Help I’m Horny // Your Attraction Isn’t The Issue // Help, I’m Hurting // Tim Ross

what's up transformation family tc nation transformation church i am so grateful that i get the opportunity to serve with you all today i'm so grateful that i get the opportunity to be a part of this series pastor amberley did a great job last week with help i am hoarding and i have the distinct privilege the distinct assignment to kind of come after you today and um my role in this series uh is to teach on a subject called help i'm horny now i know you'll probably be like what what does he mean by that i'm i'm so uncomfortable uh uh we're gonna address sex and sexuality today okay we are going to talk about sex and sexuality today uh and uh i know that word might seem a little bit uh out of date for you for some of you all you're uncomfortable with it it might sound crass uh but can we just be honest real quick uh anybody in here ever been horny [Music] if i don't see 100 of hands then i'm gonna just pray for the lion spirit that might be on you uh but but i wanna deal with uh horniness i wanna deal with sexuality i want to deal with uh the sex drive that god gave us and how it's supposed to be understood from a biblical perspective so i have a lot of content to cover today i have a lot to teach today uh and so i just want to pray and get straight into it is that all right all right so uh bow your heads let's pray over the word before we get started okay holy spirit help us with our horniness [Music] amen that's as quick as i want to get it uh uh but but i want to i want to start off by saying that uh i feel like god has given me a grace and an anointing to teach on this uh because i have experience with this and so i want to start off with my testimony according to the book of revelations chapter number 12 scripture says very very clearly that we overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony and so uh i feel like you need to know uh my hot story before i give you any points or any scripture uh addressing this particular subject uh i am 46 years old now i've been married for 22 years to the finest woman breathing on the planet juliet rocks and uh there's been a lot of challenges in the in the spiritual walk that i've had with the lord for the last 25 years in this area as it relates to uh sex and sexuality and the reason why is because when i was eight years old i was sexually abused by a teenage boy that lived across the street from me for over a six month period of time it was absolutely devastating to me and it woke up sexual desires in me that were not supposed to be awakened at eight years old no eight-year-old should ever have to go through anything like this but at eight years old sexual desire was stirred up and awakened in me and i had no contextualization for it eight eight years old i wanted to play with he-man okay i wanted to ride my big wheel i wanted to play baseball outside but i had been abused and now i had this new experience that i should not have had outside of the marriage bed that was now in my head at the age of 12 years old i was exposed to pornography uh and pornography and masturbation became something that was an addiction for me throughout my teenage years by the time i was 19 i was a full-blown porn addict and i was highly promiscuous so by the time i got into sexual encounters i was just wild and i was promiscuous and uh i was in uh heterosexual sexual relationships outside of marriage that i was never supposed to be in but because i was trying to medicate my own pain my way i continued to give my body to people that i was never going to give my vows to wow and so i have the authority to speak on this subject because god's given me victory in this area of my life i needed to lay the groundwork for that first because uh when when you have a title like help i'm horny and you want to talk to believers and maybe some unbelievers about sexual sexuality it can get really sensitive very quickly and people start going hey hey preacher you cool talk to me about god but don't talk to me about my sex or my sexuality or what i'm doing in my bed and who i'm doing it with so i want to be very very clear who i'm preaching to today i want to be very very clear who i'm teaching to today if you not if you have not accepted jesus christ as your lord and savior this message is not for you i do have a message for you jesus died for your sins god loves you so much that he sent his son to die on a cross for your sins and he would love to have a relationship with you that's my only message for you i have the good news for you jesus wants to have a relationship with you he wants you to accept him not only as savior but his lord so if you're not a believer but you like transformation nation and you like being a part of this community and you love mike todd and you're just tolerating me today what i want to let you know is this message does not apply to you the gospel does yeah yeah but if you call yourself a believer in jesus christ and you're saying that he is not only your savior but he is also your lord this message is most definitely for you and i am coming straight down the passage of scripture in everything that i talk about today so are y'all ready no like for real are y'all ready cause what i have to say is gonna be some stuff that you gonna you're gonna be like oh my god i didn't know you was gonna go there i'm going there and whether you like it or not is something that we are going to address today you all ready all right i got four points to this message all my nerds take notes because nerds new rule the world i got four points to this message and i want you to have them straight from the top here's point number one god created our sexuality god is the one that created our sexuality we didn't create it he created it and i got bible to prove it genesis chapter