10 years, now he wants marriage in a rush | Talks with Tony

hey hey tony gaston here popping in for another episode of talks with tony now i got to be on time tonight because you know one of my mentees is uh got a little shot in the nba and so i got to go to the game tonight and you need to be leaving here in an hour so this ain't going to be longer than an hour hopefully i'll be done in 45 minutes now we jumping right on in been in a relationship for 10 years i have a good career he is an entrepreneur i guess i am 48 he is 47. i have four children all with my ex-husband of 16 years my kids were 8 10 17 19 when he was introduced my youngest daughter never liked him and he always said i allowed her to answer for me whenever he asked me questions he never sat well with her up to this day my daughter was never disrespectful but she was never far but she was never far from my side watching as she got older and could voice her opinion she stated he was no good rude disrespectful ghetto and something about him and i could do so much better than that and something about him and i could do so much better than that he wasn't bad but although he never did any of that around my children my daughter was spot on he wasn't bad but although he never did any of that around my children my daughter was spot on i ain't got do not disturb on the phone so i text popping up i don't know what spot on he has some issues but it wasn't all bad after about three he said let's get married i said no we're not ready for that he had no legal money his housing government assistant is free because he has no income so moving into a house with monthly bills would be all on me i expressed if you're not going to work then you must start a ligament start a ligament lifestyle as he expressed he wanted nah no that learned what yahoo and yells not this one oh this is a ligament maybe it's okay mirrors typo meant legitimate now if ligament lifestyle is something i'm gonna be all the way blown away but i think she meant legitimate uh huh this look like you just typo for legitimate you must start a legitimate lifestyle as he expressed he wanted after another three years i said this isn't going nowhere and i want it over year seven he gets a business license jump into the club scene that didn't work as there was no thought put into it year 8 another business license to start something else that he doesn't want to take my advice on he says i don't know because i work for the white man [Music] that thing be tickling me y'all gotta forgive me not because i don't normally like to i don't i'm not i'm not laughing at nobody's situation but whoa people be checking me [Music] because see the thing is it's like i could hear the man in my head you know you work for the white man you don't know nothing about this right what i'm trying to do cuz you know what cause you work for the white man and so when she said that that's what i hear in my head and it just like i'm a fly on the wall watching it that thing took me he goes for a loan but he never filed taxes on the license on license one so that two fails and now both licenses are out of compliance y'all in a strict place because i be doing business i'll be in all kind of licenses y'all man year nine january second he and i get in an argument about me allowing him to move in and i need to address my daughter because he's not mad at her i told him she doesn't like you he tries to blame me for her not liking him and he starts yelling i said don't yell in here he stated i was scared of my daughter i said you being disrespectful and i left out the house to drive away from the house because my daughter now 17 and son 19 got up he got in his car also to drive off i guess he tried to go back in the house my daughter stopped him and told him he could leave because he doesn't live here he got so mad at her and started yelling she told him it's best he leave my mother is not here and you are being too loud our neighbor our neighborhood is predominantly white with the medium income about 122k he then called my 17 year old a b that she spelled the cuss word all the way out now bi [Music] her brother knew of none of this because he was packing for his return to france the next day where he studied science abroad at a private college the police came and asked my kids are they fine asked about his car description found stopped him before he got on the highway to see if he was irate and to ensure they tell him he don't go back to my house my son hate him too because he feels he didn't protect his sister against what he never thought would happen of course he denies saying he called my daughter that another year passed he said i never denied that and i said i need to and i said i need to apologize for being angry that day because he was wrong and said oh no he said and said i need to apologize for being angry that day because he was wrong lie she put that in all caps with exclamation mark i think they call that gaslighting he is now asking could i go into business with him but since his name is trash with taxes i needed to get everything in my name plus since my credit good i can guarantee the loan i told him i don't want this business and i don't want and i don't do this type of stuff with a boyfriend these are things i do with my husband this is a mess and there is so much to it but of course he stated he tried to marry me but i denied him whatever he bashed marriage whenever he felt he had his stuff together financially now as of today he is pressing me pressing me out to get married fast but he wants me to go online to get the license and he trying to move in my