Wifey Material | Pressure | (#Rewind) | Jerry Flowers

hello family how are you doing on this wonderful sunday nights i am excited and i'm just grateful i just want to thank all of you guys for the subscriptions the shares the likes tell somebody we are about to get going and tonight's message i should have did this like lesson number five lesson number six of this series i believe it is that good and it's a necessary word a necessary word as you are getting ready and as you are excited for tonight's preaching presentation i need everybody to drop this in the room all caps drop this comment it's in me it's in me it's in me it's in me you can put exclamation point exclamation point it's in me it's in me take your screenshot tag us let us know where you are in the world it is in me it's in me so let's get to work um i would like to go to ephesians chapter 5 ephesians chapter 5 verse 25 through 32 it has a little length to it and it's gonna be a curve ball for the content that we're going to talk about on tonight ephesians chapter 5 verse 25 it says husbands love your wives just as christ also loved the church and gave himself for her that he might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word that he may present her to himself a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing but that she should be holy and without blemish so husbands ought to love their wives their own wives as their own bodies he who loves his wife loves himself for no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it just as the lord does the church for we are members of his body of his flesh and of his bones for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh this is a great mystery but i speak concerning christ and the church a clause of concern and a verse of emphasis takes residence in the final verse of our foundational and his biblical narrative verse 32 this is a great mystery but i speak concerning christ and the church god you're awesome thank you for allowing us to see a sunrise and another sunset on a day that we never saw before and we'll never see again we're in a high expectation of what's going to happen on tonight i pray that you anoint my lips to be the pa system of heaven allow me oh god to be an oracle your spokesman and let this message touch the hearts of your people where we can recognize we are called to be your representatives in jesus name and everybody who agrees with that prayer would you drop the comment in the room a man a man this is a great mystery but i'm speaking concerning christ and the church what paul is breaking down here in ephesians chapter five really most of us think this is all about how husbands are supposed to treat wives and wives are supposed to treat husbands but he says listen i'm not really necessarily talking about that this is a great mystery i'm speaking about the relationship between christ and the church in other words marriage was designed to be a representation of what christ and the church looks like this is why it makes so much sense now that god would use unfaithful terminology when he was speaking about the children of israel indulging in idolatry he would say things like they went whoring after other gods this adulterous and unbelieving generation because it is cheating on god god views it as cheating when we have a lifestyle emphasis on lifestyle when we have a lifestyle living according to the flesh but then yet claimed to be the bride yeah he views that as cheating when we have a lifestyle living according to the flesh but then claim to be his bride this is why it makes so much sense why the enemy sends you counterfeit after counterfeit and distraction after distraction it's not even necessarily about you and the spirit realm is deeper i'm trying to mess up the representation i'm trying to mess up what you're supposed to represent i would like to ascribe to you per adventure this is why a lot of people have issues with the church and this is why they have a lot of issues with jesus it's not that they have a problem with jesus they just have a problem with the people who claim to be followers of jesus it's not necessarily that they have strong issues with the church is that they have an issue with the people who claim to be the church i'm gonna put y'all on game right quick can i do that i'm gonna put you all on game if you don't know what it means to be put on game it means i'm about to expound some hard truth to you i want to put you on game there are plethora and many types of women in the world but two types of women that i would like to present to you for tonight's preaching presentation type a this is the type of woman that does not have a value application woman a she doesn't have a value application even businesses and corporations understand the importance of an application if you want to have this position if you want to work here you have to apply i need to know your background i need to know your information and then on top of that i need to know do you meet the requirements for this position do you have the degree we required this type of license did you get this training did you pass the bar exam how did you do on the physical training exam do you have all the credentials necessary for this position matter of fact that's not good enough i didn't know i need to know your former employer i didn't know your former employer employer and now give me that information where i could contact them too so i can see if everything that you put on the application i need to see if you lying i need to see if you lie here's something i'm just throwing here for free if you ever know somebody's lying i'm not saying you think not an assumption because assumptions are the termites of every relationship i'm not talking about assumptions but you know that they lying y'all ever know somebody's lying you know that they lying here it is don't tell them don't tell them just ask about it because i need to see how many problems am i really dealing with y'all missed it i need to see how many problems am i really dealing with am i dealing with you just being a liar or am i dealing with you being a liar and like a denying about you lying too i need to know how many problems i'm dealing with and here's a crazy thing you could do all of that you can fill out the application they could call your former employer you can have one interview two you can have three interviews and still not get the position