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she was actually french not mexican people who had to clean out rooms of someone who had died did you find anything you shouldn't have found my grandma died when i was 16 after getting cancer for the third time my grandad moved into a smaller apartment and my cousins and i helped to clean out their house a side note there are nine of us aged at the time from 12 to 26. in the house we found more than 20 wrapped presents and envelopes of money addressed to all of us they were for the big occasions that she knew she wouldn't live to see us have before she had died she had organized 21st birthday presents for those of us who weren't yet 21 engagement presents and wedding presents each with a card written by hand i remember being so overwhelmed with emotion she was an incredible woman who loved her family dearly and wanted to celebrate her grandchildren even if she couldn't be there herself my grandmother passed after a blood clot incident she had several conditions that no doubt led up to this for example her medical team decided not to treat her breast cancer because they figured she would die before it would spread my father uncle and my sisters were left to clean out her things from her apartment she had a lot of old expired food like ketchup that had gone completely black we found things from when she was well and social like her quilting and handmade soaps which were beautiful she has a quilt that had the names of all of our family but the names were sewn in the individual's handwriting style however one day it was just my dad and me going through her bedside table we found her journal toward the end all of the entries were about how lonely she was how she only got to see her grandchildren twice a year and how her own children never saw her unless they needed something she said she wanted to die my dad threw it away so his brother would never have to see it so um yeah go hug a grandparent when my mother was killed by her ex-husband i was one of the people tasked with packing our house he stalked her and would break into the house often my mother knew but no one else did as a result when we were taking things down like pictures and such we would find things hidden behind them items such as checkbooks to hidden bank accounts from him or even worse notebooks full of dates and accounts of events where he would engage her she had a restraining order on him usually these engagements according to the notebook were awful tires being slashed her being followed and him coming up to her on day-to-day events berating her the thing is though she kept it all secret from the family what makes it so hard is if she would have told everyone of these things she might still be here today my grandma's house had money everywhere every purse had at least 100 cash suitcases had a few hundred more every coffee can or other container in her kitchen had rolls of money there were even bags of frozen veggies in the freezer that had been split open and money hidden inside and her bank accounts thousands upon thousands of dollars no one had any idea she lived so simply and never spend a dime on anything unnecessary i'm sure her financial paranoia was due to growing up in the great depression it made for the best scavenger hunt ever though my best friend was killed in a car accident when he was 15. i was like another son to his parents and a few weeks after his death his mother asked me to come over to help go through his things mainly because we basically treated our clothes as one gigantic wardrobe and half the stuff in his closet was mine including the shirt he was wearing when he was killed when we first went into his room his mom said to me you have 10 minutes to remove anything you don't want me to see and she handed me a duffel bag i shut the door behind me pulled out his sock drawer and took out the dime bag i had stashed there then i lifted his mattress and grabbed the two penthouse magazines and the video my brother gave us i zipped up the bag and opened the door together we went through a stuff me grabbing my clothes and her giving me his clothes that she knew i wore all of the time after a few minutes i decided to play some music i turned on his stereo and hit play on the cassette player and journeys faithfully starts playing after a few seconds dubbed over the song is my friend's voice saying mushy things to this girl he's been crushing on since eighth grade i listen for a while then i just bust out laughing it was so corny that i couldn't help it once i started laughing his mom starts laughing and crying at the same time it was the first time she had laughed since the accident and later in she said it was a turning point for her in her grieving process to me it was my best friend just being goofy over some girl i still think about him almost every day even though it's been 31 years after my grandmother passed away i was helping clear her flat she was apparently 87 when she died but we also had suspicions that she was older she had grown up in nazi germany and crossed the berlin wall as a russian spy and then gave herself in we had a lot of questions that she never answered then i found a cupboard full of notebooks they were detailed diaries and gave a lot of answers my mom was heartbroken though when she found the date of her birth it only said it was born today and then a week later said it has been named by my mother-in-law i cleaned out my cousin's room after his overdose and painted and redecorated it because he was living with my mom and she couldn't bear to see his room while i wasn't the one that found it he was holding his cell phone when he died and the person that found him and the phone saw the text he had sent to his idiot addict girlfriend saying holy hell i think i'm gonna die she didn't even try to call 9-1-1 my dad was the only living relative in this state for my great