The Dangers of Defensiveness | unSTUCK SERIES | Pastor Keion Henderson

[Music] oh so [Music] so [Music] [Music] okay [Music] [Music] [Music] yes [Music] [Music] good morning lighthouse nation man i thank god that he woke you up this morning listen do me a favor real quick like share and get ready to watch this worship engage lift up your hands where you are and let's magnify god because service is getting ready to start so let's go come on good morning good morning hallelujah let's give praise to the only one who is worthy of it all we thank you for joining us this morning it is prayer time here at the lighthouse church we know that without faith it's impossible to please god and i know that during this pandemic and many other things in people's lives you've been kind of stagnant wondering where your next blessing will come from wondering what it looks like for the next chapter in your life and i just would like to intercede on you guys behalf for that on today father god in the name of jesus god we thank you we honor you we reverence you for who you are god we love you lord god and we lift you to the highest of high lord god we know that you are the alpha and the omega you're the beginning and the end and you are the author and the finisher of our faith oh god lord god we thank you lord god for an increase in an outpour of faith o god from only where you can bring it o god we thank you right now lord god that we're gonna continue on our path lord god our steps our order lord god but we trust you god with everything in us we give everything unto you lord god withholding nothing o god and we thank you right now lord god that everything that you're gonna have us to do we're gonna just walk into it god we trust you we believe you and we heard you when you said that the promises of god are yes and amen oh god and we thank you that we are able to stand on your word lord god until the day of jesus christ so we bless you god and we will be encouraged oh god we will encourage others to be encouraged oh god it's in your mighty name your strong name your matchless name god we believe in until the day that we see it in jesus name amen come on and bless him with me come on put your hands together right where you are and bless the name of the lord jesus for he's worthy of praise hallelujah we come to give him praise honor and glory for his mercy towards us we offer him praise glory to your name lord jesus [Music] come on let's sing you grace we lift our voices [Music] stay right there [Music] [Music] is [Music] we praise your name lord [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] come on declare it again we offer you [Music] [Applause] [Music] is [Applause] is [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] is for your good we thank you [Music] [Applause] [Music] we [Music] you've been a consistent [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] we [Music] we up for praise we pray come on let's sing it one more time [Applause] [Music] come on bless him hallelujah glory to your name o god thank you lord jesus greatest like faithfulness greatest mercies in this season he has provided greatest faithfulness hallelujah come on lift your hands in the presence of a king god we love you you're so mighty you're so strong hallelujah there's nothing too hard for him anybody excited that we have a friend in jesus hallelujah he's the greatest man i know i'm so glad that i can call friend and i'm even glad that he calls me friend hallelujah see what i'm free we are [Music] [Music] [Music] is [Music] is [Music] [Applause] [Music] when you is it too far [Music] because we do not [Music] [Music] is so much better when you take it to the body cast all your burdens right there at his [Music] feet [Music] oh [Music] it's so much is [Music] take it to the lord [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] and everyone else [Applause] [Music] [Applause] and [Applause] [Music] [Music] then leave it down don't pick it back up don't pick it back up you gotta leave it dad leave it right there [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] oh [Music] [Music] [Music] take it take it leave it there leave it there don't pick it back up [Music] [Music] foreign [Music] because things [Music] everything everything [Music] to god sing to god everything to god in praise proud he'll never give up on you give it to him [Music] castro cares on him because he cares for you [Music] help me sing it like you really [Music] [Music] come on and sing it come on and sing it come on and sing it somebody's life depends on it one last time [Music] [Music] but it's what [Music] let's all sing it together what are we taking to him hallelujah there's a sweet spirit in this place i know protocol says we're supposed to go on and preach erica but it feels like the room is filled and and i know it is it may be empty of people but it is full of the holy ghost so we we i heard an old preacher say why go through all of that to invite him here and then rush to get to the next place when he comes jesus jesus jesus [Music] there is something [Music] about that name master savior jesus like a fragrance after the rain that's his name jesus jesus let all heaven [Music] and earth proclaim kings and kingdoms may all pass away somebody out there watching i want you to know there is something about there is something about there is something about that name oh yeah hallelujah hallelujah we bless your name holy spirit we give you all glory we give you all honor we give you all praise you are alpha and omega you are the beginning and the end you are he who is and is to come thank you for being the fairest of ten thousands thank you for being water in dry places bridge over troubled waters bright and morning stars lily of the valley we thank you god that you're a healer when we're sick we thank you god that your bread when we're hungry we thank you that you are a provider thank you jehovah jireh jehovah nisi check we thank you god hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah [Music] hallelujah hallelujah [Music] hallelujah hallelujah we bless your name we bless your name we bless your name we bless your name we bless them we bless your name we bless the name hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah [Music] [Music] hallelujah you know it don't take a whole lot to worship them it doesn't