house because he thought my daughter was going away to college he is saying talk to her please because i am ready to start our life and the house don't need to be divided ha ha ha i have entertained this mess and no one in my family knows him because this whole thing is weird i know everyone on his side my daughter say listen to that dude tony you are blocking your blessing she said that she said that not your child and he thinks you're his mom he can't do nothing it's been 10 years and he is the same except for the stuff you did for him i need to get out of this cause now that i actually have so much time and pretty much only have one in college i have time to enjoy myself sorry for it being long i want advice but after actually writing this line by line i am scared to hit send wow hashtag girl get your life respectfully i'm glad you thought you felt that i'm glad you felt bad because that's what i'm about to hit you with a hashtag right now hi uh your question is being answered tonight at 9 p.m thank you now see such this kind of stuff here this kind of stuff here that'll make that that that'll make you charge for coaching this kind of stuff here [Music] just i ain't got the time we ain't got the time ain't nobody but a mama got the time to be this right here sister come on i am 48. [Music] the camera didn't freeze the camera free that was me let me read that again i am 48. come on now come on come on now if i learn how to spell 9 i'm put on t-shirt say come on now because this here come on come on now this is this is a shame come on i can't even fix no words for this and then he 47. now if you would have said he 27 i felt better even though you all have been 21 years apart i felt better but he owel and methuselah you living out there with the white folks 122 k is the median income you know your kids grown 19 year old son 17 year old daughter she was 10. um no it's been 10 years she was eight [Music] no they 17 and 19. now that's the first two you say my kids were 8 10 17 19 when he was introduced but now these here's 17 19 but it must be a year and a half apart because this he'll say 8 and 10 and this 10 years later well this year nine so yeah okay eight plus nine oh okay this year nine i'm thinking that was year ten [Music] so your oldest two when this here popped off at the house was 17 plus 9 26 [Music] and 28. so they oh they grown they and they probably just sitting there just yo oldest two all your kids just they just sit there in a room and just look at the mirror like this this is how your kids do they look like they don't get out they move get out that's how your kid looking in the mirror every night wondering what in the world is wrong with a mama i mean they on what's a lady wrote me the other day she called that thing the threshing floor your kids on the threshing floor face first crying out to god i only know that what the lady called it hard level service level surface on which grain is threshed with a flail it must come from the bible somebody was on the threshing floor crying out to the lord that was your kids at yeah on a hard surface on which grain is threshed with a flail crying out to the lord lord why is my mama dealing with this man and now your kids gonna be all gone and you seen when you wrote this okay you got a fitness company oh lord [Music] so you're working out your body but not your mind see that's why i try to tell y'all sometimes it's the bees it be the three bees the brain the the brand and the body you got the body you got the brain you lacking the brains see it's always typically when i look at a situation if one of the bees missing you got to develop your mind you got to stop coming on here listen and you listen to my videos enough that your daughter know my name your daughter said listen to that man tony listen to that dude tony you are blocking your blessing not only do she know my name she know my quote when i say you blocking your blessing my oldest son thought i'll call him probably she said you blocky yo blessing that i be saying in my videos and see this right here you know i really can't waste my good quality words on they're right here kind of foolishness right here sister so the reason why i just keep saying the same thing over and over because you already know the answer you already know the answer i'll be a slap fool sit here the spell out line by line why this man is not your man but let me just bring a few things to your attention for one he didn't have nothing to do legal i it behooves me bewilders me why women who have everything going on good deal with a man who got an illegal lifestyle so he in an illegal lifestyle did you tell him he need to live a ligament lifestyle you know with a legitimate lifestyle so he get to his ligament lifestyle and now he going to getting business license don't know nothing about business going to get business license you try to help my cuz you got your business license doing your fitness business and then he tell you you work for the white man and so now he up the creek without a powder now he wants you to get a business loan now he want to move in with you now he now he want to marry you after 10 years and see this the thing this is the thing you twist his arm for marriage now you acting like you don't want marriage but you told him i don't do that with no boyfriend i do it on my hunt with my husband you know good and well when you told him that he already was showing his fangs he already had slop coming out his mouth and you say he desperate this my opportunity to get a rain so let me tell him i only do this with a husband and then as soon as you said that next