow together in ministry and he had to trust me and and learn what God wanted him to assign me to do and allow me to do and when to do it one of the things the one of the greatest things I think that brought me out in helping you the most was when we were going to build the building we had he had a vision to build a Murphy Hill multipurpose building in our New Orleans East Church and we had gone through several contractors and project managers and we wasted up some money and he was getting very very frustrated and I saw that frustration on my husband and I said God I need to help my husband and I began to search out how I could help and I met a contractor but in the long story short it ended up that I had built the building that he wanted lutely and and let me say this you know just to add to that not to cut you all know you could go ahead but let me just say this you know even in the process of my recognizing you know and that is just my wife or my lover or you know my children's mother but now is my partner mm-hmm the favor of God hid the thing to the point that we got I don't know what them plans were the cost if we actually had to pay for them right we got you know we got plans for building that I loved right I think we got them for nothing am i right oh yeah because nothing because of certain connections that God gave you so if there's no purpose you know when you think about most relationships that fail they they fail because there was never a purpose they fail because there was never a purpose that was a there was an attraction there was lust whatever but most of the relationships that fail 99% of them when you boil it down if you back them in a corner and ask now what was y'all's purpose together most of those people can give you no answer you can't know who is purposed for your life now this leads us into a very important part of this is teaching you cannot know who's purposed for your life until you know who you are that's right because a partnership which is what a relationship should ultimately be a partnership is based on an understanding of one's part you don't know what part you play if you don't know who you are so it brings us to the first impact point that we made in Detroit what was that the beginnings of a team is individuality knowing who you are knowing who you are the beginnings of a team the beginnings of a partnership the beginnings of a relationship is it starts with individuality the reason most relationships fail is because the participants in that relationship Lee never really invested in finding themselves and then let me just throw this in there in order for us to find ourselves and our individually and know who we are individually that that was where we have to see God because God is our Creator absolutely and because he created us and he created us on purpose a lot of us don't realize that we weren't yeah we weren't we were just haphazardly thrown in for nothing he had an axe and a purpose for every single person I'm actually one of the things and I don't mean to get off-track but one of the things that really kept me alive and kept me motivated is learning that I was actually like a car you know you create the maker made the car on purpose for a purpose right I realized that I was created for a purpose and that's that saves a lot of people's lives when you realize that you have purpose that's amazing and and again not to go off track but I think it's something that that bears making emphasis at this point because a lot of people relate to this this part of your life due to the trauma that you went through in your life in your childhood it made it very difficult for you to wake up and to realize that I'm actually made for purpose and on purpose you know what I mean and even even talking to you about your story long ago before I knew you as a little kid it was your attraction to God that kind of steered you and you didn't even realize they know it was directing your path didn't even realize that I was we were in women's class this morning and we were talking about how you know sometimes our past will kind of dictate where we are and for me it took a long time because of the trauma like you said the trauma that I endured to realize that I was really created on purpose and that God had a purpose even in the trauma Wow he had a purpose for the trauma yeah he did he had a purpose for well think about it like you and I had discussion the other day and I know from jumping the gun on you well you you woke up and you said to me you know said and I can really see myself now going to the West Indies you know where I come from the Caribbean and actually ministering to broken women yeah you said I can actually see that I can see myself doing that no and that was that was big for me to hear you say that and and I think and you played an intricate part in that because God used you little did you unbeknownst to you that you were being used at the time to actually bring me into this place where that I am an effective partner yeah and that I realized that I have purpose in our partnership yeah in it now then let me bring you back to the discussion we had a lot of years ago where it was like you know you you you you put your nursing career aside to raise Rachael then Trey came along and you were sitting there like you know I feel like I'm just kind of lost in your world and I'll have I don't have a purpose of my own I don't have a life of my own not understanding that God created you and he created me for us to come together to create something of our own that I could not accomplish without you right