20 Signs of Fake Love

hey everyone and welcome to top  think today we're going to learn   about 20 signs of fake love now let's  begin number one refusing compromise   all couples run into problems but the couples  who love each other find ways to compromise   they're willing to make sacrifices because they  care about their partners as much as they care   about themselves so if your partner doesn't  really love you they may refuse to compromise   they won't make sacrifices because they care  about themselves more than they care about you   number two intentional spontaneity dates are  one way to show your partner that you care if   you plan something your partner will see the  effort you've invested into the relationship   and that communicates love a loveless  partner makes no effort to plan   dates or activities they don't put effort into  the relationship so the responsibility falls on   your shoulders you do all the heavy lifting but  a one-sided relationship isn't loving or healthy   number three the white flag when you and your  partner fight what happens does your partner give   up immediately do they assume every fight ends  in a breakup if you're in love you'll fight for   the person you care about you'd do anything  for them because they are your number one   but if your partner doesn't love you they'll stop  fighting for you they'll wave their white flag   anytime anything goes wrong because they're not  willing to persevere through hardship or conflict   in other words fake partners love you when  it's easy and then they run away when it's not   number four guarding their feelings does your  partner keep you at arm's length a loving partner   makes an effort to be vulnerable but a loveless  partner keeps their emotions to themselves these   partners don't want to be vulnerable because they  aren't interested in deepening your connection   now this isn't true one hundred percent of the  time some partners seem closed off thanks to   bad experiences in their past these partners can  and will be vulnerable with the person they love   but yeah it does take time loveless partners on  the other hand keep their walls up no matter how   long you're together number five creating distance  all loving couples have one thing in common they   want to spend time together if your partner  doesn't love you they'll start pulling away   you ask to spend time with them but they're  always busy you plan a date in advance but   something comes up at the last minute so if this  sounds familiar your partner is creating distance   between you why well because their feelings for  you may be fading number six public neglect in   public partners should be proud of each other a  loving partner adores the person they've chosen   so they want to show that person off to the rest  of the world loveless partners will neglect you   in public maybe they ditch you to hang out  with their friends or even worse they may   try to hide you if your partner does either of  these things it's a surefire sign of fake love   number 7 emotional discomfort does your partner  make you uncomfortable this is a very important   sign of fake love if you aren't comfortable around  your partner then something is definitely wrong   your partner should be the person you feel the  most comfortable with they're your best friend and   you're confidant they're the person you laugh and  cry with so they should make you feel confident   safe and secure so if your partner makes you  insecure they don't love you instead they're   trying to control you controlling partners  undermine and criticize your choices they make   you feel bad about who you are because they don't  care about your happiness they want to keep you   under their thumb and that's not love number  eight invisible romance so when was the last   time your partner did something romantic romantic  gestures show your partner that they matter to you   it keeps the spark alive by reminding them why  you fell in love in the first place your partner   doesn't have to be the most romantic person in the  world but they should show you that they care so   if your partner doesn't try to be romantic they  may not be in love with you number nine passing   blame will your partner admit their mistakes will  they apologize when they're wrong fake partners   never take responsibility for their mistakes  they'll flip every situation on you they don't   care if you take the blame because they don't  love you nearly as much as they love themselves   number 10 the attention deficit does  your partner pay attention to you   loving partners give their undivided  attention to their significant other   they go out of their way to show their partners  that they're present and attentive fake partners   will pay attention to anything but you they don't  make time for you and they don't listen to you   because in their mind you're not a priority  number 11 subconscious pronouns do you and   your partner talk about the future when they  describe their future are you a part of it   this one is huge for long-term relationships you  may imagine your significant other in your future   but they may not feel the same way about you  if your partner sees you in their life you can   actually hear a change in the language they use  if your partners use the pronouns we and us they   imagine a future with you in it they love you and  they're hoping you'll be together for a long time   on the other hand if they use the pronouns  i and me they don't see you in their future   they don't anticipate your relationship lasting  and their love may not be as deep as it seems   number 12 mutual unhappiness are you happy around  your partner is your partner happy around you   mutual happiness is key to any stable relationship  you should bring out the best in each other if   you're not doing that then you and your partner  may not be in love so just ask yourself am i happy   with my partner does my partner smile and laugh  when we're together if the answer's no you may be   in a loveless relationship number 13 invasions of  privacy privacy is important in every relationship   many people think couples should tell each other  everything well most of the time couples do but   it's important to maintain your individuality  no matter how much you love your partner if your   partner doesn't respect your privacy that's a bad  sign many insecure controlling partners will try   to compromise your privacy they'll insist that  you're keeping secrets they'll look through your   phone without asking and they'll accuse you of  breaking their trust these manipulative partners   are selfish and they lash out when they're  feeling insecure so if your partner invades your   privacy they're not trying to love you they're  trying to control you number 14 hiding secrets   while privacy is important keeping secrets can be  a sign of fake love alright let's say your partner   actively hides their job from you or maybe they  don't tell you who their friends are or what they   do on the weekends loving partners don't keep  these kinds of secrets if you're in love you   let your partner into your life you want to share  the most intimate things about you and you want to   know the same things about your partner a loveless  person will hide big chunks of their life they'll   keep secrets and they'll protect those secrets  with stories and lies the bottom line is you   need to trust your partner and if you don't love  doesn't stand a chance number 15 demanding change   as your partner asks you to change for them when  you love someone you love them for who they are   flaws and all but fake partners will encourage  you to change who you are they don't love you   for you they love you for the person they  expect you to be and that's not real love   number 16 unloving language does your partner tell  you that they love you loving partners find ways   to express their feelings they may not say i love  you 20 times a day but they show their affections   any way they can so if your partner doesn't  express their affection that's a sign of fake love   they don't tell or show you how they feel  because they don't feel much to begin with   number 17 petty conflict does your partner  disagree with you about everything they pick   fights about the tiniest most insignificant  things and for the life of you you can't   figure out why here's the reason why loveless  partners search for reasons to fight they know   deep down that their love isn't real and  that frustration creates unnecessary conflict   number 18 taking breaks have you and your  partner ever taken a break if your partner   wants a break from you that's a red flag if your  partner sees other people while you're apart   alarm bells should be ringing in your  head a loving partner wants to be with you   it's that simple number 19 the priority list  are you low on your partner's priority list   when you're in love it's easy to prioritize  your partner you want to give them everything   you can because you love them from the bottom of  your heart a loveless partner will stop making   you a priority they'll choose their work  their friends and their hobbies over you   they'll make you wait and then they'll blow you  off why because they don't actually love you   number 20 drawing comparisons does your partner  compare you to other people in their life do they   threaten to find someone else if you do something  wrong this is one of the most manipulative things   a partner can say they're forcing you to change  but a loving partner would never do this they'd   never put you in such an uncomfortable position so  don't let anyone bully you into changing who you   are if your partner threatens to stop loving you  they never really loved you at all hey thank you   for watching top think and be sure to subscribe  because more incredible content is on the way

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Length: 10min 36sec (636 seconds)

Published: Thu Apr 22 2021