Unemployed SISTER & Her Lazy HUSBAND Is Coming To Live WITH ME In My SMALL Apartment

what's the most evil thing you've done to your sister vice versa I'm a 33 year old woman who lives alone in a small one-bedroom apartment I have a chronic pain neurological condition that causes me to be laid up in bed most days or at the very least stuck on the couch my sister 31 got married last year to a man who has four kids and then had a child of her own at the time everything seemed okay they were both working however in a span of six months both were fired from their jobs for theft after they both lost their jobs they stopped paying rent and were always broke they moved into several family members homes however were asked to leave after a few months either by the family member or the landlord of that family members home soon they were living in a hotel room that social assistance was paying for but they even managed to screw that up by not claiming the correct income they were receiving from the government which turned out to be six thousand dollars a month with payments and child tax credits they were asked to leave and they decided the best thing to do was live in a tent behind a family members apartment building during this time I was nagging them about looking at apartments applying for jobs and warning them that this was not okay for the kids I warned they were going to lose custody if they were not careful the two older children were thankfully taken back by their mothers for the time being however the seven and five year olds mother had lost custody and so they needed to be cared for by their father and my sister as time went on neither of them got jobs or apartments for various reasons and they were eventually told to stop living in a tent by the owner of the apartment building yesterday I received a text message from my sister asking if she could come visit and spend the night the text sounded strange so I asked if there was anything she wanted to tell me she eventually admitted they were being kicked out and had nowhere for the five of them to live and wanted to know if they could stay with me for a while I want to be able to help my sister but I'm sick and they have somehow spent all their money and want me to let them live in a one-bedroom apartment with three kids and three adults while paying for everything I know this sound bad but the five and seven year old other worse behaved children I have ever met and my apartment is small not overly soundproof and not in any way kid-friendly I know for a fact I would be evicted if I let them stay with me because there's a quiet seniors and professionals building I offered to take my sister and meets but that is all I could do she declined screaming that I never liked her husband and all his kids and that's why I wouldn't help them I feel guilty that I cannot lose my home and I cannot handle that many people in my home while I'm sick and in pain they have since made other arrangements but I don't know how my relationship with my sister will be after this am I the idiot for not letting them all live with me this happened a few months ago but is still a point of argument today I female have a younger sister I have my own car and since we both attend the same high school I'm expected to take her to school with me my sister great as she is has absolutely no sense of urgency when it comes to being on time she'll deliberately refused to get out of bed in the morning takes half an hour minimum to do her hair and spent so much time primping that she forgets to do necessary things like packing her lunch or taking her medication I have to go out of my way to wake her up several times in the morning because she refuses to use her alarm and has broken several alarm clocks by throwing them across the room when they go off I on the other hand I'm annoyingly punctual and it stresses me out to no end when I'm late because of her every single time I've been late this year has been because of her I'll spend several minutes sitting in my car waiting for her before she comes running out only to remember that she forgot something and will spend more time looking I've been late a total of six times and end up cutting it close almost every day my school has a policy that eight are deist in one quarter gives an automatic three day suspension despite constantly trying to talk to her about it and express that I need her to be on time she hasn't made any effort my parents are no help one day I was waiting in my car for her nervously tapping my feet and eating while she tallied I looked at the clock realized I'd have to leave right away to be able to make it on time and decided I'd had enough I backed out of the driveway and left without her about 20 minutes later I got calls from both her and my parents my mom and sister were furious that I'd left her at home and that my mom had to give her a ride my dad said he thought it was hilarious and supported me in leaving her I think it was totally fair this way my sister had to face the consequences of her actions without dragging me down with her however many of my friends and family are adamant that it was an idiot move my sister is 28 and I'm 25 female she is the type of person who always compares herself to others and puts down people to lift herself up she makes snide remarks about appearances relationships people's kids etc and she'd been like this forever my parents always kind of coddled us growing up and we grew up in a well-off privileged household we had more opportunity than most and I kind of think this made her have a big head when my sister was in high school she was very overweight my parents ended up paying for her to get weight-loss surgery at 18 and then paid for a personal trainer for her for like three years and also partially paid for excess skin removal she looks great now but other than immediate family pretty much no one knows about it and she tells people her weight loss was diet and going to the gym I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year we've been living together for a few months he's insecure about being heavyset