Alpha Body Language (NOT WHAT YOU THINK)

question from YouTube and by the way post below because that's where I get the questions for this channel from how to use body language in game other than the obvious eye contact and touching are there any more advanced techniques to supplement a push-pull style low-value body language mistakes any boss player Todd moves so there's a lot in this question but yeah let's talk about let's talk about body language where it's important where it's not important those kind of things there's there's a lot of people that just say like just have a good body language and that's all of game and that's kind of because the thing about body language for the most part we're talking body language like eye contact and touching that's escalation that's a different topic and we'll talk about that in a second right that's escalation that's not body language but body language it's very hard to body language your way into a girl's heart it is very easy with bad body language to turn a girl off or appear less attractive so there's such a thing as bad body language clearly like if you're just like hi I did like that's this bad body language okay you look weird you look creepy you look unassertive you look a lot of bad things but good body language pretty much is acting normal it's not like like people said it's super alpha body ones you see guys actually I don't know if this will come up on camera because the focus order but they're like I am good alpha body language I'm taking up space alright that is some it doesn't work like that in fact you have awful body language because you're looking weird and not normal like good body language pretty much is just being normal right and so that's why it's hard to like a body language your way to a result you can bodyweight language your weight towards unattractiveness for sure but body language to attractiveness there's not such a thing as big alpha body language whatever now there are things that do massively help so things like certain facial expressions that you can use that are flirtatious at the right time with the right timing can definitely help right I know that especially with really hot girls sometimes when I will deliver a line that's you know a bit polarizing they will look at me and they will look me dead in the eye and they will hold that stare to see if I crack first and me not cracking first and like nibbling a little smirk and like looking them in the eye and not cracking is a massive massive part of why I get attraction because they're essentially testing me for compliance there essentially looking to see if I'm gonna crack looking to see if I'm willing to support and back up what I just said or if I'm gonna back down book I'm sorry I'm just kidding that sort of thing and that is body language sort of but it's body language conveying an attitude conveying a message right and even eye contact eye contact per se is not a thing you're not like staring the girl down in the set but eye contact does convey a message so when you are doing something a little risky and you look the girl in the eye and like give her that yeah I know where this is leading kind of look that says something right or right before a kiss when you look at the girl's eyes and her lips and eyes and her lips that's called trying to engaging old-school technique but the fact that you are making eye contact they're getting intimate facing up slowing things down that is a message right so that's body language conveying a message it's not body language per se and it actually relates again to escalation so here's the thing with all that like you have a good body language mantra one it's hard to have great body language that's going to put you over the top it's easy to have bad body language but even teaching about bad body language doesn't really work very well so I will say long long time ago a mode of teaching that was often employed in in the pickup industry was to basically tell people the bad body language things that they should fix like things like standing like you feet too close together standing all hunched those kind of things like leaning into when you're talking things like talking very softly which isn't technically body language but it is it is a physical expression so all these like bad physical traits we used to say okay don't do this don't do this don't do this don't do this at the start of a program and what would happen was the student would get really nervous because of all the things you told them not to do and they'd go out and do every single one of those things because the body language doesn't come from nowhere the body language comes from your attitude it comes from your beliefs it comes from how you're viewing the situation and if you're viewing the situation as oh my god I'd better not mess up or oh I'm low value I better not like come off that way well all of those bad body language things are coming from that mentality whereas what we ended up doing eventually is just teach someone the right mentality teach someone to believe in themselves act like they're a boss and be assertive and take risks and when that happens your body language will reflect that and you'll get body language so naturally you're gonna stop doing a lot of those bad body language techniques not because you know them and are trying to stop them but because there's no longer any reason to do them you're no longer manifesting them because they were a manifestation of the attitude you had when you had a low-value attitude you did a low-value body language you have a high value attitude you have higher value body language I mean even I've seen students do things that are typically bad body language but if they just did them like very naturally and like congruently and with some confidence like sometimes he's a funny phenomenon right you tell a student to do something and you didn't mean for him to do it in a particular way and he did it a really really bad way with awful body language but because you told him to do it and you're an authority and he believes you he does his bad body language with confidence and it works in spite of itself right because it's not about the body language itself it's about what the body language is reflecting about you and so if he had unconfident body language but he clearly was confident and it just was an anomaly he just mustered his way through it didn't matter okay so here's the idea okay body language matters as a form of communication it matters because of what it says about you but it doesn't matter per se so just because you're told not to lean into a girl doesn't mean that leaning into girls always bad there may be some environments especially loud ones where you have to lean in and you're not giving power away by doing it and if you're this like I refuse to lean in you're missing something in game all right or they say don't cross your arms if you look at my in fields there are plenty of in fields where I have my arms crossed and I'm not arms crossed like this it's more arms crossed like this like I'm almost judging the girl right but I am crossing my arms and feel like that's closed off that's not open body language all right if you say so I still pulled the girl right so there is not such a thing exactly as this is good body language in bad body language and there's certainly not such a good thing as alpha body language that in and of itself is going to do game for you however body language that's congruent with a message that you're an attractive person is going to help and body language this can grow with your escalation is going to help right but body language should come from your overall attitude and demeanor and everything else that you're doing when you deal with it as its own separate entity that really doesn't particularly work well not only you know from experience it doesn't work well for students but also if anything it would just come off as incongruent if you're doing like massive alpha body language without you know believing in it without you know supporting it with all the other things that you're doing so that's my answer and body language yes it's important but it's focused on way way way too much and in a really really bad way by most people and it's not nearly as important as you think you

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Length: 7min 13sec (433 seconds)

Published: Sat Mar 09 2019