The Benton Family Full Episode | Season 6 | Supernanny USA

well I'm in South Carolina and it's rather humid but I'm here to help a family so why don't we take a look where the bins I'm amber I'm Greg and we have two boys Rivers who's 10 and Hunter who's 800 is a strong-willed child stopping Rivers is the fuel to Hunter's fire and he instigates hunter a lot the boys fight on a daily basis rivers and Hunter both have a potty mouth that's what I like to call it for my discipline techniques I do a lot of yelling which is not very effective at all turn off your life get yeah I make a lot of threats to the boys you go to your room night you're supposed to be in your room go to your own room I'm just wore out where's the follow through on discipline so wonder why these boys just do what they want stop it now go to your room I'm probably a little more aggressive than amber is as far as discipline what are you doing son why would you do that they know how far they can go and how much they can get away with get the gloves and go put them up now once I reach that point then I will respond I'm disappointed in you I mean seriously like no room to breathe physical strength and being physically fit that is a priority they work out with weights be pushing them I'm giving them that little extra edge I do want my boys to be tough you getting tired already just listen to diets really you're faster but you're not hitting strong what kind of perfection is he looking for good your homework now rivers is big problem is his homework said at the table so you're not daydreaming out there he can't even get a book out without us they are over him not staying o'clock tonight doing homework son hurry up you've been studying this for all week and you can't tell me two Mississippi River sit up here and learn how to set appointments to get his homework done it's a no if it's red don't you dare do it what's wrong with you now thangs SQLite and it turns the whole house upside down hi char you didn't know that at times I have felt like we were gonna fall apart and the boys were gonna be the demise of our family rich go to your room right now we can't handle it anymore and we need some help stop super nanny please come save us man hey guys I know you're frustrated but please hold on in there because I'm gonna be reviewed pretty soon [Music] hello pleased to meet you nice to meet you when Joe first walked and I couldn't believe she was standing there at that door I didn't know what to even say to her I pleased to meet you Joe I'm great okay this is Hana hi hunter pleased to meet you Joe this is a proper here yes the older brother rivers hi rivers nice three each era how are you I would like to see it's just you guys do what you normally do and what the boys usually do is play outside I note that has some unusual methods in how he keeps his boys fits and I really wanted to ask him about it what's the what purpose of the weights just to help them be stronger we got the boys doing all the different exercises to work on their strength and work on their development it's just you been lifting the weights about the muscles I would go could you get me a six-pack and teacher will sit steps I want to teach them how to take care of their sales as men above all else I can see that that really values being a man alone get you hunter come on son you got it run them down why are you so tired already come on [Music] after dad went away rivers came to mom to share a problem with her cutter why are you calling him name stop it keep your hands to yourself and your comments to yourself what did he call him he told me was gay and these boys should not be using a homophobic derogatory slur it's offensive it's morally not right so is that quite typical then have Hunter to be abusive if his words yeah very abusive with his words all the time I can see it emotionally it's very upsetting for you I want people to like him and I don't want my child to be the one that nobody wants around which is what we've got right now the people talk about I do why do you think he gets that ugly mouth from I don't know he's his own person mum's acting or mystified about the language that the kids are using but you know it's not rocket science to work out where these kids are learning that language from with the boys back inside it was time for rivers homework whoo rivers and homework that is a very long drawn-out process every day we're gonna go over his spelling words so we're not open till midnight tonight rivers started to get the books out and then before we knew it we were into a spelling test gigantic I see I saw that Rivers was relying on dad to give him the answers he's not going to learn anything this way hey no stom HTH again so dad started to lose patience oh-ho-ho-ho-ho put a mark you don't know that one let's get through these quickly hey yes no you don't know that one spell Boston no Connor get out of here I mean hunter came in and enhancer wanted a full blown conversation we're still but at stake then no bo sto Ian I was just thinking how is this really helping Rivers all right you know which ones you miss all right those five you miss aren't you going in right about two times each I think that his parents have made him feel like a nuisance like a burden there is no patience there's no tolerance and then at least to him feeling so incompetent about doing any of his homework the problem is here in this table so you think that the problem lies with rivers yes [Music] the boys can be very aggressive and mischievous especially hunter hunter I really wanted to find out if hunter understood the impact on his family when he misbehaves and so I decided to have a conversation with him we have an aggressive family all right who do you think's more aggressive my dad your dad sometimes he's just unhappy with this room again get out my life and still put it right okay so