day you know he got the bright idea he want to get married now by now y'all might be married you wrote this november 4th so you need if you don't get married that man you need to be marching right down that courthouse because this is a disaster and this this how you know it's a disaster and this is how i know it's a disaster when a woman turned a man down for marriage nearly every woman in the world i said nearly not everyone because y'all gonna have a woman who is on here watching relationship videos every day but swear she don't want marriage and in the con not everybody wants to get married why are you on relationship videos then man we're not talking about shacking up we're not talking about living in the lifestyle of fornication the rest of your life so why are you only videos if you don't want to get married hush you're lying so listen nine nearly every woman want to get married so if you as a woman have to tell a man that we are not right that this is not a good fit that we can't get married and y'all have been talking together talking and sleeping together for three whole years that is a very very very telling sign that is a very horrible bad sign because that is saying clearly 100 percent that this is a bomb because when a woman turned down marriage when that's a lot of women was thinking about marriage and planning a wedding like looking at dresses and doing stuff like that a lot of women were doing that from a young age talking about marriage it's it's young ladies in my in kindergarten and first grade when my son was in kindergarten some of the little girls was talking about marriage when and now my son in first grade my youngest boy and some of the little girls talk about marriage do you do you realize like yes women have been doing that since they could walk and talk talking about i'm gonna get married one day i want my husband to be nice like johnny and so now here you are three years in which that's the deadline of dating somebody without getting married he asked you to marry him because he was a bomb then and he's still a bomb today you turn him down because you know he's a bomb and so now and when i say bomb i mean a person who is choosing to be terrible i'm not talking about a homeless person who hit hard times and have to live outside because of their situation i'm talking about somebody who is choosing who got all but all the space and opportunity in the world and they choosing to be sorry and this in so not three years asked you let's get married you said no we're not ready for that how are you not ready for marriage after three years if you ain't married after for marriage if you're not ready for marriage after three years you need to go on about your business and then then you said i expressed if you're not gonna work then you must start a ligament lifestyle legitimate lifestyle as he expressed he wanted another three years and see you just eating up the years in this email like it's just a day like the three years is three days no sister you wasted a whole 10 years of life and i see your title to the email 10-year relationship now mad rush for marriage and stability now mad rush for some help is what he's trying to do a mad rush for a place to lay his head because otherwise he fit to be out there sleeping under the bridge that's what he trying to do and then had a nerve to come over there and spit in your daughter face call your daughter b call your daughter be spit lady told me not to make that noise that's why i made it just for you don't tell him what doing video nah he come over there spitting your dog and i'm not actually doing nothing that's just i'm making a noise with my mouth i'm not i'm not coughing up nothing okay y'all understand that all right yeah that's cause i got my you know acting class i never went out in class but and so now he come back over there spitting your daughter face call a b9 listen if you deal with this man you spitting you in your daughter face you spitting in your son face nah nah i'mma tell you now now your son's at that house if the police were called your son heard about that yelling uh yeah yo i say you packing for france yeah you back listen unless you live in a palatial mansion which you don't because the median income is 122. so the median income is 122. then that mean you know 244 the highest and then that mean you know not necessarily highest but so that means houses are in around 300k you know 300 to 750k that is that ain't a house big enough now we ain't getting on the young man now i i would have sat up there like i ain't here nothing either packing them clothes for friends that man they tried to mess up his destiny but he definitely heard him like that yelling he definitely hurt but listen yo man 19 year old don't want none of those 47 year old after screaming and hollering and spitting in your daughter fake calling her b i would have stayed up there two could listen if i go down that list i gotta go down there with a two you hit me i'm not gonna go down that's 19 years old to fight no 47 year old no but it got laid out later [Music] got laid down i got to go down with some weaponry i'm not going on that fist to fist with no 47 year old man he got 47 years worth of strength in his hands and arms no no no now listen so if you still dealing with this man you spitting in your son and your daughter face oh you're from the 202 so i think that's dc that's exactly what this sounded like so so dc activation here some dc because all these business licenses we don't have to be doing all that in florida now certain things you do yeah you can get your business life but now we start our llc