The secretions of the pineal, in the yogic
terminology, is referred to as âAmrutaâ because once it begins its secretion everything
about you becomes sweet and beautiful. It is not the sexuality which limits it, but itâs the
excessive identity with the physicality which limits it. If you make it too big, you will
become perverted in your head. If you try to obliterate it, you will become
even more perverted in your mind. Superscript: Pineal Gland:
A Pleasure Far Bigger Than Sex A ninety-two year old man went to
his doctor for a full medical checkup. The doctor checked him up and he said, âHey old boy, for your age youâre doing great.
Everything is just fine with you.â But the man asked, âBut doctor, what about my sex life?â So the doctor asked, âThinking about it or dreaming about it?â The more you try not to think about something the more
you will think about it. This is the nature of the mind. So there are many reasons why one indulges in sex. For some, it is just pleasure. For some, it is a way of building
this bond and companionship; otherwise, people feel they are
going away from each other. They may be just fine, but a lot of people it is psyched in their mind that if they
are not sexually involved they are actually moving away. Not true. You can be very close to somebody and need
not be involved in any physical manner, isn't it? But societies are psyching. Especially in this part of the world,
people are hugely psyched if there is no sexuality,
you donât really have a relationship. In fact, the word relationship
-it took me sometime to understand that here if you say a ârelationshipâ you are supposed
to understand itâs sex-based relationship. Nothing else is a relationship. If I can have a very strong relationship with you
and not be concerned about your body, isn't it? I may not be drawn to your body in anyway,
but I can have a very powerful relationship with you. But all those possibilities are completely discounted. A relationship means you must be in some
way physically involved: man-woman or man-man, woman-woman, whatever you like. Essentially itâs body-based. What kind of body is individual choices,
but essentially it is body-based. This has happened because somewhere our identification with the body has
gone beyond normal levels of identity. It is excessive identification with the body. That is why body-based relationships
have become the crux of the society. One who is too identified with your
physical body naturally is sex-driven because that is the highest thing that he knows. There are ways we can make you find
something which is far bigger than this. Once you taste something better, I donât have to tell you give this up or
give that up, itâll anyway fall off, isnât it? There are ways to do certain sadhana
which is more intense than sexuality, which is more ecstatic than sexuality. On one level if you look at it all dimensions of yoga, one way or the other are ultimately
trying to activate the pineal because once it begins its secretion everything
about you becomes sweet and beautiful. It creates a whole inner pleasure which makes all the outer pleasures
look like kindergarten stuff. Thatâs the reason yogis are
just sitting with eyes closed. Not because they are against pleasure,
they are against small pleasures, thatâs all. So the Shambhavi⌠One thing thatâs happening is, it stimulates
the pineal secretion in a big way, which leaves you drenched in a certain
level of sweetness throughout the day. It just leaves you in a certain state of ecstasy and
blissfulness because the pineal gland is active. This is one aspect of your physiology
which is very close to your consciousness. Rest of the physiology is about survival, but pineal gland is one aspect of your physiology
which is very, very close to transcending the physical. In the yogic traditions this sweetness is referred
to as amruta or the ambrosia or the elixir of life. One drop if it comes into the system,
suddenly the whole system just cools down, the whole system is lubricated, functions at ease. The desperation in the system is gone. The desperation in the mind is gone. So, ambrosia means you found your own pleasure. If youâre extremely joyful within yourself,
youâve found the amrutha within yourself⌠You are extremely⌠you are in extreme state
of pleasantness now being with people, not anymore about squeezing pleasure out of them. Being with people is just out of⌠just being with them. Only now youâre truly capable of love,
otherwise it is just a âOpen Sesameâ trick. âI love youâ means whether believe you or not, for that moment
they make themselves believe you because they are also in need of something,
you are also in need of something, isn't it? Itâs like aâŚYou know Ali Baba and the 40âŚ? âOpen Sesameâ means it opens. This is just like that - âI love youâ
means many things open up. Now by doing this⌠I am not saying itâs right or wrong; thatâs the way
people conduct their life; thereâs nothing to it. But by doing this, the true possibility of knowing
an intense sense of love within you is lost. You are here constantly looking,
âWhat can I get out of this person? What can I get out of that person?â -This is a con job. Itâs called a love affair, but itâs a con job. But if you are extremely ecstatic by
yourself when you are being with people, itâs about sharing your ecstasy. It is about if they are not touched by
it somehow to touch them with it rather than seeing what you can squeeze out of them. The whole fundamentals of your life will change Superscript: Does Sexual Indulgence
Restrict The Secretion of Amrutha? Yes and no, in the sense,
it is not the sexuality which limits it, but itâs the excessive identity
with the physicality which limits it. So, it is not sexuality per se which becomes the barrier, but the attachment it creates to the physicality
which definitely becomes the barrier. This question is coming from certain amount of bits
and pieces, the gossip that you have heard about how you could assimilate your own semen
and raise it up to your higher possibility; yes, it is true. At the same time, it is not because
of abstinence that one does it. It is because of internalizing
your energies that you do it. It is not simply that somebody is abstaining from sex and suddenly his energies are all
organized and itâs going up. Itâs not true. If your energies get organized and begin to move up,
the need for sexuality may evaporate for you, but it doesnât leave you incapable. It doesnât leave you impotent, but the need is gone. It is just no more a compulsive thing. And it is not just this one thing,
