Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo - Purpose of Marriage | AFG 2021 | Purposeful living

praise god praise god praise god i'm so glad to be shining this great great conference anointing for greatness conference 201 such an awesome privilege to be bringing you god's word today i want to especially appreciate the leadership of this great church our ccg city of david and lana thank you thank you for having me i want to especially also appreciate the pastor pastor joe tecon thank you thank you very much such an honor to be bringing you guys water like i said earlier on i look forward to being able to share fellowship with you physically very soon praise god all right i'm going to go right into the word today today i'm going to move in more into the purpose of marriage the purpose of marriage now i understand that everybody here is not married i understand that everybody here might not even be planning to get married but i just feel it's important that we come back to the original purpose of marriage that god had in mind miles moreau said when the purpose of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable when the purpose of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable so we have to go back to the creator's manual and ask him what the purpose of marriage is i think we must first first agree who the creator of marriage is it wasn't the talk shows that created marriage it wasn't a media that created marriage it wasn't the blogs that created marriage marriage was created by god god is the creator of marriage and that is why we must always go back to his word to find out what the purpose of marriage is people ask me all the time why does marriage look so hard why marriage is failing what's wrong with marriage there is nothing wrong with marriage there's only only things wrong with how people are doing marriage all right the more we move away from god's original plan in marriage the more we will struggle and this is true for any other thing the more you move away from what god had in mind for marriage the more we will struggle our struggle is simply because we have ignored and neglected the original design of marriage marriage is a beautiful thing it's the first institution god himself started it's such a beautiful thing and i i wish more and more people can begin to line up with god's original plan for marriage if we can line up with it we'll enjoy all the things that god promised anytime you're not experiencing what god promised just go and find out what you are ignoring you are missing something it's never from god's end all right every time you are not enjoying all the things god said you would enjoy in something anytime you're not enjoying the promises of god guess who missed the mark is usually us all right so i pray that this will help us just lay basic foundation of what the purpose of marriage is in my last video i remember i said something the last administration we had my own session of this great meeting i talked about the fact that there's nowhere in scripture god says we should marry who we love he just said we should love who we marry he didn't say should marry who you love he said you should love who you marry he's just trying to say look marriage can be built on something so um light or weak as human love okay human kind of love see that can hold a marriage everybody that is divorced today once taught or once said once claimed they were in love real marriage you must commit to who you marry eventually okay but let's deal with more about the purpose of marriage there are several major purposes from scripture that i have discovered there might be more maybe but i have discovered seven from scripture that god had in mind when he was creating marriage praise god you know and as i move on you will understand why why i started with the sentence saying that there's no way god said you should marry who you love he only said you should love who you marry you will understand that in a bit let's just move on okay so let's start number one purpose of marriage is to complement each other to complement each other complement with the e okay now with the i the one with the e c o m p l e m e and c complement that's to aid to support to you know walk with each other listen guys this is this is very important no matter how powerful you are you will always need people around you know man is an island that's how god created us god created us in such a powerful way that we will always still need human beings that's why i said it's not good for the man to be alone he wasn't talking about loneliness he was just talking about being isolated and being alone there's a difference you can be you can be alone and not be lonely i have a full message with that title lonely but under the law but not lonely all right you can be alone and not be lonely so god is not talking about loneliness in genesis chapter 2 you know where in verse 18 where he said and god said it's not good that the man should be alone i will make him a helmet for him god is not talking about loneliness god was just saying that as human beings we need other human beings around us he's not talking about loneliness adam was not lonely there was no record of adam praying for a wife there's no record of what i'm saying i'm tired of this life i'm tired of my single life god rescue me there is no record of that adam never prayed for her adam didn't even know he needed a wife but god was saying look it's not good no please take no this was the same god that everything he had made in genesis chapter one god i was saying it was good it was good to say i made the stars it was good maybe what i was good but when he got to chapter 2 verse 18 for the first time god said something is not good and he was saying it's not good that the man should be alone he needs somebody to compliment him and this way i'm going he needs somebody to compliment him he needs somebody to be with him because some way life is created you don't have all the gifts you need nobody has all the gifts they need nobody has all the capacities or abilities they need you always need somebody that has other gifts or abilities then you guys will come together and complement each other i didn't say you have to complete each other you complement there's a difference you are completely