Not In My House | Kingdom Vibes Only | (Part 5) | Jerry Flowers

first corinthians chapter 11 verse 2 it says i praise you for remembering me and everything for holding to the traditions just as i passed them on to you but i want you to realize that the head can i get everybody's ahead that the head of every man head means authority the head of every man is christ and the head of the woman is man and the head of christ is god now ephesians chapter 5 verse 21 i'm gonna have to break this down it says submit to one another out of reverence for christ so if there's any brother that says woman you submit to me you could just show them right here ephesians 5 we submit to each other all right now submission the best way i can get us to understand this is breaking it down submission when you submit it's when you substitute your mission okay whatever you want your desire your will i'm substituting my mission for the kingdom mission does this make sense does this make sense and then also i want you to know submission is never demanded it's always modeled all right okay submit to one another out of reverence for christ wives submit yourself to your own husband can i get somebody say own it's the problem if you're more submitted to your boss than your husband okay it's a problem if the pastor can tell you to do something and you'll jump faster to do that than your own husband all right this for single people too okay submit yourselves because you desire marriage possibly one day to submit yourselves to your own husband as you do to the lord for the husband is the head once again the authority the husband is the head of the wife as christ is the head of the church his body for which he is the savior now as the church submits to christ so also wives should submit to their husbands and everything are there any sisters that that kind of bother you that everything submit to your husbands and everything now it's not talking about toxicity it's not talking about a woman do what i say because i am fully convinced a kingdom woman has no problem following a kingdom man the problem is when you want to be followed but you're not going anywhere bro y'all got my houston coming out i said bruh i have no problem following a kingdom man it's when you want me to follow you and you're not going nowhere you not submitted to christ i just want us to understand that okay so in everything but you got to get this verse 25 it says husbands love your wives just as christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy cleansing her by the washing with the water through the word and to present herself to him as a radiant church without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish but holy and blameless in the same way husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies so we have a problem right there because if he hates himself what makes you think he gonna love you okay husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies he who loves his wife loves himself one of the things that my parents taught me that time has revealed to be true is there is more that is caught than taught okay more is caught than taught every household comes with the template can i get somebody to say template every household comes with a template you don't have to ask for it you probably haven't even recognized you caught it but more is caught than taught there is something that you caught in your household and there is something that i caught in my household every household comes with templates so what ends up happening is we start walking around impregnated with a template and perhaps you meet somebody you can even marry them but what you haven't recognized is you just don't marry that person you married their template listen you didn't just marry him you married whatever he caught you didn't just marry her you married whatever she caught you're not just hooking up with him you're hooking up with everything he caught because more is caught than taught now this is why i believe divorce happens because we have a template before we ever even had a candidate now not talking to me we have things that we have caught before there was ever a candidate so what we end up doing is when we meet that person we give them their lines these are the lines of the character that i have in the template in my mind and so how divorce happens is there's lines that you want me to memorize but i'm not going to be that character there are lines that you want her to memorize but she's not going to be that character everybody has a template can i get somebody say template everybody has a template well guess what the kingdom of heaven has a template too and i have a sneaky suspicion that there are people under the sound of my voice and watching online that you have arrived to this place enough is enough this is not gonna continue in my house not my house there won't be addiction in my house not my house there won't be abandonment in my house not my house there won't be pain in my house not my house there won't be trauma in my house not in my house can i get somebody say not my house not in my house there'll be love in my house there will be peace somebody should clap right there there will be peace in my house there will be joy in my house the kingdom government will be in full effect in my house somebody say not my house so god would you give us the wisdom would you give us the grace and would you help us unlearn lessons from our first teacher that's getting in the way of us being kingdom it's in your precious son's name we pray anoint me to be the pa system of heaven all the study means absolutely nothing if you aren't seen if you are magnified and if you are glorified i'm asking that you do it in jesus name and everybody who appreciate that agrees with that prayer will just shout in the room amen i know y'all used to be giving this long spiel before i get to my introduction and stuff right not tonight because there's so much i have to share with you i want to speak from this thought from this subject for part five of our kingdom vibes only series not my house not in my house not in my house this confession