3 Compliments That Create Deep Attraction (Matthew Hussey)

all right everybody let's talk about compliments shall we harry yes you haven't complimented me once today your hair looks very brown today even jamison's more complimentary than that and he says nothing but insults for the first 30 minutes of a video what are the compliments that create attraction with someone and not just that create attraction but make us stand out in the process how do we break through the noise well i'm going to give you three principles for compliments today we did a compliment video a while back i can't remember how far back jameson maybe you can run a little you know adorable image of a younger me giving advice on compliments when we show that there's something we like in someone else they're more likely to like us let's see if i've evolved since the last time we did this uh number one compliment the thing that people don't hear every day i think you know when you see someone's dating at the temptation is to go for the low-hanging fruit look for that one picture of them that's photoshopped and airbrushed where they're looking stunning in that really cool outfit and their eyes are glistening like two beautiful orbs in the light and then we say you're gorgeous wow you have amazing eyes that doesn't separate us it might make someone feel good but it's white noise if that's what they hear all the time look around the picture look what's going on in the edges look what's happening in the periphery what book is on the table that they're reading that you could complement their choice of books what are they doing in the picture what skill set have they developed looking at these things will allow you to complement things that they don't often get complimented on and thus you'll stand out more the second principle of compliments this one i suppose is great for when you meet people in person and you don't have a couple of minutes to think about what you want to say about someone's profile look for the indirect compliment it can feel a little much to walk up to someone and say you're beautiful right it's a lot i'm not some people would like that some of you in the comments will say i would love if someone came up to me and said that in which case i very much hope someone says that to you this week but a lot of people feel like oh it's a lot of pressure when someone says that to me or it's a lot of pressure to say that to someone especially if it doesn't go well this is where the indirect compliment comes in compliment someone on a choice they've made their shirt their jacket their shoes you have great taste in shoes i love those that's a really cool bag that what you just ordered sounds delicious what a great order you just placed when we don't complement something that's genetic something they were born with and instead we complement something slightly more external uh it's a little easier and by the way it could even be a bit more meaningful because they made that choice they dis that's their taste they decided on that and lastly when you get to know someone a little better focus on complementing their traits not just the outcomes they've reached in life an outcome would be you know if someone created a great business and you said you know what an amazing thing it is that you've created this amazing business or that you've achieved all of this that's like complementing the medal that someone won i think it's far more profound to complement the traits that won them life's medal you know you they built this business and you say wow it must have taken so much perseverance and ambition and drive to get to this point that's an amazing thing instead of complimenting someone on being great at a language or an instrument you complement the passion and the patience that it must have taken to get to that point of skill when we complement someone's outcomes they feel admired when we complement the traits that got them those outcomes they feel seen and feeling seen is the key to deep connection and attraction if you want more compliments you can go to the free guide say this to him.com we'll link it up here where i give you five more compliments you can use to create attraction and other than that harry yes we'll see everyone next week i'll see harry in exactly five seconds when the video is over you

Channel: Matthew Hussey

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Length: 4min 32sec (272 seconds)

Published: Sat Aug 29 2020