and you could not accomplish without me and so it's like in recent years it's like the revelation has hit you that is not like you fitting into my life it's like us creating our life that's correct that is correct you know what I mean yeah but but that that could only that could only happen because you were and are a whole individual mm-hmm I am and was a whole individual and when when when we came together as individuals then God was able to create something now there's a statement that always making you made it on Friday night in Detroit and the people thought it was rather funny but it's very true what is that if you need to be married you don't need to be married if you need to be married you don't need to be married you know if you're feeling over and you just you know distressed over being single and you haven't discovered your individuality which speaks of knowing and loving yourself you know as an individual and you just I just got to be married you know to be married you need to you need self-discovery you need to do some self work you need to learn how to love you you know now let's see what what do we go with this Lea and even with that as you as you're pondering we were going up we were talking again in women's meeting this morning you know women tend to think that they have to have a husband before they do certain things absolutely in life which I mentioned you know people a lot of a lot of women are renting you're renting apartments thinking that oh I gotta wait for my husband to buy a house absolutely not you do not absolutely not you can do everything by yourself and allow God while you're focusing on building you and the things that God wants you to do handling your emotions handling your finances getting yourself together God is grooming somebody else that would be adequate to be your partner and then you know you have women who say well I don't want to buy a house or I don't want to make certain moves because I don't want to scare a man off if your actual izing yourself scares a man off he's not enough man for you not enough man you know if you have to dumb yourself down miniaturize yourself forsake your own individuality to appease a what's the word I always use and inferior mmhmm yes not the one he's not the one now when you when you start talking about a relationship we need to have mutual attraction common chemistry shared purpose and individual assets that we bring to the team let me say it again mutual attraction common chemistry shared purpose and individual assets that we bring to the team or the relationship in other words there's something you bring to the relationship that I don't mmm-hmm something I bring to the relationship that you don't have and then we join those things together and we become together what we could have never been exactly and that's why you had God created man and he created woman but he created woman that's the one with the womb that's right man has man has the seed the woman is the soil mm-hmm and if you don't bring the two together there's no multiplication when you look in the book of Genesis God says you know it's not good for man to be alone Adam wasn't lonely but he could not fulfill his purpose for being without Eve so he made God made Adam a wife he made woman and when Adam saw her Adam says your woman and what he was saying effectively is your equal to meet you the same thing as me but you're different at the same time you have the ability to give birth that's right I have the ability to seed but you have the ability to nurture and to actually bring to bear so the to become the to come together as whole individuals and they become together what they could have never been separately now talk about your your shoe illustration I know that there's a lot of twists and turns in that but you like to talk usually we talk about shoes and some of we've talked about this in our marriage meetings before and how we can have two separate shoes to separate shoes and you bring them together but you can't have a shoe that's too small and one that's too big and put them together and call them a pair cannot you can it's a lawsuit you have to have two distinct shoes that are the same size okay wanna left and want to right because you can't put two left shoes so two left shoes won't make a pair make a pair cannot make a pair what about two right shoes cannot make a pair okay what if it's the same shoe but you got one that's complete and another the left shoe is is half done so then you still do not have a pair you you only have a pair win what two shoes are whole I left shoe and a right shoe and then you bring them together so the individuality of the pair is that one is the left one is the right and you bring them together and you create a pair mm-hmm but but they're both each complete completion so you cannot make a pair until each individual shoe is complete right so now we may have some insight as to as it relates to why our attempts at relationship is not working mm-hmm our attempts are not working maybe it's that there's still some work that you need to do it may be because you are incomplete you're attracting incomplete people you know 1/2 of a person we usually attract 1/2 of a person which will create 1/2 of a relationship and hold people attract whole people you always attract what you are and my can y'all hear me because I'm talking we wanna make you always attract what you are and so this is why we say the beginnings of a healthy relationship or a strong partnership in a relationship is individuality figuring out who you are growing in that and then letting