Justin; WE HAVE 3 DAYS TO BE A HOUSE WITH YOUR FAMILY? LORD. I TOLD HIM WE WOULD BE ABSTINENT TILL MARRIAGE. JUSTIN, CORTNE' CAN BE KIND OF CONTROLLING. Pauline: THAT'S WHERE INTEGRITY COMES IN. INTEGRITY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS. WHEN I WAS IN THE HOSPITAL, YOU DIDN'T SAY A WORD TO ME. SHE STAYED ON THE PHONE THE ENTIRE TIME. Cortne': NAH, I'M DONE WITH THAT. WE DON'T DO GENDER ROLES. CAN YOU RESPECT THAT? NO. I CAN'T RESPECT THAT. -- Captions by VITAC -- www.vitac.com CAPTIONS PAID FOR BY DISCOVERY COMMUNICATIONS I'M SUPER EXCITED. WE HAVE 3 DAYS TO BE -- WE GOT 3 DAYS TO STAY IN THE HOUSE WITH YOUR FAMILY AND MY FAMILY? LORD. MY NAME IS JUSTIN. AND MY NAME IS CORTNE'. Both: AND WE'RE GETTING MARRIED. Justin: CORTNE' AND I MET WHILE I WAS WORKING AT A CAFE, MAKING PIZZAS AND HOT DOGS ALL DAY. I WAS A LITTLE ASHAMED BECAUSE I HAD A HAIRNET ON. BUT I PUT THAT TO THE SIDE BECAUSE I, LIKE, PICTURED US WALKING DOWN THE AISLE TOGETHER. I WAS LIKE, "I'M NOT DATING A DELI GUY. PERIOD." BUT WE'RE HERE 3 YEARS LATER. I JUST WANT TO SEE THESE REACTIONS. LIKE, HOPEFULLY IT'S NOT GONNA BE... YOU NERVOUS? YOU NERVOUS. YEAH, JUST GO IN WITH AN OPEN MIND. YES. JUST SHOW WILLINGNESS, YOU KNOW. WE'RE GETTING MARRIED SEPTEMBER 19th, 2019. THAT'S 54 DAYS. I BELIEVE THERE'S AN ISSUE WITH THE RELATIONSHIP THAT CORTNE' HAS WITH MY FAMILY. JUSTIN'S MOM, I WOULDN'T REALLY SAY WE HAVE A RELATIONSHIP. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO BRIDGE THAT GAP. I WANT MY FAMILY TO SEE HOW MUCH VALUE THAT SHE'S ADDED TO MY LIFE. AND REMEMBER, WE'RE A TEAM AT THE END OF THE AY. AND WE'RE A TEAM. WE GOT THIS. WOW. OH, THIS IS BEAUTIFUL. -HI. -HI. -I'M TRACY. -I'M CORTNE'. Cortne': NICE TO MEET YOU. -JUSTIN. -HI, JUSTIN. WELCOME, YOU GUYS. YES. COME ON IN. WOW. WELCOME. THIS HOUSE IS JUST INCREDIBLE. WOW. I CAN GET USED TO THIS. LIKE, EVERYTHING WAS JUST PERFECT. CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT. THANK YOU. I LIKE TO KIND OF JUST START BY GETTING TO KNOW YOU TWO BETTER. SO, YOU GUYS ARE ALREADY LIVING TOGETHER? YEAH. BECAUSE I UNDERSTAND YOU WEREN'T HAVING SEX BECAUSE YOU... WE'RE NOT. OKAY. BUT YOU'RE LIVING TOGETHER? -RIGHT. -OKAY. WALK ME THROUGH THE THINKING. SO, WITH ME, I WAS AT A POINT OF, YOU KNOW, CONVICTION, WHERE, YOU KNOW, I CAN'T KEEP, YOU KNOW, DOING THE SAME THING IN RELATIONSHIPS, AND EXPECT DIFFERENT RESULTS. OKAY. I DEFINITELY KNEW JUSTIN WAS THE ONE WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT WE WOULD BE ABSTINENT UNTIL MARRIAGE. HONESTLY, IT HAS MADE US CLOSER. LIKE, REALLY, WE ARE ABLE TO TALK. WE ALMOST THERE, SO... ALMOST... ...WE'RE NOT MESSING UP. LIKE, 54 DAYS OF -- HOW MANY -- WHERE THE COUNTDOWN AT? IT WAS THE HARDEST THING I'VE EVER EXPERIENCED IN MY LIFE. I CAN IMAGINE THAT WOULD BE REALLY CHALLENGING, ESPECIALLY THAT YOU HAD SEX, AND THEN YOU STOPPED. WOULD YOU SAY THAT YOU WENT ALONG WITH THAT FROM A PLACE OF CHOICE OR NO CHOICE? IT WAS NO CHOICE. IT WAS EITHER "YOU GONNA DO IT, OR I'M GONNA LEAVE." SO, I BELIEVE THAT SHE WAS WORTH IT AT THE END. OKAY. WELL, THE FIRST THING, REALLY, IS THAT, YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU GET ENGAGED, IT'S NOT JUST THE TWO OF YOU MAKING A FAMILY. YOU'RE REALLY JOINING TWO FAMILIES TOGETHER. AND THAT CAN BE COMPLICATED. AND THAT'S WHY WE'RE HERE. TELL ME WHO'S COMING FROM YOUR FAMILY, AND TELL ME WHAT THEIR CONCERNS ARE. SO, CORTNE', YOU START. MY MOM IS COMING, PATRECE, MY SISTER BRE', AND MY DAD, RON. CORTNE' BEING DEMANDING, SO I KNOW THAT WILL BE SOMETHING THAT COME OUT. SHE'S A STRONG, INDEPENDENT WOMAN YOU RAISED. YEAH, JUSTIN BEING THE NICE GUY THAT HE IS, HE'S WANT TO COOPERATE WITH WHAT CORTNE' WANTS. Cortne': MY MOM, MY SISTER, AND MY DAD WANTS TO JUST BE SURE THAT J IS ABLE TO MAKE HIS OWN CHOICES OUTSIDE OF JUST AGREEING WITH WHAT I WANT. DO THEY THINK YOU'RE CONTROLLING, OR DO THEY THINK... OKAY, YOU SMILED. THEY THINK I'M CONTROLLING? I'M GONNA TAKE THAT AS A "YES." JUSTIN WEARS THE PANTS IN THE RELATIONSHIP. [ LAUGHS ] DID THAT EVEN SOUND BELIEVABLE? IT DID. [ BOTH LAUGH ] MY MOM MADE IT WHERE, YOU KNOW, ANYTHING WAS TO HAPPEN TO HER, I COULD TAKE CARE OF ME. AND THAT'S A LOT FOR ME TO GIVE ALL OF THAT OVER TO ANOTHER PERSON. OKAY. SO, JUSTIN, TELL ME WHO'S COMING, AND WHAT THEIR CONCERNS ARE. SO, MY FAMILY THAT'S COMING, I HAVE MY AUNTIE PAULINE, MY MOM, AUDREY, AND I HAVE MY COUSIN PARIS. I HOPE THEY'RE OPEN TO HEARING WHAT EVERYBODY HAS TO SAY. ME, TOO. TAKE IT TO HEART, AND NOT LIKE WE BEATING ON THEM, OR BEATING THEM UP, AND STUFF, YOU KNOW. 