ANNOUNCER: Tonight,
she was a sitcom star on the rise with the
hit show, "In the House." And then-- I was using. I was self-medicating. ANNOUNCER: Everything
fell apart. Hard core drugs, jail, a viral
video she'd rather forget. IYALA VANZANT: You in
your darkest moment. Wait, I have to stop. I can't take it. ANNOUNCER: Can Iyanla
help actress Maia Campbell overcome her demons? IYALA VANZANT: You turned away
from your daughter for drugs. Stop right there. If you can't face it,
you can't heal it. ANNOUNCER: Next. IYALA VANZANT: Life happens
to everybody, even me. Life didn't care that I had
written a bunch of books, traveled the world speaking,
married the love of my life, lived in my dream home,
and made a bunch of money. And then life left me
broke and feeling broken. The only way to get
back was to do the work. I did my work and put my life
back together piece by piece. I am Iyanla Vanzant, and I am
here to help you do your work. [MUSIC PLAYING] We're here in Los Angeles,
the land of the stars. I'm here to help a young woman,
a star, who'd once shown very brightly and fell very quickly. No fall from grace is easy. But when the world is watching,
that makes it even more tragic. Maia Campbell was a fresh-faced
teenage it girl in the '90s. She starred on the popular
TV sitcom, "In the House" as Debbie Allen's bubbly,
wholesome teenage daughter, alongside LL Cool J. Oh, hey. This is for you. It's a friendship bracelet. I made it for you in art class. It's beautiful. IYALA VANZANT: But in 2009,
Maia's good-girl image was shattered when a
YouTube video went viral around the country,
showing the once beautiful rising star disoriented,
disheveled, and allegedly high on drugs. Why don't they
find out your secret? Why they making a
target out of me? Today she says she's
been clean for two years. I'm on my way to visit her at
a mental health rehabilitation center where she's a resident. This episode is personal for
me because I knew her mother. Like me, she was a writer. Like me, she was a mom. I haven't seen this young
woman since she had pigtails and a plaid schoolgirl skirt. Maia. Hi. Oh, my God. This is not the
little girl I saw in the plaid schoolgirl outfit. MAIA CAMPBELL: How are you? I am fine. How are you, sweetie? Oh, my God. Oh, look at you. You're all grown up. You growed it up. How you doing? I'm fine. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. Thank you. You ready to do this?
- Yes. - You sure?
- Yes. - Are we going to your house?
- Yes. - Come on.
- OK. So this is your-- This is where I live. The courts put me in a locked
facility for a year and a half. No, no.
Wait a minute. - And then--
- Let it go. Wait a minute. We're going to fix this. The courts put you
in a locked facility? Yes. They just picked
you up off the street? No, I went there from jail. For? For petty theft with a prior. IYALA VANZANT: In 2010, Maia
says she was arrested for theft and sent to jail. Her stepfather Ellis
asked the courts to move her to a mandatory
mental health facility, where she spent a year and a half. Now, Maia voluntarily lives
at a residential treatment center in hopes of transitioning
to living on her own soon. I want you to be
clear about this. The courts didn't put you here. - I put myself--
- This was an alternative-- - Right.
- --between jail-- Right. --and moving forward
with your life. - Exactly.
- You've got to get that. - OK.
- OK. Because you're not a
victim of the courts. - OK.
- OK. Because they didn't just
pluck you off the street and throw you up in
the sober living house. Right. Exactly. So this is your-- This is my living area. But you live here alone? No, we have four
women in the house. Oh, OK. And this is our
basic living room. We have to do chores. We have to wake up every
day and go to groups. How is that for you? How is that for you?
- It's hard. Tell me why. It's hard because
we got a medication that we take every day. And the medication
slows you down. Why are you taking medication? I have bipolar disorder. And it's a piece
of my life I want to work with that it
doesn't consume me, that it doesn't take
over my whole life. Oh, it has taken
over your life. - But it has.