God do what he did in the very beginning bring that person into your life into your space and this is exactly goes back to what we just said don't feel that you are incomplete and you need a mate to complete you you need to be focused on doing exactly what you think you hear God's voice for yourself and and follow his voice and do what he tells you to do if he tells you that you need to go and buy a house buy as a single woman go on buy my house as a single woman you don't have to wait no for this man and then on the flip side of things the Bible says that he that findeth the wife so when he's looking for you you need to be busy when when Boaz found Ruth she was in that field doing her thing she wasn't looking for a man or sitting there waiting and saying Lord send me a husband she wasn't doing any of that well you know that's interesting because Kings are looking for Queen come on and you you you can only know queen by her efforts of fruits her works you know that proverbs 31 woman the Bible says who works would speak for hath right a work spoke highly of her and she was a woman who had a husband who was successful but she still did her own thing but going back to your point you have to maximize and actualize your individuality for the person that deserves you to recognize you exactly right and you have you have to be you have to be in the mold of actualizing and doing you for the person that God has for you to recognize you now there's a lot we could say right there yes it is because a lot of times you preoccupy your life with people that don't deserve you and the ones that the one that is ordained for your life can't recognize you because you're preoccupied with a clown right you can't you can't imagine that your queen connected to a clown yeah you know interesting yeah now they're that they're the few things that we talked about and it's getting a little lengthy now yeah let's see I told I wouldn't keep her too long on here tonight there a few things that we talked about on Friday night relative to formulating a strong partnership in relationship and we utilized as a base Mark chapter 2 verses 3 through 5 where it talks about it says and they come unto Him bringing one sick of the palsy which was carried by four clearly on the cot of some kind and when they could not come nigh unto Jesus for the crowd they uncovered the roof until the roof off where he was and when they had broken it up they let down the bed wearing the sick of the palsy late when Jesus saw their faith their unified their partnership in faith he said unto the sick of the palsy son thy sins be forgiven thee but these four young men teach us a lot about how a team or a partnership functions on all levels you know be it in business be it in ministry be it in relationship and the first thing we said is that what it what does it leave you must have a vision that is too big for one any one individual there must be a vision that's too big for any one individual yeah I believe I wholeheartedly believe that the driving force of a relationship that would have lifelong longevity synergy mm-hmm synergy or chemistry is is not in the sex it's not in the attraction thing it's in it's in when two people come together and we realize a future right they have a future in common and we realize a vision that is so vast right that each of us is needed mm-hmm you know what I'm saying like I need you in my life mm-hmm you know for us to do for me to be my best I need you in my life for us to accomplish what is in front of us you need me in your life so there there has to be a vision that is too big for any one individual when you look at these four guys that we just read about they had a common vision and the vision was too much for one of them to accomplish two of them would have struggled to get the board and three of them would have struggle but four of them working together in concert it was an easy task the objective of a relationship has to be so huge that everybody is necessary and everybody is motivated that's right and a lot of times we get into relationships with like we discussed earlier for all the wrong reasons and there is no vision and you one of the things that you talk about in in the dating process there are several things that you talk about that women need to ask about there needs to be an interview when you're getting rid of the date it's collecting data and one of the things that we need to discuss is as you're looking for that's good a spouse is what is your vision yeah one of the questions I say they should ask what is your vision because you know you and I can meet and I can be physically sexually attracted to you right and we you know we can have some you know chemistry or whatever and then run off for that and go to the altar and then I discover after we've left the altar that I have a vision for the pinouts mm-hmm and you satisfied in the basement that's right that's right so one of the main things you need to know about a person is not you know the sexual piece but the main thing you need to know is what is your vision where are you going because they're they're people that are good for your life now mm-hmm that will be horrific in the future and we get we get people like that all the time people have been married thirty years and then realize that this person is just not for me we're not going the same place we just kind of hung around because we had children and we raised children together and all these kind of things but after 30 years they're divorcing because there was no vision to start with and so what happened was they created a