'CAUSE, YOU KNOW, SHE CAN GET THAT WAY. SO, MY MOM, I WOULD SAY HER CONCERN IS JUST SHE DOESN'T HAVE THE RELATIONSHIP THAT SHE WANTS WITH CORTNE'. DESCRIBE WHAT THE RELATIONSHIP WITH JUSTIN'S MOM IS LIKE. IT'S NOT REALLY ONE. IT'S "HEY" AND "BYE" WHEN I'M OVER AT HER HOUSE. I DON'T FEEL LIKE IT'S, LIKE, A WELCOMING KIND OF... FEEL. HOW INVOLVED ARE THE TWO FAMILIES IN MAKING WEDDING PLANS? HIS MOM, SHE HASN'T ASKED ANYTHING. YOU KNOW, "WHAT DO I NEED TO WEAR? WHAT'S THE COLORS? WOW. NOTHING. MY AUNTIE PAULINE, HER CONCERN WOULD JUST BE... I DON'T KNOW ABOUT MY AUNTIE. SHE'S VERY, VERY JUDGMENTAL. WHAT DOES SHE JUDGE? HE MADE A POST THAT SAID "I HAVE A STRONG WOMAN," OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT, AND SHE WAS LIKE, "YOU DON'T NEED A STRONG WOMAN. YOU NEED A VIRTUOUS WOMAN." WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? SHE MADE THAT COMMENT. I WANT TO KNOW, AS WELL. OKAY. THIS IS WHY WE'RE HERE. WE CAN WORK THROUGH SOME OF THESE ISSUES IN THE NEXT 3 DAYS. EVERY DAY, I'M GONNA BE GIVING YOU TASKS TO ALLOW THESE ISSUES TO COME TO THE SURFACE, AND HOPEFULLY, HAVE A HEALING BY THE END, SO THAT YOU CAN GET THAT BLESSING. BECAUSE JUSTIN'S SIDE OF THE FAMILY HAVEN'T BEEN INVOLVED IN THE WEDDING PLANS, I THINK YOU SHOULD DO SOMETHING WEDDING-RELATED. SO, CORTNE', YOUR TASK IS GO CAKE-TASTING. -OKAY. -WOW. -OKAY? IT'S REALLY ABOUT MAKING CONTACT WITH JUSTIN'S MOM IN A WHOLE NEW WAY. OKAY. JUSTIN, YOUR TASK IS TO MAKE DINNER WITH CORTNE'S FAMILY. AND THEN, THEY CAN ASK YOU WHATEVER QUESTIONS, AND THIS IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR THEM TO EXPRESS THEM, RIGHT? RIGHT. WE HOPE TO GET OUT OF THIS EXPERIENCE JUST A CHANCE TO BUILT THAT RELATIONSHIP WITH THE FAMILIES. Justin: THEY ON THEIR WAY. DO YOU THINK YOUR FAMILY WILL COME FIRST OR MY FAMILY COME FIRST? MY FAMILY PROBABLY. MY BIGGEST FEAR FROM THIS IS IT DOING MORE HARM THAN GOOD. YOUR FAMILY IS FIRST. -HELLO. -HEY, Y'ALL. -HI. -HI. -HELLO. -SO GOOD TO SEE YOU. [ INDISTINCT GREETING ] LOOKING FORWARD TO SPENDING THIS TIME TOGETHER. Cortne': ALRIGHT. COME ON BACK OVER HERE, CORTNE'. COME ON BACK. COME ON BACK. WHAT YOU TRYING -- NO NEED FOR YOU HIDING BEHIND JUSTIN. COME ON. I'M NOT HIDING. I DON'T FEEL A WELCOME PRESENCE WITH CORTNE'. ALRIGHT. WE READY. SPENDING TIME TOGETHER AS A FAMILY. THAT'S RIGHT. LET US SHOW THE REST OF THE HOME. YOU CAN TELL BY HER BODY LANGUAGE, CORTNE' DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO WELCOME US. -HEY! -HEY! -HEY. -HI. [ INDISTINCT GREETING ] WHAT'S GOING ON? HELLO! HELLO, YOUNG LADIES. -HEY! -HOW Y'ALL DOING? ALRIGHT. HOW YOU DOING? I CAN'T SAY I ACTUALLY HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH J'S FAMILY. I'M NOT AGAINST HAVING A RELATIONSHIP, BUT IF THEY DON'T LIKE CORTNE', THAT WILL BE A PROBLEM TO ME. -THIS IS NICE. -THIS IS SO NICE! IT'S GONNA BE A BLESSING. I'M LOOKING FORWARD TO IT, SPENDING... -WE'LL SEE. -...THIS TIME WITH THEM. WE'LL SEE, HONEY. [ LAUGHTER ] SHE'S DEFENSIVE AT TIMES. -SHE'S REAL DEFENSIVE. -JUST PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE. Audrey: PEOPLE CAN READ BODY LANGUAGE. PEOPLE CAN PICK UP ON, HEY, JUST LEAVE IT ALONE. -RIGHT. -I HAVE BEEN OPEN AND AVAILABLE. SHE'S NOT BEING RECEPTIVE, LET'S JUST SAY THAT. WE GOT SOME ACTIVITIES AND STUFF PLANNED, SO... YOU DO? YOU AGREE? I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY SHE'S VERY HARD LETTING NEW PEOPLE IN. I DO TAKE THAT KIND OF PERSONALLY. Justin: THANK YOU, FAMILY, FOR COMING. SO, YOU KNOW CORTNE' AND I ARE ENGAGED. WE KNOW THAT THERE IS SOME CONCERNS. PEOPLE WANT TO, YOU KNOW, VOICE YOUR ISSUES, OR ANYTHING, THAT YOU MAY HAVE. OKAY. BRE', WHAT ARE YOUR CONCERNS? J, I JUST WANT YOU TO GET A BACKBONE. JUST SOMETIMES, JUST TELL HER LIKE, "LET ME MAKE THIS DECISION. TRUST ME. FOLLOW ME." J, I'M TRUSTING YOU WITH MY BABY. I NEED YOU TO BE A MAN. YOU A MAN. BACKBONE -- I NEED YOU TO HAVE THAT. CORTNE', ALLOW HIM TO BE THE MAN OF YOUR FAMILY. EVERYTHING IS GOING THROUGH MY HEAD RIGHT NOW. I FEEL LIKE I'M BEING ATTACKED. BUT I CAN HOLD MY OWN. MA, WHAT ARE YOUR CONCERNS? WELL, CORTNE', WE ARE VERY CLOSE. I WANT EVERYBODY TO GET TO KNOW ME. I WANT EVERYBODY TO GET TO KNOW CORTNE', AND JUDGE HER ON NOW, WHAT SHE'S DOING NOW. AUNTIE PAULINE, YOU CAN VOICE YOUR CONCERNS. I WANT TO GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER, CORTNE'. WE DON'T EVEN HAVE A RELATIONSHIP AT ALL. Justin: AND PARIS? I JUST WANT TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU GUYS ARE OPEN AND RECEPTIVE TO BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS WITH ALL OF THE FAMILY MEMBERS. THERE'S KIND OF, LIKE, A BREAKDOWN IN THE RELATIONSHIP AMONGST CORTNE' AND OUR SIDE OF THE FAMILY. OH, CHILD. YOUR FAMILY IS VERY INTERESTING. I'VE JUST GOT TO HAVE THIS GUARD READY, JUST IN CASE. AND MOM? FIRST OFF IS, I WANT TO BUILD A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU, CORTNE', DIRECTLY, NOT THROUGH JUSTIN. JUSTIN IS NOT GONNA