The MOST ICONIC Supernanny moment! "It's Unacceptable!" | The Cooke Family | FULL EPISODE | SPN USA

foreign let's take a look and see what family we've got here hi we're the Cook family I'm Denise this is my husband Paul we have three girls Megan's nine Gabriella six and Erin is four we really need Super Nanny we're in a very dark place at the moment Megan can be very angry lots of shouting screaming rudeness so disrespectful she knows what presses your buttons to get you angry please don't shout something like that that's what I'm doing she will actually kick up and have a tantrum like a two-year-old I'm not hurting you you I I get angry I don't know how to nip it in the bud I don't know how to handle it stop swinging it a little girl's mouth we do shout at each other and we shout she shouts I shout go and do your goodness and it becomes a bit volcanic go and do your homework mine although the other girls behave badly Megan tends to lead they will fight because they all want the control they're not generally an issue when we go out I prefer to be at home and not be part of that group I'm the one that tends to have the fun with them I don't want to join in with them give it to me and stop swinging it it's day dangerous I'm at my wits end I've got nowhere else to go I'm I just feel I've failed I need a miracle we want to be a complete family again as well bring us back together we want to be given a second chance that's being a happy family please please help us you guys seriously need my help I'm on my way [Music] all right you can all answer it hello hi hello how are you hi I'm pleased to meet you Joe Frost how are you okay when I first met Joe I was slightly in awe of her she's a huge personality and she seems to have an aura about her um and I really liked her [Music] right after I arrived it was time to take the girls to school Megan and it didn't take long before mum and Megan kicked off the phone not you're just doing anything I want it back began now come here please give me the phone new phone Megan [Music] Mecca's just bit her mum because Denise tried to take the mobile phone off of her it's become heated there's attitude there's no respect and nobody's listening to one another I'm still docking come on Aaron Let's cross quickly now what are you doing there's a lot of shouting going on and it's quite obvious that the girls don't listen to Denise whatsoever and she needs to get a grip on this [Music] he walked into a chaotic dinner time the girls were demanding things from mum and dad and Denise was totally stressed out [Music] Denise and I aren't working well together our family is not working because we're not working together would you say you have different parenting Styles I would say if you have discipline is I think tolerances our tolerance is different my tolerance is so long the easiest tolerance seems to be more variable our three strikes you're out and when you're out you're out but Denise it's small one and never carry it never carry a warning through basically people really understands how hard it is you know from the moment I get up um just just the logistics of three children three breakfast three school uniforms just getting three children out the door is quite stressful and Paul doesn't have to do that very often at all is that when we try and discuss it like this it ends up getting heated and then we don't get anywhere the barriers go up because I feel very defensive and I do as I've said to you earlier I feel like I failed a case of Fairly I know it's not but I feel that full I personally feel I failed my children I feel I'm not a good mother are you a good mother and you never fail them it's just you but why do they walk all over me later that evening Megan and her sisters had a little surprise for me they put on a play you've got to put your hand at your twit oh I didn't twitch yeah wrong but as soon as the curtains went up it was game over got friends again how many children are there in it if things aren't going quite the right way or something's not quite working Megan can get a little bit agitated are you up or you're gonna go Megan um can be an angel and she can go to being a devil in a snap of the fingers she's very unpredictable I never know what's going to trigger Megan you spoiled it I didn't spoil it Gabby shuttle down maybe I'm starting to get angry with the other two girls other sisters and that's why Denise sort of put a stop to it and then we have all sorts of problems Megan oh Megan when you listen to me man I've told you before I'm your mommy and you're my little girl and I don't expect you to speak to me like that please Megan do not speak to me they both have tempers that spiral out of control they're very much alike but at the end of the day there's one month and there's a daughter and somebody has to be responsible and that somebody has to be mum what is it right now you are feeling I'm really hurt and sad that my nine-year-old daughter can treat me the way she is what is it that you want from me I want love from her and I want her to hug me and tell me she loves me I don't want her to shout at me tell me she hates me it's clear that the friction between mum and Megan has just worn her down there needs to be change and I'm about to do that when I first met a family I go in and I watch the Dynamics between the parents and the children and afterwards I sit them both down and we discuss the issues that need to be addressed I'm not good at accepting criticism but knowing what Joe's like I know that I'm going to be able to take that criticism from her which is a strange place for me to be three creative beautiful girls highly intelligent strong-willed