in christ all right but you need to complement each other all right so this is why the first marriage wasn't built around loving each other it was built around around functionality i said that in the first administration so please those of you that were not here he's not watching please go watch it on your church where um uh youtube or website or however this display i dealt with that a bit there that functionality is superior in the eyes of god than just affection so the first marriage was never built on that they were in love what it was built on was it's not good that the man should be alone are we making me help meat it needs to help me it's not meet help meet does help that is suitable for him it was functionality help help so the first marriage was built on us complementing each other helping each other working with each other the functionality of the relationship not the affection of the relationship now this doesn't mean affection is not important of course affection is good but we don't always feel like i get what i'm saying guys and i tell women sometimes this is why a man when when a man falls in love a man first of all needs you before he loves you okay ladies listen to me a man needs you before he loves you a woman loves you before she needs you i have a book titled pink and blue and i have a series of messages that cover this that will help you you know a man needs you so many women when i say he loves you he needs you first he sees something he has to gain something he needs in your life maybe you help him put his life in order maybe you motivate him maybe challenge him there's something about him a man usually can articulate why he wants to marry a woman it might even just be your beauty yes might be your ship yeah get that but he knows what he wants a man needs you first before he starts to give you emotion before he loves you a woman on their hand first loves and that confuses a man that is using my man thinks oh she should not need me should i put demands on me no she will eventually she loves you first then she begins to need you to call regularly she begins to need you to visit regularly she begins to need you to help with some bills glory to god all right so first things to complement each other you see this in eclipse chapter four the bible said um two are better than one they have a good reward for their labor he said if one falls down the other can raise him up woe to him that is alone when he falls we can compliment each other all right we can complement each other very important this is why opposites always usually attract this is why opposites always usually attract okay what i mean opposites of course i don't mean opposite in values your values might be the same both of you need to be in christ a lot of you must be christians but of the bible believing christians must be you know people that believe the same kind of things your values should be the same but usually your personalities are different a talker will marry a listener two talkers can marry if they do it will be disaster because nobody will listen have you seen two talk they just talk and talk and talk about listen most times opposites attract because the talker is fascinated with the listener and the listener is fascinated with the talker this is you know we're always fascinated by what we don't have nobody is thrilled by what he has nobody is true by what he has so this is why people in nigeria want to travel out there to atlanta and there are many people in a lot and i want to go back home i'm telling you that people are saying no my dream is that when i walk in america for a while i'll go back home and set up people in nigeria are tired of that they want to come out there to alana you know this is why people like safari they're like oh they want to go to africa oh see lions will see anime house we in nigeria we live without a house there are cows on our express road we live with animals we want to come and see the city i get what i'm saying guys so we are usually fascinated by what we don't have this is why opposites attract so the talker will be fascinated by how quiet and how much of a listener that person is how she listens and they begin to talk and talk and talk you know and and the listener is fascinated by how this guy can just express himself he can see everything in his mind so they usually attract all right the spender usually attracts the saver things that cause problem marriage i have full messages on these things how to deal with the differences if you see those things on my youtube channel i dealt with those things in detail because the when the opposites are tracked that's just stage one stage two is where the opposites for straight because after a while they talk i will not be like you don't talk you listen don't you talk and the listener will be like don't you keep quiet you're always talking so what attracted them eventually frustrates them you know that's where they must manage if they don't manage that part well it leads to it leads to frustration if they don't handle that part where it leads to separation or even divorce because you find out the thing most people are complaining about they knew these things whether it was fascinating when they were dating it was fascinating when the marriage was new after a while it gets tiring the the organized person usually is attracted to the scattered person it just happens you find that you and your spouse have a lot of things you know opposites remember not your core values those are usually the same however all those should be the same however personalities will be different spend our marriage saver organize married scattered to organize people with quarrel because they all have where they believe they think should be two heavily driven people will have issues so somebody's very driven usually attracting somebody a bit laid back all right that's how god designed it we're meant to complement each other sometimes the thing about your spouse you're complaining about the most is what you were sent to compliment them about all right all right so number one is for us to complement each other for those uh that haven't heard my messages like i said when when opposites attract it for it attracts it then frustrates after that it now alternates all right attracts frustrates