BE OUR MEDIATOR. YOU COULD PICK UP THE PHONE, AND CALL ME. WE DON'T NEED HIM IN THE MIDDLE. ALSO, YOU'VE GOT TO TRUST HIM TO MAKE SOUND DECISIONS, AND BACK UP A LITTLE. JUSTIN, CORTNE' CAN BE KIND OF CONTROLLING. AND I KNOW I HAD THIS CONVERSATION WITH YOU THAT, AS A MAN AND A HUSBAND, SHE'S GOT TO TRUST THAT YOU CAN LEAD THE HOUSE. ONCE YOU GIVE LEADERSHIP TO A WOMAN, YOU'RE NOT GONNA GET IT BACK. LISTENING TO YOUR MOM'S CONCERNS, SHE'S DEFINITELY COMING FOR ME. LIKE, I DON'T... I DON'T EVEN KNOW... WHAT ALL TO FEEL RIGHT NOW. YOU PUTTING YOURSELF IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU CAN'T TELL CORTNE' "NO." NOW, YOU CAN'T TELL YOUR MOM "NO." SO, WHAT YOU GOING TO DO? YOU MADE A COMMENT ON FACEBOOK, SOMETHING ABOUT "YOU DON'T NEED A STRONG WOMAN. YOU NEED A VIRTUOUS WOMAN." WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? JUSTIN, CORTNE' CAN BE KIND OF CONTROLLING. ONCE YOU GIVE LEADERSHIP TO A WOMAN, YOU'RE NOT GONNA TO GET IT BACK. Cortne': LISTENING TO YOUR MOM'S CONCERNS, SHE'S DEFINITELY COMING FOR ME. LIKE, I DON'T... I DON'T EVEN KNOW... WHAT ALL TO FEEL RIGHT NOW, LIKE... TRACY HAS GIVEN US TASKS THAT WILL HELP US ADDRESS EVERYONE'S CONCERNS, AND JUST BUILD OUT OUR RELATIONSHIP. SO MY ASSIGNMENT IS GONNA BE, WITH CORTNE' FAMILY, WE'RE GONNA MAKE DINNER. YES, SIR. I'M GONNA GO WITH JUSTIN'S FAMILY, AND WE'RE GOING TO GO WEDDING-CAKE TASTING. SO, WE'LL BE ABLE TO TALK, AND COMMUNICATE, AND JUST GET SOME THINGS OFF OUR CHEST. I AM VERY EXCITED ABOUT THE CAKE-TASTING. THIS IS MY OPPORTUNITY TO CONVERSE WITH CORTNE' WITHOUT JUSTIN, AND SHARE MY ISSUES WITH HER. I DON'T KNOW HOW THAT'S GONNA GO, BUT WE'RE GONNA HOPE FOR THE BEST. WHAT DID YOU DECIDE TO SERVE FOR DINNER ON YOUR WEDDING DINNER? WE'RE DOING A TACO BAR. TACO BAR? MM-HMM. OH, OKAY. HOW OLD IS YOUR SISTER, CORTNE'? 28. 28. -MM-HMM. -CORTNE', HOW OLD ARE YOU? -26. -26. YOUR 26 YEARS OLD? YEP. I JUST TURNED 26. Audrey: ON THE WAY TO THE CAKE-TASTING, TALKING TO CORTNE' WITHOUT JUSTIN WAS DIFFICULT. SHE WOULDN'T LOOK AT ME. SHE DIDN'T. AND SHE WAS SO HUNG UP ON THAT DOOR IN THE SUBURBAN. GONNA FALL OUT? I'M NOT GONNA BITE YOU. Ron: WHERE YOU EVEN GET THIS SHIRT FROM, THAT'S SPLIT, AND GOT YELLOW AND BLUE ZEBRA PRINT? WHERE YOU GET THAT SHIRT FROM? Bre': SO, I DO HAVE A QUESTION. THE CONCERN THAT YOUR MOM AND YOUR AUNT HAD REGARDING YOU GUYS', YOU KNOW, RELATIONSHIP, HAVE THEY VOICED THAT TO YOU BEFORE? YEAH, THEY KIND OF GAVE ME A HEADS UP ABOUT IT. SO, HAVE YOU VOICED ALL THAT WITH CORTNE' BEFOREHAND? THEM SAYING THAT SHE'S CONTROLLING, HAVE THEY SAID THAT TO YOU, FOR YOU TO RELAY THAT INFORMATION OR...? I DON'T LIKE PLAYING MIDDLEMAN LIKE THAT. LIKE, I DIDN'T WANT TO SAY "WELL, THIS AND THAT." SO, YOU SCARED? MNH-MNH. I WASN'T SCARED. I WAS JUST SAYING I WANT EVERYBODY TO SAY THEIR OWN -- WHATEVER THEY HAD TO SAY IN THEIR OWN WORDS. I DIDN'T WANT TO PUT NOTHING IN NOBODY'S MOUTH. SO, MY MOM, LIKE, SHE WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH CORTNE'. BUT IT WAS JUST LIKE -- IT WASN'T -- BUT HAVE YOU EVER TOLD CORTNE' THAT? YEAH, LIKE, "MY MOM WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU." SO, WHAT SHE SAID? CORTNE' WAS JUST LIKE... [ LAUGHTER ] -I LIKE THAT ONE. -THIS ONE. -I'M GONNA TRY THIS. -TRY THAT ONE. Audrey: THAT'S SWEET. YOU DON'T LIKE IT? Cortne': SO, WE DID HEAR SOME OF YOUR CONCERNS. I HONESTLY DON'T FEEL LIKE THERE WAS EVER A TIME WHERE IT WAS A WELCOMING SPIRIT IN YOUR HOME. WELL, I THINK WHAT STARTED OUT, HE SAID YOU SAID HE WAS A MAMA'S BOY. AND I DIDN'T EVER THINK HE WAS, BUT... WELL, YOU'RE NOT GONNA SEE IT, BUT HE IS. I'M NOT GONNA SEE IT, NO. SO, THAT STARTED THE DISCORD. YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN? IT DEFINITELY GOES BACK WAY FURTHER. THE FIRST TIME WE CAME TO YOUR HOME, YOU ASKED J ABOUT ANOTHER GIRL. BUT IF HE HAS SOMEONE ELSE AT YOUR HOME, WHY WOULD YOU ASK HIM ABOUT ANOTHER GIRL, LIKE... BUT THAT'S... THAT'S WHERE THE DISCONNECT STARTED. IF I TRIED TO INTRODUCE HIM, I PROBABLY DIDN'T KNOW THE DEPTHS OF Y'ALL RELATIONSHIP. 'CAUSE HE WOULD COME HOME, BE LIKE SAYING, YOU KNOW, "THIS GIRL TOO MUCH FOR ME" -- YOU. AND HE WAS LIKE, "I CAN'T DO IT." YOU? SO I'M GOING ON WHAT HE TELLING ME. YOU KNOW, YOU WERE AT A POINT OF TELLING HIM THAT I RAN ALL HIS FRIENDS OFF, AND THE PEOPLE THAT WAS GOOD FOR HIM ARE NOT THERE ANYMORE BECAUSE OF ME. BUT THE FRIENDS ARE TELLING ME THAT. WHEN YOU MEET SOMEBODY, AND FALL IN LOVE, LIFE JUST THROWS -- YOU GONNA CUT THE WHOLE WORLD OFF? FROM THE OUTSIDE, LOOKING IN, YOU REALLY DON'T KNOW, YOU KNOW, WHAT'S GOING ON. YOU'RE BASICALLY GO OFF HE SAY, SHE SAY, INSTEAD OF ACTUALLY GETTING TO KNOW THE PERSON. Paris: CAN I MAKE AN OBSERVATION? CORTNE', WHEN YOU TALK TO PEOPLE, YOUR BODY LANGUAGE, YOUR FACIAL