- Hey guys, I know
you're here for the video so I'm going to make this really fast. We have someone drop out of our cast which is the reason we only
have one guy in this episode, but honestly we want to
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with an array of opinions. So if you want to be in our videos, make sure you sign up at
jubileemedia.com/casting and of course I'm going to read all your applications, all your stories. Enjoy the video, guys. - My dad cheated on my mom, my mom cheated on my dad, my sister would always get cheated on, my brother cheated on his wife. I never thought that I would cause that kind of pain to someone. - I am a cheater and
it was a very hard time in my life when it happened. I ruined an entire part of myself. - Before, I wasn't very
empathetic with cheaters, but after I did it, I understood. - I feel like it a part of me, but it's not who I am right now. - I'd say in my early 20s, I didn't know why I was cheating. I didn't think a bunch about it. - Normally, a lot of people, they definitely beat themselves up for it, I kind of, I don't. - [Interviewer] When I
cheated, I enjoyed it. Three, two, one, go. (indistinct chattering) (laughing) - I was there for it. I
was there for the cheating. Like, let me tell you,
like, I'm here for it. It's a catharsis. It's cool for like the moments while you're in it and then
afterwards I feel horrible. It's like, okay, I'm doing this. I feel good because I'm connecting
with someone and I'm not connecting with my partner and so this feels good to have
this sort of connection with someone else. - I cheated in another country
so at that time I was like, "Oh, nobody's going to know about this. I don't say anything, you know, it's all about me right now." So at that time I enjoyed it. But yeah, as soon as I got back, I just felt so guilty, man. You know, high and then it went like low. Yeah I enjoyed it in
the process because one, my boyfriend at the
time was 2000 miles away and here's my best friend's
cousin who is right here and open and willing and I was like fuck it, let's go. - I actually cheated on
somebody, I was in a long distance relationship. I didn't cheat on the
person like through sex, it was something totally different, I just considered other
things as cheating. I did not enjoy it, no, it was like with a friend
from like middle school, he like hit me up, I was like, "How are you doing? Okay, let's go hang
out. What's happening?" So, no, I didn't enjoy it and- - You didn't enjoy the moment, like you didn't enjoy like
actually being with the person? - No. - Not at all from the very beginning? - No, you just like let things
happen, I just let it happen. I'm just like, "Oh, yeah, no, not again." - Really, then why didn't you stop? Why didn't you say, "No, I
don't want to do this thing."? - Yeah, thought I'd been like
my Lyft's outside, gotta go. (indistinct chattering) - Like he was like my
ride so I couldn't like (all chattering) - He was your Lyft. - I couldn't, yeah, no. - [Interviewer] Once a
cheater, always a cheater. Three, two, one, go. - I would say I strongly
disagree with this saying simply because people change, people
grow up, people learn things. Just because I did this one
bad thing when I was like, let's say 15, doesn't mean
that it should haunt me for the rest of my adulthood. - Once a cheater was a cheater. Okay. No, not really. I've been in several long
term relationships where like I've cheated from the very beginning until the very end of the relationship. Now you guys are saying, like I cheated one time when I was 15 or some shit like that. I'm like, oh, you guys are awesome. I was like on some straight fuck boy shit. So like, I was, straight up. So like what I was doing,
wasn't truly who I was, it was a defense mechanism. I have these strong
emotions towards my partner, I really wish that they would
listen to me, they're not and so I'm just going
to go and do something that makes me feel better. So I don't think that 'once
a cheater, always a cheater,' but I do on the other hand always tell every partner that I've been with about my habits and
what I've done in the past. I share it openly, because I think it's something
that should be shared more often because we're not
the only people that cheat, people watching the
stuff are also cheaters. - [Interviewer] I would be
willing to forgive someone if they cheated on me. Three, two, one, go. - Just because of simple
fact that I told my boyfriend at the time that I cheated
on him and then he forgave me but then these things started
happening where he's like, "Oh boy, like, what's
up? Where are you going?" I'm like, "Oh, I'm going to parties." "Oh, boys are going to be there. Huh?" I'm just like, "Why would you do that?" It just makes me want to
like just go back to what I was doing, let me
just hop like, I can't. - You have like no faith
or trust in me, like- - Yeah, exactly. The trust after was gone,
like, oh, I'm fine, we're fine like, no, we're not because
you're not emotionally, mentally like, oh, like, we're done. - [Hayley] Right.
- It wasn't done. So after that, I broke up
with him and I was like, no, I'm not going to be that person that's just like, "Oh, you cheated, bye." I'm not going to be like
that mentally or physically, I'm just going to be like, "No, we're going to work this out." - If it was the other way around, I still would've been begging
at his knees to be with me because of how much I was in love with him and I still forgive him
for what he's done to me and if anybody were to do
that later on I'd be like, "Hey, I've done it too." - A three out of the four
relationships I was in I was a cheater, but on
that one, that last one, I got cheated on, cheating all
throughout that first year, second year, same thing through that, I forgave him for all of it. I was still the one
begging him to be with me. I like tried, I said I
forgave him for that, but I didn't really, I
still have a lot of hate in my heart for that. But would I let the next person do that? Hell the fuck no like, what
do you mean I'm going to get to know you just for you
to do all of that stuff? Like that's why we learned
from our past mistakes, which that's kind of me being a hypocrite because I did the same
mistake over and over again. - You changed?