basically mommy and daddy that's their arguments and stuff like that usually happens at night and stuff I mean how does that make you feel makes me feel like you're about your divorce and if you ever heard your parents mention that word before divorce yeah this was quite surprising to hear this from Hunter because I hadn't seen mom and dad in a place where I thought it was that bad something smells good sometimes parents try too hard to cover up the little flaws that are happening there and then but you know that there's got to be something going on otherwise you wouldn't be there father God will just give you thanks for this meal afraid she would be worthless to seed and your gracious name we pray thanks for today all right I'll see you tomorrow for family meeting okay thanks thanks mom bye I am very nervous knowing I'm gonna sit down with you I've got all ideas she's gonna tell Greg and ice not the kids it's Greg and I that are causing these issues that sent our home well it's been an interesting observation day to say the least but at the end of the day I'm able to read between the lines that's my job so we get to have a family meeting I hope they're ready for it [Music] so let's talk about discipline there isn't really a discipline in this house you talk a good talk but there is no following through there is no warning there is no this is what we expect from you you're right the boys don't know what their consequences are and everybody has to learn that there are consequences whether they're good or bad for whatever action you take and it's about teaching these kids to not be impulsive but to listen take direction and do as they're told okay so let's talk about homework rivers he's very very nervous when he does his homework most stare family the longer we sit here and the more frustrated we get the more nervous rivers get is creating this hostility between you all and you're making the situation worse I think that there's a good happy medium in being able to find more independence in doing the subjects he can do and the ones that he is going to need more help with and pacing that homework so that you're not forever spending three or four hours a night doing that are we ready to make a change for there okay so let's knuckle down and talk about the boys two men stuff I've listened to you talk about them needing to be mentally strong and be tough and be out of pack-a-punch but where does it leave room for the three of you to be more emotionally connected it's not unmanly for them to be in in tact with their emotions it's very important because it allows them to have smart intelligent conversations that can lead to resolution rather than using their fists I wasn't happy in the slightest to hear hound his mouth he thinks it's okay to go around calling people that's not okay he claims that he says it you lead by example and what role model are you being it's not okay it's got a change it's got to change you've kept quiet but your mouth said a lot you've got a wife who's almost too scared to speak at the table in case it causes conflict it's hard to point flaws out because you know it's gonna resort an argument sooner or later saying that I do want to talk about communication because communication between the pair of you is hot when it shouldn't be Hunter's told me that this is what's gone down you fire off at one another get nasty with one another and it's not good and everything that you're seeing from your children has come in from what's been going on between the pair of you I'm too scared that his parents are gonna get a divorce I'd like to get busy to do some work [Music] so I've watched the kids misbehave hunters told me what he asks everything isn't what it seems so I do believe mom and dad are in for a wake-up call I need to show Mom and Dad what effect they're arguing is having on their family let's take a look at some video footage and talk about what we're gonna see here okay aggressive family who do you think's more aggressive my game your dad sometimes he's just unhappy because my mama have you listened how do you feel when you have to listen to that makes me feel like divorce and if you ever heard your parents mention that word before divorce and after they both said it or has one parent said it was usually there was this silence and you could see that they were both thinking wow you know this is our son saying this I knew that I had now touched some very raw nerves and I knew it was time for us all to sit down and get talking and that wasted no time a whole volcano erupted there and then in front of me you coming here in front of me of my wife and start bringing up divorce as if we're about to get a divorce do you turn this to something that it's not only what into what this whole situation Gregg became very defensive he felt that you know he was coming off looking bad then you've insinuate that we're on the brink of a divorce because my child told you that we're on the brink of a divorce right that's what it seems like Connor just said my mom has talked about the Volvo you said that yes I've said it in front of him I have said it why don't we just get a divorce if we're this unhappy I have said that okay Hunter's expressing his feelings to somebody he feels like he can open up to you and you should respect that I do respect that I don't respect Joe taking him out there by herself and start putting words in his getting him to say what's in his mouth about divorce and then come on the tape and like this is what's going on with your family I mean it wasn't good at all to listen to this man feel this way but I realized that the truth had hit him hard do you know what Gregg he refused to accept and listen and respect what your wife has to say because you don't like what you're hearing that's not so really I'm asking you since all since everything's coming out it's a big surprise now why haven't