Hey there, this is Clay with ModernLove.Life
and this is the Relationship Inner Game Experience. Here we are, episode five. We're getting up there and today I actually
want to talk about something that we talked about a long time ago on our previous podcast
and this is going to be something that's kind of important, especially for folks who want
to get back together with their ex. And this is about the five stages of getting
back together, specifically the five stages that your ex goes through when getting back
together with you. OK? Because you see there's a spectrum of emotion
that keeps your ex from actually wanting to get back together with you. And as you're ex shifts from not wanting to
get back together with you at all, to eventually opening up to the idea and wanting to actually
get back together with you, they're going to go through a certain emotional process. And if you are aware what's coming, you'll
kind of know where your ex is in this process and you'll know how to respond when you hit
some of these obstacles and some of these behaviors along the way that will eventually
come up, in many cases. OK, so let's get into this. And before we get into this though, I really
need to explain a simple concept. And that concept is called emotional reactance. Now, emotional reactance, it's a word that
most people don't know, the word reactance, but if you think about it, it's really kind
of that resistance that you have to interacting with somebody, to wanting to be near somebody,
or wanting to talk to somebody. Often we get this feeling of emotional reactance
when it comes to door-to-door salesmen or people that are trying to get us to donate
money to some sort of charity or some sort of organization that we don't particularly
resonate with, right? And it's that not, there's anything wrong
with these activities, it's just that we know that the other person has a hidden agenda. We know that that person has their own agenda,
whether that's selling vacuum cleaners, whether that's raising, I don't know, thousands of
dollars for some kind of cause, or whether that's trying to get back together with your
ex. And if your ex is resistant towards getting
back together with you or resistant to even talking to you or resistant to even texting
with you or resistant to interacting with you in some way or another, there's a very
high chance that there is some degree of emotional reactance. And we can measure this on a scale. It's not a real scale. It's not like there's an actual machine we
can go out there and scan your ex with and say, the reactance is at 86 percent. We can't do that. But it helps to conceptually think about it
as a scale from 0 to 100. OK? Now if your ex has zero reactance whatsoever,
they have pretty much no resistance towards wanting to get back together with you. And basically if you just asked, hey, do you
want to get back together? They would probably say, yeah, I want to get
back together with you. Right? But I'd imagine that it's probably not the
case if you're watching this particular video or this particular podcast. If you're ex has 100 percent reactance. If it's at 100, then this means that your
ex absolutely doesn't want anything to do with you. If you call them, they will not answer the
phone. If you text them, they will not text you back. If you text them 10 times, they might respond
with "stop texting me!" or something like that. Right? And that is a very, very high level of reactance. And there's this big ocean in between of 25,
50 percent, 75 percent of all of the numbers in between. Right? And at certain points in this process, from
0 to 100, you will experience different responses from your ex. It's also important to know that not everybody
is going to start with their ex at 100 percent reactance. OK? If you went through a pretty amicable, pretty
friendly breakup with your ex, your ex's reactance to you might only be maybe 50 percent to start
with, and then maybe it gets lower and lower and lower as you start to move through the
five stages. But if you do the wrong things, if you do
the wrong things that we all know that you shouldn't do, if you're trying to get back
together with your ex, such as begging, such as pleading, such as promising up and down
that you've changed, such as grand romantic gestures, writing love poems and things like
that, you're only going to increase your ex's emotional reactance. And if they were at say, 50 percent to start
with, that, 50 percent might start to turn to 60 percent, 70 percent, 80 percent if you're
not careful, could go to 90 percent or 100 percent. OK? So you have to understand that how you bring
yourself to the interaction and how you relate to your ex is either going to increase or
decrease their reactance. And keep this in mind because if you want
their reactance to be low, to be zero. So that you can get back together again, then
the choices that you make and the things that you do or don't do are going to be very important. OK, so now that you understand that, let's
go ahead and get into the five stages of getting back together. Now, let's just say that you had a very, very
bad breakup with your ex and their reactance level has gone right up to 100, either because
of the breakup or because of some mistakes that you made directly after the breakup,
begging, pleading, all that stuff. But somehow their reactance level is very
high. It's 100. Now in this first stage of getting back together,
their reactance is probably going to be somewhere between 80 and 100 percent. And this stage is called the Wall of Reactance. And when your ex is at this first stage, the