take a whole lot of people to do it [Music] you're reaching somebody in new york city this ain't about houston this this ain't about texas the earth is the lord's the fullness thereof you're ministering the people of nigeria you're ministering to people in london you're ministering the people [Music] in australia you're ministering the people somebody needed this today somebody needed this today somebody needed this this sunday morning somebody needed it somebody needed it somebody was about to give up somebody was about to throw in the top but god specializes in knowing what you need [Music] anybody knowing know what you need [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] hello [Music] [Music] i hear this in my spirit don't give up on god cause he won't give up on you no yeah don't give up on god he won't give up on it singing don't give up on god cause he won't he will never give up on you no no no no no no no no no no i don't give up on don't give up on god don't you do it don't you do it don't you do it don't you do it he's right there don't give up on god cause he won't give up on you [Music] don't give up on god cause he won't give up on you [Music] don't give up on god cause he won't give up on you one more one time yeah don't give up on god he won't give up on you i'm trying to move on i i don't know how what we got about 30 more minutes before the service ends but but somebody needed to know in tennessee don't give up on god [Music] don't give up on god in florida i'm here to give you a testimony he won't he won't give up on you [Music] by yeah [Music] i know don't give a foreign [Music] [Music] yes he's able [Music] from the rising of the sun [Music] to the going down the same yes [Music] he's worthy jesus is worthy he's worthy to be praised praise him i'm trying to stop seriously praise him there's an oil in this room all the instruments praise him i don't care what you're going through you are the praise you ought to praise him oh jesus [Music] that blessed savior he's worthy too y'all want to sing that come on let's sing that come on and say [Music] it [Applause] [Music] [Applause] what is it from the rising from the rising of the sun come on the singer from the rising [Music] come on administer he's worthy [Music] [Music] [Music] oh jesus stay right there say jesus stay right by say this what's his name call his name the lily of the valley his name is hey [Applause] call him call him call and call say jesus blessed savior [Applause] don't act like don't act like you need to i said somebody shouted [Applause] hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah [Music] [Music] hallelujah see somebody somebody will watch this and say what's all that going on they must be faking but i bet you you can tell him you don't know what he's done for me hallelujah if you can't do it in an empty room you ain't gonna be able to do it in heaven i guess somebody everybody in this house and watching today give [Music] god [Music] [Applause] i hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah [Music] oh yeah [Music] all right what we need to do trying to figure out what we need to do [Music] all right [Music] all right [Music] let the church say yes we gotta go yes [Music] yes [Music] oh yeah [Applause] my my my my soul says yes yes lord see the reason why i'm doing this is some of y'all don't know the lord sent me here this morning to prevent an attack on you he sent me over here with the glory because the devil had something planned for you and god sent me to tell you god blocked it he blocked it the holy spirit blocked it he blocked it something's about to change something's about to change something's about to happen you at home something is about to happen something is about to change yes lord yes lord [Music] hallelujah thank you jesus for your saving grace thank you for the power of the holy ghost thank you that no weapon formed against us shall prosper and thank you that every tongue that rises up against us shall be condemned thank you for the rhema word that the hedge that you had put around this ministry these people these minstrels those who are watching that you just blocked it and we thank you because my grandmother used to say you didn't have to do it but you did and we thank you thank you thank you thank you that you are wonderful if we had ten thousand tongues we just say thank you you lord [Music] i just want to thank you you love been so good [Music] [Music] didn't have to be but you are so good [Music] oh yes you may [Music] we'll just stop it right there and say i just won thank you jesus [Music] hallelujah but what i really want to do and and those of y'all who are at home this morning like i don't know if this has happened since we've been in the pandemic it's you're literally you're literally a spectator today because this ain't how it was supposed to go so but here's the truth i was on my way to church today i was speaking to the mayor of our city on the phone and he made this announcement to me he said getting ready to make an announcement that churches can open back up and he said that the governor is saying 25 and he said that's a safe thing as long as you're wearing masks and your social distancing and then he said one of our prominent pastors in the city had made an announcement that they were opening up next month in october and as i drove up i started to see you here as i walked in the room for the first time in a long time i felt it was possible to shake your hand again and it was possible to prophesy over you over the altar and i and i and i started to hear the prayers of the righteous because people were just about to give up you you were about to give up and you're about to quit and just when it felt like everything was over i got the call that we'll be able to come back together again and so now we go from not knowing what to do to planning for what's next and god told me to tell you that what's coming is better than what's been we're going to see each other again soon so what you're witnessing right now i think the holy spirit said i needed to saturate the place before the people walked in i needed to cleanse the house of any foul spirit i needed to clench the house of any agenda i needed to cleanse the house because my people are getting ready to return not just to church but return unto me and i think we had to