and alternates so eventually you will exchange strengths and weaknesses but you must know how to handle it in the middle so that you can cope and appreciate your spouse for what they carry i appreciate you that scattered appreciate the organization has benefits to their own lives trust me that things they are not as as risk averse as you all right they are risk takers because sometimes in life you need to take risk okay so compliment each other that's number one so we we we we are meant to complement ourselves that's what marriage is about so when you're getting married sometimes you need to find out am i going to be of any value to this person this is going to be value to me apart from affection how we doing in terms of complementing each other number two purpose of marriage is that it's meant to build character in us marriage is meant to build character in us everybody thinks they're good they're good so i'm such a nice person i'm so caring anybody that marries me will enjoy marriage will test your character marriage you test your character if you think you are nice wait till you get married if you think you're patient wait till you get married you don't know you have a sharp mouth wait till you get married marriage will test your character listen there's nothing that builds character in humans like like marriage it's easy to be nice for a few hours easy to be nice to a few hours in church to be nice all day every day to be kind all day every day that's the test of character many people don't have the capacity to be nice for a long time marriage will test your character that's why you notice in ephesians 5 they talked about they talked about christ like character throughout ephesians 5. they said wives submit yourself to your own husband just like you're submitting to christ you see then they said husbands love your wife learn to put her first just like christ put the church first you see they are pointing to christ like character marriage will stretch you think you're a nice person marry let your spouse tell us how nice you are i remember a story of the of one pastor's wife that came to the altar during service and sat down on the altar they said mama what's wrong she said i want to marry the man that preaches here they say but you're already married to him he said no he said the one that preaches here it's even from the one at home the one that preaches here he's always nice always funny always jovial always caring but the one at home is mean and weak ahead he says i don't want that one is this one on the stage i want it's easy to be funny and nice and jovial on the stage most people when they even see me preaching and say all this man can talk a lot outside stage i'm very quiet very quiet i don't talk a lot so marriage tests and builds your character you you don't know how selfish you are until you marry you don't know how self-centered how self-obsessed you aren't your man you don't know how dirty you are you don't know how intolerant you are until you marry you taught all the things god said you're doing the bible is easy until you marry you know how how hard it is to forgive and continue smiling you know how hard it is to walk in love re-love or not have not emotional love love the action hallelujah all right so number one compliment number two character okay number one compliment under compliment i forgot to say there are about five stages and i have this fully dealt with my my on my youtube channel like i said on my books uh the five stages when both of you are different the first stage is number one you need to um be aware that both of you are different be aware that a spender marries a saver and they say vampire is a spender that's how it works so be aware of the differences you will have major difference between you and your spouse number two you need to um are pre into number one be aware number two accept that person's difference your job is not to change them your job is not to change your spouse you see nobody can change on that human being your job is not to change them accept them accept them for who they are you can't change anybody the earlier you accept them better if you had working hard to change them you were frustrated each other number three appreciate it so this thing that they are what is what combo is the possible benefit if you expend that your saver spouse will frustrate you but you see without the saver you will never have a savings now if you're a saver without the spender you guys will never buy anything you enjoy your life you save all the money and die and leave the money here so appreciate them what is the benefit of that their own character in the marriage and after that number four adjust adjust life can be easy when you are just our frustrations happen because we want to change people the time we want to change them we don't realize that we can't change anybody so just adjust if your spouse always drops his clothes hey pick it up if it frustrates you so much pick it up or get used to it being there but don't work yourself up don't get frustrated over nothing you know learn to adjust then number five alternate you'll find that that person will help you to to ease up on life will help you to adjust because your own two can be extreme they will help you to adjust if you are over thrift you save and save and save and save and save and save us and you know you are even hungry you are saving you astringent to yourself this panda will help you ease up a bit and if you are the spender you make money you spend this make you never save the saver will also help you save it so those are the five stages but i couldn't go into them in detail so number one purpose of marriage complement number two character number three companionship is the thought purpose of marriage he said how can you excuse this is for how can you be warm if you don't lie together if you lie alone how can you be warm that too when the light together they will have heat life is so such a drag sometimes life is such a long journey marriage is one of the benefit of the areas where you god can provide a companion for you someone you can share with so you can go on the journey of life with someone that can bear the burden of life with you someone you can have a chance to give to and i can also give back to you companionship can