3 Children, 3 Fathers - Dr. K. N. Jacob & Lady Danielle

three children three different fathers she is the fourth wife of her current husband and her current marriage is about to collapse this is a very deep story the story of pain and shame and rejection but even more importantly the story of healing this is the order of the book rescue me i am drowning inside the chair you desire begins within jay daniel taylor ladies and gentlemen please help me to bring on board to bring on stage lady jay daniel taylor daniel taylor who is daniel taylor good evening a good afternoon to you dr jacob thank you for having me and danielle taylor is just that i'm a woman i'm a woman who loves life i'm from columbus georgia born and raised in georgia am the product of a single-parent home currently i am a worship leader and a minister and i'm also a business owner in my local community wow you got pregnant when you are 18. is this the time you lost your virginity or you or you had slept with some boys before dr jacob you are getting all of my business today my mom is watching we've got to keep it real raw and authentic i will say that i had experimented before had not gone through the entire process so this would i guess be the real first process and it was something that was unexpected i didn't even know i was happy i didn't know what i was doing didn't know what was going on it took me about four months to realize that i had gotten pregnant were you born again then i have been in the church since i was 10. yeah been a worship leader singing leading choir since i was 10 or 11 years old and i was and it was a mistake that i made i was an older man 10 years older than myself and he was my manager at work and that's why it's so important to watch your young women see who they're connecting with he had befriended me was doing favors for me and i was smitten dr jacob i didn't know where did you meet this guy was your student in college with you no he was my manager at the place that i worked i had a like a summer part-time job and he was the manager there got you got you in page 1 page 21 of your book you said your three children are from three different fathers what happened to the fatherly relationships because now you're with the fourth man actually your story is like the story of the samaritan woman in john chapter four in many ways so i want to know this what relationship did you have with these three guys were you married to them or you just left with them and moved on i was not married to either of them the only time that i've been married is now in my current marriage i was not married to either of them it's very an uncanny story but i'll be honest and tell the truth on it i kept myself pretty separate as far as relationships were concerned and it seemed like the few times in my life that i opened myself up and say okay here's a fella that i like once we connected ended up having the baby and the relationship ended let me ask you at a later note who among the three do you consider your ex consider my ex none of them no i will say um my oldest child's father he we were friends we became friends and we're friends for a period of time we even talked about getting married etc but i knew even at that young age that he was not the right person for me why did you decide to disclose your story were you not concerned your children may think mom used to be promiscuous and you have now put it in a book why did you decide to give us details about your past well number one pertaining to my children one thing that i've always been is open and transparent with them and that was the reason why i was comfortable in writing my story because of the fact that life is difficult we look at people and we see where they are now we see that they have a certain level of success and we don't know the story and what i believe that god wanted me to do in this hour is to be that beacon of light for some other woman who's been there who's tried to love and failed over and over again in relationships maybe she's raising children by herself and doesn't have a support system in place but would see someone like myself being a minister a business owner and saying oh i drive a nice car i live in a really nice house and neighborhood and would think she's never had any problems well guess what i've had the problems i've had to fail and mess up so many times until i finally got it right and that's what i wanted to share is that yes you may have problems you may fail you may go all the way to the bottom but we serve a god that can reach all the way down and lift you back up to the top now in page 73 you say that your current husband has given up on your marriage this is a guy who promised never to leave you what went wrong well you know dr jacob i believe that we had some challenges in our marriage that we just um were not able to overcome or had the zeal to overcome at the same time and what is happening in this situation though is that we have very amicably decided that we're in different places in life right now still love one another very much we're still friends actually still live together but just decided that we need to move to different places and on a different space in life do i believe that divorce is against god's will absolutely i'm not trying to encourage anyone to divorce but what i will say is there comes times in lives though when sometimes things just aren't working and for the sake of protecting both of you emotionally and physically you shouldn't want to go further if the situation is just not reconcilable now you are the fourth wife of your current husband and the guy is just 36 lady daniel there are people watching you right now from australia from south africa