prove that we could get in his presence without the people because if we can do it in an empty room we can do it when the people show up normally right now i would just have our singers go sit down but this is what i want to do i want you all before you do anything and it won't be long but i need you to hear what the holy spirit has given me today because it's not a sermon it's a message for every volunteer in the room again those of y'all who are watching at home you just really stumbled upon us this sunday morning and we are in the presence of the holy ghost i wouldn't leave if i were you because i believe that god has shown me one of the biggest if not the biggest tactic that the enemy uses to keep you stuck so i don't have a sermon today literally i got one scripture one verse but i've got a message and over the next two weeks what i'm going to give you listen not only will it help you spiritually hear me if you listen to me over the next two weeks i am going to help you with your mental health because i am learning that if you're not mentally healthy you will not be spiritually consistent you can shout on sunday but if your head is messed up you'll walk right out the door and everything will go back to where over the next two weeks i'm only asking you for two weeks i believe over the next two weeks not sermons these will not be the best sermons i've ever preached but these will be two of the strongest messages i've ever delivered i want you at home to look in your bible in james chapter 1 verse 19. uh you all can do whatever i don't know what you all have to do i know this is guys if you're watching we really we are really everybody's just standing up in here all of our volunteers and cameramen they're just staring at me i've come in here messed up the whole order but the holy spirit is in charge james 1 19. will i promise you i promise you god gave me this now i sometimes because i'm a preacher i have to find messages and people will say to me online pastor you should talk about x y and z i thought it'd pop in my head and say that's a good thing for this season this didn't have nothing to do with a direct message this didn't have nothing to do with a series god told me to say this okay and it's it was for me first and let me tell you something about a message a sermon is convicting a message is convicting see it has to get you before it gets you so know this thing josh got me way before i put it on paper for you this thing that i am about to give you if you hear me and you don't treat it like every other message you hear i was here i heard it i'll apply five ten percent of it when i feel like it if i remember and then i go if you do that it ain't gonna help you but if you take this thing put this one on me jay if you take this and you apply this word to your life here is my guarantee to you this will be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path it won't be amazing you're not getting ready to shout you're you're you're probably going to have so many notes that you won't be able to read them or you will be so awestruck you won't have any notes at all james 1 19 says where for my brethren let every man that's not a man that's a person it's anthropos in the greek all human beings let every human being be swift to hear slow to speak and slow the raft i want to talk to you on this subject the dangers of defensiveness the dangers of defensiveness i would listen if you all would just put your mics where they are and just sit in the next session just sit in this section right here for those of you all at home turn everything off that doesn't have anything to do with what i'm saying right now don't try to hear me and cook don't try to hear me and be on social media turn off everything give me your undivided attention and because it's undivided i will not be long the lord gave me this to give to the people this isn't a sermon this is a message all right and it is perhaps the biggest tactic the devil uses to keep you stuck it is it is perhaps the biggest tactic the enemy uses to keep you stuck this tool the that the devil uses and will always use because it will always work is equipped listen to me to keep you in a pattern of defensiveness as opposed to responsiveness hear me well now i got a lot of sports players in here and a lot of you all have played sports with me the hardest part of any game is defense in fact the greatest players in the world they actually work hard on defense and they rest on offense why because when you're on offense you get to determine what happens next you can dribble the ball five times if you want and get your breath you can walk to the screen but when you're on defense you have to work hard i was talking to a good friend of mine moochie norris the other day he played point guard for the rockets i asked him i said who was the hardest guy in the nba to guard i thought he was going to say michael jordan i thought he was going to say kobe bryant he said allen iverson was the hardest person he ever had to guard i said ai now he was a beast he was a beast but he wasn't six five he wasn't six seven he wasn't 220 he was a buck something about that high why he said the reason why allen iverson was so hard to guard is because for 48 minutes he never stopped moving don't y'all miss this please please if you're looking to be excited at home please this is not going to be the one i need your attention i want you to act like you just paid a thousand dollars to be in a class to set yourself free he said hey i was so hard to guard because whether it was offense or defense he kept running and he kept moving and he never stopped moving he came off the screens at the same speed he went off the screen at the same speed he came off the screen with the ball the same speed he passed and ran he cut he never stopped and he had more energy and it was hard to guard him because when you're on defense you are at the mercy of the offender [Music] you got to stick with what you do it's what they call making you play their game and the enemy understands that when you are a retaliator he knows how to get you to play his game but the problem is you ain't good at it [Music] thank you so much for being with us today i know it's a little unorthodox how we're worshiping but i just have to break away real quick to let you know it's time to give and when worship is proceeding