10 Signs You Need to Break Up

hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're  going to learn about 10 signs you need to break up   now let's begin number one the yoyo relationship  all relationships have rough patches you and your   partner may not see eye to eye you may wonder  if they're a good fit for you on days like these   you may analyze the relationship you may  think about breaking up but these ups and   downs are normal even for the strongest couples  healthy relationships are like rolling hills you   go through ups and downs little highs and little  lows but for the most part you're happy together   toxic relationships on the other hand are like  mountains and valleys one minute you're soaring   on a cloud and the next you're crying into your  pillow wishing your relationship would just end   these are called yo-yo relationships yo-yo  relationships never find a stable rhythm or   dynamic they're driven by impulsive and  emotional decisions one minute you're   blinded by love and the next you're blinded  by anger and frustration if you're in a yoyo   relationship take a hard look at your partner  why do you keep breaking up with them are you   separating for the same reasons every single time  if your relationship is all mountains and valleys   well there may be underlying problems so the next  time you break up you may need to stay that way   number two the sinking ship how do you feel  about yourself when your partner's around in   a healthy relationship partners bring out the best  in each other they empower each other's strengths   and support each other's weaknesses they root for  the other success and push them toward happiness   but what if your partner brings you down  what if they bring out all your worst habits   you may love your partner as a person but your  relationship may damage your ambitions your   habits or your self-esteem all right let's say  your partner is a huge procrastinator each time   you're working on a project they encourage you to  slack off with them in other words your partner is   a sinking ship and they're pulling you down with  them sometimes problems like these are easy to   solve you just tell your partner how much your  work or habits mean to you and they may change   for the better but some relationships just aren't  motivating or uplifting your partner may not bring   out the best in you and if that's the case you may  have outgrown the relationship and it may be time   to move on number three the growing gap has it  gotten harder to talk to your partner your lives   may be intertwined yet you feel an emotional gap  between you in the past you shared each other's   passions and interests you got intimately involved  in your partner's life like they did in yours   you have so many fond memories of the two of  you together but you've stopped making new ones   nowadays catching up feels like a chore you may  feel like you have to tiptoe around your partner   that discomfort quickly creates distrust  disconnection and neglect if this sounds familiar   it may be time to end your relationship it's never  healthy for couples to rely on the past you should   not use old memories as a crutch to maintain a  lasting relationship you should be making new   memories together you should find ways to connect  emotionally and close the rift between you if you   tried and failed you and your partner may have  grown apart your lives may have moved in different   directions your relationship may have been perfect  in the past but it's not a good fit for the future   number four living on the edge how often do  you think about breaking up with your partner   once a month once a week maybe you think about  breaking up every day but you hold yourself back   why because you don't know if you're making  the right decision but there's a reason you   think about breaking up so often maybe  you're waiting for your partner to change   maybe you're hoping that the relationship will get  better tomorrow chances are those things aren't   going to happen you shouldn't stay with your  partner if you don't love who they currently are   just ask yourself do i want to be with  this exact person for the next month   or even the next year if the answer's no  then your relationship may be on its last leg   number five the big division where do you see  yourself say in five years do you want to settle   down do you want to travel the world do you want  to flourish in your career all of us know loosely   where our lives are headed along the way things  may change you'll discover new opportunities that   shift your thinking you'll meet new people and  experience things you never thought you would   but throughout all of these changes  your major values will stay the same   if your relationship is going to last you  and your partner need to walk the same path   alright let's say your partner dreams of a big  family but you see yourself investing in your   career you and your partner may have different  visions of the future your relationship may work   now but your future is divided so if you and  your partner have different values you're not   necessarily doomed but different values present a  huge hurdle one of you may be forced to compromise   your dreams and that will only create unhappiness  in the future number six the eye test not every   sign is a big one sometimes small changes can  tell you when a relationship is on its way out   many crumbling couples for example struggle  to look into each other's eyes eye contact   is a hallmark of a loving relationship when  your relationship is strong and healthy you   and your partner get lost in each other's eyes  you're comfortable and confident around your   partner you trust them enough to be vulnerable  and expose your true self but over time you may   close yourself off you may build up your walls  back up and hide behind them so how do you know   if this has happened to you simply look into  your partner's eyes keep looking for at least   five seconds how does it feel do you want to  look away do you feel nervous and uncomfortable   many couples even after a long relationship barely  look into each other's eyes they're not vulnerable   with each other anymore couples fail the eye  test because they've closed themselves off   number seven hijacking the relationship  in the beginning you and your partner may   have clicked in every way but your partner  gradually became toxic and your relationship   changed toxic people use their partners to  satisfy a deeper need for control or power   instead of caring about you or the relationship  they hijack the situation to satisfy themselves   now naturally this takes a huge emotional toll on  you you may feel guilty more often than you feel   happy you may try to please them constantly only  to be criticized slowly but surely the focus of   the relationship has drifted it's no longer about  you two together it's just about them if your   partner has hijacked your relationship it's time  to let them go number eight dispensable partners   your partner should not give your life meaning  in a healthy relationship partners are strong   individuals who create mutual love without  growing dependent on each other but here's   the catch partners especially male partners want  to feel needed they want to play an essential   role in their partner's life when they feel  essential they feel important valued and loved   think about whether or not your partner is  essential to you then think about whether you   are essential to your partner sometimes this issue  is easy to fix partners may find ways to show each   other how important they are but if your partner  refuses to make a place for you in their life   you may need to break up number nine avoiding  family has your partner introduced you to their   friends what about their family in the beginning  of a relationship partners feel unsure about each   other you don't want to involve your loved ones  because you don't know how committed you are   to this person but as the relationship grows  loving couples weave their partners into their   lives they introduce them to friends and family  because they want to create a future together   but what if your partner is hiding you from  their loved ones if you're in a long-term   relationship your partner may be unsure about  you they're doubtful of their commitment to you   or maybe they feel ashamed of your relationship  either way partners should not hide each other   from their loved ones if this sounds like your  relationship well you may be better off broken up   number 10 defensive blaming if your partner is  mean to you then you should exit the relationship   but what if you're the one who's cruel and  critical what if you're putting your partner down   no matter who's insulting who the verdict is often  the same criticism is usually a defensive reaction   you know that your relationship has issues and  you know you play a big role in those issues   but you're unwilling to accept the blame so  you defend yourself by criticizing your partner   alright let's say you and your partner have been  fighting a lot you criticize your partner saying   they're always in a bad mood but it's actually the  opposite you're the one who's always in a bad mood   in other words you're projecting  your insecurities onto your partner   if this is happening the best thing you can  do is break up hey thank you for watching top   think and be sure to subscribe because  more incredible content is on the way

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Length: 9min 40sec (580 seconds)

Published: Wed Nov 18 2020