The Fernandez Family Full Episode | Season 7 | Supernanny USA

[Music] well i'm here in kissimmee florida and there's a family that need my help so i better take a look hi we're the fernandez family i'm gerald i'm 31. i'm marla i'm 29. we have three kids that's race he's 12 years old you think you're smart you're i am she is 12 going on 20. i think you know everything you don't know everything in this world no you don't i do elias he is 5. he can get corky at times but he'll act up hey do not step on him you'll hurt him and you lease his we call him shorty he's three he's a handful oh true he is all the gray hairs that i'm getting wow look at this no one's got control i didn't even say it desiree i'm constantly getting attitudes from her says where are you when desiree gives me that nasty attitude i give it right back to her why are you failing school because because what i'm smart for it you know what you're going to be too smart for my fifth in your mouth we've seen a big difference in desiree's grades in the past year she's gone from an a to d why don't you like to do homework because it's boring and it's stupid these parents need to sort something out i mean that's a joke are you going to talk listen listen shorty he is just out of control oh he'll pick fights with me he'll pick fights with his mom he will kick he will hit me in the face he'll do things to aggravate us on purpose hey don't be spitting this is a three-year-old somebody's got to step up and take care of this honestly i do all the work around this house i can't believe that you can't bring her because you're so busy right why don't you bang i was wrong with you the house could fall apart and he's just sitting on the couch and everything is okay i don't think i get the proper acknowledgement of doing my fair share in the house look at this one here with his throne [Applause] there's a serious problem here that is not acceptable our children's issues are really putting a strain on our relationship it's tearing our family apart you baby crying hey you too supernatural we reach our breaking point please come help our family yeah you guys are right you really do need my help i hope you're ready because i'm on my way [Music] hello hi pleased to meet you joe frost when i first arrived the fernandez family were very welcome in who's my daughter desiree hi desiree nice to meet you this is ulysses shorty we call him hi jody you say hi hi no hello hi eliz pleased to meet you i'm joe hi how are you nice to meet you hi nice to meet you when i first arrived mum needed to take desiree to the shops to buy some clothes mommy has to do some errands we're gonna go shopping and that's when i saw exactly how little dad does to help his family [Music] yes daddy's going to come i'm going to be babysitting that's girl shopping daddy's not going to girls shopping so what happens with the kids then he says i'm not going to stay with them and he doesn't stay with them so you'll take all of them i'll take all of them and that works for you it's good no it doesn't work at all because i can't get anything done because they're misbehaved i think dad's change of heart was to make an impression on me not working jody where are your sneakers they're right there and then really what should have been a simple task getting shorty's shoes on talk forever are you joking you don't want those sneakers you want another pair of sneakers how about these you like these these [Music] no it's i don't know what's your problem with the way i tie general tie it hurry up cause i'm tired of this already come on a fire in here we have to go somewhere mum did everything she could to get shorty's shoes on and that didn't even help after half an hour dad still didn't get up from the couch mum lost it just leave them that's enough [Music] i'm leaving i'm leaving i'm not i'm not going to put up with this anymore i'm tired of this oh no shoes no shoes no shoes so we got out the house and then shorty's kicking off because he doesn't want to sit in the car seat i need to put on your feet [Music] leave them gerald leave them get inside leave us yeah i'm going to drive you want to go in the car oh did you just see that it's ridiculous oh great the door wide open no no let's let everyone in shall we we finally got to the shops because mum needed to buy a dress for herself and desiree but trouble was brewing way before that because elias didn't want to go they'll get you hurry up to come inside i'll be up the police will get you i just had to laugh i mean threatening your kids that the police are going to come what a joke they know that she's just sparking empty threats i mean what's the point eventually elias did go into the store but things just got worse for mum and dad because shawty made up his mind that he still wasn't going to wear his shoes he was screaming he was yelling he was fighting and i couldn't concentrate on picking out an outfit i'm sitting there in the shop going this is not happening surely this is not happening dad's become so mad that he's like you're putting them shoes on gonna pee on yourself i don't care don't pee on yourself oh my goodness voila what now you gotta go look what he did on purpose [Music] it's okay it's an accident here it's an accident mum found so many excuses oh he's tired oh it was an accident no it wasn't you need to step out of denial and deal with this and as for dad he just walked away as if the mess on the floor had nothing to do with him can i excuse me excuse me gerald who's cleaning that up your son's just peed on the floor i'm sorry yeah i really don't think you should be cleaning that i'm sorry dad did clear up the pee and then the whole family left the shop but without mum's dress if this is just the beginning for me with this family oh i'm in for a ride aren't i [Music] after we got back from the store i knew that trouble was going to start all over again so i felt it would be important to have a quick word with desiree about her relationship with her mum and dad do you think your behaviour has given your mom and dad a reason to distrust you my grade they think that my grades are going down just because boys what's the reason that they went