like that it is always good to make sure you're sowing into a fertile ground it's our tithe and offering period and we are cheerful givers and everything you do helps us to make sure we do what god has called us to do whether it's to clothe the naked whether it's to feed the hungry whether it's to minister to people who are in need we're talking to one of our members right now who just had a major surgery and is bleeding right now and her prayers are going up and yours need to attach with that but we can do things for families like that when you are faithful in your giving so the instructions are coming up on the bottom of the screen right now they're going to show you how you can give through our app you can text to gif you can give online any way you want to do it and i want to thank the people who have actually driven to the physical location dropped your tithes and offering r or just mailed them in from other cities and states and to my lighthouse 2.0 members thank you so much for using giblify we are thankful for your contributions now i've got to get back to this word because there is something at the end of this message called a no block policy that you've got to get check this out when you're on defense you are at the mercy of the offender whenever you are defensive to somebody who has offended you you are at their mercy and they will keep you moving because as long as you're on defense and they know what makes you mad and they know what buttons to push and they know what to say to make you angry and they know where your soft spots are you're always running around trying to make sure that nobody finds out you're always trying to run around trying to figure out how to keep your reputation how how to keep people from knowing you really crazy and how to make sure that nobody found out how you really reacted it and how can i keep people from knowing how bad my mouth is and how do i keep people from knowing that what's actually me and how do i keep people from knowing that i cuss when i leave church and so we're all defensive all over the place we're all defensive and and we're running around and and defense is the hardest part of any game and it is the hardest part of life the dangers of defensiveness listen to this i'm going to give you practical tools on not on how not to be defensive as well but i want to get this into your head how do you discover here's the first question how do i discover tiffany if i am a defensive person because for the most part most of us are absent on diagnosis day when there is a diagnosis we tend anybody guilty but me we tend to think of who this message is for we start thinking yup my spouse my girlfriend my boyfriend my husband my wife my child my mother my sister my brother right now most people in the world are thinking who needs to hear this message but the problem with thinking about who needs to hear this message is that is you overlooking the providence of god because everybody god wants to hear this message is hearing it if god wanted your mama to hear it he would have made somebody give it to her if he would have wanted your brother to have it he would have made sure your brother had it if he wanted your spouse to have it but why is it that god gave it to you first and then to them why did god first go to the jew then the gentile why does god choose the order that he chooses because god wants us to hear this now listen to me most of us are typically defensive when we are in the face of a real or either a perceived criticism nobody likes to be criticized nobody likes to be criticized so when we're in the face of a criticism we get defensive and i've discovered this is your first note if you haven't taken a note yet listen to me i've discovered that the more your soul is at rest the better you are at handling the disapproval of others the more your soul is at rest the better you are at handling criticisms the reason why most of us explode so quickly is because there is an unrest in our soul that we never explain we are still mad about who didn't we're still mad about who should've we're still mad about what could have we're still mad about what didn't happen and so we are unrested in our soul and when your soul is unrested your flesh reacts when your soul is unrested your soul reacts here's the first thing you need to know defensiveness is a mode everybody say mode m-o-d-e defensiveness is a mode i have an suv i drive a little suv and then there's a knob in the middle of it and when i turn that knob it has about six modes on it one it has four by four when when it's when it's water i've got two buttons i can push the car will raise up an entire foot if i'm in water it is slippery i can put it on an anti-like brick system because when when you don't have antelope bricks what actually happens is the brakes will smash your wheels once and but when you have anti-lock bricks it does it multiple times because it slows it down faster i've got that i've got i've got another button that when i'm going downhill i can push it so the car won't keep rolling i've got another button that when i'm going uphill i can push it so the car won't go back i've got i've got modes and with every mode there is a picture of the terrain and so i don't have to think about it i can push that mode but cody it only works if i push the button before the tragedy okay i can't already be sliding and then hit the button i i can't already have water in the car and then push the button i can't all i can already be going down the hill and decide oh i got to hit this button because by that time i'm already in somebody's hood or somebody's trunk i've got to pre-select the button and here is what i am telling people who are defensiveness every time you are defensive what you have shown me is you don't know where you are so you didn't know how to choose you you don't you don't you don't know yourself you don't know what pushes your buttons you don't know what makes you angry so when you don't know yourself you cannot pre-select a decision you so you've got to learn listen who who gets on your nerves you got to know those people what what things bring up an ugliness inside of you who at your job gets on your nerve what words what things when you are challenged what gets on your nerve so when that happens you've got to pre-select because if you do not pre-select you will