- It has taken over your life. Yeah. Yeah. Dumb bitches that never want
to [BLEEP] your raggedy ass. IYALA VANZANT: Maia's
rock bottom moment was 11 years in the making. After acting out on
set in 1998, Maia was diagnosed with
bipolar disorder, a serious mental condition
that causes shifts in people's behaviors and moods. Two years later, she gave
birth to her daughter Elisha. But Maia refused to take
her psychiatric medication and eventually lost custody. Maia started using drugs heavily
and said she ended up arrested and in jail over and over. So you were doing drugs,
you weren't on your meds, you had a disorder, your
marriage fell apart. I was torn apart due to the
custody battle of my daughter. Who were you in custody
battle with for your daughter? With my ex-husband. You gave it to him or
the courts gave it to him? Basically. The courts gave it to him
in a quick custody battle. I remember, however,
your mother telling me that she had to come
and rescue your daughter from your apartment. It was not a rescue. I mean, she was there
with me and everything. We were together. But she did come take my
daughter away from me. And how old was she? She was about one
or two at the time. Can you be OK with the fact
that when your daughter was one or two you hadn't
accepted your diagnosis, you weren't on your meds, and
perhaps the way you were living was not healthy
for your daughter? - Right.
- Can you accept that? Yes. So then why would you say
my mother took her away? She took her away. Did she take her away or
did she take her to safety? She took her to safety. But if you hold
it in your heart as my mom took my daughter away,
you're not going to heal that. Can you see the difference?
- Yeah. IYALA VANZANT: Yeah.
- Yeah. IYALA VANZANT: She
took her to safety. Maia's mother was New York Times
best-selling author Bebe Moore Campbell and a dear
friend of mine. She died of brain cancer
in 2006 at the age of 56. Did you know she was dying? Yeah. How often did you visit her? I visited her as much
as they would let me. They who? My family. They thought I would
cause problems. And are you clear
that a lot of the times you could have been with her
and talking to her that you were in the street doing drugs? They wouldn't let her
talk to me on the phone. They wouldn't let her
talk to me, Iyanla. They wouldn't let
her talk to me. Maia, listen to me. You were in the
street doing drugs. It wasn't like that. Maia, you were high. See, until you can say to
me, Iyanla, I did drugs, I ran the streets, I
threw my dreams away, until you can say that, Maia,
it'll always be about them and you will always
be powerless. You got to own your
stuff, baby girl. You got to own your stuff. It's not about them. Now tell me what you
did that prevented you from being with your
mother while she was dying. What did you do? I was using, I
was self-medicating, making a bunch of excuses. Wow. Somebody as talented,
as beautiful, as blessed as you are had
to be in a lot of pain-- Yeah. -t-to do what you have
done with your life. Where were you before the drugs? I guess I never
felt good enough. People are telling you
that you don't have-- Don't say people. Who said it to you? My mother and my
father were telling me that I was incapable
of my dreams, I was incapable of making
it without failing. There's a lack of support-- You felt there was
a lack of support. --in their voice
and their emotions, in their attitude
because they're waiting for things to fall apart. Let me do this. Let me come over here with you. OK. Maybe there's too much
distance between us. Look at me. Tell me about your pain. There's a lot of
pain that goes into me not being able to meet
my own needs, basically, and not being able to watch
my daughter more and have more structure in my life. And you can't meet your
own needs because why? My dad is my conservator. What does that mean,
he's your conservator? He is in charge of a
lot of choices I make. Why? Because I have
bipolar disorder. That makes me feel lonely,
like I've done something wrong. You didn't do anything wrong. Perhaps you didn't
make the best choices and decisions for yourself. Yeah. So how do we
rebuild your life, get other people out of
control of your life, and get you on your
path, which is what? Where's your path? Your path is to what? I want to get
control of my finances and control of my daughter,
and I want to get my life back. I don't want to be