you imagine when good things are happening in your life you need people you can share it with where everyone challenges that's happening in your life you need people you can share it with companionship is crucial you can't be warm except you have another person lying with you all right so companionship is under major major purpose of marriage this is why if you're already married though it's unfair not to be emotionally available to your spouse it's unfair not to sit down and spend time with your spouse it's actually like you are you are sinning because the whole purpose of this marriage is for you to spend time together i tell people all the time the only thing worse than being single and lonely is being married and lonely that's the reason was that being single unloading there are people that are married and still lonely because the person they're married to doesn't connect with them listen and you can build the connection you can build the companionship all right you don't leave it to a chance you must be deliberate around it a lot you know mostly a bit about it there are times you need to take time off the time you let somebody else take care of your kids and both of you spend time together you need to share about how your day is going you can't be too busy not to call your spouse you can't be too busy not to keep in touch with your spouse that's a crime companionship is very crucial if you're single the same thing matters please marry your friend people don't understand what i'm saying that the things that really god wants us to focus on before marriage love is not on the list companionship friendship marry your friend it's important part of it is a friend is available at all times a friend sticks closer than a brother friendship is important friendship holds a marriage this why some people are married they can't talk to their spouse they have nothing to discuss because they were just married they were no they were not even friends at all build friendship i tell people don't look for your spouse and make them your friend listen look amongs your friends and make one your spouse all right can we talk do we have things in common do we enjoy each other's company can i talk to you because young people don't realize that the majority of what we do in marriage is talking you know young people many times i wish i could get my people and young people to talk so they would just ask questions and ask how it's going so that would give them you know a great idea of how it's going because single people have all kinds of ideas about something marriage they're thinking my job by just doing is just having sex that's what single people think their wife says i'm going tonight no no no no no no there are many my people that in two months have never had sex now that's not good but that's what's happening as a counselor i know that i deal with those kind of cases there was been a couple that had not had sex for two years as a counselor our training is that you must not spook your clients you must never react no matter what your clients tell you must keep the same face that day i broke down rule of counseling when they told me the mother of two years young couple i shouted yay hey i get what i'm saying somebody you know so young people think that's what we're doing no no no if there are 24 hours in a day if you guys pray for one hour you have 23 hours left you have sex for one hour it doesn't last that long but i'll just dash you you have sex for one hour you have 22 hours left what do you think you're doing for 22 hours talking friendship that's what you're doing so this person should be your friend marry your friend i say it all the time all right if you can't talk to that people that say oh i can't tell my husband oh i can't tell my wife how are you friends if you can't talk all right so companionship is the third reason for marriage number four purpose for marriage koitos they're by the way compliment character companionship number four coitus conjures an award for sex one of the purpose of marriage is to contain sex because sex is such a powerful thing guys people always and that's the stan's work he tries to minimize the impact of sex it was there everybody's doing it there's no big deal no there's a big deal sex is heavily spiritual it's one of the strongest emotions and experiences a human can ever feel or have sex is powerful this is why you see talks about rape is powerful you see unbelievers even know that that rape is such a big deal why is rape a big deal because sex is a big deal that's why because people would forcefully take people's bags it's never as much as a big deal people phosphorylate people's phone is never such a big deal when people forcefully take people's sex you feel it's a big deal they impact emotionally and physically on the victims is is is immeasurable it's it's it's horrible because sex is serious that is why that's what i'm trying to tell you that is why so don't let anybody minimize that for you so when you that's what the bible said interview to born marry do you know why there are not enough marriages on the earth i can tell you very simply one reason why there are fewer marriages we have fewer marriages and more sex do you know why because we have gone against god's wisdom so people are sharing all the benefits of marriage without the commitment of marriage that's what they're doing if everybody can say who will keep sex their marriage people will get married every day you'll get married because many single people are enjoying all the benefits of marriage without getting married nobody wants the commitment of marriage they just want the benefits of marriage so all the singapore are sleeping around so there's no need to marry and even when they marry those habits now don't go the impact still remains hmm so sex is one of the problems of marriage to contain sex because sex is powerful but only we had in a committed relationship and the only recognized committed relationship is married not dating not dating planning to marry is not marriage you can't believe somebody applying to manu let them marry you commitment of marriage that's the only place safe to have sex only safe sex exists is marriage condoms doesn't make you safe sex what makes it safe sex is two people eternally committed to each other