What Did Your Crazy EX Do? (2 Hour Reddit Compilation)

how did your crazy ex become your crazy ex after i broke up with her she used makeup to feign bruising on her arms neck and face she then proceeded to send pictures of it to all of our mutual friends warning them about me was her name fiona i suspect she was crazy long before i knew her but i realized she was a freaking sociopath when she asked me to euthanize my dog because he was taking up too much of our time holy crap that's a nightmare ever had a girlfriend threaten to cut her wrists because you're the sims character is dating the computer-generated neighbor i did i can't decide if this is hilarious or horrifying sims characters should never date their neighbors she woke me up because i had the night sweats and she was convinced i had aids for some reason i decided to appease her and got a full std screen including an expensive aids test a few weeks later i drove to her house to give her my side note i had to specifically request stating my clean bill of health she accused me of forging the entire thing and in the following argument pulled he plates out of the cupboard and frisbeed them at me i left immediately about six months later i had just started dating my now fiance she contacted me to tell me she believed me and wanted to know if she and her two dogs could move in with me i never responded just waking you up and demanding you get an aids test should have been the i'm getting the frick out of here moment painted my name all over his bedroom bathroom and lounge room proposed and then photoshopped us into wedding pictures scent invites all his family mine and my friends got an ultrasound photo online and tried to announce to facebook we were expecting a baby shaved our initials into his cat and left hundreds of love letters taped to my car so that was crazy we went on half a double date with friends i was just being a good sport noped out when he proposed when my food came the rest came over the next week all i can think about is how much it must suck to be that dude's cat would start arguments out of thin air because i'm drama this is who i am then one day i went drinking in her hometown she ran into her ex a day later she said sorry but i'm going to start dating him again two days after that she was begging to get back together nope messaged me occasionally for a few years to go out for a drink but eventually stopped when she got knocked up good luck to the guy who knocked her up in addition to being an absolute gem of a personality she had awful genetics and family i'm drama this is who i am at least she is honest most alike i hate drama but somehow there is always drama around their lives he tried to strangle me with an hdmi cord because i didn't straighten my hair that day he had been crazy for a while but that's the very moment where i realized it use a dsub vga cable on him more wires in there it's stronger walked miles in the snow to my house tapped on my bedroom window for an hour until i acknowledged him i turned him away in the morning i heard rustling in my closet upon waking up the little sucker snuck into my house somehow and was hiding in my closet i threatened to call the cop so he left weeks later he emailed me pictures of me sleeping from that night i still have nightmares about finding him in a closet this is by far one of the worst stories i've read here i truly hope you are okay and have some form of legal separation from this psycho was supposed to be medicated and never told me didn't matter since she stopped taking her meds before we dated tried to make up for it by taking many different recreational drugs that she failed to mention as well found her drug kitten noped out her mother said and i quote i'm surprised you made it as long as you did my husband's crazy ex just girlfriend from high school was crazy because she set up appointments for portrait session to have pictures done of our three children for her house no we did not let that fruitcake take our children they broke up their senior year of high school and this is when we were in our 30s shocked at contact from her never mind the act we found out she also had her phone number listed phone books then as mrs our surname all those years which was never her name she was stuck in her high school fantasy which was frightening this is the kind of story that has me googling my ex's first names in combination with my last name julius in case i could see one in particular pulling crap like that beat the crap out of me then out of his next gf and their kids he lied about his police record and previous conviction from beating me he is charming and manipulative so i get why she believed him he got out of prison recently for what he did and i'm just glad i'm across the country he started messaging all the new guys he thought i would maybe go out with asking them not to invite me out cause he felt he still had a chance with me this happened not once or twice this happened with around 10 guys he didn't even know them in person i didn't even know them she cut out my head from ebooks and put them on cork boards on her headboard i found out because one of her friends told me she did and so i wanted to see for myself she was working during the day and i was close with her brother who let me in when i said i needed to grab something from her br i walked in and sure enough my head on a bunch of muscular bodies that weren't mine i broke up with her the next day after seeing the hey arnold esque shrine following the breakup she would drive on my street and stop and wait outside and see if my light was on it wasn't mainly because i knew she would do that then she would call me and leave voicemails of her breathing rather heavily she then tried to get me jealous of her having another guy which i was everything but jealous of and she actually had sex with and got pregnant with said guy which kind of backfired on her so happy ending i guess i told her after three years of dating that i was actually a war refugee from chechnya she just knew i was from russia nothing more and had seen a lot of horrible things during my childhood i saw people be executed bombs exploding people dying slowly of gangrene dodging snipers etc never really told anybody this in my life since i came to america i told her because i was pretty sure i wanted to spend my future with her i told her it was a massive deal that i told her this in the first place because i hadn't ever told anyone she left me right afterwards because she assumed i was crazy or mentally damaged from all the crap i went through she said she didn't want to date some scary war refugee the worst part was that her parents who i mostly communicated through because she refused to talk to me believed it too they said horrible things to me about it saying i was a criminal junkie that i would end up beating her up i'm just another street arab i am azeri not arab they basically put their foot down and said i could never date someone like their daughter one of the worst weeks of my life really made me lose faith in long-term relationships girls sounds like you have a history of dodging bullets chalk up one more she tried to drown herself in a river in the middle of december because she thought i wanted to sleep with someone else i had to wait out and get her this was after she spiked my phone on the ground when i received a text message from a friend saying my then girlfriend had left her purse at the bar on a separate occasion she grabbed her car keys from me after drinking heavily and when i tried to stop her from driving she almost ran me over yeah she was nuts once they start driving off i think the best way to deal with drunks is to make a mental note of their license plate call 9-1-1 and let them deal with it was pregnant with another guy's baby i found out when she lost it during a rage overdose that was when i learned that she was pregnant and did age that sounds like a helluva tuesday genetics both of her parents were batted crazy so i shouldn't have been surprised when she started stalking me after she cheated on me and i dumped her she threatened a few of my and by extension are female friends with physical violence just for being around me and tried to get me fired from my job she called my manager and told him that i was on drugs nothing further from the truth and had two of her other friends come into my store and be extremely angry customers saying i'd felt them up or some dang thing but fortunately my boss knew all about what was going on and didn't buy any of it you can tell a lot about a girl from her family my ex's parents were high school sweethearts except only the mom was a sophomore and he was 27 yay oh i had one mega crazy x this girl was five kinds of fricked in the head and needed to be locked the frick up first she had a kid i didn't doubt that i saw her stretch marks not a big deal she claimed the kid had been kidnapped by the baby daddy and disappeared okay stranger things have happened things started not adding up soon she was a pathological liar started with i make 60 hr in the military which i knew was balls for her rank since my mom was a higher rank than she was and made far less than that she stood in my car one night and by the time the cops got there she was already back and claimed innocence and the cops threatened to arrest me for making a false report then she tried playing the ultimate psycho card and said she'd had a call saying her kid daddy had been in a wreck in canada and the kid was dead at first i wasn't sure to call bs on that or not two days later she downed a bottle of sleeping pills with a full bottle of vodka while she was in the hospital i did some digging and found out that she and her husband got a divorce and he was awarded custody due to her being a complete nut bag i nope the frick out of there as fast as i could took you a bit but you dodged that bullet like neo my friend cutest when he got himself locked in four point restraints in the air because he was convinced he had aids and started trying to infect the staff or when he proudly told me he was the son of jesus christ or when he tried to kick in my door at 3 00 am as a grand romantic gesture or how he thought his bald spot would grow hair again if he was just a better person well maybe it would have he just didn't have the ability to test his theory i noticed my under things were going missing i mentioned it while doing the laundry he accused me of cheating saying i must have left my things at some dude's house i was cheating with and began beating me for the missing items i was pregnant with his child at the time i kick him out scared shitless how i was going to support myself while i was about to give birth and miss work for six weeks i began packing his things to keep my frightened mind busy find a big box hidden in the basement full of my missing under things huge inflatable butt plugs and transexual pee my thigh highs were tied in knots with bull hair sticking out of them i put in a video tape labelled with my name it's him dressed as me with my clothing on beating off and freaking his butt to the idea of being me his nuts tied up with my stockings turns out he was a secret crossdresser trans with a violent history and multiple drug charges lied about everything from his education to his orientation i don't trust human beings anymore i wanna say we were both each other's crazy exes he cheated on me begged me not to break up with him then repetitively threatened and even attempted once to kill himself after i broke up with him and then of course me being really upset about being cheated on i returned his shirts and hoodies he had given to me in shreds he cheated and i was stupid and forgave him two months later i was served with an eviction notice because he had lied to my face about having paid rent i told him i would give him a chance to work on himself but i needed space and would find somewhere apart from him two months later when the lease was up he threatened suicide three times called me drunk multiple times switched between you're the best ever i love you and can't live without you and your w and the worst person ever die alone from voicemail to voicemail by then i had told him that we were definitely over but the final nail in the coffin for him was when he drove to my new house drunk to call me names and tried to pull me out of my house when i told him to leave or i was calling the police and went to go back into my house psychotic and emotionally absolute crazy will always be psychotic and emotionally abusive crazy similar to mine i got into a motorcycle accident and he told me he hopes i get gang raped and that they tripped on the cord next day he is so sorry and blah blah blah day after that he hopes i bang my head off a tree snowboarding and become a vegetable real sweetheart i tried to end things several times and always got guilt tripped into taking him back when i finally told him i was ending it for good he asked if we could still be friends i said of course we could i was 17 years old naive and did not yet understand how complicated staying friends is a few days later he invited me to his house to play guitar hero as friends of course i thought it would be fine because his other friend was going to be there too like i said naive or stupid or both when i got to his house he had a drink in his hand red flag number one in the year i had dated him he had never had a drink as he drank more he began asking me to stay over one last time and begging him to give him one last kiss for obvious reasons i became incredibly uncomfortable and told him i was leaving he followed me up the stairs and cornered me in the entrance way grabbing at my wrists trying to force them to my sides and kiss me refusing to let me leave he was crying i was screaming and crying his friend was yelling at him to let me go i managed to take out my cell phone and call my mom but he yanked it out of my hands before i could say anything to her luckily she heard me screaming before he hung up got in her car and hauled back to his place with the help of his friend i managed to get out of the house and into my mom's car he stood in front of it in bare feet in the snow but i think he realized my mom probably would have run him down not really but she was definitely in defense mode because he got out of the way that was just the beginning of months of bulls including a suicide attempt and various incidents of harassment i was really messed up about it for a really long time tl dr he tried to forcibly keep me at his house after i broke up with him and made my life a living heck for months props to your crazy ex's friend for helping first he was just my ex then he threatened to post some rescue pics of me online and or kill himself as if that would make me want him back yet he should have threatened to flood your facebook with pics of nicholas cage when we broke up he moved into my neighbor's apartment and would hang around outside waiting for me to take the trash out or leave for work they had a surveillance camera on their front door drug dealers so every time i came home he'd be moping around outside trying to get me to come outside i ended up moving out of state on a trip back home we had been on better terms and were planning on meeting up for a drink before that happened i found out he got this girl pregnant and she was having an abortion whatever totally her their choice not my business but i called off the drinks and told him i knew what was going on and i had no interest in being involved in that drama he tried to say he didn't even know if it was his he told the girl he got pregnant he was going to kill himself blah blah blah before i left town i had a card in my dad's driveway from my mix inside he wrote all kinds of crazy crap i don't remember what it said but i do remember the poorly sketched picture he drew of an aborted baby with its umbilical cord wrapped around its neck like a nose jesus christ the crazy bee literally made me chose between her and my mother and sister she couldn't handle other women in my life it went beyond just not liking me being around them she would go to crazy far lengths to get me away from any female in the vicinity she never did that until a month or two before we broke up glad i did that well my friend introduced us because we were both taking time off uni for mental illness so we're probably both each other's crazy ex that said he has a habit of dating girls he meets in the psych ward so i doubt i'm his craziest at least claimed her dad beat her then came to spend the weekend told me her mom died and had to stay with me because she had nowhere to go brought guys over to have sex on my bed while i was at work unknown to me at the time and one time i came home early from work she still had a guy hiding in the restroom unknown to me at the time i got