down because i don't do my homework what is it that you actually need from your mum and dad trust when your mum and your dad say things to you that are really awful yeah it makes me feel like i mean nothing to them like i'll drop a cup of water and she'll be like are you stupid are you an idiot what is your problem and i'll be like it was an accident she's like your whole life is an accident i think it's a two-way street here i think desiree is going to recognise the importance of making better decisions so that she can earn her parents trust but at the same time her parents can't hold grudge forever towards the end of the evening mom and dad were settling into their daily routine dad lounging around i got cleaned up you got to clean up my mum doing jaws [Music] it made me wonder about their relationship so i pulled mum aside so i could have a word with her what's the difference between the man that you married many years ago and the man that you have right now i would say he is doesn't appreciate me he doesn't tell me he loves me and he just takes me for granted are you still in love with this man i love him but i'm not sure if i'm in love with him then what do you do just co-exist under one roof and does it just continue to get worse and worse but what happens eventually we'll split she's desperately wanting things to change but doesn't know how to do that and her family are being sacrificed [Music] jared i'm actually gonna make a move i'm gonna go home so that i can get back asap i'm coming back tomorrow morning to talk to this family about the issues that i feel desperately need to be resolved and i don't think this family are going to like what they're going to hear [Music] right before the family meeting i was very nervous good morning i didn't know if she was gonna come after me with a sledgehammer or what was gonna go down there are certainly some issues that need to be addressed with regards to desiree trust is a big big big issue she knows she's messed up but she doesn't feel like she's being given a chance to regain back your trust she's lied to me enough where it's difficult for me to trust her but how does she put it right if she's not going to be given the chance to put it right by not allowing her to prove to you that she can be trusted you're closing the door on a critical time for her as a pre-teenager [Music] i want to talk about you guys being out in public yesterday because god what are shambles there is no discipline there's no expectations there's no rules you gotta let these kids know where they stand okay this is what i'm you know expected to behave like and if i don't this is what's going to happen how are they even going to know what discipline's all about just hoping they grow out of it i guess excuse me i said we're hoping they grow out of it i guess that is the most pathetic pathetic excuse i have heard all year that is just so ignorant and immature of you considering you are a father of three children and a husband that attitude is gonna get you nowhere i would like to talk about the turmoil between the pair of you when it comes to making a decision i was gobsmacked that i spent 45 minutes in this house waiting for a little three-year-old to put some socks and shoes on and get out of the house you saying put them on and then you say no leave them i mean how was she working together in that situation we didn't we didn't why i feel like she's bringing a lot of tension she's trying to hurry people and get frustrated because i keep saying the same thing over and over and nobody does what i'm saying and then you start to threat i mean i've got a list here when i break your teeth it isn't going to be so funny i'm going to correctly chop you in your lip hurry up and get inside or the police will come and get you there's a man over there who takes little boys who don't listen to their parents he takes them into the kitchen chops them up and cooks them and eats them i find it disgraceful quite frankly is not okay for you to talk to your children the way you think you can talk to them because you are their parents gerald a little bit of gratitude bit of affection in the house goes a long way doesn't it when was the last time you even felt appreciated i can't remember when somebody does things around the house that are just normal everyday things for you to have to be paying them on the back all the time it's just unrealistic i mean if if she's not happy with me if she'd like me to go i mean excuse me i will go that's your answer that's my answer so you would rather walk out the door then recognize what your wife is needing from you you sit in your throne like you're entitled to have your wife cook clean take care of you raise your three children because all the things that you should be doing as a man and i say as a man because you would know the difference between a boy and a man you're not doing you need to grow up because right now i don't see a man's attitude at this table i suggest you just shrug off your ego from your shoulders and really listen to what i'm asking you here [Music] there's a lot of work to be done here i expect a hundred percent commitment so are you both in or out i'm in amen thank you thank you i felt like i got lamb basted i mean joe she dropped it on me big time [Music] the fernandez family have really shown some poor behavior and without delay i know i'm going to have to go into this household and lay down boundaries as a first priority you boys like wrestling don't you so this is what i've got rules of the ring what you both are going to do as parents is lay down those rules no fighting no playing with balls in the house no yelling no yelling desiree started to write things down the cap of the pen fell onto the floor and shorty wouldn't give it back so i seized the moment there and then to teach mum and dad the correct timeout steps in a very firm voice you're going to ask him to come over to you and to give you the lid back from that marker charlie come over here right now but mum's example of a firm voice just wasn't cutting it so i knew that i'd have to step in and demonstrate shorty look at me if you do not give me the lid of the pen back i'm putting