self-destruct hear me when i'm telling you i told you it's not a sermon it's a message defensiveness is a mode that has to be pre-selected here is another thing you must know you must know the difference between responding and reacting i'm going to give you the difference responding is a counter reacting is retaliation now anybody watch ufc anybody watch boxing if you ever ever watch ufc or watch boxing and i do this all the time i will google knockouts i just love to see people get knocked out i don't know why i'm not particularly fond of it myself because you knocked me out you better move out the country because i'm coming back i'm not a quitter but i'd i'd love to see people get knocked out i'll see somebody get hit but have you ever seen this jake have you ever seen a dude get knocked out the swing after the knockout is just horrible have you all ever seen that he gets hit and he just he he's just he just it's a reaction it ain't gonna hurt it wouldn't even hurt if it landed why because because he got he got knocked out listen to this because after the person hits you after the person hits you what happens is something happens and you can get a concussion and all that i'm not a doctor but i can tell you they say the lights go out and the lights go out and if you ever seen somebody get knocked out their body freezes in a position even when they're on the ground their muscles tense up it freezes in a position this is what you don't know about the devil the devil knows your freeze position every time he hits you he knows where you're going to stop he knows when you're going to stop he knows how you're going to stop he knows who you're going to stop talking to he know who you're going to cut off he knows who you're going to walk away from he so he'll hit you so you'll freeze because when you freeze your open game and here's the problem with the devil ain't no referee that gets in the ring and says enough is enough sometimes god has to turn you over to the enemy y'all not hearing me he'll have to turn you over to the enemy to show you that he is your defense you've got to stop reacting and start responding in other words you don't want to be a person who loves to retaliate you want to be a person who knows how to respond because when you are a person who likes to retaliate you're always behind the person who's the offender does that make sense again let's go back to sports have you ever saw a guy come down the court shoot a three he hits it if you're not a three-point shooter it makes no sense for you to come down there to show the three-point shooter i'ma hit one too that ain't your area that's not what you do you got to stick with what you do it's what they call making you play their game and the enemy understands that when you are a retaliator he knows how to get you to play his game but the problem is you ain't good at it you ain't good at hating you're not good your blessings won't abound when you hold grudges it works for them but it doesn't work for you god won't bless you with a promotion on your job when you are trying to connive and get other people in trouble it doesn't work for you it works for the world but it doesn't work for you and when you get off your game you lose the game that's why we're losing because in this economy in this economy covet 19 people losing jobs do you know that we don't live in this world's economy and that it is quite possible i know for me and i don't know for some of you but some of you all are watching i bet and i've talked to people covet 19 for people in the household of faith has been some of the best months of their life can i tell you that we have to be delivered from being defensive that every time somebody says something to you you got to resist whatever that anxiety that urge it is to say okay i'm going to show them i'm going to show them who they talking to i'ma show them who they messing with when you respond it's a pre-selective mode when you react you've already lost control you've already lost control listen to this i uh at home i've got an adjustable bed frame underneath my mattress and it has a remote control and so if i push the button the feet will lift up and and sometimes when i'm watching basketball the back will lift up it it got another button on it it'll vibrate and massage it it got all kind of stuff on it yeah yeah i got it like that i do have one i'm going to tell you that right now that had it a long time and and and and so now i didn't had it about 10 years though but here's the thing just the other day the foot part got stuck up and i i couldn't get the foot down so for three days but all the swelling went out of my ankle i'm telling you i i my feet been up for three days and i was so frustrated because because i like to sleep on my side now imagine sleeping on your side with your feet all the way up here so i'm stuck sleeping on my back jake i can't sleep on my back so i'm rolling over i'm trying to stay on the couch as long as possible i've done everything i can i changed the batteries i did everything i could so i called in to the adjustable frame people and they went through all of this kind of stuff here's what they told me they said oh we found out the problem uh you need a new remote control and here's the thing now you know when you're trying to fix something you know when you're trying to work something you keep pushing it so here i am being silly the feet are up but i'm trying to see if it's working so i push it again and say so now i keep pushing it now it's 10 inches higher than it really needed to be because i needed to prove to myself that i that i knew what to do and so they said it's a remote now watch this every button on the remote control worked except the down button every button worked except the down button so i had to wait three days on them to send me another remote listen to me so that i could reprogram the remote to the frame so that i could let the feet down are y'all hearing me no matter what i did every button worked but when i push that button i got no response i kept pushing it i changed the batteries i got no response do you know how many things you are stuck in because when god pushes that button you will not respond he keeps smashing it he keeps pressing it he keeps holding it but you won't put your temper down you won't put your attitude down you won't put your hands down