and you should be proud of that but where's the respect from your three girls you don't have any they don't have any respect for us the behavior because of the lack of respect they have for the pair of view it is eye-opening it really is eye-opening let's start with Megan she bites and pulls you and slaps you and you take it like a punch bag when you argue with Megan it must be like looking at yourself because the pair of you are very alike in your personalities it's like watching two kids because Neva let's go if I fight for the last word how are you setting a clear good example to your children when you're telling them to stop shouting when you're shouting yourself why is it hard to discipline the girls because there's no much confrontation and arguing and I just find it easier too ignore maybe the pair of you haven't given them any boundaries so that when they overstep those boundaries there is a consequence for it it's I'm gonna do this I'm going to count to one two and and tickly boo because nothing else happens it really doesn't you're not working together as parents you both walk on eggshells with one another Paul you're too scared to tell Denise really what's on your mind am I wrong no you're not wrong because if I explain how I feel you'll get an adverse reaction and I feel that my feelings will be negated so I don't bother you you hear it and couples should do and let us support each other I know everything you're saying is true and that's why we're here that's why we want to move on we don't want to be this black cloud hanging over us on the sun to shine yeah expect to be cloudy on off days but there's nothing having an umbrella to deal with it when you hear that we shout so our children shout is quite harsh but it's true I guess we are their role models and what they see in US is correct and if we shout if we don't treat each other nicely why should they Joe picked up on the fact that I don't always tell Denise what's on my mind which is again spot on Joe analyzed her family down to to Brent this family needs to set discipline and rules so on my first day of teaching I'm about to lay these down the first one says no yelling or shouting there's no need to raise your voice or yell because it can be very upsetting every household rule that gets broken there's a consequence for that and if they refuse to listen and they carry on then I want you to come in that dining room which is now going to be called the reflection room the reflection room is a place where the girls can think about what they've done and why they're in there if I behave like this this is where I end up that is set in firm boundaries last but not least I brought out the princess chart for the family now this chart is princesses castles and I've got these the special ones what are their little princesses they are princesses but you know what it's princess Gabby yes oh my word it's pretty like Epic when you Show Mommy and Daddy that you behave yourself you're gonna jump up onto the pathway okay until you reach the doors of the castle because when you reach the doors of the castle you get to do something that you want to do it's stuff that means it's baby come and talk to me if you've got something to say because I'm not going to talk to you across the kitchen Megan Megan had decided that she was too grown up for the princess chart and called it she wasn't having none of it all right Megan princess reward chart was absolutely beautiful but Megan didn't like it because it represented change she didn't want to be involved if you don't get out and Bin you're going to be in there Megan usually gets away with this kind of behavior but this time I told Paul to give her a warning and when she didn't listen she ended up in the reflection room where you go into the room after a Time explain why you put her in there okay and say to her you want an apology for that behavior and if she delivers a story that's angry sorry and she's really rude yeah I know that's not good enough I want an apology property which is sorry which doesn't that she stays in there okay okay certainly someone like Megan is to get an apology so she understands why because you you when you get the apology you you say to them you understand why you're in a reflection room the behavior what you're showing is really unacceptable and I want an apology sorry I want a heartfelt sorry not just sorry how does how will how will Megan know how to give you a heartfelt sorry unless you have to show her say to her look at me and say I'm sorry look at me so that she knows otherwise she won't know you need to look at me and say I'm sorry properly as if you mean it is Megan no we don't hit yeah I do oh come on household so I can do it follow through Megan start with your proper apology to me and then we can go and get your glass of water we can get a picture out of the bin and we can start again wait a minute that sled into that sled into engaging in conversation I want an apology for that behavior she's either gonna say she's sorry or she's not oh what was that pull that she said I don't know she doesn't know then she can sit in the reflection room and think about that next time okay so it's okay it's angry this is this is Megan angry look angry let's just make an angry because she needs to know boundaries she was very aggressive towards Joe I didn't expect that um but then things are changing big time in our house so and that might that's very hard for an eight or nine year old to to come to terms with so do I can't acceptable behavior anymore that is going to be a consequence she's going to be in there all night isn't she when Megan's next nine minutes were up Paul