you straight into time out do you understand me he's a kid that just feels like he needs to be in control and when he's not he just becomes irate [Music] mom and dad you're gonna sit here in time out because you did not listen to me and now you're gonna sit here for three minutes i'm gonna set the alarm he was frustrated and he was just angry and it was a different type of screaming and yelling that i have never heard [Music] shorty decided that he was going to come in and out of time out so i left it to mum to finish off you have to go back into that corner okay because you weren't listening you took the lid away from desiree okay mom i'm gonna say mum we're not pleading yeah you're not pleading with him okay this is not excuse me but you know can i you're in charge you're the mum aren't you you to step up and take charge of the situation are you going to do leave that for a teacher to do no or somebody else's mum you need to follow through no more excuses no more excuses [Music] he's yelling he's screaming he's fighting back with me [Music] it was breaking my heart to see him that way [Music] take over the next five i thought it would be a good idea to have mum and dad take turns in doing the timeout so that these guys would be together as a united front i need them on the same page i need mom and dad doing things together at the same time shorty gave mum and dad a run for their money [Music] he wasn't going to back down he's never had to and so he was going to go for the full mile i hate karma i felt that it was never going to end and i was getting frustrated after half an hour of tag teaming with mum and dad sure he got the message [Music] when i saw him standing there for the three minutes i felt like ugh it was a sigh of relief that i can't believe you know this technique worked you were in timeout because you kept the lid from desiree say you're sorry to mommy give me a hug and a kiss [Music] after the dust had settled with shawty i decided to give dad this fun idea that would bring him closer with desiree do any of you recognise this these paper fortune telling games obviously as you know inside there are questions the idea of the game is to get dad and desiree talking more and that's the first step to rebuilding trust all right orange three one two three one what was the low point of your week when joe beat me up at the family meeting i wanted desiree to know that joe did kick me in the butt and you need to understand i'm here i'm willing to give this a chance and i want you to do the same thing what is the one thing about you i don't know hello my favorite color i know it's your favorite no you don't know my favorite color i like the fortune teller because it gives me my dad time together to have fun and joke around instead of him either criticizing me or coaching me what i'm hoping is that this paper fortune telling game is something that you'll do every day i think the fortune teller is about me and my daughter spending time with each other as she learns more about me i can learn more about her and there'll be more trust with our relationship and we can be a little bit more open as dinner time drew near dad says something quite surprising i'm cooking cooking i guess my strong words that the family meet him did make an impact on dad and i was pleased to see that i mean he was stepping up but i don't know if mum really liked the idea of that want me to tell you how i do it no no okay i feel like i'm out of my element when he does help me because i don't know what to do with myself it seemed to me at this point that mum was just playing martyr i need her to decide whether she wants dad's help or not so after dinner i sat both parents down to discuss the daily chores and who was going to do what laundry mop and sweep grocery clean bathrooms clean rooms cooking and homework i couldn't even believe how many chores mum was trying to do and not even asking for dad's help there are three that you could lose which ones do you think they are grocery strips you can do that once in a while laundry you don't have to do every day and i don't think you need to mop and sweep every day or clean the bathrooms everything i think you can lose you know the bathrooms get stinky with the boys they don't know how to aim i'm a little compulsive i guess that's the way i take out my frustration and my stress is by cleaning you don't have to clean the whole thing you can just spot clean or really do a cleaning maybe you know twice a week three times a night every single day well i can help if you can help me at the end of the week or whenever then that's fine so i had mum and dad make up a chart so they could really divide these chores more evenly put me at the vacuuming because i can do that okay i gotta say i was proud of dad taking on his fair share of work the new daily routine is great it's not only about my wife not having to do everything it's about my wife not thinking she has to do everything did we work together yes can we get some love around here huh we're done good [Music] something drastic has to be done about desiree's homework she's getting low grades all right let's come over here i set up a system that would allow mom and desiree more peace when it came to handing in daily school work but what they're going to need to keep in check is their attitudes towards one another your homework needs to go into your inbox and when it's done it's on the out box all right she has to do her homework and then one of us have to check over it how down love yeah fabulous desiree finished her homework pretty quickly and then mum went and checked over that work so that desiree could get herself ready to go off to a dance that evening this could be reduced okay i was reviewing her homework and desiree ended up giving me attitude i don't know what goes into both of them um i don't know what desiree please happy now excuse me if i'm happy now forget it that's it you're not going anywhere why not going anywhere if i'm happy now well i did it it's your homework and you're giving me the attitude i'm just i just went over it and i just told you that i did it i understand you just did it but you don't need to say happy now no i'm