why because we know who we're looking for they have a value of application type a this woman she doesn't have a value application i'm about to get in trouble i'm about to get in trouble this type of woman doesn't have any requirements therefore whoever applies she hires whoever applies she hires the narcissist the toxic dictator the mentally abusive the verbally abusive the man that has a body like a man but the mindset of a boy she doesn't have full awareness of who she is and there are a breed of women breed of men who are looking for a woman just like that trying to put you on truth there are a breed of men who are looking for a woman like that because they know she'll tolerate me they know she'll take care of me she'll cook for me she'll give me the keys to her apartment i can move in with her i could take her car i could eat up all her chicken she'll even make excuses for my poisonous behavior because she doesn't know who she is she has all of these insecurities she doesn't know her value in christ she doesn't know that she's a queen she doesn't know that she's a woman of purpose she doesn't know that god has a powerful plan for her life then on top of that she can have daddy issues because my first presentation of how a man should love me was supposed to be my father and now i love heart because it was hard not being loved yeah no no application and don't sleep ladies while y'all a-man and yes don't sleep because women do it too women do it too i'm about to mess y'all up you know this man has no chance you don't like him at all you know he has no chance but he likes you and you use his feelings to get a free meal you went out to lunch with this brother i'm coming all down your street you know you don't like him but you like them garlic butter biscuits from red lobster and you know that he'll take you and he'll pay for your meal and you'll use his feelings to get what you want you don't want to pay the money for those movers and you know he likes you so you call him up to ask you to okay y'all don't want to talk to me you call him up and ask him to come help you because you know that he likes you and i could use the fact that he likes me to have him do a service that i don't want to pay for women do it too value application unaware of it that's type a but woman b oh she know who she is this type of woman she has a value application she has requirements and standards requirement and standards and please don't misconstrue what i'm saying there is a difference between a standard and a preference a standard is he must be saved a preference is he must be six feet that hit somebody right there in the chest yeah a standard is she gotta be godly a preference is she gotta be curvy your standards orbit around fruit preferences orbit around flesh this type of individual they know who they are and sometimes men won't even mess with her they want her and they know that this is the type of woman that they need but they won't even mess with her you know why because this type of woman requires for me to be mature this type of woman won't tolerate my boy type ways they won't tolerate my abuse she won't tolerate my narcissistic behavior she won't tolerate my manipulation so what i'm gonna do is i really want her but i'm gonna settle for type a because she'll let me sleep with her she'll let me have sex with her and then now here's the crazy thing woman b will begin to question herself and begin to wonder what's wrong with me why don't men talk to me many have tried but many have failed and i'm trying to get you to understand that you are the one that's favored the bible does not say when he finds you you get favor the bible says when he finds you he gets favored so you need to know you're favored in your single state and your favorite in your marriage state you are the tickets of favor i'm standing here right now as a benefactor of this principle i know i'm favored because of my wife and a lot of people you're questioning yourself because you don't recognize that you're the one with the favor and men will begin to walk around and say you know what that's wifey i know i'm not mature enough dudes can recognize this in high school there's one girl who will sleep with the whole football team but then there's another girl who don't even play like that and they'll say that's wifi material so i just feel it's necessary let's speak around this thought from this subject wifey material wifey material but i'm not going the way that you think i'm going i want you to know that you rather if you're a man watching this or a woman watching this you are jesus's wife if you claim to be a believer and you're a part of the church you are his bride you are his bride he is the bridegroom and we are his bride and i think we need to ask ourselves the question what type of wife am i what type of wife am i am am i and am i asking god to send me somebody when i'm not even a good wife to you already what type of wife am i and if you're saved do you recognize that you are the bride of christ and instead of trying to get people to understand your love language how about you try to understand god's love language you know what his love language is d all the above all the above number one jesus loves quality time he loves when you spend time with him in prayer he loves when you dedicate the morning and just bask in his presence and seek his face and dwell in his word he loves quality time when you dedicate the evening or when you set apart a time in your life where i'm fasting to get closer to god i want to hear his voice i want to know his sound i want to be in his presence god loves quality time he also loves words of affirmation but watch this he loves words of affirmation not because he needs to be affirmed but he knows when you affirm him and affirms you can i mess you all up for a second you don't read the bible for god you don't pray for god you're not watching this message for god you don't listen to sermons for god you don't worship for god oh that's for you bro all that's for you sis you praying is not going to make god any more faithful it's not going to make him any more holy it's not going to make him any more righteous you worshiping is going to help your mind stop worrying because you can't worry and worship at the same time and a lot of us have got it twisted we think we're doing god a service because we attend church because we're giving because we're praying because