relationship based on sexual attraction mm-hmm some level of chemistry they had children he created bills and so for 20 years the children and the common bills kind of put them under in a state of anesthesia but once the children grow up and the bills are paid and now you left like you and I are well but everybody gone is just you and I now what do we have do we have conversation do we have you know where are we going to go yes and we are personally busier than we were when the children were in the house yeah because now it's you know now it's about us and now we can really lock down and dedicate ourselves to the vision that God has put in front of us but it's a vision that we share yeah Thank You Tasha you know what I mean it's a vision that we share and and you know I think the Holy Spirit was was working with us because neither one of us was smart enough at the time to know right what we were doing but the holdest just really brought us together and matched us perfectly mm-hmm goes back to the original scripture what and well one of the scriptures we talked about where it says what God brings together no man can put asunder because God knew what he was doing we might not have known what we were doing but God knew what he was doing absolutely and he brought us together now when we look at this this first point there must be a vision that is too big for any one individual we have to also address this because there's a lot of insecurity in marriages and in in relationships where the man I'll speak for the man since I'm a dude where the man is intimidated by the woman's contributions or vice versa not understanding that that woman's contributions are absolutely necessary to the success of the whole that's right you know but but so many people want to snuff out their spouses abilities and giftings because there's this insecurity yeah and then I find a lot of times that even even from the woman's perspective there are gifts and and a lot of things that you can bring to the relationship but because they know that they're partnered up with somebody that who cannot handle the gift Wow then they kind of minimize their abilities and the things that God has gifted them to do to make the partnership really work that's right as I was saying Friday night in Detroit if I have to come in this house and beat on my chest and say I'm the man if I have to you know cover your gifts up and you're your contributions up to feel good about myself that's a sad state of affairs that state I mean and you've always been left like that I mean when when I was working I had a bigger paycheck I'm a registered nurse I brought home a bigger paycheck I brought my check and gave it to my husband he was like great babe you can go when I go out to speak I bring my check and I bring it and give it to my husband he has no problem with with what I do or what I have the ability to do and she has all the money and a lot of money put in the bank and she has all the BEC internet so let's make sure we clear it out homey I just spin in her money she's been in mind praise the Lord now let's let's see suddenly because we can't read all of this but I think this part bears mentioning the purpose of Adam and Eve was Dominion mm-hmm Angie thank you when you look at the first relationship and you ask yourself what was the purpose of God bringing Adam and Eve together the purpose of Adam and Eve was Dominion Dominion included being fruitful and multiplying and subdue in the earth neither of them as we mentioned earlier couldn't multiply without the other Adam was the seed but he needed soil to produce Eve brought the soil that's like you buying the house and it's my job to make it at home exactly right mm-hmm that's right so what is the purpose what is the purpose and got to have a vision Allah give them this league keys to identifying a shared vision keys to like that okay so a letter a under keys to identifying a shared vision you must have the same vision for the future for the future you know that's the conversation you gotta have what does your future look like you know and I mean there's you were saying something cool what does your future look like and it has to go deep you know what what is your parenting look like in the future what kind of father mother are you gonna be how do you want to raise your children when you you you got to you got to have the same vision for the future exactly you can't have one person have a vision for one thing and your vision is completely different because what does the Bible say in Amos 3 and 3 due to people walked into this none this is a different version not the King James Version but it says to do two people walk hand-in-hand if they aren't going to the same place same place how can two walk together except they be agreed is what the King James Version says why what would be walking together what we're not going to the same place you know so many people are going together but are you going to the same place is the question or what was that'll be on the next done in the finest shared vision you must have the same values that I have the same values you know I can't be over here valuing family and valuing fidelity and valuing honesty and valuing God and then connect myself to somebody who doesn't value family at all who thinks it's cool to live the cheap you got to have and so many times you're attracted to people who don't share your values but you ignore that with the idea that somehow I can change you you can't change nobody you cannot you cannot and it's really import this is very important because value your values set