not happy because i got an attitude and i was like you're not gonna let me go to a dance over a stupid little question and then she just started flipping out on me like she always does you're happy now you're happy now it's not i said i didn't say it i said okay are you happy now i said are you happy now i'm done to say that if i'm happy now why do you feel sorry that's it you can go to your room [Music] i needed to step in immediately i mean these two need to find some common ground before they ruin their relationship you're carrying right now months of frustration of the way that she talks to you and so any slight little thing that you get from her you blow at some stage you've got to recognize that somebody's got to be the adult and it's not going to be desiree it's not going to be a it has to come from you joe pointed out to me that i can be the mature one and say you know what i know this meant a lot to you but all i wanted was an apology you have to understand that the way you talk to me desiree is unacceptable i'm sorry i am sorry we have to start a new beginning now so we're not going to do this anymore i promise it might have not been the best apology but i was gonna be the mature one and handle it properly and take her off to the dance see ya okay and maybe at the end of the night she will appreciate me and say you know what things are starting to change the next day myself mom and dad and desiree went out back to have a talk but we didn't get far because elias kept interrupting elias i need you to go over there with your brother and as soon as i'm done with desiree then we're going to do what you want to do okay but elias was persistent and defied a time-out warning from mum okay so that's it come on you're going to timeout stay up against the wall you have five minutes right there excuse me what kind of time is that that is not what i taught you what was the explanation where did you go over there and tell him this was you right that's it you've gone timeout what kind of timeout is that you know what that was i'll get out my face i can't bother to deal with you that's what that was a lie is coming properly you're going in timeout because you're not letting me finish talk with desiree okay so mum put elias into timeout but when his time was over she kind of just dismissed him no explanation and no apology all right i'm gonna ask you both to leave the table because i'm gonna have a quick word with mum i was seeing red at this point because mum's just being lazy you know me at that family meeting i kicked your husband's butt what am i gonna do with you and i teach you a time out and you don't even do it properly you're armchair parenting you're sitting here and you're all right yeah you're done you can you can go in now how are the kids meant to take you seriously that's lazy what should you have done after his time was up i should have told him what he did wrong and hugged and kissed him had him apologize and then hug and kill all right tell me why you didn't do it i forgot there's a piece of paper go straight inside and write the steps down because if you don't get and now that discipline underneath your belt you're going to be back square one by tomorrow joe basically told me that i need to stop being lazy and step it up and i can acknowledge that i hope having the steps written down will help her because i'm about to leave and they're going to be on their own i'm going for several days and there is much homework to be done literally okay i think we're gonna struggle with time out that's something i need to work on if i told you that i was walking out of this house feeling rather confident i'd be lying to you right now i'm concerned everybody kind of looked at each other and said can i do this and i know i can and i looked over at my wife and i'm hoping she thinks the same i want everybody to step up as a family i've given this family tools that they need desperately but at this point i don't even know they're going to use [Applause] [Music] them i kind of sleep last night i was talking a journey hi hi how are you very well yourselves okay the footage we're about to see it's really a testimony of how hard you guys worked and i left for several days so this will be rather interesting to say the least out in public all right guys we're gonna get going everybody got their shoes on let's have snacks quickly and then we're gonna wrap it up and we're gonna go i want everybody to get in their seat belts nice and tight and we're gonna go to the stores okay you ready was that you closing the door in such a short period of time hold on a minute what happened yeah everybody worked together as a team to get out of the house [Music] i liked this dress right here i'll do both just in case excuse me do you have a bathroom yes [Laughter] let's do a fashion show be careful guys watch your hand blimey the staff must have had an art attack in that shot that day seriously what a difference oh yeah big difference what a complete turnaround what happened i think we set up a good base with them at home and they realized you know what they had to do is just remain calm and do as they're told good work the pair of y'all good work what would you do if you were invisible for a day play pranks on people am i one of those people yeah oh yeah you want to try and answer see how it looks yeah let's do it good you satisfied yep nice right what's the difference a lot better communication a lot more affection you know and sincere it's real it's there you know yeah it's a genuine sincere affection because both your hearts are open and receiving that it's very good to see actually very good all right mum let's take a look marla we're gonna make 40 brothers we're going to make 40 brownies no no no oh my gosh he squashed the egg go wash your hands hurry up quickly quickly he needs to get off the counter leave him there just relax you dropped the spoon no don't take it out cause you're gonna make a mess like you did before mom it's supposed to be fun it is fun oh man somebody wipe their hands on my towel here it's all right give me this it's not all right why not because there's other top there's brown i forgot what that tower