time you know how i do i don't know if you speak the word over yourself outside of church so when you hear i'm gonna make sure you speak the word so can i get everybody watching to put this in the room and all caps and everybody under the side of my voice can i get us to say father i'm not convinced say father all that i have is yours all that i am is yours your will be done in my life and in my home in jesus name amen does anybody agree with that so let's let's get to work the head of every man is christ and the head of woman is man and the head of christ is god husbands love your wife like christ loved the church and gave himself up for her washing her with the water of the word to present to himself a radiant church without spot blemish or wrinkle let's dissect this and let's exit this passage because it is impossible for us to have a kingdom vibes only series and not discuss or touch on the fact that god has a design and a framework for the home i know it's not common and i'm gonna say that all throughout this message until i'm preaching and sweating out my clothes i know it's not common but god has a design for the home god has a blueprint for the home god has a system for the home god has an order for the home god has a model for kingdom households because watch this the home is the epicenter of a generation did y'all hear what i just said the home is the epicenter it is the control center for the home because whatever is going on in the majority of our households will always be in concert with what's going on in society did y'all hear me whatever is going on in the majority of our homes will be in concert with what is going on in society so godless homes are set ups that spawn godless people okay now don't misconstrue what i'm saying i was intentional when i said set up because the state of your home is not a verdict for your destiny there are too many people thank you for the golf claps there are too many people who have come from toxic homes and are now killing it for the kingdom and there are too many people who have come from kingdom homes and they're acting like they don't know who jesus is they act like who is jesus they think christ was jesus last name too many people there are too many people who have come from toxic homes and now our kingdom the state of the home is not the verdict for your destiny however the state of the home does aim us in a direction it's only by the grace of god that some of us have not hit the target that our households were aiming at i need to say that again it's only by the grace of god you know how your household was you know how your childhood was it is only by the grace of god that whatever your household was aiming at you didn't hit somebody say grace god has a design god has an order i don't know why i feel this y'all god has a system for the home whatever happens and the majority of households will be in concert with what happens in society because the home is a garden it is the place where seeds are planted personalities are formed and beliefs are fostered somebody say the home god has a kingdom agenda for the home if there's godlessness in the home that's a setup to spawn godly godless people if there is trauma in the home that is a setup to spawn traumatized people if there is brokenness in the home that is a setup to spawn broken people if there is dysfunction in the home that is a setup to spawn people who have dysfunctional mindsets so much so to where we learn how to function in dysfunction and so when you hear a message like this on tonight that's presenting to you the original kingdom agenda it's possible that i have learned to function in dysfunction for so long that when you present to me functional i call that dysfunction god has a design for the home godly homes are set ups to spawn godly people and kingdom homes are set ups to spawn kingdom people god has a design for the home i'm just convinced that heaven wants your home to be your safe house not your psychiatric ward preach holy ghost god has a desire for the home i'm just convinced that god has a desire in the home so much so to where the home is the anchor for your wellness not the incubator to your illness god has a design for the home the home should be the shelter from chaos i should come here to get away from the chaos in the world not come home and my house is chaotic i'ma preach this thing y'all i know it's heavy i'm just being obedient this should be a place that is shelter from the chaos i get away from the chaos by coming home my home should be a place where my soul is refreshed it should be a place where my heart could breathe woosa on them boys it should be a place where i could express myself the home should be a clinic for my wounds it should be a place where the kingdom agenda is in full effect and some of us right now under the side of my voice in the sacred sanctuary and watching online your personality has been altered by what happened in your house by what happened in your house and god said listen i want you to inform my people that yes we can shout kingdom vibes only but i have a kingdom framework and i have a kingdom system and i have a kingdom government that is especially for the home of my believer the kingdom agenda should be effect in effect in my home the children should be able to hear daddy praying or reading the word in the middle of the night versus watching him coming in watching him see pornography they should be able to see him read the word because the kingdom agenda is in effect here they should be able to hear their mother singing it doesn't matter if she sounded like a billy goat the bible says make a joyful noise she makes enjoys noise and is joyful it doesn't matter how she sounds but they should be able to hear their mother singing rather a maverick city song or elevation worship song or any biblically saturated kingdom song that is worshiping their father they should hear that versus hearing mama gossip on the phone because the kingdom agenda is in full effect here they should see mom and daddy kiss in the kitchen they should this is a template and a model to baby girl on your value notice