What Men Want

[Music] [Applause] hey-hey-hey-hey yeah I got my good side y'all do stuff so well here I'm glad to be do my thank you [Applause] yes so the book is part of my own story and of failure in my marriage unfaithfulness on my part it's also a journey of understanding how marriages end up in that space from the couples that I've helped over the years and the book is very transparent it's humorous but it's serious at the same time and it doesn't just highlight how infinitely happens but how to avoid it how to recover from it and how to understand it because if you don't know why something's happening you write you're liable to repeat it and and I was blessed one of the one of the team members that helped me with the book one of the editors is Julie's Charles Gable and so I used a team of women to help me write the book because I didn't want to just be left brain because I wrote the book and then I had women go over it and they were like oh no you can't say that I'm like now I must say that I'm gonna say I'm definitely gonna say that okay say that and watch one wewe gone bad so so so one of the one of the one of the editors I'll say this real quick in 2015 April 2015 Julie Straus gable had five books on the New York Times bestseller list and she's one of the team members to help me put the book together so she's got 22 bestsellers on the New York Times bestseller list and I didn't just use Christian people and I just didn't use black people because I'm used to talking to Christian black people I want this book to touch this is a generational world problem it crosses cultures and lines that's whether you own a football team that's right or you sing love songs in Chicago everybody got problems controlling themselves but you are all get a copy you gotta go out to the bookstore inside some he autographed them for you so the book is here great information and I just want to say his beautiful wife is here miss stand up girl dad should go look in 30 [Music] so this is so needed because really one of the questions that we came that came in was about chakal adji a lot of the questions that came in okay okay so we have so many questions for you so let's just jump right in cuz we got a lot that we want to get to so this question is very near and dear to my heart and someone wrote in they want to know why don't men listen because if men listen it could solve so many problems in the world if men would just listen so they're basically two reasons why men don't listen you can write this down pride and programming let me talk about pride first the reality is now some of y'all gonna get offended of some of this but I'm just gonna tell you how the truth I'm just gonna text you a lot of us men don't believe y'all are on our level bit know they're men who don't believe that a woman is on his level even intellectually y'all understand that right it's not right so when when your wife tries to give you advice you tend to not listen to it which is crazy when you think about in the Bible they're examples of a couple few women who saved their husbands lives like Moses his wife Zipporah and like pilots wife kept them from getting out of trouble told him something you need to leave that man alone but a lot of men who operate in pride think that their wives just aren't on their level we think y'all emotional and so because we're so rational and logical when y'all try to tell us stuff we don't want to hear and then here's another thing men don't listen because because we tend that we tend to be problem solvers so when you bring to us something that's not on up our first reaction is how can we fix it and you just want to talk about how you're feeling well men don't listen to feelings they listen they listen at a level where they come in to rescue and solve and you say I ain't once your daughter I just want you here have so we don't tend to listen on their level and we and a part of that is just the way we've been programmed we've been programmed to hear things at a level that we want to solve it and not just feel it so that's part of the reasons why men don't listen to women so how can we get y'all to listen we want the problems of the world would be talk to us William naked just I was feeling thinking the same thing woke up on her neck and say can we talk absolutely cut the TV off and everything what she played a woman who's like a career woman and she has his boss and he just just feels like he knows it all but she realizes there's a train wreck and she's trying to so what would you suggest yeah so a way you can strategically talk to somebody thinks they know it all is you ask questions that lead them to the answers you already had so by the time you've informed him he thinks he came up with it yeah that's how you do it how you doing today it doesn't matter who gets the credit or as God gets the glory so sometimes get to do that for any kind of very difficult leader who is choose self sinner to listen to other people just kind of ask questions say hey do you think do you think that we need to do you think we have enough parking or something like that whatever okay do you think we might need to you think we're starting at the right time you just ask that you already know you can come in and say we're starting at the wrong time we black oh we know we're doing you say do you think we start at the right time you think we should be citizen maybe we just lower later you already knew that independent I got my own i'ma do for myself but what makes women unapproachable to me so that's so one thing