Mark Gungor "Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage: A Tale Of 2 Brains" | FULL STANDUP COMEDY SPECIAL

[Music] [Applause] hello and welcome to laugh your way to a better marriage i'm so glad you're here this is the marriage seminar for people who hate marriage seminars all right i got a kick out of watching the couples when they first come in on friday nights you know the uh the girls are all lit up you know just i got him here i got him here i got him [Laughter] and the guy's going oh man i can't believe you know i got here but it's cool guys you can relax you're going to love it this is not one of those let's beat up on the men for not being women seminars yeah what i'm talking about what is it with that anyway man you know you ask a lot of women to describe their ideal man and they'll describe another woman what's up with that you know so we're not going to do that we are going to just go with this thing in a normal healthy way we're men men are men we're not sick we're not perverted we're not twisted you know we're not broken we're men all right and god yeah and god made us the way we are for a reason and i'm going to show you girls what that reason is okay and i'm going to try and explain to you uh the world of men a little bit through this thing we'll also discuss the women's side of things as well but i really want you to understand this men thing women are much more complicated than men men are very simple simple sex simple all right so that's what i'm talking about okay so we're gonna have fun we should have a really really great time now tonight we're going to do a session called the tale of two brains hence the two brains and we're going to be discussing how men and women think very differently from each other why is that important because men and women are very quick to make into heart problems what are essentially head problems a woman acts a certain way a guy feels she doesn't care about him he says there's something wrong with your heart you don't care about me no no it's the way she processes information the same with a guy a man thinks in a certain way and a woman thinks there's something wrong with his heart no it's his head okay so i'm going to try and explain to you why what that's all about then tomorrow morning we're going to do a session called why does he do that why does she do that okay see it's one thing to understand men and women in general it's another one to understand the one you got stuck with okay so i'm going to show you how you can discover specifically what makes your spouse tick and it's powerful information that will absolutely revolutionize your relationship all right then we're going to do what i call the yo mama session and it's called the number one key to incredible sex [Laughter] and boys if you missed that there's just something wrong with you okay so you gotta you gotta check and then we're gonna end with uh how to stay married and not kill anybody okay all very deep emotional stuff now a lot of people say well what's your background what's your you know what's your deal my background is that i'm a minister now if you're not much of a church-goer don't let that make you nervous some of my biggest fans are heathens all right and this isn't one of those things where we sneak you in and then beat you over the head with the bible all right but but i do have a bible verse i need to show you okay because i found a bible verse that if you follow the advice from this one bible verse you will never ever ever have a problem in marriage how many think that's worth seeing all right you follow the advice from this one verse you'll never have a problem in marriage it says it it's good for a man not to marry all right he said well why would he say that that's such a terrible thing to say because he goes on to explain he who marries will have trouble in this life you know people come up to me pastor mark pastor mark something's wrong something's wrong i say what is it we got trouble in our marriage i go no that's about right hey ain't nothing wrong that's pretty normal now you you don't hear these verses read at weddings very often you kind of kind of downplay that you don't see those on hallmark cards you don't see him on cakes with pretty calligraphy he who marries will have trouble but it's too late for you you say if that's the case and why get married because marriage is absolutely wonderful it's great it's fantastic but it's not that it's without trouble all right and i want to show one other verse to you now you don't have the deep theological training that i have so you might have a hard time understanding this verse but i'll try and explain it to you this is found in proverbs and uh it goes like this where no oxen are the manger is clean let me explain that to you okay what does that mean what it means if you're gonna have an ox you're going to have ox poo all right now if you don't like poo and most of us are not real big fans of poo if you don't like poo the temptation is get rid of the ox preaching brother no no i don't want you to get rid of the ox all right you know i said well why would you keep the ox around because he goes to the second half of the verse it says because much increase comes by the strength of the ox well now there's the catch-22 on the one hand we all love the benefit of the ox but nobody likes the boo and what he's trying to tell us here is you cannot have one without the other there is no such thing as a poo free marriage it just doesn't exist unless