went in again to get his apology Megan I want an apology said nicely now and I want you to look at me when you say it I would say down [Music] Megan calm down please calm down calm down listen to Daddy darling calm down and listen to Daddy not unless you get lost don't shout I know you I know you're angry I know you're angry but listen to Daddy I'm gonna sit down listen to Daddy I'm gonna sit down yeah not yeah listen to Daddy I'm here with Daddy to begin with no I'm here with Daddy because I'm helping all of you because I'm not really helping you won't really win sit down look look at me or we're going to be at back where we started aren't we look at me and say sorry properly she can be incredibly rude she can be very aggressive and unfortunately took the brunt off Megan's Empire but because it was the first time I was teaching that with Paul and with Denise I felt it strongly that I should just ignore it throughout this course if she does decide to hit me or or bite me I will be placing her in that room myself me it comes in Harmony when she does that it's not acceptable but it's on my mum but to her to do it to you it's just awful but why do you think she's doing that to me [Music] why do you think she's angry because you're trying to we're trying to get control from her not from her because holiday boundaries as she sees she's right she says I've come in and I've got household rules in your home and she's like hold on a minute I had free reign I could do exactly what I want when I wanted and now I'm angry and this is the impact of our anger scratch and to bruise the answer is to stay in control as the adult to be calm because if you lose it then you've got you've got really two kids there's nothing going to be gained from two people that explode nothing so one of you has to stay in control and calm and that is the adult it had almost been an hour that Megan had been in the reflection room and Paul was still waiting for an apology so I needed to look at me first I want an apology sure I'll be a little bit louder please [Music] it took a while to get Megan's apology but I'm really proud of Paul he stuck with it and he persevered it's very difficult because you're often treading on eggshells around Megan in case she's triggered you don't know what the trigger might be but there's always the worry that there may be a trigger [Applause] she pinched reflection room regardless Denise found courage and she sent Megan straight into the reflection room this was a major step for Denise because normally she avoids disciplining Megan be positive be positive okay Megan I want an apology if you don't give me one you're gonna have to stay in say I said it come here do you mean it I suddenly felt in control which is an amazing place to be I hadn't ever been in control of my children and I had just disciplined her and I'd done it properly um and it felt good it felt really good [Music] [Music] no excuse me excuse me Megan that behavior is unacceptable I don't like it when you pinch me I don't like it is that what you think or pinch me or punch me or behave in a way that is unacceptable then you will go back into that room no back chat with me either and that's your warning Megan's having a real hard time accepting that her parents are supporting the changes in the house and as a result she's blaming me and taking all her anger and frustrations out on me Megan Joe's just told you well it's not the household and Joe's part of the household at the moment and she's helping us to put them in place Megan that's back chat and that's your warning if you want to talk to me again like that you're going to go back in the room for nine minutes Megan yeah I guess Megan's sort of under the impression that when Joe goes everything go return to normal and then it should be fine and it's just this woman that's coming and turned her life upside down yeah it's your fault Joe why am I making you cry is that what you think see what you made us do she hasn't made us happier too Megan would you like to talk to me about this no it's crucial that Megan grasps that her parents are the authority figures here what she thinks is that I'm in the middle and creating this oh you're listening Joe has come here to help us and we will be a really happy family listen to me I'm not cross am I cross it will make us a much happier family and when she's gone we'll still be doing the same things good night Megan [Music] the plan for today was to work on mum and Megan's relationship so I introduced the special thought box and I've come up with an idea that I think will help mommy and daddy understand and listen to you and also it will help you to be able to say what's on your mind and how you're feeling okay this box okay it's pretty but it's called The Thought box the thought box is there to encourage Megan to express whatever's on her mind and that way mummy can read your thoughts and you can discuss it do you think that's a good idea yeah yeah okay marvelous the thought box is an idea to help Megan Express herself there's a lot of anger going on in the household between Megan and her mother so it's important that Megan gets to express her feelings and that her mother validates them Megan and Mum desperately needed a recipe of some good old one-on-one time together so I had a little something in mind they would be really lovely I stayed in English so excited and just seeing Megan say she was squeezing my hand and just so excited she's beside herself it's lovely to hear that and I'm excited too foreign what this will do is build up Denise's confidence with Megan so that she can enjoy spending time with her and so that Megan can understand that