Real Breakup Vs. Fake Breakup?

hi I'm coach Corey Wayne and this is my video coaching newsletter and the topic of today's newsletter is going to be real breakup versus fake breakup well I've got an email here from a guy who broke up with his girlfriend of about a year and he admits it he made a bunch of mistakes that turned his girlfriend off but he recently had a date with her went to the movies after they had broken up he goes a kisser she turns ahead gives him the cheek says she's not interested anything romantically and then a few sentences later tells him that she wants him to prove he's really serious about a relationship so you can imagine he's obviously scratch his head going what the [ __ ] does that mean so I got a quote that I wrote in this topic and I'm gonna go through his email and then discuss what he should do going forward cuz obviously he wants to get her back but again he's going what the quote says women are naturally wired to be more emotionally intuitive and more connected to their feelings and emotions than men this is essential to being a great mother and nurturer men are naturally wired to be more stoic and less connected to their emotions and feelings this is essential to high achievement taking risks being in combat and doing things that are dangerous this doesn't mean that men and women can't do the same jobs or tasks it simply means that men and women are naturally better at doing different things that are essential to the family society and procreation the differences between men and women complement each other and make them stronger as a team than they are as individuals a man who is too feminine and unsure of himself makes a woman feel unsafe and uncomfortable in her feminine essence which forces her to be more in her masculine essence while a man who is centered in his masculine essence makes a woman feel safe and comfortable relaxing into her feminine essence you'll see her in his email he's guilty of a little bit of that but obviously in order to turn things around and go forward and get his gross ex-girlfriend reintegrate he's got to be consistent and also it helps to understand what the [ __ ] she's really trying to say when she says things that are confusing because obviously if you're a guy watching this you realize that women they think different than us they're they're different and they don't think the way that we do and vice-versa us guys are different than the way women would think that we would be or maybe even want us to be so he says hey Cory my name is Bob I'm 30 years old and I've been following your art awesome work for some time now and I've recently gone through a breakup with my girlfriend who's 31 of one year together I was initially the cause of the separation due to not reaching out enough being too much of a cold fish getting too complacent and not being in my masculine alpha Center she decided to call things off after I returned home from a two-week vacation in Canada well it's always fun to come home to her vacation and get dumped she plead her case for why she wasn't feeling it anymore and stated that she had emotionally checked out in other words I'm just not attracted to you anymore so if we look at the things that he was doing obviously you can tell he's like he got too complacent obviously stop dating courting her properly not being in as masculine which forces her to be in her feminine feminine energy which that's not our natural essence and if you're forcing a feminine woman to be more masculine because you're acting feminine the sexual attraction and polarity just evaporates literally instantly and so intellectually she might think hey this is a great guy but I'm not feeling it remember like I said the quote women are much more connected and in tune with their emotions than us guys are so in order to get her to feel reott rack today be in your masculine so she feels safe and comfortable being in her feminine because obviously this went on for an extended period of time to the point where she just lost all attraction so here's what's interesting she says however she says she doesn't want to lose me completely and we can still be friends and hang out from time to time oh boy that just sounds really exciting that just that makes me feel so much better so women typically do that to put the guy in friendzone and in essence a back-up plan well she looks around for a guy that makes her feel something because obviously the way he was behaving she was no longer feeling it because he wasn't exhibiting enough masculine alpha strength traits but he did the right thing because even follow my work he said I gracefully declined her offer stating that I wasn't interested in being friends her male girlfriend or emotional tampon she respected my point of view well let's think you're assuming she respected it but women are going to test your strength especially if you've been displaying lots of weakness obviously which you admitted you have been and if you say you're not interested in being friends her male girlfriend or emotional tampon almost in a way without realizing it's like you're daring her to test you was like oh really oh you don't want to be my girlfriend oh you don't want to be my emotional tampon or just my platonic friend well we'll see about that it's not that women think this way remember it's all about how she feels she still think you're a great guy but sexually she's not feeling attraction but she made it clear that she wasn't invested in me or us rekindling anything anytime soon so what you're getting remember like I talk about this in my book how to be a 3% man that applies in that moment just like when she said I love you six months ago it doesn't apply right now because that's what what she was feeling six months ago so we have to look at