how your father is honoring and loves your mother this is a template catch that because more is caught than taught he should be able to see his father cleaning up around the house that's not a woman's job we ain't going to get no help i'ma just preach and be obedient that's not just a woman's job he should be able to see his mother his father serving his mother that is a syllabus on what manhood looks like this is what manhood looks like they should see mom and daddy kiss and they might say ill but you know what it's better for them to say eel then scream mama stop daddy stop hitting mama get off of her put the knife down put the gun down stop stop it's better for them to stay ill for them to see that god has a kingdom agenda for the home and he's always going to hold that man more responsible we just read it in our text the husband is the head he's gonna hold you responsible for two reasons because i put you there to be the authority every man who is not married this still takes residence to you you need to understand that god is summoning me if i desire marriage because everybody doesn't desire it marriage is a ministry and i'm just convinced everybody's not called to it see how we got one amen if every single thing has to revolve around you be the third word of that sentence single i told you your throat your shoe your foot i told you he's always gonna hold that man more responsible because you're the authority you're the authority you know why else he's gonna hold that man responsible because you are the point of reference to me fathers are the point of reference to god i'm not a woman but if i was it doesn't matter how cute old buddy is or how many six packs him and eight packs this man has i would ask myself can my children see god in this man i'm not a woman i'm not it's gonna get awkward but that's okay i'm not trying to be popular i'm trying to be obedient i've been endorsed before i ever preached it is okay for you to understand that as a man i have to serve that's not weak that's kingdom that's kingdom you are the point of reference to god so when you keep your promises it is a template to your children that god keeps his promises too see listen my daughter always asked me daddy can we do this do you promise and i said daddy doesn't have to promise why because daddy always keeps his word it's something i'm instilling in her now so that when she begins to cultivate her own christian journey if she ever faces a heart place if she's ever in a scary predicament at least when she looks at her natural father she will have a model that my natural father always kept his word so i could trust that my father in heaven is always gonna keep his word because fathers are the point of reference to god when you're hard on your son you gotta make varsity you gotta make first place you gotta make straight a's and when they don't and you're mean to them and treat them a certain type of way guess what happens when they become adults when they sin because they will when they miss the mark because they will they'll view god the same way their daddy viewed them god's discussed it with me god doesn't want me because i remember how my father treated me when i did not achieve what he wanted me to achieve because fathers are the point of reference to god when you give your children the silent treatment i'm like how we adults and do that like are your feelings hurt you the adult when you give your children silent treatment you know what that's going to do when they get older and they miss the mark because they will they'll point to the fact that daddy never talked to me when i screwed up so maybe there's no point in praying because if i screwed up here just like my father was disappointed in me god's disappointed in me too we need more kingdom men who can stand on their word i'm like how can you stand on milk crates but you can't stand on your word i just want to know and then for the life of me my sisters i'm like how do we keep on saying that there's no good there's no good men out here all men and dogs but we should keep ending up pregnant all right see see see there everybody wants real until the preacher's reel back all right ain't no good man okay but we're keeping enough pregnant though i know it's not common but god wants us to redeem the original kingdom agenda one of the worst things you could ever do is be disappointed in your child and tell them to go to their room and not talk to them you know what that does that disciples the heart on how to hold grudges i'm talking on the nights that trains the heart how to keep a record of wrongs that is how depression forms that's how misuse of the mind forms because i'm upset and there's nobody to talk to and i'm in my room and the only person i'm counseling is myself and my thoughts and my mom don't want to talk to me and my daddy doesn't want to talk to me that trains your heart on how to hold grudges one of the things my parents did and i didn't understand it now i do as a man my dad would correct me i would do something he would say don't go outside i would go outside and play basketball anyway he would catch me and he would spank me you know we believe in spankings you know you spare the rod you spoil the child not abuse not abuse but then after he would spank me he'll blow all right let's go get some ice cream i don't want to go anywhere with you [Laughter] do you know what you just did to me why are we even talking and he cracking jokes and yeah let's go get some ice cream bruh i don't like you right now but you know what that did to jerry it made it to where i don't know how to hold grudges i can't i tried before i really can't because i have been trained in a household once you get corrected you get loved once you get corrected you get love this is so good y'all once you get corrected you get love so that when god corrects you you don't view it like he doesn't love you because god corrects those that he loves i know i know this is hidden different and i know it's not comfortable nor is it common but it is the original kingdom agenda god has a design for the home the home should be the first place of