Redditors who "went out for cigarettes" and never came back, why did you leave? Where did you go?

redditors who went out for cigarettes and never came back why did you leave where did you go what is life like for you now serious sort of my cousin went for a walk once he was dating this woman who just an awful human being she got pregnant swore it was his and once the kid was born the state went after him for child support as he wasn't on the birth certificate even though they were living together anyways the paternity test came back showing it wasn't his and she flipped her lid just lost it he asked her to calm down and said he wanted to take a walk to cool off he left everything he owned minus the clothes on his back and his wallet and went for a walk that he never came from from a few years back the kid found him he was 16 or 17 and went on some giant rant about him being a bum and a punk butt and whatever other nonsense my cousin told him he wasn't his dad the paternity test showed that and he had no idea why she told him he was the father and abandoned them kid left a whole helluva a lot more confused that he showed up i think i have never left but my brother has one morning two years ago i woke up with a killer hangover rolled over in bed checked my phone and saw several missed calls and a couple of voicemails from my mother and sister along with a text message from my dad call me the first voicemail was from my sister sobbing through the phone she said for the sake of the story let's call my brother tom tom just tried to commit suicide he wrote us all letter and and just call me please whoa this can't be real then my mom's voicemail tom attempted suicide last night we haven't been able to reach him but we suspect he might be heading your way if you see him call the police we need to make sure he is safe oh crap this is definitely real we all somewhat suspected depression from him but this was unexpected anyways i got out of bed and put some clothes on i open the blinds and i peek out the window as if on cue tom's crappy old 96 four-door he was flustered barely spoke to me but told me he was leaving for california refusing to turn him into the police i bought him lunch filled up his gas tank and then i gave him all of the 26 i had on me and wished him the best of luck he was back home within two weeks remorseful and embarrassed i'm glad he's back hey you tell your brother sometimes we all want to drive a rusty old pose to california and leave it all behind mum cornered me in the bathroom after chasing me around the house told me to punch her when i tried to leave punched me instead i said i'd call the cops she said she'd do the same as she's done with my ex-stepdad tell him i punched her and it would be her word versus mine next morning got into a broken ford that was still on her name even though it was mine went to get the oil changed told the guy how long he thinks the car could make it he said i'd be lucky to make it a block wouldn't go into reverse among other things all the same i thought i'm only going forward three days later i drove from ca to md and spent about five years without contact reconnected foolishly thinking people change people don't change last i heard from her she wanted me to sign over my apartment in russia so she could sell it and give me the money i told her i'd happily sign it over but she didn't need to pretend she'd give me a dime like one of the top commenters here i've also been working since the age of 12 albeit for much less than eight slash hour when i started paper route etc only reconnected because i have sisters but the brains wishing she's done against me is done both sisters suicidal one is pregnant at age of 18 failing grades neither will take me up on my offers to help i make 50 plus hour tutoring strangers sigh i'm the para who left and traveled the world but i'm a loser because well frick this thread freak you mom you're not a loser frick your mom i just hope your sisters will be okay i was living with my parents i was 17 they told me to leave then tried to stop me from leaving i have been in an abusive relationship with my mom and my stepdad for years friends helped me load the car that was 12 years ago never been back i was living with a very mean and controlling girlfriend if it wasn't her way or all about her she threw a fit one day i had enough and said i was going to the store and just kept driving i literally drove for 12 hours and showed up at a friend's house five states away and asked if i could crash on his couch i called my boss and said i wanted to quit work he was pretty cool about it he knew my girlfriend and actually set me up with a job in my new city i have never spoken to my ex since soon after my relocation i met my now wife and i could not be in a better relationship best thing i ever did i ran away from my family my mom and whatever family is attached to i feel so much better i resented the bulls my mom would pull on me she once got me pretty screwed around and told everyone i was abusing her her finances etc she told me to my face she was going to lie and get away with it and she did and that was pretty much the family dynamic i was caught up in when i called her an abuser she couldn't handle it it felt good to leave and not look back i got a new job and a new place and change numbers said i was going to uni my sister dropped me off at the station said my goodbye and left the country patents and sisters were abusive and manipulative lived in fear for many years since