you shoot the ox okay but that leads to other problems so this weekend is not about attaining a state of perfection in your life all right it's about getting a proper positive to poo ratio in your life you see because if all you get is poo then you got one sick ox are you hearing me all right so but there's no such thing as a poo free man for those of you having a hard time grasping this i have a mathematical version of it it goes uh ox equals poo over positive some say positive over poop but anyway it's the ratio that we want to get uh going here okay now marriage is a wonderful institution statistically speaking we know that married people are healthier than single people they are actually happier than single people assuming you're doing this right or you could be profoundly unhappy they actually make more money than single people and i'll mention a little bit later why that's true okay they have better sex than single people now you don't see that in our culture you know in all the movies and shows you know it's the single people all having really great sex you know and and the married people are you know someone will say well how's your sex life are you kidding i'm married and it's not true it's a bunch of baloney okay married people have great sex compared to single single people don't even know what they're doing for cried out loud okay and statistically speaking married people live longer than single people particularly particularly true for men one statistically speaking one of the most dangerous things a man can do in america today is remain single it is the equivalent of smoking two and a half packs of cigarettes a day it's true they found that if you take it of someone who has two and a half packs of cigarettes a day and the health problems and the shortness of life and all the difficulties and a single guy is pretty much the same i guess the worst would be a single guy who smokes two and a half packs of cigarettes a day all right but marriage is wonderful it's great it rocks i love it okay if you do it right now the problem here is so many people don't do it right and it's not that they don't know not that they don't want to do or they don't know what to do we live in a culture today that seems for somehow in the relationship area to be completely clueless we seriously don't know what to do now this weekend what i want to do is show you specific things you can do that will absolutely energize and transform your marriage life how many think that's worth hearing yeah okay so now i want to talk to you about what i call the the laws of relational physics you see the laws of physics affect everybody whether you believe them or not okay if i step off the stage i'm probably in all likelihood going to go down if i start floating around you might want to freak out and run but uh why because the laws of physics i thought well i don't believe that doesn't matter what i believe i'm going down right doesn't matter if i'm a born again christian doesn't matter if i'm a heathen it man i'm going because it affects everybody well just like that there are laws of relational physics and they affect everybody whether you believe them or not now this might come as a little bit of a shock to those of you who are church people especially hearing from a minister but the truth is you don't have to be a christian to have a great marriage i know a lot of heathens that have wonderful marriages i know a lot of born-again christians who have horrible marriages why is that they're breaking all the rules and they assume somehow that the rules don't apply to them but they do here's an example if you're driving a car 80 miles an hour around a curve that says only 40 and you keep going 80 chances are you're going to get hurt even if you're listening to a christian radio station even if you have a statue of jesus on the you know he might be going ah you know why is that because the laws of physics still affect you but for some miracle you're going to get hurt same true with relational physics and i want to explain that to you and we'll take a look at that now this weekend i'm going to be speaking to you in uh basic stereotypes in other words women generally tend to be a certain way men generally tend to be a certain way but they're not all that way i get it okay some of the people that just have a cow i don't know that's true for all men i'm admitting it's not all right just generally speak we don't have time to get into all the shades of gray but generally speaking men are certain way women are a certain way uh if i start describing something that's not you don't have a cow just interpolate for your relationships in debbie's in eye relationship there are areas where we're completely opposite of a typical man and a woman i remember when i was first studying this this stuff i thought oh man i'm a woman so just interpret i will say this that if you if you tend to be one way in a certain relationship your wife generally will be the other way i don't think i've run across a couple yet i'm sure they're out there that act the exact same way you know so if you break the rules chances are your spouse is breaking them right with you and you just flip on this deal okay for example a typical stereotype men are more interested in sex than their wives why would you say that because generally it's true but it's not always true there are a lot of relationships where the wife is much more interested in sex than her husband if you're here tonight and your wife is much more