and asked me to start working out with him a couple weeks ago since my gym reopened I agreed and we started going together and he's been really good about working out even though he had to get over some anxieties at first he's lost almost ten pounds so far this past weekend I was at a family get-together at my parents house yes I know global issue is still very much a thing but our state is reopening for now my boyfriend couldn't come but my sister plus her boyfriend aunt and uncle three cousins plus one of their wives and parents were there we were catching up and I mentioned my boyfriend and I working out together my sister said something along the lines of oh thank goodness he really needs it I asked what that meant and she said people like him are so at risk for diabetes and he was just so unhealthy before and he obviously had a problem I should also say while he's overweight he's not morbidly obese or anything I got angry and kind ludley said that not everyone could have their parents pay for weight-loss surgery she got all sheepish and asked for me to quiet down but I told her she's a hypocrite and had no room to talk about unhealthy lifestyles when she needed surgery for being pre-diabetic at 18 at this point everyone was listening and my mom stepped in to separate us my sister stormed out of the room and my mom said I shouldn't have announced her surgery to the house and she wasn't trying to be offensive which i think is crap I refused to apologize and left I don't want to play these little games with her anymore i-21 female love to bake I've been creating my own recipes since I was a kid and have created a few really great ones when I was older I created a chocolate chip cookie recipe that has a pretty standard base this basic recipe is terrific and my family has access to it what sets my batches of cookies apart from these are three very specific secret ingredients that I don't want to share these ingredients make my cookies almost crack level addictive according to the people who regularly pay me to make cookies for them my recipe has won a few baking competitions and I'm extremely proud of it my family on the other hand aren't great bakers my father is but doesn't do it often as I stated previously they have access to and use my basic recipe - my special ingredients everything else on the recipe is exactly the same and tastes amazing just not exactly like mine my family in light of me finally moving into a campus apartment have been insistent on me giving them the full recipe I don't want a for a couple of reasons the first being that my sister who is the one who make the other recipe the most has a really bad habit of claiming ideas that aren't hers she's passed a few of my other original recipes that I've taught her to make offers her own recipes and will brag about how long it took her to create the recipe then give it away the second is that I want to have a secret recipe book to pass on to my children a tradition that is in my extended family is to create a book of original recipes to pass on and be the sole provider of that dish for holidays and what net no one else knows about what's inside until the creator shares it dies or gets married I want to open a bakery when I'm older with those recipes the last reason is I don't want to lose my little cookie business my sister has made jokes that if she ever gets the recipe she's giving it to everyone I sell cookies too so that they don't have to pay me anymore that weekly order filling session is stress relief for me and I don't want to give it up I know it sounds incredibly selfish of me to want to keep it to myself but I really want this to be my thing I've been hearing a lot that I'm selfish and should share with family and I shouldn't ever have secrets so I've started second-guessing my decision today my wife and I went into the hospital to have our second son delivered via c-section before we went into the operating room I created a group chat with my family wife mother sister and sister-in-law to keep them up to date and share photos the operation went smoothly and I'm now proud father to my second son after we returned to the room my wife and I began taking photos of the baby to share with my family / her family everything was fine we had spoken to the others a few weeks prior that we did not want any photos on social media under my wife and I shared first we did receive an okay or so we thought a few hours after the surgery I received a notification on Instagram from my sister-in-law of a photo of my newborn son saying my nephew was born today I wasn't overly upset so I sent a message to my sister and asked her if she could ask her wife to take down the photo and wait a little while longer to post things my sister blue only saying that we never told them not to post on social media and that I'm a horrible brother for throwing her into the middle of it and making her the bad guy by asking her to speak to her wife her wife apparently took it to heart and was very offended that I didn't just reach out to her had I actually been upset about it I would have but I assumed that it wouldn't have been an issue the conversation turned to a full-blown fight with her calling me many vulgar names and throwing insults at me I did lose my cool and told her to chill out oh don't talk that response led to her saying that she will now be cutting me out of her life my sister has always wanted to work in animation and graduated from art school and got a degree to pursue that dream a couple years ago she gave me her old drawing tablet as she replaced hers and I really got into drawing with it I've ended up making a lot of things I'm actually proud of so I started posting them online my distant cousin who works in animation saw my posts and really liked my work he offered to go through my work and help me put a portfolio together and got me an interview for a job at his work even though the deadline had passed I actually made it to the final round of interviews but I didn't get one of the spots well my sister found out and was really annoyed because she has always wanted