forever exclusively all right so and for those of you that are married that's why it's a crime to deprive your spouse of sexual fulfillment he's there in scripture first corinthians chapter seven starting from verse one talking about you know if responsible be single leave single but if it's not possible it's better to marry instead of the bond but i said for those of you that are married also make sure you render do you benevolence look at this i can read it for you first question seven verse one now concerning the things well if you wrote unto me say it is good for a man not to touch a woman next was nevertheless to avoid fornication let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband you see you want to contain that sexual power he said let the husband run down to the wife do you the world do is means duty it's not it's it's due to your spouse due benevolence and likewise also the wife untoward the husband look at verse four the wife had no power of her own body but the husband and likewise also the husband had no power of his own body but the wife they said look when you are married it is your husband's right to have access to your body when your mind is your wife's right to have access to you you know the man's body okay very important you need to understand that could i put you with whole sex as punishment bible calls it fraud they say don't defraud one another not that but who cause it bible causes fraud i mean in my country's efcc that will arrest you you know maybe you're in atlanta maybe it's fbi that will arrest you it's fraud so you must be available no you don't always have to be in the mood like my wife always said there's beautiful sex and there's dutiful sex beautiful sex when we are put in the more duty for sex that one person in the mood but you still render full service to that person with a good attitude glory to god number five number five children especially godly seed not just having children but raising godly children so children it's also one of the purposes of for marriage not just to have kids but to raise godly kids you see this in malachi chapter 2. he said why did he bring both of you together he said so that you will raise godly seed so why did he bring both of you together so that you raise godly seed so god wants two godly people this is why if you're a believer you can't go and marry an unbeliever is there in the bible he said second question 6 14 he said how you can be unequally yoked together with unbeliever what will you righteousness have to do with unrighteousness what do you christ have to do with billions of satan what does light what agreement or conquer has lied with darkness you can't be a christian because your mind an unbeliever you are not going to fulfill the possible marriage of raising godly kids god wants two godly people to come together and raise godly seed god's biggest form of evangelism is family if the families can be godly they will raise godly kids very very very important all right and parenting is not just a woman's job there are so many men that think my only job is to get money no there's an aspect of your kid's life that only men can bring aspect of your kid's life that only women can bring this is why most single parenting situations are the ones most faced with the challenge of bringing kids upright the statistics are there for you you can just google it in america large amount of those kids that grow up in single home situations are the ones that end up in prison of course the ones that also produce bad marriages they become abusive of course you can change the statistic if you're here like that okay i'm just i'm giving you what the statistics say and what the scripture wants it's two godly parents raising godly kids very important do you know how difficult it is for one parent i mean for two of them for two parents to raise the kid then imagine one parent bearing that whole job it's too bad this is why you can't just walk out of your marriage anyhow all right there are too many people just saying i'm tired and they want to walk out and live with a partner that's why i'm saying that loving after is more important than loving before okay very important raising godly seed raising godly seed you need to teach your children that church is important you need to teach your children that living a godly life is important they need to learn it from you they will learn it from you if you love them and respect them and emulate and show them how to live impacts them more than any preaching of any pastor because they live with you you can be a christian in church and they see both of you fighting at home they see both of you insult each other at home they see both of you lying at home it's just going to impact them wrongly they need to see that your god is real both in church and even at home somebody getting what i'm saying children learn more from what they see than from what they hear number six collaboration on that reason why god created marriage is for two people to collaborate together when two of us pursue a dream together we have more impact it's a one which is a thousand two which is ten thousand you know he said two are better than one they will have a better reward for their labor they have multiplied results when we collaborate together the bible said if two of you shall agree as touching anything matthew 18 he says shall be dawn of my father when two people agree it has more power so when we come together marriage is the highest level of agreement two people can have so come together and agree about things come together and pursue territories together take kingdom territories not just you know personal territories yes you should take personal territories but also take kingdom territories there's power in your agreement there's power when two of you agree as touching anything it shall be done of my father in heaven look at it there is there matthew 18. we'll have two officials agree like it's in matthew 18 19. again i say unto you that if two of you shall agree on it as touching anything that should ask it shall be done can you imagine that what are you going to agree with your husband and wife you see and this is the issue they are not talking about agreement notice on the spot who must continue to agree about it so it's too many people