having all these people in control of my life. I want to be working again. Let me say this to you. I really don't care
about your career. Thanks. Really. I want that to be
real clear with you. I really don't care
about your career. What I care about is a day that
you can get up in the morning and look your beautiful
self in the mirror and say, no matter what happens
today I can handle it. I'm going to give you this. And I want you to meet
me here so we can start doing some work about
getting who you were and who you are married. I want you to be Maia-- her truth, her
power, her weakness, her shame, her vulnerability. I just want you to be Maia. Are you nervous? A little. Don't be nervous. Come close to mommy. [MUSIC PLAYING] [MUSIC PLAYING] IYALA VANZANT: I'm
in Los Angeles today to work with Maia Campbell, the
former teen actress of the hit '90s show, "In the House." Maia seemed to be
on the fast track to superstardom with
her hit show starring LL Cool J and Debbie Allen. But it all came crashing down. Back in 2009, fans were shocked
when they saw this video online, showing Maia
gaunt and erratic, allegedly strung
out on crystle meth. Why don't they find
out your secrets? Why are they making
a target out of me? IYALA VANZANT: This
is personal for me, Maia's mother was New York
Times best-selling author, Bebe Moore Campbell. Bebe was my friend, so I want to
do everything I can to support Maia on her healing journey. Maia said she's been
clean now for two years, and she's taking medication
for bipolar disorder. Maia wants to get her
life back for herself and for her 12-year-old
daughter, Elisha. When you meet me at
the theater, no makeup. OK.
IYALA VANZANT: None. All right. IYALA VANZANT: I'm having
her take her makeup off to be as authentic
and open as she can before we start the real work. Hello, my darling. MAIA CAMPBELL: Hello. Wow. Different person.
- Yeah. How do you feel? I feel a little vulnerable. Oh, good. Just how I like it. Welcome to the Matrix. OK. So I brought you here today
for a very special reason. I want to cast
you in the leading role in your authentic life. I have no illusions about trying
to fix Maia's mental illness. That's not why I'm here. I'm here to show her
how the poor choices she's made in her
life have gotten her to where she is today. Come on. Let's have a seat here. So when you look around,
what do you think? It feels like home. I feel comfortable here. - Really?
- Yeah. - Good.
- Yeah. Auditioning for the
lead role in your life is not about what
I want you to do. It's about being who you are. I want you to be Maia-- her truth, her
power, her weakness, her shame, her vulnerability. I just want you to be Maia. That's why I had
you wash your face. No masks. Does that frighten you? Yeah. Why? Because you just don't
wake up one day and say, I'm going to face everything,
all my demons in my life. So there's your mark. (VOICEOVER) I don't
know that Maia has ever been clear about
her role in her own life. And now it seems Maia's bipolar
medication is keeping her numb, unable to tap into her emotions. So I try a different
approach, having her act out real scenes from her
own life. (TO MAIA) Our main character is
a 12-year-old girl. Oh, my God. Her parents are
overprotective. They expect her to fail. Today she's decided that
she's going to tell her mother that she wants to be an actor. So I'm going to have the
crew take the lights down. And when the lights come back
up, you're going to be 12. All right. IYALA VANZANT: Lights off. Lights on. Mommy, today is a very
important day for me. I want to be the
lead in the play. So can you sign
this paper for me. No? You can't handle that, Maia. I can't handle what? Being 12 again? Being the lead in the play. Wait a minute. Being 12 is hard. Don't come out of character. OK. Stay in character. (VOICEOVER)
I wanted Maia to see what it was like being a
little girl trying to get her parents' attention. But Maia just can't go there. I'm not going to
give up. (TO MAIA) I got another
possibility for you here. OK? Our main character is about 24. For the past five years,
she's had a starring role in a television program. Hit television show. Sound familiar? Yes. All right. But today, she comes in
after having had a breakdown. She has cursed out the
producers, the crew, and now she's fired. Sound familiar? Yes. Oh, OK. So our character is alone
in her dressing room talking to herself about how she
feels and what she's thinking and what she's going to do next. You take it from here. All right?