what she's feeling right now and what she's saying right now is she ain't feeling it and in her mind she thinks it's not gonna happen anytime soon because once the feelings are gone they're gone and then she says that if it's meant to be will reconvene down the line he says I've since gone no contact and began dating other women after a movie outing we went on a week after the break-up so as I teach and seven principles get an ex back the video I did a few years ago she's the one that unilaterally ended your relationship therefore she has to be the one to earn another chance with you and therefore you don't go to her you don't go pick her up you don't meet her out she has to come to your place and like I talked about seven principles get an ex back the only distance that you should be willing to travel to see her as a distance that it takes to go from wherever you are in your house to your front door to let her in the idea is your jabs of me I like I talked about in the book is to create an opportunity for sex to happen to hang out to have fun to hook up so she basically tried to friendzone you and you said oh I'm not interested in that and then what do you do you turn them right around the next week and you go to a [ __ ] movie that's like you cheat why would you want to go out of your way I mean you gave this woman a year of your life and for your troubles now you're meeting her out and picking her up and taking her to a movie cuz you said I'm not interested in hanging out with you as friends but yet a week later you're hanging out with there hoping that things are going to change the money it's a complete mindset that you have to change in other words you're the prize you're the gift she's the one who foolishly dumped you and therefore she needs time and space away from you to wonder about you to think about you and by having her come to your place and making dinner together women know that if they're coming over to your house on the week at night anytime during the week or the weekend that you're gonna make dinner together you're gonna have some wine or some drinks or tea or whatever if you're not a drinker and typically women know that that's usually going to lead to a romantic evening that's why women when they're trying to stick you in friendzone and see if you have the balls to stand up to them and walk away because remember the only way you're gonna really own a woman's heart is it she's got to know that if she pushes you too far you're gonna walk and never look back the strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it therefore she changed the terms of your relationship in other words your nice guy by giving her a chance to redeem herself giving her a chance to prove to you that she deserves another chance by coming over to your house so in other words you're the guy setting the tone for what the evening or you're the way your time is going to be if you're green to meet you're out and perfect public and go to a movie together you know that's and now you're sitting in a movie theater the whole time you're like go on is there buddy and her pal it's just like a first date which I would you know unless you're serious with somebody right here on committee really you don't be going to movies you can't create rapport you can't get to know her she can't get to know you so you definitely need to review the video and article I did seven principles to get an ex back because you are doing the opposite of what it teaches and that's why you're not getting the results that you're hoping for he says I've since gone no contact been dating other women so again he goes on the date he's in so listen he says why he says the date itself served neither of us any justice I was there to make things right really remember she stuck you in friendzone you say you're not interested so you're going there with the mind set up I've got to make things right I've got to fix this well you told her you're basically only interested in something romantic so in a way your mind says let me go grovel and beg and plead my case and hopefully she'll give me another chance it's a complete different mindset where this girl's trying to stick you in friendzone and see if you'll agree to hang out with her in a non-sexual way and so you say you're not interested in friendship and then you basically go out and do something that a friend would agree to do if you're the prize if you're the gift she's got to come to you and prove that she's worth another chance cuz it was her unilateral decision to say I'm out of here but when you go to her that's a weak position negotiation wise there prevents you from setting the tone in other words you'll get together with her but it's gonna be on your terms and if she doesn't want to get together or come over for dinner cuz especially women like this you try to get her to come to your house or you invited your house more than likely she's gonna try to turn you down all that's just me now oh I'm just in the mood for a movie just say that's where you go Sam I told you I'm not interested in just being friends I love you I want you doesn't mean we have to get back together but I'm not interested in hanging out with you in a non-sexual platonic way that just doesn't work for me I'd love to see you but I'll understand so you want to come over you wanna make plans either get a definite date or you withdraw the offer and you walk away because that's where you're standing up to her you want sex and romance she says how about friendship you're like no you walk away from friendship but going to her and going to a movie is basically you acquiescing to her demands and so look look what happens next so he says we got into a discussion about where do we go from here after declined my kiss so he goes to kiss her she turned turns