discipleship see my pastors won't tell you this but it's not solely my responsibility to disciple anybody it's not it's not children's church it's not vacation bible school discipleship should first start at home all right the kingdom agenda is for you to teach them relationship out of yours y'all hear what i just said it's for them to be able to learn about god through your relationship with them i'm gonna give you a bible y'all looking cray cray i'm gonna give you a bible deuteronomy chapter six verse four it says o israel the lord our god the lord is one love the lord your god with all your heart with all your soul and with all your strength these commandments that i give you today are to be on your hearts watch this y'all impress them on your children talk about them when you sit at what's that word what's that word talk to me talk about them when you sit at home when you walk along the road when you lie down when you get up tie them as a symbol on your hands and bind them on your foreheads write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates discipleship begins in the home this this is where they learn love in the home we can't keep sending our children to hollywood and then get confused when they come back as actors okay that's that's how a lot of us ended up actors because we were told go watch tv go play your games we were sent to hollywood and then we come back as actors this is so good y'all discipleship first starts in the home and many of us right now right now are affected by the lessons from our first teacher trying to unlearn the lessons from our first teacher who was your first teacher to love who is your first teacher on how to handle pain who is your first teacher of sex see we talk about all of this tonight we talk about all of it and so now we're adults trying to unlearn the lessons from our first teacher give you more bible proverbs proverbs chapter 22 verse 6 it says train up the child in the way he should go do you know what train means in hebrew it means dedicate dedicate your children in the way who is the way jesus is the way the truth and the life marry this dedicate your children in the way of the king this is so good y'all dedicate your children in the way of the king a lot of us are struggling today because we got on the wrong train train up your children in the way he should go and even when he is old he will not depart from it when we have kingdom households it lays a kingdom leash it's like you try to do stuff but you just feel i can't do that like you know imma go to the club maybe i shouldn't you don't really know why you did it before but i don't think i should go back tonight they say come on we're going to happy hour yeah i want to i don't really know if i should go it's because somewhere you had a praying grandmother somewhere you had a praying pastor you had a praying father you had a praying mother somebody was praying for you and i'm convinced that many of us still exist due to somebody's prayers somebody was praying for you it lays that spiritual leaves leash i'm gonna give you more bible ephesians chapter six verse four it says father so now it's back on the men do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up are y'all seeing this proverbs 22 train them up ephesians 6 bring them up bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the lord and the word disciple the root word is discipline so in matthew 28 verse 19 when jesus says go therefore and make disciples of all nations what he is saying is go therefore and make disciplined people go therefore and make people who have kingdom disciplines so when we look at the text it's saying daddy teach your children kingdom disciplines and instruct them we can't do that if when we come home the first thing we do is sit in a lazy boy and watch the game you not off you know at home you still at work and this job is full-time overtime weekends holidays full time we still working man you made me miss the game they do an interception bruh how are you tripping over interception thrown by a team are you throwing interceptions in real life though all right let me keep going can i get somebody to say your first teacher matters first teacher matters some of us our first teacher was divorced are abort and so whenever something get hard we abort it when certain things require more skill and more study we abort it when we don't like what somebody said to us they could have even did it in love we divorced them i divorced that person i divorced that church i divorced that community group see i know church trauma is real i preached it i appreciate it you can go online and find it i know church trauma is real it's real that the place of healing for many people has become the place of their trauma i understand that but listen when somebody corrects you in love when somebody corrects you in love emphasis on love we can't throw that under the banner of church hurt no your feelings are hurt your flesh is hurt because you have things that you want to do this isn't church trauma this is an opportunity to repent if you don't have anybody in your life who corrects you you don't have anybody in your life who loves you the very people that you calling your friends when is the last time they said girl you got a lie for that hey bro you tripping hard right now if you don't have anybody who does that and you have somebody that you call your circle that's not a circle that's a cell because real friends correct your first teacher who is your first teacher first teacher of love first teacher of intimacy proverbs chapter 7 verse 27 this speaks of the immoral woman it says her house is a highway to the grave leading down to the chambers of death somebody needs to teach that teach that i have to be the first teacher this needs to happen in the home first i need to teach my daughter and my son what it means when you get butterflies or if you really like them you got like pterodactyls in your stomach i need to be able to teach them what that means we need fathers who'll be able to teach their sons what does it mean when you have an erection we should be able to talk about that in