that'll make you unapproachable is your countenance men do not want to approach a woman who already looks like she's saying don't you say one thing to me like you walking like don't don't even like you got you up here way up there like don't even come my way so if that's working for you nobody will bother you that's you know somebody that's borderline angry like they walking around like they just got a attitude the whole time then this is gonna sound counterintuitive let me tell you another thing that makes a woman unapproachable it's gonna sound counterintuitive when you are overly seductively dressed now you would think that would make a man wanna holla at you or talk to you but when when you got cleavage and your nipples showing and your butt out and you got a high skirt and you got on heels the reason why I man's not gonna talk to you like that is because you just you got too much attention and he can't talk to you he had to talk to everybody because everybody's looking only thing he gonna do is blow the horn that you yell at you or run in the Sun but you have to have a level of modesty I'm not saying dress like a nun but you can't have it all loose dad better get it man and that's that's that's those are some of the things you need to be thinking about when you wonder am i pushing men away am I being you know intimidating yeah oh if you wear a scarf on your head out in public if you if you want to be left a little wear that out the one you posed asleep in you forgot you went to the safe with it on by playing with you attention if you're doing too much but one lady wants to know the Bible talks about when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing but they want to know do men really want a good thing like you know they're finding a lot of good things then what what defines a good thing for a godly man so I plan on talking to that because there's a slide presentation I'm gonna do so can I talk about that when I get to the top our household is too soon to start dating after your spouse dies so I say you know once you when you had the cemetery and they say ashes to ashes and dust to dust just get off the cemetery property and you've read just once you look at Plus you lead a gate you free just if next I love them to death research shows people that have good marriages tend to remarry the people that don't have good marriage Wow tend not to so you're really right yeah yeah I think I think it also depends on it depends on a number of things there's no one-size-fits-all right so it depends on you know what kind of marriage you had are there children involved how did your spouse die yeah did they mysteriously died after dinner I mean you may nothing are you a suspect in the death those are matters you want to take into consideration before you move forward but here's what you need to notice very important there I wrote this down when I saw your question the fresher your grief is the greater your need for comfort companionship and connection and the lower your relationship IQ and discernment is all that's going on at the same time so your your pain is fresh you're needy and your discernment is low which makes you vulnerable to a bad relationship if you move too quickly so you got to have some people around you who love you and want the best for you who will help you with the decision about who to move forward with because you don't want to jump out there with a broken heart and end up with a broken person you see that's good okay so we also want to know so they say closed mouth don't get fed should a woman approached a man and how how should they approach him I do think it should be some discretion I think there's a biblical precedent for a woman taking the initiative to at least let a man know where she stands and what she's interested in you look at the Book of Ruth her mother-in-law Naomi instructed her to communicate to Boaz in such a way that culturally he would know she wanted to be his wife and I think that just saves a lot of time you know if you just if you just you just let him know look I ain't trying to be a girlfriend first of all I'm already a wife I'm a wife even though I'm single and I'm a talk about that in a moment you don't become a wife when you get married you become a wife in your mentality when when God when God said when God created the whole world and he said everything is good the only thing he said was bad wasn't good was Adams being alone and when he put Adam to sleep when he woke up he had a wife not a girlfriend she was a wife when he laid eyes on her before the ceremony before God pronounced her so I think it's important that you got rated like that like I'm wife material I ain't for the games ain't for the ambiguity I ain't for the confusion if if that's not your goal you know I'm cool with that but don't drag me along J meant yes so I think you can I think it's fair to be upfront with people that's not too forward then you get to know the man know where shame plan and then he if he's serious he'll step up if he's not he'll step off which is good it might hurt you but it's better to hurt you fast than hurt you slow [Applause] why don't married men leave single women alone yeah yeah okay so if if a man is married and he's thinking about cheating his options are if he's heterosexual he's going to either deal with a married woman over a single woman well the single woman is the safest form of infidelity because it doesn't involve another husband which could expose him to danger like murder yeah so really the only person in that