they threatened to shoot me if they found me i struggled a lot with alcohol for years and self-hurt but i am happily married and don't think of them as family at all parents were split and hated each other and would always put me in the middle the drugs and alcohol they were both doing didn't help got kicked out of each of their places and went back and forth over some crappy circumstances involving them wanting all of my money to live with them then playing the guild card on each other that they took me in when the other kicked me out got a steady retail job that i had to work six seven days a week at odd hours to get full time two weeks before christmas mom said her place wasn't a truck stop and i couldn't come and go at all hours of the night and that i had to leave heard similar from her before and didn't want to go to dad's again so i called some family and they all refused to take me in because my mom had called and told them i hit her since i was still in the same house i told her she was a horrible person but an even worse mother and left grandma knew parents were crazy so she helped me as much as she could still get phone calls emails facebook messages asking me when i'm going to stop being a be so we can be a family again have seen both since invited some friends through facebook to things that they in turn invited my parents to finally nutted up and told them both to get the frick out of my life mom still leaves me drunk high crying voicemails in the middle of the night either telling me she loves me or that i'm all that's wrong with her life dad sends me emails telling me to get the stick out of my butt because i'm still his son but still spend time with my grandma friends parents mean more to me than my own ever did now i've got a full-time job an awesome dog working on doing better in life in general and trying to move into a place solo blood is not thicker than water will never speak to either of them again if i can help it no regrets i may not have known the original quote but you get the gist it just feels so much better to get their garbage off my chest to be honest as a child i held it in and after i realized it made me the man i am i told her she was a horrible person but an even worse mother and left just reading that felt so satisfying i was left my dad and my mom had a fight my dad left then he killed himself on one hand i have no memories of him i was too young and i am very sympathetic to mental illness and suicidal ideation i have had bouts of serious depression in my life on the other hand his absence the lack of dad left a huge gaping hole in my life the strangest part is when i turned the age he was when he killed himself i'm 36 and i'm older than my dad ever was and i still feel young like i have many years ahead of me i wish i had had the opportunity to know him everything i know about him is someone else's memory thanks for giving me space to share this this is a beautiful story that you are sympathetic but also realize that you want something different my heart is breaking i left my home like this one night i just packed the essentials into my backpack walked to a train station and got on a train to newport news va from pasco wa no one knew i was gone until three o'clock the next morning it was to be with a girl my family was totally 100 against that was a year ago it's all working perfectly i am happier now than i ever have been before hey i'm from newport news glad you're happy man it's cool things worked out i don't know if this counts but when i was about 19 i was in a crappy position all of my friends were doing them regularly i had put out thousands of dollars to bail friends from jail and to try to help them out the girl i was dating was lying to everyone she knew about our relationship my uncle called me in the middle of all this and offered me a job on the other side of the country i had my car packed and was headed there within 12 hours i heard from the girl i was dating about two weeks later she called crying telling me she went to my house and i wasn't there and wanted to know where i was i told her i had moved and she told me it wasn't my choice to make that i should have consulted her i never heard from any of the people i had considered friends i heard some of them went to jail some had kids some disappeared i moved back to the town i left about five years later and everything has been relatively okay since then sometimes i see people i used to know and sometimes they recognize me but mostly i keep to myself and spend time with better people than those i left years ago i've always lived in an abusive home both mentally and physically and never saw a proper way out i started working at 14 years old in a convenience store for eight dollars an hour and hid all of the money i made in a locked container in a nearby wooded park area i did this because my parent would have taken my money if they knew i was working at all by the time i turned 18 i had close to 10 000 saved up and had finished high school i was supposed to start university that year but early on in the summer i waited until my parents went out to work found and took all of my documents an enrolled out of the university program i was supposed to be in and left i took a bus to alberta and i've been living here since doing labor it's been a year and a half and they haven't searched for me yet not that i'm aware of at least how is my life now i'm poor barely getting by but at least i am living alone and happier than i was before left my family