interested in sex than you are i think i speak for all the men here when i say that we hate you [Music] please don't tell us who you are we will hurt you all right so so just go with the flow it'll be cool we'll have a great time discussing this thing about marriage now i believe marriage is a life-giving institution we live in a culture today that believes marriage is a life-sucking institution it will suck the life out of you all right and that's why we say make sure you're old enough make sure you have enough money make sure you have enough education make sure you've been dating for 37 years first make sure that you know get all the stuff why you got to get everything together and ready so that when you say i do you can withstand me but it's not that way it'll give you life if you'll do it right if you do this right marriage can be the closest thing to heaven on earth if you do it wrong well you fill in the blanks okay so now we're gonna start discussing men's brains women's brains and how they're very different from each other now i want to start with men's brains all right now men's brains are are very unique men's brains are made up of little boxes and we have a box for everything we've got a box for the car we got a box for the money we got a box for the job we got a box for you we got a box for the kids we got a box for your mother somewhere in the basement we got we got we got boxes everywhere and the rule is the boxes don't touch when a man discusses a particular subject we go to that particular box we pull that box out we open the box we discuss only what is in that box all right [Applause] and and then we close the box and put it away being very very careful not to touch any other boxes [Music] [Applause] sorry my catholic upbringing got in there for a minute but i [Laughter] i'm not a catholic but i went to catholic school when i was little i i had a nun who taught on hell like she was born and raised there i mean i'll never forget it but uh it did be good actually it was a good thing now women's brains are very very different from man's brains women's brains are made up of a big ball of wire and everything is connected to everything this the money's connected to the car the car is gonna do your job and your kids are connected to your mother and everything's connected to everything [Music] it's like the internet super highway okay and and it's all driven by energy that we call emotion [Music] it's one of the reasons why women tend to remember everything because if you take an event and you connect it to an emotion it burns in your memory and you can remember it forever the same thing happens for men it just doesn't happen very often because quite frankly we don't care [Applause] women tend to care about everything and she just loves it [Music] okay now men we have a box in our brain that most women are not aware of this particular box has nothing in it [Applause] it's true in fact we call it the nothing box and of all the boxes a man has in his brain the nothing box is our favorite box if a man has a chance he'll go to his nothing box every time that's why a man can do something seemingly completely brain dead for hours on end you know like fishing okay and and we love it that's that's why a guy can sit in front of a tv and go [Applause] [Music] [Applause] uh your clothes of course this drives our wives nuts because they'll come up and say stop that you can't possibly be watching anything i'm not go away [Applause] now they've actually measured this the university of pennsylvania a couple years ago did a study and discovered that men have the ability to think about absolutely nothing and still breathe you know they connected all the wires and stuff like that and watched a brain activity then i'm saying i think he's dead huh you know women can't do it they can't do it their minds never stop it and they don't understand the nothing box and it drives them crazy because nothing drives a woman more crazy or makes you feel more irritated than to witness a man doing nothing [Applause] now one of the biggest revelations i get out of women is this whole nothing box issue they just everything's starting to make sense and i've had women say oh it's nothing can i go in his nothing box with him why not because then it's something besides you'll walk in there and go you know you know this place could really use some pictures nice little table over here some flowers is it no nothing get out we don't want nothing now this handles the way men and women handle stress okay when a man is stressed out all he wants to do is run to his nothing box this is how we unwind the last thing we want to do when we're stressed out is talk about it we don't want to talk about it we just want to because it just drives her nuts you know a woman will see a man in that vegetative state and she'll come up and go what you thinking about [Music] nothing we gotta be thinking about something nice think about nothing in fact i was on the roads and you showed up go away all right because that's how he handles stress he just now when a woman is stressed out she has to talk about it if she doesn't talk about it her brain will literally explode so she'll start just i don't know why that's going to do with this not [Music] and and i know men who run from their wives when they do this they don't say i say well why do you run from her he says because i don't know what to tell her said dear god man who told you to tell her anything she wants you to tell her anything see