r/AmITheA**hole I Abandoned My Crazy, Entitled Mother

welcome to our /m I the butthole where Opie stepfather calls him another man's mistake am I the butthole for telling my wife she can't have her dream job because I refused to be burdened with all of her student debt my wife and I married young at 23 and now at 27 she's about to graduate from law school the issue is she has a ton of student debt around $200,000 from both undergrad and now law school but over the past year she's completely changed her mind about law and becoming a lawyer she now wants to teach and do Teach for America after graduating she told me this past week we've talked about this at length and she wants to do this because it's her new dream job previously it was law I'm upset because if she teaches her starting salary will barely clear $35,000 in the first few years and we live in a really really expensive city she has no intention of going back into law later as well as she says law school was a mistake last night we were talking about the future and she mentioned our plans to have kids in a few years and how she'd like to be a stay-at-home mom in a few years as well I looked at her and asked how she thinks we're going to afford that when we've got nearly 200,000 and debt on my one income she got mad and said I'm trying to use her debt to postpone major life events like having kids we ended up fighting and I told her she can't just teach if she expects me to be saddled with her debt as a result I said she should at least work a high paying job for a few years to repay a good portion she said I'm prioritizing money over her happiness and that she's disappointed in my lack of support when they would be my kids and my life as well am I the butthole for telling her that if she chooses to go down this path I may need to rethink our marriage I haven't said anything like this yet but I'm thinking it based on her timeline she'd only work for three to four years before becoming a homemaker I'd have $200,000 worth of debt to work through completely on my own and I don't know if I can do it or if it'll completely ruin the rest of my life am I the butthole to say this hold on one second let me go ask my wife if I can buy a $200,000 car and then quit my job and then if she tries to argue with me I'll just say that she's prioritizing money over my happiness okay guys I'm back it didn't go so well turns out that's a terrible idea and I'm stupid for coming up with it so yeah I'm gonna take your side on this Opie basically your wife wants to make mistakes and then saddle you with the responsibility for paying for that mistake your wife just can't go out and spend $200,000 willy-nilly and then be like oh well well now I'm going to quit sweetie will you cover my bills for me am i the butthole for telling my mom that my stepdad called me another man's mistake I'm a 15 year old male and my 37 year old mom is the boss in her workplace and this has to hold meetings all the time so my 37 year old stepdad has to pick me up I feel like he's always disliked me but yesterday when he picked me up from the train station it was pretty severe we had agreed that he would come and pick me up well the train came on time and everything went okay and I got into his car I greeted him but he didn't greet me back and just slurred out that I was another man's mistake I told him that I would tell mom about this but he begged me not to but I still did because it was just way too much I feel like a butthole for doing this well when mom came home I told her and then they started arguing real loud and my mom even slept in the guest room because she didn't want to sleep with him Opie you are absolutely not the butthole here what that guy said to you was disgusting Andy yeah you definitely should have told your mom about it Opie you get zero out of five buttholes but your stepfather gets five out of five buttholes am i the butthole for legally changing my name and refusing to speak to my mother growing up my mother had a horrible habit of trying to one-up my aunt Tara she did everything from dyeing her hair like my aunt making our living room a replica of hers and getting better versions of her pets my mom was the pretty sister growing up married better and had better kids this caused huge resentment for my siblings and I everything we did was thrown in to our cousins faces this led to us not speaking to my mother that often and refusing to go to see our aunt Tara I was close with my cousins we went to the same school but I hated when my mom was around what made it even more awkward was the fact my mom stole my aunt Tara's names my oldest brother is Martin and a year younger than cousin Martina I'm named for my cousin Rebecca I'm Becca and were six months apart I started going by E short for my middle name Evelyn when I was 13 my mom refused to call me anything but Becca but my whole family was more than happy to call me whatever I wanted my brother went by his middle name as well I turned 18 and my dad paid for the legal name change I'm now Evelyn's surname my mom threw a fit and threatened to never speak to me again I took her up on that offer and stopped contact my dad has since divorced her and at 25 I haven't spoken to her in years she's reached out to me and said she was in therapy has started medication for bipolar disorder and she wants me in her life I was almost tempted but she ended the message with I miss my Becca I told her she had the wrong person there was no Becca here I told her when she wanted to speak to Eve I would be here she hasn't reached out since am i the butthole no Opie absolutely not and I think you might want to check out our slash raised by narcissists it's a support sub and it sounds like you would fit in quite well there I don't read stories from that subreddit because it's a support sub but the story you told here sounds very similar to some of the stories I've read there am i the butthole for giving my twin sons different allowances yes Opie you're the butthole but for sake of entertaining my audience let's go ahead and read anyways I a 43 year old male have four kids the two oldest are twin boys both 14 and then we have two girls ten and seven all of them are pretty responsible kids and consistently do their chores as they're meant to we have a little chart that says what all their jobs are with each of their roles being proportional to their ages the boys take on the largest No responsibilities with each of them alternating jobs every week officially their allowances have been as follows for a while the boys both get 15 bucks a week the ten-year-old gets 10 bucks a week and the seven-year-old gets 2 dollars mostly for symbolic purposes Lowell obviously as the girls age they'll start making more money just as they'll start doing more work around the house but here's the thing one of my boys call him a to differentiate is a real leader in the home he's just naturally brilliant with people is constantly dealing with complex between his sister and his brother takes charge in rough situations and is really considerate of others he's always been the frontman between his brother and him with him speaking for both of them while his brother hangs back though we've never told him to and though it's not his responsibility he's always been a real help to his mother and me and keeping the house