relationship that has to be super careful is him because she didn't have anybody checking through her phone so that's one reason another reason is it's easier to drag a single woman along down the plant down to the plant i'ma leave my wife and I'ma marry you because he doesn't have to worry about her filing for divorce on her end to accelerate that speed all she can do is wait the cars are all in his hands he the third reason as selfish as this may sound he knows he has the single woman all to himself and for himself let me tell you something real raunchy about us men we want women to be faithful to us even when we're unfaithful so even if a man has a side chick if she's married that's frustrating to him because he knows he's not the only one hitting it her husband duty booty to keep him from being thrown off so she knows she she got a hook her husband up so she she won't think nothing going on with his girlfriend he knows a single woman she see we know y'all gonna be loyal most women are promiscuous like that so you're gonna be loyal to a man you cheatin wit I told y'all y'all were gonna like this so that's this best option for an affair it's safer and quite frankly the single woman is more vulnerable to playing that game because she'd be happy with a half a band and to wait for a whole man that's just did I say that yeah okay one more question we have is why do men remain connected to past relationships when they're trying to pursue a new relationship well we read a asking the questions up in here why does the man stay connected to a past relationship when he's pursuing a new relationship the first word I was a surface first reason is indecision decision is a volatile word it comes the word decide the suffix of the word decide side see IDE means to bring something to an end so pesticide means to bring pest to an end suicide means to bring your own life to an end homicide means to bring some other person's life to an end spermicide means to kill sperm or genocide to bring a culture to an end to decide something means you had to bring something to an end and when a man chooses a woman he is making a decision he is cutting away everything else is saying yes to only you and men don't want to be forced to make a decision so if I if I see we're not we're not so so if I can have both people in my life that's comfortable right now the second thing is the reason why men will maintain all relationships with the new one is because it's allowed because he knows all he's got dude are you gonna do is get mad but you ain't going away can't believe this is gonna be mad there really no consequences the only consequence is you got to keep complaining about it but that doesn't that's not gonna make him make a move if you but if he loses something then he has to make a decision there you go the third thing is is the ease of interaction a lot of men who were in relationships with somebody in the relationship went south and it was hostile and it was painful sometimes when they break up with that person and move on the relationship is strangely calm now now they like best friends you ever seen people break up couldn't stand each other down there best friends and they talk all the time it's this the nuance of this relationship that it is now easy because there's no accountability she's not holding him in check she's not making them be financially responsible she's not checking through his phone anymore so now they're cool so now this is a fun relationship that he can stick around with so and that those are the reasons why they was in my opinion if they get this book chick ology it's going to explain all that even more in the book it's all in the book Wow pastor batter amazing can we give it up for him you are incredible and and you know I don't know that you view yourself like this but I think you're becoming the relationship pastor like we follow you to your own on YouTube and we follow your series on relationships and this information is just it's just life-changing and the reason it's life-changing is because you are so transparent part of it is you know your misery becomes your ministry so Vicki and I had such a terrible marriage were so long now we have a great one and I'm just trying to tell people how I got great that's it so now our pain is our purpose amen amen all right ladies yeah because I would like to hear more about pastor battles message and I think these ladies would too what you think okay so pastor battle can you just take some time and just minister that's great I don't know if I should try to tackle these other questions on here that I was saying that we didn't get to one of them says you know what is for widows or women over 60 how do how do they begin to date again what would a man be looking for at that age somebody younger they don't want the truth no let me let me say this if you're sixty don't act old get out go out work out be sixty don't just be 60 B sex D and then be 61 and 62 don't be walking around here like you ain't got listen you got you got accentuate your strengths put on something that's poppin get you a style guide or a style coach if you can't afford a style coach you all everybody got a nice in their family or a daughter they can show you how to hook that up get you a weave get you a wig throw you something more that's gonna make you look fly again go to the gym be where men are go to places where men would take you on a date go to restaurants go to movies go to go to play go to concerts be out there be somebody interesting you can't be 67 years old