we're fasting and god's like don't you understand i'm already holy i can't get any more holier than i already am i'm in a lane all by myself there's no league i have no competition the devil's not even my adversary i have no no competitors no adversities you're doing this for you you're doing this for you words of affirmation but the affirmation affirms you he loves he loves when you use your gifts why because he gave them to you he loves when you worship yeah use that gift he loves when you exercise your gift of artistry your gift of speaking that gift of business skills i love when you do that because it shows me off it shows me off i love acts of service when you're serving your community when you're serving your husband when you're serving your wife when you're serving in the church i love service because you are the hands and feet of me so it makes me look good when you do this and god also loves physical touch you know how you touch the heart of god anytime you choose his will over your will that touches his heart anytime you say god i want to do this but i trust you and you're my husband and i'm gonna follow you and i'm gonna submit to you it gives god glory and if you like me when i really got saved like for real for real because there was a time in my life when i was like saved for fake like i knew the bible i knew the lingo i knew the things to say but i had no relationship with god no prayer no worship no repentance repent for what i just did what i wanted to do but when you get like saved for real for real i had questions i'm like okay god if you hate sin so much why did you have both trees in the garden like if you want me to live holy god i need you to have like hailstones come down from heaven you want me to stop clubbing burn up every club help me out help me out don't give me the choice don't give me the choice you want me to stop smoking weed burn up every marijuana leave help me out like god if i hurt your heart so much why give me an opportunity to choose between the tree of good and evil and the tree of what you said not to eat from if you love us so much and it hurts your heart so much for us to choose sin why give us a choice until i recognize god said because i love you and i don't want you to have control i want you to have free will because any time you choose me over choosing what you want to do that shows me that you love me so i have both trees because i want to see were you listening to me or were you listening to culture were you listening to me or were you listening to your flesh were you listening to me or were you listening to your mom and them which one would you choose and somebody's sitting here like you know what but it's just so hard it's so hard i don't i still don't understand it jay it's so hard because this tree looks so good could it be hard because you're facing the wrong tree i don't know man it just seemed like the devil's so busy could it be busy because you're giving him so much work y'all don't want to talk it just seems so difficult your whole friends are eating from the forbidden tree the reason it's so difficult is because what you're facing but if you ever bust a 180 and turn towards righteousness holiness purity and seek god's face maybe it won't seem as hard if i surround myself from people who aren't eating from the wrong tree y'all ready for this i think we really have to understand god is saying i want you to love me per adventure to add insult to injury if you're married or you want to be married let's say you roll up on your spouse go up to their work and you ask them hey babe where's your ring i come up here to brought you bring you some lunch like oh i'm sorry babe it's right here how many of us will have a problem with that it's one thing if you forgot it it's another thing if y'all have some type of agreement but you ask him or you ask her about it and they pull it out oh i'm sorry babe it's right here most of us are like okay what you ashamed of why you took your ring off i bet jesus is like why you keep taking your ring off to hang in that relationship why you keep taking that ring off when you go around your friends why why you keep taking your ring off when you go to happy hour with them why why do you keep taking your ring off when you're going to the strip club why you keep taking that ring off every single time he comes over your apartment at four in the morning i want everybody to know that you my bride represent me well you are the bride of christ and i think it's necessary due to how culture is and the type of us and the type of messages that aren't really teaching us what true christianity is we need a park and we need to talk about this your wife and material and what does that look like let's get to work in the beginning was the word the word was with god the word was god he was with god from the beginning and him all things were made without him nothing was made that has been made and him was life and he was the light of mankind god spent five days of establishing the order created the waters and so to this day the waters have not stopped flowing since he said let there be light then instantly there's light greater lights by day and lesser lights by night and your god and my god are so awesome when he knows every single star in the sky by name he stretches out the heavens like a curtain heaven is his throne and earth is his footstool our god is powerful he spent all of this time focused on the environment before the arrival because god knows the power of atmosphere somebody say atmosphere he knows the power of atmosphere and i believe he's showing us a picturesque portrait of how he operates he's showing us i don't breathe in it until there has been created space for it i don't breathe in it until there has been created space for it see a lot of us a lot of us we keep on window shopping at our dreams but then purchasing our excuses window shopping at your dreams but then purchasing your excuses it's really not faithing it i know we kind of made that word up it's really not faithing it if we have a prepared space in our life to receive what we're asking for god to extend because sometimes god will bless you with double let me give you a bible let me give you a bible y'all remember rebecca right the woman who couldn't conceive she couldn't have children and her husband isaac prayed i'm not even going to bother that i'm not even going to bother the power of having