her a job at my friend's company and she showed up for one day then never showed up again unknown to me at the time my friend didn't mention it stole my social security number and took out credit cards in my name to buy lots of clothes and never paid off the credit cards told me she was on the pill wasn't oh and of course her mom wasn't really dead then her mom starts calling me telling me she's going to murder me stored drugs in my house stole my car and told me she was on birth control even though she wasn't i was too trusting i found her online years later she changed her name dang every part of this deserves further explanation threatened to kill herself in more than several occasions more than once she attempted to commit suicide by od as i was on a phone call with her accused me of cheating the day after i broke up with her then arrived at my apartment and proceeded to strangle me and punch my face the whole relationship put me in a deep depression that i'm still trying to cope with i hope things look up for you man i really do it was valentine's day and i was sick on the couch all day she sent me a text from work asking what we were doing i said that i was ill and maybe we should reschedule for another day she responded with okay well maybe we can make soup and watch a movie i said sure so i carry my sick butt off the couch and grab ingredients to make soup and pick up a red box she wanted to see on the way home make soup and finish it by the time she gets home long and short of it we get in a massive argument because she can't believe i just made her soup and grabbed a movie and thought that would suffice for valentine's day i thought i was in the twilight zone or some alternate universe after trying to remain calm and show her the text she sent me about tonight she was still being crazy so like any loving bf would do i lost my crap told her to get the frick out of my house while flipping her off yes it was overkill and i don't feel good about it good that was pretty much the end of it to this day i still can't believe someone made me that mad a little late to the party but take your pick she faked a pregnancy sonograms and all she told me her mom died and step that kicked her out so she could move into my parents house her mom was very much alive she gifted me a car from her grandmother's inheritance that turned out to be a stolen car she test drove a car and never brought it back she altered her voice so she could conduct a phone interview on me she pretended she had cancer and shaved her head so i would be sympathetic and not break up with her she got me a job as a writer for some magazine i never heard of and i even collected paychecks but the money was from her stepfather's bank account with forged signatures i was sending crappy poetry pieces to some random fax machine which i was told was my publisher i could go on but it's late and i doubt anyone will even read these for the adventurers that do get this far it's amazing what what good and frequent bj's do to a manned psyche she had her friend go through myra did account and then send me hateful messages about how terrible of a human being i was more than two years later you fricked up when you let them find out you're a did account i have decided to meander out of the shadows for my first post apologies if my internet etiquette is lacking i was 17 he was 20 we had broken up several times for various reasons mostly we just went right for one another october we finally break up for the last time we live less than 10 minutes away from each other so he drives by my house all the time cause creep december he convinces me to meet him down the street from my house at a drug store just to talk he starts crying about how he cheated on me how sorry he is and how he will never do it again i wasn't 100 sure prior to his confession only like 99.9999999 whatever confirmation that i wasn't crazy feels nice me well done of course you're never going to do it again we're done you're never going to get the opportunity to do that again so i saunter over to my car like the badass i am feeling pretty good about myself so what does he do he chases after me and pushes me up against my car kissing me violently this guy is maybe five inches taller and double my weight so there isn't a whole lot i can do to protest he pinned my arms down by my side thinking he can restrain me super rappy but i know this guy he thinks he's being super romantic so what do i do exactly what every woman wants to do in this situation i kicked him right where it hurts as hard as i could got in my car drive home as fast as i could literally a three minute drive and told my dad what happened dad stood outside my house knowing full well that butthole is probably going to show up any minute so what does my dad do he very politely explains to butthole why he is never ever going to drive down our street or speak to me ever again while holding a crowbar or whatever that metal thing was tl dr x confessed to cheating after we broke up tried to hollywood kiss me kicked him in nuts dad threatens him did i do this right also on phone and it appears that formatting is not a thing when phoning read it ignores single line breaks one line break two line breaks what is the most spiteful thing nx has done to you my ex filed a bogus restraining order not allowing me to see me my son who i was taking care of while she was at work she filed that i was going to kill him and her and then take him overseas the court accepted the order six months later she calls saying you need to start watching the baby again i start watching my son again and then i ask her if my son could spend at least one night a week with me i was retired from the police force due to an on-the-job injury and so i had the benefit of spending time with my son she flat out refused long story short after all the false allegations she stated about me false kidnapping reports having the police knock down my door and my son and i in shock years of court proceedings and even though the courts and state social worker found her to be a scorned woman and a rampant liar they awarded her full custody it's been five years six months seven days 16 hours four minutes and counting since our last saw or spoke with him i cannot see my son which i still pay 400 a month in child support and he only lives 10 minutes away from me attempted suicide or at least claimed to attempt suicide multiple times purely to get my attention the first time it happened i called an ambulance only to have the police call me back 20 minutes later saying she was clearly making the whole thing up also regularly threatened to crash her car with both of us in it and to kill my family and once tried to stab me with a kitchen knife once we broke up she told all of our mutual friends that i was an abusive cheating bastard neither of which is even remotely true by the time i realized what she was doing most of them were already refusing to talk to me of that entire group she manipulated all but two or three into hating my guts my ex-girlfriend and i shared a bank account after living together for two years i know the groundwork for a happy ending well she was saying she had a job when she didn't and was lying about money while i was working every day so i broke it off with her and moved out then went to the bank to close our account i was told both parties had to be there to close the account but she wasn't coming around for a while so i just took my name off the account and opened my own new one bank of america wouldn't screw me right fast forward three months later and i had a few grand saved up and doing well she wanted to get back with me even though she now had a boyfriend i had no interest anymore well i go out to get some gatorade before ultimate frisbee and none of my cards are working i call bower and they tell me that there is fraudulent activity yet my ex had written forty thousand dollars in fraudulent checks from our old account the bank saw that i used to be on that account and drained it completely to cover the 40 k i am not a guy that has credit cards so this was my only source of money period i was flat broken it sucked i took her to court but she doesn't work so i hope one day to get a few dollars of that back my ex-wife started freaking my best friend of 14 years as soon as we separated but i allow the possibility that it happened before that not only did she crush my soul but took my best friend who i looked up to he was also married i hear they had a baby now and he is still married whatever i hope they both die of shark aids my ex set everything i had left at her house on fire she bragged about it over the phone later even your gba wait my gba yes b my gba is sitting right next to me you set your gba on fire around eight years ago while still dating her she tricked me into getting her pregnant sabotaged the birth control and as soon as she got pregnant cut all contact i tried to remain civil with her and i have been up to this day but she quite clearly told me the only reason she started dating me in the first place is because she wanted a child and i had never factored into her plans when my daughter was born she didn't put me on the birth certificate and put the father as unknown took her to court multiple times but she denied paternity was mine and the courts could not force a dna test she eventually moved and completely disappeared off the radar i have an eight-year-old daughter out there somewhere who i have only ever seen once i think about her every day falsely accused of domestic violence and had every journal and photo of my childhood taken from me also every piece of physical belongings that i had at the time it all came out in the wash on the domestic violence thing the judge started to see it was all a hoax but dang the most trying six months of my life me and the lady split a few months ago out of nowhere i get a random text from her which happens to be a picture of her hand grasping a dong of impressive stature she began to explain how thankful she was i broke up with her so she could find a such a dong i wanted to be mad big couldn't just kind of stared at the picture for a while thinking good for her my buddy's ex cheated on him with our roommate then turned into a super vindictive bee when he found out the day she moved out she filed a restraining order against him claiming that he was prone to violent outbursts and a danger to himself and others which is the exact opposite of this guy most liberal herated guy i know who got cheated on with one of his best friends then with a shiny new restraining order she weasels her way onto the volunteer staff at the anime convention he attends each year a week before got his admission revoked and he couldn't get a court date fast enough to call her bs before the con once he did get one the judge basically told her to get the frick out with that bs he brought a crapstorm of evidence my ex is a physician and an addict so she can't manipulate with the best of them when we decided to split it was quite clear who was in the wrong and we agreed that the debt she had accumulated through her multiple tours in rehab well north of 100k dollars would stay with her we didn't have any children or any joint property to cause any fits over so the divorce seemed pretty straightforward she got a lawyer to help push it through and i was going to try to not get one of my own to save costs obvious mistake i was supposed to go to her attorney's office to sign some paperwork but was having trouble reaching someone at the office to make the time to stop by a lawyer emailed her that day saying that he hadn't heard from me yet and she forwarded this email to me without realizing that she was forwarding me the entire email chain that she had with her counsel oops in the email she very clearly stated that she wanted to slap me with the rehab debt stating that i was complicit in her drug use totally fools needless to say i went pretty crazy and immediately hired the most cutthroat lawyer i could find in the area my lawyer was awesome and cheap and he routinely put her in her proper place this wasn't spike directed at me but it was pretty narcissistic and ridiculous my ex broke up with me and took our jointly owned car to another state proceeded to lose a series of jobs and failed to help pay any of our joint debt the agreement had been that he would pay it all as i was a poor grad student and he was supposedly walking into a six-figure salary i had to track down his mom to get my name off of his car loan as he wouldn't answer my emails about it i had to pay the remaining joint debt off myself slowly to preserve my credit dollar signed 16k then he had the goal to come to reddit and post an ama about how he purposefully left his high-paying job to follow his dream and become a penniless writer despite riddick pretty much immediately calling him out for receiving unemployment benefits which you don't get if you leave your job he brought up our relationship in the ama and mentioned how he had paid all of our joint debt himself when he left since he could afford it and i was just a student after all the time and saving it took me to get rid of that debt myself that was pretty crappy to read pretty much the whole ama was very self-congratulatory like that a lot of people bought into it and stroked his ego and it made me realize just how fraught with single-sided bs that subreddit might be i had an ex spread the rumor around my small hometown that i had physically abused her through our relationship i couldn't figure it out at first but all of my platonic girlfriend suddenly started hating and avoiding me when i would visit when i called her out on it at a party she just started laughing and said oh yeah i was just mad at you and told people that isn't that funny all i could do was shake my head and say no b that's not funny at all i still have to correct people to this day 2.5 years later i started dating a girl just out of high school her ex-boyfriend was abusive when he found out that we were dating he tried to befriend me i was unaware of his abusive habits until he tried to beat my butt one day that didn't work out too well on his end so the next attack was to call the cops and my parents and report that i was selling weed that didn't work out either and no drugs were found he found out i smoked pot in the week we were friends his final frick you was putting her little brother in the car with him and driving off a bridge he killed both himself and her little brother we find out later that he had been befriending her brother too so there was no real suspicion when they got into the car together three years after i broke up with my ex she found out who my new girlfriend is somehow got her phone number bought a disposable phone and texted the new girlfriend that i was cheating on her used a different name and using her previous knowledge of a birthmark location and what i like to do in bed to effectively throw new girlfriend into rage and she didn't believe me due to the contents of the message forever alone my first serious live-in girlfriend cheated on me with several of her past partners i could never catch her doing it but for a variety of reasons i knew i was nuts about her though and she lied like a politician finally my best friend's elder brother nailed her on purpose to prove it yeah thanks for that i guess i packed up my crap and left peacefully but i had forgotten to grab my art portfolio from behind the couch i called her that afternoon and said i would be right down to get it as i pulled into the driveway she dropped the lip match onto the gasoline soaked pile of my entire life's collection of artwork never did another piece of artwork again frick that see right after high school there was a girl who liked me but the feeling was not mutual she decided to cope with her rejection using the means at her disposal she was an assistant manager at a video rental chain i had stopped renting there but my rental account was still open she started checking out movies under my name that i never actually borrowed they would never get returned so massive late fees plus replacements fees showed up on my account she also changed my mailing address in their system so that i would never receive the notices in the mail it wasn't until close to a year later that i started getting the phone calls from debt collection agencies it took years to get them to stop and it negatively impacted my credit because i had no proof that the debts weren't valid whereas the video chain had computer records of the rentals i dated a hot crazy girl in high school i thought that i would be super cool and take her out to my parents lake house after we broken up a couple of weeks later she and boyfriend whom she dated before during and after we were dating rented a u-haul van and cleaned out the house of