r/AmITheA**hole My Wife Abandoned Our Infant In A Burning Building

welcome to r slash am i the butthole where op's wife leaves their baby in a burning building am i the butthole for not switching places with my friend and ruining her life this happened a couple of weeks ago but i'm still getting flack about it a friend of mine daya asked me if i wanted to come with her on some errand and see her new car i said yes because i had some things to get done and my car was being checked over while we were out daya ended up hitting another car while turning left we were both shaken but mostly fine yet when i started to call the cops daiya started freaking out even more she started begging me not to call the cops and just go talk to the other driver i didn't feel comfortable not calling them so i went ahead and did then daiya started begging me to get into the driver's seat and i had to claim that i was the one driving it turns out daiya doesn't have a license she wanted a car but she didn't feel like getting her license so her mom bought the car for i didn't feel comfortable lying to the police so i continued to refuse and just got out of the car and waited on the sidewalk for them to get there well ty got arrested for driving without a license insurance or registration for a car and she just told me today that she's been found at fault for the accidents now daiya her mom and half our friends are saying that i'm a butthole for not just switching places she's now facing multiple fines possible jail time and being kicked out of our ma program because of all of this i tried to explain that i don't feel comfortable lying to the police but she just keeps calling me a privileged b word and wishing horrible things would happen to me so am i the butthole for not switching places with her op she's the one who committed the crime she's the one who drove without a driver's license she's the one who hit the other car it's not as though you going to the driver's seat would have made this magically disappear in that case you would be the one liable you'd have to pay out for damaging the car you might lose your license and your insurance would almost certainly go up and on top of that switching seats and saying that you were the driver might actually constitute fraud i mean what if the other driver saw you switch places and he told the cops that in that case daya would still be in trouble for driving without a license and getting into the car wreck but on top of that you would be in trouble for insurance fraud o.p you are not the butthole here diet and her mom are being really toxic i'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes i'm giving daya and her mom 4 out of 5 buttholes they basically tried to ruin your life so they wouldn't be inconvenienced am i the butthole for not letting my boyfriend pay less on bills due to a new purchase because he wouldn't let me when i made less money than him i lived together with my boyfriend of two years we split expenses 50 50 when it comes to rent groceries utilities things for the house etc we both make about the same money working full-time we keep some of our finances separate such as our own vehicles doctor bills cell phone bills etc my boyfriend recently made an irresponsible and unnecessary purchase a motorcycle to keep it short it was something he absolutely did not need just wanted and it's made his disposable income significantly less this has been a sore subject between us the other day he asked me to sit down and talk he told me that since he paid more in his personal bills each month he felt that we had to adjust how much we paid on our shared expenses so basically he felt like he should have to pay less this made me mad for a few reasons first as i said the purchase was absolutely not necessary by any means and when we first started living together i made way less money than i do now i worked part-time at another job and made 12 dollars less an hour than he did however back then he refused to budge on letting me pay less on bill so i budgeted and saved and always had everything paid despite that so i told him no i told him he wasn't willing to pay more than me when i made way less money than he did and the purchase wasn't necessary and he knew what would make his finances difficult if he couldn't pay our bills he needed to leave he of course thinks that i'm being a butthole for not budging on the issue but i think that it's only fair am i the butthole here op don't budge on this one if you pay more on bills then what that effectively means is you're paying for his motorcycle and down in the comments canadian mama points out something interesting speaking of red flags i took a peek at your post history your parents don't like him he put you on speakerphone without your knowledge after doing something really upsetting in an attempt to lower his parents opinion of you and now this you're only 20 years old time to move on the longer you stay with someone who isn't right for you the less time you have to find someone who is yeah if your post history is any indication it sounds like your boyfriend is just immature selfish and kind of a loser op either figure that fact out now or figure it out later may as well save yourself some time and do it now am i the butthole for uninviting my mom then my aunt then my sister to my wedding after they harassed my fiance