Girl Defined & selfies - MY TAKE ON IT

[Music] hey guys and welcome back to my channel so today we're gonna be talking about a channel called girl defined if you know you already know if you don't know it's pretty much a Christian channel where there are two hosts that talk to girls essentially I'm guessing that's their main audience about how to live a good Christian life and how to follow the Christian doctrines according to them anyways I wanted to review one of them with you because I think it's very interesting and related to today's society where people are always taking selfies always posting pictures online and they're specifically talking about that so I thought it'd be interesting to go ahead and review what it is that they're saying so this one in particular is called why Christian girls post seductive selfies hey guys it's Kristin and Bethany here with girl divine ministries right off the bat I would say that I'm not the target audience here I think that there's some very distinct differences between myself and them which isn't a bad thing I'll be right back okay I'm back um so I know that I look kind of like their friend who's going through an existential crisis but there's no way I was about to take my makeup off before I go out there are some parts where I'm gonna speed up and skip it because it is an 11 minute video a lot of what they talk about is very anecdotal so I don't think it's particularly important but I will link the video below so you can get all the context and see that I'm not taking things out of context and in today's vlog we're gonna be talking about why Christian girls post seductive selfies several years ago when we kind of first launched girl to find we were posting things and you actually wrote a blog that came out titled why Christian girls post deductive selfies and we had no idea that that blog post was gonna go viral and it literally went viral there were so many emails comments and it was really actually a pretty controversial post people talking about it and really struck up like a huge conversation and so because that post made such an impact and really brought up so many topics of seduction Beauty what really is that should we even be posting these we thought why don't we pick that conversation back up andrey talked about so the word seductive is be said a lot seductive tempting and attractive enticing synonyms are sexy alluring irresistible exciting provocative sultry so when they say seductive it always has this connotation of sexual kind of behavior sexual posing something of sexual is involved so that's I think the core what they mean when they say seductive it's not as much as it's attractive as much as it's provoking certain kind of feelings and thoughts and the people who look at it it's been a bile but it's an important topic so we're gonna kind of dig in and talk about it again right here but no reason I actually wrote that post because I was remembering a time back when we were younger when we were really buying into this idea that to be beautiful you also need it to be seductive and that by being seductive you were beautiful and people would like you yeah and so you know when you check out at the grocery store you're watching movies or anything interesting medium and that are beautiful and they're seductive we saw that and you know I remember distinctly like going to the grocery store and seeing these pictures of these models very seductive poses but they were beautiful and I thought wow that's what beauty is and we didn't say this out loud but inside that's what we were feeling bad its what a beautiful woman was so we thought you know we want to be popular we want to be liked and so we're just gonna copy what we're seeing on the magazines and so here's what we did and some of you have probably heard this story we got all decked out like layers and jewelry and like 10 layers of mascara new dark eyeshadow blush Leah everything yeah the hair and then we climbed up on the roof of our house because we needed a Photoshop it's effective I'm gonna post these photos for attention so write all of this is going to our heads but we're not really saying it out loud just internally this is what's going on in our hearts and so we climb onto the roof the winds blowing and our sister is literally snapping photos of us and we're like and we didn't say this out loud but internally we were really trying to be beautiful trying to be seductive hoping that that would bring attention that would bring affirmation that in some way that would make us feel more worried or more beautiful and we just sat there and waited it so I have to say that I do agree with some of what they're saying because I do think that a lot of the time people do confuse beauty or conflate actually beauty and being sexual and if you want to do that if you want to post those pictures on Instagram I don't have a problem with that at all you might receive really creepy comments but I don't have a problem you can do that if you also want to wear more covering things if you don't want to show certain parts of your body that's fine too the thing that I really have more of an issue with is acting like taking a certain type of picture says something about you if you're taking a picture showing a lot of skin that doesn't make you less pure or less Christian or less moral it doesn't really signify anything and I feel like a lot of the times we see people conflating taking a sexy picture or whatever that means to you with being a person who's promiscuous and I'm not gonna get into what I think about promiscuity because that's not what it's about but people usually associate a certain type of behavior with a certain type of picture and to some extent I can see why but I still don't think you can really understand what someone's like from a picture so when these girls talk about other girls posting sexy selfies or whatever the [ __ ] it is it's not making you any less of anything it's just you showing yourself and potentially another side of you as much as I'm not really for free bleeding and showing your pubes and all that other [ __ ] I think there's a time and place for showing things as they said I really don't think it's fair to kind of police what Christian women should or should not be posting or generally what women should be posting because that's really up to you and I feel like people these days are open-minded enough to realize that just because you post a picture in a short dress it doesn't make you any less respectable honorable immoral or whatever than anything else pictures don't really speak for your personality your personality and actions speak for you and I think that part of this message that I don't really like is acting like these pictures are your representation to the