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ass credit people with the classic evil stepmom what makes them so evil let me start off by saying that this made my blood boil while house-sitting for my parents this weekend when I get a call from my fiancee I can tell from the tone of her voice that she's upset I asked her what's wrong and she tells me that while out to lunch with her dad and stepmom married for about three months now and is the evil mom of this story her stepmom wanted to talk to her about the wedding guest list the stepmom thinks that my fiancee should invite the stepmoms adult daughters to our wedding the problem with this is we don't know her daughters when we met her daughters at set mom's wedding they barely talked to my fiance and pretty much ignored me for the entire wedding and reception my fiancee told her that it's not a good idea since we hardly know them and that our guest list is already tightly packed due to a lot of family I have a large family and friends that we do know well wanting to attend the stepmom counters this with sternly telling my fiance that since they are going to be related soon and that our wedding would be a good time to build a relationship with her daughters my fiance then tells her that our wedding might not be the best time to do that and tells her again that the guest list is tightly packed my fiance's response caused her stepmom to huff and tells my fiance that she should reconsider for my fiance sake her stepmom Ben condescending asks if she knows all everyone in Opie's family tree I must note here that my fiance had previously went to a family reunion this past Christmas she met nearly every one of my relatives on both mother's and father's side of the family she took part in all the festivities and got to know everyone very well my fiance then tells her stepmom that she would have run her request by the both of us and walks away when she told me everything over the phone I exploded and took ten minutes to calm down after calling her stepmom every colorful word under the Sun in what world does her stepmom even think that she has a say in our wedding guest list she's not paying for anything or even doing anything for the wedding but yet she thinks she can run crap exactly how entitled do you have to ducking be to think that this is okay my parents are the one paying for 40% of the costs while I'm paying for the rest her stepmom needs to stay in her Lane I'm recently engaged and have long known that I do not want my stuff mom at my wedding I am worried about her ruining not only my special day but everyone in attendance in short I cannot trust her to not cause drama or make a scene she is consistently an ill intended person who wreaks havoc on others she and my dad to a lesser extent find pleasure and misery and always seem to have issues with others I am not close with my dad and only speak to him twice a year when I call him for birthday and Father's Day I won't have my feelings hurt if he doesn't go as I already accept our limited relationship my sister got married several years ago and my dad and stepmom decided just months before it to go no contact with my sister over a very small issue they did not go to my sister's wedding I honestly felt like it was better that they weren't there no risk for them to ruin the day as I am almost positive they would have as I am about to be married I am wondering how best to deal with this I don't mind if my dad is there but I absolutely can't have my stepmom there I 21 years old female suffer from depression and anxiety so does my stepmother 45 years old female one of my problems when I'm super depressed is I don't clean my room there will be a lot of takeout bags and stuff like that on the floor and it gets difficult to even walk on the room I know this is a problem and when I got bad I spoke to my father about it and he knows that I just need someone to tell me to clean and I will I struggle doing it on my own because I'm so unmotivated and then when I have the energy to I'm so anxious about being seen with the garbage because I know it's terrible that I hide away in my room over the last few months I've gotten better and I set times for me to clean after work anyway I got home from work ready to clean my room because it had gotten bad again and I come home to all of the garbage piled up on my bed I was furious and when I asked my dad he had no idea it happened so I knew my stepmother was the one who put it there I am very careful with my garbage because I don't want any mold or bugs so it's always clean garbage no real food stuff that can go bad but I had a small bowl of soup from the night before that I was going to throw out and it spilled all over my bed my sheets and everything needed to be cleaned and my mattress is ruined and I need a new one but can't afford it I texted my stepmother and told her it was disrespectful to go in my room when I'm not there and that she should have just texted me instead of throwing the garbage on my bed she told me she treat me like an adult when I started acting like since then we have not spoken and it has been a week I refuse to talk to her or even really look at her I know I have a problem but I am managing it she suffered from the same problems but had never taken me seriously or seemed to respect me I originally felt like I was in the right but as time goes on I hear her talking to my dad about having a discussion with me since I no longer eat with him and she's home and I'm starting to wonder if I am in the wrong so my wife's stepmother my stepmother in law is a real piece of work every life event she causes some kind of drama to bring all the attention to her to name a few in the past year weddings funerals and now the birth of my son her husband's first grandchild stepmother-in-law has made it clear that her husband's kids are her number one threat and treats them as such as a result she always tries to engineer drama to caused distance between us and father-in-law we were wondering what it would be for this major life event the birth of our first