you ever said anything you know how we all feel you know I love you you know your children love me you know we all love you but the fact is we have problems in this family that need to be resolved and I'm a last resort no it's not last resort yes it is so this is the last resort it's been long we had I've always now eight ten years between the two of them we have problems and for you to sit there say we don't you're in denial I mean we are dysfunctional and nobody's blaming it just on you it's all of us it's me and you as a pair fighting the way we do constantly around our boys there's a better way for us to handle our situations than what we're doing now so you got anything to say no not a word darn it shot down Greg don't shut down no shells ball game y'all finish it now I told you don't throw me under the bus and this is exactly what you did see I don't I don't see what don't worry you don't feel like it I'll be any of y'all say Greg don't quit right will you just give me the respect to talk for two minutes please I'm not talking to you give me the respect I am talking to you and I hope you're happy I showed mum and dad a video of Hunter being aware of the word divorced being used and that lost his cool were you just give me the respect to talk for two minutes please I'm not talking to you you give me the respect I am talking to you and I hope you're happy she wants to talk I don't want to talk listen I feel like a lot of these situations you are the one taking them out of context Potter felt can't fool enough to go to Joe and hear out his problems that's his heart let's finish there look what you're doing watching both parents talk to one another is no healthy situation they talk over each other not listening to the other person and it's a shambles oh wow time out time out okay just get something out my bag hold on a minute so I brought in a timer to let this family know that every time it turns that they have two minutes to talk and the other person has to be disciplined enough to listen to what they have to say the pair of you you start to talk then you talk over you start to talk and you talk over nobody's listening you talk when this water runs out their new star okay listen to what the other person saying hear it and then respond Joe was a safe place for her to go to and I think you feel like I knew all about that it was the biggest surprise to me as it was to you so a lot of things you're taking out of context and then you're getting offended at me and upset with me because you think I'm throwing you under the bus you're very well aware of the problems around here just as I am just as the two boys are so nothing should be a surprise the only point I'm trying to make is I'm not shocked by what you're saying I just I don't like the way that went about it I'm not saying the hunters creating things I do he's obviously heard the word because he said that his mama said it and you know if that word is being thrown around then you know let's do something about it we say a lot of words and anger that we shouldn't say and not meaning it so that that's a fault and that's something we need help with and I recognize that that's an area that we need tremendous help in I think the timer worked well as they started to recognize it was important to listen to one another it actually brought their tempers down so I think it's a good little measure for those first five or ten minutes when they're like two Bulls in a china shop I want to nail do what I have to do to make things right and better for my children because if we don't change hunters never gonna change the fact is now we're looking at boys that are in a place that everything they take now they're going to take into that adulthoods what kind of got me the most is it's not about me you know it's about my wife and it's about my two sons it's about the Benton family I'm ready to move forward I'm ready to change things I've been ready [Music] well let's let's do it you mean you're not gonna kick me out your house I guess I'll let you stay a little bit so now with Greg on board I wanted to dive in straight away and work out homework for rivers so I am going to have to put in a technique that would allow rivers to identify when he needed his parents help and when he could do it himself the subjects that you need more help on you're gonna place an M and D on does anybody know what M and E stands for most difficult okay mom and dad the work that you don't need moment does help for have rivers on them and the reason for this rivers is because I want you to become more confident doing your homework yourself and not being dependent on mum and dad to give you the answers all the time the rivers you're going to put your stickers on the appropriate books okay so let him do it [Music] Greg it was still muddy coddling him through everything God thinks himself because Jo recognized right away bus being right over here there's got to stop the last part of homework is creating some boundaries between the parent and rivers and now okay so we're gonna find you a place for you to go when it's just you doing the our work okay sounds good yeah he's smiling yeah it's fast for everybody okay I felt relief when I saw Jo giving us a plan of action to deal with this homework situation and rivers was ecstatic about and I think that that's gonna be a confidence builder for him [Music] finishing books you are supposed to be doing your penmanship when hunter wouldn't sit down and do his homework it was a perfect opportunity for me to teach mom how to do discipline properly take that piece of metal out of your mouth now where she feels for you break your teeth thank you no sir I don't think so it doesn't matter if you're playing we're not playing right now I couldn't believe my eyes Mama's at his face and he couldn't care less place the pencil in my hand gently hunter this is your