number 1 verses 27 and 28 so god created who created it so god created man in his own image in the image of god he created him male and female he created them then god blessed them and god said to them be fruitful and multiply fill the earth and ship do it have dominion over the fish of the sea over the birds of the air over the over every living thing that moves on the earth god is the one that created our sexuality so here's some things that i want you to write down as it relates to this human beings are sexual beings you got your sex honest you got your gender honest you got your sexuality honest because god is the one that created it so human beings are sexual beings and through our sexuality we were to fill the earth and govern it we were to feel the world and of and and govern it be fruitful and multiply and and subdue everything on earth here's the last one i want you to write down male and female sexuality is central to what it means to be human male and female sexuality is central to what it means to be human this is why when we get ready to talk about it with people people get so defensive because god gave it to us but he didn't give it to us for us to do what we wanted to do with it the way we wanted to do with it it has to line up with his intentions anybody in here got a car anybody beside me got a car okay if you have a car your car came with the owner's manual and in the owner's manual versions were instructions for how you are to use that car now if you wanted to you could take your car and drive it into the lake but if you drive your car into the lake it won't become a boat because you feel like your car should be in the water just because you feel like your car should be in the water will not turn your car into a boat now if your car was to break down you should consult the person who made the car as opposed to talking to your friends that just work on cars [Music] because just because they knew how to fix their tire they may not know how to fix your transmission so we refer to the owner's manual when it comes to lining up with what the manufacturer recommends the way this car should run in the same way the bible for believers is the owner's manual and we look back to it to find out what he wants us to do with our lives y'all with me point number two please write this down god directed our sexuality god directed he not only created it but he also directed it here's what it says in genesis chapter number 2 verses 21 and 22 and the lord caused a deep sleep to fall so the lord god caused a deep sleep to fall on adam and he slept and he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh in his place then the rib which the lord god had made had taken from man he made into a woman get this last line and he brought her to the man god directed the sexuality of adam and eve eve was in adam come on he puts adam to sleep pulls eve out of adam forms eve he made adam but he formed eve he just picked up some dirt and mate and just mash it up rolled it in blew into it the breath of life he made adam but when he put adam to sleep he tore adam in half and formed eve that's why women just you know bow now back bam i mean it's just i look at juliette every time i look at juliet i'm like you was not made girl you was babel juliet was formed okay now this male man wakes up and when this male man wakes up what he has been brought is a female man there is a male man and there's a female man a man with a womb he made eve come out of adam and he directed her sexuality to adams he directed adam's sexuality to eaves he did not give them options [Applause] he did not put adam to sleep and then make eve margaret billy and marcus and present four or five different options back to adam and say which one do you like he said what i put in you is compatible with what i've put in her and what i put in her is compatible with what i've put in him well what if i don't like what you brought me god if you don't like what he brought you you don't have a problem with god's design you got a problem with his command i want something else god you don't get nothing else from the beginning he directed the sexuality of eve to adam and adam to eve well tim you in the old testament i don't even like this sermon no more because jesus wouldn't say this to me cool matthew chapter number 19 verses 4 through 6 and he answered and said to them have you not read that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female this isn't red for anybody that wants to know he made them male and female and said for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh so then they are no longer two but one flesh therefore what god has joined together let no man separate now i'm gonna give you one more verse before i really just kind of rub this in ephesians chapter number 5 verse 31 i just want to take you straight out of the gospels into more of the new testament and here's what paul has to write for this reason same thing for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh god directed the sexuality of adam and eve of the male and female and he brought them together and here's what he says i need you to know something i brought this together let no man rip up what i brought together so let me ask this question what did he bring together at the beginning he brought together a male and a female so for over four thousand years of human history in scripture six thousand years so far if you go back to the creation creationist perspective of of when time began then what we see is that god had an original intent and plan for how he wanted us to express our sexuality well tim i'm horny though it's 20 21 sex just feels good and i don't care who's giving it to me as long as i can just satisfy this craving that i have i don't see what the big deal is and i'm not out there walling out i just got one person oh my god so