a praying man and not just praying these nursery rhyme prayers brother when you pray to something happen when you pray these things move when you pray the stuff break i only have time to bother that but isaac began to pray and he asked god for his wife to conceive and god gave him twins as i believe sometimes god's like okay if you bold enough to ask for one i'm big enough to bless you with two but the question on the floor is have you prepared space to receive what it is that you've asked god to extend your way he's showing us how he operates i don't breathe in it until i have created space for it why else do you think scripture says be ye always ready be ye always ready in season and what out of season if it was not a possibility for something to hit your life that was a surprise that you should have been prepared for because when opportunity calls only the preparer can answer did y'all hear what i just said when opportunity calls only the prepared can answer and i think a lot of teaching and a lot of sermons have messed us up it has us looking for open doors and has us looking for seasons where we're blessed and has us looking for us to be stepped in and everybody knows our name but if we had more sermons that told you to value closed doors yeah thank god for that rejoice for that i can get the whole room to shout if i say give god a praise for open doors you're about to be ushered into a season under an open heaven you're about to be ushered into a season where everybody's gonna know your name but if i say give god praise they don't nobody know you give god praise for off seasons we don't really shout about that but it's the off seasons that teaches you how to prepare it's the offseason where nobody sees your mistakes it's the off season where you train this is how when i learn how to use my slingshot nobody's watching but i'm learning how to defeat a lion i'm learning how to defeat lions tigers and bears oh my i wish we would rejoice for the pasture season nobody knows your name the season of obscurity because god is training you change your perspective just because the curtain is closed doesn't mean the production is over all it means is god is switching scenes i'm making myself happy up here god is just switching scenes never miss label bad weather as a bad season let me go a little deeper on y'all do you know that usually when the weather gets the most severe is due to the seasons changing the weather gets the most violent when it's shifting from spring to summer the weather begins begins to become the most violent when it shifts from summer to spring never mislabel bad weather as a bad season it could just be irrefutable evidence that you're in transition ah he focused on the atmosphere before the arrival he focused on the atmosphere before the arrival because i needed an atmosphere that could sustain what i'm about to do i need there to be water for adam to drink i need for there to be plants because plants will leaf off release off oxygen as a waste product and mankind and humanity is going to grab that oxygen consume it and then release off carbon dioxide and then the plants are going to grab the carbon dioxide consumer and then release off oxygen and the circle of life is going to cycle i need a system in place for what i'm about to send because god knows the power of atmosphere can i get on my soapbox this is why i personally can't stand dull and boring praise and worship i can't stand when people just fulfill a role and you don't even look like you want to be here you don't look like god as good it just looks like i'm doing due diligence and this is what i'm supposed to do i can't stand dull and boring praise and worship why because it sets forth an atmosphere this is why you don't want to surround yourself with complainers why because it sets forth an atmosphere god knows the power of atmosphere why else do you think he said into my gates with thanksgiving and into my courts with praise because it sets forth an atmosphere god knows the power of atmosphere he focused on the atmosphere before the arrival of man everything else he said let there be but when it came to you and me he said let us make irrefutable evidence of the triune god the father god the son god the holy spirit and then he breathed ruach the breath of life on the inside of us so now it makes sense said one more time it's in me yeah now it makes sense it's in me it's in me anointing is in me power is in me might is in me strength is in me shifting my bloodline it's all in me this explains why the enemy has been after you because he's after what's on the inside of you he never wants it to become mature he never wants it to get strong it's in you there's something on the inside of you that should break yolks there's something on the inside of you that should change atmospheres there's something on the inside of you that changes your environment it's in you it's in you and god is saying whatever is in you the earth needs i said all of that to say the earth needs the church the church is the lungs of the earth we're the ones while the presence exists in the earth this is where i'm gonna build my church on this rock and the gates of hell will not prevail against it you and i are the church we're wifey we're wifey and a lot of us have made the erroneous assumption that the church is just a building although that's not totally incorrect it is incomplete the church comes from the greek word ekklesia which means the assembly are the called out ones okay so stay with me this building i'm in right now at 10355 mills road houston texas 77070 this building does not become a church until the assembly or a called out one gathers here y'all miss what i just said this this is just a building yes the church doors may be closed but the church is very much open this is just a building what makes it the church is when the assembly or the called out ones gather here so whoever's watching this right now in your car you have in church if you're watching this alone in your apartment you haven't church if you in your dorm room with two or three your friends you have in church because this is an area where the assembly where the called out ones gather and i can't speak for anybody else but i personally believe every single time the church gets together something mega should happen i'm so tired of dull boring ritualistic common average christianity it was never made to be like that