from the middle east from europe from all over america and canada and they are wondering this guy had been with three other women before you wasn't that enough red flag was in that enough warning sign now this is a guy who cannot keep a woman well first of all his story has really nothing to do with um my story in terms of me judging him you know i don't know any of the details of it and there's always two sides to every story and just like god does us and that's i'm glad that we're being transparent from this place because we often look at each other's lives and we judge i believe there are red flags and then i believe that there are times that we are to show grace and mercy we all have a purpose and a calling in one another's lives and i could have said in the seat of judgment and said hey oh no this isn't for me i'm just going to go on but at that particular time there's not a regret that i have about our interaction we grew a lot together we learned a lot together we were able to accomplish a lot together and so that's what i take away from this is the good times and everything that we were able to grow and learn i hope that i deposited something into his life that he will be able to look back on and say hey you know what that danielle she was a great woman so i just i don't judge people i give people the opportunity to get to know them for myself and i'm glad i had this journey it's taught me a lot well in page 28 you talk of this man i don't know whether he's man number one number two number three number four you talk of this man who said god told him that you are his wife just to realize he was moving with another woman you are so broken that you vowed never to love again you are in so much pain i'm wondering how do we know whether god has truly spoken to a man right now in this stage of your life if in a year or two another man comes and says lady daniel i had this vision god has revealed to me i even saw your clothes your hair i knew the worship leader everything that fit your description how do we get to know whether god has truly spoken to a man or he's trying to take advantage of you again well i believe that because i have had the experiences that i have had i am learning more to trust in god for discernment sometimes we do move into things really quickly so that would be the first step and i believe the second thing that we've got to keep in mind i know you believe in prophetic words correct prophetic words are only on condition so even if god does speak something there has to be a level of obedience to his will in order for it to come into fruition and in order for it to continue to manifest so god could have very well spoken to that person or spoken about the situation but somewhere along the way people start to decide hey i want to do things my own way i'm going to follow my own path so can we ever be sure i think is the question that you're asking we can never be sure but i believe that i would take a lot more time to pray to ask god for right i like the fact that you're saying god could have spoken people change values don't stay put and sometimes god has confirmed but people are not doing anything about their marriage what i have found in my last 18 years of my marriage to one woman is that marriage does not work marriage is cost work and there is no marriage that is beyond breaking point marriage can break at any given moment there is a past i deeply love i honor i respect he's one of the top five favorite pastors for me that's bishop noel jones i love that man of god but after 22 years of marriage he called it a day and he couldn't take it anymore what i've come to realize there is no single marriage there is beard breaking point early this year bill gates and melinda gets had to quit so i agree sometimes you get the right person and god has confirmed but then you don't nurture the seat and somebody drops the ball now in page 38 of your book you say due to the absence of your father you try to change your appearance to look like how you thought your boyfriend wanted you to look you are convinced that the way to a man was through his eyes and his stomach you never felt enough there are many other women watching us right now struggling with that level of insecurity can you look at that camera and speak to them people who feel they are not beautiful enough they are not tall enough or they are too plump they don't have the right color pigmentation they don't have the right shape and they are trying to change who they are to impress a man please look at that camera and speak to that guy who is feeling insecure in her own skin this is one of my favorite chapters in the book i must say because women you may not believe it or not because other people tell me you're beautiful danielle i can look in the mirror and think and see that i'm aesthetically attractive but it was what was going on in the side of my head and what you have got to learn is to appreciate yourself and accept you for who you are don't compare yourself to another person because that was my issuing problem i believed i was an attractive woman but i kept comparing myself to the other woman if i stood next to someone who was five eight and i'm only five two i want it to be five nine i kept comparing myself but paul was very clear when he said whatever state you find yourself in be content and even though i know he was not talking about physical appearance that very well applies to that what however you look however your personality is my mother's a very loud woman when she speaks and sometimes i used to be embarrassed now i love her that's the thing that everybody loves about her find that flaw in yourself or what you think is a flaw and embellish