close to five years ago to move to california to start a new life i was 400 pounds living a lifestyle of prescription drugs and drinking at 17 with my family i was good in high school and even went to college early but wasn't able to secure a loan there to continue past the first year dropped my crap life there and came here it was very rough for a time but i'm a lot better now i had some help from my adoptive father but paid my way aside from the ticket here i live on my own now and manage an office selling printer parts and various other money makers online i started my own business last year and have been paying out of pocket to continue school here because the college i went to back home wouldn't release my transcript i've lost a great deal of weight and i'm away from any unhealthy addictions my family is for the most part very cross with me my mother died two years ago nearly exactly i had planned to go back for her birthday tomorrow incidentally in 2013 but she died two weeks prior to it the only regret i have is leaving that door open i like to think she'd be proud of where i went oh man just remember you did what you had to do i know my username doesn't reflect it but i'm a mom of two boys every time they do something that reflects their independence and their place in this world as a man it's the only god dang thing in the world that could make me happy proud and my whole life worth living she understood what you did my friend there is no way she couldn't have my mother left me at her door i would visit every saturday for a few hours then she wasn't there after 10 plus years of extreme hate towards her my uncle enlightened me he said maybe she left you for the better turns out she has extreme mental issues drug abuse it's amazing how few words can change your life at some point in our lives we start to see our parents like people once we do we can accept their rights and wrongs good on you for you understanding her my father just walked out on us when i was nine walked out on everything racked up a load of debt before he went without my mother knowing through a gambling habit he had which we didn't know about until immediately after in the hounding from the people companies he'd borrowed money from some of them were the kinds of people you didn't really want to owe money to and the next few years were kind of rough but to add to that my mother got sick around the same time and ended up unable to leave her bed for a few years i think the illness was caused or at least exacerbated by the shock of his leaving not going to lie it was really rough i ended up getting homeschooling as they were afraid that he'd show up and pick me up from school one day and after a little while of that my confidence was so drained that i avoided school as much as possible police were looking for him and eventually found him after a year or two in a town 200 miles away but he didn't want to get in contact with anyone and nothing came of it he was an ex-policeman so i guess he knew what to say or something then a few years later we got a phone call from a lady who had found his address book informing us that he had died and she was looking for his next top kin it ended with us traveling to where he had been staying to find an elderly lady he was basically bleeding dry financially some of the stories he'd been spinning to manipulate people were incredible people there thought of him as a hero he told them about how he'd started a new life after nursing his sick wife with cancer until she passed away how my brother had been inspired by his story and was working as a doctor abroad and in his fantasy i had never actually existed i can't really say i'm angry about it i grew up afraid that i'd end up like him but i think when you're exposed to something like that as a child you can either see it as an example of how to live or you can look at it and do everything in your power to avoid becoming it i was 21 on my third year of college getting drunk and high on pills every single night puking every single morning freaking guy after random guy had just had an abortion 98 pounds and barely scraping by in my classes one day i woke up and felt so unbelievably sick tired of the way in was living i considered ending my life instead of killing myself i packed up as much as i could fit in my car while my housemates were in class work and moved to north carolina to live by the beach i called my parents and told them what i was doing which broke their hearts which broke my heart i still come home for some holidays i stayed in a cheap disgusting motel for two months before i saved enough at my waitress job to get an apartment 40 minutes from the beach i'm currently married to a wonderful man completely sober finished my degree and have a baby due in december i can truly say i'm happy american that moved to australia for two years got a girl pregnant fell in love saw her for the horrible person that she really was but stuck it out after the baby was born i had to be sure he was mine the test came back showing no paternal match i confronted her we fought she swore up and down it was a bad test wanting to believe it i scheduled another test for the three of us to go in 800 later two days before the test she played dumb and said she never agreed to that she told me to get out of their life and that her child was not a science experiment i stayed with a friend a couple days then came back she acted like nothing happened and wanted to just move on another test was no longer an option