EXPRESSIONS, IT COMES OFF AS DEFENSIVE. LIKE, THAT DOESN'T SEEM GENUINE. YOUR BODY LANGUAGE SPEAKS UP MORE SO THAN YOUR VERBAL LANGUAGE. SO, OVER THE YEARS OF BEING AROUND YOU, I ALWAYS PICKED UP -- YOU ALWAYS KIND OF BAT YOUR EYES, OR YOU DON'T NEVER GIVE ME EYE CONTACT. LIKE, YOU FLIPPANT, LIKE... ALWAYS LIKE, "UNPH, WHATEVER, UNPH." KIND OF LIKE THAT. I JUST WANT CORTNE' TO BE ABLE TO... GO TO YOUR MOM AND TALK. ...HAVE AN OPEN MIND. I MEAN, SHE MEAN GOOD, BUT HER DELIVERY IS JUST -- HER DELIVERY IS NOT THE BEST. CORTNE' GET A LITTLE NASTY IN THE FACE. YES. IT'S HER FACIAL EXPRESSION. IT'S LIKE -- YEAH. Ron: Y'ALL NOT GONNA DO THAT TO CORTNE'. YOU'RE NOT GONNA DO THAT TO HER, 'CAUSE SHE GET THAT FROM HER DADDY. SO, YOU'RE NOT GONNA DO THAT. I JUST -- I WOULD SAY I AVOID SOMETHING TO... SO I DON'T WANT TO, LIKE, MAKE HER MAD. LIKE, OKAY, IF I WANTED TO GO DO THIS, CORTNE' GONNA GET AN ATTITUDE. JUST LIKE "COOL, YOU KNOW WHAT, I JUST WON'T GO DO THAT TODAY." YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING? SO, I KEEP THE PEACE. BUT THAT MEANS THAT YOU'RE NOT ENJOYING YOURSELF, THOUGH. -YEAH. -AND I FEEL LIKE THAT'S THE THING COMING BETWEEN YOUR MOM AND CORTNE'. LIKE, YOU TRYING TO BALANCE SOMETHING TO MAKE BOTH OF THEM HAPPY. YOU PUTTING YOURSELF IN A SITUATION WHERE, YOU CAN'T TELL CORTNE' "NO." NOW, YOU CAN'T TELL YOUR MOM "NO." SO, WHAT YOU GONNA DO? YOU'RE IN A SITUATION WITH A NO-WIN WIN. YOU'RE IN THE MIDDLE, BEING PULLED. SO, RIGHT NOW, GOING FORWARD, WHAT CAN WE DO TO WORK TOWARDS A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU? SO, J'S AUNT, SHE'S VERY JUDGMENTAL. SHE TRIES TO SAY THAT SHE'S OPINIONATED, BUT I THINK THAT'S JUST A NICER WORD FOR "JUDGMENTAL." YOU MADE A COMMENT ON FACEBOOK, ON JUSTIN'S POST, SOMETHING ABOUT "YOU DON'T NEED A STRONG WOMAN. YOU NEED A VIRTUOUS WOMAN." WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? IT WAS THAT HE SAID "I HAVE A STRONG..." THAT'S WHAT HE SAID. THE WORD SAYS, "YOU ARE THE STRONG ONE. YOU SHOULD BE A MIGHTY MAN OF VALOR." SHE'S SUPPOSED TO BE A VIRTUOUS WOMAN. Cortne': HE CAN SAY HE HAS A STRONG WOMAN. HE KNOWS HE HAS A VIRTUOUS WOMAN, AS WELL. I CALL THOSE THINGS TO BE AS THOUGH THEY SHOULD BE. THAT'S WHAT OUR MEN ARE SUPPOSED TO BE. THEY'RE OUR BACKBONE. WELL, AREN'T WOMEN STRONG, AS WELL? -HEY! -Y'ALL BACK? -WE'RE BACK. -OH, IT SMELLS REAL GOOD. WE GOT SOME WINE FOR YOU. AFTER THE CAKE SHOP WITH YOUR FAMILY, I'M GETTING VERY DEFENSIVE, 'CAUSE I'M LIKE, "NOW I HAVE TO SHOW YOU WHO I'M NOT." I HAVE TO TELL, YOU KNOW, "REGARDLESS OF HOW YOU FEEL, LIKE, THIS IS WHO I AM." THANK YOU, GOD, FOR ALLOWING US TO COME TOGETHER AS A FAMILY, GOD. WE JUST THANK YOU FOR THIS MOMENT IN TIME, GOD. -YES. -THANK YOU, LORD. WE JUST ASK THAT YOU CONTINUE TO JUST DWELL IN THIS PLACE, GOD. CONTINUE TO USE US, GOD. IN JESUS' NAME WE PRAY. -AMEN. -AMEN. -I DON'T LIKE AVOCADO. -REALLY? -I LOVE AVOCADO. -IT AIN'T GOT NO TASTE TO IT. Paris: I KNOW. I PUT IT ON EVERYTHING. CORTNE', WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT OUR OUTING THAT WE HAD, AT THE CAKE-TASTING? I THINK WE HAD A REALLY TRANSPARENT TALK THAT ACTUALLY PUT EVERYTHING OUT ON THE TABLE. SO, WHILE WE WERE THERE, WE BROUGHT UP THE CONTROLLING. YOU'VE MENTIONED TO ME IN THE PAST, WHEN Y'ALL FIRST STARTED OUT, ABOUT SHE CAN BE CONTROLLING. AM I RIGHT? YEAH. OKAY. WE DID ASK J, "WHY DON'T YOU GO OUT." WHAT DID YOU SAY? SO, SOMETIMES, YOU KNOW, WHEN I DO SAY I WANT TO GO WHEREVER, SOMETIMES, CORTNE', YOU DO CATCH A LITTLE MOOD. SHE DON'T DIRECTLY SAY "NO," BUT I CAN JUST TELL BY HER FACE EXPRESSION. LET ME ASK YOU A QUESTION -- DID YOU STOP DOING WHAT YOU NORMALLY DO WITH YOUR FRIENDS? THE AMOUNT OF TIME THAT I SPENT WITH THEM CHANGED BECAUSE OF CORTNE'. WELL, I'M GONNA BACK TO WHEN YOU SAID, SOMETIMES YOU WANT TO GET OFF WORK, AND GO TO THE BAR, AND SHE DIDN'T LIKE FOR YOU TO DO THAT. CAN'T GET OFF WORK AND GO SIT AT A BAR, HAVE A BEER? THAT'S PRISON. SO, THAT'S WHERE ALL THIS IS COMING FROM. [ INDISTINCT TALKING ] JUSTIN NEEDS TO BE MORE RESPONSIBLE, AS FAR AS WHAT HE WANTS TO DO, AND HOW HE WANTS TO DO IT. HANDLE THAT, AND MAKE THAT YOUR BUSINESS, AND YOU WON'T RUN INTO THIS SITUATION. I DO KNOW THAT CORTNE' IS A DOMINANT PERSON. IF IT WAS ME, IF I SEE WHERE MY HUSBAND COULDN'T LEAVE, THEN I WOULD. Pauline: I DIDN'T SEE WHERE SHE HAD TO TAKE THE LEAD AT ALL, BUT I JUST PRAY AND HOPE THAT YOU BE THE MIGHTY MAN OF VALOR THAT GOD IS CALLING YOU TO BE, AND YOU BE THE HEAD OF YOUR HOUSEHOLD. Cortne': WELL, WHILE WE'RE TALKING ABOUT ENGAGEMENT AND WEDDINGS, YOU KNOW, WE DID GO WEDDING-CAKE TASTING, AND THAT'S LITERALLY, LIKE, THE FIRST THING YOU EVEN TALKED ABOUT ABOUT THE WEDDING. Pauline: THE BRIDE-TO-BE, SETTING UP THE WEDDING, YOU SHOULD TAKE THE TIME TO CALL HER. SHE