6 Texts That Move Your Relationship Forward

there's a particular problem people are having in dating today it's been going on for quite some time and it's the problem of things never really going anywhere you start talking to someone on a dating app you start texting them but you either get no momentum with them or it plateaus at a certain point and doesn't go anywhere after that all the momentum completely dies now i know you guys like it when i bring you something practical something you can use today so i'm going to give you six specific text messages that you can use or you can just take the principle behind them and craft something of your own that utilizes that principle because what this is all about is getting momentum number one add a human detail to your text messages it's one thing for someone to say how's your day going and you say it's going well thanks how's yours it's another thing to say it's going well i'm about to go on a run that gives someone a detail something they can craft a conversation out of or you could go one step further and say it's going well thanks i'm about to go on a run i'm dragging my little brother with me that now gives them a human detail on top of it something that paints a more three-dimensional picture of you in a world that is 2d we have to make ourselves three dimensional number two i'm calling this principle shorten the time frame if you're talking to someone on a monday and they happen to be leaving the conversation to go into a meeting don't finish that little chapter of the conversation by saying have a great week say have a great meeting have a great meeting as an interesting phrase or if you say have a great workout or have a great whatever they're doing right now because it's something you send to someone you actually know you may have only met this person yesterday but when you say have a great meeting there's something familiar about that there's something personal about that there's something that recognizes what they're doing right now and it also makes it easier to pick up the conversation by them telling you how the meeting went or by you asking how did the meeting go have a great week says i'll talk to you next week have a great meeting says we'll talk later today number three create a shared reference together if someone tells you something like their favorite tv show is ted lasso in a matter of minutes your relationship dilemma will be in the past then the next time you have a moment of banter fun conversation find a gif that fits what you're talking about from ted lasso that's a joke i love it that then creates this moment of i i know you a little bit b i was listening and c we have we now have a shared reference together something that builds our story side note when you send a gif or gif harry it's a form of pattern break in a conversation so it's been text text text text text and then this gif comes through and it's just like this little moment of animation it doesn't have to be a gif you could be a voice note it could be a picture but when you do something like that it's a pattern break that grabs someone's attention the intrigue complement give someone a compliment that's specific but begin it with this phrase do you know what i like about you first you're signaling that something interesting is coming how do i know it's interesting because it's about them and that's the most interesting subject in the world to that person right so do you do you know what i like about you pause right you can even not put it in that message just put one message you could do this in conversation too and just take a beat but in text you say do you know what i like about you and then you can wait for them to respond or just take a few seconds or a minute and then send the next part that creates this moment of suspense intrigue curiosity and it then allows you to give a specific compliment that shows not only a generous nature but it also shows confidence because you're confident enough to actually embrace and speak out loud about something specific you like about another person number six the accelerator text the idea behind this message is just to keep things moving we have to have an unwillingness to stand still an unwillingness to be in a situation where there is no momentum and that means if you keep getting texts from someone that don't go anywhere someone keeps sending you superficial details of their day or what they're up to asking how you are but it never culminates in a date you have to have a low tolerance for things that don't go anywhere so i mean we had this example stephen who's in the back hey steve we had this example a week ago where someone said this guy he'll literally text me and he'll tell me he's making soup but he never asks me on a date but he's the one who proactively texts me so here's what you do you ask him what soup he's making he says chicken soup you then say you know what's even more fun than chicken soup chicken soup on a date and you see what he says to that that's you calling him out for the fact that he hasn't asked you on a date his give is firmly putting the ball in his court and saying your turn that may be playful it's not aggressive but it shows an unwillingness to ignore the fact that right now this isn't progressing now before you go do you feel like you've in some way lost momentum with someone or do you feel like the momentum has taken a turn in a direction you don't want it to go i have a free training for you that is taken from a members webinar that i did for my love life members so this is normally reserved for my paid members but there was a woman on there who asked me a question exactly to that effect it was going well and now the momentum went in a different direction how do i get it back again i walk her through a step-by-step process of what to do and you can watch that too just as my little gift to you this week go to what to text next dot com to get that free training all i ask in return leave me a comment under the video when you get there let me know what you think that is at what to text next dot com i'll make sure it's here for you thank you so much and i'll see you next week you

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Length: 6min 44sec (404 seconds)

Published: Sat May 15 2021