not only will Denise give her discipline but that she can enjoy the pleasant times with her too and have fun we've been really really really well I can't believe you're doing so well considering you've never been on them [Music] we had the most amazing time just her and me and it made her feel special we had such fun and we laughed and we didn't get cross with each other and yeah it was it was a very memorable day and and such happy happy memories the girls are old enough to take on some responsibility in the house so we decided that cleaning the rabbit cage would be a good chore to start with I think it would be a fantastic idea that we should give you girls responsibility so that you've got chores to do and tasks to do and then when you show mum and dad that you can do that and you do it very well you get rewarded for that yep hold on Aaron that's a really good job holding that I went under Gabby under please please keep it nice if we do it really well we can all move up one on a chart that means we've got to cooperate when we finish the girls ran straight to the princess chart to move their pictures up they seemed really proud of themselves at the end of the day I'm much happier and calmer Megan decided to share with mum what she had written in her thought box I got to go ice skating and I've never been in my life so thank you that is so special darling thank you for having a lovely day with me I want to go again oh not tomorrow I need to get my breath back by using a salt box Megan and I can resolve any issues that may need resolving at the end of the day I don't want us both to go to bed on a bad note and I'm just hopeful that happy or sad thoughts can be discussed in a nice way and we can both go to sleep knowing that we love each other and we feel happy oh that's lovely see you later okay see you soon thank you very much I'll see you in a couple of days okay wait for me from the window see you later see ya I think everything's going to be a challenge for Paul and Denise I just hope that they remember all the advice and the techniques that I've taught them and make sure that they stick with it and do it now that Joe's gone over I feel confident techniques that we've got that we better carry them through I know I'm going to be tested [Music] I'm quite confident I'm not going to get in the same situation as having the past I do know I'm going to be tested coming up on Supernanny while Joe's gone Denise finds herself in a battle for control 18 minutes when Supernanny returns [Music] I've left the cooks for a few days they're going to be on their own but I'm going to be keeping an eye on them can we just start because we've now got two minutes not letting down Megan you see you're getting crossed and trying to organize everyone aren't you and I'm the director don't shout at Meg Megan that's your warning and you're gonna be in there Megan you've had enough section room please Mecca's really feisty as she knows what buttons to push and boy is she pushing there you go Megan right you're coming down on the board too the night goes on Megan doesn't give up as she launches into a tantrum that lasts for hours you had your chance for your teeth come on [Music] Megan pajamas yeah now [Music] and I add them I can't believe it keep calm and they will be calm Denise's resolved to stay calm does not last for long three girls by midweek start testing her patients with Aaron already in the reflection room Denise tries to discipline Gabby [Music] sick looking at me you're not I'm not gonna Denise's patience is wearing thin and I want you to sit on the chair without being silly and stay on the chair I don't expect this Behavior okay may Gabriella you're not going to have any friends home for the whole of next week oh I don't care because I hate my friends well that's fine Denise remember who's in charge you mum's lost it all my energies are with the three of them and I'm just at the end of my tether with it because all I'm doing is going around in circles again by the end of the week Denise is really struggling and another one of Megan's plays descends into chaos [Music] [Music] the nine minute rule goes out the window Denise makes up her own time for Megan's punishment 18 minutes again Denise has forgotten everything I've taught her about being calm things have really started to unravel in The Cook's household I need to get back straight away to get these guys back on track good to see you thank you I love the part where I come back with a DVD because it shows the parents exactly where they've gone wrong [Music] calm down get your diamonds on and we're not doing you can just stay here now tips they're just broken your own computer so don't worry about it okay she's lost it the anchors escalated and Megan's blown but what was good that you didn't pull you stayed calm in that situation and you went all right so you've smash your computer up that's your problem okay moving on let's look at the next one we're going to the fire station we just strap yourself in no I'm putting my shoes on Megan I'm not having that kind of attitude speaking to me like that that is unacceptable Megan come on give it to me Denise because this is this is she's using the same tone that I'm using with her children learn how to communicate with you how you communicate with them how you talk they will learn to talk back and when she has said to me on occasion will you shout at me why shouldn't I shout at you and it's a fair comment I guess [Music] 18 minutes 18 minutes because she did two things she bit me on the way down the stairs and she'd hit someone upstairs right okay reflection room one time nine nine minutes she comes out she