i don't see what the lord i don't see why the lord would be mad at my what i'm doing right now cause we gon get married anyway [Applause] oh y'all gonna get married anyway except in jewish culture when you have sex you are married so how many times have you been married which brings me to point number three and i think point number three is something that we really need to dig into here and i'm gonna take my time and i'm gonna read some stuff that i know some of y'all gonna be like why did he even go to this book this book scares the life out of me i don't like this book i avoid this book at all cost how come he's not in psalms how comes he's not in proverbs how come he's not in john 3 16 and giving me something happy i'ma let y'all know something right now i got something to read y'all because i need you to understand that not only did god create your sexuality and not only did he direct your sexuality he also wants to protect your sexuality see here's the thing i need you all to know god is not mad about you being horny it just means you work properly if you see something on television and you're aroused by it that means your sexual wiring works properly god does not have a problem with you being horny he has a problem with what you might do with that horniness so i got to read you something so we have to go to the book of leviticus for this leviticus chapter number 18. and i got to read you some stuff and i thought i would give you a visual so that you can understand uh what god may want to do as it relates to your sex drive your sexual orientation your sexual attraction i believe that he wants to address it which is why point number three again is god protected our sexuality he did it through scripture and here's what i want you to see i want to read something then i just want to give you just uh uh i need to give you a picture because you need to see something so i'm gonna hold this in my hand uh so i can set this up and then we're gonna go straight into this you all ready for this then the lord said to moses give the following instructions to the people of israel i am the lord your god so do not act like the people in egypt can i just say can i bring this up to 2021 do not act like the people in america [Music] do not act like the people in the hip-hop culture do not act like the people in pop culture do not act like the people in r b culture do not act like people in in whatever culture does not line up with kingdom culture he says do not act like those people where you used to live or like the people of canaan where i'm taking you let me pause right there and say god is cold god said i don't want you to act like the people from where i brought you from and i don't want you to act like the people where i'm taking you you need to be completely set apart for me he said so don't act like the people in egypt where i brought you from i like the people in canaan where i'm bringing you to you must not imitate their way of life you must obey all my regulations and be careful to obey my decrees for i am the lord your god if you obey my decrees and my regulations you will find life through them i am the lord y'all ready for this starting from verse number six you must never have sexual relations with the close relative for i am the lord don't have relationships with a close relative that's what he said right do not violate your father by having sexual relations with your mother you would think this would have to go without saying she is your mother you must not have sexual relations with her do not have sexual relations with any of your father's wives for this would be for this would violate your father so we've already got three blocks gosh is coming out the gate hot not have sexual relations with your sister or half sister whether she is your father's daughter or your mother's daughter whether she was born into your household or someone else's i'm gonna just pause and say this there is a there is a very perverse spirit out right now in the porn industry where all of the porn actresses and actors are doing incestual things i have a hot step mama i'm doing something with my brother i'm doing something with my sister the bible is addressing this right now because that ain't new it's been around for a long time do not have sexual relations with your granddaughter what do we even need to say this lord whether she is your son's daughter or your daughter's daughter for this would violate for this would violate yourself do not have sexual relations with your stepsister the daughter of any of your father's wives for she is your sister do not have sexual relations with your father's sister he's still going for she is your father's close relative do not have sexual relations with your mother's sister for she is your mother's close relative do not violate your uncle your father's brother by having sexual relations oh it's already spilling out that's what's happening to people's sexuality right now they can't even hold it in pandora's box is open and it's all spilling out i'm just trying to line it up and give it some structure but it's all out in the open right now everybody going buck wow and it ain't just in the world it's in the church do not violate your uncle your father's brother by having sexual relations with his wife for she is your aunt do not have sexual relations with your daughter-in-law she is your son's wife so you must not have sexual relations with her do not have sexual relations with your brother's wife for this would violate your brother do not have sexual relations with a with both a woman and her daughter this is just getting freaky and do not take her granddaughter lord have mercy what is y'all doing out here in these streets whether her son's daughter or her daughter's daughter and have sexual relations with her they are close relatives and this would be a wicked