What's The Single BEST Piece Of Advice You've Ever Heard? (r/AskReddit)

what's the single best piece of advice you've ever heard to know who your true friends are look for the ones who say good things behind your back and bad things to your face the grass isn't greener on the other side it's greener where you water it don't spend life daydreaming about what could be in a different place or circumstance instead invest your energy in what is right in front of you and see how it can be cultivated into something beautiful the grass is greener on the other side but that's because it's fertilized with BS some redditor from unsimilar thread a few months back posted how his boss always seemed totally at peace in a high-stress environment totally chill no matter how messed up things got when he asked him about it the boss said someday someone you love will die and everything else will seem totally irrelevant totally morbid way of saying life is too short to be mad / sad / stressed all the time but it gets to the point and it's stuck in my head don't worry about controlling your emotions control your actions this was from my geometry instructor when I was a sophomore in high school he was the kind of guy who spent 80 percent of class time discussing mathematics and 20 percent talking about life he was an excellent teacher and one hell of a human being the goal I think of parents in the area where I grew up was a kind of Steel II I'm stoicism can see your anger ignore your lust show no fear show no weakness be strong strong strong being awash in hormones I could do none of those things and I was beating myself up constantly I think most kids in school were under the same pressure his advice hit me right between the eyes the experience of emotions is outside our control but our response to them is not don't be ashamed of a feeling but be ashamed if you act like an ass because of the feeling that idea changed everything for me I passed his insight onto my kids and I still applied to my own life decades later thanks coach wherever you are be the person you needed in life gave me something to think about you don't get paid based on how hard you work you get paid based on how hard you are to replace I'm the only person at my work that doesn't knows how to do one specific job had a review today asked for a raise denied we'll give you more money when you start training others at your position I will also catch 22 fish one day when I was about 15 I answered an ad in a local paper about an elderly quadriplegic man needing assistance private care CNA type staff worked for him for the next five or six years fred got into a car accident when he was in college 1954 if memory serves correct broke his neck severed his spine paralyzed from the neck down he said he had two options sit under the oak tree on his family farm and wait for death or make something of himself he became a state legislature inventor and advocate for the disabled he told me a story about how he was going back to school after the accident how he was struggling one of his professors told him the only measure of man that matters is from the eyes up still sticks with me after all these years the hardships he went through the struggles he had the unbridled success he had anyway love you Fred rest in peace friend miss you old man don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things I first heard that from a homeless guy in New York City when I was 15 and I thankfully gave him a few bucks thinking I just learned some sage hobo wisdom until I got home and my dad told me it was a George Carlin quote marriage advice pick your battles seriously this helped me so much over the years as I've come to understand that most things just aren't important enough to argue over and that you don't lose anything by letting things go fight the battles small enough to win but begin after matter the fortune from a cookie I keep in my wallet think of people as if they were actors in a play the ones who play the part of the [ __ ] are going to go on stage do an [ __ ] thing and walk out don't let them make you angry it's just the part they play in your life obviously helps stopped wasting so much energy on hating people some of them even started to become funny my wife is extremely stressed out by her dad he is very judgmental of her treats her like a child and is the kind of person to complain that the food you cooked and made for him wasn't salty enough we made a game of guessing how long it was before he made availed himself tall complained about something when he called she's still stressed out by him sometimes but sometimes we just find him funny because he's so predictable no one who is great at something was always great at it Deut totally sucking at something is the first step to being sorta good at something Jake anything that annoys you when you're dating you're going to get from both barrels when you're married adding on to this freaking communicate with one another good stuff hard things little things just talk it out something like 95% of all the hurt in my marriage which there is not a lot of thank the Lord comes from misunderstanding and lack of communication the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago the second best time is today what if I planted my tree three years ago then you done duck top in order to get something you never had you have to do something you've never done something my mother taught me at a young age the person in control of any relationship is the person who cares about it the least I found that to be true whether we are talking about employer employee relationships husband wife relationships friends or any for that matter don't prepare the road for your kids prepare your kids for the road got this gem after joking about the cat going to live on a farm and there are 100 percent correct kids need to see how the world really works especially since you are there to comfort them and help them through it if you filled them and they are out on their own they are going to have an extremely hard time I like the billionaire who said that he wanted to give his children enough money to do anything but not enough to do nothing Warren Buffett had some awesome bits of wisdom yesterday on CNBC one of them was you can always tell someone to go to hell tomorrow basically wait to cool down a bit before reacting to someone every person you meet has lived an entire life before that moment remember that just imagining all the different lives that people in a crowd had led that led them to now his mind boggling and you will never know their lives my dad if you don't like what you're doing do