i'm a 30 year old guy and i'm expecting my first baby together with my soon-to-be wife who's 28. all of my family are hardcore christians so they were not happy with us having a baby before getting married my fiancee and i decided to have the wedding before our baby arrives thankfully everyone in the family supported this decision and wanted to help we're getting married in march however the problem started when my fiance was showing the women in my family pictures of her wedding dress my mom and my aunt got mad at her for picking out a dress that they thought was revealing and said that it would show guess her pregnancy and they didn't want that they said they would not accept that and demanded she either return or replace it with another wedding gown to cover it up my fiance was crying saying that my mom was pressuring her and coming up with other wedding dress suggestions that aren't her style i told my mom that she was grossly overstepping and that it's funny she thinks if her own grandchild was something to hide and be ashamed of my mom got into an argument with me she lashed out and said that i should not be putting them in this awful position i told her she was uninvited from my wedding since she refused to stop my mom got my aunt involved i simply replied to her shaming text by telling her that she too got uninvited to the wedding i kid you not my sister kept berating me and claiming my fiance as being the problem in a bridezilla i told her that she too was uninvited and i let it be known that everyone else would be uninvited too if they try to get involved that's when the mess hit the fan now my dad and others are furious saying jesus adam you messed up big time and then they went on to call me unreasonable saying that i have to reinvite my mom aunt and sister asap and get my fiance to return her offensive dress because that's the least that i could do for them in fact they said that i should be on my knees begging them to show up after i made them look bad for getting my fiance pregnant before getting married i haven't talked to them yet they made my fiance feel bad about every choice we made including uninviting the family my little sister likes my fiance's dress at least there's one supportive member in my family my brother and his wife just keep parodying my mom's hurtful words and calling me a doormat for doing this op you and your fiance get zero out of five buttholes the one important fact that your family seems to be forgetting here is that this is your wedding so you can handle it however you want if you and your wife want to walk down the aisle butt naked or like decked out in bdsm gear then that's your right if your family doesn't like it too bad so sad don't come i'm giving your family members 2.5 out of 5 buttholes except your little sister she seems cool am i the butthole for being so upset at my wife for leaving our baby in a burning building that i left for a night with our baby my wife and i have an eight-month-old baby last week i was coming home from work and just as i was coming up the driveway she came running down the driveway barefoot she saw me and yelled at me to call 9-1-1 because there was a fire in the kitchen i asked her where our daughter was because she wasn't with her and my wife said that she was inside and to call 9-1-1 fast we live somewhere rural and response times are slow i immediately became scared that the house would go up in flames with our daughter inside before the fire department came i tried to run inside and my wife tried to stop me yelling again and again that i couldn't go in because there was a fire i went inside and the way the house is laid out you have to go through the kitchen to get to the hallway with the nursery there was a grease fire on the stove in a pan and the wall above the stove and the curtains nearby were catching fire i put out the grease fire by putting a lid on the pan and then i put out the fire on the wall and curtains with a fire extinguisher then i immediately went to the nursery and got our daughter going back outside my wife was gone i soon found out that she went down the road looking for a neighbor whose phone she could use but at the time and for a while i was really upset that her reaction to a fire had been to run out without our baby and to even try to stop me from going inside before the fire department had come and that my wife put our daughter in danger by not trying to put out the grease fire or trying to use a fire extinguisher if i hadn't come home when i did i don't want to think about what would have happened the fire department showed up but the fire was already out and my wife returned to driven by a neighbor i was angry with her for the reasons i said and she just totally clammed up i went to stay with my brother and sister-in-law that night taking our daughter and my wife was really angry with me over it saying the next day how dare i leave her alone after that she needed someone to drive her to urgent care after injuring her foot running barefoot that upset me even more that out of everything that was what she was worried about not what had almost happened when she ran out of our burning home without our baby i've been staying at my brother for about a week now i don't know what to do or if i was in the wrong for being so angry am i the butthole for how i reacted to my wife starting an accidental