a lot of guys they feel obligated when when you start explaining all your stress they feel obligated to fix you right because that's what a man does a man only tells his troubles to another man in hopes that that man will help fix it okay but she's not a man and you try and fix her she gonna kill you all right she doesn't want your advice she doesn't want your help she wants you to shut up and listen and a couple of ladies that's right [Applause] they like that now i had one guy tell me so many she just tell me how she feels i said she doesn't know yet this is what it means that's how she figures out how she feels by connecting this wire to that wire this one now because they love each other they offer to each other their answer their solution a man senses his wife is stressed out he loves the girl he offers to the girl his best and finest solution i just quit talking about it just just quit thinking about it [Music] [Applause] and that's when she starts reaching for the knives and stuff but she's gonna stab you if you keep it up okay now a woman she senses her husband's all stressed out she loves him therefore she offers to him her best and finest solution talk to me why won't you talk to me [Applause] [Music] go away he doesn't want to talk to you leave him alone he will not die he's not a woman all right i know you've got to talk it through or you're going to be twisted inside he's not like that leave the boy alone you tell he's stressed out just let him go to his nothing box just stay away stay away okay and it's hard for us to understand that because we think so differently from each other now not only does this affect the way that we respond and stress and stuff the way our brains are wired also affects the way that we use words okay men tend to use less words than women that's because the women have all the wires they're trying to connect and they've got to explain each and every connection now they say that if a man needs to speak ten thousand words in a day a woman needs to speak twenty thousand my wife says that's cause we gotta repeat everything we say [Applause] to which i responded huh where is my darling redhead is she around come up i should meet my wife debbie come on up here [Applause] [Music] [Applause] people say well doesn't she talk to and nope [Laughter] not to you anyway she talks to me but she won't she won't talk to you because she doesn't want to talk to you that's all where's my my tablet i want to show you something about the whole words thing um you know they actually measured this they went in and and studied a children and babies and found out that they actually went and took cameras and put them in nurseries and analyzed the pictures later and they noticed the the pictures of the little girls right from the get-go their mouths are just going it's true it's true and then they analyze the pictures of little boys and they're just they're still thinking what was that i want to go back i don't get it okay um very then they went and and they recorded conversations of little boys and girls on playgrounds and they went back and analyzed them and uh they discovered that little girls loved to talk they were very articulate love to use full sentences just love to talk and if they didn't have anybody to talk to they were perfectly content to talk to nobody and they were just just complete sentences then they analyze the conversations of the little boys and only about 55 percent of it was intelligible because they were saying that's that's conversation to a man okay now not only do we use different amounts of words words can mean different things to men and women for example now to most men five minutes means five minutes to a lot of women it can be an indefinite period of time are you ready yet five more minutes [Music] as we discussed men understand nothing women don't understand the significance of nothing if a woman says nothing look at it something oh dude man dude i don't know what happened why why what happened i don't know i asked my wife what she was upset about what'd she say what'd she say but she said nothing get out of the house man run now get out now this is not a word it's a vocalization it's a sigh now when a man sighs it means everything is good with life when a woman sighs it means you are an idiot [Applause] now when a man says go ahead he's being polite when a woman says go ahead she's giving you the opportunity to explain whatever stupid thing it was you just did but you need to be very careful in the explanation because it's very likely to be followed by a sigh which will lead to an argument over nothing and then you ain't gonna have sex again for at least five minutes [Applause] women's brains come with lots of extra ram so they can remember the details of everything men's brains come with only the minimum basic requirements to keep us breathing and eating okay that's good that's why men a lot of men we don't hang on to lots of details they don't stick with us you know when an event happens we just categorize categorize it as an event all right whereas women it's not just the event it's all the details connected with an event you'll run into this when when a friend of you of your family or something will call and and you know she just had a baby and uh and then you tell your wife oh so-and-so's called they had the baby and she'll say well what was it and he says well it was a baby what kind of baby i don't know it's a baby what difference is it night oh how long was it well i don't know