you're supposed to be a planet shaker i'm just convinced every time we get together something mega should happen power should be released there should be chains that fall off because the anointing breaks yokes there should be anointing on preaching there should be anointing on psalmist there should be anointing on worship and i'm just convinced that the power is here because jesus promised us where two or three are gathered in my name there i will also be in the midst of them so this means right now the atmosphere is ripe for a miracle the atmosphere is ripe for a breakthrough and please don't let me get on my soapbox about breakthrough i wish people would stop lying and telling you if you have a need sow a seed i'm about to mess people up we have a whole generation that needs to learn this a lot of churches lied to us lied to us they were just pimps with bishop callers they were just businessmen and pulpits and they wanted your money so they said if you got a need sow a seed we have a 300 line and we have a 400 line and if you want me to lay some oil on you come down here you got a 500 seed that is not a breakthrough because you cannot sow your way out of rebellion are we getting in trouble we're gonna get some emails about this one listen you cannot sow your way out of rebellion god doesn't just want your money he wants your repentance he wants your heart he wants your mind he wants your life not your pocketbook and the reason they won't preach this is because they don't want to fix their pocketbook but i'm not called to be popular i'm called to tell you the truth this is why they killed jesus because he constantly kept telling people the truth a breakthrough is when you used to get high but now you're not trying to get faded no more that's a breakthrough yeah a breakthrough is when you used to always drink non-stop and alcoholic but you've been sober for the last six weeks that's a breakthrough a breakthrough is when you're a girl and you're no longer liking girls i'm going all the way here that is a breakthrough a breakthrough is when you're a man and you no longer want a man that is a breakthrough but we're not going to do like most churches do we're not just going to highlight the homosexual sin we're also also going to talk about the heterosexual sin a breakthrough is when you're a man and you stop sleeping with that woman that you're not married to a breakthrough is when you're a woman and you stop sleeping with that man that you're not married to that's a breakthrough has nothing to do with legalism it's nothing to do with legalism it's everything to do that i'm carrying something i'm pregnant with a ministry i'm pregnant with a destiny i'm pregnant with a calling i'm pregnant with a purpose i'm pregnant with a business and due to what i'm carrying i can't eat that because when you become pregnant certain things now make you nauseous it's due to what i'm carrying things i used to consume they now make me sick just the smell of it now makes me sick just the atmosphere of it now churns my stomach not because of legalism but because i'm carrying something i have a baby of destiny in my soul and now i'm making choices that are conducive for my destiny not choices that are conducive for my flesh not choices that are conducive for my loneliness i'm carrying something you're the church you're the church and that is a breakthrough that's what a breakthrough is and the atmosphere is ripe for a miracle you and i are the ecclesia this building the church is likened unto your spiritual gem it's your spiritual gem and you know what i believe covet has exposed there's so many things that covet has done i mean covet has hit us hard with people dying losing loved ones losing jobs just 20 20 is just doing 20 20. terrible terrible i'm not even gonna front hard year to me it all started with kobe everybody on that everybody on that helicopter it seemed like after that happened just everything went downhill it's been a hard year but something i'm seeing that covet is exposing if church is the spiritual gem covert is exposing a lot of us don't have a home gym yeah if if you haven't lift your hands in worship since that worship leader said lift your hands if you haven't opened up the word of god since that preacher said turn to chapter so and so in verse so and so if you haven't had all night prayer and if you haven't had prayer since that last prayer meeting you just went to the gym for a spiritual gym but you don't have a home gym you don't have a home gym you're just a communal worshiper and so now your faith and everything is going down i'm not saying that you don't have a moment but i am saying don't allow that moment to have momentum you can have your moment as hard it's difficult but at the end of the day i got to build me a home gym if that means building me a prayer closet if that means having space in my life where i dedicate it to god because even though i am many members are part of the body i also need to work out my own salvation i also need to get in the gym myself the pastor should not be the only one studying see nobody likes to talk like this because everybody expects the passion and preacher to live it but they don't expect you to live it you studied to show yourself approved not just me okay y'all don't want that bible right i'm trying to give you that real real yeah it's it's it's recognizing that i also need to be diligent with my growth i need you to evolve so hard that you got to reintroduce yourself this is why stupid for people to gossip about you because most likely that's outdated information because i evolve on the regular so listen i want to remind you of your wifely duties if your wife and material i want to remind you of your wife wifely duties number one as a wife you are called to represent you're called to represent i needed i need for you to have that proposal energy you know that energy ladies y'all have once he popped you know got on his knee and asked the question and you immediately posted like post a picture of yourself like this i need you to have that type of energy you know them engagement photos when y'all looking real happy and now every picture you like this because you want everybody to see i need you to have that same type of energy with the kingdom let everybody know that you're a believer let's look what the word says i'm giving you a bible look matthew chapter 5 verse 16 it says