act while your wife is living y'all better get this one do not marry her sister and have sexual relations with her for they would be rivals do not have sexual relations with a woman during her period of menstrual impurity do not defile yourself by having sexual intercourse with your neighbor's wife you would think do not permit any of your children to be offered up as a sacrifice to molech for you must not bring shame on the name of your lord i am the lord as some of y'all are saying what does that even mean that's talking about abortion do not practice homosexuality having sex with another man as with a woman it is a detestable sin a man must not defile himself by having sex with an animal and a woman must not defile uh must not offer herself to a male animal to have intercourse with it this is a perverse act do not defile yourselves in any of these ways for the people i am driving out before you have defiled themselves in all these ways now let me tell you why some people have not addressed what is written in leviticus chapter number 18. because the only thing people have done with leviticus 18 is reduce it down to one verse and they've reduced it down to one verse about homosexuality let me address this right now there are 19 sexual sins that i just read you why would you only point to one of them as if this one is worse than all the other sins that are listed there's 19 sexual sins 17 are heterosexual one is homosexual and one is to not sleep with animals so it's not that we're coming against one act it's we're coming against all the acts and we're saying that god has prescribed a way to not prohibit us but protect us so that we can enjoy what he gave us and the way we're supposed to express it now here's what i've heard so many people say that verse don't mean that that's not what the bible means and so and so you need to take that verse out because god's not talking about that so come get it out if you think your sin is okay on this list maybe you like your uncle maybe you think your uncle's hiding you like i want you the big deal is come get it out but be careful because if you can get yours out i hope you can get yours out without messing it up because if you can get yours out without oh that looks like it might wobble maybe i can't mess with my uncle maybe my cousin maybe i should oh cousin like third cousin it ain't even that serious we just messing around oh well oh you got your you get if you get to mess with your maybe i could then maybe i should come for mine wow and if i can come for mine and this is what happens in culture when everybody gets to choose what is and what is not permissible according to what god has clearly laid out in scripture everyone gets to hold their peace and say this is how i see it and i'm gonna keep my relationship with jesus i'm gonna hold on to my block and i'm gonna keep my relationship with jesus no you're not he's coming for everything that you're holding on to not because he's trying to punish you he's trying to protect you so let me let me give you some nuggets that i need you to have in point three i'm gonna say something right now and i know there's gonna be some old school people in here that's gonna be like your butt cheeks gonna get tight i'm telling you right now you're gonna be like what are you where are you going with that brother i was enjoying this but why did you say something like that because i can stand on the bible with it y'all ready attraction isn't a sin i need that to marinate attraction isn't a sin say it with me attraction isn't a sin again attraction isn't a sin real loud attraction you can go from genesis to revelation you can't find not one verse where god is after somebody's attraction attraction is not a sin our reactions to our attractions can become a sin your attraction is not the issue and here's the thing if you talk about if you talk to god about what you're attracted to or who you're attracted to god would agree with you god i'm attracted to them they're beautiful here's what god would say i know i make beautiful things what the problem is god i just have man i just feel so attracted to that person it's okay i make beautiful things so if you're attracted it's not a big deal because i make beautiful things say to get with me again attraction it's not a sin and if you ever hear somebody say that attraction is a sin i just want you to know it's not lust is a sin attraction isn't so let me tell you let me let me give you the next thing attraction isn't planned anybody beside me attraction isn't planned i have been i have been married for 22 years and as beautiful as juliette is i would be lying if i said she's the only beautiful woman in the world because she's not she's just a beautiful woman i copped that one belongs to me okay so it's not that i don't see other attractive people it's just that those attractive people do not have a commitment and a vow with me so i can acknowledge their beauty without it turning into lust because the attraction is not something i actually planned i plan what to do once i see what i'm attracted to so if i'm walking to the mall you know i'm saying i'm walking through the mall and i'm just chilling and i see a fine girl go past me and it's not juliette because why would julia be going past me she'll be going with me right so if juliet goes past me no not juliet if another girl goes past me and i and and while we're walking i can see oh your parents did a great job with you dave amen parents your parents amen i didn't plan the attraction i didn't get up in the morning and go let i can't wait to go to the mall hope i see somebody as pretty as juliet today no i just went to the mall i saw an attractive woman if she passes me and i keep going there's no issue with my attraction that's right if i do this if i'm now walking through the mall seeing where she going seeing