you won't put your anger down you won't lay aside the weight that's so easily just beset you and here you are stuck in an uncomfortable position and god sent me to tell you that just like the remote you can be replaced and let me tell you when i got that remote even though i had the remote pierre for 10 years the moment i got the new one i threw the old one away like i never knew it don't you let god say i've been pushing you and investing in you and putting you around great people and giving you great opportunities for year after year after year i've been pressing you and pushing you toward the mark if you don't respond soon i'm sending a replacement no i'm sending a replacement and let me tell you something when i when i got that replacement ladies and gentlemen i hope you'll hear me wherever you are it only took the bed 30 seconds to accept something new it ain't gonna take people long to get over you when god sent something new it ain't gonna take listen when god gets rid of you and sends somebody else in he'll make the transition easy you better make sure that if god is pressing you you respond i'm pushing the button right now to tell you that your defensiveness has you stuck stuck mad stuck angry stuck vindictive you can't forgive you know how to pretend but you can't forgive just cause y'all still holding hands don't mean y'all forgave each other just cause you kissed goodbye good morning don't mean you forgave each other because if we dig deep down the button still doesn't work stuck in defensiveness can i tell you the devil almost had me man oh he listen i i ain't i am not scolding you i'm giving you my testimony he almost had me he almost had me i fought that joke off with everything i had he almost had me i was stuck i was stuck i was stuck i was stuck but i recognized that when you're stuck you look weird when you're stuck you know how hard it is to make up a stuck bed so you're not imagining it it's already hard to put them stretchy sheets on in the first place but how you put it on when one part up in there and the other part down here stuck stuck now i'm uncomfortable because it's stuck it's stuck i'm not even stuck which means that when you're stuck you can also make everybody else around you uncomfortable stop stuck in a grudge stuck because you can't let it go stuck because they ain't apologizing okay stuck because they didn't say sorry stuck meanwhile they're doing everything they need to do when they need to do it how they need to do it and ain't nothing worse than being anointed and stuck how in the world are they getting more done with no anointing and you can't do it and the holy ghost lives in your house because you're stuck what do you do when everything somebody thinks about you triggers a reaction i'm telling you the devil's been using this against us and we all have an inner reaction to every message that triggers our outer reaction for some of us it's a temper right let's be honest it's it's anger like you could go from zero to 100 and you won't even know how you got there before you know it the kitchen table's already broke before you know it your fist is already through the door you you're struggling to pay rent how you gonna get the wall fixed i was watching instagram the other day i saw two people arguing in the parking lot the cars were not new but yet they were running into each other now they needed new cars but here they are running into each other because of their anger did y'all see the i know y'all watch if you're watching me i know you got a social media account did y'all see the girl who was pouring pop soda in the car and cutting the seats early in the morning y'all saw that one she was cutting it early in the morning but she gonna go to jail i'm trying to figure out how much time is a sprite in the back seat worth defensive she said i'm the wrong one to mess with i'm the wrong one to mess with i know y'all seen it come on i'm the wrong one to mess with and you might be the wrong one to mess with but not because you can stab somebody but because the lord will fight your battles now you ain't seen nobody defend you like god can you you can't get nobody together like god can you can't you can't rectify the situation like god can you cannot even the score like god can i am telling you that i am fully aware that the enemy has used defensiveness to keep us from our destiny now here's the problem in order to win a game you got to score so what good is it if you keep if you play good defense and you keep them from scoring but you can't put the ball in the basket or in the end zone or in the goal you you have to you have to make some decisions you have to be offensive you you've got to be pre-selected you got to make sure that your buttons work i'm going to say this and i promise you i'm done because this was a message not a sermon i hope it helped you what i have last for you i think is the icing on the cake this is for every person who's in any type of relationship it i'm not just talking about spouse i'm talking about brother sister sister cousin nephew listen to me there was something in psychology called a no block policy and i am telling you that after you recognize that defensiveness is a mode and after you recognize your modes and after you figure out how to adjust i need you to adopt a no blocking policy all right i remember they used to have a show back in the day called whose line is it anyway it's an improv show now for me my my favorite improv show is wilding out i can watch wildling out all day long and um there is a game called keep it in the classroom y'all know that game keep it in the classroom so you and so it doesn't matter what the person in the desk says if they say something about pizza you have to make sure that what you say after that rhymes with what they said you can't go in a different direction you can't say whatever you want what you say next is determined by what they said it's really the basics of improv so so for instance if i'm a police officer uh in the improv and i take on the role of a police officer you don't even know it i just say i'm a police officer and i say chauncey i am pulling you over because you were going 40 miles per hour in a 15 uh zone and and you are speeding motorists you don't get to say an improv i wouldn't speed in improv the rule is that whatever i say you have to go along with it