that's why when you understand this you you resist this temptation of winning the argument is that you work at winning the agreement many couples are trying to win the argument instead of winning the agreement the agreement is more important than the argument i never get what i'm saying the agreement is more important than the argument both of you should agree together about your staff from your own territory start from your own family then you start taking kingdom to histories and as i say oh this world the amount of churches you want to plant this is the amount of things i want to do for the kingdom this is how much you want to give to god's kingdom you see but if you start to agree about how your lives and your union is going to take kingdom territories you see there must be something higher than both of you in the marriage you're coming together just be because you want to be together there should be our community together must have a higher purpose when there's a higher purpose it helps us you see when a human means most united is when they have a common vision once there is no bigger vision than two of us will stop bickering and fighting over small issues when there's a bigger vision when there's a bigger vision we we start to ignore these smaller things i live in nigeria nigeria is most united when we're playing football we are playing world cup we have a bigger vision to win the match we don't care which tribes cause the goal the moment the concern is over we go back to this my tribe that's your tribe all right that's the power of vision so collaboration means two of us come together we have a higher purpose we begin to see our marriage as ministry if you're going to see your marriage as ministry oh it changed my whole life when i was getting married i understood i'm not just minding this woman for just marrying sick we are together supposed to achieve something for god that change your whole dynamics don't focus on just loving each other that's great but that's that kind of sustain what are we here together for what do you want to do together for god what do you want to do together for mankind what do i do together for humanity so powerful collaboration i tell people all the time there's nothing i might have agreed about that has not happened there's nothing except we didn't agree once we agree about it it always happens matthew 18 19. once we agree about it the honey this is what we want to do once we agree about it it happens the place we live now we agreed like that was i want to move to a new neighborhood and where i was living before i had certain things i wanted i played lone tennis where i was living before i said honey we need this new place we're living he must answer that my need of recreation playing on tennis because that's how i do exercise we also agreed that oh we didn't want to use generators where we're coming from you know you have to buy generator you you know average of two generators but one can pack up without notice so you need the big generator the small generator depending on the need you know all kinds of things so we had things we wanted we wanted an estate that had to exist we had things but we just agreed and guess what the place we live today every single thing that we mentioned the month we were moving into that new neighborhood they started building two tennis courts the months were moving to that place they started the 24-hour power supply and they estimate you know so i've not had a generator for years now so everything we agreed about it has multiple exit has multiple exits if there's traffic on one side that can use it these are things we're specific about i can go on and on but there's nothing we've agreed about there's nothing we've agreed about one time we sat in there in the car i just told my after honey i believe that in my later years i'm going to retire i'm going to live in another country maybe i'll just go and leave you now come to me or come to atlanta if you guys want me to come i just saw that for many years when i'm old i'm ready to retire i don't live in nigeria i'm just going to live in another country i said you know what i think i'm believing god for let me go for a million dollars i want to have enough money to just go to another country and buy a house i don't like owing i don't like mortgages i don't like paying every month i want to just go and buy a house so i said that was many years ago i said let's believe go for a million dollars now please take note i had no income near that i i i at that time my church wasn't even paying me a salary so i had no natural income i don't do any business not that business is bad but i just don't do business this is all i do because my schedule is even too crazy so i just only preach this is all i do so i was telling her that time we had no money no business no my church wasn't even paying me so there's no natural means to even get this money but we when they come from the house i said oh let's believe god for a million dollars somehow i was like okay so i'm going to be changing narrative so i'm going to i said i don't know for a million dollars i mean there was nothing it's not like today i'm even popular no there was nothing no natural way that money was going to come this was many years ago we agreed like this on a monday on the thursday of that same week the same week we just agreed on the thursday of that same week somebody came to our house early in the morning if i had my bath knocked at the door a couple i opened the door do you guys want to come in and say when i come in you just want to drop this he dropped it back the perfume back when i saw the perfume gap my face fell because i felt you guys woke up in the morning come and wake me up in the morning to give him perfume back or give him perfume i have a few minutes my wardrobe i was not using they now told me it's not perfume that is there so i opened the bag when i got inside opened the bag it was a hundred thousand dollars in cash in cash trust me it was the most beautiful thing ever a hundred thousand dollars in cash i don't know if there's a lot of money in atlanta you guys are rich guys that might not be a lot of money but in nigeria it was a lot of money a hundred thousand dollars in cash the same week i said i wonder i was living for him we agreed rather