- Yeah. Only because, you know, before I cheated, I would've actually been
all the way back there. And then I came here
because I hold grudges so I mean, I will be more understanding to a person if they cheated
on me because I did it, but it would be really
hard for me to let it go, 'cause I would always
replay it in my head. For me actually the person I cheated on, we're still together, we're
getting married next month. - I was going to ask you
about that. Congrats. - Yeah, so he forgave me big time, obviously.
- I want to find out, so you cheated on him long, like overseas? - Yes. At first I was just like, "Okay, I'm going to just break
it off, not say anything." But he was so willing to
fix whatever was going on. And he was like, "I don't
know what's going on, what can I do fix it?" I was like, "This is just
what I'm what's going on, this is what I have in my
head, like I'm unhappy, I think we should go to
counseling and stuff." And so we did and we
like, we're more honest and open with each other and we were able to like work it out. - That's awesome. - [Interviewer] Cheating is always wrong. Three, two, one, go. - It's not always wrong
because, what if that person that's your relationship
with is like toxic? You're just like, okay,
I have like an excuse to cheat on this person. That's why... - Isn't that more of an excuse to break up with the
person than it is to cheat? - I know, but like you still,
but you still have benefits with that person too,
you know what I'm saying? Like you're in this
relationship and you're like, you have benefits so why (indistinct). - That's a hard part, right?
- [Jaz] Yes. - It's like, this is one
of the things I'm like, why I'm afraid of marriage. It's like, in some ways it's like, what if shit goes like super south? And it's like, I can't just undo this, this is not just a break up. - I am a firm believer that no
matter how toxic somebody is, no matter how horrible somebody can be, I don't think anybody
on this planet deserves to be cheated on. I wanted to believe I had
good reason, but I didn't, even though he called me a dumb
bitch, every other sentence and I was the most ugly and stupid person that he's ever met and I only exist to
send him nudes, like... - Yeah, you did the right thing by getting out of that relationship. - Yeah. - You did the right
thing for sure, for sure. - Yeah. - [Interviewer] You can be
in love and still cheat. Three, two, one, go. - So the reason why I'm
strongly disagree is because if you actually love someone, why would you ever want to inflict any sort of pain on them? Since you are supposed to be their, I guess you can say their other half, why would you want to
be the bad half of it? It doesn't really make any sense. - Did you love the guys
that you cheated on? - No. That's why. - You didn't love them?
- I don't love any of them. - Did you tell them that you love them? - No. - You never said, " I love you?" - Well I never said it to any of them, 'cause I didn't love them. - Oh, okay, well that's interesting. I mean, I was in love with
the people I cheated on. I mean... - Would you call yourself
a selfish person? - Super selfish. At that time? For sure. Super, super selfish. I was- - But do you think you
could have gone been selfish in a different way and still not have hurt the person? - Exactly. Yeah I do. I agree with you. And that's a thing that now in this at this portion of life,
like I try and do... I've not cheated in a long while. - Yeah, I don't have too many
experience with relationships so actually my fiance, he
was my first boyfriend, so... - Did you feel like you wanted
to experience other people? What was the-
- 200%. So yeah, like I said he was my first relationship
and at that time like I wasn't very confident
in myself, my appearance, my personality, guys were
always looking at my friends, you know, and I was like,
okay, this guy likes me, it's like, this is it, you know? And then as I got older, I
just like more comfortable with myself and I'm
like, when I was in Japan I was like, oh hey, people,
like, I'm getting attention, like I love this, like, not like I fell outta
love with my fiance now but it was like, hey,
somebody else likes me, I am pretty like, I am cool, he's not just saying that, you know? - [Interviewer] I have forgiven myself. Three, two, one, go. - Damn, you guys haven't
for forgiven yourselves? I've forgiven myself. For sure, for sure. I mean, it took a lot of like reflecting. I don't think, my cheating
is not truly who I am. It was the result of not
seeing healthy relationships as I was growing up, not
seeing how people can work through things in a healthy way. - I feel like I had to
forgive myself just because, especially after the relationship
that I was in after that, I got cheated on just
because now I understand both sides of it. It isn't easy both ways,
but I feel like if you really actually want to learn
and grow from something, you definitely have to forgive yourself because you can't grow if
you don't forgive yourself. - I still haven't kind
of forgiven myself just for the simple fact that we're
kind of like in a courtship, so we're like intended to get married. So I could have been in like
her shoes of like, "oh fiance," but I didn't get that chance
just because of simple fact that I cheated and then all
that stuff happened and yeah that's something that I
was like, damn this time, it would've stayed and I didn't cheat, I could have been like married by now, I could have had like
the life that I wanted. - Do you think that you'd be like you and the guy would still be
together if you hadn't cheated? - No.
- [Vincent] Okay. Okay. - To be honest, 'cause I don't know how long I would've lasted in
the long distance relationship so, well, that's why I cheated. - I'm definitely still working on it. It's something that still
happened recently just last year so I just felt like,
you know, all my life, I grew up to be this perfect person. My parents were very proud of me, I never like went against them. So when I went to Japan,
we were already engaged. So me coming back, my
dad already put money on a down payment for the venue
and stuff, I felt so guilty. So like even now I just I know everybody's like forgiving of me but I just have to work
on forgiving myself still, 'cause I still think about it, you know, how I affected everybody around me. - [Interviewer] All right
guys, that's a wrap. (all clapping) - Come on, guys.
- I'm going to cry. - One, two, cheaters. - That was so crazy. (gentle music) - This is what cheaters look like. - [All] Yeah. - When you came here, I didn't
realize like, I was like, "You guys are cheaters, like, what's up?" - I came out and I was like,
"You look like a cheater." (all laughing) (gentle music)