all of the furniture she even stole my eight-year-old little sister's bunk bed the only thing left was the fridge because they couldn't get it through the door dad found the house trashed and was peed we didn't find this out until a couple of years later when her boyfriend fricked up and got caught he admitted to stealing our stuff since the cops were able to match the serial numbers on the washer and dryer i knew something was up when she called me up around thanksgiving before we got the news about her boyfriend that she really loved me and really missed me stupid me thought this girl was coming around and we would get back and life would be great two weeks later i was giving my report to a detective and she is now currently in jail in hindsight insurance paid us for all of the stuff stolen which was worth more than the current condition the stuff was in the cops said all of our stuff was fricked up beyond repair not to me but my mother-in-law she was married for a couple months and got pregnant her husband told her to get an abortion being in a small town she had to drive several hours to the nearest clinic she waits outside for an hour or two and can't go through with it so she calls him to tell him she can't do it he hangs up on her after a long drive home she comes home to an empty home everything including the ice trees in the fridge are gone only things left are a rocking chair and some of her clothes he took some of them he never shows back up i dated this guy for about three months december 2008 february 2009 and then i broke it off because he was trying to control me and i wasn't going to go through that again before we broke up he was living w me and subletting his apartment well once we broke up i wanted him gone unbeknownst to me he had gotten himself a residency permit which meant i could not legally kick him out i spent nine months fighting this in the meantime he would slap himself in the face until it was bright red and then call the cops and say i was beating him i would get arrested and then let out the next day when he decided not to press charges oh and he did that about once a month the apartment was in my name so i couldn't just leave it without penalty so i was essentially stuck he had manipulated the police department into believing him so nothing i tried to get him to leave worked finally in december of 2009 i had met a new guy well the ex decided that if he couldn't have me no one could he dead bolted my bedroom while i was sleeping so i couldn't get out and he told everyone i know that i had herpes and had a history of getting knocked up and getting abortions which essentially ended my new relationship i couldn't take it anymore i called my dad had him come pick me up i lived 1300 miles from home broke my lease and got the frick out of there my ex wrote a poem about my dong being small it was like 10 verses long and it was actually very good she sent it to all my friends but not me i found out five years later she did this my friend showed me it she had sent it via msn email to everyone and i was like dang she owned me luckily though i freaked her sister a year prior to discovering this poem not to spite her or anything her sister just really likes me so i guess we are even i don't know and anyway it's not that small it's okay accuse me of our pay she said that every time we'd had intercourse in our five-year relationship with our pay and that i beat her regularly despite absolutely no evidence the police had to pursue it as they're bound to investigate every accusation of that kind no evidence case was dropped when my ex and i were going through a divorce he decided to share with me that a year and a half prior he had in fact took my dog she was 14 had her since she was six weeks old with him to work dropping her off in the middle of nowhere on the way but she was afraid of him but he lured her into his truck with the words that every dog loves bye-bye he even left the gate open to make it look like she got out on her own i searched for that dang dog for months he sat back and watched me cry put up posters go to every animal shelter around us i hate that sucker not only for that reason he also is a religious weirdo i don't know if this will bring you any comfort at all but i though i would share we have animals dumped out here middle of nowhere ranch and we have taken them all in and loved them like they should be loved some were old sick and when they passed we would bury them under a beautiful oak tree and honor them nothing out of the ordinary i came home one evening and found a note that she didn't love me anymore had moved in with her parents and would appreciate it if i could be gone during the upcoming weekend so she could collect her stuff stunned and stupid as i was i complied came back home sunday evening to find the place completely empty she took everything except one thing a 22 volume britannica she bought the month before despite my protests and had only paid the first installment for when i asked for explanation she told me that since i had a job and salary and she was a student i would be simply able to replace all the furniture and pay off the encyclopedia the first thing i did the books bought in her name i sold and i spent the money on a trip to paris b during my second deployment to afghanistan i deployed with a friend of mine who i now consider to be a brother when we first started our tour his wife told him she would write weekly me and all the other soldiers eventually found out this was a big fat freaking lie now this brother of mine goes months without hearing from his wife the longer he doesn't hear from her the sadder he gets his moral dropped so low that my one sg first sergeant pretty high rank was suggesting putting him on suicide watch so about nine months in our deployment he finally gets a letter from her after mail call was over and we were dismissed me him and three of our buds ran to our tent as fast as we could to see him open the letter after seeing how excited he was the most horrendous and freaked up thing happened he ripped the envelope open and inside was divorce papers i am very much against violence used on women but to this day i wanna kill that bee with my bare hands my ex contacted the local police county sheriff and atf and told them that i had assault rifles drugs and bomb making materials she also told them that i was highly unstable and suicidal and that i would shoot at any law enforcement that approached my house in essence she tried to have me killed she also contacted my place of employment and said that i was suicidal and dangerous and contacted various friends family and organizations with the same story my ex was homeless living on the streets in london we met through a friend who put him up for a week we dated and after a few weeks i'll let him live with me in student halls yes big mistake but the guy had nothing i could have been kicked out etc anyway i get him a job where i work and he starts freaking all the girls i work with i found out months later and to put the icing on the cake given me chlamydia by this time he'd found himself a place to live a better job and applied to uni he graduated last year no thank you for feeding him giving him my bed just an std and a broken heart i worked night desk at my dorm my ex brought guys home and had me sign them in then before my shift was over she walked the guy out with her hair all messed up and in her super short shorts and a wife beater i look back and laugh now okay while splitting all of our stuff during our divorce she opted to claim ownership to every single photograph in the house including the very small handful that i still had of my brother who had died years before i found them on accident while making sure she wasn't taking more than her fair share and she claimed it was just an oversight that my five pictures were wrapped in an envelope inside another envelope and packed in the bottom of a box karma i'm a solid foot taller than her and she outweighs me by 40 pounds now let's see she sent bizarre postcards under random people's name with gibberish written on it three postcards to my work and three to my apartment manager's office which weren't even mailed but dropped off she also sent a manila envelope to my apartment manager's office which happened to be porno magazines which was also dropped off she called pizza hut to deliver 100 worth of pizza to my work which wasn't paid for at all she also got me on a mailing list for erectile medicine and victoria's secret which got sent to my work she also took a ton of food items out of my apartment which was not hers claiming it was hers because she bought them using my money my soon-to-be ex-wife has alleged that i'm not fit to have unsupervised visits with my daughter age four before i left after years of struggling to make things work i was her primary caregiver i even had to travel and appear in court on a show cause hearing because she obtained a temporary restraining order i was a working parent at preschool cooked cleaned did laundry in the grocery shopping i was a freaking house husband and now she alleges i can't be trusted to care for my daughter for a weekend told me she had a miscarriage when she didn't then after telling me i had a kid and the state took it away from her she had someone else sign the birth certificate so i couldn't get custody luckily i was able to challenge paternity and get custody of my child she has since lost all rights to him and my current wife has adopted him the ex-husband cleaned out our joint bank accounts dumped our cats into the woods gave our dogs away was in the process of starving our pet bird to death before animal control rescued it took my car but most horrible of all he made up a bunch of stories and had his family lie in court and i lost my daughter i went from being a stay-at-home mommy seeing her 16 plus hours every day to getting her three months out of the year and i have to pay him child support i found out the hard way that money really can buy you anything oh and the crap storm continues our divorce has been finalized and he won even so he hasn't paid on any of my debt that was assigned to him by the judge he often doesn't answer when i called to speak to my child and he just got married three months after our divorce was finalized and he tells my daughter that she has two mommies frick my life stalked me for one year after breakup made false email addresses similar to my name and emailed everyone i know telling them i was a bad person or swearing at professors etc called me ten plus times a day for a year same treatment for any girl i had any interest in showed up everywhere i went killed herself in front of me yeah she was spiteful my son's mother freaked out when i got engaged and bought a house with someone else so she took off for months with my son and spent that time harassing and stalking me filing bogus felony charges etc i told her my fiance was pregnant that it was an unlikely pregnancy and that it was a very easy one to lose so please stop causing a stress her response i don't give a crap she cost me my fancy the pregnancy the house and my new job she ruined both of our lives and messed up life for our son all because i didn't want her i told her at the beginning that i had met someone that it was serious and could she please just act like an adult and share our son and everyone move forward she said yeah sure no problem the day i told her i was getting married she started her crap no one's life has recovered since women of reddit we've had a lot of sticking your dong and crazy questions what happened when crazy stuck their dong in you he was troubled father was an alcoholic who killed himself a fact he managed to bring up any time i attempted to end it he tried to convince me to run away with him we were 17 stroke 18 but i rebuffed him time and again it didn't help that my mother adored him and we went to different schools so i'd come home and he'd already be there waiting for me every day after i finally broke it off he'd drive by my house at all hours and leave gifts on my porch a few months later he got a new girl and i began dating a friend of his they decided we should all hang out so one evening we rent a movie and grab some booze my ex and his girl immediately started making out hardcore which didn't bother me but when she started moaning i glanced over and he's eyeballing me like tongue down her throat hand in her pants all while staring straight at me so i faked hill and walked home on my way he pulled his car up next to me and offered me a ride i said frick off then he started screaming at me from his car don't you get it i'd do anything for you i love you i die for you i ran the rest of the way cutting through yards so he couldn't follow me when i got home i was nearly crying i was so frightened my dad saw me come through the door and started flipping out assuming my new boyfriend had done something awful fearing my boyfriend would catch crap i finally explained everything about the ex i felt so dumb and guilty and cried like an idiot my dad just listened and tucked me into bed the next morning i looked out the window to find the ex's car across the street by the time i got downstairs my dad was walking back inside and the car was speeding down the road dad evenly said i talked to him and that was that never saw x again you really gotta love a good dad he refused to let me break up with him because he wasn't getting a choice in it then threatened to throw himself in the river when i got upset at that he said he wasn't going to that was just him not giving me a choice he refused to let me break up with him because he wasn't getting a choice in it thereby denying you your choice in it making him a hypocrite as well as a manipulator if relationships worked like that where you both had to agree to split then the world would be a much sadder place i tried to break up with my high school boyfriend of three years four times before it finally stuck whenever i tried he'd hold me against walls and cry tell me i wasn't allowed to leave him he once cornered me and played with a knife as he told me how much he loved me the last time i broke up with him over tex because i feared for my life duh i was trying to avoid that and not be crappy but it had to be done his mom called me saying he was running around the house threatening to kill himself i could hear him yelling in the background things to tell me and that i needed to get over there and say sorry i hung up on her and never spoke to him again oh did i mention i kept trying to dump him cause he had a whole other girlfriend off like six months he turned into a gaslighting textbook sociopath he pushed one of those standing rotating fans on me while i was asleep i woke up and he was just completely pee off i had no idea why he told me he was talking to me while i was sleeping and i rolled over so that i wasn't facing him apparently that infuriated him he was a terrible person that relationship only lasted about five months it was a nightmare his lies gradually unraveled over time by the time i got the courage to dump him it had come out that he had been unemployed for three years was still divorcing his wife who was also his only relationship ever who he had been abusive toward and had restraining orders against him when i broke up with him he called me every name in the book then proposed then threatened self-harm he would leave sobbing voicemails from different throwaway numbers accused me of turning him into an alcoholic and still occasionally pops up as having viewed any new social media accounts despite our relationship having been just a few months several years ago his next ex wound up calling me for advice when he gave her the same treatment sounds just like my ex-husband except for the alcoholic part add in a dose of identity theft he maxed out all my credit cards on apple and lego products as a final thank you for supporting him on my single income through our four years together i learned a valuable lesson from him sometimes the most loving thing you can do for a person is to tell them number it a lot less humor and a lot more violence than stick your dong in crazy threads about an equal amount of manipulation and suicidal threats though he was always super sweet and casual around friends part of my extended friend group in college extremely good looking and charming all the girls wanted him so i was really flattered when he'd single me out ended up back at his place after a party figured we might make our fool around but i was younger than he was and a virgin he asked for a bj but then held my face and wouldn't let me up for air violent as frick and i vomited he didn't care at all then he took my underwear off and even though i was screaming no he freaked me i had a tampon in because i was on my period and i don't think