that would be living over a million dollars that i'm trying to tell you that if you understand it you'll stop calling with your wife you guys will start stop focusing on winning the argument you start focusing on winning the agreement save two of you i'm not doing that look at it here matthew 18 19 save two of you shall agree as touching anything i say it will be done of my father lies in heaven started agreeing with your spouse he didn't even say agreement prayer he said i agree whether his christians that put prayer inside he didn't say again but i said two of you shall agree two of us come together and agree just like the tower of babel they agreed and god said nothing will be impossible to them but he turned them then after they argue and satan is doing the same thing today because my wife not to understand themselves once they're arguing again the dream is gone that will not be your portion in the name of jesus i don't have some more time i'll round up with this one number seven purpose of marriage is for covenant it's for covenant god is a covenant god you know we sing it all the time covenant keeping god there is no one like you must understand god doesn't believe in normal relationships he has no interest in normal relationships he believes only in covenant relationships only governor so even those places where they said a friend's stick's christian cousin and a brother what that actually was saying is that a covenant friend sticks closer than an ordinary brother god values covenant relationship more than you know siblings more than my father my mother no no god always practices covenant relationship over sibling relationship that's why i said therefore shall a man live for that mother that's a very vital relationship i said there's a higher relationship and cleave to his wife that's a covenant relationship i say the two of them shall be one person that phrase one person i'm sorry that phrase one flesh means one person it means governor relationship two people shall become one god always values covenant relationships modern ordinary relationships trust me see there's a friend that sticks closer than my brother you know even the common saying that people say that blood is thicker than water there's so many people used to confuse themselves they say blood and water what they mean is that my blood my parents are my blood my sister bro it's my plan of my wife no no no no your spouse is blood now and your siblings and parents are water the real saying that really saying blood is thicker than water what the real thing meant if the water there is water of your parents uh you know your mother's pregnancy you know most of you know this medically when a woman wants to give birth her water needs to break so when they say water talking about your mother's water you know you share that with your brother and you share that with your mother they said blood because covenant is by blood says covenant blood is stronger than the water of my mother okay people don't realize that even in john chapter three when the bible talks about it was born of the water and of the spirit that's the water they're referring to there water of natural breath because in that scripture they were referring to natural breath and spiritual but natural breath is water it was born of the water then of the spirit i don't know if that makes sense to you so god believes in covenant relationships and the covenant is never between two people covenant is always between three people it's two of us then god so when you enter your covenant it's not just the covenant to your spouse it's also a covenant to god because god is the covenant witness i have a message titled seven differences between a covenant and a contract there's no time for me to go into it today seven differences between a covenant and a contract in a covenant in the contract the law is the witness and the enforcer in a covenant god is the witness and the enforcer that's why it's three is a three-fold court that is not easily broken me and my spouse then god like a triangle me and my spouse then god on top he's the one that holds us together a covenant relationship in a contract a contract can end the covenant cannot break that's why we say till death do us part i don't have time to go into the gist of it but the point is that when you marry you are in a covenant it's not just a contract it's not just a friendship it's not just a relationship so you must think twice before you enter you don't enter with somebody you don't trust you don't enter and start hiding your money you enter and give your all that's what the covenant is if you can't trust someone then don't marry them if you are not going to give your all to this person don't marry them a covenant is for everything hallelujah i wish i had more time but my time is up so a covenant is the purpose of marriage to shall because this is why you change your name when you marry to another one we die as individuals who resurrect as one person you two shall become one person one flesh are you here somebody i hope this is blessing you and the covenant is strongest relationship that exists is totally unbreakable in the eyes of god are you here that's why there's nowhere you'll see in scripture where god himself said people should divorce everywhere it was said it was men that brought it it wasn't god that started divorce now i'm not condemning anybody here if you are divorced i'm not saying you can never even divorce but i'm saying that in god's eyes he said from the beginning it was not so he doesn't want it as i said god hates divorce he wants you to keep your covenant he wants you to fight through that marriage he knows you have what it takes and i believe that when you honor the covenant god to we honor you in the name of jesus i pray for everyone watching me today i pray that you will fulfill your purposes of marriage you will not just marry anyone your marriage will not crash the help of god will visit you in the name of jesus you will fulfill purpose in the mighty name of jesus and before you step into that mind with that person god will give you clarity in the mighty name of jesus thank you heavenly father in jesus mighty name we have prayed amen and amen and amen

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Published: Wed Sep 22 2021