HAD NOT BEEN INVOLVED IN THE WEDDING, PERIOD. RIGHT, BECAUSE NO ONE PULLED HER IN, TO COME INTO IT, AND THAT'S WHAT -- THE PHONE WORKS BOTH WAYS. Bre': BUT WHY WOULD CORTNE' INVITE HER SOMEWHERE WHEN THEY HAVEN'T EVEN HAD A CONVERSATION, OR "HEY, HOW YOU DOING?" PROTOCOL IS THAT YOU BRING THE GROOM'S MOM TO THE TABLE. THAT'S WHERE INTEGRITY COMES IN. INTEGRITY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. IT HAS A WHOLE LOT TO DO WITH IT. NO, IT DOESN'T. BECAUSE THAT DISCONNECT WAS THERE, WE DON'T HAVE -- WE DON'T HAVE THAT RELATIONSHIP. SO, I DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE CALLING, "HEY, THIS IS THE INFORMATION. THIS IS WHAT WE'RE DOING FOR THE WEDDING." I'VE BEEN COMMUNICATING WITH HIM HEAVILY, HAVEN'T I? THEN, WHY DON'T YOU COMMUNICATE WITH HER? 'CAUSE IT'S A BREAKDOWN. AND I KNOW IT ALL STARTED WHEN HE WANTED TO COME SEE ME. HE SAID YOU DIDN'T WANT HIM TO COME SEE ME. I DON'T THINK IT WAS THAT SHE DIDN'T WANT TO COME... YOU SAID, "WHY WE GOT TO GO SEE YOUR MAMA?" AND I DON'T THINK THAT SHE WOULD JUST SAY, "I DON'T WANT TO GO TO YOUR MAMA'S HOUSE." BUT THAT'S WHAT HE SAID. Patrece: COMMON DENOMINATOR. I HAVE TO BALANCE A LOT, YOU KNOW, YOU, MY MOM. IT BECOMES OVERWHELMING, AND SOMETIMES, I MISMANAGE. BUT THE KEY THING HERE IS COMMUNICATING THIS. OKAY. WELL, LET ME BRING UP THE LAST ISSUE. WHEN I WAS IN THE HOSPITAL, AND YOU BROUGHT HER IN THE HOSPITAL ROOM, AND YOU DIDN'T SAY A WORD TO ME. SHE WALKED IN THE ROOM. SHE ACT LIKE SHE REALLY DIDN'T WANT TO BE THERE BY HER BODY LANGUAGE, AS USUAL. Cortne': BUT I DIDN'T HUG YOUR MAMA IN HER HOSPITAL ROOM? IF SHE HUGGED ME, SHE HUGGED ME. SHE DIDN'T SAY NOTHING. SHE STAYED ON HER PHONE THE ENTIRE TIME. THE ENTIRE TIME, SHE WAS DOING THIS. -CHILD, I'M DONE WITH THAT. -COME HERE. CHILD, I'M DONE. Cortne': BUT I DIDN'T HUG YOUR MAMA IN HER HOSPITAL ROOM? Audrey: SHE DIDN'T SAY NOTHING. SHE STAYED ON HER PHONE THE ENTIRE TIME. CHILD. THE ENTIRE TIME. -COME HERE. -CHILD, I'M DONE WITH THAT. Ron: COME HERE. SO, NOW YOU'RE MESSING WITH MY CHARACTER? NOW, YOU'RE PRETTY MUCH TRYING TO SAY, LIKE, I'M THIS KIND OF PERSON, THAT I'M NOT. WHAT HUMAN IS GOING TO GO IN SOMEBODY'S HOSPITAL ROOM, AND NOT SAY NOTHING? OF COURSE, I'M THE PHONE IF I'M SOMEWHERE -- WE JUST SITTING SOMEWHERE. SHE MIGHT HAVE HUGGED ME. I'M GONNA GIVE HER THAT. AND THEN, SHE WENT AND SAT IN THE RECLINER AND STAYED ON HER PHONE. IT'S JUST THAT YOU WERE ALREADY THE COMMON DENOMINATOR IN ALL THIS, SO... HOW DO YOU FEEL THAT THIS PERSON THAT YOU'RE CALLING A COMMON DENOMINATOR... Justin: I CAN'T. I CAN'T. EVERY MARRIAGE GROWS. NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT. THE THING IS J IS TRYING TO JUGGLE EVERYBODY AROUND, AND I GUESS TO KEEP THE PEACE, YOU WILL JUST SAY WHATEVER TO GET THAT PERSON OFF, AND SAY WHATEVER, AND TELL YOU, TO GET YOU OFF, SO YOU WON'T SAY THEN, INSTEAD OF BRINGING IT TOGETHER, AND GETTING OUT OF THE MIDDLE OF IT. NOW, THAT'S HOW I TRULY FEEL. THAT'S A GOOD ONE. HOW DO I GET OUT OF THE MIDDLE OF IT WHEN I GET MY MOM CALLING ME... "CORTNE', CALL MY MAMA." "MAMA, CALL CORTNE'." LISTENING TO EVERYTHING THAT WENT ON, I DO FEEL THAT JUSTIN IS THE COMMON DENOMINATOR. I DON'T MEAN THAT IN A BAD WAY. I DO MEAN THAT IT WAS JUST A LACK OF COMMUNICATION. LET ME JUST SAY THE CHAIN LINK CAME OUT WHERE JUSTIN WAS. SO, THEREFORE, THERE WAS NO CONNECTION WITH JUSTIN'S MOM AND CORTNE'. J GONNA HAVE TO SOLVE SOME OF THEM BATTLES ON HIS OWN. CAN'T NOBODY JUDGE YOUR MORAL VALUES OR CHARACTER, PERIOD. YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE. Justin: WHAT'S YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT TODAY? Cortne': TONIGHT, I JUST SAW, LIKE, A WHOLE DIFFERENT SIDE OF... YOU KIND OF PLAYING SIDES, IN A SENSE. THEY JUST KIND OF BRINGING UP THINGS THAT I DID EXPRESS IN THE BEGINNING, WHEN WE FIRST STARTED TALKING. I WAS JUST... BUT IF YOU WERE EXPRESSING IT TO THEM IN THE BEGINNING, WHY YOU WEREN'T EXPRESSING IT TO ME IN THE BEGINNING? I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO COME TO YOU, AND SAY THIS. SO, I WOULD JUST CALL MY MOM. I JUST NEEDED TO VENT TO SOMEBODY. WHICH, I UNDERSTAND THAT YOU PROBABLY NEEDED SOMEONE TO VENT TO, BUT YOU DON'T THINK THAT THAT WAS A CONVERSATION THAT WE SHOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE TO HAVE INSTEAD OF HAVING IT BECOME KIND OF LIKE A BIGGER ISSUE? I AGREE. YEAH, YOU KNOW, IT WAS SOMETHING THAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN ADDRESSED IN THE BEGINNING. SO, I WANT TO SPEAK UP, AND JUST TALK ABOUT THIS THING, HOW I'VE BEEN FEELING. RIGHT. COMMUNICATING. RIGHT. HOW DOES SOMEBODY KNOW YOU FEEL A CERTAIN WAY IF YOU DON'T SAY NOTHING ABOUT IT? RIGHT. IT'S TRUE. THE KEY THING HERE IS JUST SAYING, "THIS IS HOW I FEEL, THIS IS WHAT