Stepmom Got My Late DAD'S House & Demands I Give My Inheritance Money To Her & MY Stepsister

people who inherit a lot of money how do you deal with your greedy family i'm 21 female my dad was 46. to make a long story short my dad cheated on my mom while she had cancer and got married immediately after she died stepmom who was 43 and her daughter who was 18 were not nice people and made growing up a living nightmare for me they were constantly reminding me i didn't have a mom and would do things like destroy my bedroom any school stuff i had and throw any nice thing i had out my dad knew about most of it and did nothing when i turned 18 i moved out and refused to contact any of them again about a month ago my dad had a heart attack in the middle of the night and died i didn't learn about his passing until two weeks ago where i also learned he'd left me everything in his will not everything everything but he left me what money he had and several precious objects that are worth a good bit of money very little was left to stepmom and stepsister i found out he died because they called me to start demanding me about giving them what i was getting from my dad's will they told me they would be struggling if they didn't get it i ended up telling them that i didn't care if they were struggling and that if they really wanted to do this i would see them in court am i the idiot for collecting what i was left from my dad's will leaving my step family to struggle edit stepmother was left something yes she was left with the house and money from my dad and hers joint account i was left money from a separate account that she does not have access to my father passed away in april due to an unexpected stroke he leaves behind me my sister 29 years old and my mother 67 years old in his will of course my mother gets to retain her house he left each of us money and portions of his retirement savings all told my sister and i receive about fifty thousand dollars each plus a few stocks and other investments worth about fifteen to twenty thousand dollars more increasing over time with interest my mother of course received more because she is his wife she was really humble and ashamed as if she did something wrong promising my sister and me that we would inherit everything when she's gone i told her to keep her money and enjoy it as much as she can my sister concurs recently the lawyers handling everything have cut a check for each of us my wife and i we've been married eight years discussed several weeks ago that we will just put the money in our retirement fund to combine with the one i get from my job as a teacher but my wife kind of bragged to her family that i had received an inheritance and that we were making our retirement more comfortable we're also considering taking a few thousand dollars to go on a nice summer vacation with our two kids two boys aged seven and four her mother suggested i use the money to help my wife's cousins and other family members fulfill their dream of opening a gourmet french restaurant none of us are french but my wife's cousin is supposedly finishing culinary school and he says he will be the chef my wife's mother is really manipulative and has convinced my wife that our using my inheritance money to fund the family restaurant idea is the right thing to do and that if my mother is unable to convince me to devote all or at least most of it to the restaurant idea then my wife has the right to at least give them half i.e 25 000 i do not like this idea at all especially giving them all the money but even half of it i asked my wife why they don't just borrow money from the bank but it turns out none of them have very good credit when i ask how they will ever pay me back my wife's mother insists that i will be paid back by restaurant profits personally i think it's all a stupid idea and doomed to failure but my wife is now convinced that this is the best course of action and that if she fails to come through for her family it is a sign of disloyalty i don't think my dad intended his money to be used to pay for some stupid idea that will most likely fail none of these people know what they're doing but at the same time i don't want to disappoint my wife when i offered my mother-in-law ten thousand dollars out of the 50 she kind of turned up her nose at it like i was selfish and insulting her i really don't care what she thinks but i do care about what my wife thinks since last year i 32 female am the guardian of my youngest half-sister because our mother 52 passed away i still have a legal case running against her father to get him to financially support his daughter in the meantime i have been gathering money crowd funds selling stuff to make a fund for sis so she can get her driver's license in a few years we have money if her computer breaks etc etc mom did not leave an inheritance enter one of my other sisters 28 who is in the process of selling her house because she found another house that she likes more she bid forty thousand dollars more on the house than she can afford but she expects her own house with profit so she went into the deal with the idea of breaking even due to the fact that she offered more than she could potentially chew the bank requested that she shows she has a savings fund for a worst case scenario she did not and started asking around i assumed she had some savings herself but she didn't while she earns a bit more than i do i said if it's just to show the bank she has some money you can show little sister her savings this is where i made a mistake so forward a few months in which she didn't save a penny and now she has a reasonable bid on her house and she is pressed for time the bid on her house will leave her ten thousand dollars short to buy the new house so she started aping in the family app that it was all right because she could use her little sister's savings as a loan i never approved this and i detest loaning big sums of money because people end up fighting like we do now i looked into my options to legally lend her the money and have some guarantee that i will get the money back in due time if i legally lend her the money it becomes a