let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your father in heaven jesus is saying listen i want people to know you married i want them to know that you mine the same way you got that proposal energy and you flexing that ring it could be a small rock but you don't care this means listen somebody wanted me and i'm off the market the same type of energy you have when you post that picture i need you to represent the kingdom like that you're like okay i hear you but how am i supposed to represent i'm glad you asked we just got to go to the bible he text us he got 66 text messages let's go to the text first timothy chapter 4. look at this first timothy chapter 4 verse 12 it says let no one despise your youth an elderly woman reminded me of that she says let no one despise your youth but be an example you see this be an example to the believers how do you represent in word in conduct in love in spirit in faith oh here it is and in purity you want to represent me he said listen represent me in the word represent me with that way you behave represent me with loving one another represent me in the spirit represent me in your faith and represent me and your purity everybody say wifey yeah number two if you're gonna be a wife you know what your wifely duty is scripture is boss scripture is boss it's the highest authority in our life so when something encount when i hit something or i encounter a situation i always reflect back to the word of god scriptures boss not my feelings because feelings are wonderful servants but terrible masters oh write that down feelings are wonderful servants but terrible masters it's now how i feel what does the word of god say i should view what are my views on this how should i feel about this yes i'm angry but scripture says be angry and sin not and i think the problem with a lot of christians is we know how to die but we don't know how to live i just gotta say god forgive me and my name gonna be written in the lamb book of life i'm good i know how to die but jesus rocked three years of solid world-renowned ministry death was just a few moments on the cross but he lived to show us how to live have you studied jesus life because the way he lived that's how you're supposed to live that's how you on your wifey behavior scripture's boss i may not like it i may even cry because i'm denying my flesh and i'm submitting my will to the spirit but at the end of the day i'm your bride go ahead don't forget that proposable energy scripture is boss number three if you're gonna have wifi material and you're gonna be wifey material you gotta understand that i have to be christ centered and holy spirit led christ centered and holy spirit led i want y'all to get this it's not about going to hell i know a lot of people preach that you don't do this you're going to burn you don't do this you're going to burn it's not about hell i don't go home every night to my wife because i fear her divorcing me i i don't wash dishes because i fear her divorcing me i don't clean up around the house because i fear divorce i don't do nice things for her rather bringing her something to either flowers or a teddy bear or making a poem or whatever i don't do those because i fear divorce i do them because i love her i don't like washing dishes i really don't i don't like washing dishes at all y'all pray for me i'm just being honest i don't but i wash dishes because it makes life easier for my wife it has it establishes order in my home so there are a lot of things that i don't like to do as a husband but i do them for the benefit of you and as a wife and being the bride of christ there's going to be a lot of things god is going to ask you to do and you're not going to want to do them you're not going to want to talk to that woman who's ratchet okay y'all don't want to be honest you're not going to want to turn the other cheek you're not going to want to bite your tongue when somebody says something disrespectful you're not gonna wanna do those things but at the end of the day it's not about me i'm trying to please my husband jesus is my bridegroom i hope you all look in this it's not about fearing hell it's about representing him well all right number four if you are truly gonna represent jesus and be a wife number four i must make much of jesus i have these pictures i want you to see when i really got saved for real for real this is what i started doing i was a solar i was a student pastor we had something called solar student ministry and i named it empowering the sun we're empowered by the sun and we would go upstairs every wednesday night every sunday and i also had something like friday night lives where i would get some of the young guys together it was just men only and we would get together we'd play basketball we had bible study i ordered pizza and i would pay for it i would pay for it we would go off to galveston to the beach and i'll pay for the whole weekend it wasn't about money it was about discipleship and so then i started having concerts i was never trying to be a rapper never i got like a whole degree i was never trying to be a rapper but i did not like the music that they were listening to so i started to drop bars we started to freestyle we would have the ox cord in the van and we'd all be rapping i had no idea that would turn into a concert we had 20 or 30 students there it was cool for me because i was like 22 23 years old fresh out of college i don't have nothing to do on a friday night why not come up here in the sanctuary put some smoke and some lights on and rap about jesus that's all i was doing i had no idea i would turn from 20 to 200 to 300 to 400 to packing out the church look at this i had no idea return of this i had no idea would turn into a tour i had no idea this tour would turn into me meeting my wife i had no idea that me and my wife would start doing webisodes and those webisodes would turn into a redefined tour all over the nation i had no idea but i was just passionate about making much of jesus and i found the secret y'all if you live a life making much about jesus everything that you really want you can collide with on the way now i understand why he says seek ye first the kingdom of god and his righteousness and all these things will be added unto you a lot of us want the things but we don't want to seek the kingdom we don't want to study we don't want to live pure but we want the things and god said i'm tired of people who