in church all the time and think somebody and you got your luscious outfit on and you got the white glove on and you keep doing this you better take them gloves off and walk down come on here can I say how y'all doing I like the first lady say we we're here to talk about what men want and it's a real question like what you want Steve what do you want and it's a trip because for years you all were called the mysterious ones but we just as mysterious as y'all are and it's because we don't talk we don't talk and and and the Bible says out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks so I don't really know you cuz you don't talk cuz I can't I can't hear your heart cuz you won't say nothing so I really don't know what you need or what you want and so I'm gonna try to be a mouthpiece I can't speak for every man cuz every man is different but I can do some things that I think will be accurate in defining what I think men really want so let's talk about it now first of all I believe every man wants attention and I think I have points for all this is gonna come up I think I have a little power little presentation do we have that so point number one is men want attention how many know where a TD is in the first chapter of my book I talk about what I call attention deficit disorder and even though that's a mental health challenge that I don't make fun of in any way I'm very serious about mental health I do believe in something called relational ad D and that's when you're in a relationship with somebody who doesn't pay attention to you that could be a man or a woman and what happens is we in relationship with somebody who doesn't pay attention to you didn't appreciate you to in value you you tend to look for that attention in other places and it really happens early on in a relationship because there's a period in a marriage where I call them BC days and eighty days so BC days is before children before my kids came I was first you know before man has kids he can have sex anywhere in the kitchen right now on the floor just anyway then the kids come and everything got to be sterilized and and make sure they sleep close the door lock the door then I'm mad at the kid is trying to get him benadryl and Tylenol make him go to go to sleep messing on trying to get some gotta sleep right now if I beat you I tell this story all the time my King I got to be careful telling it I hope this ain't being recorded my youngest son I didn't like my youngest son for many years when he would breastfeed he would hold my wife's breasts and he would look at me and laugh I still don't like him he 23 I'm like that's my breasts but once a woman has children her energy is redirected towards the kids they need her they can't make it they can't feed themselves so now she's been with kids all day and if she's working that's even harder and keep baths and do homework and and break up fights and all that and then at 10:30 he he come upstairs trying to get some users trying to get some sleep so what a man needs is to be prioritize and know that he's still a priority that you make time for him he needs attention here's the second thing men need see I know they didn't say it in video but men need sex and intimacy it's not just sex although men love sex it's not just the pleasure of sex it's the closeness to sex brings now we as men we love sex we love what I call you know sometimes a quickie is really beneficial I call it quick filet this sounds cuz it's you know it's fast sometimes just need to just need to get your mind straight so you can go back to sleep by the way you know y'all get mad at us because we go to sleep after sex let me explain why man goes to sleep after sex when a man has sex with his wife he deposits something in her called seed is in in Hebrew is zero its life a woman receives C so you receive life we gave life that's why we dropped our head and died we you don't lay down your life without dying you got to go that's why y'all up rolling your hair and all perky because we put life in y'all I'm just giving you the science men actually feel closer to their wives when we have sex because if you watch a man if any how many y'all married watch this don't your husband act Wow when he not getting something you got a little attitude walking around like a little kid will should come up no needs change when you give them some people like you need me put some gas in your car what you need mean dump the trash are you good the whole thing James we also feel closer to y'all where we have sex so a man feels closer when he has sex here's the problem a woman has to feel close to want it otherwise you're just gonna show up and be a mannequin and say hurry up this is my responsibility to you you don't say all that but that's but a man can tell that and if he's saved he's gonna take what eating get cuz he know ain't supposed to go nowhere else so it's difficult because a man needs sex to feel close but a woman needs to feel close so that tension becomes a very difficult space in relationship and you had to get help with that here's the number thing the third thing a real man wants a wife not a girlfriend now we talked about that that question came up a real man wants a wife not a girlfriend so in proverbs 18:22 says when a man fans don't finds a wife he finds a good thing when he found her she was a wife right what's the difference between a a boyfriend and a girlfriend and a wife and a husband it's mentality let me talk about men first I talk about this I spend two chapters talk about this in the book