and go to work you know 202 eric ho washington dc okay that's what i thought and watch that what sound like 122k median income in the neighborhood they're like though with the caucasians so you didn't did well for yourself but see this what i don't understand this what i just do not be understanding it's like lord i'm not doing enough y'all when i be reading letters like this i'm like lord i'm not doing enough i'm like dude lord that's why i need to be a big now so i could build a relationship university that that'll be up there in dc sit right next to howard well i just buy one of the big buildings on howard campus and it is relationship university and we got all kind of classes in there all kind of teachers in there and why are you taking your other classes you right in there getting your love classes cause man sister how you 48 years old putting up with this here come on huh come on man i'm gonna tell you what you need today when you see this your message talk to your daughter talk to your daughter ask her what you ought to do about this young man because i know you still talking to him cause if you ain't let go after 10 years of this bummery i know ain't going well you ain't left since you wrote me november 4. whether they are december 4th january 4 february 4 march 4 april 4. so it's been five months five months about eleven days ain't lo twelve eight five one twelve eight you know you know if you're left if you if you have left him to the knowledge of your kids you still answering his text message secretly i know you ain't just plus 10 years down the toilet like that before we got to this email but sister this here email every bit of stupid you need to feel you need to feel every ounce of it now in the midst of feeling that stupid love yourself not love yourself now it ain't the end of the world but that hashtag girl get your life that's exactly what you need to do because listen to me this man here is a user and let me tell you what's going to happen you go forward with this relationship this man is going to if you let this man move in within a year this man gonna be choking you out within a year you're gonna be seeing stars within a year you're gonna be to the point of passing out and he also gonna put hands on your daughter [Music] if he don't try to force himself on her this man here got a vendetta that's why he want to move in with you because he wants to further spit in your daughter face because he know if he can let get you to let him move in that that is essentially you telling your kids that you don't care nothing about them and what they think and how they feel about you in your life that's you spitting all the way in they face too so here's loogie hitting them in the eye yo lugi hitting him in the other eye that what they used to call it floogie a loogie one of them just like that right there i'll tell you like that and and i i get it i get it i know what your kids feeling because i got family members for the longest my sister was in toxic relationships and my mama was dealing with bombs too after her my daddy got data for us my mom was dealing with bombs and i just and i'm like y'all y'all see what i do so that's why i really can't get mad at y'all because to me y'all strangers you don't even know me like that so i really can't get mad at you listening because i've been talking on this stuff since 2007 and my sister and mama just stopped asking the food last year probably probably last year and so 20 20 20 took them 13 years to stop acting a fool and i've been talking on this stuff and still attempted to i could fool now so i really can't even be mad with y'all but listen anybody in here i don't have a real energy to go in on this one so anybody on here just you know lead us to some loving and kind in case i wasn't loving and kind enough leave us some loving and kind advice and e-commerce she won't listen to her own flesh and blood so maybe she'll listen to strangers on the internet maybe sometimes a stranger tell you something it hit you harder than your own flesh and blood but me personally i'm not finna be doing something that my own child who i know love me that i didn't sacrifice for her and him and them that they loved me i i'm not going to be doing something that they that they owed enough and practically grown telling me don't do it i'ma realize they see someone see so since this right here desperation and you up there that 122 k medium income neighborhood you need to be in coaching you can afford coaching you up here this you you could afford enough this man wants you to invest in a business and your business doing good you making good money you need to be in coaching my mentor.life and for those y'all didn't know um yesterday i opened back up my sessions i had them closed since you know last year but i opened back up my regular sessions on mymentor.life now i believe april is booked but we come to the end of april but may still got a low availability i really would recommend booking out further than that but you can if you just know it's what you're talking about is evergreen or you know what have you in june but um going on there mymetro.life i open mine back up if that's not in your budget it's several other coaches on mymentor.life so get on on that okay get on on now please get on on there because you need to be talking to somebody once a week because you need somebody to hold your hand through this process of healing and breaking this hill bond this this toxic bond you got with him and the thing about it is you watching these videos you got your terminology on here you you using terminology like gas lighting that