it if it's your weight take out time to work work out but do it for you whatever it is that you do do it for you i've lost quite a bit dr jacob you had met me this time last year i was about a size 18. i was almost 200 pounds and through this process that was one of the first things that i did i said danielle fall back in love with yourself and it wasn't just going to come off but i did the work and the discipline and i want to encourage you and let you know that you can do the work have the discipline and just be your best best self love you regardless of how other people around you look love you and i love that because no one can love you until you love yourself jesus said love your neighbor as you love yourself means you love yourself first lady let me tell you i tell you from a man's perspective we love different things different shapes different sizes the men who love that tiny toyota vits there's some who love the lord closer vxv8 some of us love that 26 with a truck we love hoarding big we love different things we are attracted by different stuff every woman is a flower a rose flower try test me try it believe me you don't need to change yourself you don't want you don't need to adjust who you are just love yourself as you are men love different shapes tests and sizes remain yourself come on and by the way before i forget this book is available in amazon.com and it's also available in j daniel taylor.com amazon.comdanieltaylor.com i had the privilege of writing the forward of this book and what i love about this book is that it's raw real authentic lady daniel taylor it can never get more real than lady daniel taylor now at some point you made some good money you fully furnished your house debt free and had luxury cars your children attended private schools and then boom your staff skimmed thousands of dollars in sales from your company in page 50 you said you lost everything to the extent you slept on the floor of your office what happened well i'm gonna tell you what happened it was that green eyed monster called jealousy so one of the things that i will say that i learned in that lesson is you can't let everybody know your business everybody can't see how god is blessing you because not everybody is in your corner or in favor of the blessings they become jealous i didn't steal from anyone i didn't take anything from anyone to receive the blessings of god but people don't care they just see you doing better than them and they say hey i want to see her crumble and that's the the bad thing i don't know how much of a problem that is internationally but i know in the united states people hate to see other people do good and especially among women instead of applauding one another and saying hey let's stick together and grow i was in the type of environment that i thought i was among friends and i was really among enemies people that were sitting back and saying you know what she's getting too much she's getting too high and long story short in that situation i had sacrificed everything for my business and once the business started to crumble of course my personal life i had to sacrifice sell my house get rid of my car and just start from scratch but guess what there's a light at the end of that tunnel because god restored he gave back everything i felt like job at that particular time but i understand also how job felt when god blessed him i went through the process worked hard started over and was able to rebuild wow and then you found out that the pastor you were dating slept with your secretary and with most women in his congregation how did you handle this situation i just moved home i just moved on dr jacob and that's the reason i wanted to write this book because there's so much that happens and people keep quiet about it and it's not to out anyone but it's to say hey these are real life situations but don't get stuck that's how i handled it by not getting stuck i was hurt and i learned how to forgive i forgave him i said hey that's between you and your god danielle's not going to stick around i'm going to move on with my life and and that's how i was able to just bounce back from all of this do you trust me do i trust men i love men and i trust god that has been my biggest lesson in all of this even now because we've spoken about my current marriage it's not over we're just separated and contemplating whether or not we're going to be together but that is what the biggest thing during this process that i've learned god chastised me because i had made my marriage or my husband a type of idol in my life i had put all of my stake in him when all god asked me to do was trust him and love my husband and sometimes i even tried to shift i was talking about it this morning i tried to scoop god off the throne and then take his place in order to just control everything and i'm i'm grateful for this time because that's what i learned if i had only it's not because i don't want anybody watching to say oh well he may be such an awful guy a lot of what happened was my fault dr jacob because i did not simply love my husband and put my trust in god you know this is the time i know you have failed look i'm a coach i'm a mentor you can easily tell me you have healed you can write it in a book but i will never believe it until you see the statement you have just said it was my fault because the challenge with most people they blame everyone else and so long as we are going to blame the men in your life you have no control over what other men can do to you this world has 3.5 billion men if the problem is those men you will always get yourself into that problem you know we only change when we realize it's about me and my choices our