you just have to go with it you just have to go with it that's the rules of improv so if i say hey why were you speeding you don't get to say i wasn't speeding like you would in real life improv says i have to say something like oh i didn't recognize i was speeding i'm going somewhere with this i'm talking about a no block policy if this is true then it correlates into relationships that whenever you are criticized you have to have an improv you have to have a no-block policy so if your spouse says you are disrespectful you don't get to say i disagree improv says you have to say how have i been disrespectful this is killing y'all because it killed me i ain't a master but i know how to teach it listen i know i know it's hard i know it's hard to digest but here it is listen it requires cooperation one of the rules is that you're not allowed listen to contradict what the other person introduces are you with me so far so this is what causes us to be so defensive in relationships because anytime we are accused we think we get to determine whether the person was right about the accusation you hurt my feelings no you just emotional wrong fighting words listen anybody who ever been in anything those fighting words you you uh y'all help me out anybody give me a phrase i'll tell you right now anybody at home y'all tweet it and put it on the on the timeline they'll tell me and i'll see if i can get it somebody just give me a phrase that that's common in the argument real quick you hurt my feelings no i didn't you just always tripping no i'm not inconsiderate you just spoil i don't always do nothing you just always use the word always i ain't selfish your mama just gave you everything and i ain't about to be your mama okay now y'all stop cause i want nobody to fight me i'm just i'm just i'm playing the improv this is an act this is an act i'm i'm just i'm just up here acting right now and the problem is is that that is a defensive mechanism why because when you tell a person what you are not or what you have not done then they have a responsibility within themselves to prove the accusation all right now here are blocking phrases y'all ready for some because i've used them somebody say some of you well what about when you i ain't say no one you same thing at least i'm not and this is the one that we think that we should be able to see i don't agree still blocking you blowing this out of proportion blocking how then do you lay your guard down and not be defensive even when you don't feel guilty i'm gonna give you tools you're inconsiderate i see your point now what's somebody gonna say after you say that i see your point they can't say anything because you've just taken the ball from them now they're on defense y'all missing it you just stole the ball you just stole the ball uh uh what was the other one that you said somebody said okay you said you're selfish the part i agree with with that is i just stole the ball i just stole it i just stole it now here's what's going to happen to the person who's defensive oh you just trying to be smart you antagonizing me no i actually agree with you i actually agree with you i think that in certain instances i have actually been selfish what you gonna say you don't care nothing about me i'm sorry you feel that way i actually do you just like your mama that's her fault because she raised me you're absolutely right you don't treat me with respect i need to give that some thought see these are no blocking policies that remove you from being defensive because listen to me if you've ever seen anybody play great defense they have to be put in the game and taken out of the game constantly it is impossible to play great defense the entire game the person now if you play sports you know that the reason why this k why you're capable why we are capable of playing defense in basketball is because it's five of us they have something called help side because when the person gets beat i can leave my man and go help and somebody else can rotate and everybody will be covered but when you are playing games in life it's mano imano man the man woman devil against you and you ain't got no help but the lord you don't have no help but the lord you when your mother and father forsake you that lets you know that it happens if the scripture says it joseph shows you that what your brothers will do if it gets tough so when you're in that one-on-one thing you can't be on defense you have to lay your ego aside ego e g o ego stands for edging god out whenever your ego is in charge you have taken god out of the out of the system i i came to tell you today that i have discovered what god has done to a race to a group to a specificity of people he keeps us the devil keeps us defensive we're defensive and every time we get close to breakthrough we go back to being defensive i was i was appalled every time i saw a young black man killed in the last 15 20 years of my life i've seen it a lot but here lately we all know what has happened and it's been crazy and i was appalled i stand against all bigotry i stand against all racism i stand against it all let me tell you what happens to a people who become defensive two police officers in california were in their car and the young man comes up and does the unthinkable and shoots these two officers in the head and i started to read the comments and i saw people say stuff like that's what they get because if they wasn't shooting us it wouldn't happen to him despicable if it's wrong for the goose it's wrong for the gander which means that if we are against black people being shot we have to be against white people being shot we have to be against police officers being shot and when you are defensive you think other people deserve your pain now i know a lot of people don't disagree with that but i don't care you cannot you cannot be okay with somebody suffering your same pain so you can feel better about you that is the epitome of defensiveness i want you to get to the point where you do this is what the bible says do good to those who do bad to you the bible says if you do good to only those who do good to you what praise should you get even sinners do that he says but if they give you a stone you give them bread in actuality the opposite of defensiveness is me taking care of you while you're trying to get over on me and if you get to that place