you can have a grown man that acts like a boy and when you know a man as a boy this is how you know a man is a boy in his maturity and behavior is when he likes to play games and I don't just mean e39 but he in the basement playing Madden which is another sign you called let me say you know I'm playing my season right now he's 39 years old caught up in a virtual world but this is the deal you have to understand we tend to play with things we don't we don't intend to own most people don't treat things they're renting like they treat things they plan on owning so the reason why a lot of men don't want to find a good thing and get married is because they're really boys and the way you know they're boys is because they like playing they like playing that's why you call them a boy friend and that's what because they play they like playing games that's why we call them a player and in the world of immature men the more game you got the more of a player you are that's how the world works so why would a man want to give up being single when he's getting on it's like being at the prom every weekend a single man in this culture has more attention that he can never imagine he's got women flirting with him he's got women trying to walk up to him he's got women praying over him women asking for to believe in God for him all that that's a lot of attention it's like every day he's a hero he's the homecoming king every day so it's hard when a man's got all that attention to make a decision because he'd rather play but a real man wants a wife not a girlfriend he really does he wants to be held accountable because he knows he can't reach his full potential without a helpmeet without somebody he's doing life with he wants to share with somebody he wants to cover somebody he wants to pour into somebody he wants to honor somebody he wants to raise children he wants to father somebody but a boy just wants to keep playing that's why net-net on the flip side here between a wife and a girlfriend a girlfriend is a mentality and the longer you see this is the difference being a wife and a girlfriend in your mind a girlfriend is happy to be a part of a man's life just a part a wife knows she's supposed to be the dominant part in his life it's in your mind you know next to God is me you also a wife only has sex with her husband that's her mentality a wife only has sex with her husband that's her mentality I'm gonna say it one more time I don't need you to clap a wife only has sex with her husband that's her mentality which means this if you're single and you're not celibate you have a girlfriends mentality because you're acting like you're a wife which means you're playing - he's playing video games but you're playing house remember we used to play house as kids you acting like you his wife that's why you pay his bills that's why you wash his clothes that's why you raised his children because you acting like a wife but he ain't putting a ring on your finger and you ain't had no ceremony well I'm saying you just as stupid as he is mopey y'all need to grow up that's a mentality it's a mentality so you end up being somebody what is and if a man can have a chick like that if he can have a chick with he all over you in private but want to keep everything on the down low in public I don't want to buy in my business shot is just so y'all go to the movies way down and in just a Pennsylvanian somewhere it's in the movies while we going on I don't like nobody in my business he never holds your hand in public he never takes pictures with you he never post anything about y'all together watch this watch this you're strangers in the light but you're intimate in the night so he gets to sleep with you like you're his wife he gets to eat your cooking like he's your wife but he won't make a commitment to you and I'm saying you're stupid that's because you have a girlfriend mentality and people let me show you something else is a girlfriend's mentality a girlfriend mentality is when you finance a man like you're his mother or his wife so when you cosign for him and put an apartment in your name and you're doing all this stuff helping them get a business loan and paying for his cell phone and doing all this little stuff you got it see that's because you're a parent what you really need is a partner you need to write that down you're a parent to a grown man but what you really need is a partner but as long as you keep raising a man you will never and as long as you have a girlfriend mentality you'll be a lifelong girlfriend so he can keep that relationship going for a long time marital vows are always public this supposed to be public some people getting married in private they don't tell nobody that's the most important decision you ever made in your life you're some man should be some authority in your life supposed to give you away to a man that means they have evaluated him how you get to marry you without checking in with somebody that covers you that's another stupid thing you do that means he's not accountable and everybody needs to have some crazy man in your life some crazy uncles some psycho father some grandfather somebody that will look like at least that he will shoot a man if you don't treat you right I want every man to mess with my daughter to have a little fear me you know that crazy right there eat I crazy I want you to understand that if anything goes south then I will come looking for you you'll get the job you don't get to have relationship with her outside of the context of our knowledge let me