church teach them son this means you got good blood circulation you don't have no black arteries you got a good blood flow and you just entered into a phase of reproduction but real kingdom man think with this head preach holy ghost this needs to be talked about real kingdom manhood is not from the waist down it's from the neck up i need kingdom men in homes to teach this to teach this because if we don't we'll have somebody else try to teach them this is what you do when you feel like this girl this is what you do when you feel like this bro we've had friends like that and we've done it and listened to them and we're dealing with it today i need discipleship in the home many of us many of us the hurtful thing is when your first teacher wasn't home but it was perverted so yeah i hear you past jay my first teacher of sex was in the home but it was from my stepfather it was from my stepmother we gotta talk about this y'all we gotta talk about it it was from my stepmother it happens the boys too and i love my stepmother i love my mother but there were certain things that she made me do and so you know what happens we end up thinking the way to keep a man around is by doing the very thing that my stepfather made me do because i loved being around him the very thing that my stepmother made me do is what i have to do to keep women around because that's what they taught me and so we have this pattern of promiscuous behavior and usually all the church does is stone you for your sin but they never teach you the kingdom agenda okay you're wrong you're out of line but we never teach the kingdom agenda and truth is oh we both get in trouble and truth is many pastors bishops apostles deacons whatever you want to call them have been doing the same thing the only difference is theirs didn't go public it doesn't go public while we're while we are frowning on other people and pulling the cover off of them and gossip form hear me you may not be able to know the difference between keeping it real and gossiping oh but your harvest will so now we have this behavior of being promiscuous or sex is disgusting it's disgusting don't touch me i want a husband but i don't even want to think about that because something in me died in a bedroom listen y'all i don't think it's old school to believe that sex was a gift intended to be given to spouses see how we got like 48 mans i know it's not common but it's the original kingdom agenda oh i feel this y'all anytime a husband is more upset about his wife not wanting to be intimate then he's concerned about what's going on in her soul yeah we need to unlearn some stuff we need to unlearn some stuff when you can overlook the way you talk to her the way you've been treating her your tone and your verbal abuse but all you want to do is let's get it on but you just overlooking everything that happened we need to unlearn the lessons from our first teacher is kingdom when you want to understand what's going on on the inside of you what's going on on the inside of you ephesians 5 tells us we love our wives we love them the reason i have to preach this is because it's the kingdom agenda it's the kingdom agenda i remember one day i was in the garage and tanisha made me mad i know y'all can't believe that but she made me mad how many girls i can't stand this man every time i'm trying to do this stuff and i'm just like well on as bad like i'm out here trying to change the world and she always she just keep on saying something you know i'm just i'm mad i mean the bag's just rocking and rocking i'm beating the brakes off this bag and i just felt like god was talking to me so calm was like uh jerry uh redefine guy remember that whole ephesians 5 thing you did a whole devotional about it let's review that keep hitting the bad girl keep reviewing that okay love your wives like christ love the church gave himself up for her present to himself a church without spot blemish a wrinkle and god was like um why are you complaining to me about her spots her blemishes and her wrinkle that's your job you see that spot watch it you see that blemish clean it do you know how many men are complaining about what they're assigned to heal preach holy ghost i know it's uncomfortable i know it's hidden i know it is because it hit me i didn't want to hear it either i didn't want to hear it either you see that wrinkle iron it and god begin to reveal to me that true kingdom men have a washing capacity if you can't wash it says wash with the water of the word you can't wash with no word if you don't know it you can't wash with no word if you don't study it i'm preaching on the night y'all so i recognize kingdom in wash now ladies don't clap too hard don't clap too hard because listen he can't wash if you don't show them your spot [Applause] this is so good y'all y'all getting this online this is good i don't like being vulnerable well he can't watch it and so now his assignment with you he can't even do because you don't want to be transparent don't even want to be transparent but that's his assignment we need to unlearn the lessons from our first teacher some of our experiences have been so intense and manifesting your dreams you wake up like what in the world was that y'all have to raise your hand because i know it's awkward but i'm talking about dreams that set your flesh on fire you like what in the world i'm praying what in the holy holy ghost i'm watching kingdom vibes only i'm vengeance sermons where in the world did that come from and i want to encourage you that doesn't mean that you're not delivered that was a satanic attack i'm trying to help somebody that was a fiery dart thrown in your brain see listen you can't always control what flies through your mind but you can't control what lands okay fiery dark i'm gonna try to get your flesh on fire i'm gonna try to set you up the enemy is trying to throw fiery darts that hopefully can spark a neurological route that could bloom in overthinking it's a fiery dart the enemy only attacks those that are no longer his such a word dog he only attacks those that are no longer his so watch this y'all i'm looking at this text