warning hunter hand me the other pencil hand me the pencil hand this is your last chance excuse me this was your large chunks this was your warning no no no he's already had a warning he needs some discipline so we could go and sit up in his room and he can stay there for eight minutes and think about what he's done and I suggest you tell him you've got a step up AMPA of course you're always gonna get this from hunter it's all very well me stepping in and talking to Hunter but I'm not Hunter's mother and I'm not gonna be there forever mum needs to recognize that if she follows through she will get that respect from Hunter but she's gonna need to work for it go to your room nobody's doing hunter I'm talking to you you have eight minutes in your room and I will let you know come here please right now mum was really struggling to get hunted to get into his room I started to step in again you see the stuff that you're doing there in the kitchen with your mum it's not acceptable do you understand me let take yourself upstairs please [Music] and when those eight minutes were over I went with mom to help her finish her first proper time out could you sit up and look at me please could you is that question are you asking all you tell it did open look at me do you know why you were sent to your room what should you do for the Miss Trading mommy amber recognizes the importance now of discipline but she needs to do it correctly her biggest challenge is going to be following through I'm going for several days and I just don't know if mum can keep this up I mean only time will tell I'm going away for three days I've left quite a few techniques in this house to be followed through on they certainly have a lot of homework to do and I really hope that they get these techniques underneath their belt because it's gonna make a huge difference dad yes if you get a chance for you to do anything with the boys that's just nurture in the emotional side spot-on with Joe being gone you know these the rules are going to have to be enforced you know we cannot just let it slide and by you showed good promise when you were stepping up doing discipline I want to see you follow through and do that okay I've exhausted everything with honor and I'm not really sure which way to turn now and I'm not gonna have Joe there and jump in and help me with that that's gonna be the toughest thing for me [Music] all right ready to watch this DVD or not yeah all right yeah we'll see so homework let's take a look see how we got on with that what do you mean you're done with this Maya how can you be done with it the first one I look man you ain't done that supposed to be a two or three right there three are you sure I supposed to be a three how about a two we're gonna finish those three because really technically you're supposed to work all the way up to page 36 today but we're taking your science book to the beach come here for you Nate okay this is your area here but one thing I expect you to do is clean it up oh yeah amber what happened well I go back and I look up all the answers to make sure he's answered um correct it's not your homework it's river's homework I mean it's one thing to look over work and say hey son you've got a couple wrong here and circle them but you're doing it for him you're over control in you have got to step back seriously you're a pain in the butt how is he learning what's going to happen when the boy has to sit with 30 other kids and do an exam how's it gonna do it on his own let's move on to Dad's tone okay listen when I come back up here you better be writing those spelling words and you better have all this stuff here picked up pick this stuff up now no you pick it up man pick it up now [Music] stop talking to me like that I'm not rushing you I'm answered your stuff are you stop talking me like that look at me look at me stop talking to me like that I'm your daddy you're not gonna talk to me like that you understand listen buddy you working hard on the stretch you understand I thought was an episode of boot camp going on there worried where did I go wrong there you walked in and your tone started off okay and you let him know what you needed to be done and what you could have been said is I'll be back in 20 minutes to see that you've done that or give me a call and you let me know when that's done and walk out but when you didn't do that he met you with the same of what you were delivering and you just go around in this circle that's quite nasty everything that you say is true it's not just the boys changing there's things that we've got to change I'll take a moment to look at discipline as how we got on here you ready yet to get your grammar out and do your grandma work as you were told to do don't get your grammar book now sit down and do your grammar nah I'm tired of asking not go to your room nice back to your room go to your room you see what he's doing he cannot move you have invaded his space and to be honest with you you you're all but far from basically giving a slap across the backside yeah yeah that's you can see I mean I've been here before with parents you've lost control there you've lost control I've gave you enough of warnings so go to your room crazy guys because I don't like your attitude I don't like the way they're adding toward me and you're not doing as I told you do not slam that door okay you can stay in your room for an hour you get your grammar book and you go back to your room for another I'm gonna tell you thirty minutes this time open this door better than that you stay in your room until it's time to go to football do you understand me it will not come out of this room until it's time to go to football [Music] when you gave him a warning you didn't allow him to be able to put things right this boy didn't have a chance how do I decide 8 minutes 30 minutes an hour in your room you were told