does something else back in for nine because otherwise you'll find yourself in a situation where she feels she's serving life or she might as well do everything [Music] I don't expect this Behavior okay then Gabriella you're not going to have any friends home for the whole of next week oh I don't care because I hate my friends well that's fine but she is so annoying you right now that you've taken it one step further just to get a dig in there so that she'll hopefully cry so that you'll get some satisfaction she actually sat on that chair and said nothing and you drew her in hmm because you've had enough I think what's important to look at when we look at this is just how one thing leads to another and how they actually feed off of you losing control of the situation and the impact of that is it's quite incredible to to watch and see how the girls respond to that I knew I had a part to play in issues that we were having it's a bit of a shock but I've you know hands up I've accepted I'm I was at fault and hopefully we're going from strength to strength and we won't go back where we were [Music] good job on my return of the family I like to help them correct their mistakes and to build on their successes it didn't take long before Megan fired up again [Music] and with that hit Denise followed the rules no warning and straight to the reflection room you know you're in here for hitting Gabriella don't you foreign [Music] explanation okay short and sweet very precise very calm kiss and cuddle no grudges she goes and says apologies to whoever she hurts and then move on okay okay sorry good girl I do want to apologize for you skipping row are really dangerous and if I had to pick Abby in their eye could have been a real accident okay let's go say sorry to Gabriella now I can see that Denise is really trying hard not to lose her temper but the real test is can she stick with it can you do an American accent can you do an American accent Megan I'm not going to have Behavior like this walking home when we get home you're going to be in the reflection I know you've got a bit angry now hold on to the buggy and let's go home mum's in control of the situation when the kids start to kick off she doesn't tolerate any of it she nips it straight into the bud and for that she's gained a lot more confidence Megan you're not upstairs darling you're in the reflection room sweetheart I feel far calmer I have more patience with the children that in itself is such a result because we've been in that position walking home and I've scratched out of the screen and got home and said get upstairs I don't want to see you anymore so that's a huge huge step forward exactly [Music] okay Megan accepts the reflection room she doesn't argue she will go in she will wait she will apologize she will hug me and we'll get on with life with things more relaxed in the cook household I found a gap where there was time to speak to Megan alone but mum doesn't shout as much now does she what about you do you think you're Karma now yeah I think so in the beginning Megan felt absolutely threatened with the fact that I had represented change to her family but now she engages me and she wants to show me what she's done and what she's achieved and it just goes to show you that children do need boundaries and guidelines and they respect you for it [Music] I heard through the grapevine that there was going to be a special final performance for me tonight I just hope I get to see it to the end listen can you sit down and listen to Mommy really carefully right I can't wait to see your show so it's going to be a good one I know it's gonna be fantastic but they're awesome I want no arguing right take care let's go your husband see you down there oh God no let me get down to my husband family ticket [Music] all those girls they're always still play every year they're brilliant at it oh look wow good night I loved it it was brilliant Bravo [Applause] [Music] I'm so happy that they've actually worked together and it was just like I've never seen the children really [Music] okay we will all right thank you so so much life of the Cook family is a lot better now that Paul Denise and the girls are getting on instead of shouting and yelling at one another they're going out as a family and having fun oh [Music] come here now Megan life is so much nicer I'm enjoying my children and I'm enjoying being their mom we've seen the potential of what we can have as a family now really super loving family that has great fun together and works really well as a complete unit and I think things can only get better in the past there would have been no way we'd have come to something like this where the kids Denise wouldn't want to for fear of a flare-up and all the rest of it today's been lovely the children have been happy playing together enjoying each other's company and you know it's made it nice for all of us things at home are certainly a hell of a lot better than they were before certainly Denise and I are a lot more calm in dealing with with the girls Megan and I see much closer she seems more loving she seems more able to hug me for no apparent reason because we don't dwell on any issues she's able to be more relaxed with me life has improved so much in the last let me know the fact that we've come out today I mean and enjoyed today and we've had no issues bottom line is it's down to us the children will follow suit but it's down to us and we're prepared to make that work and we will get there [Music] [Applause] one day [Music] [Applause] [Music]

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Length: 40min 5sec (2405 seconds)

Published: Sat Nov 05 2022