SIGNS THAT THIS MAY BE THE RIGHT ONE Part 2 - PERISCOPE SESSION with RC BLAKES

last last time we were together which was Sunday night we talked about you know signs that this could be the one and we we talked about number one there there will be present in the relationship mutual respect I am great Jason thank you for asking there will be mutual respect if you don't have respect in the relationship if a woman doesn't respect you or if a man does not respect you you know that's a relationship that is going nowhere fast secondly we said that the person will make you feel like number one like priority you won't you won't feel like you're just tagged along alone along Lisa tag along along yeah tag along yeah you won't feel like you're just tagging along but you will feel like priority you will feel they will make you feel like you are number one numero uno if they can't if they don't make you feel like number one if you feel like you third or fourth on their list that relationship does not really it's not going it's not going anywhere I'd recognize your value or the person is two or the person that is not feeling you like that either determined to the recognize your value or they're just not feeling you like that thirdly they will have the ability to make you laugh why would you want to live with someone that you never laugh with why would you want to try to attempt to live a lifetime with someone that that's never made you laugh you've been with this person you've been seeing this person for six months and you've never laughed why would you want to live with a person that can't make you laugh laugh does this sense you for a healthy relationship number four we said that they will be generous in every way they will be generous in every a man will be generous with his money and it's time and the woman will be generous in terms of being there to do to help the brother to stand in his corner you know I used the analogy Sunday if if a man is stranded and he calls for the woman to come and help him pick him up from wherever he might be stranded and she's telling me she's too tired well that's a good indication that you probably need to keep it moving because the right one will be generous in every way the right one will be generous in every way number five they will allow you to be yourself you know they're not going to be sitting here and trying to figure out figure out what's going on with you in terms of how they can change you how they can change everything that's fundamental about you they're going to they're going to allow you to be yourself you will not have to you go on to plastic surgery because they don't like your nose you know you're not gonna have to do it they will allow you to be yourself and then we said that they will be patient with you they will be patient with you and then number seven they will close the deal you know it won't be a relationship where you have to just drag on and on you know like you have these ten year courting sessions or whatever y'all might call it on five years courting five-year engagement man come on you know you getting mail from AARP nah and y'all still haven't gotten married what's what's the deal with that the right one will close the deal they will have a mind they will know what they want and they will they will close the deal now let's stick up with I think one two three four five more points and then I'm out for tonight you know that you have the right one when you've been with them for a bit of time you know three four five six months year maybe and you've you've had a lot of conversation and they've never lied to you not even about small things they've never lied to you not even about small things and you start catching a person in a bunch of small lies a bunch of small lives small lies speak of a major character flaw if a person has to lie to you about where they went after work and then I need married to you the right one will be a person that is trustworthy they will never lie to you you will never catch them in lies just blatant lies just unnecessary lies just lying like a Persian road just lying just a lie just everyday it's another lie and there's so many lies that you can't you don't even let them know that you you you you you you caught them in a lie because you catch them in a lie almost every time y'all talking man you finding the person lying to you like that about stupid stuff unnecessary stuff keep it movin keep it movin keep it movin you don't you don't you know the Bible says in Proverbs 11 and 3 the integrity of the upright shall guide them but the willful contrariness and crookedness of the treacherous shall destroy them when you start finding a person having character issues when ain't when they have character issues lying a lack of integrity a lack of honesty there is no foundation for a healthy relationship with a person that has major character issues like that you know what you don't want to lie you know I'm telling you you do not want to lie you you don't wanna lie you all right number that was no mean they never lied to you number nine you have shared vision a lot of times you you you you feel chemistry with the person and all of that you attracted to them they may even be a nice person but if y'all don't have if you don't have shared vision where can it really go where can it really go if if if you all don't have shared vision that's why the you know the spiritual thing is so important that you know if you say you believe in Jesus Christ how you go how you gonna get on the same boat with somebody that's talking about you know Buddha you got to have shared vision how can we go in the same direction if we can't see the same destination you have to have a shared vision so when you get through looking at how fine this person is and your eyes of a fluttering and all that kind of thing ask yourself the serious the very serious question does this person do we really have shared vision the Bible says the name is three and three can two walk together except they be agreed where can we go if we're not on the same page where can we go off we're not on the same page why waste your time in a relationship where it's clear that you have one vision and this person has none or another it's you know you think about it if you are a if you're an eagle why would you connect yourself with a duck nothing wrong with being a duck but a duck needs a duck Eagles need Eagles because ducks can fly where Eagles can fly therefore Ducks are not even looking to go where Eagles are looking to go to and when you connect yourself with somebody that you don't share vision with you are handcuffing your own this thing is blinking I hope it's not act crazy alright number 10 they support your personal goals they support your personal goals because no relationship that Eve that leads to marriage is supposed to ever divorce you from yourself if a person is not supportive of