tell you what else men what how y'all doing I don't know what time both stop men want a quadruple F it takes a town that could Drupal F what does that mean they want they want a woman to be fun please don't be boring yeah I had all that fun before you got married anyone do number go to revival prayer service that ain't no fun that's necessary do something that just break the rules they want to have fun they want a woman that's faithful and faith filled so what man wants a woman that's faithful he don't want a woman that's gonna be unfaithful to him but also want a woman every man really wants a spiritual woman that he can get one day she can get one through forms you can get to the Lord here's another F I don't know of a man that doesn't want a woman who's a little freaky now you can sit in church and act like that ain't the case hey man I know one little freak but not she got be faithful and faith filled and freaky you're saying that balance let me get some scriptures that may help me Song of Solomon is a powerful story in the Bible I go through a chapter in the Song of Solomon in the book I spent some time and I think I got some verses I just want to read some scriptures to y'all the job did I give you out of Song of Solomon verses I just want to read them to y'all and see if what y'all think about it and I don't even know if they have them but they're gonna come on the screen if they don't then then just read it on your own but there's some freaky stuff going on in the Song of Solomon yeah they're two verses so they don't have them print it out but but okay maybe we can pull them up cuz y'all may not notice in the Bible so Song of Solomon chapter 2 verse 16 let me go there you know used to be we carry Bibles at church never got them in our phone touch your neighbor Justin might I'm glad you made it today watch this listen to his song of songs chapter 2 verse 16 says it's up there okay she said distinctly my beloved is mine and I am he is he pastors his flock among the lilies then longingly addressing her absent Shepherd she cried until the day breaks and the shadows flee keep going away returned hastily oh my beloved and be like a gazelle or a young heart as you cover the mountains which separate us now I don't like that translation because it gets too spiritual but rich is really telling him to do is get wet give me that's what she really saying it's really there there's all kinds of real hot stuff going on and in in Song of Solomon and so you should read it and roleplay like one of y'all be Shulamite woman you'd be the shrew the right woman and you'd be song song cuz there's scriptures where he's going all the way down her body and starting with her tongue and telling her what's under her tongue and then he's talking about her neck and her neck as described and he goes and starts describing her breasts and then he goes down and starts talking about a heap of wheat and he's between her thighs you know she says eat my friend that's what she says she says that in the Bible that sins songs let somebody that's what she said now what you think she meant soon anyway y'all ain't ready for me [Applause] he wants a woman that's financially responsible let me go to something safe men get frustrated with women who are financially irresponsible who blow money frivolously some men who just believe god we need to save money for tuition I just believe God now here's here's one we wrap this up where does God want what does God want that's important to not just what men want what does God want God wants you to be a rib God made you a rib and one of the ribs function is to protect God the ribs protect organs you're there to protect your husband so that means you have to go through his phone and you have to do this huh okay you have to go through his phone you had to check yet to show up for places you have to investigate you're there to protect God wants you to respect God wants you to be a rib array of also supports you should be your husband's biggest cheerleader support him cherimoya one of the jobs I get to do with working in chapels in the NBA a lot of guys don't want to play for this team here in DC because the fan base is so fickle they will boo players on their home team and I'm telling you when a man is playing for a home team that's booing him he wants to be traded he wants to play for another team number two God God wants you to respect your husband diffusions 533 says Oh says the wife should the man should love his wife and the wife should respect her husband I don't care how tough a man look we men look our egos are very fragile and the way you talk to us is very important if you're single what does God want God wants you to know you're worthy of the best-loved leave married men alone even men who are about to get divorced who are going through a divorce if he ain't fully divorced leave them alone you never know what God's gonna do in that relationship that you don't stepped in you say where it was before it was hopeful I got to it you can't blame me gate was down before I got there if it ain't over you get out trust God that he gonna give you a man that's fully single stay out of marriages you're worthy not of any love like Luther Vandross says well you're not worthy of a part-time lover like Stevie Wonder says you're worthy of the best love God Democrat it is love towards you that while you were yet a sinner Christ died for you bled to death if he died for you while you were a sinner you're worthy of the best-loved he's already showed you that God wants you to love