where she eating seeing if i if i can catch her eye if i start doing this with my ring [Music] and i'm just hey what's hey what's up you you good you live around here no no no no the attraction's not the issue what are you going to do with the attraction that's the issue and so here's what god is saying why would god list all these things if if they weren't going to be attracted to any of these things he goes hey you just came from egypt you saw a whole bunch of freaky stuff over there and you go into canaan you're about to see a whole bunch of freaky stuff over here here's what i want you to know don't do none of that so i'ma go down the whole list so none of y'all get it twisted well what if my uncle's cute nope what if my auntie's cute nope what if my grandma's hot nope what if my dad's hot no fool what about my sister-in-law i mean i mean it's a blended family no stop it why is god he's not prohibiting he's protecting and i'm tired of the church dropping threats and bombs on homosexual behavior and not dealing with all this heterosexual sex going on in the church it's as if you don't have a problem preaching against it as long as it's not two of the same sex in the bed but you let all these heterosexuals shacking up living together on the worship team together having sex preaching together having sex and then you like you know what they just struggling we praying for them but you ready to send all the homosexuals to hell the devil is alive that whole list was 17 heterosexual sins one homosexual sin one bestiality sin and it's time that the church if you're gonna talk about it talk about it all and while i'm addressing pastors preaching to their congregation some of the congregation need to be preaching today pastor because the pastors is having sex with the boys and the girls in the church too [Music] so before we have another generation of church people turned out by their leaders [Music] let's make sure everybody's protected even from the pastors that don't know when to put it away felt that yeah i felt that i just felt like that [Applause] so let's recap real quick before we go to uh point number four right god is the one that created our sexuality yes god is the one that directs our sexuality god actually protects our sexuality he protects it in marriage let me tell you something sex is so bomb this is why the enemy comes against it so hard sex is oh lord have mercy sex is so dope sex is amazing listen one of the issues uh that's happened is that we've told uh uh church people let me be more specific we've told young people and young adults that sex is bad in church to the point that on their wedding day they are paranoid to go have the sex that you told them was so bad that instantaneously turned good because they said i do no sex has always been good but there's only one type of sex that brings glory to god the only sex that brings glory to god is when a man and a woman have intercourse it brings glory to god why does it bring glory to god let me take you back to genesis chapter number one male and female he created he them in his image he created male and female in his image so let me tell you when we are more in his image than we are at any other time is when a man is having intercourse with his wife in holy matrimony [Applause] because when that man's penis is in that woman's vagina they are literally back to being one like when eve was inside adam [Applause] adam got put to sleep eve came out of adam through the sexual union adam gets back into eve and that's when the image of god shows up like it shows up nowhere else now let me tell you something that's glorious sex glorious sex is when a man and a woman in the holiest of matrimony bound by wedlock are having sex that's glorious sex let me tell you what inglorious sex is inglorious sex is any sex outside of the marital bed between a man and a woman that a man and a woman is having so if a man and a woman are not married and they're having sex god calls it inglorious if a man and a man are having sex god calls it inglorious if a woman and a woman are having sex god calls it inglorious well i'm horny though this is the way that i'm i'm attracted well attraction doesn't necessarily have to turn into orientation and orientation doesn't necessarily have to turn into identity you don't get there without a choice let me slow down no now you're coming against my sexuality no no hear what i'm saying remember attraction is not a sin what you do with that attraction is a sin when you are attracted to somebody you have a choice what to do next if you do it over and over it becomes an orientation this is the way you turn this is the way you are bent this is the way you michael jackson smooth criminal lean okay but if you lean there so long it ceases to be an orientation and it turns into your identity and we have a whole culture that has turned their sexuality into their identity and by turning it into their identity they have literally created an idol out of their own sexuality because anything you put in front of jesus christ is your idol so there's no such thing as a gay christian because a gay christian would be somebody who has put their sexuality above their identity in christ you can be a person that has a same-sex attraction but that does not mean that you turn it into your identity your identity is founded in christ and you submit your sexuality to what scripture says and that's how you live a godly fruitful life now i've got to give you some bible as i get to my fourth point god owns our sexuality god didn't only create it he didn't only direct it he didn't only uh uh protect it he owns it we are not the owners of our sexuality god is and uh i gotta show you something because here's what i know about the church of jesus christ everybody up in here all kind of people are following jesus as a part of the body of