he even noticed waited till he passed out in the vomit and blood and walked home you don't really know what anybody is like behind closed doors needless to say i'm rocking some serious trust issues now that's so freaking horrible i'm so so sorry you went through that i'm sending my love your way you really can never tell which is so awful i've found that the most charming men can be the most vicious i didn't even sleep with him i took him home but he freaked me out so i asked him to leave he sent me a barrage of texts and called me constantly for two months he turned up outside my house at 3am and told me to come out or he'd come in he alternated between abusive and aggressive and acting like we were dating which we had never he eventually went away but i learned he'd just move on to bothering another girl in town frick you joe i only kissed him and he went all the way off the deep end he memorized my class schedule and my general walking route so he could catch me in the halls between classes then one day i notice he's on the same bus as me i'd never seen him on the bus before it was very obvious that he was following me home since i walked though a large empty field to get from my bus to my house after that day i frequently saw him walking past my house or wandering through the neighborhood i stopped going on runs or walking by myself i was only 14 so i couldn't drive i took the bus everywhere so this guy put me under house arrest i was afraid to be home alone but i also didn't have the ability to go anywhere without my parents eventually i told my day what was going on and he started standing outside menacingly and stopped the kid stalking me and told him if he ever saw him near our house again he would be calling the police despite being the nicest guy in the world my dad can look really scary eventually my stalker switched to another girl in our school then another after sophomore year he had apparently moved because nobody saw creepy mike anymore oh my gosh that's terrifying i went through a similar experience in middle school but at least you told someone and they were able to help we got married had two kids then he flipped and showed how possessive and controlling and angry he really is we broke up and then he kicked me out and turned his anger from me to them now i have our kids and he has supervised visits and i have a wonderful boyfriend that the kids adore i got my confidence and emotional stability back frick yeah so glad for you tried to force me to choose between him and many activities that i enjoyed super controlling behavior i tried to break up with him like an adult he reacted by pretending i wasn't breaking up with him then escalating to telling me that he was going to take the truck we owned together and my dog and leave me in another state i switched into survival mode pretended i wasn't serious about breaking up and started looking for a way out he escalated again by reading my emails and telling me which friends i could see and when and what i could use our truck for thank goodness for my friends and google incognito mode i left while he was at work and called him from a rest stop two hours away to tell him we were done proud of you good job i hope your safety is secured and continues to be let's see multiples one he turned out to be a pedo who was only into me because i looked about four years younger than i was and was underdeveloped three years and i started looking legal so he got the number of one of the freshmen i was tutoring got her drunk and raped her called cops noped out he stalked me for months and kept asking me to marry him too controlled everything about my life from my job down to my hair color and diet he proposed then one day i got a letter from his wife he tried to lie his way out of it no doubt three turns out he was a sex addict he freaked every willing female he could find names not required he got frustrated and raped me while i was recovering from abdominal surgery resulted in my child he left me after the baby was born because he wanted a girl he later broke into my house through a window broke the glass and stole a bunch of stuff currently owes a freak ton of child support i am terrified by the fact that he wanted a girl baby so i never slept with him thankfully but he was insane we had known each other for a while but on a weekend trip as a group i noticed he was starting to be flirty after the trip he would call me and talk then one day he said i'm going to spend the rest of my life with you weird but at the time thought it was oddly romantic fast forward to recognizing he's very controlling telling me what to wear who to talk to ignoring my requests and specifically doing the opposite of what i ask i realize i can't deal with this and let him know i need to take a break from the relationship i didn't want to hurt his feelings and was trying to let him down gently that was a big mistake he continues to call me every day a situation occurs where i am upset and i tell him i'm mad and he says oh i have a few minutes want to call i said sure thinking we're going to talk about why i'm upset i start to explain and he cuts me off saying he doesn't have time to talk about why i'm mad i ask him what he is calling for and he says he just wants to hear me talk about positive things about him i hung up anyways in may i tell this guy i no longer want to date officially and he doesn't get it he comes to my house or when there's group events he picks me up instead of my other rides he tells me about how great he is and how i'm making him feel he's trash because i don't want to be in a relationship with him since it's upsetting him a group of us go to her breakfast cafe and he tells everyone he saved me a spot right next to him of course our newly married friends were talking about us coming over to have dinner and that they'd love to get to know us more in chat he was actively telling people we were together after i broke up with him i told my friends that he and i were just friends later he tells me i offended his manhood and how dare i talk about him in front of others in that way i apparently needed to learn not to insult him all i said was btw m and i are just friends anyway since may that year he would leave flowers ambush me isolate me from the group to talk to me about how we are perfect together try to convince me we are still dating etc i told him many many times in many different ways we aren't dating i want to be single i can't be in a relationship for my mental health rn so many ways and he still didn't get it i finally just stopped responding completely one day he randomly calls me after a week of nothing from him and says he thinks we are better as friends but we don't really work as a couple i tried so hard not to laugh i told him i agree and he sounded a bit surprised by that then he told me he releases me i told him i release you too hung up and laughed my head off this was in september he was insane i release you walked to crack up crazy no one held me up in one hand and went to punch me with the other hand as a very slight 18 year old girl because i hid his car keys when he wanted to drive home absolutely wasted crazy no two was arrested a couple of years after we dated in connection with a teenage girl being found dead in a suitcase his best friend was convicted i stayed for 19 years until it crystallized for me that yes everyone was right he is crazy finally got my life back and yes he still drives by my house more little than the other responses i've read but when crazy stuck their dong in me for the first and last time they said it was wrapped when it wasn't things ended there two months later i ordered chicken penne somewhere and couldn't get a single bite down i freaking love chicken and pasta and it was like i was trying to eat hot garbage surprise pregante i terminated it ruining my mental health for years to come no regrets but not something i took lightly either when he moved out of our student dorms i was unlucky enough to be hanging out outside at which point he cornered me kissed me full on the mouth and said he'd never forget me i think that's called stealthing now and i think steelers need a swift kick in the groin he didn't stick his dong in anything he was a friend of a friend and we talked at a house party exchanged numbers and borrowed a book of his this was before smartphones dude started calling me every day multiple times a day and eventually confessed to me that he believed that he was chosen by god to defend me in the coming apocalypse he would show up at my house this was right off to high school and i still lived with my parents and tried to come inside he panicked when i was ignoring and avoiding him because he was trying to make sure we were ready to rebuild civilization and fight demons he was dead serious i finally answered his call one day told him i wasn't interested in being friends anymore and i didn't want to get involved in his plans i didn't give him any explanation he wanted to come pick up his book and somehow handled this pretty well when i said i'd get back to him about it i got his address from my friend and my dad and i dropped off the book as his house at a strange hour so that i could tell him he already had it back and to leave me alone i moved out pretty quickly after that and found out he moved out of state sounds like schizophrenia sad for him but not your problem my friend dated a guy briefly who was lucid at the time but two years later he was on trial for kidnapping two adults because the gator heck was in their backyard bro there was one guy who i only dated twice he had already picked out kids names no woo-woo the next was an italian exchange student who i was just friendly to because he appeared so lonely one cup of tea led to a huge sheet of paper with love decelerations and i saw him following me about the city so i had the campus warden talk to him definitely dodged two really crazy guys we actually hear about it all the time we just don't call it that stalking domestic violence obsession possession actual violence and intimate partner assault and murder are all instances of crazy sticking its dong in us but it rarely becomes a story that we can look back on and laugh at none of this is to say that female on male or same-sex domestic violence aren't a thing just back the consequences are not lethal nearly as often and society is less likely to encourage victims to stay in those toxic relationships in the first place he broke up with me and a few months later i was staying over at a friend's i was doing dishes in the kitchen and my friend's brother was also in the kitchen cooking he had his shirt off but that was how he usually walked around the house but my ex called to ask me what i was doing i told him it was none of his business he asked me why i was in the kitchen with friend's brother with his shirt off turns out he had followed me to my friend's house and was across the street looking through binoculars into the kitchen window he threatened to come into the house but he didn't have the balls it was still creepy though looking back wish i would have grabbed my friend's brother and made out with him in front of the window what the actual frick poured alcohol into my vagina when the condom broke to kill the sperm obs against my will because that shirt hurts so bad don't recommend what the actual freak got two crazy exes both told me in the end of our relationship that they hated everyone in their lives except me both told me they were suicidal after our breakup a girl i know befriended x number one after hour breakup and he had told her that he wished to kill my cat and write on my house with its blood your next their friendship ended shortly after during our last date ex-number two told me he thought he was a psychopath because he doesn't care about people and their emotions and doesn't feel empathy at all after our breakup he stalked me through my menstrual cycle app he had the app on his phone so he could be more empathic towards me when i was having my pms but after our breakup i asked him to delete the app and he said that he already deleted it and saw that i had gotten an emergency contraceptive he went on texting me asking for an explanation later i also heard from a friend that he has nudes of me and that he likes to keep them so he has power over me don't know why these guys ended up being crazy they seemed normal guys when i fell in love with them but they turned out being crazy during the relationship i always want to give everyone a chance as i always see the good things in people but sometimes it's better to acknowledge the red flags we hooked up on friday two days later he was standing outside my door telling me to get dressed and that we were going on a walk he was being pretty loud and i had already gotten a noise complaint from my neighbors so i decide to go with him we're on a walk and i steer us towards the tourist parts of the city so we won't be alone about 10 minutes into our walk he asks me are you seeing other guys reminder i met him two days ago i say no bill he replies with okay then he was the blonde guy i saw yesterday turns out he has been following me the last two days and i start freaking out i tell him i have to go back home and he says he's going to go with me there for safety he then starts talking about our future marriage that he will take me to his parents in two weeks and that he wants kids when we're still young i kissed him by and ran into my apartment and didn't leave for days saw him on my street a couple months later but never talked to him again reminds of my bumble experiences the nostalgia of fear on dates nothing personally happened to me other than being outcasted by my entire town of 3k people no one bothered to tell me my new boyfriend was a rapist everyone knew but didn't bother to tell me anything after i found out i immediately dumped him all of this happened in a week he was found with loads of drugs on him on sunday bailed out on tuesday put his dad in the hospital on wednesday withdrew 20 k out of his dad's account on thursday and disappeared friday morning no one's seen him in three years i'm glad i didn't get tied in with that was supposed to be a one-night stand no commitment exactly what i was after next morning he starts talking relationship and how this is so much more and how we were just so sexually compatible uh nope the sex sucked all and in daylight i could see he hasn't cleaned his house in years and middle-aged not kids and relationship i made it dead clear that wasn't happening right at the start i don't do commitment or relationships unless he's super special he wasn't nice guy just a mature he kept after me for a week wanting to tell people we knew together that were a couple and then said he was devastated when i had to get blunt with him because not interested in a relationship isn't blunt enough and tell him that there was zero chance ever he hasn't talked to me since which i'm quite all right with he seems to think we've suddenly gotten divorced and is playing the victim card to our friends freaking insane just wanted a little fun apparently that's the cue for picking out curtains in daylight i could see he hasn't cleaned his house in years or middle-aged not kids heck poor hygiene was a sexual turned off for me in my twenties he convinced me that his pre-existing alcohol problem was my fault that i was controlling him by asking him not to get drunk every day and spend all our money on alcohol and cigarettes told me it was my fault that i was depressed and that my panic attacks were me trying to get attention guilted me into sleeping with him screamed at me in the street on multiple occasions brought drug dealers to our house kept me up all night arguing shouting when i had work the next day threatened to smash the front door and when i finally had enough and told him to leave 3am he was drunk i had left him in the pub hours before and told him not to come home i let him in because i feared he'd damage the house and i'd lose my deposit be charged for the damage called the police and they told me to leave because he doesn't seem that drunk he's being reasonable i still hate myself for staying with him for four freaking years he decided to change duty stations and pcs to japan when he found out that's where i was being stationed not even on the same island a guy made an anonymous facebook and told me he saw me around and loved me he knew the bar i hung out at the street i lived on and about what house was mine at one point he told me he was skulking around in my backyard he kept messaging me offers for the best sex of my life if i met up with him and wouldn't tell me who he was he freaked out when i broke it off with him threatened to jump off the parking garage to off himself stalked me online for about two years and then six years post-breakup