how long how tall how many you know how much did you weigh i don't know under 20 pounds what do you notice but this detailed detail you know a woman will come to a guy and say how was your day and then we go to the ram and all it's there is that it was a day and and we say it was fine and and she'll say well what happened and and we go to the ramen and there's nothing there and we panic and we go nothing but women they've got all this you know that's why when a guy retells a story it's usually pretty much just a bottom line kind of thing what happened this happened that happened we're done when a lot of women share what happened they relived the event in excruciating painful detail i mean you are there yeah and again you know couples can really fight over this my wife and i still fight over this one you know this is this just drives us crazy you know she just you know sweetheart when your husband asks the question what did the plumber say he really doesn't want to know what he said well i said how you doing he said it's fine that was pretty nice they were happy he said yeah he got any kiss no why didn't he say bottom line men's brains women's brains it also affects not only the words we use and stuff but also it affects how we listen you know yeah women listen but uh we listen to we're just different a lot of women say you know men's problems they got selective listening you know what that is right that's when the wife will say something like honey go to the store lay down the mulch wash and wax the car get the kids at school rent some videos and finish the rest of the dishes and then he runs that through his selective filter [Applause] and all he hears is honey go lay down and get some rest okay but that's not what i'm talking about what i'm really talking about is the difference between single tasking and multitasking by and large again interpolate for your relationships again not everybody's the same way but by and large men are single taskers we do one thing and and we do it pretty well women can handle lots of things guys aren't wired that way that's why it's not a good idea to put a man in charge of more than one kid at a time you know we can handle the one well sweetheart you're doing such a good job with johnny wow where are the rest of the kids we got other kids but man we just very just i'm a classic single task i'm so bad i'll be going along and i'll forget the one thing i was doing lost i need to reboot my brain say whoa who am i you know but but men generally speaking we do what now we what we do we do very well one of the reasons that men are so good at what they do is because of this ability to completely focus on just one task men usually will rise to the top of any profession even those dominated sometimes by women the best hair designers in the world a lot of times are men best cooks in the world men why is that because we have this unique ability to focus on just one thing and do it extremely well okay women are wired differently you know they're just and you know my wife can be you know in the living room watching tv reading a book making knickknacks and talking on the phone all at the same time this is amazing to me of course i'll come in and i'm a suit i'll assume she's not watching tv hey what i was watching that how can you be watching that you're making nicknames let's put it back now this affects the way that we listen because when a man is doing something he generally cannot hear anything it's just true women are not that we give you lots of things and holding three different conversations you know she'll walk into a room and she'll see her husband reading the newspaper and she assumes i multitask therefore he must multitask but he's running the newspaper reading program and he can only run one program at a time he's not hearing jack and this makes women very angry but you just need to come over and you got to close the newspaper reading program you got to load the listening domain program but you got to wait a minute he needs to reboot [Applause] i didn't know you is here you know you laugh but i'm serious girls if you see a man doing something unless he's wired differently do not be giving him vital information because this is a train wreck waiting to happen you'll have this conversation again when you swear he told you and he swears you never told him you know you told him but in his brain you never said jack to him [Applause] the problem here is guys we get ourselves in trouble uh because we have men have this natural defense mechanism that at all costs do not stop doing what you're doing so when someone starts talking to you we automatically have this defense mechanism that goes uh-huh yep uh-huh and we keep doing what we're doing and we're not and she thinks you're listening to her but you're not listening you need to stop watching your big boys stop what you're doing turn to the girl and pay attention to her so it's not all on the ladies your big boys when she starts talking stop listen to the girl and then let him go back to what he was doing sounds fair right well i started doing this and i thought this is great i'm doing a lot better i'm here you know i'm i'm watching the single tasking yeah okay what what what and i'll say i didn't hear that i'll make her back up and she'll tell me the info and i got it okay okay and and i thought i was doing a lot better but still i was getting myself in trouble you know she'd walk up and say it's six o'clock are you ready for what you know that happened to half