Wall of Reactance, their reactance is very high towards you. And their willingness to interact with you
is very low. OK? So this is where you often get a lot of the
stuff where you know, you text them, they don't text you back. You call them, they don't answer the phone. You leave them a voice message, they don't
respond to the message, right? Your ex is just kind of walling you out. And what's happening here is that your ex
has this very high level of reactance towards you and when you contact them, when you're
interacting with them, when you're reaching out to them, they are not wanting to interact
with you. They just don't want it. They'd been pushed too far and they're just
kind of walling you out. That's why it's called the Wall of Reactance. Now it's important to know that reactance
can be lowered by two main things. The first is time. You know, if you give somebody time, their
emotions might settle down a little bit and they might be more willing and open to talk
to you again. However, time is not really something that
we can really control, which is why we often look instead to the second thing that can
decrease reactance, which is the way that you're approaching your ex, right? So oftentimes people will say something like,
Hey, I texted my ex but they didn't respond to me. I called my ex but they didn't respond to
me. What do I do? And it's like, well, what did you text your
ex? What did you say to your ex? Right? Because what you say or how you say it is
actually very important. You know, there are things that you could
do or say they're going to increase reactance and make somebody not want to respond to you. And there are things that you can say they're
going to decrease reactance and make it more likely that somebody will respond to you. Right? So for example, there's a big difference between
something like, Hey, I want you to text me back. You Jerk, right? That's something that's probably going to
say, OK, well I'm not going to respond to that one. That person wasn't very nice, right? And so that's not going to get a response
and it's going to possibly even increase their reactance. However, something along the lines of, hey,
I was just thinking about you today, and I know it's been awhile, but I was wondering
did you do anything to celebrate that special thing that you said was coming up? Something like that might be a little bit
more understanding, a little bit softer, a little bit more empathetic, and it might decrease
the reactance and actually encourage them to want to respond to you. OK? And so in a way that you bring yourself to
the interaction, and the way that you contact your ex, and the way that you interact with
your ex, you actually can increase or decrease reactance. So that's very important as well too. And when it comes to Wall of Reactance, you
have to just start to chip away at that wall through empathetic, through understanding,
through compassionate messages or conversations or gestures like the one that I just gave
you. OK? And this is where those Advanced Relational
Skills really come into play. You have to be able to see the world from
your ex's point of view. You have to be able to empathize with where
your ex might be at, you have to be aware of what your ex's emotional state is and be
able to respond to that and align yourself to that in a way that's congruent. OK, and of course, you absolutely have to
have composure and integrity when it comes to how you bring yourself without having to
posture, you know, pretending to be impenetrable and way cooler, an unaffected than you really
are. Or collapsing and just kind of, you know,
going with the flow. Yeah, whatever you want. I'm totally cool with that. You know, you'd make the choices, you set
the tone, you take the lead. I'm down for whatever, all of that stuff,
right? But instead of just being completely honest
and forthright and true about what's important to you, anyway, that's the first stage. That's the Wall of Reactance. Now if you're in a range of say 20 to -- Or
rather a 60 to 80 percent, you're at actually the second stage, which is where your ex is
at the Test Drive. Now when in your ex is at the Test Drive stage,
you know you can contact them and they will probably contact you back, right? You can text them, they'll probably text you
back, you can call them, they'll probably return your call or they might text you back
instead because it's easier or whatever, right? But they will respond to you. However the response is going to be shorter. It's going to be maybe a one word response
or a very blunt, not very emotionally invested response, you know, you might get responses
like, I'm doing good. Today's nice, thanks for asking. Or it was OK, you know, just simple things
like that and it's really hard to, to kind of, you know, sink yourself into that emotional
state and really have an engaging conversation when you're having conversations, like, how
are you? I'm good. How was your day? It was OK. What was the event like? It was fine. You know, it. There's not really a whole lot of dialogue
going on there, if you know what I mean. And so at this point, what you want to do
is you want to show your ex that it's absolutely safe and OK to interact with you, that you're
not going to have that hidden agenda, that you're actually going to be more focused on
the connection rather than the relationship, rather than the goal, rather than the outcome,
rather than your hidden agenda of getting back together. We've talked about this before, but you really
want to be more connection-focused than relationship-focused because, you know, you probably want the connection