a job like that and has been having a really hard time finding one meanwhile I just got a chance handed to me and don't even have to pay a student loans she thinks I should have told our cousin about her right away since she's the one that actually went to school for it and has wanted it longer while I've just been lazing around she said I basically wasted her short to get into the industry when I had no shot of getting it in the first place our dad agrees that she should have been the one to get interview since she has worked harder for this our mom is mostly neutral the thing is just a little while ago I got a message that one of the guys that got the job ended up backing out so now I can actually take the job I can't say for certain I want this job more than she does but it is really the only thing I want right now it's kind of the only thing making me feel excited about anything in my life my sister and I have been living together for a year now our parents are basically still giving her allowances and she has never had a real job she does not have a disability or illness preventing her from getting a job she just never wanted one she wasn't able to afford a house due to her spending too much money on things that she doesn't need so I decided to let her live in my apartment until she gets enough money to buy her own place she spends all day lying on the couch hanging out with her friends sleeping around and getting drunk I wouldn't have much of a problem with any of it if she had a job paid some of the rent and or at least helped around the place a bit she does none recently she had gotten pregnant from a one-night stand and decided to keep the baby I don't think she'd be a very responsible mother but it was her decision in the end well when she got pregnant she had apparently decided that I should do anything that she asks me of because she has a baby growing in her stomach she needs to put a dish in the sink I have to do it she dropped something I have to pick it up and of course I have to cook for her and give her food I'd understand if she was having trouble doing these things due to her pregnancy but she has shown that she's completely capable of doing them she just decided that her pregnancy was an excuse not to do basic things at some point I refused to do something and she started getting extremely angry yelling at me and calling me names she then starts claiming that I'm extremely lazy have always been jealous of her and have never done in a thing for her and that was the final straw I told her that I've let her basically live off of me for a whole year and if she can't be grateful for that then she should go back to mooching off our parents or one of her friends because I'm not letting her stay here anymore then I kicked her out I started feeling pretty bad about it after but I decided that by doing this I've taken a huge burden off of my shoulders then a day later I got a call from my parents apparently my sister had gone back to them and told them all about how I kicked her out and they told me how horrible and harsh I was for doing that how I need to care for my sister because she is a part of my family and she is having such a hard time with her pregnancy are they right I'm sure my experience isn't unique right now but I've been kind of annoyed so here it is for some background I'm 25 and the assistant manager at a restaurant my boyfriend 27 is working as an emergency room tech while in nursing school we are both classified as essential and haven't been off of work since the pandemic started my restaurant just opened back up to sit in diners two weeks ago my sister 30 and her husband 33 both work office jobs they have two children and she's five months pregnant her son is six and her daughter is two up until recently she and her husband both worked from home but a couple weeks ago he was allowed to go back into work she's still doing remote work ever since restrictions started she's been complaining about everything which I get it's been stressful for everyone she's been annoyed with having to juggle chilled Curr with teaching her son and also working from home the Dicker's she used to use only allows the children of essential employees right now and she has had trouble finding another this coming Saturday as she and my brother-in-law's anniversary and she asked if I would babysit my niece and nephew over the weekend Saturday and Sunday so they could have a date night and some time away from the kids I told her now I work Saturday morning and my boyfriend is off this weekend he works every other weekend so I'd like to relax if possible I also told her we are constantly out and around tons of people so it's a bad idea for young kids to possibly be exposed she basically broke down at this she said she never asks me to babysit so why can't I do it just this one time and said she'd double her normal babysitting rate for me she begged me and promised that she'd do the same if I ever had kids and I should be happy to spend time with my niece and nephew then she switched it to can you just watch them today then to which I also said no I like to sleep after coming home from a morning shift and again the exposure thing she said I was being a bad sister and aunt and I have no idea how hard it's been on parents lately I got really really annoyed at this I told her she has no idea what it's like to still have to go into work and deal with the public right now either and that millions of other parents are making do without acting so bratty I'll let her know I wasn't obligated to look after her kids and she's not entitled to a break from being a parent and it was incredibly irresponsible to ask me when she knew where me and my boyfriend worked and that she'd be putting her family at risk she said I had no place telling her what's best for her children and I have no clue what I'm talking about and that I'm just selfish and cold I think she's being an idiot and needs to suck it up and deal with it [Music]

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Length: 18min 44sec (1124 seconds)

Published: Sat Jul 04 2020