"It's Complicated..." No, It's Not. (Matthew Hussey)

[Music] so then why are you with that person are we together or are we not together yeah you leave okay i didn't hear that sorry he's not in jail and he needs to break out in order to be with you yeah one of you can move both of you are deciding not to there is something we call in my organization the one day wager that's making the wager that one day someone's going to change someone's going to be different they're all of a sudden going to wake up and give you what you want they say they don't want kids but they're going to they say they don't want marriage but they'll change and i make a wager on that it's the most dangerous wager you can make he has said he wants to be with me but he's you just said he said he didn't want to be with you well he i know he's they're bloody complicated man i don't know you're telling yourself it's perfect it's pretty far from [ __ ] perfect and he's not moving for you either so now you've got two people who apparently are perfect for each other neither one of them is willing to move for the other one how perfect can it be we minimize these things because we want to make the thing work we minimize them like they're nothing this thing you're convincing yourself of that there's this happy thing that you're holding on to it's not a happy thing you're holding on to why is he still hanging around because you're still hanging around and too many people get left in a relationship where they're still convincing themselves but he's the one and what did i say before if someone doesn't want you they can't be the one you're asking for closure and closure is overrated you don't want to be with me that's closure the rest is me torturing myself or still trying to find a strategy to get back in you are better off going out and finding that person who's ready for what you want then you are staying in something with someone who i promise you i promise you does not value your time nearly as much as you do if you've had an honest conversation and it's not improving and this person is just making you wrong for feeling that way then you gotta go and find someone who it fits more easily your love life the whole equation is time we have a limited amount of time what do we do with it who do we give it to who's gonna get my precious precious time they could improve they could get better whatever but why am i going to stake my time on that why am i here what am i doing there is someone out there who wants that thing you could be alive for another 40 or 50 years every week you waste with someone who's not sure about you with someone who's telling you i don't love you as much as you love me every week you waste is a week you're not having with the right person there is someone out there who you don't even know about right now who's much better for you who deserves you who you deserve you're depriving this person and yourself of time in that relationship later when you meet the right person you're going to wish you have more time with them you're going to wish you had 10 more 20 more 30 more 40 more years with that person you're gonna wish you had three lifetimes with the right person but you're wasting precious time in this one lifetime you have with someone who's not sure you

Channel: Matthew Hussey

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Length: 3min 28sec (208 seconds)

Published: Sun Aug 02 2020