- All right. OK. Lights please. You've been there.
You've done it. Now, act it out. All right. Lights please. Oh my God, I can't
believe I said that. I need a cigarette. This is not my fault. If my
mother calls, just tell her-- tell her that I'm not
going back to the hospital. Oh, they're going to
send me to the hospital. Oh, my God. I do not want to go
back to the hospital. Why are they going to
send you to the hospital? They're going to say-- they're
going to say that I'm bipolar. They're going to take my house. They're going to
take all my things. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. I just got to calm down. Oh, my God. What if I have a drug test? Oh, my God. Man, this is going to be
worse than the first time. I don't want this
doctor surrounding me, telling me what I have
to do and when I can come and when I can go. Oh, my God. The way that the nurses
look down on you. You sure they're going home
after their shift is over, but you, you got to stay. I've got to stay.
Own it. MAIA CAMPBELL: I've got to stay.
- I've got to stay. MAIA CAMPBELL: I've got to stay. Did you miss your life, Maia? I miss my life right now. All right.
Tell me about it. I miss my kid right now,
so much I can barely breathe. Tell me about it. Tell me about it, Maia. Come on. Tell me about it. I want to be spending
time with my kid. I don't want to be here. IYALA VANZANT: What makes
you different, Maia? I have the power
to control my life. You're in the hospital. - But I'm getting out.
- Why? How are you going
to get out, Maia? I'm getting out with the-- How are you going
to get out, Maia? I'm getting out
because I got a higher power that controls me, and he's
bringing, he's pulling me out. Well why didn't he keep you
out in the first place, Maia? He brought me here
to teach me a lesson. IYALA VANZANT: What's
the lesson, Maia? Come on. That I can't control
my life with drugs, that I can't be on the streets,
and I need to rely on Him. Stop right there. Now let me hear you say,
I have a bipolar disorder. I have a bipolar disorder. So what? It doesn't make me or break
me, and it doesn't make me crazy or any worse than you. But you have to stay
on your meds, Maia. But I have to stay
on some medication. Why? I have to keep me stable. I have to take care of me. I have to do what I got
to do to take care of me. Very good. That's your story. Yeah. Well then own it, Maia. Tell me about the first time you
did go into a psychiatric ward. What did you think about
yourself being in a place like that? I just didn't feel
like I belonged at all. In that moment,
you did belong there. Yeah. IYALA VANZANT: Can you see that? Yeah. That's the only place
I could have been. IYALA VANZANT: To be
safe and protected. Yeah. You came off of a
hit television sitcom and ended up in a
psychiatric ward. Yeah. That's real. That's real. Do you have any
shame about that? Of course. Why? It's not where I
wanted to go from there. No, but it's where you went. Wait, I have to stop.
I want to stop. I can't take it. I don't know about this picture. You can't face it,
you can't heal it. [MUSIC PLAYING] It's been a challenging
day here in Los Angeles. But when former teen star
Maia Campbell called for help, I had to answer. I was friends with her mother. Maia starred in the hit
TV show, "In the House," with LL Cool J before
being diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 1998. Maia quickly hit
rock bottom when she refused to
take her medication and started using
hard core drugs. Dumb bitches that never wanted
to [BLEEP] your raggedy ass. IYALA VANZANT: Maia
says she's been clean and sober for two
years and is staying on her bipolar medication. She wants to get her life
and career back on track but doesn't know where to begin. Maia says her meds
keep her emotionless. This is a real
challenge for me, but I have to meet her where she is. So I bought Maia to a
theater, put her on stage, and challenged her
to do the work. I'm going to give you the scene. It's 2 o'clock in the morning. Our main character
is on Wilshire Boulevard, the seedy part. She's willing to do whatever
is required to get high. I want to know what her life
was like on that corner. Lights, please. Lights on. This is taking all night. I messed up. I need another hit. Wait, I have to stop.