note on her credit and it will influence the mortgage she can get so in the end the money won't be any help the only way it can help is if it is done under the table i explained this to her and stated that i cannot lend her the money under these circumstances and she will have to find another way now i have half the family annoyed saying i shouldn't have promised it if i couldn't do it it's not even my money but i am responsible for it and we have had enough bad luck the last few years that i do not want to take any gambles but that is just my feelings my dad called me yesterday to discuss my and my sibling's inheritance i need a little bit of help understanding if i'm the idiot here a bit of background first i'm 27 male and i am looking at two future sources of inheritance one for my father and one for my grandparents the dollar amount of these inheritances is what i would consider to be substantial but not life-changing amounts so on to our discussion he informed me that he wanted to set up a meeting with me and my siblings to discuss what we're doing with our inheritances he said that he was going to create a family corporation where we will all pull the money from our inheritances so that he can invest it into various avenues my siblings and i would each receive shares in the corporation when i probed a bit deeper he said that my siblings and i would have no idea how much money was in this corporation or where the money was being allocated my father continually emphasized that he would have 100 control of the money and how it's distributed we would essentially be signing away our right to inheritance as i see it it's important to note that he also told me in the future if you have any major medical emergencies or something of that sort i would permit you to use some of this money while that seems nice it would be at his discretion he admitted his main concern was that i or my siblings used the money for our lifestyle eg buying houses cars in his words i've seen too many kids work motivation ruined by having money so this is my conundrum while i understand him not wanting us to be lazy and unmotivated i feel as if signing away all my control to my inheritance is not a wise move while i have a good relationship with my father now i don't know if that will still be the case in 10 or 20 years i think he is well intentioned but taking things a few steps too far would i be the bad guy if i stood my ground and said i was not comfortable giving my father sold decision-making rights over my future inheritance my great-aunt died maybe 15 years ago she was pretty rich and worth somewhere in the neighborhood of 15 to 20 million she had no children she left the majority of her money slash estate to the catholic church local catholic schools and various other charities i was left a thousand dollars i was fine with it it was her money and i honestly didn't expect her to leave me anything at all so the thousand dollars was a surprise the rest of the family got very little or nothing except a cousin of mine he was supposed to get somewhere around a million i still don't know why he was supposed to get so much but it wasn't really any of my business so i didn't ask about a year before she died he got into a relationship with a married woman my very very catholic aunt was displeased to say the least and told him to end it he did not two weeks before she died cancer she changed her will and he was only left with five to ten thousand dollars after she died my aunt's best friend dancing partner and business manager of 50 plus years asked him so do you think she was worth it their relationship lasted until his girlfriend found out he was not getting that million dollars my husband and i have three children anna 24 jeff 21 and jed 19. i adopted anna a year after i got married to avoid issues with my husband's family only i adopted her and my husband did not jeff and jed are our biological children the three of them are close and get along very well my husband comes from a well-off family and a few months ago when his father died he left trust funds amounting to let's say a hundred thousand dollars for each of his biological grandchildren including jeff and jed and twenty thousand dollars for anna that they can access when they turn 30. it's my father-in-law's choice what to do with his money and i'm just grateful for the gift he gave my daughter but i also feel for her because she has a smaller nest egg compared to her brothers i talked to my husband if we could set up a trust fund for anna using our own money to help close the difference but he said he is not sure if it's the right thing to do to make it clear my husband is anna's father in every way except on paper he loves her and has never treated her differently than our sons however he is concerned that jeff and jed might see this as us favoring anna i was planning to talk to our children about it so they would know but my husband said that it didn't matter if we told them tomorrow or if they find out when they're 30 the point was that we still did not treat them equally he said that his father's relationship with his grandchildren is his own and our relationship with our children is our own he thinks we should not try to make up for his father's decision to leave a smaller inheritance to anna at the cost of possibly making our sons feel that we favor their sister i love all my children equally but at the same time i worry less for jeff and jed because they already have a comfortable amount of money from their grandfather's trusts i only want my daughter's future to be as secured as her brother's i 71 male am a modestly really wealthy man i am now suffering from kidney failure i have extensively looked for a donor but have not found one in my will i dictated that my children will receive my assets but certain events have happened that caused me to reconsider my will when i was younger i worked hard to make it to where i am now this caused me to have a larger than life ego i married and had one boy and then another girl as the children grew up i held them to unreachable standards i restricted their access to any social activity and anything else