I WANT, THIS IS --" LIKE... SAY IT. YEAH. I NEED THAT. YEAH. Paris: WE GOT TWO PIECES OF BACON. -HOW WAS LAST NIGHT? -IT WAS GOING LEFT. -IT WAS GOING LEFT QUICK. -YEAH. WHAT KIND OF LEFT? HOW FAR LEFT? I LEFT. YOU GOT UP, AND WALKED AWAY FROM THE TABLE? YES. WELL, THAT'S DRAMATIC. WHY DID YOU WALK AWAY FROM THE TABLE? HIS MOM MADE A STATEMENT THAT SHE WAS IN THE HOSPITAL, AND I WALKED IN HER HOSPITAL ROOM, AND JUST GOT RIGHT ON MY PHONE. WHAT HUMAN IS GONNA WALK IN ANYONE'S HOSPITAL ROOM, AND NOT HUG THEM, SPEAK TO THEM, ANYTHING. AND SO, YOU LEFT THE TABLE THEN? I DID. I WAS JUST -- I WAS OVER IT. THAT WAS THE END OF IT FOR ME. BUT, OF COURSE, THE RELATIONSHIP ISN'T OVER. YOU'RE STILL MARRYING THIS MAN, AND THAT'S STILL HIS MOTHER. SO, IT MIGHT BE THE END OF IT FOR YOU, BUT IT'S ACTUALLY NOT THE END OF IT. THAT RESPONSE IS NOT GETTING YOU GUYS WHAT YOU WANT, WHICH IS TO HAVE THESE -- BRING THESE TWO FAMILIES TOGETHER. WHAT'S HAPPENING? SO, AT THIS POINT, IT'S LIKE IT'S "CORTNE', CORTNE', CORTNE'." IT'S NOT JUST ME. IT WORKS BOTH WAYS. I AGREE, BUT WE'RE JUST RIGHT NOW JUST LOOKING AT YOUR SIDE. WHY IS IT THAT YOU'RE NOT REACHING OUT, FROM YOUR SIDE? THE GUARD THAT WAS UP FROM THE BEGINNING, WHEN I FIRST MET HER, AND SHE BROUGHT UP SOMEONE ELSE. YOU MEAN ANOTHER PERSON HE HAD DATED? RIGHT. ASKED ABOUT HER -- "WHERE IS SHE?" HOW DID YOU INTERPRET IT? TO ME, THAT WAS JUST DISRESPECT. YOU KNOW, THAT'S KIND OF WHERE THE DISCONNECT STARTED. WHAT GOES THROUGH YOUR MIND FOR YOU, THAT "THE TWO MOST IMPORTANT WOMEN IN MY LIFE HAVE A MASSIVE CONNECT"? IT'S GOT TO BE A LITTLE SCARY. MAYBE I DROPPED THE BALL BY NOT INITIATING THAT, AND SAYING... HAVING TO SIT DOWN, AND SAY, "HEY, MA, CORTNE', LET'S TALK ALL RIGHT NOW." "WORK IT OUT." EVERYONE HAS TO HAVE A VOICE TO BE HONEST, BECAUSE WHEN YOU'RE NOT BEING REAL, YOU'RE NOT INTIMATE. YOU'RE PERFORMING. NO ONE CAN KEEP THAT UP. AND IF THAT'S THE SETUP, YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT'S GONNA BE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THAT. SO, YOU NEED TO SEE IT NOW. YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT HE THINKS, AND YOU NEED TO ENCOURAGE HIM. "I WANT YOU TO BE REAL." IT'S GOOD THAT WE'RE HERE, BECAUSE WE ACTUALLY CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS. THERE NEEDS TO BE A ONE-ON-ONE CONVERSATION WITH YOU AND AUDREY. ARE YOU OPEN TO THAT? SURE. MM-HMM. BUT BEFORE YOU TALK TO MOM, I WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO SIT DOWN WITH AUNTIE PAULINE, TALK TO HER ABOUT HER RED FLAGS. BECAUSE I WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO LET PEOPLE SAY WHATEVER IT IS THAT THEY HAVE TO SAY. SO, JUST GO IN WITH AN OPEN MIND AND AN OPEN HEART. IT IS NICE OUT HERE IT'S NOT JUST HOT AND HUMID. ALRIGHT. SO, I KNOW LAST NIGHT, WE KIND OF VOICED, YOU KNOW, OUR CONCERNS. I JUST WANT TO KNOW, WHAT ARE YOU FEELING? YES, WE TALKED ABOUT THE CONTROLLING CONCERN. AS FAR AS YOU TAKING THE LEAD IN Y'ALL'S MARRIAGE, IF THAT HAPPENS... WHEN THAT HAPPENS. OKAY. I THINK THAT HE SHOULD BE LEADING, BECAUSE THE MAN IS SUPPOSED TO TAKE THAT ROLE. YOU KNOW, I UNDERSTAND, YOU KNOW, HOW YOU FEEL, BUT WE DON'T DO GENDER ROLES. WE WORK TOGETHER. THIS IS A PARTNERSHIP. YOU KNOW, GIVE ME THE VISION. SHOW ME WHAT ARE WE DOING. HOW ARE WE DOING IT? BUT IT'S NOT JUST GONNA BE THAT YOU'RE JUST GOING TO MAKE THE DECISION, I'M JUST GONNA GO WITH IT. CAN YOU RESPECT THAT? NO. I CAN'T RESPECT THAT. BUT THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH TAKING THE LEAD, IS WHAT I'M SAYING. THAT DOES. HOW IS HE GONNA SHOW YOU? YOU KEEP SAYING, "HE HAS TO SHOW ME." I JUST SAID HOW HE'S GONNA SHOW ME. SHOWING ME A VISION. HE HAS OPPORTUNITY ALL THE TIME. WE HAVE CONVERSATIONS. HE HAS TO SHOW YOU... I'M GONNA LET YOU GO AHEAD AND TALK. WE CAN'T TALK AT THE SAME TIME. GO AHEAD. WHILE I'M TALKING WITH YOUR AUNT, I WAS ABLE TO SEE A MIRROR, YOU KNOW, OF WHAT YOU WERE SAYING. WE WERE HAVING THAT CONVERSATION, AND I'M LIKE, "IF I ACT ANYTHING LIKE THIS..." I'M NOT YOU, AND YOU'RE NOT ME, AND WE CAN'T EXPECT EACH OTHER TO BE THAT. YOU'RE GONNA HAVE DIFFERENT VIEWS, I'M GONNA HAVE DIFFERENT VIEWS, AND LOVE EACH OTHER THAT WAY. I AGREE. I DON'T WANT TO BE PERCEIVED AS A PERSON THAT'S HARD TO DEAL WITH, AND I THINK IT TOOK ME BEING ABLE TO SEE THAT OUT IN FRONT OF ME FOR ME TO EVEN BE ABLE TO UNDERSTAND, AND EVEN HOW TO START MAKING THAT CHANGE. ALRIGHT, YOU GUYS. TRACY JUST CALLED, AND SHE FEELS THAT THERE'S STILL SOME UNRESOLVED ISSUES THAT THE FAMILY NEEDS TO HANDLE. SO, WE'RE GOING TO GO AND DO AN ACTIVITY AT UNDERWOOD FARMS. OKAY? -YES, MA'AM. EVERYBODY COOL? Y'ALL FACE LOOKING LIKE... OKAY. LET'S GO. -ALRIGHT. -I AM NOT AN OUTDOOR PERSON. -ME, EITHER. -WE'RE ABOUT TO GO TO THIS