Interview With A Dumper Who Came Back

this is coach lee in this video i'm going to interview two people who dumped someone and then came back to them and these people bought my emergency breakup kit and they followed the instructions there on how to get their ex back and you'll notice that they didn't have the kit at first because most people don't know about it don't know to look for information on how to get your ex back and so they did some incorrect things at the beginning and if you've watched some of my other videos then you'll recognize some of those mistakes by what they admit to doing what they share that they have done or that they did early on after the breakup but then they make a correction and it's interesting to see the reaction from the ex so pay close attention i have one from a woman who dumped her boyfriend and another from a man who dumped his girlfriend when their ex breaks up with them both of them used the techniques that i share and guide you through in the emergency breakup kit and let's see what happens why did you break up with him things just got routine um looking back that's an immature reason to break up with someone but my feelings just i don't know faded i didn't know why so i just thought it was over what happened after you broke up with him he kept saying he didn't understand and he cried he said a lot i don't even really remember and he asked me to take him back or to think about it and he kept saying he was sorry but he really didn't do anything so that didn't make sense he wouldn't let go of my hand and it was just really really awkward i felt like i had to leave and he was saying please just stay five more minutes that's all but then he would ask for five more minutes so finally i just got firm and said no i really wish him the best i hated to walk away but you know with him hurting like that but i wasn't going to stay and just you know not be happy or not want it anymore what happened in the days after the breakup i thought i'd hear from him and i was dreading it i don't know when i didn't i was glad i thought that he was accepting it at first and i was relieved i thought i just wanted him to leave me alone so like at first i was just kind of happy but it kind of seemed to set in with me and my feelings just kind of changed i started getting nervous and anxious i guess i didn't like the distance and i didn't know what was going on like if there was another girl or something or if he just was done because i started to feel like i was told like i wasn't totally sure so obviously since you two are back together there was a point of contact how did that happen well it was definitely painful but i let a few weeks pass and i felt crazy because i felt so sure when i broke up with him and it's like what is my deal i kept getting worse and i wanted him to text me or call me or something just to calm me down and to feel our connection again he just felt so gone and it was really getting to me so it was week seven i think after the breakup and i got home from work one night and was just looking at my phone wishing he text me so i thought i'd type a text and not send it like that sounded like it would feel good so i just said something like how's your week going and then nothing seemed to happen the conversation just ended so the next day i just felt really bad anxiety about it i don't know what i wanted him to say i mean i guess i wanted him to say that he wanted me back but i also knew it was my place to make amends since i was the one who dumped him i just felt so stupid for leaving him like what was i thinking because i missed him so much and now i was really worried he wouldn't take me back after what i did so i just wrote a text asking if he would like to get a smoothie at his place this place that we used to go and he agreed i really didn't know what i was going to say after some small talk all i could get out that i was sorry and i'm stupid and i just broke down crying he ended up holding me okay so note there that at first he did begging pleading things that i tell you not to do and what was her reaction to it it was not positive she wanted him to stop she was hoping he would leave her alone it was actually pushing her away she was becoming even less attracted to him her attraction was already low or else she would have broken up with him but his actions were making her want to be away from him which is the exact opposite of what he was wanting now he got the emergency breakup kit and what happened after that it wasn't instant was it it wasn't right away and a lot of people are looking for a magic bullet that happens in 30 minutes it does not work that way but things started working in her mind and i have a video called what happens in the mind of your ex during no contact or what is your ex thinking during no contact is the actual title of the video the thumbnail says the mind of your ex but note that she was relieved at first like okay he's leaving me alone good i can go live the life i wanted to live and enjoy the breakup i wanted to enjoy but then what happened she started to wonder about him she started to look at her phone and wonder why he wasn't texting her then she started to think that maybe she had made a mistake and if she did was he going to get away was he going to move on because she's not sure now and him moving on would be a bad thing and then she got really scared that he was going to leave and began seeing his value in her life to the point that she reached out the next interview is with a man who broke up with his girlfriend why did you break up with her she wasn't looking at things from my point of view after two years i felt like she should be better at putting herself in my shoes what happened when you broke up with her she asked if we could look at a house it was more for fun but i just thought if i was gonna break up with her i needed to do it before we started doing that so the next night we were supposed to go look at that house and i went to pick her up but just sat down and i said i didn't want to date anymore she cried she said she didn't mean to and would work on it and i said i was sorry more but that i thought it was best if i just left what happened in the days after the breakup she sent me flowers the next day with a note saying how sorry she was and how she would change and to please give her another chance and she texted me that night to ask if i got them i did reply that i did and i appreciated it but i thought it was best to keep things this way she did not respond to that text and i didn't hear from her and it had been like a little over a month and that's when i kind of started missing her and what we had so since you two are back together there was a point of contact how did that happen it was like missing her overwhelmed whatever problems we were having i didn't want to lose her to some other guy i just felt like i didn't know what was going on and didn't want her to move on or get away now that i felt like i wanted her back so i texted her if she wanted to meet for lunch she said she'd think about it so the next day she said she could i asked how she was doing and smallish stuff and then i said i had thought about it and wanted to give us another chance if she would she said she was open to it so we just kind of started picking things up again and about two months later we started looking at houses again i bought one and we moved in together about four months ago so notice the theme the commonality that these two cases share both of the x's were relieved at first because the person backed off and so a lot of people when their ex breaks up with them they panic if there's any sign of relief and what i have to get people to understand through my videos or through my emergency breakup kit is that that's normal and you actually want that to happen because if they don't get through that stage they can't get to the other stages and so if you remain in contact and you remain in their life and you keep trying begging pleading trying to talk them into getting back together with you you don't let them go through that phase so that they can get to the point where they realize this might not be what i want and so that's very important is that you back off you give them silence you use the no contact rule and you let them go through the process in some of my videos i talk about it as being a cake in the oven you cannot rush it time is actually part of the recipe in today's world we think we can just do things faster we can throw more people at the project we can pull it all nighter but with this time is actually part of the equation and so you have to give your ex plenty of time if you want them back it's very important and the rewards go to the patient and the strong you can be strong i see people do it all the time these two people use my emergency breakup kit to get their ex back and you got to hear from their exes who broke up with them you can get the emergency breakup kit at myexbackcoach.com be sure to subscribe to my channel so that you can be notified when i have more videos like this visit myexpatcoach.com myexbatcoach.com for articles videos and content on getting your ex back being more attractive and finding love in addition to rescuing love this has been coach lee and as always thank you for watching [Music] you

Channel: Coach Lee

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Keywords: interview with someone who dumped their ex, what ex is thinking, what ex is going through after breakup, coach lee, how an ex comes back, no contact rule effect on ex

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Length: 10min 51sec (651 seconds)

Published: Thu Jul 02 2020