I want to stop. I can't take it. I don't know about this picture. It was a bad time. IYALA VANZANT: Tell
me about the bad-- MAIA CAMPBELL: It
was a bad time. If you can't face
it, you can't heal it. If you can't say it, you will
never come to grips with it. What did she have to do out
there to take care of herself? Go there. I was in the streets,
just letting people use me. How does that
make you feel, Maia? Um, it feels shameful. Yeah. What are you most ashamed of? Um, pictures like that and-- Maia, that's not a picture. That's your life. I know. That's your life, Maia. I know. IYALA VANZANT: Look at it. What do you see? I see a girl
that was mixed up. She ran from her pain. And what do you
want her to know? I want her to get herself
together, to shape herself up. Talk to her. You don't have no right to
rule over my life anymore. You don't have no right
to stand in between me and an honest living. You don't have
the right to stand in between me and my
daughter and a good life. You don't have the right
to take away my reputation and change my name into shame. Yeah. All right. Let me give you
another character. Our main character
is at a cemetery. She's just buried her mother. And she's going to have
her final conversation with her mother
before they throw the dirt in on her coffin. Lights, please. (VOICEOVER) I feel
my drug problem had a devastating impact
on her already tumultuous relationship with her mother. Today, Maia regrets
that her drug use and behavior kept
her away from her mom during the final
days of her life. Lights up. You know, mommy,
I always thought that we'd have more time to
work on our issues, I guess. You know we have issues. Tell her what the issues are. Oh, God. Tell her. I always wished I
could be perfect for you. I wished I could be everything
you wanted me to be. I know I made a lot of mistakes. Maia, get down
there and talk to her. Get down there. Talk to your mom. When I was a
little girl I wished I could have been like
you, but I just wanted you to pay attention to me. What else, Maia? I always wanted your
approval, your acceptance. I'm sorry I wasn't there the
nights that you were sick. I just felt like I was
going to be in the way. I didn't want to-- I don't know. You do know. There's no right
and wrong, Maia. Just tell her about
your heartache. You need her to know
about how you felt. You caused me a lot of pain. Yes, come on, Maia. Talk to her. Talk to her, Maia. Talk to her. Help her understand. Help her understand, Maia, how
her baby girl ended up a dope fiend in the streets, Maia. And she died with
that heartbreak. You owe her an explanation. I was running from a lot
of pain that you caused me. And I loved you but I
hated you sometimes. And they never accepted me as
I was and that made me feel-- IYALA VANZANT: Lonely. --lonely and desperate. You felt distant from her. MAIA CAMPBELL: Yeah. IYALA VANZANT:
Tell me about that. The time she put her work
ahead of everything else. And do you--
are you aware that you turned away from your
daughter, Elisha, for drugs? Yeah. She did it to you, and now you
were doing it to your daughter. Tell me what you're
thinking right now. Um. I need to put that behind me
so I can continue to grow. How do you put
that behind you? I forgive. I just forgive her. I want to forgive you. I knew that I didn't
belong in those places because I had a family
and someone like you to pull me up and pull me out. [MUSIC PLAYING] IYALA VANZANT: I'm
here in Los Angeles to play a supportive
role in the actress Maia Campbell's recovery process. But a lot of damage
has been done. When Maia stopped taking her
meds for bipolar disorder and started using drugs, she
lost control of her life. Her stepfather, Ellis
Gordon, stepped up to be Maia's conservator. Wow. Hey, Iyanla. Hi. I've known Ellis for
years, just like I knew Maia's mother, Bebe. Like I said, this story
is personal to me. How are you doing? I'm doing fine. It's a-- Bebe and I were
doing this together, but now I have to do it alone. But it is what it is. So let me ask you this. Let me go back a little bit. ELLIS GORDON: OK. This is a lot. Yeah. I've been with her all day. Yeah. How did you manage