just want my hand but they're not after my heart if you're gonna be wifey you gotta make much of me let people know who you represent we had like 70 young men all jumping unashamed what we are unashamed what and just screaming that we were boasting in the fact that we were virgins not ashamed of it boasting in the fact that we're not doing this we're boasting in the things of god if i boast in anything i'm boasting about his grace and i'm boasting about his mercy be passionate about evangelism if you're wifey you're passionate about evangelism and you're making much of jesus number five i'm gonna lose my whole audience if you're gonna be wifey oh you gotta submit now listen in the marriage context we submit to each other the husband submits to the wife the wife submits to the husband but it's a little different with god god don't submit to you god don't submit to you you submit to him you submit to him and this is the hardest thing i know you're not gonna like this remember paul said this this is a mystery i'm speaking about concerning the church and christ it's not just about marriage you know the hardest thing about submission especially in the marriage context is the hardest thing about it i believe is the man has the final say i lost my whole a man section right so now look look look before you uh why are you with a dude that you don't trust him in the finals in the first place okay all right so now we're getting in trouble we got to break this down understand submission is never demanded it's modeled and truthfully as a kingdom man he never puts his foot down if it's not for the betting of his family it's never going to be about him it's never you submit i want this boat woman i'm the man it's never going to be like that never he never abuses his position just like god never abuses his position he has the final say and if he ever has the final say it's always for you and the children not himself not himself if that's hard for you to swallow and if you can't submit to god now brothers you need to take note of this if this woman is not submitted to god now what makes you think she's going to be submitted to you if she can't submit to a god who is perfect how is she gonna submit to your behind are you imperfect same thing ladies he he needs to show submissive behavior now where he listens to authority now it's the same thing we submit to god submission i tap out god what you say goes i don't like it but you know what you have the final say because christ is my head christ is my head and i follow him in all that i do that doesn't mean you're gonna be perfect but it does mean you will be perfected now this is a difficult principle for ladies to follow this you have to understand this first of all he has to be kingdom he has to be kingdom of course it's gonna be hard for you to submit to a fool a fool let my lip hang again a fool it's gonna be hard for you to submit to a fool we're not talking about that god is saying listen this man is already submitted before you ever came on a scene before you ever came on the scene he was already submitted to christ so actually getting behind him is going to feel like something that you already have because he's never going to use his position to treat you with disrespect i don't know about that listen if you were somebody who disrespected you you actually kind of already disrespected yourself everybody wants to be kingdom until it's time to do kingdom submission number six if you're gonna be wifey you're devoted to discipleship devoted somebody's constantly pouring into me discipleship go therefore unto all nations baptizing them in the name of the father the son and the holy spirit and lo i'm with you always even to the end of the age go and make disciples of all nations you know what disciples is the root word and disciples is disciplined so he's saying go make disciplined ones go make people who are disciplined that's discipleship and devoted to that process now listen discipleship requires nudity i have to be honest i have to be open i have to be naked because i can't heal what you act like doesn't hurt i can't tell you something else that a lot of us are hurt from you can't expect the doctor to always call you and you're the one with the virus okay they didn't call me they ain't check on me okay this is a person who's discipling you all right getting quiet getting quiet doctors follow up but after a while you got to let me know that you got aches you got to let me know that you have issues you got to let me know that something's hurting because i don't know if you don't tell me and don't let all of this stuff that went down from generation to generation suffering in silence that stuff doesn't work you will die miserable and in pain and blame everybody else because you never recognize sometimes you got to get ugly for your deliverance you can't care what people think you can't care that your issue is exposed because they can't save me anyway i need to be able to be held to somebody who could disciple me now i'm going to talk about this this many times is not happening because i'm experiencing hurt in my home as a child so i don't trust people i don't have trust issues and what people don't talk about enough church hurt i'm not letting nobody disciple me because it's gonna mess you up point seven um if your wifey you gotta have godly leaders that's gonna mess you up because look uh you just told me i'm the uh uh you already told me i'm the church i don't need nobody we do need each other we're many members a part of one body you know what you are by yourself you're just a pinky you're just a pink you know what your brother is they're your ring finger and i ain't gonna flip nobody off you get the whole metaphor i need everybody i need everybody to make the hand you can't do this on your own so i need golly leaders to help me overseers the reason we'll have overseers is because they can see over you i could tell you a wolf is coming that pastor could tell you i know you want him girl but this this is not it this is not it yeah but i prayed about and i got a piece you got a piece because you want to be married this man don't even really believe in the lord y'all have two totally different belief systems this this is not gonna work out well i'm gonna do my own thing i'm grown go ahead i'll see you back when you want to get counseling go ahead see but we're hurt because of something that happened in church