uncle who was a hoarder we found so many things in that 700 square feet house it was awful we can start with a mcdonald's bag with french fries from 1976 had the receipt in the bag that's why we knew the date condoms that expired in the 80s hidden in books vhs adult movies as non-working toilet filled with feces he had no running water for at least 10 years he covered the toilet with a trash bag and duct tape milk jugs filled with pee we are talking about 30 plus dead trash pandas dead mice cockroaches and a ton of collectible items from flea markets in case you're wondering why we even bothered there was almost 100 000 of a coin and bill collection random money stuffed everywhere random money orders not made out to anyone and a ton of other miscellaneous things that were worth big money so hazmat suits and all we all braved the disgustingness and cleared out the house and garage recently my boyfriend's uncle passed away he left his house to him in his will we've been slowly going through the rooms but on day one of the clean we started in his closet we live in a very republican conservative part of texas mind you the man was never married but was loved by all as he housed his niece who suffered from addiction when we went through his closet we found numerous sparkling thongs and various phallic devices we thought it was strange but when we moved to the bedroom we discovered photos of him and his best friend through his death we discovered that uncle was a gay man something he never came out with while he was alive it makes us sad to think he had to hide who he was for his whole life as our families are pretty open and non-judgmental when i was 26 my friend found out he had cancer he went through chemo treatment and it was not killing his cancer so he was forced to move back in with his parents about a month after moving into his parents house i stopped by to check in on him and when i was over he asked me if i could stop by his house and bring over his computer and then he said before you go over there call me i need you to do something when you're there i was like okay no problem so a few days later i headed over to his house to grab his computer so i called his parents house and was told he was sleeping so i thought what does he want me to do and for some reason i knew that he wanted me to take the adult movies out of his house so after i loaded up his computer i went searching for his porn stash it took a while but i found it and took it out of his house later that day i dropped off the computer and his parents and they told me he was still sleeping and he would call me later when he called i told him what i had done and he said that's exactly what he wanted me to do my friend died about a month later i was crushed by it but i felt blessed that he entrusted me enough to do what he wanted so his parents wouldn't be the ones to find it had to clean up after my grandmother passed found a note from back when she was with her second husband who died in 1995 that she never gave him she poured her heart out to him and said she couldn't be with him she knew the timing was hard because he was sick but she was just done she must have had a change of heart but it was hard to read something that carried so much of her pain and know how unhappy she was in his last year about a year and a half ago my stepfather passed away my mother came home from work and found him on the floor in the garage he was 52 years old he used to be addicted to painkillers had a hip replacement and surgery on his shoulder and got addicted to his prescriptions eventually he was cut off and turned to heroin my mother wanted me to get on his facebook page and find out where he was that day she came home from lunch the day he died and his truck was gone i found various messages of him begging people for money messages of him asking to score some dope conversations with an old stripper girlfriend of his i found the message that killed him he went to a friend's house to get some heroin came home and used it it stopped his heart he laid on the floor for about two hours before my mom and my ten-year-old niece found him like that i befriended an older gentleman who had zero family or friends he moved into our area and i struck up conversation with him after church one particular sunday we kept in touch regularly for about three years i would take him to doctor appointments and the like and i think he enjoyed having someone around to keep an eye on him he was struck down with pneumonia pretty bad and as i was the only person in his mobile phone the hospital rang me to let me know he was pretty low it's an amazing thing to watch someone die and i'm glad he had someone around to be there with him afterward as i was the only contact i was asked by a solicitor if i would clean out his apartment so off i went i found his will and a few other documents he wasn't a millionaire or anything but he had a few rare coins 50 000 in a bank account and over 300 000 in shares his will said that it was to be divided up between certain charities and other groups however what was in his diary was the real kicker he was to have an appointment with his solicitor the following week after he died to make changes to his will to make me the sole beneficiary of his estate i simply pretended not to see it and move on to his old photo box that contained pictures of him in drag amazing as he was a very devout gent when my grandpa died we found a bunch of stuff that no one knew existed some of it was just photos of him while he served as a captain in the navy during world war ii posing with topless polynesian women not so bad some of it was an extensive library of beta max porn films at least 20 tapes grandma said i swear to god i always wondered why he kept that betamax we only own one movie porn g ma that's why and one of the things we found was the deed to a house we didn't know anything