him first and yourself second you ever heard that acronym joy Jo why people say if you put Jesus first others second yourself last you'll have joy sounds good it's a lie even on the airplane they show you who should come first if you lose cabin pressure an airplane they tell you put your own mask on first then you help your kids you got to take care of yourself and be your best self so that when you come to help other people you come from a full play you can't feed anybody if you're hungry take care of yourself and God wants you to stop wasting time single ladies in foolish relationships stop wasting time I'm gonna do this illustration and I'm done I have a hundred dollars in my pocket right now if I got home tonight and I didn't know where this hunter was I was like I don't even know where and I just lost it I can get another hundred dollars but if I lose time I can never get it back it will never be 1115 today ever again it will never be Saturday March 6th 2nd and he left it ever again when you lose time you never get it back do not waste time in an ambiguous relationship that you have no idea where it's going if you ain't clear and we don't get clarity we're gonna have a separation that's what we go have let's stand we're out of time was this good today they want to make sure we all make sure you get out on time so you won't be talking about us didn't you first of all on behalf of the women's ministry here the First Baptist Church at Glen Arden first lady Trina pastors John Kay Jenkins senior thank all of you for coming out today making the sacrifice to be here [Applause] hopefully you heard something today that made you laugh but hopefully heard somebody made you think like how can I be better as a woman single or married how can I go to the next level I made the sacrifice to be here how can I do that I think everything starts with God everything starts with our relationship with him it starts with being in right relationship with the one who made me because there is no greater love that in love you have with the Lord it's unconditional but there's a song I heard recently I can t remember the whole song but it says it that God's love is reckless it'll chase you down there there's no mountain he won't climb up and darkness he won't light up coming after you there's no wall he won't kick down and lie he won't tear down coming after you because he loves you he's pursuing you he'll come and get you out of trouble all you got to do is call his name he loves you more than you will ever know and if you'll trust him with your heart he'll make sure it gets in the right hands so today I'm calling you to a decision of trust and surrender maybe you're here today and you've never fully surrendered your life to him some money and aided you but you say I've never really been committed to the Lord in a moment I want to invite you to come to the front and say I really want to surrender my life to the Lord because I want his best I don't ride it man I've been with men I didn't ride women on and tried everything and tried triples but isn't it amazing that it all leaves you empty jesus said the water I give you to a woman that had five husbands and the man she was with wasn't her husband he says I got something to give you and when you drink this you'll never be thirsty again never so if you're here today you want to surrender your life to the Lord we want to invite you to come if you here today and you say I want to recommit my life to the Lord I've been far away and I want to recommit you don't have to belong to this church but you want to recommit in a moment I'm gonna ask you to come and thirdly if you're here today and you want to join the First Baptist Church of Glen Arden you don't have to wait til tomorrow you can come up now say I want to become a member of this church anyone knows three categories come on now I want to surrender my life to God I want to recommit my life to God oh I want to join this church today amen amen [Music] [Applause] hallelujah that's great y'all [Music] Dean will slow yes yes oh yes [Music] [Music] [Music] you [Music] okay one more prayer request before we go I don't think God has placed this grace and this responsibility on Vicki and I we really didn't think we were making it we stayed because we had to we had kids and when I was passing a church and we were too stubborn to leave but God supernaturally changed our marriage and he didn't do it he gave us tools to use that we practice and women here Agnes I'm like we should all the time but it's so much better now I want to volunteer the two of us to pray for anybody today come on up here with me love whose marriage is in trouble if any woman in here knows what it's like to have a merge that's in trouble and a husband you don't want to act right the husband don't want to stay she's been through it and lived it and so if you all could step this way we want to lead those out who come who come to make a decision for Christ today but I want to clear the space for those who say my marriage is in trouble my marriage is in trouble and you know what it's in trouble you don't have to get bad for us in trouble one thing you know [Music]

Channel: Keith Battle

Views: 4,383

Rating: 4.875 out of 5

Keywords: What Men Want, taraji p. henson, taraji, FBCG, Pastor Battle, Pastor Keith Battle, Keith Battle, grace girls, love, relationship goals, Mike Todd, Sarah Jakes, The Potter's House, marriage, sexy, divorce, spice up your marriage

Id: PlrMUS7Sh90

Length: 50min 49sec (3049 seconds)

Published: Mon Apr 01 2019