found me on okc and sent me a message saying i was the only one for him and he's been pining over me for six years thinks about me every day and he will never date anyone else freaking nuts man when we broke up he followed me on a date cornered me coming back from the restroom and grabbed me so i couldn't move past and threatened to slit his wrists if i didn't leave the date immediately went on a date with a guy no i didn't sleep with him but a story is a story who got mad i couldn't order anything at the cafe we went to then proceeded to take me to another place a 20-minute bus away so i could eat but didn't care when i couldn't order there either they told me about his plans to rob a bank and how his friend very illegally obtained an assault rifle in australia but before executing this plan said friend got locked up for the m lab he was running in his shed yikes i decide to be nice now leave asap and ghost later because frick that gear but not before one he says it's okay if guys do drugs but if women do it's gross two the second place we went to was his workplace because he didn't want to pay for my food not that i could eat or wouldn't pay for myself three he had to go to court the next day because his ex claimed he physically assaulted him i think i believe her i ghost him but four months later he messages me again calling me ugly a junkie ass and a bee alongside a picture of him in the bathroom mirror shirtless skinny boy abs and all with the caption see what you're missing out on i wonder what prison he's definitely in now what was the most freaked up thing your ex did after you broke up i had a buddy whose aches upon breaking up raced him back to his own house got there first and then proceeded to lock herself in his room for several days i don't even think she talked much while there she would just sneak out at night time to use a bathroom buddy is kind-hearted christian parents fed her by sliding flat foods like bologna and pancakes under the door this story is the funniest crap with the bologna and pancakes my ex when i was 20 went to my parents and told them everything we did in bed my dad later pointed out we have some of the same tastes when it comes to sex then it just got awkward i'm glad i have a chill family though oh god i once broke up with a girl over the phone at that time she was in mexico city working and me in michigan she was living in cali originally she immediately caught the very next flight to my and said you're not breaking up with me at one point she hit me with a stick we only had a few dates 10 stroke 10 4 being hit with a stick i was in the process of a divorce not yet finalized i was divorcing because of ix's cheating there is this somewhat vague unclear rule that if i were to have sex with her during this time it could constitute as a reconciliation in any case x is still living in the apartment with me i get home from work and she starts to seduce me to me this seems pretty weird as she hasn't wanted to do anything sexual with me for months i know i shouldn't do this but she stripped down to nothing and gets really physical basically she strips down and starts trying to push me into the bedroom and pull my clothes off i think for a minute contemplating what i should do fortunately i decide to walk out of the apartment when i opened the door one of her friends was standing right there with a camera the plan was to get me in the bedroom and then have this friend film us without my knowledge so that she could say we reconciled using video evidence and could possibly then be entitled to alimony that friend is such a freaking scumbag my ex reopened several credit cards that we had jointly but had paid off and closed before divorce somehow she opened them back in my name and charged them to the max then moved out of state and stopped paying her car payment all of these things ended up getting reported to my credit years later and pretty much ruined any chance i have a decent credit for the next seven ten years in the us i've been divorced and lived outside the u.s for eight years now and only recently found out about all these charges i know all this can be corrected eventually but the hassle of explaining things to several credit companies and collection agencies is a major pitta this is fraud you can have her prosecuted it'll take some time investment to prove it but if you want it cleared up without paying the debts it is possible not exactly an x because we only went on three dates after the third date i left to go back to london as an au pair the guy had his sister send me a traditional african wedding dress to my host family and a letter stating that she was so happy for us and hoped i would visit her in mali i note the fck out he then had his friends and brother call me and berate me for breaking up with him had them say i could not possibly do that because his parents had already bought the plane tickets to come see me before the wedding and then tried to stick me with the costs for said tickets i changed my cell phone number and had the host family say that i had gone back home and they had no forwarding address nothing absolutely nothing and that was the most freaked up thing nine years together two married one day she tells me she doesn't love me anymore a week later i find out she's seeing another guy couple of weeks later it had all fallen apart and she moved out to go from a position when a part of everything you do is for them for the both of you to have the best life together you can sharing everything with each other to absolute silence didn't want to talk to me see me or have me contact any of her family it was like she died there and then i later found out she had got pregnant with someone else in less than a year after walking out sorry it's not a very exciting story but to me it was more freaked up being able to do that to someone than any revenge story i think this is the best answer i was in a 13-year relationship and she just turned off a switch and that was it she didn't love me anymore heart-wrenching i found it more hilarious than fricked up but mine sent me a happy mother's day card because she said i was the biggest mother in the world ha that's actually a good one went to all our mutual friends and told them that i cheated on him and he dumped me for it tried to tell my best friend the same thing pretty much tried his hardest to turn everyone against me all i did was show them the screenshots of his text messages with another girl which were filled with dong picks and plans on meeting up sounds familiar but on the flip side only they believed it all and i lost a lot of good friends for years ex-wife moved out while i was at basic took all the spoons in the kitchen serving spoons teaspoons soup spoons even measuring spoons it left all knives and forks honestly who does that maiso's ex for your information she threw herself down a flight of stairs and called the cops to say he beat her up she would hit herself and call the cops almost weekly so myso installed a gps tracker on his car to try and prove his whereabouts during the times she was accusing him of the abuse the absolute worst though was probably when she told him he could come over christmas morning to see their then two-year-old daughter open her gifts only to call the police and have him arrested in front of their daughter eventually she was recorded admitting she was making it all up and the charges were dropped it's over five years later and she did everyone a favor and took off abandoning her children who are definitely better off without that kind of crazy as a mother for wasting everyone's time there should be freaking charges against people like that we agreed that she'd collect her stuff from our place when we broke without me being there i arrived later that evening to find two gas valves opened so i guess i'm lucky i didn't light a cigarette holy crap that's some straight up attempted murder stuff right there i hope you called the cops called the police on my friend who had arrived to collect my belongings from the house we shared she had been calling me for a week to come collect my gear and i wasn't in town so ask my friend to do it the friend in question was the guy who introduced us told an army recruiter that i wanted to join and got him to come to my house to meet me ended up joining best six years of my life thanks b stole my laptop and started putting pictures of herself naked as a young girl like 13 or so and called the cops i had already reported it stolen though and it's a pretty trivial process to show when a picture is added to a computer that and the fact that she admitted that she took it from my home got me off the hook she had naked pics of her younger self stored away for just the right moment i had an ex show up at my parents house i was 19 and living with them demand we work things out i asked her to leave and she refused i grabbed my then 11 year old brother put him in my car and tried to leave she blocked the driveway with her body so i had to drive in the yard she then gets pee that i've left and drives to my mother's place of employment to talk to her about it after my mum told her to leave her work she shows back up at my house and refuses to leave again i locked up the house and she sat on the porch swing for three hours before my step-dad arrived home from work tossed gas money at her and told her to get the heck off his property she was crazy during the breakup i had an ex-block the drive with her body too like pinned against the back tyres so i couldn't even drive around her she made a huge scene about how she might kill herself because she couldn't be with me she got pregnant so quickly with the next guy that i had to do the math several times so i could sleep soundly first he checked himself into the hospital because he was suicidal then he had his mother call me and leave me voicemails trying to get me to take him back he went on all my social media accounts and liked all my pictures and posts from the past year so i blocked him on everything i ended up having to change my phone number because he constantly calls and texts me begging to take him back then when i don't reply he insults me and threatens me he sent me a box with 400 worth of gifts for my birthday yesterday he created a fake account on pinterest and messaged me 25 times he's insane i've been there although in a less extreme situation it will pass but just remember to keep your family updated and tell someone if he does something really crazy strength in numbers well there's this she told me of her new boyfriend on the very night my father died how does that count 20 years together 15 married gone in a flash when i was about 15 i went out with a girl same age from a different school the relationship was freaked the whole time very toxic person anyway i tried breaking it off multiple times and i was always faced with the old well i'll just kill myself then she used to be a cutter before we got together so part of me thought she probably would try not being something i wanted on my conscience i stayed with her for a while after getting really fed up with the relationship i broke it off for reorcies and she didn't take it to lightly told pretty much her whole school that i got her pregnant that made its way to my school which made its way to my family this was crazy we hadn't had sex at all and everyone believed her over me she even tried playing this out for as long as possible even going as far as giving herself a baby bump she was absolutely insane my god i can't imagine willingly telling everyone i know that i'm pregnant at 15 if she must have really hated you years ago late 90s found out my girlfriend that i was living with for a year was sleeping with her boss it was the week of our super bowl party we both had plenty of guests coming been planning it for over a month i bought every bit of alcohol that we thought anyone would want we were young upcoming professionals she was just under 21 not able to buy booze she pulled me aside and broke up with me on the friday before that weekend sarah coming she left to the beach with boss and told me to move on super bowl weekend so called my people moved the party took all of my furniture everything but one tv bed one wine glass and one chair no crap that was it no dishes nothing place was bare took me many hockey bags to move the booze but we drank four weeks on it i heard she had her party with everyone showing up to one bottle of wine one glass one chair and nothing else good on you i personally would have left a dinner table set up with a candle and a small microwave meal on it but i am a bit of a dong she took all my shower stuff while i was at work curtain rod all that stuff and the toilet bowl scrubber she took all that i came home and said okay not letting her take more of my stuff that's actually important so i change the locks went to work that night she calls and says she needs in the apartment to get her things i tell her nap not without me there i don't want you taking my stuff she says she'll call the cops and i tell her to go ahead cops show up at my work and ask what's going on i show them my lease with her name not on it and they say okay we'll have her come back tomorrow call us when she shows up she comes the next day and tells me she's taking my bed dollar signed 700 i tell her no she didn't pay for it and i have my credit statement printed ready to show the cop she tries arguing she's taking the bed cop says look you're not taking it if you think you deserve it take him to court tries arguing with the cop then cop says did you not hear me right take him to court didn't hear back from her about it you know what will really pee him off if i take the shower curtains yeah that'll do it tattoo a big symbol of my name on his stomach in order to try and win me back it didn't work i was 15 at the time although invited herself to my house when my dog was getting put down on the same day when she could she attempted to have sex with me i was obviously unhappy and turned her down i came to school after the weekend my dog was put down on saturday and she had told everyone that i had forced myself on her and raped her later on a month or so later she called me and told me to get back with her or else i told her i can't get back with her so she said she'd kill herself if i didn't i didn't say anything and she down 70 something pills of potassium had a friend called the ambulance she survived but wasn't too healthy for a little while oh yeah i was 16 17 when all of this happened three stroke 10 would not do again i just ate 70-something pills of potassium k ah this one still sends a bit of pain to my heart i dated this girl right before high school who was having a rough time for about a year or so she cut herself drank hydrogen peroxide in an attempt to kill herself and nearly jumped off her roof at one point her parents were mentally and physically abusive to her such as dragged her by her hair and locking her in a closet for half a day i was so worried i called child services they came she confessed that she was lying it took me a while to realize that she actually was lying about a week after i stopped talking to her from pure hatred towards her and disgust she messaged me on facebook if you can't put this behind you it's all your fault the be lied about her entire life to me and then said it was my fault had something similar happen to me b told me she was raped she cried about it all the time like bald so i talked to her mom about it one day and she said it was all bulls so i confronted my gf about it and got her to admit it then she got mad because we couldn't still be friends like what the frick man i was freaking 14 my first girlfriend totally unprepared for that crap this is what led to her breakup not the result of one when i was 15 this girl tell me i got her pregnant i go over to her house to talk and she's just tried to kill her nine years old brother with a chef's knife i pulled up to the house on my bike and see her being taken out of the house in handcuffs by two cops as she looks at me and says was just kidding about the baby i guess we never officially broke up but i figured that whole situation was as good as official if she's a crazy she might think you're still together and had 10 years in the slammer to nurture her romantic fantasies about you keep track of when they are letting her out oh sent me an album of her with the guy she dumped me for in all the places i took her i feel sorry for the guy all of his dates with her are simply focused on her ex my ex tried to gain sympathy from me by cutting her for it open with a pair of nail scissors after a night out and claiming she was attacked on her way home i know because she left a pair of bloodied scissors on the bedside table like a complete freaking welly head wilyhead new favorite insult