the cheek and then he's basically what do I do your majesty instead of being the leader you are being a follower and that's the problem she said she wants to follow you whether she realizes it or not she doesn't want control she doesn't want to be the leader she wants you to be the man so you basically said I don't know what to do tell me what to do mommy it's weak she once again stated what she made clear the week before vice versa in other words I'm just interested in friends this is just a friendship thing maybe someday in the future we'll get back together [ __ ] that noise interesting enough this is the confusing party's interesting enough she wants me to show her that I'm serious about being in a relationship with her well you're never gonna get to a relationship if she's giving you the cheek cuz every bit of her interaction with you is communicating friendship and you're sitting there hoping to change her mind because you met her on her terms instead of her coming to you on your terms and negotiations will be called setting the table for the deal if you will you do I highly recommend whether you like Trump or not that you read his book the art of the deal because he is a master at negotiation and you can learn a lot from it I don't care whether you like him or [ __ ] not I'm serious she wants me to show her that I'm serious about being in a relationship with her but declines any action that could be taken to rekindle things again that's why she has to come to you and like I talked about some principles get an ex back if she comes over three dates in a row to your place and you hang out you have fun you hook up all three times then you can start picking her up and taking her out but again she's got to do 100% of calling texting and pursuing from that point forward because when you're communicating by these actions is you love to sear you love to hang out with her but you're not interested in friendship and if she's not interested in hanging out romantically you're just not interested and you basically caved you were weak in other words she sold you why you should stay in the friend zone instead of you selling her why she should be coming back over and convincing you why you should give her another chance not you're gonna say that to her but your actions will communicate that and all your actions have done is continue to communicate weakness in other words she doesn't really believe that you mean the things that you say and when she gets you to go along with just being friends and then you're like well what do we do from here and there what you're asking her to be leader a man knows what to do he knows what he wants he's going after it he extends an invitation and she can accept it or decline it in this case she's declined it and therefore he should have declined her counteroffer at this point should I continue no contact or break the ice and take the risk of not getting her back at all well here's where you are negotiation wise she's saying how about friendship you're saying sex and romance how a friendship how about sex and romance so if you've already said friendships off the table so it's sex and romance or it's been great we had a great year together it was a great run I wish you all the best maybe you'll find somebody that's better suited for you I'm dating I'm moving on nice you know I'd love to get back together or at least date and see where things go but I'm not interested being your friend I was very clear about that she either goes along with what you want or that's the that's the rub you're risking losing her forever the strongest negotiating positions being able to walk away and mean it you can beg you can chase you can continue to grovel all its gonna do is frustrate the [ __ ] out of you and your actions would continue to communicate to her that you're okay which is friendship so that's what I would do if I were you I'd have her come come to you remember you're the prize you're the gift she's got a chance with you and in the meantime you're taking any and all offers with other women because you want somebody to have a great relationship with she's basically pulled the plug on what you had and saying I'm gonna just stick you in friendzone and you're saying no sex and romance or it's been great nice knowing you that's what I would do if I were you dude cuz you're not gonna get anywhere I mean you've already tried groveling and I've done hundreds and hundreds of videos over the years where guys have continued on with going the movies and other things and fixing a toilet and replacing the battery in her car and put new tires on it and everything else and then they find out she's got a new boyfriend and [ __ ] some other guy and oh I'm sorry but my new boyfriend he's you know kind of bothersome I still hang out with you and you're my ex and so we really can't spend much time together and you know I'm really sorry sorry she didn't go fun that's that's what happens eventually because you have to be strong enough to get what you want and she's testing you whether she realizes it or not she wants to see if you're man enough to stand up for yourself and walk away forever when she's trying to offer you friendship so if you'd like to get my help personally maybe you're in a you have a professional challenge or a personal challenge maybe something similar to this you're not really sure what to do or maybe you just want to tell me your story of what's going on just to get my opinion to reconfirm what you already believe to be true and if so you can go to my website click the products tab to top your screen and book whatever coaching option works for you and I will talk to you soon [Music]

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Length: 18min 43sec (1123 seconds)

Published: Mon May 21 2018