FARM. YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE BUGS. -WELCOME TO UNDERWOOD FAMILY FARMS! -HI. WE'RE GONNA TAKE YOU ALL OUT TO PICK SOME STRAWBERRIES. -OH, WOW. -OKAY. I THINK IT'S IMPORTANT FOR THE FAMILY TO COME TOGETHER BECAUSE WE WANT TO MAKE SURE THAT WE SQUASH ANY KIND OF BEEF BETWEEN OUR FAMILIES. YOU OKAY, MA? Audrey: MM-HMM. I JUST NEVER KNEW HOW IMPORTANT, LIKE, BLENDING FAMILIES CAN BE, BECAUSE I NEVER HAD SOMETHING THIS SERIOUS. YOU KNOW, WHEN I GAVE YOU HER NUMBER, I WAS KIND OF THINKING THAT MAYBE YOU WOULD TAKE IT FROM THERE. I THINK MY FOCAL POINT WAS FAMILY, LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, AND I WAS TRYING TO DO THAT WITH HER, AND I FELT REJECTION. RIGHT. HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ME STARTING A NEW CHAPTER? WHAT CONCERNS ME IS, AS I AGE, WILL I HAVE YOU IN MY LIFE. WILL YOU JUST NOT COME AROUND? I HAVE TO KNOW THAT MY OLDEST WILL STILL BE A PART OF MY LIFE THE OLDER I GET. I'M NOT GONNA ABANDON YOU. I NEVER WANT YOU TO FEEL LIKE THAT I'M GONNA NOT TAKE CARE OF YOU, OR BE THERE FOR YOU. YOU KNOW WHAT THEY SAY ABOUT A SON. WHEN A SON FIND A WIFE, THEY'RE GONE. PUT GOD FIRST, YOUR WIFE, BUT DON'T FORGET ABOUT YOUR CORE FAMILY. DON'T YOU LOSE YOU. RIGHT. I STILL FEEL RESERVATIONS WITH CORTNE'. I REALLY HONESTLY THINK CORTNE' DON'T THINK SHE NEEDS TO BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH ME. SHE JUST WANT MY SON. MY NEXT TASK FROM TRACY IS TO HAVE A ONE-ON-ONE WITH YOUR MOM. I'M KIND OF UNEASY. IT'S GONNA BE KIND OF HARD TO BRING THAT GUARD DOWN, BECAUSE IT'S SO MUCH ATTITUDE AND EMOTION. I DON'T KNOW HOW WE'RE GONNA EVEN START THIS CONVERSATION WITH HER. SO, LAST NIGHT, YOU KNOW, I GOT UP AND LEFT FROM DINNER, AND I SHOULDN'T HAVE. THAT WAS -- YOU KNOW, I DO APOLOGIZE TO YOU ABOUT THAT. YOU WERE, YOU KNOW, TRYING TO VOICE, YOU KNOW, EXACTLY HOW YOU FELT, AND, YOU KNOW, I, LIKE, COMPLETELY, YOU KNOW, SHUT THAT DOWN. I WAS DEFINITELY, YOU KNOW, WRONG, FOR THAT. SO, I KIND OF WANTED TO JUST KIND OF PEEL BACK, YOU KNOW, WHERE EVERYTHING STARTED, YOU KNOW. IT STARTED FROM WHEN YOU GUYS FIRST STARTED DATING. MM-HMM. SO, I CAN ONLY GO ON THE COMMUNICATION HE GAVE ME, WHICH WAS "CORTNE' IS CONTROLLING. CORTNE' DON'T WANT ME TO GO ANYWHERE." I'M THE MOM PROTECTING HIM LIKE, "YOU DON'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS. LEAVE THAT ALONE. YOU DON'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS." AND HE WAS LIKE, "BUT I REALLY LIKE HER." SO, IT WAS A LOT OF STUFF HE BROUGHT TO ME AND THAT'S ALL THE INFORMATION I HAD. THIS IS COMPLETELY NEW TO ME. LIKE, I HONESTLY CAN SEE WHAT YOU'RE SAYING AS FAR AS, YOU KNOW, HOW THAT WOULD MAKE YOU FEEL, YOU KNOW, AS -- IF I HAD A BROTHER, YOU KNOW, AND HE WAS TELLING ME THAT THAT'S HOW HIS GIRLFRIEND IS MAKING HIM FEEL, OF COURSE I'M GOING TO BE LIKE, "WHO IS THIS GIRL? LIKE, WHO DOES SHE THINK SHE IS?" IT'S KIND OF LIKE YOU'RE HEARING ONE SIDE. AND I GET IT BECAUSE, YOU KNOW, YOU DIDN'T KNOW ME. I KNOW LAST NIGHT YOU BROUGHT UP WHEN YOU WERE IN THE HOSPITAL, YOU KNOW, I CAME IN YOUR ROOM, AND I DIDN'T SPEAK. THE THING WAS, I FELT LIKE HE PULLED YOU, AND DRUG YOU, AND MADE YOU COME, LIKE, "MY MOM IS REALLY SICK." I WAS ASKING, "WHEN WE GOING TO THE HOSPITAL? YOUR MOM AT THE HOSPITAL YET?" [ LAUGHS ] HE'S A POOR COMMUNICATOR. I THINK SOMETIMES YOU CAN APPEAR TO BE NONCHALANT, LIKE, "I'M HERE, WHATEVER. HE MADE ME COME." I DO APOLOGIZE THAT, YOU KNOW, YOU FELT THAT WAY. IT WASN'T THAT AT ALL. I HAD WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIPS WITH IN-LAWS, AND I WANT US TO HAVE THE SAME THING. RIGHT. WHEN I SAY THAT I WAS EMBRACED, I WANT TO GIVE YOU THAT SAME LOVE THAT THEY GAVE ME. WE HAVE REALLY CONNECTED, AND BEGINNING TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER. I DON'T FEEL PHONY, LIKE I WAS. I FEEL SINCERE, LIKE, I WANT TO BE HER FRIEND AND HER MOTHER-IN-LAW. Bre': I WANT A PANCAKE, ONLY BECAUSE YOU'RE MAKING IT. Tracy: HELLO. GOOD MORNING. HOW ARE YOU? -GOOD. -GOOD. WELL, YOU LOOK REALLY SUNNY TODAY. LAST I SAW YOU, YOU WERE HAVING A LOT OF EMOTION. YEP. SO, TELL ME, HOW ARE YOU? I FEEL GOOD. I FEEL RELIEVED. I FEEL THAT THERE'S A BETTER CONNECTION AMONGST EVERYONE, NOW. AND YEAH, I FEEL FREE. ALRIGHT. WE LIKE HEARING "FREE." FREE IS WHAT WE WANT TO BE. SO, I WANT TO HEAR HOW YOU GOT THERE. I THINK, FOR ME, IT WAS JUST BEING ABLE TO HAVE THOSE CONVERSATIONS THAT, YOU KNOW, YOU HAVE TO HAVE. SO, SPEAKING WITH,YOU KNOW, AUNTIE PAULINE, YOU KNOW, UNDERSTANDING THAT EVERYONE IS NOT GONNA HAVE THE SAME VIEWS, BUT WE'RE STILL ABLE TO LOVE EACH OTHER EVEN THROUGH THAT, AND STILL BUILT THAT RELATIONSHIP REGARDLESS. EXACTLY. WHAT A GREAT SKILL. WHAT HAPPENED WHEN YOU TALKED TO AUDREY? YOU KNOW, SHE WAS WORRIED BECAUSE YOU WERE TELLING HER HOW DIFFICULT, YOU