and it says however each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself and wife must respect her husband the bible never says wife love your husband read it try it all 66 books 39 in the old 27 in the new nowhere will it say love your husband am i saying don't love them absolutely not but god is so cold with it that he knows how men are wired he knows if you respect me i feel loved okay i feel loved when i'm respected now let me give you a revelation jerry got all these women who used to come to premarital counseling and all that stuff i love him and i love i'm like okay here's the real question what do you respect about him though because the bible says respect him don't tell me how much you love him and he always there and i could always call and he what do you respect about him i'm not a woman once again but if i was i would begin to observe is there anything respectable about him what in his life is respectful because my assignment as a kingdom woman preach holy ghost my assignment will be to find the thing to respect what do you respect about him what do you respect about i i want you guys to see this okay i told my wife tanisha come here real quick i said i want you guys to see this i'm gonna have to just do this next thursday i don't have time to finish everything okay i want you guys to see the phases of how this works and why i'm talking about this clap it up for my beautiful bride so she's gonna represent a single woman i'm gonna represent a single man and this is going to represent marriage okay we get it single man single woman marriage now listen whatever she doesn't deal with in her single season and whatever i don't deal with in my single season is gonna be a marital problem in our covenant now y'all hear me many times marital problems are single problems that never got dealt with in the unmarried state hear me so if you jacked up in your solo-ness y'all definitely gonna be jacked up in your togetherness okay so what happens and the original kingdom agenda is right here in my single state and this phase of my life it is critical that i know the lord critical listen if i don't know the lord all she will ever get from me is my logic my emotion and my experience that's all you'll get from him that's it when i was out there beating that heavy bag i wasn't listening to a podcast i wasn't listening to a sermon the holy spirit checked me who checks the carnal man who checks the godless man it's not like he's considering well first corinthians 13 says love is patient love is god he's not considering that he's going to treat you off of his logic he's going to treat you out of his emotion which for most men is anger and he's going to treat you out of his experience so look right here is critical that i know christ why because we just ran in our foundational texts it says husbands love your wife like christ love the church i cannot love her like christ if i don't know christ gosh i hope you all are getting this it's not about how fine i am it's not about how much money i have it's not about how much history we have together there is a level of love that god cosmically created for his daughter to receive until i know god for myself she will never get that with me ever and it's the same for me there's a level of love i'm gonna deal with that more on next thursday there's a level of love i need as a man but i will never get from her if she doesn't love the lord bruh you talking about you want somebody to respect you if she don't respect god she surely ain't gonna respect you is this good so there are some things i think that needs to happen while we're here and and the reason i want us to kind of see this is because a lot of this message may be like man he said he talked about kids and married people i ain't got no kids and i ain't married but in this state if we can get this wisdom now so you don't learn the kingdom agenda once you say i do because your flesh if your flesh ran you during your single state just because you said i do doesn't mean your flesh does too i just need to get married bro like i'm trying to stay holy practice purity i need to get married bro marriage doesn't cure lust if it did adultery wouldn't exist marriage exposes it doesn't cure so right here the first thing can i get everybody say the first thing the first thing that has to happen is this brother has to know the lord and she has to know the lord i'm gonna put y'all on game real quick when you come together it's supposed to be for purpose nobody said nothing see nobody said no you heard that tanisha ain't nobody said nothing when you come together it's supposed to be for purpose okay so let me show you how this how a lot of married people get frustrated senator look at me turn towards me so if we are courting we're talking but i don't know my purpose and she doesn't know her purpose but she liked me though i'm handsome huh and i like her she's beautiful so let's go ahead and transition to get married so you can go ahead and take your fine stuff over there so i don't know my purpose she don't know her purpose but now we're together and you hear sermons like this it's okay but i want to show you what happens for the first five years or so of your marriage you are while you're together trying to unlearn first teacher lessons while you're together while we're having babies together i'm trying to learn the kingdom agenda so for the first five years of our marriage we detoxing together so good y'all you hear this miss flowers we're detoxing together okay now let's go back to last time i make you move because i know i make you move a lot so now this this is the kingdom agenda if i know the lord while i'm here and she knows the lord while she's there when we get married the first five years of our marriage we could be advancing are y'all getting this [Applause] we could be advancing because when we were right here we were working when we were right here i don't know why we think we need a candidate to work i don't know why we think we need potential to work we work here so that when we get there we're not spinning and if if if this is you it's okay because many of