you guys tonight right we're doing what i told you oh you didn't yes i got and after the races we would go and i thought man what in the world cuz i'm watching the single tasking i don't remember her saying anything about and i thought i was losing my hearing so i went to a doctor true story i went to the doctor i went to the doctor and i walked in he said how you doing okay what seems to be the problem i said well i think i'm losing my hearing and uh he says well you know you're getting up there in age you know ears are one of the first things to go i said well that's one of the first i can handle that we'll talk more about that tomorrow but uh so look over the nurse crash it she'll test your ears you know and so so i follow the lady and i walk into this room and they got this this cheap box on a table with some real chintzy headphones and she says all right now put on the headphones when you hear the beep raise your hand if you don't hear the beep don't raise your hand apparently i look really stupid so anyway i turned around and we began [Music] pretty soon she goes really you can hear all that i turn around i said yeah why she's hitting the box i don't know a piece of junk what's the matter with this thing that's what's the problem according to this you can hear what cats and dogs can hear i don't know she's hitting a box she says i'm gonna send you to a specialist you ever been to the specialist you know they got this yo mama soundproof room you know the thick door you know you know you got the person you know sitting behind the glass you know you feel like you're in a people aquarium sir would you sit down but uh anyway so at the time we lived in green bay wisconsin and right downtown green bay there was a place called eye and ear associates i'd never heard of them before i had no reason to hear from them uh but she she said i'm gonna send you these people they have all this fancy equipment and and so she takes the doctor's pad and she writes i ear and she abbreviates associates and hands it to me [Music] [Laughter] i said uh what kind of doctor is this it's a true story she says what do you mean he said i heard a eye-ear throat i never heard of this she said let me see that i'm so embarrassed i'm sorry she brought out associates okay thought i was going to be in for a very uncomfortable test there for a minute so so i go to the eye ear and you know doctor and uh i get in there and i sit down and she's behind the glass and she has to push the button to talk you know okay now put on the headphones when you hear the beep spin around and we begin i kid you now she goes ah really you can hear all that i felt like a all right i take the print out to the specialist he goes what are you doing here you got better ears than me i don't know man she says you know me are you ready six o'clock [Music] so i go home and i walk in the door and she says well what the doctor say she doesn't sound like that by the way i say that because people usually come up and say you know she doesn't have a voice like that do it for a fake by the way we've been married for 32 years [Applause] we have two grandsons very cool beautiful boys one's ten months old the other one's eight and they are just such a delight i love grandchildren because now it's payback [Applause] come here you want some more sugar there you go okay bye my son philip's here with us he's running the audio and and uh on our 30th wedding anniversary phil gives me a call up and he says hey dad 30 years that's really something i said well thank you sir i said but you know truthfully phil i said it it only feels like 10 minutes he goes really i said yeah 10 minutes under water oh lightning holy girls oh i can't believe he said that what is she gonna think just the joke box all right just a joke so i come back from my ear they said wow my daddy says well they said i can hear cats and dogs can hear she says well that's not your problem you're probably just don't pay attention and and i thought but i've been paying attention i was watching this single tasking thing and and so i thought i'm gonna do a test i wanna see how far she gets away before i can't hear her so the next day we're sitting in the kitchen and uh she comes up and she's talking to me and i go uh-huh and then she walks a little bit further away she says okay i can hear that and she gets a little further away [Music] multitasking thing then she goes into the living room and now she goes into another room she's now on the other side of the house still talking to me i said hey she yells back what i'm on the other side of the house she goes oh you don't listen anyway [Applause] the next day i caught her this time she goes upstairs she's on another floor still giving me vital information that's when it started dawning on me wait a minute we might single taps but these women so multitask they just keep doing what they're doing and whether or not you're in the same area code is irrelevant please you're irrelevant i had a guy the other day says you know my wife's like that she'll just she'll be talking to me she's by the by the the dryer and she'll be telling me something important she'll stick her head in the dryer [Music] [Applause] she still does that to me she'll we'll be like a real busy highway just room all kinds of noise and she'll be talking you know something that's really important so you better be careful about what i didn't hear what you said awesome physics girls it applies to you it would help if your husband was in the same