you up for all kinds of things in life your finances you know all of you all your beliefs I mean what do you value what is valuable to you is going to church valuable to them is that important you know is good credit important is good credit important that's good you know I might be wanting to just love to go and shop we had chicken no credit score doesn't matter I'm just gonna buy whatever I want whenever I wanted it's okay yeah I must spend all your money in mind and yeah I'm a wreck your credit you know all that kind of thing lights getting cut off you know like when she and I got to Matt got married thinking Michelle when she and I got married when she and I got married she had good credit I didn't and so she said to me man you got you got to get your credit together and so she you know and I got out the way cuz clearly I didn't know what I was doing she took my stuff and got me got me right you see but she had to know that I've been that was a value of mine because that she valued that mm-hmm you know she valued that I saw something Michelle put up there I couldn't read all of it but email us Michelle that pastor RC Blake's at gmail.com so we can answer you under letter C you must speak the same language naturally yeah you must speak the same language we have to be saying the same thing that and right now we've just kind of gotten into faith yeah language basically we've reignited what we knew was a part of us from many years ago in fact my father-in-law the late prophet was a man of great faith and instilled in us faith but we kind of just kind of set it to the side a little bit but lately yeah we've kind of just been reignited and now we're talking that language so everything everything that we're talking about is faith you know we're believing God yeah absolutely and then daddy says you can see the other person in power other person persons empowering aspects you can see the other person empowering aspects of your vision that you couldn't accomplish alone these are keys that identifying a shared vision now number two and maybe we'll do this with Leah and we'll stop and maybe we'll come back and maybe I'm getting to do like a part two with me you must know how to synchronize your team mm-hmm yeah so number one you must have a vision that is too big for any one individual and then number two you must know how to synchronize your team when you look at the four young men that we we read about in the text they had a system where each of them carried a corner and they got their objective accomplished every relationship read that impact point yeah I think that would be a good one for you too relationships are as unique as fingerprints every relationship has its own identity that says that we can't be looking next door at the Joneses and expect to have the same thing going on at the Joneses house happening in our house we have our own identity our relationship has its own fingerprint it has its own purpose that's right nobody comes into a great relationship that is a partnership and dictate how I handle my wife or how my wife handles me like Bishop there's a bishop in Detroit I won't called any names you mean I want me to talk about this but there's a bishop in Detroit that was on the panel panel Thank You Shauna and he said on Saturday morning you know he talked about how he has great church he's you know you know he's a very powerful influential man and his wife is a professional she carries you know she wears multiple hats and he talked about how in his house they agreed that his wife would do her thing and she would go out make make money and do business and he would do the church and he would cook and he didn't have to cook she didn't have to cook you know now it don't work like that in my house you know we roll everybody would star around here if I had to be up any time I trying to cook but I respected that because that's the way their team synchronized that's right you know nobody can tell you and I how we're supposed to do our thing you know yes we've had people that come and tell you well how how are you gone for three or four days out the week and they say the same thing to me you okay with your husband leaving three and four days a week huh how does that work I said I'll tell you it works great yeah it work it works great because naturally you know you and I as individual we meet our space and there's just arenas just how it is I mean we stay locked up in place for days and what time's the flight and then by the time you know I'm ready to come on I'm ready to come home you know to come home the beautiful thing is that we don't have trust issues because you know we live our lives as an open book in front of each other but it's the way we roll and and nobody else has to understand it they don't because that's our that is our partnership that's how our team synchronized that's the beautiful thing my mom I don't have to understand it and she don't ever question it my daddy when he was living he didn't have to understand it and he didn't question it you know my brother my brother-in-law my sister online nobody nobody has to understand how our relationship works that's the beautiful thing when you have a partnership in a relationship and you know how your relationship functions you cannot go to the barbershop and get advice from a bunch of dudes who came and keep a girlfriend on how you supposed to handle your wife or you can't go to the beauty shop the bunch of you know listening to a bunch of angry manless women tell you about how to handle your man that's right you have to know how to synchronize your team