i promise you you will be blessed yesterday 24 hours exactly this time yesterday i'm talking to bishop on the phone and he says to me that his mentor gave him some simple advice i'm going to end this sermon with it i'm going to give it to you i'm going to give it to you it ain't going to be deep because this sermon wasn't deep it ain't going to be a message i can't show it to you in scripture but i heard it from a person who has conquered the world who heard it from a person who conquered his world the secret to living a good life listen trusting the lord and doing good to people and you shall eat of the fat of the land that's it trust god do good to people and you shall eat of the fat of the land it doesn't matter what they did to you what mode do you pre-select in your floods in your hills in your valleys in your anger what pre-selected mode because it is called forgive which means it's a decision that happens before you're offended before for give you have to choose who you're going to be even before they define you i am honored that you gave me this many minutes of your day on a sunday morning i'm sure you didn't want to hear this i'm sure this has thrown all that you had planned out of whack our our music team they've got more work to do here today and i've messed up their entire day but would you settle for an inconvenient day to have a life and having that life more abundantly i have seen the lightning flashing i used to say that because my granddaddy said it now i say it because i've smelled the smoke of the flesh i have been through the fire and there are days i don't even smell like smoke i'm not telling you what i heard i'm telling you what i know defensiveness destroys no blocking somebody has an opinion of you you have a responsibility to accept it and roll with it even if they're wrong validating somebody's opinion does more than trying to defend your position when you validate somebody else's opinion it leaves them room to find out if they're wrong but when you defend it it makes them think they're right stand still see the salvation of the lord god right now the name of jesus i don't know who this message was for i know you gave it to me you gave it to me on this day for the people who were alive to hear it this day you said it to me in the car today something's about to change this world is about to shift and it's already shifting but as we move into the year of 2021 this church is moving into its 11th year and i want to let you know because i don't i don't just we're not going to reveal this like a surprise in aha this is what the lord told me he says the church is in its 11th year one and one it's the same on both sides he says i'm bringing balance back god says i'm getting ready to bring balance back to your life i'm getting ready i'm getting ready to tip the scales for you it's gonna it's gonna balance out 11. one on the left one on the right guy says i'm getting ready for every struggle you had i'm about to give you some success i'ma balance this thing out for you you've been stuck in the house for nine months you have been frustrated you are angry you are about to give up god says just hold on i'm about to balance that thing out trust the words that are coming out of my mouth i release this and prophesy in the name of jesus god's about to make your crooked places straight he's about to make rivers and deserts he's about to bring your mountains down so you can walk over him instead of after climbing mark the words of the lord in jesus name we pray amen god bless you i love you let's worship you are worthy to be praised we give you all the glory we were to be praised we give you all the glory we worship you our lord you are words let's think it one more time we give you all the glory you are come on let's sing it again we worship [Music] you at work we give you all we give you all [Music] all the glory come on let's sing it like we mean it somebody needs this somebody needs it come on and sing it from the fruit of your lips we give you all hallelujah we worship you alone you by yourself are worthy come on sing it with your full voice we give you all we give you all we give you all we give you all one last time we give you we worship you [Music] man what an amazing service we thank god for pastor who always gives us a life-changing word that shifts us into new dimensions for our destiny listen you have an opportunity right now don't let this moment pass look down below on the screen you have an opportunity to sow into good ground though the church doors are open you are the church and we want you to join our family so right now if you don't have a church home or if you've heard something that's worked in your spirit and excited you text lhnation to 84576 and join our family and listen i would be remiss if i did not offer the prayer of salvation to you listen god is a good good father he is great in all that he does and he wants you he wants you to be close to him he wants you to come into his family and to his full you can be grafted in right now he protects us and covers us so let me just pray with you right now father god in the name of jesus we pray lord god that every ear under the sound of my voice lord god that it's that you soften their hearts that you soften their minds lord god to desire to be closer to you father we pray lord that you would just continue to do a work in our hearts continue to clean us up lord god that we will be able to lift our holy hands to you lord god and give you glory in all that we do those that may be suffering with depression those that may be suffering with anxiety lord god we know you are a good good father and the plans that you have for us are good and to do us no harm so father right now in the name of jesus we plead the blood over everyone tuned into this stream god and we pray that you would snatch them out of darkness and bring them into your marvelous light oh god that you will be exalted in their lives that they will fully commit and confess that you are their lord that you are their savior so father god right now in the name of jesus we plead the blood of jesus over your children and we seal this prayer in the matchless name of jesus christ amen and amen we love you and we'll see you tuesday

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Length: 98min 44sec (5924 seconds)

Published: Sun Sep 20 2020