running smoothly his brother Colin be on the other hand is much more reserved he keeps to himself that's not a problem but we do recognize that a takes on more emotional labor in the household than be so my wife and I have been giving a an extra $5 a week for the past year so he's been making 20 bucks while bee's been making 15 bucks we think that's fair since ace taking on more responsibilities in the house even if they weren't responsibilities we told him to take on the boys both have debit cards they got them when they were 13 so we put the money directly into their accounts and neither of them see money getting exchanged a does know he makes more money though last week however be found out his brother was making more money than him they were online shopping for video games and be questioned why a was able to afford stuff he couldn't he hasn't really spent his extra money so it's accumulated a fair bit he admitted to him that he's been making more be is absolutely furious with us he says that it's totally unfair that they've been doing the same amount of chores but he's been making more money but we don't really know how to explain to him that a deserves recognition for the less easily quantifiable work he does in our family thoughts yes Opie you're the butthole let me even play devil's advocate here and say okay yes a does more so he should earn more even if that's true you never even gave me the opportunity to Matt his brother basically a did something and you secretly rewarded him for it so like you never took a moment to be like hey be your brother is doing a really good job of like keeping the peace and solving conflicts among your sisters so we're thinking about giving him an extra five dollars a week if you also step up and help your sisters resolve conflict then we'll give you five dollars as well that would have been the diplomatic thing to do but know you secretly divide your twin sons by giving one extra money for mysterious reasons you really are playing favorites and any child and be situation would feel like the less loved son you and your wife both get four out of five buttholes am i the butthole for charging rent from my dad but not from my mom my father and his family lost their home and had no place to live he has a teenage son my half-brother who was 15 in a known smoker because they had nowhere else to go I refer them to stay at our other house we usually rent out to other people the house is situated within our property just next to our home prior to my dad moving in my mother and my sister moved in with a six months ago after my stepdad passed away we have many spare bedrooms in our home so then moving in wasn't a problem this is where the conflict arises I don't charge rent from my mom I don't let her cook I cook for five people in her home my husband my mom my toddler and my sister it's just my way of looking out for my mom because that's what she did for me when I was young and struggling she raised me as a single mother for years my dad has a problem with this because I'm charging him and his wife the same rent I charge other tenants it's a well furnished house he thinks I'm playing favorites between parents because I don't charge my mom any money he thinks he should pay less rent compared to other tenants because I'm his daughter apparently he doesn't like to be reminded of the fact that he charged me rent the one time I was very sick and had to move in with him and his wife when I was in college I had a part-time job and struggled to pay my bills with my illness I wasn't showing any consideration he also has a problem because my husband doesn't help him out with groceries he's older now 71 and things we should be the one getting him groceries we don't think so his wife is 50 and he has a young son they can be the ones doing the grocery shopping if he's too fragile to move around am i the butthole so let me get this straight it's totally okay for your father to play favorites with his kids meaning he can abandon you and your sister so that your mom raises you both by herself whereas he raises his son but it's not okay for you to play favorites by charging your parents different rents oh my god Opie you get zero out of five buttholes your dad is a total hypocrite I'm giving him four out of five buttholes because he sounds like a major douche bag you can charge your family members whatever rent you once and if it were me I would have kicked him out a long time ago am I the butthole for telling my co-worker that nobody would care if he died I work in an office of about a hundred people and a team of about 30 I have a co-worker Marc who's about 55 I don't think he's a very nice person he's always making snide comments about other co-workers hates poor people and thinks that if you're poor it's purely because you're an idiot makes derogatory jokes about women and anyone non-white lots of people try to keep their distance and it seems he's generally disliked management doesn't do anything no matter how many times coworkers complain about his behavior and they have presumably because he works very long hours without asking for extra pay because as he admits he has nothing better to do he single no kids and has said openly he doesn't really have friends just work Holly's and some family I would feel sorry for him if he wasn't nasty to people another co-worker Sarah about 30 years old lost her mom to cancer about two months ago I'm not close to Sarah but everyone knows it was a really horrible ordeal and she sometimes visibly upset in the office when Sarah was visibly upset yesterday Mark said Jesus she needs to get over it everyone dies she's bringing everyone down she needs to be professional it's pathetic it was set in a very harsh way I don't think Mark intended Sarah to hear but she did she got upset and left the office which only ended up being for about 20 minutes I was sick of marks terrible comments and said for God's sake you're such a dick you're just bitter nobody will give a flip when you die I walked away before he could respond we've been angrily avoiding each other ever since I assumed Sara knows what I said because it's the office gossip right now but I don't know her opinion though I know Marcus pissed other coworkers are split some think mark out what he deserved others have said that what I said was one of the worst things anyone can ever say especially as it's likely true because he's generally alone in life by his own admission and has nobody close to him am I the butthole so down in the comments people generally agree that everyone sucks here but actually I'm gonna deviate from that so first off yeah I'll acknowledge that what Opie said is a little bit jerky but only like one out of five when the butthole meter because if someone is a douchebag and is criticizing people every day then they deserve to be called out on it so despite the fact that you called Mark out in his douche-baggy behavior you're basically doing a public service he deserves to have someone stand up to him so mark on the other hand is gonna get four out of five bottles because he sounds like a real piece of work that was our /mi the butthole and if you don't hit that subscribe button then you're definitely the butthole

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Length: 14min 35sec (875 seconds)

Published: Sun Apr 26 2020