kitchen fire then running away leaving our baby in the house alright so first off i think it's really really really easy to just pile on hating this mother but before we get ahead of ourselves i just want to say that people don't always act rationally in highly dangerous situations in fact this is actually sort of like a point of friction with me and my wife because we have polar opposite reactions to high stress situations whenever something like really dangerous or stressful happens i get really worked up and emotional and i just want to act like high adrenaline freaked out and just want to do something the thing that i do might not always be you know the best situation because i get really worked up but i get really really high energy and focused on the problem my wife's reaction is like the total opposite she gets really really calm and logical and she wants to like think about the correct way to solve the problem each of our approaches isn't exactly wrong and each approach isn't exactly right because some situations are better than other situations let me give you a really good example one time me and my wife are driving down the interstate and i'm in the driver's seat and i look in my rear view mirror i see this truck coming at me really really fast and i knew instantaneously that this car was gonna hit me now i couldn't move out of my lane because there was a car next to me my split second decision making was to just absolutely floor it i was thinking that if he was coming too fast if i sped up then the collision wouldn't be quite as intense in that like instantaneous moment of decision making i just absolutely floored it and i started screaming screaming like a little girl this horrified my wife a short moment later like one or two seconds later the truck hit the back of my car now luckily i had sped up enough that by the time they did hit me it was just barely a little nudge rather than like a solid hit going at like 60 miles per hour anyways he just kind of like bumped my bumper and then the two of us pulled over and we checked our bumpers and there wasn't really too much damage but my heart was going a mile a minute and my wife was totally calm very logical just standing next to me kind of taking everything in and that was it but afterwards when we got back in the car and we were driving my wife got kind of upset because she was like why'd you have to freak out about that situation why did you have to scream it scared me why couldn't you just handle the situation i asked her if you were in that situation what would you have done and she thought about it for a moment and said that she probably would have hit the brakes because like i said her impulse to high stress situations is to slow things down and think about it rationally so if she had hit the brakes with someone coming up behind her really fast then we almost certainly would have been in a high speed collision i'm not trying to say that the way that she reacts to stress is any better or worse than the way that i react to stress because they both have advantages and disadvantages what i'm trying to say is everyone has sort of a way that they react to high stress high danger situations that being said your wife oh man your wife exhibited some very very dangerous behavior here you guys have a newborn baby she needs to learn some basic home safety skills where's the fire extinguisher how does it work what do you do in the event of a fire what do you do if your child goes missing what do you do if she swallows something and she starts choking because it sounds like your wife's instinct is to just run away from something that's scary which in some situations is just not the right call so step number one op for your safety your wife's safety and for your kids safety please go to some kind of like first aid class or something outside of that op i think i might recommend some family counseling because it sounds like this has done some serious damage to your trust levels in the relationship i don't blame you for getting upset at your wife but at the same time it's not like she did anything maliciously she just did things incorrectly and down in the comments we have this story from queen of rio when my daughter was about 18 months old she choked on a nickel my husband yelled for me to come help and stood there with wild eyes and a white hot panic and asked me a hundred times in 20 seconds if he should call 9-1-1 while i was doing back blows i finally said yes call and he grabbed his phone called 9-1-1 and ran out of the house leaving me alone with the choking child he later said that his plan was to be outside so the paramedics could find their house which is fair it's hard to find but the reality was he just panicked he handles crises professionally but in the moment with his own child he just freaked the f out i don't feel like i can judge her or you not the butthole but your wife should definitely learn some basic first aid and home safety does your town do a survive alive house our town does and i'm sure they would allow a grown up who needed some general knowledge and needed to gain a level of confidence in handling small emergencies a first aid class is probably a good idea too that was our slash am i the butthole 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Length: 15min 51sec (951 seconds)

Published: Thu Mar 04 2021