was there for that's for my for me for cooking nobody's allowed to touch that all right kids make mess adults make mess that's how we learn but we can do what afterwards marla cause you're great at it clean it up correct what happens is the family are in one little niche here enjoying and you always end up looking like you're staring through the window at your family and not feeling a part of that and that alienation can make you feel very isolated very alone you know i'm not proud of that person that i am i shouldn't act that way and i was taking a good time away from my family by being miserable i don't want to be that miserable person when you're with the family and you start to feel that that's when you need to literally say i'll chill out there's nothing that can't be done afterwards nothing let's take a look marla at this final clip i'll keep going i don't want you to do that you understand me now you're going in timeout on this wall right here five minutes what do we notice right there i didn't make the eye contact i didn't give the warning let him know what he did wrong say you're sorry to me i can't hear you the cat got your tongue let me see that tongue let me see that tongue i see it in fact i see it oh my word not good not good it's like you're begging him to say he's sorry you're now having to cuddle him up and give him these tickles to get it out of him it's like how is that genuine and how is it you laying down the law in saying you've broke the rules i mean the truth of the matter is marla you've been given techniques and tools to apply with your family and if you don't knuckle down and do the hard work it's not going to happen i'm not saying to you just write down what the steps are to discipline and stick it on the fridge so it can look good with the magnets learn it we've got our all fair and square that this man needed to step up what are you doing don't sabotage it because if you're too lazy to step up here then you'll just spend time negatively trying to drag your partner down here where you are and then nothing changes so we do need to look at time out we certainly need to work on you being back in this family circle so that you can enjoy and have fun so we're still in at this stage yeah excited okay good all right [Music] i saw on the dvd that marla still wasn't putting in the effort to do a proper discipline because it came up all over again when shorty got demanding because he wanted dad to make his milk rather than mum okay i'll have daddy make it then okay he wants the the milk to come from you come from me he doesn't want it to come from my hands he only wants it to come from his dad and it upsets me sometimes it's up to you to take control of that situation then i say mommy's making it look daddy's busy full stop if shorty wants his milk that badly what do you think he's gonna do he's gonna take it correct yeah so you have to support me as well too because daddy runs and does it for him right i'm not trying now i'm just saying you have to be there to support me too because mum may have had a point before i arrived but there's no excuse now she's just shifting the blame on dad i'm gonna need to have strong words with mum right now you're finding a thousand excuses for why you can't step up and do what you're supposed to be doing and it's not good enough because i'm telling you now when i leave today you'll be back in square one within two days you can't go down the same road and expect to see different scenery so what needs to shift i have to change correct why do you keep going like this what is what is this i see you on the side doing this huh you're getting tense i'm getting pissed off okay and now i'm i can't take it anymore i feel like you're against me oh you see what i'm talking about oh you see what i'm saying i told you i told you it's not that i'm pointing it i'm saying look this is what we need to do let's do this let's that's what i'm telling and you're saying oh i can't change it i can't do it take responsibility for your actions and stand up and be a woman and be a mother and say look this is what i have to do whether it bothers me to death it's gonna bother me to death but it's gonna make my family happy that's what i'm gonna do that's what you need to do okay do your homework everything i put in this house is for you to look at it and have it underneath your belt quite simple really when you break it down not always that easy to hear joe nailed things right to the point and it was hurtful it's hurtful to see the truth but i know in the long run it's only for our better but mum had one last chance to show me that she's got some backbone when shorty started to kick off again [Music] pick that up right this second you do not throw things around you understand me pick that up if you do not pick that up thank you mom delivered a warning and it was perfect shorty minded her straight away i think it gave her the confidence to believe that actually she can do this when i'm gone all i can say is i will try my best and i can do this so with time i will become the person that i want to be [Music] now that mom's moving in the right direction what i wanted to do was to get her out with the family washing the car so that she could learn to compose herself even if things do get a little bit messy okay what's going to be really fun about this is how much fun we actually have take your buckets they won't bite [Music] babe just give them charlie back home everybody do their bit and we accomplish what's necessary is this we heard we had a great time we splashed water we made a mess you know that's what we needed some laughter it good good job the car wash was fun but there was a point to it everybody in the family has a role if everybody plays their role the family come together that was the quickest car wash ever you all do your bit you come together and look you get one clean car [Music] i want to say goodbye to you thank you super nanny so you give me a big kiss and you give me a big kiss my my so listen take care [Music] [Applause] [Music]

Channel: Supernanny

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Length: 38min 11sec (2291 seconds)

Published: Sat Sep 26 2020