more than you want the relationship. You want to get back together with your ex
because you think that getting back together is going to give you all kinds of connection
and love and bonding and all of that stuff. You probably don't want to get back together
just for the sake of getting back together. Just for the sake of saying, I am in a relationship. Check the box. Move on to the next thing, right? You probably don't want that. You want it because you think it's going to
bring you passion and love and all the wonderful things that come with having a great relationship,
and if that's the case, don't fool yourself into thinking that you should go for the relationship. Actually go for what's most important, which
is the connection, right? That's how we do it with dating. That's what we do -- You know, you don't go
on a first date and say, so are we boyfriend and girlfriend yet? You don't do that. No. You actually take the time and say, Hey, what
are you like? Here's what I'm like, here's what I'm in to. What are you into? You actually have a conversation and you see
if there's a connection there. That's how you want to go about it when it
comes to your ex as well too. So you're at this stage, the second stage,
the 60 to 80 percent reactance stage. Your ex is responding to you, but they're
not giving you much to go on. Now here's the part, where do you want to
shift down from the surface level communication. You know, things like, how are you doing? Did you see the thing on TV? Is the guy from work still bugging you? All that stuff, right? You can shift down from the surface level
of communication down to emotional communication and you do this through the conversational
and Advanced Relational Skills that we teach inside of our courses like the Ex Solution
Program or Loving Boldly or Dating Bravely. OK. Now once you're able to actually shift down
to the emotional level and have real substantial emotional interactions with your ex, they're
going to start to sense that the connection between the two of you is actually there that
they can actually talk to you and it's not going to be about you begging and pleading
to get back together. It's not about you trying to make some sort
of case or argument for giving the relationship is second shot or anything like that. It's just going to be the two of you hanging
out. It's going to be the two of you connecting. It's going to be the two of you just bonding
like maybe you did on your first date or maybe your second date or back when the two of you
are first falling in love and as this happens, your ex is going to start to relax a little
bit around you. They're going to start to say, yeah, you know,
maybe I didn't have to be so resistant to talking to them. Maybe I can just kind of open up and be myself. And their reactance is going to start to decrease
a little bit more and that's going to bring you to the third stage of getting back together,
which is called Riding the Dragon. And this happens when the reactance is between
40 and 60 percent. And if you notice what happens between 40
and 60 percent is a special number and that number is 50 percent. And what is 50 percent? That is half. That's right in the middle. And what happens is at 50 percent your ex's
negative emotional state towards you, which we call reactance is 50 percent, and their
positive emotional state towards you, which is what we're building here through these
good positive interactions, is it 50 percent. And when this happens, these two forces are
in balance. They're in equilibrium, right? And so it's sort of like a teeter totter or
sort of like one of those, a balance scales, where it's kind of just teetering back and
forth. And one thing on one side or the other could
be enough to shift the balance this way or shift the balance this way. OK? The reason why this is important to know is
because when you're at this stage Riding the Dragon, you're going to get a lot of hot and
cold behavior from your ex. You're likely going to get a lot of mixed
messages, mixed signals from your ex. And this isn't because your ex is toying with
you, probably not, unless they're an evil person, in which case... do you really want to get back together with
them? But they're, they're probably doing this because
they're actually genuinely confused themselves. Keep in mind this gauge of their emotional
reactance towards you is their compass, their emotional compass that's telling them and
driving them and compelling them to act and behave in certain ways. And if they're right at that 50 percent mark
or near about it, they're going to be very confused. They're not going to know if they want to
move towards you or away from you, or towards you or away from you. And it could be anything that's going to shift
them one way or another. It could be the way that you phrased a text
message. It could be the way that you didn't phrase
a text message. It could be something that you've said. It could be something that you didn't say. It could be things that are completely out
of your control entirely. Like maybe they weren't even with you and
they were out with a friend and that friend said, hey, you know, I never really did like
your ex boyfriend or girlfriend or you know, I always did like your ex boyfriend or girlfriend
or something like that. And that can just suddenly change your expert
opinion in just that tiny little amount that makes them shift just a little bit more. OK. And when your ex is at Riding the Dragon,
you will get this hot and cold behavior. You'll get stuff like, hey, I'm sorry, I think
we might be able to want to get back together in the future or, or maybe I just need a little