all compulsiveness is lost. Essentially, most of the sexuality thatâs
happening on the planet is happening because of a certain compulsiveness, isn't it? Itâs a compulsive drive. When you become conscious, when all
compulsiveness disappears, this also disappears. It is just that because people are so body-oriented,
they are always thinking spirituality versus sexuality. They are not connected. They are not connected - one is of the body;
another is of a different dimension. It is simply because people are so⌠because religions of the world, moral schools and the
ethical schools have been always speaking against it, it has become such a big issue in peopleâs minds. They think the only way to know something
beyond is you must be away from this. because somewhere you are not able to
accept the simple biology of a human being⌠which is a tragedy that you
cannot accept the simple biology. You either have to celebrate it or you have to
push it down the drain - both are not needed. You can look at it for the limitation that
it is and for the possibility that it is. So, if because of the impurity of sex,
your spirituality is going to get disturbed, I want you to know that your very birth is impure. When you come from such an impure birth,
where is the possibility for you? There is no possibility for you. Only if you fell from somewhere else
- if the stork dropped you - there is some possibility of you becoming spiritual. If your mother had a normal birth,
you have no possibility. A six-year-old girl came home one day from school, and asked, âMama, how was I born?â The mother was embarrassed. She said, âA stork dropped you.â She said, âOkayâ, she noted down. âMama, how were you born?â âA stork dropped me too.â âMama, how was Grandmama born?â âA stork dropped her too.â Then the girl became serious, and she went
down and sat down and started writing something in her homework. Then the mother was feeling uncomfortable. She finished her cooking, and then the girl had
finished her homework and left the book there. She went and read. So, the essay was about the family tree. So, the girl had written, âFor three generations
in my family, nobody had a natural birth.â So, because of absurd ideas, either we exaggerate
something or we try to unnecessarily play it down. It has a certain role in your life. If you make it too big, you will become perverted in your head. If you try to obliterate it, you will become
even more perverted in your mind. After all, now I am speaking - this is a kind of energy. You are looking at me - this is a kind of energy. You are listening to me - this is a kind of energy. These are different expressions
of the same life energy, isn't it? Now, sexuality is also another
expression of the same energy. Now, one has to decide how much of his energy,
in which direction, he wants to send it. Because after all, you are
a limited amount of energy, isn't it? See, itâs just like, you have an income⌠Letâs say you have $5,000 a month, how much for the house rent, how much for eating,
how much for schooling, how much just for fun, how much for vacation - you apportion, isn't it? Tomorrow morning, you got your salary;
in the evening, you went out and blew it up. Now the next month is going to be trouble, isn't it? Of course you have a credit card, but⌠Everything in your life⌠If you are handling your life sensibly, everything in your
life is apportioned according to your understanding, your need and your capability. Isn't it so? Yes? Your money, time, energy, isnât everything
allotted, the way you like to arrange it? This is also the same thing - how much of it? First of all, do you need it? Or are you doing it because of socially you are psyched? If there is a need, if I ask you to stop it, you will become perverted,
because it will all happen in your head. If somebody is telling you, âYou have to do it! If you donât do it, you are not normal,â
another kind of perversion will come. Both are not needed. After all, you are not going after a man or woman. You are going after a certain level of pleasantness. So, once you experience a certain level of pleasantness,
wouldnât you like to dig deeper into this? Because... whatever pleasantness happened - maybe you used the other person, but the
pleasantness happened within you, right? So, suppose anyway the pleasantness is happening
within you, the other person is just a key to open this, wouldnât you like to have the key in your own hands? Yes? That if you sit like this, you are on full scale. You donât need anybody⌠No. See, anything⌠anything in your life, either for
pleasure, money, love, this, that, it doesnât matter what, for whatever, the moment you become dependent on another person,
nobody on this planet is truly reliable, isn't it? I keep hearing these complaints all over. Some people, generally woman keep complaining
their husbands are excessively physical. Some woman constantly complaining,
âHe doesnât lay a finger upon me.â Whatever happens, itâs a problem; because
it will never happen exactly the way you want it. As long as another person is involved, nothing will
ever happen 100% the way you want it. Isn't it so? Yes or no? It never will. It doesnât matter if you get married
to a God, it still wonât happen. As long as your way of being, your sense of
pleasure and joy, is dependent on another person, you will always have a complaint. It doesnât matter how wonderful the other person is. So, in this context people might have talked about celibacy because, they said, take some time off because, to extract pleasure out of somebody
you have to play any number of tricks It doesn't happen simply. This is called as courting. Once you go to the court, the judgement day will come. It take enormous amount of time, effort, energy and.. all kind of other things frustrations,
jealousy, problems everything attached to it So somebody said take time off those things
and see if this could be internally generated and then being with people will become
more out of your love than out of your need which is definitely a better way to be with people, isn't it? which is definitely a better way of
honoring another human being, isn't it so? Give this a little more attention. Instead of paying attention to that
one and that one and that one. Give this one a little more attention. It will produce much more pleasure than
any other one can produce this for you.
This change in perspective on our essential being is part of the key to acceptance of death. Go figure.
Our evolution, to an acceptance of death as the human species, is essential to a sustainable, compassion-based lifeway.