she created a profile for me on some gay dating sites saying something like hi i'm 22 and looking for my first time with a man i'm one to try everything it had pictures of me and everything i got a lot of emails but it still took a while to figure out where they were coming from worst thing is that i couldn't get it taken down i had to abandon that email address my friend's ex-girlfriend broke up with him then logged onto his yooka's account and declined all five of his university offers so he had to wait another year to attend university and do it all again that seems like something that can be and ungiven some phone calls and be something that can be sued over [Music] first off this guy broke up with me because he wanted to be straight two days later i had to drive his butt to a con in oklahoma from nebraska prior arrangement thought we were friends still the first day we are there he says he's dating a girl he just met this girl too three days later he asked her to marry him can you guess what she said yes the girl said yes talk about herbisexual comma herbisexual this word i'm taking it thank you we were living together at the time i received a great job offer on the west coast we were on the east coast at the time called her to talk about it she changed the locks sold my stuff wrote a nasty letter to my mother and contacted the company to tell them why they shouldn't hire me i took the job and moved anyway she kept contacting the hr department she moved to the same area about three months later every once in a while i would see her car in the office parking lot it finally stopped when i sued her she got pregnant by a guy with a daughter that is older than her then the old man moved into her parents house with her funny thing as part of the reason we broke up was she needed someone who could take care of her i was in college at the time as well as working and his 40-something years of life didn't leave him with enough money to rent an apartment i'm buying a house in a few months wrong horse sugar i see she wanted a guy with a five-year plan he believed he was a vampire i began seeing him as having a not terribly strong grip on reality when we split he told our mutual friends i was some sort of pedophile but no one actually bothered to tell me what he was claiming i was for some months later until the damage was done it's a strange pain to be demonized by people who won't tell you what their problem is spread rumors that i had stds except she was the first person i'd ever had sex with which wasn't exactly a secret therefore she was also admitting to having stds if she wasn't the brightest spark took it up the ass though tried to kill himself we were together for five years engaged for three nothing like sitting at work on your second day when you get a phone call from the state hospital saying they have your fiance we had been split up for two months because he was crazy abusive and also just plain crazy i asked to be excused from work which they were surprisingly okay with hopped across town to find him in the locked ward i walked in and asked what he did seeing as he seemed to be physically unharmed turns out he was caught by security trying to jump off a building he said that if i didn't get back with him that there was no point in living i told him that there was no chance i was marrying him but i'd always be there as a support i called his mother who lived interstate and demanded she come and collect him as crazy as he was he didn't belong in a place like that with people who were so far gone there were more disorder than person they would only release him into the care of someone else and i told him it wasn't going to be me and that was the end of it the last time i saw him was just a few hours before his flight he asked for just a few hours of normal so we cooked dinner talked about mundane crap went to volleyball together with our friends and then at the end of our game she stood at the doorway to collect him and he left i guess you could say the worst thing he did wasn't trying to emotionally manipulate me it was giving me a taste of what could have been allowing me to feel something right before he left my life make no mistake i am far better off out of the relationship i'm borderline unrecognizable as being the same person but that departure ruined me for a long time never have one last fling it's better to end with bitterness on your tongue than deal with months of what ifs and butts crazy exes over it were you genuinely that crazy or just misunderstood tell your side i used to be a stage five clinger i was a die-hard romantic who turned every boyfriend into my best only friend family soon-to-be husband entire social life yay it was stressful on the guy and left me feeling constantly unfulfilled and lonely the more lonely i got the more life i sucked out of the poor guy it wasn't until i dated a guy that was a carbon copy of my klinger self that i realized what i crazy b i was so now i'm cured thanks to having to walk seven months in my shoes i was 19. he was the guy i lost my vaginity to he cheated on me and stole my nintendo ds i went to his job found his car jimmied the door open and popped his trunk i hid a raw turkey in the spare tire compartment in the middle of an oklahoma summer frick you chance this isn't crazy it's brilliant i've done a couple of things that could make me crazy but i have my reasons every single relationship that i've had i've been cheated on so that starts getting to your head a relationship that i was in two years ago was going really really well so i did whatever i could to make it work in the meantime i was super paranoid about getting cheated on and then i started to get mad at him for almost everything i literally went batshit crazy on him i threw stuff i punched stuff i made nonsense remarks and all that well he needed to go to ct for a conference he was working on his math phd at the time well still is and that's when i went even batshit crazier i didn't hear from him the entire time well he came back and apologized and said he was stupid busy while he was there that's when i realized i had to let things go and became a better person two weeks later i found out that he was cheating on me at the conference with his wife nice twist to that attack i was a crazy ex i have no freaking clue what came over me he was my first serious boyfriend and both being in our late teens we sort of outscrew each other after 18 months we split up amicably and remained close for a while but we kept slipping back into the casual affection we'd always shown each other we'd be walking together and suddenly realize we were holding hands we agreed to put some distance between us to help us both move on that's when the crazy hit me i don't really want to go into detail but i did all the classic crazy x things texting him constantly threatening suicide etc i plummeted into a deep depression and somehow blamed him for it while believing that we could get back together despite the relationship having come to its natural end it felt like a bereavement to me i don't remember how i came out of crazy mode i guess it just wore off after a while i'm deeply ashamed of it all now but it was over a decade ago maybe i reacted that way because he was my first love and at my young age 18 months seemed like a long time to have been together i knew i was acting totally crazy and over the top but i didn't care i just wanted him back at any cost it was really out of character for me to be so wildly out of control i'm a very introverted and private person i rarely let others know how i'm feeling but this was like some sort of emotional dia here my ex often tells people i went crazy after hour breakup all the stories are made up in reality i refused to take his calls or talk to him after the breakup and outright refused on two occasions to hook up when he just showed up this p him off so he told a whole bunch of people about how crazy and attached i was i ended up becoming crazy but not towards him my ex-boyfriend was an abusive manipulating butthole who pretty much brainwashed me into believing everyone including my family was against our relationship i begin to accuse friends and family of being jealous when they would suggest i should leave him because he would beat me and in my fricked up thought process i thought that meant love me more when we finally broke up due to a huge fight where i finally defended myself and he was arrested i still was obsessed with wanting to be with him contacting him saying sorry and he was feeding me lies and bulls about us getting back together but for that to happened i would have to not testify so i refused to testify and that's when he made it clear we weren't getting back together i regret not testifying since the girl before me did the same thing but she as well never testified i was under the impression she was a psycho liar which after my entire ordeal and receiving a message from one of his recent exes about his behavior i in turn realized he was the crazy one i honestly feel like most of the time when i see a crazy x-story there has to be more to it i always want to know the other side of the story i got called crazy just for being upset about a breakup so there you go you seem pretty upset about that wacko a young guy who has only loved once isn't really geared to cope with losing the one person he's ever felt strongly for as a child you try and bargain your way into everything striking deals with parents teachers and when you don't get what you want there's usually compromises upon the horizon as an adult people leave you in the blink of an eye or change overnight there's no way to compromise or make a deal with someone who no longer wants to love you when that happens you're just left throwing every emotion you have at a person i'm fairly certain i seemed crazy but trying absolutely everything and failing over and over again appeared to be the only option i suppose a little i didn't do anything particularly crazy to them just was crazy in general cried a lot freaked out about each show of commitment they gave and so on i also kept a condom wrapper as a memento i suppose that's a little bit creepy so right after college i moved 2000 miles to live with my fiance i had no job and knew no one eventually i got a job but still had no friends and was incredibly depressed after about a year with no warning on the day my mom came to visit to pick out wedding dresses from a different state the fiance took me to the side said he was leaving and i needed to move out in a week and drove to his family's home about four hours away no explanation no nothing furious and hurt are both understatements i ended up moving out going to therapy 2x a week and was on antipsychotics history of anxiety attack since i was raped at 17 so he comes back and i am in a new apartment and he decides to rethink things and asks to come visit i had already taken my ambien xanax for the night but jumped at the chance he may have changed his mind well he'd come over and apparently we had sex but thanks to the drugs i have no memory of that that night ended in the happy surprise of two positive home pregnancy tests again the complete and utter despair i felt was overwhelming i was ready to kill myself and couldn't get out of bed and the dependence of meds to keep me functional enough to work was increasing so i went to the ob gin to get a blood test and if needed an abortion doctor luckily the test said i was not pregnant and luckily i had a very aggressive type of hpv and gonorrhea turns out before freaking me the fiance had gone back to his college town and fricked someone else that was the point where depressed suicidal turned bad crap insane i was hospitalized for two days so yep i was the crazy ex and i am sure in his eyes i was unreasonable there are always two sides to a story though oh crap if there is ever a situation where being crazy was justified i think yours is it i'm sorry you had to go through that and i sincerely hope you are having better days now haha yeah i've been a crazy ex i just wanted him to understand how genuine my feelings for him were oh my god i was so young and innocent it took me a few years to learn that he in fact wasn't suited to me at all also it took me a long time to learn that relationships don't make you happy when you're not yet happy within yourself i'm sure i'm a crazy ex for one guy now should have realized from the start that if someone has only crazy x's there's one common denominator misunderstood i rebound it onto another guy first ever rebound will never do it again for whatever reason i expected things with the new guy to be exactly as they were with the ex so i was acting like we were a married couple even though we'd only been dating a month he probably thinks i'm the controlling miserable ex who went crazy at the end didn't like that i was splitting up twice in such a short period and that i'm bonkers i'm not he just caught me at a very very bad time don't ever rebound it doesn't work i tied up while reading this because this is exactly word for word what happened to me jesus christ and for some reason while i have no interest in my rebound at all it still bothers me to know that he still thinks of me as a total psycho when really it's exactly like you said he just caught me at a very very bad time i hate it when someone starts a sentence with i had a crazy ex i was 15 and she was 14. my goodness i found your problem granted there are such things as genuine mental issues as a young person that follow you for example killing animals is a good indicator of long-term crazy i will not discount you if your story involves serious issues but constant calls and texts to a 13 year old brain is so much different from an adult doing it but can we all agree that we were crappy 14 year olds we were all crazy and deserved no one strongly believe that a lot of crazy ex behavior is due to the dumper not being honest enough we're so terrified of hurting each other's feelings that we end up with the it's not you it's me and i'm not ready for a relationship right now crap when actually you're leaving them because you're bored of them or they have annoying habits or you fancy someone else or they are crazy or you don't like the way they treat you yet still when it comes to the crunch it's can we just be friends blah blah well of course when you let someone down that gently if they really love you they're going to think there's a chance you can get back together this goes especially for people who booty call exes if you keep dangling food in front of their noses how do you think they're going to react don't abuse your position of power as the dumper be honest if not cruel just explain carefully and rationally what went wrong straight away the craziest thing i've ever done was give her the opportunity to walk in and out of my life over and over again i'd never faltered in my commitment to her always forgiving her for disappearing for months at a time only to walk back in as if no time had passed it's been almost a year now and in the back of my mind i still find myself waiting for that out of the blue call from an unknown number with her on the other end knowing that i'm still crazy enough to take her back i had to out crazy her to get her to leave me alone she cheated on me and refused to accept that i had broken up with her she still told people we were dating and would show up at my house so i just had to go ballistic angry i mean she would show up to social situations i was at so i would just have to start screaming at the top of my lungs at her and throw crap at the wall so to her friends i'm her angry ex-boyfriend but it's what had to be done to get her to leave me the frick alone you're supposed to own your crazy still reads like you're in crazy denial he's not a redditor so his stories have never been posted but his friends and family think i am a crazy bee one crazy because he thought i was cheating and instead of calmly proving otherwise i threw a chair at him and broke his thumb misunderstood because i left my laptop on and open in the kitchen because i was checking my email when he came over he immediately walked over and started scrolling through and clicking on messages understandably right my reaction was dude what are you doing and i closed my laptop he freaked out thinking that i was hiding something and was cheating on him he started picking things up and throwing them at me he did this a lot including a metal teapot full of water from my stove i have a guinea pig and he proceeded to kick in his cage it fell on top of my piggy and i didn't know whether or not he was alive at this point i picked up a chair to protect myself and my possibly dying guinea pig and as i was lifting it he put his arms out in front of it and the chair hit his thumb too crazy because he sent me to jail for