bit more time to think about it. I just don't know yet. Or things along those lines. Right? You're getting substantial responses from
your ex, meaningful responses from your ex, and sometimes they seem warm like this, but
then maybe the next day or shortly after they pull back and they say, Hey, I'm sorry I didn't
want to get your hopes up. I think we should just be friends. I think maybe breaking up was a good idea. Maybe we really should date other people and
then, you know, the day after that they might say, Oh, well I'm sorry I didn't mean that. Please, let's go out on a date. I'll be extra nice. Maybe we'll even, you know, intimate later
on or something like that. And so there's this back and forth that happens
when you're at this Riding the Dragon stage. And the important thing at this point is to
not get pulled in to your ex's emotional confusion. OK? If you get pulled into their emotional confusion,
it's going to tie you in knots as you're trying to figure it out, as you're hanging on every
word that your ex says. Don't get pulled into that. Just understand that they are confused and
just stay focused on what you want. Stay focused on having high quality emotional
connections with your ex. OK? As long as you continue to beat down that
reactance and build up the positive emotions towards your ex, you're going to eventually
get to the fourth stage. That fourth stage is called the Crisis Point. OK? Now oftentimes people get very excited about
being at the Crisis Point, even though it's not really something that's very exciting
to be at, although can be exciting, but maybe not in a good way. It's called a Crisis Point because at this
point the reactance is down to 20 to 40 percent reactance. OK? So the majority of them likes you, emotionally. There's a very little bit of that emotional
reactance left, that resistance left. And at this point your ex knows that they
have very strong positive feelings for you. Your ex is unable to deny that any longer. They can't veil it with confusion or anything
like that. It's very clear to them, however, they don't
feel very ready to make that jump to being in relationship with you again. They're not emotionally ready. Maybe they still have hangups or concerns
on their part. Maybe there's some external things that are
going on in their life that are keeping them from making that decision. Like, you know, maybe they're in a rebound
relationship with somebody new, right? They don't want to break up with that person
until they're really sure. After all, they broke up with you and then
they ended up in this relationship with somebody else. How silly would it seem if they broke up with
that second person as well and then got back together with you and it didn't work either,
and then they had a third breakup and then there were just like lost and everyone was
like, oh, well, you know, that's the person that's just always breaking up. They're in one relationship this week and
then they're out the next week. And they don't want to think of themselves
as that way. So they want to make sure that this is the
right choice. So they're holding off and they're kind of
pushing back as they're approaching this crisis. They are coming up to this crisis where they
have to make a decision. Are they going to get back together with you
or are they not gonna get back together with you? Are they going to create the space in their
life to explore what's possible with you or they not gonna do that? OK. And as they get closer and closer to this
crisis, they might start to do things like actively discourage you even though they like
the connection that they have with you. They might say things like, we should just
date other people. You're too good for me. Things along those lines. Right? And that's kind of what that means. It's like, you know, I'm trying to take the
pressure off of me to make this decision because if you just didn't want to get back together
with me, then I wouldn't have to make this decision and I wouldn't be as difficult point
where I have to, you know, maybe go out and tell all my friends and family that, hey,
we're getting back together after, you know, after I finally worked up the courage to tell
them that we broke up and they spent the past month or two trash talking you, right? I don't want to have to go back to them and
kind of say, well, yeah, so, uh, you know, my ex that we all agreed was a jerk. Well yeah, we're getting back together again. Right? That's kind of a little bit embarrassing,
and so they don't want to make this choice unless they're absolutely sure and so in order
to take the pressure off of them from actually having to make this choice, they want you
to make the choice for them. They're trying to get you to disqualify yourself
by saying, oh, well -- you should really date other people. They're hoping that -- part of them is hoping
that you say no, but part of that is hoping that you'd say, yeah, all right, maybe we
should date other people. It's kind of like a test. You know what I mean? Like you're too good for me. They're kind of like saying, well, if you
really did believe you are too good for me, then we wouldn't be in this situation and
I wouldn't have to make this hard choice. OK? That's the Crisis Point. And at this point, at this point, not earlier,
not back at Wall of Reactance, not at Test Drive, not at Riding the Dragon, but only
at this point. You can draw a line in the sand and tell your
ex, you know, no, I don't want her to other people. I'm in to you and I want to be with you so