you know these people be coming up with all kind of terms you know the terms and everything and still dealing with the man come on now sister come on now come on oh my goodness got to do better than that you got to do better than that so come on well y'all i'm getting ready to go to your game i'm just sad i'm just sad i just cannot believe y'all be living like this man my goodness i can't believe y'all be living like this i'm just who started youtube founder who youtube staff y'all watching this send it to the founder youtube tell them i need an investment don't i need an investment just to do a relationship school around the country tell them since he tech savvy we could do virtual reality we could do whatever he wanted to do but i'ma have to do something i'm having youtube ain't enough i'm out do something the youtube ain't enough i just i'm like my goodness what the world what in the world what in the world come on come on come on now what what i'm thinking about doing here soon is i'm thinking about putting me together out that could have a chat room that could have a community well instead of y'all just talking in the comments y'all could talk into her chat room y'all could uplift one another you know have some more coaches in there so that you know somebody going through you have coaches in there around the clock different time zones different area codes to where you're going through some you just need some feedback have some coaches sewing some time in the messages and stuff like that right there and uh [Music] and just have some videos on demand have some little paid sessions in there paid messaging and stuff like that put together me some just to be we we're gonna have to get all the way around the clock we're gonna have to have coaches all the way around the clock just to help people who just stuck in that rut and know they're doing something stupid but just can't help themself but if they hear from somebody else maybe it'll hit them [Music] upside the head the right way but this here is sad this here is just sad man i can't believe this so i'm disappointed you know i'm disappointed in your sister and i'm disappointed in every one of y'all that's living like this here the nothingness relationship the dead-end relationship i'm disappointed in you too much life out there too much life out there and just like your daughter said you're blocking your blessing i'm getting that honey i know i'd be saying that but now it's hers like your daughter said not like what i said like your daughter said you blocking your blessing 10 years of your life so you could have been married for the last eight years to a real man but you didn't let this bomb waste 10 years of your life come on now oh my god we got to do better we got to do better i need a shirt to say we got to do better need another shirt to say come on now come on man this right here now y'all listen i got the new batch of search i had three motor fulfilled y'all that i had to fulfill the last three that was gracious enough to wait on me they on the way y'all forgive me i got a new batch of search i don't know if i'm releasing because i really i'm i'm just stressing about the headache of putting them in the packages and packing them up and all of that even though my wife helped me a lot last time she really did everything but it just stressed me just looking at it and and uh jesse i'm like man it's too much work phone my wife working like this and i have some offers of people to run t-shirts in it but you know i'm a little later on that right there just because you know you don't know people and just too much going on out here you know i'm just not the type to just you know sweeping under the rug somebody mess up my name that's how i like all these people be out here you know try exposing me relationship coaches and then they'll be exposing relationship coaching they'll throw my name in there and tomorrow they got some receipts knowing they ain't got no receipts listen here they fit to be sued for defamation of character to every dime i got in the bank they had they gonna be sleeping on the bridge out there with my name in their mouth lying on me talking like they got some receipts from somewhere man listen i don't play with my name i don't play about my brand so because the lord knows i'm faithful to my wife and everything i have done over a decade ago anything i don't cheated in the streets you know shorted somebody on something like that when i was in the streets out there doing whatever everything in a book everything had been talked about i don't play with my brand so that's why i ain't really letting nobody run t-shirts yet because i'm serious about mine trying to do stuff the right way integrity and it's like you know that why these companies they keep coming tony we want to do that we want to do this i said all right put some money up put some money up y'all wanna y'all want a partner okay buy in you're not to let me build my brand for 14 years and then you just come and partner and eat off of me no plus compensate me for the time i spent building my name with integrity if you want to come and try to eat off no not come on what i look like boo boo the food it'd be it'd be uh you know the men out there in palo alto thank you don because you're black in your country but hey god bless y'all i got to get going we'll be in touch and i'm praying for y'all you know i'm sad about this one right here i'm praying for y'all though i hope we get this thing right i hope we get this together we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 36min 36sec (2196 seconds)

Published: Fri Apr 16 2021