lives don't get better by chance our lives get better by change and the thing is this you can't change the men out there you can only change one person who is that you can only change yourself and one of the struggles i get with a lot of women and they're watching us right now well that guy was a loser that guy was bad that guy was an abuser that guy we always forget he was your choice you said yes to him otherwise you should have reported him for rape so long as you said yes to him he didn't trick you into it check begins when we realize it's about our choices now i know you have gone through healing because of that statement because we only change our lives on a change when we take absolute responsibility for what happens to us when we realize life does not happen to us we happen to life we shape the unfolding of our lives i'm wondering lady daniel looking at all you've gone through what keeps your sanity some people become suicidal and give up on the fight you've gone through so much god you've gone through so much and you're still standing you're still leading worship hey if you're watching us live later daniel leads worship in our church when she leads worship i feel like i'm in heaven straight in heaven it's amazing what keeps your sanity what keeps you going what drives you what's your motivation what inspires you in life my motivation first comes from god and i know that may sound like a cliche but i cannot express how important it is to not be in religion but to have a serious relationship with the lord like i mentioned earlier one thing that i thank my mother for as a single parent she didn't have a lot of money she didn't have the finest things in life we lived in what the poorest part of town and i didn't even know it but guess what she gave me she took me to church and she kept me on the altar and she showed me how to have a relationship with god and that has been the pillar i don't know anything else so when these things would happen and you know i'm like everybody else i would probably go vent to somebody else but what i learned first of all was to get on my face drop to my knees and talk to god about it and how i wrote this book is just how i would talk to god and say you know what god i messed up i'm sorry but i need you to help me out of this process and through this process and then over time because it's something that i've included as the appendix i learned the power of consecration it's good to just pray and seek god but then you have to have a strategy a strategy to refocus your mind and that was consecration has done for me just using certain periods of time to say i'm not going to focus on what i've gone through i'm just going to take this time and focus on god and then the third thing is something that i've instituted lately when i started the the separation in my marriage is that i started to go to therapy but i chose a christian counselor you know i'm not against secular counseling but i know for me christian counseling is what would work and i have shared values right and so i had someone to talk to to unpack all of this baggage and that's why i said i've learned that it's not just on somebody else i had the biggest role to play in everything that i've gone through but that's what it's been i know that i can turn to god and he has never failed me i know you might think well how can you say he didn't fail you this bad thing happened or that bad thing happened but every time he said okay daughter i'm gonna let you learn your lesson he did me just like a father would do their daughter and then he picked me up off the ground dusted me off and said come on let's get some ice cream wow and now i i love the fact that you acknowledge mom instilled values in you she took you to church she prayed with you she prayed over your life now thinking about your mama your father walked out of your mother when she was pregnant your father did not want to take responsibility you felt like an outcast when other kids talked about their dad and now the men in your life have walked out on you and there are times you feel like there's a generation of cause in your family life i do i do and that's one of the things that i pray about constantly and when i talk with my mom to find out her story and even when i talk with my girls i pray with them and just try to share the importance of making sure that they don't allow this to creep into their lives and i constantly pray about it you know with my mother's situation she was back in the 70s dating a white man undercover it was taboo for that to go on ended up with being pregnant with a biracial child so i believe that was one of the reasons why he ducked off hey i don't want anybody to know that i've been dealing with this black woman and it's a scar for her it's a very deep place i never knew my father never knew the love of a father but going back to what i said just a little while ago god stepped in and not only did he with our relationship but he put so many great wonderful men in my lives uncles pastors leaders who have never taken advantage of me but who stepped in and said i'll be your father i'll come and i'll take you somewhere i'll do something with you so god always had a ram in the bush but you're right i believe it was a generational curse and um we're praying and working to heart to make sure that that curse does not continue in our family line you know what ladies and gentlemen i want to pray with lady daniel taylor in this fb life but i also want to pray with you i want to pray with this lady and many other ladies watching me live from different countries around the world and here is the deal i want to share with you three points even as i share with you i asked this