I'm not going to date other people. Or I don't think you're too good for me. I think you're the right person for me. Besides, with a knowing what a mischievous
grin, I can be a little bit bad too... or something like that, right? Again, you only want to do this at the Crisis
Point if you do it earlier, if you do it prematurely, very bad things will happen, OK? Don't do it beforehand. Please don't do it beforehand. If you remember anything, don't do it beforehand. OK? And what this is going to do is it's going
to keep the pressure on your ex. it's going to force them to confront what
they actually want, which is to continue to develop this strong connection with you. It's going to help put them -- help them put
more trust, more faith in what the two of you have, so that they know if they break
up with the rebound, that they know if they finally make the move and moved back in with
you, they know that if they tell all their friends and family that are getting back together
with you, that they know if they rearrange their life in some way, that it's not going
to be a mistake. OK? And if you can do this, if you're going to
get past the Crisis Point, you'll be at that last stage, the fifth stage. This is called New Beginnings. This is where your ex's reactance is from
zero to 20 percent. You know your ex may still have a few hesitations
a few little concerns about getting back together with you. And those are the last little bits of reactance,
you know, it's like, well, what's going to be different about this time, right? I enjoy interacting with you and this is fun,
but we did end up in a breakup last time. What's going to be different? How are we going to keep ourselves from ending
up in that same dynamic? Right? And at this point you can actually talk about
getting back together with your ex and you can directly talk and address how you can
make the relationship work in the long run, OK, because the reactance is lower, because
they're much more open to talking about this. They're much more emotionally open, emotionally
ready and emotionally excited about getting back together with you. They can talk about how the two of you are
actually going to have a successful relationship together. What are you going to need to do? Are you going to be able to spend more time
connecting with one another or are you going to be able to prioritize your relationship
more? Are you going to be able to not work so much? Are you going to be able to not be so influenced
by your friends? Are going to be able to keep your word more? I don't know exactly what it is that might
be your ex's concern, but this is where you can talk about it and at this point, this
is also where you can actually reduce that last little bit of reactance and have your
ex feel comfortable and completely excited and completely ready to get back together
with you. And that's the fifth stage, New Beginnings. OK, so again, we have these five stages. Wall of Reactance, Test Drive, Riding the
Dragon, Crisis Point, and New Beginnings. Along the way, the most important thing is
to focus on the quality of the emotional connection that you have with your ex. Along the way, the emotional connection, the
quality of the interactions you have are the most important thing. They're more important than who's texting
who. They are more important than who is initiating
contact with who. They're more important than whether or not
your ex isn't rebound relationship. They're more important than whether your ex
is upset or not upset. They're more important than anything else. OK? I literally say this all the time and I literally
mean it. Your ex's emotional connection with you is
the most important thing in getting back together again. OK? If you want your ex to want to get back together
with you, emotional connection is the most important thing. I do not say that lightly, but I mean this
100 percent. OK? You do not need to focus on text messages. You not need to focus on facebook activity. You do not need to focus on, you know, your
ex being in a rebound relationship. You do not need to focus on your ex wanting
to be "just friends." You do not need to focus on any of that. As long as you focus on the quality of the
emotional connection between the two of you, everything else will take care of itself. OK? So I hope this has been helpful for you. If you are interested in getting back together
with your ex, we do have a course. Again, it's called the Ex Solution Program. You can find out more about that at http://ModernLove.life/esp
http://ModernLove.life/esp, E as in Echo, S as in Sierra, P as in Paul. OK, you can go ahead and find out about that
over there. Anyway, I hope you have enjoyed this Relationship
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into our question and answer for today. Clyde writes in and says, two weeks ago, I
asked you about rebound relationships and how a common case for women is to seek validation
in that kind of relationship. If I understand correctly, they may chase
the man and if they get him, that proves their value. It got me thinking about what happens when
a man like me chases a woman who isn't completely emotionally available. I wonder if it could have the opposite effect. That is if she ends up in a relationship with
me because I pursued it from her perspective, it might feel like she achieved it effortlessly,
as if she did nothing to deserve that love. Could this leave her feeling like she has
settled to easily? This has to do with a lot of advice about
dating that I've heard according to which women need to feel challenged in order to
fall in love. I'd like to know more about your opinion about