area code okay now i first shared the story at a men's conference that i was speaking and i thought it was just a funny story that happened to me but as i'm sharing it all these men's heads are going i had one guy come up to me afterwards he says he says you know pastor i'll be in the bathroom the door is closed the fan is on there's there's tile everywhere so sound just bounces around in there i'm standing there all i can hear is the sound of rushing water and she's still talking to me you know i figured out that's why we miss sometimes girls what [Applause] another mystery solved girls don't be so multitasking that you're doing a gazillion things giving him vital information all right especially if he's doing something i'm telling this simple thing that i'm talking to you creates more arguments and more frustrations in marriages and we're fighting over nothing but you know you're really married to a multi-tasker when during a moment of intimate passion she suddenly blurts out oh by the way the plumber says the toilets are growing [Applause] focus woman focus but man she can make love to you and plan next week's dinners and you know just you know think about the toilets oh it's all the same dirty i want to show you something in no other area men's brains and women's brains do men and women think more differently than in this area of sex and uh we'll get into us in a lot more detail tomorrow but uh i want to i want to show you something here that i think will be of great interest to you give my lovely assistant a hand [Applause] now sex is a as a is a pretty big issue particularly for men uh for us our sexual interest peaks at about age 18 and then goes down from there so if you were to to chart it out it would look like something like this it peaks at about age 18 and then goes down and then you're dead [Applause] now something's important for women to understand when it comes to this area we're no longer driven so much by our brains or by our hearts but it's by a chemical it's called testosterone and it runs through our blood it runs through our blood and it drives us crazy if you girls knew how much the stroke was crazy you'd be more disgusted with us than you are right now we downplay it man and and this i'm telling you and and as funny as this little chart is and and as true as it is for so many men uh if for some reason as a man ages his testosterone levels begin to decline his interest in sex will start to decline and if it if his testosterone level drops dramatically his interest will go way down same head same heart same guy and now he's not interested in sex you treat that man and it's very easy to do with testosterone supplements and boom he's the same wild man you married same head same heart same guy now he's come here baby all right so this is not because we're sickos it's not because we're perverts it's not because we're broken god wired us this way and he did it on purpose well what was that purpose i'm going to show you in a minute but you just need to really understand this and the truth is when we get this rush of testosterone it just messes with us now for the love of god don't raise your hands but [Music] most men will admit that we usually receive a testosterone rush usually very early in the morning and for no reason at all [Music] [Applause] and it just wakes us up just [Music] we're not thinking about anything all right and that's usually when a man reaches over and whispers those three words every woman loves to hear hey you wait [Applause] we'll be talking more about that tomorrow okay all right so why why does why does god wire men this way okay now to explain this i need to do an anatomy lesson okay y'all okay hang on marina's gonna draw pictures it'll be okay we'll we'll keep it clean okay now we'll call this the girl's heart and in the interest of keeping everything at least pg-13 we will refer to this as the place of happiness i i had a lady come up to me recently and she goes man i can't even go to walmart anymore smiley face is all over the place [Applause] now at some fundamental level this is every man's basic interest in a woman it's true it's true now women say that's terrible that there shouldn't be about that should be about companionship and fellowship and sharing girls if your husband was interested in companionship fellowship and sharing he'd have gotten a golden retriever he's interested in this and he's supposed to be that's the way god wired men but what men fail to understand is the key to this is this and if a man successfully touches this she gives him the green light and now he can touch this [Applause] so the sex drive guys is god's way of constantly reminding a man and it keeps coming back it like never stops you know just on average a man will feel the need for sexual release on about every 72 hours that's every three days some more some less my husband's every 72 minutes but uh that's your problem but anyway uh but seriously the reason that keeps coming back is to motivate the man be nice to the girl it's not so you can just go hey you work i hear me a lot of guys do that as soon as they feel the buzz they're just reaching for the girl come here baby come here come here don't be a she won't want to come here the reason that buzz hits you again remember oh be nice to the girl be nice to the girl be nice to the girl be nice to the girl i got to be nice to the girl and and and this is what motivates me i i try to be nice to my wife and and i'll i spend time with her and i take her