lady a serious question does he sense a generational curse i want to begin there because the bible says caste is the man who trusts in men jeremiah 17 5 and blessed is the man whose trust is in god jeremiah 17 10 if your trust is in god if you have put your faith in jesus christ i want you to know today you cannot be cut you are not cussable when balaam went to curse the children of israel he later had to find out it's not possible to curse what god has blessed the bible says jesus became a cuss on that old rugged cross that you may be blessed of god at this moment right now i want to break generational curses and i want you to know you are forgiven jesus became a curse that you may be blessed and when jesus has forgiven you you are forgiven indeed the bible says whoever the son of man sets free he is free and free indeed she is free and free indeed this is your day for a miracle when the son of god sets you free you are free and free indeed may you be loosed from those generational curses in the name of jesus every lineage baggage and burden i cast it right now in jesus name i lose you in the name of jesus from every cast and every bodage walk in freedom in jesus name don't allow the enemy to ever accuse you again the bible calls him the accuser of brethren when the lord has forgiven you he cleanses us from all unrighteousness he forgives us from all sins first john 1 7 so here is the deal take responsibility for your choices take full responsibilities for your choices from now henceforth and cast your burden to jesus in matthew 11 28 jesus makes a public invitation come unto me o either i have a lady and i will give you rest right to your soul if you're feeling a heavy burden on your shoulders right now if you're feeling a heavy burden on your heart right now this is your moment for a miracle i sense a special anointing from god to break every demonic chain to break every generation of cast to break every lineage difficulties that you may walk in liberty that you may walk in prosperity that you may walk in healing that you may walk in marital stability in the name of jesus may god open that group that you may be able to conceive and have your own children in the name of jesus may god bless your relationships may no man ever take advantage of you as long as you live in the name of jesus then you'll tell i bless you today in the name of jesus i speak a blessing over your life i speak your blessing over your ministry i speak a blessing over your future you are blessed in the city you are blessed in the countryside may the lord bless the work of your hands may the lord bless your three children may the lord take you from glory to glory may the lord use you as a vessel to reach our generation remember this god has put his action his anointing in vessels of clay are the vessels that are delicate that can easily break that the power of god may be made manifest in our weaknesses in your area of weakness that's the area god is gonna use you if your area of weakness is trust god's gonna use you in that area that his power may be made manifest in your life if you're struggling with masturbation and and prostitution if you are struggling in sexuality god's gonna use you in that area so that god may manifest his strength through you god doesn't use us because of our strength it's not by might it's not by power but by the spirit of the living god if you're not born again and you can hear my voice this is your hour come come to jesus and that witchcraft will never follow you anymore and that generational curse will never follow you anymore this is your moment to be set free by the son of god from your addictions from your alcoholism from your struggles in your sexuality this is your hour for breakthrough this is your hour for a miracle pray this prayer with me lord jesus christ come into my heart be my lord and my savior set me free from sin and satan set me free from every addiction and demonic bodies i surrender my life to you i surrender my sexuality to you i surrender my career to you from now on i am your child i am born again i am set free fill me with your holy spirit in jesus name amen if you pray that prayer please write to me on this facebook live i prayed to be saved if you're following me on youtube write to me as a comment in my youtube channel i prayed to be saved i will reach out to you in person and i'll share with you some materials to help you grow in your christian work i want to nurture your christian faith i want to disciple you i want you to walk closer to jesus just write simple words on this facebook live i prayed to be saved if you're watching me on youtube write as a comment on this youtube video i prayed to be saved and i'm going to reach out to you walk in freedom walk in liberty jesus loves you lady daniel thank you for allowing god to use you so many people are coming to jesus because of your story you have chosen not to be ashamed of the gospel for it is the power of god unto salvation through your life someone will greet us in the streets of glory we will remember this day when you opened your heart to the wild for the sake of the one who keeps you alive you have used your life to glorify the one who gave you life on behalf of many ladies who are wounded i want you to stand i give you a hug there are many ladies out there who are feeling i wish jesus could hug me and i want to do this symbolic of someone who is wounded you are healed in jesus name jesus loves you jesus needs you jesus wants to use your life and daniel you're beautiful you're awesome you're allowed you're god's favor right um

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Length: 33min 28sec (2008 seconds)

Published: Wed Sep 15 2021