something else he went to McGill after World War Two and took engineering he graduated and started working construction for a big civil company in Montreal he met my mother on a construction job in a small town in Ontario they married and the kids started to come along construction slowed down he went to work in mining and stayed there for the rest of his career he retired early and never worked again apart from taking up writing the whole time he had wanted to be a journalist I follow his advice I've quit a job on a Wednesday and started another on a Friday late last year I quit a well-paying job and moved to another for about the same pay but with the opportunity to work on technical projects I've been interested in for years life's too short you spend too much time at work to not be doing something that interests you and that you find rewarding the only time you look in your neighbors Bowl is to make sure that they have enough you don't look in your neighbors bowl to see if you have as much as them don't be afraid to half-ass it if the choice is between half-assing it or not doing it at all half-ass it all the way it changed my life learning to pace myself and deal with things that I can't just jump into it was an hour before I had to go to work and my girlfriend's dad told me about a cool job opportunity but I had to apply today couldn't find my resume and I had just factory reset my PC so office wasn't into I knew I didn't have enough time to make a resume but said Duquette and found a fast and free online tool I finish it with about five minutes to spare I attach it to an email but don't know what to write in the email I end up just writing girls dad told me to send you my resume and shoot it off before heading to work the guy tried to call me but I type out my phone number so he emailed me back telling me to call him I called and scheduled an interview and got the job that was the worst email resume application I had ever sent and it got me the best job I've ever had you either get [ __ ] early in life or you get [ __ ] late in life either way you're going to get [ __ ] if you willingly associate with people of poor character you deserve what happens next it's better to be alone than in bad company Italian proverb I used to hang with a guy who held me back he wasn't of low character per se he was just slightly agrestic flaky always late another friend depended on him once and missed an appointment as a result I tried to console him about getting burned by my flaky friend we'll call him Gary James and I began to explain that he's not such a bad guy he being less of a pushover than I said to me after that one time being burnt if you keep making excuses for Gary James one day you'll take the fall for Gary James he was right Gary James cost me a job prospect for being flaky egoistic untrustworthy enthusiasm is learned had a big heart to heart with a college professor right before graduating about how I don't know what I want to do or what my dream career is her response nobody does those people who say they do don't find the job you'll learn you become passionate about it whatever it is you're doing of the three people who graduated that semester with physics degrees I'm the only one who's ended up with a decent job in my field out of college I found an imperfect job and learn to be passionate about they call me lucky but I know the truth stop blaming other people for your problems and take responsibility for yourself it's odd I find the people who say this out loud tend to be the people who always deflect obfuscate and do mental gymnastics the people who follow this rule never say it because it's understood subconsciously and expected of their fellow humans one for me was just spend less than you make an actively save simple but life changing always sound the floor it is a firefighting saying to use a tool to make sure the floor can hold your weight but it has helped me throughout other parts of my life to spend less than you can afford on yourself as much as you can afford on your friends and family and more than you can afford on RAM for your computer if I remember correctly that one's by a computer columnist called Joe Sun thwarts your success in life is largely dependent on how many uncomfortable conversations you're willing to have my former boss told me this when I was denied re-enrollment to my university to finish my degree he encouraged me to take a day off from work drive down to the University and negotiate with them in person about the audio being a very non confrontational person I would never have done this on my own sure enough I spoke to the offices about it and I was able to enroll he later used this line again when he had to lay me off because of financial constraints but thanks to the same advice I was planning on leaving work anyways to attend school full-time my mom has a high-pressure six-figure job a huge house a husband with no common sense with money several pets and three kids she's told me a million times to simplify she said to buy a small easy to maintain house and to think well before adding any dependent so I don't have to work a stressful job 50 to 60 hours a week every week to pay for everything basically she's telling me not to make the same mistakes she did and I'm doing everything I can to make the sacrifices she made so I can live a decent /lo dressed life worth it if you do not love honor or respect yourself you will never get that from another person because external relationships are a reflection of the internal state you did not deserve to be abused but how well you sat back and accept it or rejected the abuse depended on what you thought you were worth if you thought you were worth better then you were demand better if you don't want crap stop accepting crap and demand something more it was painful to hear and felt like a burden of blame it took many years to understand that it was a gift of responsibility and a statement that I may not have intentionally gotten myself into that state but I did not have to remain in that state I was not helpless in the situation in her way she was trying to empower me I understood that if I want to change in my life I was the one to make it happen and should stop blaming my abusive childhood my abusive relationship the state of poverty that I was in and the fact that I was not actively doing anything to rise above the depression I was experiencing it was time to take responsibility for our life but then again responsibility can be perceived as a burden until it is understood as the protection that it is

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Published: Fri Jan 31 2020