that i considered a distraction my wife saw this and was horrified she told me to change my ways i refused and this led to a bitter divorce my children were very young at that time i blamed my children for this and refused to see them anymore i turned into a very heartbroken man this caused me to dive into work to avoid all this pain in turn i became very successful as time went on i realized how horrible and nasty i had been i decided to reach out to my children and try to mend our relationships they saw how i had changed and decided to forgive me for what i had done i thought we had good relations now as my time was coming to an end my children decided to meet for a few last times during one of these meetings i had to excuse myself to the bathroom as i was walking back i heard them talking about me i decided to listen to what they were saying i was shocked to hear that my daughter was saying that she was capable of donating her kidney to me she had chosen not to donate to me as she wanted me to die and get all of my assets sooner my son only agreed with her i immediately burst into the room and told them to get out it seemed to me they had only started a relationship with me so they could receive my money i decided to change my will so charities would be able to receive it instead i thought they didn't deserve it anymore after they had left i was getting tons of texts from them about how their actions were justified because of how much of a bad father i had been i felt bad but still did not consider this enough to change my mind full story we got married when i was 20 but separated when her mother fell ill and she wanted to move to be within close proximity my job wouldn't allow it nor could i find a comparable job where she wanted to move it was downtown toronto to rural alberta it was an impossible situation we had joint custody and i paid child support but no alimony because my wife was a trust fund child she also stood to inherit railroading money so there's that as well i usually paid for any larger things they needed like new beds dressers etc furnishing for the girls rooms but also uniforms trips and so on we both remarried and my wife and i had a daughter ourselves i met the stepfather of my first two daughters and he seemed like a nice enough guy we all kept in touch and of course i visited my children two or three times a year for weeks at a time i don't know what happened but they slowly became distant my two or three visits a year i was told to cut down to one visit for a couple of days around christmas my kids just weren't interested in seeing me anymore for extended periods then they decided to change their name thankfully letting me know beforehand so i can vent my thoughts but ultimately they went with it it's their life i have no control over it but i stressed how it hurts coupled with the reduced visit times once the oldest was 18 she went no contact with me then when the younger was 18 the same thing happened removed from facebook changed numbers and so on i tried once to make an unannounced visit and they threatened to call the police so i left i want to stress i'm not leaving anything out here i didn't do anything to warrant this i don't know why they decided things would be this way i figured this was the end and our relationships were severed i still had my new family my daughter and wife and we were doing okay i decided to just leave my old life behind i retired i have a large estate which my younger daughter stands to now inherit the stepfather up and left four months ago and suddenly my ex-wife and two daughters want nothing more than to reconnect i think it's awfully convenient timing both my daughters reached out to me and i denied them saying it's been over five years of a strained relationship at no fault of my own they made their bed and now they have to sleep in it i have been married to my dear husband for two years now our families have always been against this marriage as he is 44 years older than me and tried their best to not make it happen when it did though no one showed up and we got so much hate from them that we decided to cut them off entirely their reactions hurt us at first but our love is strong and together we managed to heal from this three days ago my husband has been coughing blood for two hours i immediately called an ambulance and it turns out he has stage four lung cancer he already had a chest infection but it spread to his liver the consultant told him he only had two months left in him i have been married to my dear husband for two years now and it hurts me so much to hear that he will no longer be in this world my husband insisted i contact his family i was hesitant at first but as he really wanted this i did none of them cared about my message and kept hating on me only until i told them that he has two months left to live his siblings then came rushing to the hospital and his sister and brother told me they wished to stay with him for the night today when i returned to the hospital i found out that half of his inheritance will be evenly distributed between his family i heard it when his sister was talking to his brother i was so disgusted that she even mentioned this after they just met again what kind of sister is that it's obvious they just came here because they want his money i raged and told her they will not be getting anything from him as i was the only person who was there for him and i deserve the full inheritance she then looked at me with disgust and told me i am the last person who deserves it and that i have always been waiting for this moment because now i can live my wife as a rich young woman i was so hurt by her words but this wasn't the right moment nor place to continue this argument with her i didn't talk about it with my husband yet but i am extremely concerned that they will be getting half of the inheritance i will have to talk to him about it before it's too late will i be the idiot if i demand full inheritance from him now i know it's not the right moment but at the same time there is little time left [Music] you

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Published: Thu Aug 27 2020