period now let's see Lee the most successful relationships are those that stay fluid and adaptable mm-hmm every team should prepare for situations and how the team will function you got it you got to remain fluid and adaptable and the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 4 9 and 10 talking about just you know synchronizing the team says two of better than one because they have a good reward for their labor for if they fall the one will lift up his fellow but woe to him that is alone when he falls for he hath not another to help him up now give him the keys to synchronizing let's talk about that for a second keys to synchronizing your team you must know the individual strengths so we I have to know his strengths and he has to know my strengths right letter B there must be constant dialogue about roles that's good there has to be if you're gonna maintain synchronization on your team has to be constant dialogue about roles and why is that it's because roles change we just kind of kind of lead us in time next point roles change you know there are times that I have to step in and help you do some of the things you you always do the times you got to step in and help me do some of the things you know I do because roles change and if we don't communicate there could be a breakdown let's let us see let us see there must be respect for the other ones gift without insecurity you has to be respect about the other ones gifts ladies if you have certain goals in life and certain vision before you get married when you are in the dating process this needs to be brought to the table and you need to pay attention to how that dude receives what you are saying if you're saying yeah I want to get my master's degree I want to get my PhD and I want to do this and I want to do that and he's looking like what you need that yeah you know that's not good that is a problem that's a problem it's a big problem that's not gonna be that's not gonna be a team that know that appreciates each other's gifts no mm-hmm there's gonna be a lot of clashing there now just write down first Corinthians 12 15 through 17 and there talks about if the foot shall say because I'm not at the hand not the hand I'm not at the body is it therefore not of the body and if the ear shall say because I'm not the eye I am NOT of the body is it therefore not of the body if the whole body were an eye where would the hearing be if the whole we're hearing where what the smelling be so forth and so on that's synchronizing all of these gifts and understanding that we bring different things thank you let's go to number three thank you no room this week we're talking about the dynamics of a relationship that is a great partnership number three like we might finish this there's no room for bosses the mission is the boss that's right I'm not the boss in my house Lisa thinks she is though I'm not the boss there's no room for bosses the mission is the boss we have a common goal and agenda as a couple and sometimes that goal calls for your gifts and your strengths and when the goal calls for her gifts and her strength you know what I do I file in behind her and I follow her when the gold calls for my strengths and my gifts she falls in behind me and she follows me nobody's the boss the the mission our common mission is the boss mm-hmm now real bosses is is an impact point won't you read that the real bosses don't care about power they only care about progress a real boss does not care about power nor titles nor positions just progress just progress you know like in in the in the Christian Church we spend a lot of time talking about you know just going over and over again this thing submission submission submission submission you know has to talk about a lot of woman supposed to submit to her and talk about it they women need to hear and it's in the Bible but the same Bible talks about how the man should honor his wife and the reality when you when you look at the full context of the Bible when the Bible tells demand to honor his wife what the Bible is telling the man is teach your wife how to submit by the submission you have towards her first right because the submission of the woman as always say is a fruit every fruit starts with a seed and the seed of submission is honor when a man honors his woman the natural fruit of his honor will be her submission so it boils down to a God ordained relationship functioning in a way that will submitted one to the other the term submit me yes sub yeah means what beneath submarine submerge MIT short for mission getting beneath the mission sometimes I have to submit mmm-hmm sometimes she has to submit write submit to each other look what the Bible says in 1st Peter 5 and 5 likewise ye younger submit yourselves unto the elder yes all of you be subject one to another and be clothed with humility for God resisteth the proud gives grace to the humble so everybody submit everybody get beneath the mission let's talk about the rules the rules are keeping the mission as priority what are they leave first rule is to maintain a mind to serve maintain a mind to serve not just to be served that's right you know it doesn't have to be he doesn't come home and sit down and all the time and just have this bringing my slippers and my food I do that but that's not what he has a mind to do he has a mind what do you need you didn't heed me to do something do you need do you need anything that's that's the mind to serve where and we both have that and because neither of us feels entitled there's no power struggle for who's the boss and because we serve