child and father in law's first grandchild our midwife and pediatrician both recommended that any early visitors to see our son should be up to date on their TDA pee and flu vaccines so we kindly let all the uncles and grandparents know everyone agreed and we thought it was a non-issue even our brother's girlfriends got vaccinated because they were so excited to meet our son every single family member confirmed their shots were up to date or got their shots weeks ago cut to the day my wife went into labor she gets a text from her dad saying his wife is refusing to get the flu shot and any other vaccines as well she doesn't feel comfortable doing it but apparently feels comfortable getting multiple Botox filler injections every year and to tummy tucks since we've met her we say okay that's her right but she can't visit him they were set to fly in from out of town during flu season so we're not taking any chances with our child's life this boundary launches her into a tirade claiming we're disrespecting her and she has a right to make her own medical decisions and that we're trying to break her and my father-in-law apart I agree she has that right but it's my right to make medical decisions for my family as well I made it clear it's her choice but I think she's making the wrong choice mine too you stepmother-in-law literally blowing my wife's phone up as she's pushing out her first child I take the high road and send them updates when our son was born as this is happening stepmother and law hosts a selfie of her and father-in-law with the hashtag can't break us apart shortly after father-in-law lets us know he's coming in two days to visit he decides he's still bringing her even though she can't visit and we'll just have to sit in the hotel room it's clear she doesn't want to let him out of her grip so it's been two days my father-in-law is still very excited to meet my son but we haven't heard even a congrats from stepmother-in-law the first time my father-in-law meets his first grandson while his wife sits in her five-star hotel room alone he launches into a tirade of her talking points clear because he couldn't back any of it up when I asked questions he emphasized repeatedly you can't tell other people what to do with their medical decisions ironically when I changed my son's diaper father-in-law is surprised we didn't circumcise and lectures us that as a man it's important he gets circumsized I am NOT circumcised nor is anyone in my family nor are we from a religion that requires it so he decided not to obviously he is approaching insect levels of self-awareness at this point he wound up yelling at my wife as she is breastfeeding our newborn making them both cry I tell him he's got to leave now and not come back I make it clear we're definitely not visiting in December and February when we planned because she will never get the vaccine nor do we want to be around someone who cares so little about us and our family so it looks like step mother-in-law's plan worked and father-in-law will not be a part of my son's life for now after three years of turning the other cheek to her we have decided stepmother-in-law will never be a part of our son's life so as some of you know I've recently gotten engaged and I'm planning a wedding in one of my previous posts I outlined some of the horrible stuff my stepmother has done and about eight years ago everyone in the family just kind of accepted that it's better if we all pretend she doesn't exist and I never have to see her so I've been no contact with my stepmother and low contact with my dad he still visits occasionally and he's excited about the wedding so some backstory when I was about 10 I started to put on a lot of weight unexpectedly my mom took me to the doctor and the doctor said this is normal for girls who are about to start puberty they put on the weight and then it basically moves to the breasts and butt so my mom shrugged it off and when my dad asked her wait game she told him the doctor said it's normal and nothing to worry about that of course wasn't acceptable to my stepmother she started a rigorous exercise program for me never mind all the sports I wanted to play that my mom couldn't afford the equipment for girls don't play sports every time I visited my dad I would attend to Jazzercise classes with my stepmother a day and I was put on a very strict vegetarian diet while I was there so here's my stepmother and I eating spinach leaves with fat-free Italian dressing on it I get less because my weight is out of control apparently while my other siblings and my dad eat steak and mashed potatoes and get dessert this led to unhealthy eating habits as when I went back to my mom's I'd be ravenously hungry and binge eat and then I'd bench again before going to my dad's because I wouldn't get food she put padlocks on the pantry and the fridge to prevent me from stealing food even after I went through puberty got taller had an unusually large breasts for my age seriously I went from nothing to de over the course of one summer sixth grade was less than pleasant accusations of bras stuffing were rampant she still insisted that my ideal weight was what my doctor had quoted for a prepubescent ten-year-old when I was in high school her obsession with weight loss both mine and hers got a lot worse my dad thankfully found out she was locking the food up to prevent me from getting to it she told him it was to keep the dogs from getting into it and made her take them down so I was able to make sure I got some calories at night and at school so well I was able to maintain some meat on my bones by sneaking food my stepmother got skinnier and skinnier and pham she did not have the bones to support that thus my friends started calling her the Crypt Keeper because she had that anorexic sunken eyes and cheeks look anyway that's all to explain why I'm annoyed my stepmother and I don't speak but apparently when my dad told her I was getting married she took it upon herself to make a diet plan for me for my wedding and despite the fact that I haven't spoken a word to her