eight minutes full stop of its to be in his room when you step up as a parent and you implement discipline and you follow through very calmly then you show them that you can be firm but fair so we need to go over discipline again with you okay we do need to look at homework we need to work on your tone we need to work on your frustration with discipline and we need to get that underneath your belt you need to be more clear on the discipline otherwise it's going to become worse and more destructive so we have got some more work to do we're not out of the woods yet as well so so should we get cracking let's get cracking having watched mum not following through with discipline it was important for me to go and give her a nice reminder of what she needed to do discipline steps worn in only one follow through and the last one here is make up that's it I'm gonna place them up here okay so you start to memorize them however if you're in the heat at the moment and you have this memory loss I'm gonna ask you to wear this with the scroll on it oh now that's good mommy doesn't have any excuses I'd put the disciplined scroll up on the wall mum had looked at her tiny scroll a few times and I just wanted to see whether she was taking anything in I'm mad can you get me off the top of your head the three main points of discipline morning follow-through makeup mum had the three steps down but it's one thing to say them you got to do it I could see on the DVD that mum just wasn't leaving Rivers alone when it came to in doing this homework so I gave her one last exercise so that rivers could get the space so he needed this is what would normally happen are you able to do that yeah you're right there and what's that you're doing did I just break your concentration so this is what would normally happen I think mum and dad have learnt from my example but it remains to be seen whether they can resist temptation the more you leave him to be independent in doing it the more he'll learn how to cope so we want you from here all right staying out the rooms a good idea cuz it gives rivers more independence and it keeps me off of his back we got to let him go sometime and spread his wings sounds good it's gonna create more space [Music] this was a completely different month to what I'd seen on the DVD she was calm and she was leaving him be okay fabulous so I'm happy with this if you find that is coming into you a lot because now you don't go into him I just want you to be able to say you need to go back into your room and get on with what you're doing okay and sure enough Rivers came out just as I predicted how about your spelling okay okay you don't worry about it right to me forever good how you handled that was good for think you were just karma it's a lot more productive and you're less stressed I think mom's coming away she's not barking in his face and she's not doing rivers homework for him and that's got to be better for the whole family let's face it [Music] before I left there was one other thing I wanted to do with that you see that all the time connect with his voice when he's really physical and he rough houses with them but I wanted him to connect with his boys in a more emotional way so I asked him to get out some old photos and talk to the boys about the day they were born guess what I got let's look at rivers first this is a picture of you inside of mommy's belly we found out that it was a little boy and I was so excited always wanting a little boy you can't describe it how wonderful it is sitting out on a blanket and taking some pictures of hundred rivers and talking about things that we don't talk about every day and that's rivers like a little peanut to have the boys out there those are the kind of moments that you will remember [Music] and guess who changed your first diaper you do I do then momma was pregnant with her they're sitting down and actually listening to Gregg talked about when the boys were born was a nice moment you could see that dad was connecting with the boys on an emotional level look know your mommy he looks like he's about to puke but unfortunately it was ruined when hunter became very disrespectful your mom did a lot for you she sacrificed for you can you imagine having to be in your mommy's belly for nine months pukey Hey look at me that's your warning okay how was mummy feeding mommy actually had some complications so she had to stay in the hospital a few days but she was very short okay we're talking out here but inevitably hunter continued being smart with his mouth and he ended up having to do a timeout toner is going to timeout this embarrass this embarrassing for me as a father had to sit there and listen to my son say those things but you're doing something about it and that's what's important and when hunter played up it gave dads an opportunity there and then to deal with a discipline technique okay so it's been about eight minutes now I saw from a DVD that the last time dad was in hunters room it became a shouting match this time dad needed to follow through with discipline and keep his cool I'm asking you to tell me what you did and apologize for it I'm sorry I'm sorry okay now I'm gonna give me a hug boy I was proud of Greg he was firm but fair he kept very calmed and I do feel that I'm able to leave Greg knowing how to discipline properly my boys Wow vivid I would really miss Jo when she goes away but I know we can't have her there forever so what's his goal she's gone different mine I've seen the emotional now Jo comes and she's laid out the foundation and the groundwork so it's up to us now as a family to make it happen you have to maintain it for it to work keep up your work take care thank you [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music]

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Length: 39min 19sec (2359 seconds)

Published: Sat Jul 04 2020