each other nothing goes unmet that's right you know what I'm saying that's right in a relationship where the two have a mind to serve there's no such thing as unmet needs when you have a relationship where you say I got all these unmet needs usually that's a sign of selfishness that's it that's a sign of selfishness what's that a be sacrifice your interest for the purpose sacrifice your interest for the purpose so sometimes you just have to put something to the side that you might have wanted to do mm-hmm for the purpose of what we're doing now for the vision for them they're absolutely you know like you put your career side mm-hm and so now there's some entrepreneurial ventures that you have and so now I'm in a mindset well you did all of that too what I was doing well now how can I help you that's right you know how can i how can I support you and then the last one is celebrate the gifts your partner possesses celebrate the gifts celebrating your partner possesses you know don't just look let's celebrate now let's go to number four there must be a shared passion there must be a shared passion in other words I can't be I can't be on on on ten and you own five three right no you you I'm more excited about this than you are in a relationship everybody has to give a hundred percent in the same direction because if she's given fifty percent and I'm given fifty percent you know let's go 5050 you give fifty I give fifty we come up with a half of a relationship the only way to make a relationship work is that you got to give a hundred percent I have to give a hundred percent then we can create a whole relationship and the Bible says in first Corinthians one in ten he says now beseech you brethren by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ that you all speak the same thing and that there be no divisions among you but that you be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment we have to have a shared passion we have to have a shared passion if we're going to have a strong partnership in our relationship what are the signs of shared passion both of us have to be all-in 100% all-in 100% signs of share passion no competition for attention no competition for attention you don't need to one person doesn't need to stand out the product of the partners the partnership will speak forth speak for itself exactly was not a be is consistent follow through on commitments if you're going to do if you say you're gonna do something get it done yeah if we're gonna maintain this this passion we have to have consistent follow-through you know you keep I can't be dropping the ball she can't be dropping the ball I got to know I can rely on you that's right you got to know you can rely that's where a lot of y'all have missed it you know you've just not been consistent and then you wondering why you your people falling off you cannot maintain the passion if there's inconsistency and then let's see common conversation around shared a shared dream in other words if you're gonna if you're going to have a shared passion we have to have the same kind of conversation we have to get excited about the same stuff yeah and we that's what we do yeah all hours of the morning we're in the bed talking and planning strategizing and all this gun stuff and indeed there has to be a lot of this stuff is repetitive because it's it needs to be repeated Thank You Joey now number five and then finally your faith must be on the same frequency if you're going to have a strong partnership in relationship number five your faith must be on the same frequency now speak to that preacher something has to be on the same frequency we have to be able to tune it like a radio like a radio frequency when you think about it he can't be listening to other things and I'm listening to other things and then expect to come together to make this passion this vision come to pass in this partnership work we have to be on the same frequency the four young men were on the same frequency and when Jesus saw their collective faith they're collectively so they're free mm-hmm you know meaning we have to believe the same way we have to we have to believe in in ourselves individually that's right we have to believe in us together and we have to believe in God and we have to trust that the thing we see is really possible huh you know we have to trust that the thing we see if we're going to create a partnership and relationship that will overcome all odds and accomplish you know the impossible we got to have a shared faith mm-hmm now this is where you know your star looking at second Corinthians six and 14 and we'll close it here but it says be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers that text is is more broad than we realize you know it's more broad than we realize and you may have all kinds of Attraction and you may have whatever whatever but if a person does not have your kind of faith and if your visionary and you can see it and you're connected to somebody who can't ever see it wow we're can where can you really go with that you know what I'm saying you've got to have somebody who says I see it just like you and then you have to understand the power that's behind your partnership there's so much power that's behind the Bible says one can put a thousand of light but to put 10 miles on the flight and see when you realize that you're come together for purpose on purpose for purpose that's right and we're yoked together for a purpose then we can accomplish so much Matthew 18:19 says again I said to you that if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask it shall be done for them of my father which is in heaven listen man I may not have nobody else in the world I may not have nobody else in that in that church or ministry that believes what I'm saying but right here yes if this woman and I can come together and see it and believe it nobody else has to see it they'll get a chance to witness you don't have to participate you get a chance to witness yeah because wherever two of us are touching and agreeing God says I'm gonna show up in the midst and I'm gonna bring the supernatural results that only I can bring woo all right Thank You Lee I got almost all water y'all so it's been like two years since the last time she did this so y'all gotta send us some emails and tell her don't let it be another two years yeah yeah thank you don't send me no email to me but I talk all the time I'm you know I gotta hear so you don't send me no email tell me this has been greatly why don't you just pray you know we usually pray I want to say to all of you that are watching that this is your first time we'd love for you to subscribe definitely give me a thumbs up give me some thumbs up on this right here and don't forget to stop by our website Ric Blake's calm definitely subside subscribe to the email group the email blasts keep you up on everything Lisa's working on London mm-hmm so hopefully this week was hard to tell me so I'm like that I'm waiting I'm waiting to tell y'all where we gonna be and what the dates are for London but she's working vehemently on London talk a little bit about the corner crews July 19 through the 26th listen I don't need y'all to procrastinate because it's a big ship we have not reserved the entire ship the entire ship is not for our sea lakes ministries and they they're giving a certain amount of cabins each time they allot some cabins and all I can tell you is that the cat though the ship itself is filling up so I want you to make sure you go to our sea Blake's comm send an email of your interest and get not only get the in send an email about your interest but reserve your cabin you got to reserve and get that deposit in and that will hold your spot on on the cruise because we would love to have so many more of you on that cruise because I know it's gonna be amazing this is gonna be it's gonna be amazing because it's not going to be it's gonna be so intimate you know where when we out to sea we'll get a chance to just sit in whatever space we have and we'll get a chance to talk about everything now four days at a time you know that's that's the beauty that will be there for we'll spend a lot of time together yeah pray for the people leave father tonight we just thank you for this opportunity God just to be able to share with your people and I thank you for all those that are in our viewing and listening audience god I thank you now for partnerships that you are building god partnerships that you're making in relationships I thank you God that you would just continue to give them the wisdom and the insight that they need to build productive and purposeful partnerships god I thank you God for those that are already in partnerships and relationships father I thank you for the grace God I thank you for the grace to help them to accomplish the things that you've set before them as a team father I thank you for your holy spirit that would just breathe upon every person that's under the sound of my voice tonight God and help them to establish the things that you've set before them God we give you the praise tonight we give you the glory and the honor in Jesus's name Amen all right well we've enjoyed it also let me say this those of you who are women in ministry and a few weeks were going to be in Mobile Alabama with what we call a swim sisters winning in ministry we're going to be there it's almost set up like a queen ology thing but it's for women in ministry they're gonna be there on a Friday night which is going to be a worship experience mm-hmm and we're gonna be there on a Saturday morning at the Mobile Marriott from like 9:00 to 1:00 just in sessions where I'm going to be pouring into you along with others it's the registration for that is just $49 we'd love to have you and it's not just for women that's in ministry women that are desiring to be in ministry you just have such a hunger for the word of God and you want to grow so that you can teach others or mentor others this is a place that you need to be if you just before your mentor this is a great place for you to be because that well you will get a lot of information that will empower you to be able to go forth and the assignment that God has for you so I encourage you to get registered for that you can also go to RC Blake's com to get registered for that because we would love to see you in mobile absolutely absolutely absolutely so hey I got it done y'all I gotta hear y'all been asking I did it I did it he did it I just knew three or four young people is gonna show the way y'all been begging for Lisa they're gonna turn it on the marzzone here I did it so y'all give me some props give me some props think all that you all that sold into our lives and that we pretty much well it's time to go we love you we thank God for you and just kind of adhere to all of the announcements we made takes it by two the people have an awesome night to check out here love y'all bye-bye

Channel: RC Blakes, Jr

Views: 52,462

Rating: 4.9499125 out of 5

Keywords: Dating Advice, Relationships, Christian, Narcissist, RC BLAKES, td jakes

Id: V5HaN5u7QwA

Length: 57min 0sec (3420 seconds)

Published: Sun Nov 10 2019