in her book it was the hardest decision of my entire life and it still makes me sick to think about a week later i scheduled a flight back to california i've been back for four years now we had talked a bit over the year after i left but just went back to her wanting to fight after some antidepressants and heavy drinking i'm finally starting to feel whole again i look at the world very differently now i miss that little boy with all my heart he still has my name and a great deal of loving people that know who i am i only hope he hears some of good about me when he is older i did everything for them i did what i had to after having a laptop broken over my head a vacuum slammed on me while i'm sleeping and the brothers she filled with lies after me i did what was necessary to defuse the situation capital t you should read your comment in one year and see how far you moved along good luck bro i left my abusive husband seven years ago i just walked out the door i never spoke to him again i had squirreled away money for years because he controlled my income he had this idea that i was miserable because we didn't have children so he tried to change that by violating me so i would get pregnant he didn't know i was using birth control i had resigned my job so i just left i couldn't bring children into that life i went to live with my parents in a different part of the country now i live in a different country i have a kind and loving partner and we have a daughter i'm happy most of the time my family don't tell people where i live in case he should find out i don't know what happened to him i hope he's dead he had this idea that i was miserable because we didn't have children so he tried to change that by violating me so i would get pregnant but i don't even good for you for getting away left home shorty before high school graduation awful living situation my parent was in town and told me to go home while she stayed in town i went home and pack my stuff and left returned the car with a note and no one even bothered to call text me for a week when i was younger with my mother things were kind of rough pretty abusive actually well one time when i was 15 things got really bad it started when her sister moved in she treated us like slaves we were expected to cook and clean for her and just generally be at her beck and call well this one particular night i was expected to cook chicken for her and her boyfriend then clean it up and basically be her little kitchen slave so she could be the fancy lady this pee me off to no end i was expected to not only cook a meal i wasn't allowed to eat then i had to clean up and do the dishes for that meal for some guy i've never met so she can get late wtf i refused it turned into a big fight so when my mother came home she got mad at me she beat me but that wasn't even the worst part that i was used to she slapped me across the face with a slipper that was by far the least physically abusive thing she had done but for some reason at ws knew and it pushed me over the edge i silently took it and went to bed the next morning i poured out my book bag i packed a few things that meant something to me it still boggles my mind just picking what's important into a bag in the span of 15 minutes it changes the way you think about things if you ever have to do that anyway i packed a few things and went to school as soon as i got there i found a quarter god knows where and called a cab it's funny now because i had to get the operator to dial because i was upset and couldn't figure out how to do it i went to my grandmother's in the next town over i didn't have five cents to my name she might not have even been home but i went when i got there i told her i took a cab and i wasn't going back she of course called my mom who told my grandmother and i quote tell him he no longer has a mother so i lived with my grandmother switched schools and no one ever hit me again well until my drunk dad moved in but that's another story she was my hero she was always there for me i used to look at the lights from my bedroom window and wish i was there with her she died the 21st of april of this year it's hard my entire life from the point of 15 to 37 was devoted to her now she's gone i still at night look at the lights but this time they're the stars in the sky and i wish i was with her not really the same thing and there's other drama involved but to keep it short went through a bad breakup to get away from it i went to sri lanka in 2004 during christmas that tsunami happened came back and told my family and about two friends i was leaving l.a boarded a plane a few days later for new york with only two bags no apt no job found a job and a flat within the first few weeks i've been here 10 years now and have no regrets she's married now and very happy took all of the plans we spoke about and applied them to her then new dude and did them with him they live in the same area and says i'm happy for her regardless she was a great person we were just young i was 27 living with my very religious parents i was miserable there and my boyfriend of one year invited me to come live with him i packed up my stuff one day wrote a note and left with him my parents did not approve of intimate relationships outside of marriage they would beat me up and probably him too if we would have told them ahead of time i don't regret it all and it was the best 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Length: 23min 31sec (1411 seconds)

Published: Fri Sep 25 2020