in eight years and in those eight years I saw her once for my brother's wedding five years ago she knows all about my health needs and my dad gave her my email to send her plan to me which if it was just that I just have deleted the email and her address and moved on but oh no she used my email to find my facebook profile and twitter etc I spent most of the morning locking down all my accounts because she was posting passive-aggressive comments to my photos example I had a picture of me at the beach with my mom's family and I'd captioned it with so happy to spend time with my family her comment three years after this photo was posted is not your whole family on top of it she apparently found a future husband's Facebook as were listed as in a relationship on Facebook and sent him an email warning him that I'm apparently a super manipulative witch just like my mother and that he can definitely do better he showed me the email to ask if I wanted him to respond and how and I told him to just block her I'm so mad I have a job interview in a few hours so I'm gonna focus on that but I needed to rant about this crap to get it out of my system so it's not hanging over my hat my wife's stepmom for about the last three years is a total witch my father-in-law takes everything lying down so she started pushing him around and trying to change his whole life she kicked his 19 year old son out and permanently banned him even called the cops for trespassing when he came back for his stuff made him get a new job she keeps making new house rules that everyone has to follow no showing up unannounced come on really kids can't just drop by to say hi to their dad WTF rule arose from my wife wanting to come in when dropping off her brother and sister after picking them up from school no dogs in the house dad has had this dog for 10 plus years and now he has to kick it outside when it is old and sick other people's dogs are not allowed she made this rule about three days before my wife and I left for vacation dad had a Greek dog sit for us months before now we have to find a new sitter at the last minute the rule was made just to overthrow the pre agreement with dad her side of the family brings dogs over all the time so the latest thing is my brother-in-law's birthday party four weeks ago they planned a dinner at a restaurant and set the date at the end of the meal they say they can only pay for themselves because money is tight both brother and laws are working part-time minimum wage and sister-in-law is 16 and no job still lives with dad by the way that's right won't pay for the kids still in their house or the birthday boy after they arranged the dinner so my wife and I had to pay for the five of us and we leave last weekend we went over there and saw that they both had brand-new cars they were Kia's but still I'll try to keep this short for Father's Day I posted a picture of me and my father for Father's Day like a lot of people do he passed away over five years ago so I had put in a rest and peace at the end of my post my stepmother for years has requested I removed the r.i.p from my posts about him because of one reason she hasn't told anyone in her family that he's passed away she has explained to her family that he's on a business trip whenever they asked to talk to him or see him on skype she also occasionally post pictures of them seemingly like they were just taken to keep this lie afloat one is that she's simply not ready to tell them too is because in her culture supposedly widows have failed their husbands you see she is the only one of her family that is in America and she got over here on a marriage visa so it's not a culture I am a hundred percent used to also I guess they never told her family that he had cancer since before they were married so any of these posts she wants removed as well so when she demanded this time around saying that I just don't understand because I am too young and have never been married I kind of lost it and said I am NOT going to ever delete my posts about my father and I don't care if her family finds out they deserve to know it's been longer since he's passed then how long they knew each other including the marriage I really laid into it my stepmother is a self focused uptight martyr she has super high standards for her own life but then judges others when they don't meet the same standards and gets so stressed about everything she has to do she never accepts help but then complains about how busy she is she must serve a full spread when we go over for dinner but doesn't understand when I don't do the same the house is always spotless but it means she never sits down to chat when we're there it's very stressful and she doesn't understand that I refuse to do things the same way I think stress is a choice and you can't complain when you chose to do the things you don't need to do I found out a week ago that I was pregnant only to wake up today bleeding my husband got my mother-in-law who is lovely to come get our toddler and we cancelled our plans today I've never had a miscarriage before so I'm not really sure what's going on or what to expect my husband is pretty devastated anyway he calls my dad to cancel plans to go out for dinner we were going out for pizza which I was pretty happy with because it meant she didn't have to fuss over dinner hubby said I was unwell then he receives a long text from my stepmother all about how she was so disappointed we cancelled she spent the day cooking lamb shanks and put a lot of effort in and we've let her down never mind that I didn't even know she was cooking or that we cancelled early afternoon well before she would have started cooking my husband was pretty upset and calls my dad to explain why we were really not going over of course we haven't received an apology message in return just silence I think I'll not go over any more if they want to see us they can come here and all serve takeaway on paper plates see how she enjoys my stress-free life [Music] you

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Published: Tue Jan 14 2020