all of this. Thank you. OK, Clyde. So when it comes to this idea of challenge,
and this applies both to men and women, this is not like just specific to one gender because
women also have this belief that men need to be the pursuer that men only like the thrill
of the chase and blah blah blah and all that stuff. But really at the end of the day, it's not
that people don't like being pursued or don't want to be pursued or vice versa or want to
be it or don't. But, but, but all of this has to do with the
idea of having something given to you for nothing. OK? So for example, it's one thing to flirt with
somebody and to say, wow, the way that you just talked about your art and what you're
passionate about is really moving me. And I think that that's incredibly sexy and
I would love to get to know you more and take you out for coffee. Are you free on Thursday? That's one thing to say that, but it's another
thing to say, hey, you're beautiful. You want to go out on a date with me, right? That is something that is unearned, whereas,
you know, somebody expressing themselves and talking about maybe something they're passionate
about or sharing some aspect of their personality or sharing, you know, something of that magnitude
where they're pretty much investing something into the interaction or investing something
of themselves into some sort of dynamic between the two of you. That is the kind of thing where you can -- where
they are actually an active participant in sculpting the direction that the interaction
goes. So, you know, that's why I prefer to flirt
with people during relate reward cycles. Uh, because when you do the relate, you know,
you are actually encouraging that person to share more about themselves. You're actively engaging with them and you
are actively reflecting back something on them that you find attractive. Something that you are fascinated with, something
that really touched, moves, or inspires you, et cetera. And that is something that they had to work
even if it's just a little bit to earn. Therefore that is the kind of compliment,
that is the kind of something that comes with them putting skin in the game as well too,
so it's a mutually created experience, right? Whereas, you know, for example, women often
complain about men cat calling at them. You know, they walk by, I don't know, just
like so cliché example, a construction site and you know, all these guys are like, Ooh,
yeah, looking nice, baby! Oh yeah! All that stuff. And that is generally not welcomed by women
because the woman has done absolutely nothing to earn that kind of praise. I mean, you know, sure. Maybe she woke up in the morning and put on
a nice outfit or whatever, but she actually didn't engage in that conversation. It's not like she was putting on the outfit
saying, I'm going to go and see this construction site and all these guys are gonna, you know,
whoop and holler at me because I'm wearing this really provocative, nice outfit or something
like that. She just put it on because that's what she
felt like wearing that day and just the path of her day happen to lead her by that site
-- the construction site where all those people just happen to give her some attention. That kind of attention was not earned, that
kind of interaction, she put zero effort into the interaction. Therefore she has no perceived value in that
interaction. OK? And do you see the difference between that? So when it comes to, for example, you pursuing
a woman, she will take it as being something of value, if it is something that she works
together with you to co-create, that is to say if she is able to bring herself to the
interactions that you have, if she was able to express her personality, if she's able
to express who she is and, importantly, if you are able to appreciate and acknowledge
those aspects of her, then it will be something that she does value. OK? So you might say if she expresses some interest
in art or something like that, you might say, you know, because you've expressed a strong
interest in art, I thought we could go out on our next date to this art museum or something
along those lines and that is her actually in a certain way, playing an active role in
the interaction and how it unfolds. OK? And of course you are too by planning the
date and all that stuff, but you're not just asking her out on some sort of blend, typical
date. You're not just throwing yourself at her,
you're not just bending over backwards to want to create some sort of relationship with
her and she's just kind of sitting there, you know, that's the kind of thing that people
often take for granted. And, those types of relationships, those types
of dating situations, you know, yeah, it often does not feel good on an emotional level to
the recipient of such praise, to the recipient of such advances because that person has put
no investment into the dynamic and therefore it seems lopsided and it's not in accordance
with what we call the investor strategy in our courses. OK? Remember, you want to have a more or less
equal amount of investment. OK. No, it's not always going to be equal. Sometimes you're going to have more invested. Sometimes she's going to have more invested. But, you know, it's a matter of slowly upping
the ante so that the stakes are more or less equal on each side. OK? That's why it's important to, to actually
follow that investor strategy. So, Clyde, I hope this helps you out and please
keep us updated on how things go moving forward from here. All right, so that was the Q and A for this
week. With that being said, thanks again so much
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