your personal goals you automatically know that the best we can have here is a friendship because God is not calling you to marry somebody to bury all of the potential and power that he's put in your life especially if you're a woman you don't want to marry a man that is not supportive of your goals women are generally supportive of men's goals when they're realistic you know if you 50 years ultimates you're gonna be the next LL Cool J well you know that's another story but usually brothers are not really supportive that's supportive of their wives just kind of want you to stay home have babies you know cook their food and keep that house nice but a lot of times you know you your boss on the inside and and you want their thing to come out you need a man that's going to what support your personal goals the same way you know my wife has supported me for 20-some years you know now I'm in a posture where I'm trying to figure out what are you what are your aspirations what do you want to do I want to get behind her I want her to maximize her potential she was never supposed to she was never supposed to I think my facebook cut off on that I think it did she was never supposed to lose herself maybe it's still there she was never supposed to lose herself to marry me and if you have a person that is not supportive of your personal goals you need to keep it moving keep it moving sometimes you have a person is satisfied right here when you know you want to go there well you know you can't I don't how much you feel attracted or to my chemistry and all of that there's no foundation if you try to go here you tell them you're gonna settle for that just to be with somebody you can't you gonna settle for half of what God put you into somebody I don't think so Philippians 2 and 4 says look not every man on his own things but every man all the things of others look not every man on his own things but every man also on the things of others if this person then have the basic maturity to be able to look past his or her own personal stuff to see yours and to support yours you know there's no foundation for a real relationship this would be number eleven you know that you have this could be the right one this could be a you know real connection when you guys handle disagreements without drama when you handle disagreements without drama you know if if you have the slightest little disagreement and it's three or four or five days of no talking and people looking crazy you got to be able to have a disagreement respectfully my toilet without vulgarity without a whole lot of slamming of doors and without you know your punching into walls and all of this kind of stuff and huffing and puffing you need to be able to have a disagreement without the drama and be able to say okay well this is where was that I was wrong here I apologized okay I was wrong here I apologize and then you keep it moving if you got a situation where every time you'll have the slightest no disagreement this person is going you know doing the most you need to keep it moving because the Bible says in proverbs 20 and three my connection looks bad so I'm trying to move it proverbs 20 and three it says it is an honor for a man to cease from strife but every fool will be meddling when you have a person that keeps up strife and it's constantly arguing and wants to keep the argument going you automatically know you have a fool and you should keep it moving and then finally there's been a fast one tonight did I cut awful Fedele praise the Lord because it's looking crazy over here finally now this is big right here this is a big one right here oh my face about Facebook people are pretty good pretty good number 12 you know that you you may very well have the right one when your closest relatives and friends see the same thing you see a lot of times you bring in people home talking about you in love and you know this is the you know this is this woman here is the sweetest thing since ice cream and all that kind of stuff and your mama looking like and then sometimes you said you know Mama's just overprotective and she just you know she don't wanna lose her baby boy and then your brother walking he like mm-hmm and then your daddy walking mm-hmm the neighbor looking from across the street saying mm-hm even adults it and then you want to just go out then just do whatever you wanna do all willy-nilly your friends don't agree with it your family don't agree with it don't tell my people that have loved you people that have taken care of you people that have been there for you if you bring somebody around those people and they lookin like you need you may need to really take your time with that and really search this thing out especially if you have kids if your woman or you even a father you have kids and your kids don't like a person that's supposed to be an automatic you're out of here you bring a man home and your children looking like are you having this you know but you want to run on out then do your own thing I'm in love I'm a ground I'm grown but you ain't grown when these people are breaking your heart tan up all your furniture threatening to kill your night you want everybody's involvement in your drama but you didn't want to take anybody's wisdom when you were trying to make the decision if you don't want me involved in your in your decision don't involve me in your drama handle your drama I'm gonna still take all your money and you're bout to get put out your house and now you're coming over you all my money but you didn't won't take my advice but you want to take my money not like I've been living you know 51 almost 52 years just for nothing I don't I haven't learned nothing in half a century I huh yeah I'm preaching better than y'all shout all right here we go number 12 your closest relatives and friends will see the same thing you see your closest relative I have I have a spiritual daughter right now who has grown children she's getting ready to get but she has a significant other she's growing getting married and you know I've not been trying to meet with them for almost two months and she said pastor I ain't doing nothing until we have that meeting I want you to and the other day I called I saw them in a certain place and I said I prayed about some things and I kind of know this individual a little bit and I said you know we're good but we still will have our meeting but how many folks are not wise enough to accept counsel and then you make all of these you know crazy relational choices and let me shut it down right here proverbs 11 and 14 says where no counsel is the people fall but in the multitude of counselors there is safety so you know I just decided to finish this sounds that you've possibly met the right one hope y'all got something out of this

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Length: 17min 33sec (1053 seconds)

Published: Wed May 04 2016