jesus christ and i'm telling you that there are homosexuals there are fornicators there are cheaters and liars there are uh uh people that have cheated on their taxes there are people that have cheated on their spouses there are people that have smuggled money everybody's in the church they came out of something into a relationship with jesus christ as i was studying for this message the holy spirit said hey you know you were just talking about uh uh the way that uh everybody's been coming against uh uh this certain group of people uh but i wanna show you that there were homosexuals in the church of jesus christ in the bible i said what he said now i can point you to where they are in the bible y'all this y'all can get blown away by this y'all about to you're not ready for this first corinthians chapter number six verse number nine here's what it says up top do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of god do not be deceived neither fornicators nor adult or idolatrous or nor adulterous nor homosexuals nor sodomites nor thieves nor covetous nor drunkers no revilers nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of god then it says this the next line and such were some of you wow i'm gonna let it let it rest for a minute nlt says some of y'all were like that you you want to know what kind of people jesus accepted he accepted cheaters and homosexuals and male prostitutes and those that were coveting and drunkards and liars and here's what paul said some of y'all was like that some of y'all deacons used to be like that tell me our praise and worship leaders used to be like that some of your musicians used to be like that some of y'all that was singing in the choir used to be like that some of y'all on the tech team used to be like that let's not make it a big old shock here's what he says next but you were washed you were sanctified but you were justified in the name of the lord jesus and by the spirit of our god this is what i'm saying god is the one that owns our sexuality he goes on to say this all things are lawful for me but all things are not helpful all things are lawful for me but i will not be brought under the power of any food's for the stomach and the stomach for food but god will destroy both it and them now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the lord and the lord for the body and god raised up the lord and will also raise us up by his power do you not know that your bodies are members of christ shall i then take the members of christ and make them members of a harlot certainly not or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot there's one with her one body with her for the two he says shall become one flesh paul's right there once again here's what paul is saying whoever you have sex with you're married with how many times have you been married real talk now now remember i told you i up front i told you i was highly promiscuous i was married a lot of times before i got married to juliet shamefully regretfully i was married way too many times i should have been married one time but because of the abuse i suffered as a child it led to me acting out in all these other ways now listen there's some people that share my testimony where you got abused and because of that you started wilding out others of you all as long as you can remember you've had an orientation one way either a sexual orientation towards uh the opposite sexual the same the sexual orientations toward the same sex and now it's in 2021 so you can be pan you can be tran you can be other than you can be all kind of stuff but if you really want to be a follower and a disciple of jesus christ you have to take your desire and line it up with his he's never coming out there to meet you you have to come in to meet him here's what it goes on to say flee sexual temptation flee sexual flee everybody say the word flee here's the only thing you can do with your horniness run you can't debate with it you can't negotiate with it you can't have no kind of conversation well you know we probably shouldn't you shouldn't probably spend the night okay if you sleep on the couch i'll sleep in my room and no no no no let me tell you something all of that gonna come back together all you're doing is desensitizing your bodies to how sinful the situation is that you've just put yourself in i've heard so many people say i don't know uh living together is not a sin cohabitation's out of sin only sex before marriage is a sin and so you telling me you strong enough day in and day out to be eating together showering together netflix and chilling together erections popping off vagina's getting moist and y'all not gonna do nothing come on help us i'm gonna i'm just gonna talk to you as plain as i can i'm gonna talk to you as plain as i can because you're talking about it out there so i'm asking you a question straight up you you about that life like that you such a strong believer that somebody you attracted to and you saying that god is setting your love for marriage y'all going to practice for 18 months you've already slipped up four times but you covered it under the blood you didn't bring it to nobody's accountability but you covered it under the blood no that's not covering it under the blood boo you hid that run [Music] that's the only thing you can do against sexual immorality is get on the good foot and dip so all you're gonna be able to do i have a friend uh the homie todd so the homie todd uh uh lived uh in mississippi he was dating a girl this is some 20 years ago we was holding each other accountable before we got married we're trying to we're trying to hold down our flesh until we get married and so he went over his girlfriend's house to um uh to pick her up to go to a movie and the door was open so he came in he sat on the couch and his girlfriend came out of the shower with a