this by yourself? Well, with prayer. And Bebe's mom lives
with me as well. OK. So she's-- you know,
she's my support. How did you parent Maia? [INAUDIBLE]. How did your father her? Well, I mean, when
I first married Bebe, Maia was only six. Right. So I've been with her
just about her entire life. For all intents and
purposes, I don't view her as a stepdaughter. I view her as my daughter. What I did was just tried
to do the best that I could and be a parent. I don't think she
really understands the gift that you [INAUDIBLE]. I don't think she gets it. Has she ever said thank you? I think in her heart
she appreciates what I do. There's a disconnect there
and out of her own mouth. That's not to say you didn't
do the best you could, that her mom didn't
do the best she could. But she didn't feel it? Yeah, well, Maia is also
very theatrical, very dramatic. She may be because she
is a natural born actress. Right. But when we begin to
dismiss and deny and diminish the child's experience,
the way they hear that is that
we're not hearing them and what's important to them. It's entirely possible. I guess any child could
say that their parents didn't love them enough. There's a disconnect. That's kind of
par for the course. Why is that? Well, you know, it depends
on if I do what she wants. You know? She loves me to no end if
I don't do what she wants. She gets upset. She has a mental disorder. Yeah. But it sounds to me
like you expect her to act like a rational being. No, if I thought
that then I wouldn't be as involved with trying
to help her as I am. Part of her growth is going
to be about acknowledging the blessings that
she does have and not to see what you're
doing in her life as control and manipulation. Right. IYALA VANZANT: (VOICEOVER)
It's time for Maia and the man who raised her
like a father to have a talk. Maia is not feeling heard, Ellis
is not feeling appreciated. I don't think either one
of them realize just how much they both need each other. So I wanted to give you
an opportunity to share with him your experience. And I want to support
him in letting you know that you've been heard. Sometimes it feels like, as
I was growing up as a child, you knew that I was going
to maybe fail at some point and that you knew that you
had to catch me when I fall. Knowing that there was an
expectation that I would fail, I got comfortable in things
falling apart for me. Did you have any idea
that she felt that way? No, I didn't. OK. Now tell him, don't
expect me to fail. Don't expect me to fail. This time. This time. IYALA VANZANT: Tell him
what you want for yourself. What I want for myself, I want
to be able to wake up every day and take care of my own affairs. Well, it's just a
matter of me letting go. Ooh. You know? And I think that
that is something that I'll have to work on. If you want him to treat you
like an adult, be an adult. All right.
IYALA VANZANT: Good. All right. IYALA VANZANT: Good. If you had to look at him today
and ask him for forgiveness, what would you ask him
to forgive you for? Forgive me for taking
the family through so much, for making it so hard to
be there for me because I know it hasn't been easy. It's been a rough road
trying to take care of me. Have you ever
heard that before? Yeah. And what would you
like to thank him for? Well, just thank
you for being there. Thank you for making it easier. I knew that I didn't
belong in those places because I had a family
and someone like you to pull me up and pull me out. I knew that you would help
me and my whole family. And-- and I know that
you were there for us. And you meant us
nothing but good, so I want to thank you for that. Well, thank you. I appreciate that. IYALA VANZANT: Have you
ever heard that before? No. IYALA VANZANT: Now you have. Thank you. [MUSIC PLAYING] Are there some things you'd
like to say to your mom? Um, yeah. [MUSIC PLAYING] How are you doing? - Good.
- Good. Go say hi to mama. Hi, mom. - How are you doing?
- Good. - You look nice.