KNOW, I WAS. SO, OF COURSE, HER BEING A MOM, YOU KNOW, SHE WANTED TO MAKE SURE THAT HE WAS ABLE TO BE HIMSELF. I THINK COMING INTO A POINT OF, "I SEE HOW YOU FEEL," AND UNDERSTANDING THAT ME AND HER HAVE TO JUST LEAVE YOU OUT OF IT, AND JUST US TWO KIND OF, YOU KNOW, WORK ON THAT. I AM THRILLED THAT YOU GUYS ARE IN SUCH A NEW SPACE. WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IS START TO SHARE LESS WITH YOUR MOM. MM-HMM. THERE IS GONNA BE A BIG SHIFT WHERE YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO STOP TALKING SO MUCH TO YOUR MOM ABOUT ISSUES THAT ARE HAPPENING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. LIKE, I WANT TO SAY YOU NEED SOME GUY FRIENDS. AND THEN, THAT'S WHERE YOU GO WHEN YOU HAVE A THING, AND YOU GET, LIKE, THREE OF THEM, SO IT'S NOT JUST ONE DUDE'S OPINION. THAT'S ONE OF THE THINGS I WOULD TAKE HOME FOR YOU. OKAY. THERE'S BEEN A LOT OF GROWTH, HERE, YOU GUYS. I FEEL LIKE YOU MIGHT GET THE BLESSINGS DOWN THERE. WHAT DO YOU THINK? SO, IF EVERYONE DOESN'T SAY "YES" AT THE BLESSING CEREMONY, AND THERE IS A "NO," COULD WE MOVE FORWARD FROM THAT? ARE YOU GUYS READY TO GO DOWN, AND DO A BLESSING CEREMONY? LET'S DO IT. -HI, YOU GUYS. -HELLO. Cortne': THANK Y'ALL JUST SO MUCH JUST FOR COMING, AND ENJOYING THIS TIME WITH US OVER THESE PAST 3 DAYS. NOW, IT'S TIME FOR YOUR BLESSING. POP, YOU'RE FIRST. Ron: I HAD SOME CONCERNS ABOUT... FAMILY MEMBERS ACCEPTING YOU FOR WHO YOU WERE, AND NOT JUDGING YOU. AND JUST TO GIVE A CLEAR UNDERSTANDING WITH THE FAMILY ON BOTH SIDES, SINCE I'VE BEEN HERE, IT'S BEEN AN AWESOME EXPERIENCE. IT HAS BEEN UNBELIEVABLE, THE CHEMISTRY THAT WE HAVE. YOU KNOW YOU HAVE MY BLESSING. [ LAUGHTER ] WELL, THANK YOU. BRE'? MY CONCERNS WERE J NOT HAVING A BACKBONE TO ACTUALLY STAND UP TO CORTNE'. I DO THINK NOW, JUSTIN, THAT YOU HAVE ENOUGH CONFIDENCE IN BEING ABLE TO PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN, TO TELL CORTNE' "NO." YOU GUYS HAVE MY BLESSING. MOM? I WAS REAL CONCERNED ABOUT JUST YOU TAKING THE BACKSEAT SOMETIMES, AND TRUSTING GOD THAT HE BE ALLEGIANT TO YOU. SINCE I'VE BEEN HERE, I HAVE GOTTEN TO KNOW YOUR FAMILY. I FEEL THAT YOU ALL HAVE WELCOMED CORTNE' INTO THE FAMILY. YOU ALL HAVE MY BLESSING, AND I LOVE YOU BOTH. THANK YOU. LOVE YOU. THANK YOU. PARIS? Paris: YOU KNOW THE CONCERNS I HAD ABOUT THE FAMILIES. MM-HMM. SINCE WE'VE BEEN HERE, WE'VE HAD GREAT TIMES. I THINK THE UNDERSTANDING CAME. SO, Y'ALL HAVE MY BLESSING. -THANK YOU. -THANK YOU. AUNTIE PAULINE? CORTNE', I DIDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY YOU HAD A JUDGEMENT, AND DIDN'T LIKE ME. AND SINCE WE'VE BEEN HERE, I CAN SAY THAT, THROUGH THE CURVES, THAT WE ALL HAVE HAD A WILLINGNESS SPIRIT TO COME WITH UNDERSTANDING. AND I JUST WANTED US TO BE ABLE TO ESTABLISH A RELATIONSHIP WHERE WE ALL WOULD JUST GET ALONG. WITH THAT, YOU HAVE MY BLESSING. SO, YOU'RE WELCOME. -THANK YOU. -AND I LOVE YOU BOTH. WE LOVE YOU, TOO. MOM, DO WE HAVE YOUR BLESSING? WELL, WHEN I FIRST GOT HERE, YOU DID NOT. THERE WERE A LOT OF CONCERNS. ONE WAS THE RELATIONSHIP I WAS TRYING TO STRENGTHEN AND BUILD WITH CORTNE'. I FELT LACK OF COMMUNICATION WAS REALLY THE BIGGEST PROBLEM. SO, I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO MAKE IT HAPPEN. AND THIS WHOLE EXPERIENCE HAS OPENED MY EYES. SO, SINCE I'VE BEEN HERE, I'VE SEEN PHENOMENAL CHANGE AND GROWTH. SO... ...OF COURSE YOU HAVE MY BLESSING. THANK YOU. AND I'M NOT GONNA SAY THAT BECAUSE I'M YOUR MOTHER. I'VE GOT TO SAY IT WITH SINCERITY AND TRUTH, BECAUSE I REALLY WAS HESITANT AT FIRST. AND THAT'S PROBABLY WHY I WASN'T AS INVOLVED IN THE WEDDING, BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T HAVE MY BLESSING. BUT AS OF TODAY, YOU DO, AND GOING FORWARD, WE'RE GONNA MAKE SURE YOU'RE GONNA BE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL BRIDE. WE WANTED TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP OUTSIDE OF JUSTIN, WE JUST DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO START. AND NOBODY WAS BIG ENOUGH TO START. SO, WE ACCOMPLISHED WHAT WE CAME OUT HERE FOR. I HOPE SHE FEELS THE SAME WAY. AND ALSO, WITH YOU, AS WELL, MOM. I'M SO JUST FREE NOW. I'M FREE. I JUST FEEL A DIFFERENT KIND OF FREEDOM, YOU KNOW, WHEN IT COMES TO OUR RELATIONSHIP. AND I'M JUST GLAD THAT WE COULD JUST GO AHEAD AND MEAN THAT, NOT JUST BECAUSE OF, YOU KNOW, FOR HIM, BUT FOR US, AS WELL. BECAUSE NOW, YOU KNOW, YOU'RE GETTING ANOTHER DAUGHTER, AND I'M GETTING ANOTHER MOM, AND I'M EXCITED. I'M VERY EXCITED ON THE OUTCOME. YEAH. LIKE, THIS WEIGHT HAS BEEN LIFTED. Y'ALL BRING IT IN. FOR ME, THE EXPERIENCE WAS, LIKE, MUCH NEEDED. MUCH NEEDED. I THINK ALL ENGAGED COUPLES NEED THIS, LIKE... -RIGHT. -HEY! -HI! -NICE OUTCOME, GUYS. WHAT A HAPPY ENDING. -YES! Photographer: ALRIGHT. SMILE, GUYS.