us didn't know but i'm just trying to give wisdom this is to the single people right here work so when you get there you can advance if we don't work here when we get there we're gonna have to deal with everything we should have handled right here does this make sense the second thing that needs to happen right here i'm talking about the man he needs to know how to provide thank you for the two or three claps okay let me mess y'all up real quick i'm almost done i'm almost done like i said we have to disturb you let me mess y'all up you know what i'm discovering so so there's something out here called mama's boys y'all heard those okay so there's two things that god revealed to me while studying the first thing is a lot of men aren't looking for wife they're not they're looking for mama okay because right here he never learned how to provide for himself mama did everything mama cooked clean i'm telling this dude 24 years old still taking care of him and so that's why he wants to know let me have a key to your place yeah he building got a beard but he doesn't know who he is okay that's the first thing the lord showed me the second thing the lord was feeling to me i was like why is there so much tension between mother-in-law when our son gets here y'all ready for this y'all ready for this it's because many times mothers have used their sons to feel the role of husband [Applause] now listen listen so come on you're the man of the house you take the trash out you got to do this for mama you buy roses for mama so by default she lives her fantasy through her son okay so when he finds a woman no woman is good enough for my baby why because to her it feels like a divorce and it doesn't matter how godly she is it doesn't matter how dope she is she is losing her baby and that person that son filled the role of husband for me this is good y'all and so now we have in-law problems because we have mothers who have smothered to death let me go ahead and end this thing y'all not ready so right here he has to learn provision second second thessalonians chapter three verse six it says in the name of the lord jesus christ we command you brothers and sisters to keep away from every believer who is idle somebody say idol and disruptive and does not live according to the teaching you received from us for you yourselves know how you ought to follow our example we were not idle with you nor did we eat anyone's food without paying for it are y'all hearing this how you asking you out but he asking you to pay okay um nor did we eat anyone's food without paying for it some of y'all didn't know this was in the bible on the contrary we worked night and day laboring and toiling so that we would not be a burden to any of you are y'all seeing this it's the bible y'all we did this not because we do not have the right to such help but in order to offer ourselves as a model somebody say template as a model for you to mock to mimic for even when you were with you we gave you this rule the one who is unwilling to work shall not eat i feel like this is hitting heavy last thing i'm in with this i don't have time to go to all my points i'm in with this the second most crit the third most critical thing that has to happen in this man's life before he ever gets there is he has to be affirmed listen men need affirmation we need it it's not something that some brothers don't men need affirmation if i have not been given affirmation she'll never have a firm foundation never when jesus first got baptized when he first got baptized when he came out of the water what happened god said this is my beloved son in him i am well pleased jesus just got affirmed when a man is not affirmed in god he'll be real needy with you he'll be clingy with you everything will bother him he'll be extremely sensitive he'll be extremely emotional because i'm supposed to be affirmed outside of you i have purpose outside of you is this good y'all come as far as let's pray i'm done i'm done i have a whole lot more but i'm gonna do the rest next thursday next thursday i know it was a lot but i really felt in my spirit that a lot of us are suffering today and we probably haven't even recognized it because of households the original kingdom agenda god has a design for the home and his way works now listen this message is not designed to make you feel bad this message is designed to show you how bad life will get if i try to do king things my way so god says i have a template for the home i have a standard for the home i know it's not common but it affects generations personalities and your children's children and the way we start to get in our kingdom vibes only so we have to know the king and what goes on in our house must magnify the lord so god in this moment we're asking for you to help us i've done it wrong all of us have done it wrong you told us in the word that no man is righteous no not one but god you are righteous our righteousness is like filthy rags and we're asking oh god would you help us do things your way we surrender for doing things our way because every time we do things our way we keep messing stuff up god and we get so frustrated because we don't understand we can't do king things our way help us to surrender and to repent and to return to the original kingdom agenda because you have a design you have a blueprint and you have a strategy for the home because whatever happens in the majority of our households will always be in concert with society in jesus name we pray amen was this good wow once again what a powerful word we pray that you get blessed week after week after week thank you so much for tuning in we're appreciative thank you we bless you and if this is your first time tuning in i hope that you were blessed and i pray right now that you have a church home and if you don't we would love to have you love to have you if you want to join this ministry and co-labor with us for for the kingdom because we're doing kingdom vibes only please text the word membership to the number below and 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Length: 57min 3sec (3423 seconds)

Published: Thu Sep 09 2021