battery misunderstood because he finally agreed to pay me back money he borrowed almost a year ago if i gave him a receipt i wrote it signed it and he took the receipt without giving me the money in an attempt to stop him from leaving i took his glasses off his face so we could do an exchange in the process i accidentally scratched his nose no a big deal he didn't feel or notice it and we stuck around for 30 more minutes talking things over we then parted ways and went home next thing i know three cop cars show up and lock me up for battery i got let go with no charges no court no bond or bail and all the law enforcement involved laughing at the ridiculousness of the situation but i was locked up for over 24 hours denied vegetarian food and the medication that i take daily sleeping on the floor the freaking frick when i was 18 my girlfriend tried to blackmail me into staying with her via threats of cutting herself drug usage and suicide when i broke up with her i still cared about her and didn't want any of that to happen so i did the only thing i could think of that wasn't caving into her demands or allowing her to hurt herself i called her dad and explained everything and emailed him the aim logs of her telling me these things i got calls texts and aim messages from her friends and guys she dated for literally years afterwards about how i made up lies to her parents and ruined her life and telling me how they were going to kick my butt her story was that she broke up with me and i faked all of the evidence to get back at her for dumping me as far as i know she still might be telling the story of her crazy ex who tried to get revenge against her by telling lies to her parents a buddy of mine turned into crazy eggs but refused to accept it we were all telling her that sitting outside his house at 3am wasn't normal or healthy she insisted it was the only way to feel close to him and he had to understand jeez i was nuts can't believe the guy put up with me for that long turns out i was incredibly depressed and suffering from severe anxiety issues i was so insecure paranoid and controlling a few weeks after starting the antidepressants i felt like a new person like i could finally deal with life like a rational human being life is so much better now i was decently crazy jealousy and lots of snooping however he was a selfish butthole who cheated on me multiple times so i feel like it was justified but i definitely should have broken up with him after the first time and just avoided the whole crazy thing completely i was a crazy ex and i didn't even know it while we were separated the ex knocked up one of his girlfriends he wanted no part of that and told her that i had hired a pie to spy on him this pie was following him and listened to his phone lined so he couldn't see her or talk to her on the phone anymore yeah such a winner no i didn't hire a pie and eventually she had a miscarriage so he didn't have to be responsible for that one i was once with someone who brought the worst out of me it lasted for years and i lost who i was but now i am slowly going back to my old self and looking at it from afar i was completely out of character with my inexcusable behavior out of pain and being lied to and used for years i made someone the center of my life and that place was really not for her kind now i realize that moment in my life stands out in an otherwise plain uneventful existence i don't mind living my life the way i do i like working for things i like taking safe steps i like taking my time for things that are worth taking my time i wasn't crazy i was stupid the idealized version of her the one she carefully lied about was worth it who she really is isn't at least not my time and hopperfully she will from now on get treated the way she truly deserves nothing more nothing less be it good or bad it is really not my role and time will put this person in its rightful place right next to other people who once meant a lot and are back to just being plain people i don't remember how they felt or how they smelled or whether my heart rushed at their thought or not acting crazy was a desperate attempt to make sense out of a giant pile of bulls and i will never know the truth but so that's over let life get her back everything we do always ripples yeah i was the crazy ex to the other girl he was seeing we had been living together talking marriage and when his side piece found out about me he told her i was this crazy ex who didn't want to let him go and would stop by all the time yes i would stop by the house where i lived for two years because i lived there when i found out about her i moved out that day when i was moving out he got physical with me because he didn't want me to leave so when she reached out to me later and told me all the crazy things he had told her about me i had to just laugh when she said i heard you bit him yes i did bite him when he six feet three had me pinned down and was attempting to strangle me five feet two i'm sure he was scared for his life what a wacko i am good of you to ask there are always two sides to every story especially when you date a sociopath good times i am not the crazy ex but i am the awful boy that you started to fall for in that decided to never call you again the one you date for a month or two and that never calls you back for no specific reason i am deeply sorry i used to be that selfish i have no excuse i can only say i don't do it anymore inexperience causes the most problems an experienced person will not always remember how it felt when they were inexperienced therefore foresight is learnt and if someone is in their first serious relationship and they see it breaking down they will resort to drastic measures as to them at that time it is the be all and end all i went crazy on my first failed love we broke up got back together for a month and then he called it off for good i cried myself to sleep for six months every night whenever i saw him out i would stand in front of him and try to speak but just cry in public standing in one spot in front of him and just cry until he got up and walked away i didn't care who's for i just wanted him to know how much pain i was in so he would take pity and love me again he called me once to find out if it was okay that he went on a date with our mutual friend i said okay then called him back five minutes later screaming and crying he eventually left the country to get away from me i think he still loved me but knew we weren't a great fit big age gap i called him before he left and said i would go with him it's our last chance he politely declined in retrospect he was really well behaved in the face of all this and was never nasty to me took me five years to get over him learned my lesson though coma i thought he still loved me hopefully iftfy was the crazy x when i was about 16 had this odd sort of long distance relationship with a guy who was very on and off with his feelings on multiple instances he'd go from telling me he loved me and missed me terribly to an hour later saying i was too emotionally invested and needed to give him space i thought i was in love with him i realize now that i was just lonely and was probably a bit overbearing to be honest but i was also in a constant state of hurt and confusion due to his changing his mind on me so frequently and b his constant posts on facebook about other girls how cute so and so look tonight how much he loves such and such etc at least once a week we would have a big falling out where i would get upset over something he said over another girl and he would tell me i was overreacting and that he'd always been this way he was just friendly of course he loved me more than he loved those girls he just couldn't make that publicly known because his mom didn't like me and what would happen to us if she was upset at him for liking me i found out also that he frequently told our mutual friends about how crazy and overly emotional i was and even made up stories about things i had said done to make those friends ostracize me after about eight months of this on and off again deal he ended things and then was min [ __ ] by the fact that i didn't want to talk to him day in and day out we'd been best friends before the relationship started after two months of him constantly interrogating me about why i wasn't being more talkative and friendly i told him i still had feelings for him and it was hard watching him move on to other girls and he pulled this crap with i still have feelings for you too i just didn't think you'd forgive me and take me back in my defense when he ended things again three days later that was the final straw i didn't give a crap anymore and two months later just as he was trying to start things up again i met a guy old x tried desperately to talk me out of going out with the guy and i blocked all of his numbers and accounts and cut all ties tl dr was strung along and min [ __ ] for almost a year then called the crazy ex due to my perpetual state of upset not sure if i really was the crazy one in the relationship you guys be the judge of that i consider myself pretty sane and reasonable however there are people that have the ability to bring out the terrible and ugly in you i had an ex that was a habitual over the line stepper that is chatting up girls in front of me and getting their number because they were from europe as he was calling my non-stop when we fought crying hysterically because i wouldn't return phone calls spitting in my face throwing my personal belongings around the apartment it was really tough to deal with because i loved him so much into me at the time his redeeming qualities seemed to outweigh these nasty outbursts he definitely brought out the ugly in me because he upped the ugly ante so much before i got out i ended up with a domestic violence charge but thankfully it was thrown out remember kids don't let crazy stick his dong in you life pro tip when a potential spouse has a lot of crazy ex's stories they are probably the crazy one it's amazing how they can twist events to suit their needs i am astonished at the self-awareness possessed by the people coming forward on this thread sincere congratulations and appreciation for realizing your missteps and sharing them with others in all of the instances of my being a crazy ex i was between 14 and 17 my boyfriends between 19 25 they wanted sex i wanted more i told them i wanted more and they strung me along for the sex instead of being up front and walking away the first time a guy was up front about only wanting a fwb situation i was 19 and into it i didn't want to be attached after a string of buttholes who just use me for sex when they could have moved along i was ready to try something new and have all parties be honest about their intentions turns out this fwb falls in love and i turn into the butthole sure after a year i loved him but not in a be with you forever way three years after it ends and still get random emails from him about how awful i am for stringing him along it hurts because i was very careful to not let him on i told him it wasn't forever i cared for him but i was not going to be his wife ever period it is almost insulting being someone who was actually led on and lied to and was given false promises i hope he finds what he wants out there moral of the story if you wanna get your dong wet find someone who is cool and emotionally stable enough to have a fwb situation not a teenage girl seven years your junior who still believes in fairy tale love people who were made to choose between your pet or your partner how did your ex react when you chose your pet this is my favorite story from when i worked in a shelter a guy came in to surrender his cat with the reason that his girlfriend didn't like her he starts filling out the paperwork but part way through he just stops and says screw this i'm just going to break up with her instead he picks up the cat and walks out the door presumably to leave his gf i hope he stuck to it and he and his cat got a happy ending that guy and cat lived happily ever after not directly relevant but we once took in a dog whose human was asked to make this choice beautiful vaimarana the guy brought the dog out to our house on a hill in the woods with acres to roam dogs absolutely love it out here and we spent some time walking around letting the dog get used to the place and meet our other furry residents we could tell it was really hard on both of them when he left the next day he kicked the woman out and came back for the dog happy ending all around i'd say reject woman return for dog she acted like she never even considered i choose the cat over her i don't think that thought had ever entered her mind then she went into a big spiel about how i'm a loser i'm missing out there's only one of her etc etc yeah i knew all that when i put my foot down over her idiotic jealousy of the cat liking me more than her the cat is now 16 and still with me happy in her senior years there's been other women since her ones that treated me a lot better than she did it was a total win for both the cat and myself it's a good thing that there's only one of her because she sounds like someone you wouldn't ever wanna date again well he got jealous anytime i'd even pet the dogs in front of him he started treating them terribly eventually he told me basically that he knows i wouldn't get rid of them but so long as they were around our relationship would be negatively impacted and would deteriorate then we broke up shrugs imagine feeling threatened and jealous of your soul of 14 years petting a dog they are well behaved housebroken no behavioral issues no financial burden and honestly they are low maintenance in the attention department too far ahead when i noticed something was very often went ahead and proved him right i didn't get rid of my dogs and i just started distancing myself my ex asked me if she thought my dog liked me or her more and i said me she got genuinely mad and told me i am supposed to just lie to her didn't last long not me but my sister choose our cat over her boyfriend of four months he was furious when she dumped him and called her an idiot for picking a dirty fleabag over him cat was not a dirty fleabag he just hated pets and wanted to try to control my sister i was relieved when she dumped him i never got good vibes from him jesus i can't imagine having the gall to demand any kind of lifestyle change after only four months in a relationship let alone one as major as getting rid of a pet i remember him saying my diabetic cat needed to go so he could get a dog we weren't even living together i looked him dead in the eyes and said my cat will outlive this relationship considering she was really sick at the time he said it was unlikely and stormed off we broke up six years ago and my cat is still going strong that's amazing i'm worried about my cat getting diabetes because he's really resistance to bring handled and i think injections would be awful for him but it's so good that she's doing so well i found out my girlfriend was hitting my dog when i wasn't around i left her and she was unable to admit that was the reason i guess answering the question of what happened to you guys whether he found out i was secretly hurting his dog might make for awkward conversations not my story but my friend his gf forced him to choose between her or dog but that dog was remaining memento from his deceased mother and of course he instantly dumped his gf his gf went from faciful with expectations to beat red full of shame and anger and smashed his house windows when she left his house hope she got arrested not exactly what you asked for but i knew a couple that had to break up because she was badly allergic to his elderly dog they were both understanding of the situation and theirs was no animosity they ended up getting back together after the dog had passed away and are now very happy i bred to ranchers professionally for a few years most were in a specially designed shed outside but i had a few in the house was totally upfront with people when dating and if it was a deal breaker then no hard feelings i dated this one guy for a few months but we'd always go out or tennis i didn't really think much of it around month four he started getting annoyed and one day straight up asked me how long it was gonna take to sell a few spiders i thought he was talking about my actual job so i was like oh i sell them in bulk to a supplier he's coming round on tuesday actually and my bf was so relieved but i couldn't really understand why so the dude comes round on the weds and sees the tarantulas in the house and goes on an absolute tirade about how i lied to him how i've broken his trust and how he's gonna need time to heal ngl i just burst out laughing i was like you really thought i was gonna give up my job for you well that