to lunch every day and i'll take her shopping and well pastor mark do you like going shopping no i hate it you know she drops me off at the bench with all the old guys and i sleep with them yes then she comes picks me up drops you off at another badges you say well if you don't like it then why do you do it i'll tell you why because i watch some of this i'm no idiot you got to be nice to the girl you got to be attention to the girl and really single women i don't know you know how many single women are watching this but inevitably there's there's a single woman here and that's great and a lot will be watching this but you know when a woman gives a man this before marriage she is a nitwit of astronomical proportions that's you would never build a house and pay the contractor in advance are you hearing me getting if you're gonna build 250 000 house and and which here in phoenix will get you uh a one bedroom with nothing uh man i got a huge condo on a lake in wisconsin for 250 man i'm telling you here you got nothing but anyway you you you wouldn't pay the guy in advance and get here here's the 250 grand do you know why the house will never get done on time he'll never do what he's promised to do why because it's just the nature of human beings you pay them as they hit certain marks certain things are accomplished you finish it you fit against morsemen and then you wait till everything's right and then you close why because that's the way people are wired if you were just to give it to him you would be a nitwit a that's what women are doing today they're coughing this up front which is every man's basic fundamental interest in a woman you've already given him everything he wants and then they sit around saying well where'd you guys cause aren't you gonna marry me i need to spend more time with me aren't you getting hey hey no he's not looking past why won't because you're an idiot that's why i don't do that give him that thing you make that bar earn it [Applause] if there ain't no ring you ain't getting the thing is what you need to tell him that was seriously girl i don't know why there's something that really happened in the female culture i think it's because of the women's lib thing and they think well now we can go out and we can be as sexual as men and stuff like that but they are fighting against their own interests there are millions of women in america today that are so frustrated they can never get this they can never get this you know why because they're dumb i'm serious i don't mean it in a mean way but they're doing a dumb thing i just coughing this up to every guy that comes along thinking this it doesn't work that way it doesn't work that way now every woman's basic interest in a man is this what a lot of women fail to recognize is the key to this is this and if you touch that he gives you the green light and you can touch this so but i thought you said women weren't supposed to do that outside of marriage inside the marriage you got to work it this way outside of marriage you defeat yourself but inside of marriage you have to realize this is a very important deal it is it's huge [Music] a lot of women treat this like it shouldn't like a side issue it should it is not a side issue in marriage it is the central issue it truly is and i'm going to really explain this in greater detail tomorrow you get this right things will flow a lot better in your life you try and discard this well it shouldn't be about that he shouldn't be interested in sex you are fighting now against your own interest doing it that way you've got to be smart about this girls the key to this boy's heart you know they used to say when i was growing up that the key the the key to a man's heart was his stomach but they were about six inches too high and this is important i got to tell you girls if it weren't for this we probably really wouldn't deal with y'all [Music] i know that sounds terrible but i'm just telling you like it is you know you take that out of man we just i don't think we'd go through the trouble honestly this is a game you got to let him know he can win with you and we'll talk more about this in detail tomorrow but the crazy thing about i see is the key to what you want here's the door and for the guys for what you want here's the door and it is the perfect standoff it is the ultimate standoff people say why did what was god thinking people said to me all the time what was god this is exactly what god was thinking the key to you getting what you want is to give your spouse what they want now it's not easy and you'll sometimes don't mess up something you know but you got to constantly work for this you can't all of a sudden disregard this some guys you know they they never pay attention to the girl they're never nice to the girl and wonder how can they never get any sex oh i never get any sex how come because you're an idiot i mean for crying out loud be nice to the girl you've got to touch your heart that's your key but a lot of guys say you know well i i told you i loved you once if anything changes i'll let you know i wonder how come i'm not getting any sex because you're just blowing it you're blowing it and girls same thing with you the key to this is this area here don't don't don't dismiss this if you guys will flow in this thing it works and it's great and it's extremely powerful it is the most powerful thing god ever designed to connect two people you

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Published: Fri Sep 10 2021