towel on and walked up to him and turned around and said take off the towel todd and todd knowing that we were supposed to be holding each other accountable had about a 1.5 second decision to make because if not it was about to go down let me tell you what todd did todd looked at her body glistening with that water still beading off of her back tau catching most of it pushed old girl off of her out of his way ran out the house passed his car up the street to a pay phone because this is 1997. okay ain't no cell phones he coached with painful painful he called me crying i said todd what's the problem he was like oh man i ain't doing nothing man he ain't doing that to me i said ty i don't even know what you're talking about what's up he said man i don't know my girlfriend's house bro i swear to god i didn't know nothing was about to go down bro and i came in there and she said we she said she's getting dressed but she came out with a towel on and she told me to take off the towel todd and so i put out i said what'd you do he said i pushed her off me man and i ran up the street he took the scripture literally cause that's the only thing you can do against something you like i don't know who i'm coming from [Applause] i'm not talking about something you don't like you don't need to run from something you don't like i don't like calamari you can put it on the plate and put as much sauce next to it as you want i ain't gonna touch it cause i don't like it come on but you put some dutch apple pie a la mode in front of me and you let that hot pie get that cold ice cream on top of it and you let that cold ice cream start melting and submitting to the heat of that hot pie because i had it before i'm gonna be tempted yeah so i have to push it back i gotta run i gotta i gotta change my scenery around todd ran all the way half mile up the street i said ty where is your car he said it's still in front of her house i said man how how long will it take you to get home he said from here about 15 minutes i said get in the car call me 15 minutes he caught me 13 minutes later that means that boy ran back down his car master gas probably ran through two or three lights but he got out of the situation and he preserved his purity and his witness because he didn't allow that tempting thing to turn him away from god flee sexual immorality every sin that a man does is outside the body but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body or do you not know that your body is the temple of the holy spirit who is in you whom you have from god and you are not your own for you were bought at a price therefore glorify god in your body and in your spirit which are gods let me say this as i close if you are a believer in jesus christ and you are having premarital sex of any kind don't you know that your body belongs to the holy spirit which means don't you know he's there with you while you're doing it [Music] would you have sex in the same room as your parents you try to get away try to get to a place that you can feel like you can control the environment here's what i want you to understand the holy spirit is in you and if you're involved in that behavior he's with you while you're doing that act [Music] the holy spirit has come on the inside of every single one of us so that he can be our sex guide against our sex drive [Music] i know you're horny [Music] i know you've been exposed to some things that you probably thought to yourself i should have been over this by now tim you don't understand i have these thoughts going through my head and i've exposed myself to a lot of pornography i'm married now but the sexual uh experience i'm having with my spouse is not like it was before we got married no duh [Music] because now the lights are on in a way they've never been before i know so many couples that have lived together for years and then they get married and they start facing these challenges that they never face even though they were living together before that's because you were living together in darkness and the light of god it didn't shine on your union until you said i do so now you see them in a different light in a different lens because god's light is on the relationship now whereas before it was only darkness [Music] listen i know this message was strong i know i covered a lot of scripture and i know there's probably some people thinking i don't agree with one word you said my hope and my prayer is that you would hear the words of the holy spirit more than you heard any way that i presented it there is hope for the horny there is literal hope for every single person that says jesus i give my sex and my sexuality [Music] to you no matter what i've experienced before i am ready for you to come into my life and not just be savior but lord in this area of my life would you bow your heads and close your eyes i hope that this message is a message that has literally transformed you today you might be watching and you've never given your life to jesus you might be watching and you're surprised that this message [Music] has given you a revelation of how much you need jesus in your life if you want to give your life to christ i just want you to take saved to 82 82 82. and if you would do that i promise you you would see your life transformed from the inside out your entire life turned upside down i believe god's gonna help us in every area of our life even the horny areas that we've not brought into the light i pray that this is the day that everything changes about the way you see your sex and your sexuality i love you guys so much now go out and live a transformed life god bless you [Applause]

Channel: Transformation Church

Views: 284,370

Rating: 4.9544115 out of 5

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Id: YUwOEJSyxr4

Length: 53min 41sec (3221 seconds)

Published: Sun Aug 29 2021