and i know it's a real issue because the place that was supposed to bring us healing has caused a lot of us trauma so i don't trust church stuff but i'm gonna show you how jesus handles this can i show you this look at this um matthew 21 matthew 21 verse 12 it says then jesus went into the temple and drove out all of those who bought and sold in the temple and overturned the tables of the money chambers i'm not saying go to nobody's church and do this overturn the money chambers and the seats of those who sow doves and he said to them it is written my house shall be called a house of prayer but you have made it a den of thieves jesus didn't like what he saw he didn't like what he saw in church it made him mad and made him upset i believe if jesus were to come down in what we call a lot of churches he wouldn't even recognize it what is this this is church this is church this is church jesus didn't like what he saw but let's hop down a few verses look at this verse 23 it says now when he came into the temple the chief priests and the elders of the people confronted him as he was teaching hold up wait a minute wait whoa whoa whoa jesus walked in the church he ain't like what he saw in the church he overthrew tables money changes let the doves and stuff go was whipping stuff he didn't like what he saw in the church but then a few verses later he's back in church church is the only thing people give up on i've never met anybody say you know what i bought a bad car i'm done with driving i'm only going to catch the bus i'm done i'm done with automobiles i'm only gonna catch the bus and ride a bike i'm done you know what they serve me some nasty food i'm done eating i'm just drinking juice for the rest of my life i've never seen anybody take the extreme measures with anything else they just find a good automobile per person they find a good car salesman they find a good mechanic they find a good restaurant go ahead and leave your review on yelp that you didn't like it but go find you another restaurant in the same way don't give up on the church jesus didn't like what he saw but he went right back right back and he was preaching and he was teaching and a lot of us i don't do church because i don't like what i saw in church you're the bride you're the bride yeah there's some corrupt churches yeah there's some people i'm calling it all out yeah there's some people in the pulpit they don't like you and covert is messing them up because they love crowds but they don't love people and so they don't know how to preach that's why every time you watch their facebook live and every time you watch a youtube they saying old messages don't have nothing new to say because they did it for people and they cannot minister when people aren't in the place because they did it for crowds not for the kingdom i know i'm telling the truth and some of us are recognizing the very places that we call church were not a church at all it was not a spiritual gem and now you're disenchanting feeling some type of way and you're questioning god but really you should be looking at the church the place that you call the church was not a church it was just a business that's the truth jesus didn't like what he saw let me give you more bible just in case this is something hard for you to swallow hebrews chapter 10 verse 23 it says let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering for he who promised is faithful and let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works not forsaking the assembly remember that word the assembly of ourselves together as is the manner of some but exhorting one another and so much the more as you see the day approaching and saying listen there's some stuff that you may not like there's some things that you may not you know may not agree with but at the end of the day do not forsake gathering together because you need each other many members one body all you are by yourself is a pinky i need a hand i need a wrist i need an arm i need a shoulder i need a neck i need a head i need another shoulder i need another arm i need the other wrist i need all these parts because they make up the body you can't do this alone if you're the bride of christ you have to understand many members one body we need each other truthfully the church is a hospital the problem is everybody can't be sick and a lot of us are disenchanting with the church because you went to a church and there were no doctors no nurses nobody everybody got the virus point number one i'm done i feel like it's just heat number one the church should grow you it's a place where you grow when you work out weights break down weakened muscles this is why you soar so message like this you can be sore but you're part of the church it's breaking down belief systems is breaking down outlooks and perspectives because god wants you to grow number two church disciplines you and disciples you it's a place where i recognize i can't lift certain weights on my arm if i'm bench pressing sometimes the weight gets too heavy and i need a spotter that's what the church does that's why i need each other when i can't handle the weight when i can't handle the stream when i can't handle the difficulty of covet right now i need a brother i need a sister i need a word i need somebody to help me lift this weight church disciplines you and last point church is you that's who you are wifey material so i need you to have that same energy let everybody know i represent the kingdom i'm wifey material because it's cheating to god when we claim to be his bride but live according to our flesh so father god we pray help us to understand that you are a wonderful girl and the church is your bride and god we've been so caught up with entertainment and messages that make us feel good that are just quotable but they're not biblical help us get back to a place back to the basics god to where we fall in love with you we don't just want your hand we want your heart understanding that we're not perfect that was your job you were perfect but god we're submitted we're submitted and we're asking that you change us you mold us and you strengthen us so we could be the best wife for you and let us god have that proposal energy flex into the world i'm off the market but i represent your kingdom in jesus name we pray amen

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Length: 55min 56sec (3356 seconds)

Published: Sun May 30 2021