about when my parents went to this house they found a woman we'd never met who was living there thanks to grandpa's kindness we also found that he'd been paying not only the mortgage but also depositing about five thousand dollars per month into this woman's bank account she was his mistress and was literally less than half his age he was in his late 70s she was 32. grandma refused to believe it until her dying day swore we made it all up and fabricated the bank statements property deed etc but it was real and it was stunning look i knew my grandpa was kind of a bad person the one time he had come to visit us instead of us visiting them i had been like 10 years old and he had told us i'll come back when he's playing football in high school i never played football and he never came back my mom has many stories of him being a genital to her and my aunt we think he beat grandma but we're not certain and she never said either way which is why we think he did that's not the sort of thing you remain ambiguous about when it never happened i often describe him as a man's man in a ladies man but not a good man so finding the pictures of him with topless natives was kind of funny that's the sort of thing we expected to find the adult movie was gross but not wholly out of character but the mistress was gross and sad and disappointing and disgusting and tragical at once this woman did not know that grandpa was married or had kids or grandkids she thought she was helping some rich old guy feel less alone she lost her house and her income on the same day and she is going to have to live the rest of her life thinking she ruined someone's family she didn't ruin it not really but no one involved was nice to her and even though i was pretty young at the time i do sort of regret how my parents treated her really they were mad at grandpa for betraying grandma and betraying us i really want to like my grandpa i want to remember him fondly after the obituary went out we got more than 200 letters in the mail from veterans who had served with him during the war and all of them basically said your grandpa saved my life he was a legitimate hero to these men i wish he'd been a hero to me too this one is actually kind of heartwarming my dad was a pretty reserved guy while i knew in my heart he would lay down and die for me without a moment's hesitation he never said i love you or i am proud of you or anything like that it's just who he was after he died of cancer we went to his office to clear it out i'd never really been in his actual office since on the rare occasions i'd see him at work he'd usually meet me at reception well when we went in there it was practically a shrine to me and my sister every certificate photo newspaper clipping program etc was hung up on the walls of his office a number of people came by to pay their respects as we were clearing things out and again and again i heard he was so proud of you i've heard so many things about you it's nice to meet you in person you were so special to your father he spoke the world of you honestly you could have knocked me over with a feather definitely one of the more bittersweet moments in my life r.i.p dad miss you my dad's grandmother was a huge hoarder when she died he had to go clear out the house which was no easy task my dad always tells us about how you couldn't even see the walls of the house because of the amount of stuff she had lying around and how she looked so tiny walking around in the little hallways she managed to make in between all kinds of objects after several days of trying to clear out the house my dad finally made it to her bedroom it was completely filled with all kinds of things ranging from like 20 kinds of brooms to several harps she had bought during her long trips to europe he found all kinds of surprising stuff but the one that ended up being the craziest one was a letter he found it in her bedside table and it caught his attention because of the wax seal and what was written on the envelope to be opened by my daughter only after my death my dad called his mom immediately since she was his grandmother's only daughter after getting her permission he opened the envelope and found a letter and a birth certificate in the letter his grandmother explained how she was never able to have children and how ashamed she and her husband always felt big catholics beginning of 20th century mexico she always wanted to have a child so they decided to take a very long trip through europe from which they would come back with a baby this baby was my dad's mom who always looked a bit different from her family as white as it can be bluest eyes you've ever seen they found her in an orphanage run by some nuns in the north of france and immediately fell in love with her adoption was a big taboo at the time so no one ever knew about it the story they told was that she had gotten pregnant during their trip and had given birth to the baby in europe they brought her back to mexico and registered her as a newborn even though she was already several years old my grandmother lived all her life thinking she was her parents biological daughter at 45 through a letter she found out that she was adopted that she was actually older than what she always thought and that she was actually french not mexican my dad had to tell her all of this through the phone while trying to understand a birth certificate written in french my grandma eventually ended up hiring a private investigator and finding her family in france but that's another story thanks for listening to radio tts hit the subscribe button and activate the notification bell for more videos click the right box for the confessions playlist let us know in the comments what you think about these stories and tell us have you ever cleaned out a room of a deceased person you

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Published: Wed Sep 23 2020