was apparently not the reaction he expected he stormed out yelling about how i was such a dumb beef and not realizing how great he was lameo tried to crucify me on social media but he just ended up looking like an idiot lol what an idiot my only request would have been that the ones in the house not be in the bedroom big nocturnal boy go shuffle shuffle true story i'm paraphrasing my friend had his girlfriend spend the night at his house while he was making her breakfast she began complaining about his nasty dog my friend told her you should stop complaining the dog lives here and you don't they broke up a week later had an old friend who chose her ex's dog over the ex and though there was no choosing and the ones not around any more sense my dog one thousand percent loves my husband more than he ever loved me if i had not married my husband pretty sure my dog would have given me an ultimatum was getting a divorce and the ex-wife demanded my dog or she'd take me to court over the house i reluctantly gave him to her she called me five days after taking possession of him he was chewing everything of hers peeing all over her and her new boyfriend's house i got him back and he never did any of that for me still have him and he is 15 years old now i'm just glad she never put him down for doing that and returned your boy to you i dated a guy who told me he would convince me to choose him over my cats i broke up with him shortly after mostly due to that was happily single then my now husband comes along and says i've always wanted to be the husband of the crazy cat lady way to win a girl's heart i had an ex that joked about putting my cats in a burlap sack and throwing them into a river i told him i'd rather stick him in a sack tie it to an anvil and drop him into a river instead we didn't date for very long true story x says i am leaving i am all worried about our cats don't want to lose them don't want to separate them x says don't worry i am not taking the cats immediate relief you'll probably have your differences but you've got to respect that i found out that me ex had been talking to her mom about putting my dog down while i was at work and just telling me she ran away or something before that moment i never would have thought i could have violent feelings towards a woman but now i know in my heart that there's a serious possibility i would have hurt her had she actually done it daryam that's freaked not me but my sister was dating a guy who angrily accused her of loving her elderly cat more than him she said she did she had had him for 14 years and they had only been dating for about a month guess he wasn't expecting that because he just kind of shut up and left the house the dog chose me yellow while i divorced my husband and his dog destroyed his house and sadly wouldn't eat properly or do anything but stress until he came to live with me and my dog but to be fair my ex is terrible at pets he just kept him outside all day and night with no interaction the dog is a great dane and at the time it was me my toddler and my dog in a little townhouse but we gladly took in the big guy over keeping him alone and miserable with his actual owner you can learn a lot about a person by how they treat animals two friends of mine dated seriously years ago girls cat had jealousy issues and peed on guys shoes guy put cat in the bathtub and peon cat relationship didn't last much longer the cat pisses on my stuff and it's fine but i pee on the cat and suddenly it's a huge deal what a double standard not my partner but my mom gave away my dog when i was away on a trip visiting my sister when i was 18. she called me while i was away to explain my dad was going to leave her if she didn't rehome him fast forward several years later my mom gave her cat to my seven-year-old daughter only to later take the cat back after getting mad at me for something two years later my daughter still cries over missing the cat i went no contact with her immediately following that incident terrible i ended it before she gave me the ultimatum i would notice that she would get really annoyed with my dog some days welp we broke up once i noticed that hello well my dog will never break my heart on purpose my former best friend gave up her dog and her cat for her boyfriend of six months he said that he was afraid of animals but was willing to get therapy to deal with his fear and then after they got serious he straight up backtracked this was one of many red flags and said he could never live with them her animals were the most docile sweet pets ever i was living with her at the time so took care of them frequently as she basically abandoned them to stay at his place from the week they met she sent them to live with her dad in texas so she could move in with him asap speaks to how desperate she was to have a boyfriend but i felt so so bad for the dog especially as he really loved her couldn't look at her the same again after that on our first date my now husband was talking a big game about how he doesn't like cats and cats don't like him while we were hanging out in my apartment with my two cats i said well they were here first so don't even think you'll win that one he wasn't asking me to choose but i wanted to make dang sure he knew i wasn't going to deal with any sort of ultimatum you can't now catch him holding one of our four cats to the window and showing them interesting things outside or burying his face in belly fluff i've found that a lot of people who claim to dislike cats or dogs come to love them as they live with them longer it's not always the case but it's hilarious when it is lightly related i had to talk myself into adopting a cat eight years ago and i vehemently convinced him sadie chose him the moment we got her latched onto him in the car and cuddles him every single day since kisses him to wake him up greets him at the door she walks away when i enter the house and she sees it's not him i'm lucky if she even meows at me she's cuddled me maybe ten times in eight years i beg this cat that i fought so hard to get for attention she's one of our favorite parts about our relationship eta thank you kind redditer for the award made my manses and i smile to read how much some of you can relate it really baffles me how some people don't understand how much a pet can mean to someone i remember one of my dogs dean overnight before a school day at secondary school and my teacher mouthed off to the class about me taking a day off for a pet's death my dog died the morning i had a massive test at school i still showed up albeit late and red eyed but was thankfully sent home when my teacher asked what was wrong i know this is a complete 180 of the topic but still thought it relevant for the post about five years ago my then girlfriend now wife was talking about bringing her dog back to her apartment from her exes we had only been dating for several months but i knew this was for real and i did not want the responsibility of a dog i had expressed as much to her not that i don't love animals i just don't love them in an apartment she had her stay with her ex because he had a large yard but she had previously been attacked by his two pit bulls pretty badly well her ex called to say she had jumped the fence into the green belt and got rolled up by coyotes it was definitely those two dogs again when i walked into her apartment after she got her back i almost started bawling this poor girl had several dozen stitches and about five tubes sticking out of her body to drain blood not sure a poor thing looked like a beat to crappy eno or something it didn't matter though she ran and jumped right up on me wagging her tail and licking me i fell in love immediately and now the only thing i don't want is for her to ever go away drains are put in to get rid of the fluid that builds up after massive tissue damage they also drain pus if an infection is present for that poor pup to have five drains means she was fricked up six ways from sunday give her some cuddles from me i personally didn't want any animals when i met my girl she had three dogs around 80 pounds each that live in her house it really made me nervous about living together i was never much of a domestic animal lover i personally saw it as a waste of time and money we've lived together for three years now we have five dogs now and they are the best part of my day never knew what i was missing out on i have an elderly rat going on for years which is quite the featuring for a rat i've raised him since he was a baby with his brother who passed away two winters ago when we moved in with my in-laws over the summer they didn't want me to bring my rat i straight up told my partner that i'll live somewhere else for a while we'd been living together for almost three years at that point because my rat is my responsibility he's very old and that i was going to see him through to the end they were a little upset and accused me of choosing the rat over them but i explained that he's an animal that relies on us it worked out i convinced my in-laws to let me bring him and we're all still kicking he's on his last days and i'm glad i'm here with him he'll be buried with his brother when it's time oh gosh you're such a good pet parent i was in elementary school when my step-dad made a comment about getting rid of my cats i told him that we had the cats longer than him and i liked them better he looked at my mom to defend him and she told him she had told him not to talk about my cats one passed away at the age of 14 when i was in college and the other passed away at 19 after i had graduated he was never cuddly with them but was always nice after that conversation 20 plus years later he has his own cat that adores him and hates my mom i love that your mum had your back he's looking for agreement and all he gets is i told you so i was seeing someone and in the beginning they would gush over the dog pics but then they started getting mad because i wouldn't stay the night at their place have to let dogs out at bedtime and in the am they said they could handle one night without me and if they were desperate they could go to the washroom in the house and i could clean it up later that kind of attitude kind of disturbed me so i nope the f out of that relationship before we'd even started getting remotely serious my ex used to chase his cat around the house poor kitty was so scared i took him to divorce caught over that cat now she's sleeping on my lap with her sister and she never has to run around the house unless it's happy zoomies i had a friend who was dating this real butthole guy one weekend her parents came to town with a puppy let her play with it and love on it all weekend at the end of the weekend they said you can keep this dog if you dump butthole she didn't even think about it dumped him immediately ro that's the first time i've heard of a family intervention that didn't just alienate the person even more from their family well played when my husband and i first started dating he was pretty jealous of my dog i bottle raised at pup the mom rejected the litter i could only take one travelled across the country with him had snuggled him almost his entire life that dog is probably the closest i will be able to get to having a child he goes literally everywhere with me so when my now husband brought up the hypothetical situation in which i would have to choose between them he was not happy when i said i would choose my dog hands down i made it very clear to him though that a large part of the decision would come from his forcing me to choose my dog oh and i are a package deal made to choose that really happens i've had my dog for 12 years and i've known my wife before for her to expect me to get rid of him would be insane i've told my wife a hundred times if they were both hanging off a cliff and i could only save one of them i'd save her but i'd take a second to think about it first my husband tells me the opposite lol his rationale is i am more capable of saving myself than the dog i agree she has zero chance and i have some chance hanging off a cliff i have started seeing someone recently who loves her cass i am highly allergic and have not mentioned it yet only been on three dates i'm afraid it is going to be a deal breaker it's a shame as things are going really good so far there are medical treatments available now for pet allergies check it out before giving up on the relationship i recognize the cat came with my partner m and that she is the only person who is allowed to sleep on his chest i know my place never had to choose but i remember how when i first met my boyfriend he thought that dating a girl with a dog would be a deal breaker for him fast forward over a year and a half and him and my dog are best friends love playing together and cuddling and he cares about him like i do my best friend hated dogs until he met his current girlfriend he used to complain that the dog is always there and is stealing attention from him but he knew that she was an animal lover and that she will always adopt or foster animals and he loves and respects that about her he now also fosters animals lol i think if you love someone and you get in their lives you won't try to change their dynamic but instead try to find your place in theirs a pet cannot be abandoned just because you want more attention that's not how it works also people that get jealous of pets cannot be mentally stable really you're jealous that i pet my dog and cuddle with him in my house please i never knew how bad some people could hate cats me and my fiance seven years broke up and i think it was partly because i had gotten a cat a year before she moved in when she finally moved in she wanted me to get rid of it she left after barely six months of living together my ex was allergic to cats and had asthma i had a cat he just kind of moved in with me without asking over time i wasn't against it his allergies and his asthma never seemed to flare up or anything too badly with my cat around we kept the place clean etc he asked me to get rid of my cat multiple times i said no every time turns out the jerk was cheating on me with multiple women dropped the dude like a hot potato glad i kept my kitty lol we had a puppy together but she didn't end up liking her very much eight months later thanks to the ultimatum she broke up with me it was the best decision ever it was an eye-opener when i finally realized how unhappy i was in that toxic relationship my mom offered to take care of the puppy since i was finishing up school she's now my mom's dog and she turned 12 this year to be fair anyone giving you an ultimatum to choose between them and one of your loved ones human or otherwise isn't interested in a healthy relationship of any kind and so isn't worth your time long story short never choose the one giving the ultimatum what if the pet is the one giving the ultimatum this was a long time ago but i just started dating this person and i was told they hated my dog it was a bit of a shock but i was like no biggie just get to know my dog and you will fall in love with him so the next time we had a doggy date and he tried to kick my dog i literally grabbed my dog and turned around and walked away and that was that not a partner did an ex-roommate and my current roommate just randomly decided to get two cats one day while i was at work and then ex-roommate literally never put half a second of carob into m and i loved cats more than other roommates so they immediately became mine even though i never had a choice i love him though my ex-husband was a constant cheat terribly abusive and loved to destroy anything i owned in order to punish and control me i put up with anything and everything for over two years because i loved him the last time i ever saw him he yelled and hit my dog i instantly packed my car and dog and left immediately filed for divorce haven't seen him since he's lost his wife source of income vehicle maid scapegoat bodyguard sober driver and emotional support in 10 seconds he was absolutely astounded i chose the dog over him regardless of how many times he was warned not to act out around her she is my soul mate and i would die for her had a moment early in marriage where spout said if we want to travel we should give up the dog i chose the dog and she soon realized it was possible to love the crap out of that little guy and travel the world we loved him hard like he was our child until he recently passed at 16 it was her first pet ever and she admitted that she didn't know how much you could love your fur baby until you had one so a happy ending if you are new to the channel you can subscribe i publish new videos every day until then check another video bye for now

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Length: 140min 54sec (8454 seconds)

Published: Sat Apr 17 2021