- Thanks. You want a hug? IYALA VANZANT: In 2000, Maia
gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, Elizabeth Elisha. But a year after
she was born, Maia says she stopped taking
the medication for bipolar disorder and lost custody. Elisha's now 12 years old,
and she lives with her father. Maia hopes to one day regain
custody of her daughter. But first, she has
to work on mending their broken relationship. Are you nervous? A little. Don't be nervous. Come close to mommy. What would you like to
share with your mom? MAIA CAMPBELL: Want
to hold my hand. That I miss you and that I
wish I was with you more often. Me too. What do you know about
where your mom is right now and what's going on
for her right now? What do you know about that? That she's trying
to get better. Better why? Because she wants to
get well to be with me and to keep going with life. OK. Now what do you
understand about why your mom wasn't there for you? Well, I understand
that she wasn't doing what she was supposed to do. IYALA VANZANT: OK. What do you want her
to know about where you are in life right now? I want you to know that I do
love you and that none of this is your fault and
that you're the reason I'm trying to get better. So you know that her not
being with you isn't her choice, because I can imagine
you want your mom there like everybody else. And sometimes your
mom hasn't been there. Yeah? And I can imagine that that
makes you sad sometimes. Yeah? And when you get sad
about that, is there-- who do you talk to about it? I mean, I really don't
talk to anybody about it. Yeah. Is there anything else
that you want her to know? Just that I'll always be
here for you, no matter what, even if I'm sick. No matter where I am, I'm
always a phone call away. In some way or another I'll
always be here for you. If you have resentment
towards me when you get older, I want you to know that
we can work through it and we can always
talk about it and I'll always be here for you. I don't care about the
resentment when you get older. I care about the sadness now. I also want you to know
that it's really natural to sometimes have
sadness or anger or upset because your mom is different
from everybody else's mom. That's natural. If that happens to you, then
I would say talk about it. Talk about it. If you can't talk
about it to her, if you don't have
anybody to talk about it, write it out in your journal. Don't let it fester. Don't let it grow. Yeah? You hear what she's saying? Yeah. What else? I just I want you to get
healthier so we can be together more and everything, be OK. And that it comes
really fast and sooner and that I'll always love you. I always love you too. Oh, my God.
Come here. Let me kiss you. Look. See, I've got to hug
you up in the bosom and rock you, rock you,
rock you, rock you. [MUSIC PLAYING] Before I go, I want Maia
to see how far she's come in her journey, to
reconcile who she was with who she is becoming,
and also celebrate the reflection she now sees
when she looks in the mirror. What did you learn about you? There's still
pieces of my life that I'm working on right now. That it's going to
take me some time to refocus and
rebuild and reinvent who I am within those pieces. Is there a piece that you
are ready to let go of today? I'm not going to let this
old me tear me apart anymore. Well let's take a look
at these pieces of you. This piece. How did the little girl
that you were become the woman that you are? Was there a breakdown? Yeah, there was a breakdown. And where did
that happen for her? I had a problem
with substance abuse. That's a powerful statement. That, I had a substance
abuse problem. Just owning that and not blaming
anybody and not pointing-- good step. Do you remember
what her dream was? She had a lot of dreams. She wanted to be good enough
and accepted and loved. Did she feel loved? Only to a certain extent. So she had to
go out to get it. But I hope today you
know that that love has to come from in here. From within. Let's take a look
at this pretty one back there in the back. How did who she is
become who you are today? She was a little
more self-righteous and a little more independent. She's less afraid to put it
all out there on the table and make things
happen and own it. Let's take a look at her. You in your darkest moment. She brought me down. I'm ashamed of that
part of myself. Can you have compassion for
her, who had a substance abuse problem, who had been
diagnosed as bipolar, who had gone off her meds? It's crazy. Somehow, through God's grace
or miracle, she became her. It's no small feat, Maia. Look at that. Can you celebrate that victory? Hallelujah. You've done good. And you're going to make it. You still have what it takes. Your trajectory from this
point forward is straight up. Thank you. [MUSIC PLAYING] It's easy to dismiss and
judge a person like Maia, for it would seem that she had
it all and threw it all away. Ah, but for the mental illness
because it did play a role. And you know what? Everybody has something. So when a star
falls in your life, the process for
them to rise again has to be about their
needs, not yours. It has to be about who they are,
not who you want them to be. So if you want to
support them, you have to meet them where
they are and not hold them hostage to where they've been. In the meantime, stay
in peace, not pieces. [MUSIC PLAYING]