world when that's not the case it's your actions that are really your representation and your pictures are just something that's there something you might enjoy doing though I do believe in some level of modesty I don't really think it's fair to go around being like oh yeah you can't post that that makes you less pure no but looking back and seeing that story be realized okay in our hearts what was going on yeah that's our motivation what was going behind what was going on behind the camera inside of our hearts and really for us like I said the motivation for why we were posting those seductive selfies essentially was that we were seeking the praise of man we were wanting attention affirmation from our lips from our appearance and we know that that's a common thing that most of us as girls deal with that we struggle with I'm we're guessing you do too and so in this post we just want you to know that we can relate we understand the struggle and we really want to talk about the heart behind why we as girls as women are posting these kind of pictures I think something you hit on though that I just want to point out is this idea that beauty and seduction are really not the same thing like I think in our hearts we were wanting to be beautiful and because of what we saw in the culture we thought that that kind of meant that we needed to be seductive that we needed to be sensual that we really needed to have more people in and their attention and affirmation and praise of our sensuality would really make us beautiful but a single Christian women we need to stop and ask okay have we bought into that line have we really bought into the lie that beauty and seduction equals the same thing and instead of buying into that we need to pause and say no I need to view this from a biblical perspective and I need to really take a step back and ask where is my heart in this I need to stop and evaluate my heart so we want to share with you a couple of verses so I understand again where they're trying to go with this but leaving aside that I'm not religious I also think that even if you are religious not everything needs to return back to Scripture so if you want to turn to scripture for this good for you whatever doesn't matter but what I'm saying is that there is logic you know just in your brain scriptures aside saying you're posting this picture for reason X and why some of those reasons I think are toxic like if you're looking for validation all the time I think that that might indicate that there's something you know missing or something in you that's not working the way it should be working okay but leaving a side of extreme examples let's take the average girl who posts her selfies posts her pictures whatever whether she's Christian or not I don't think that the answer has to be in Scripture the answer is an intent your intent is really what matters and they talk about this but they relate it solely to the Bible and I'm like as a Christian girl you can even just talk to yourself and say hey why are you posting these do you need validation do you need it more than you think it's healthy and then you can decide whether you should keep posting change the way you post whatever the hell but this this idea that posting these seductive selfies is in some ways against or contrary of being religious is what I find kind of completely wrong because you can be religious and there plenty of people that I know who are religious who I don't know post sexy selfies maybe smoke weed maybe do like a series of things and I don't necessarily see it as contrary to their religion as much as I see it as a separate thing and maybe I'm wrong about this maybe that's my perspective and maybe you know you might tell me I'm uninformed you guys can let me know what you think but I just don't believe in creating this image where religion is paramount and then everything is connected to it in your life because I just really don't think it's like that it can be if you want to but I don't think it's like that and the way that they're setting this argument up is to say that if you're posting these sexy selfies you're somehow not a good Christian and I don't really see that you can be a good person in post sexy selfies you can be a [ __ ] person and post mod itself easy no there's just no actual rule there so this whole argument to me seems innately flawed from this and get-go so let me get back to normal and be done with this and we can talk about it so to wrap it all up I think that the problem with that argument is that it seemed very very much holier-than-thou no pun intended and I also do think that there is an issue with saying that certain things make you less X whether it's less womanly less Christian less pure because the reality is that behavior speaks more than anything as I voiced before the way they portray their story is that when they were posting these seductive selfies they were lost and they didn't understand where they were doing and they said that they were doing it for validation which okay like I said before the need for validation can be healthy in some ways and it can be very unhealthy in some other ways if you get to that point where it's unhealthy then yes by all means recalculate what you're doing at the same time that was only their anecdotal experience so just because they had that need for validation and they pose those seductive selfies and maybe it was like a dark time in their lives they're kind of projecting that on to anyone who posts seductive selfies because the reality is some people just do it cuz they feel good in their body some people just want to post them sometimes there's no real deep reason and that's okay but I think that because they went through it in a negative way now they deem it as negative entirely and I think that that's a stupid message to send because doesn't that go against that one thing in the Bible that's saying to not judge people because that's kind of what they're doing because they're assuming that every single person who posts a seductive selfie is having some kind of internal struggle or they're looking for the validation they were looking for which is just not a reality anyways guys I thought this was an interesting topic let me know what you think about it about posting certain types of pictures online and do you think it's okay do you think we've lost all sense of modesty let me know thank you guys so much for watching and thank you to my patrons as always now let's get into the fan art [Music] [Music] [Music]

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Views: 192,065

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Keywords: christianity, seduction, selfie, social media, post

Id: oGP74qEkbTM

Length: 12min 24sec (744 seconds)

Published: Mon Apr 09 2018