These DAILY HABITS Will Prime Your Brain To Get ANYTHING YOU WANT | Tony Robbins

anybody doesn't have problems he's either totally asleep at the wheel or they don't have much of any kind of a life you know no responsibility nothing in their building so my life is really about learn from the best but i don't start with the how i start with i think you gotta have a dream the school of greatness please welcome i know your morning routine has evolved and shifted and changed over the years probably 30 years ago might have been a little bit different than it is today because you've been researching so much about mindset about neuroscience about the body about nutrition about all the different medical things that are out there is there something new that you do with your morning routine now that is different then and what has really helped accelerate your productivity your joy your peace at this level with your morning routine well there i have certain fundamentals that haven't changed you know i i think i've shared with you before the first thing i do every single morning is i go in freezing cold water and i share this with many people it's not because i'm a masochist but uh because it moves the lymph of your body as you well know and when you jump in it never feels good to go in but getting out you feel incredible but i do it for a different reason i do it to train my brain to say when i say now it means now when i say go we go i don't stand there because it's cold and go maybe in a minute when i'm ready and i think i've shared with you before i don't think i've ever had a morning i look forward to jumping in that water ever but i always do it because i've trained my brain this is how we work and if you train your brain to do that every single day then it'll do it on the more difficult and important things in life but i also then i do my priming i think you're familiar with which is i do 10 minutes and i pick 10 minutes because if i said do 20 minutes or 30 oh i don't have time but if you don't have 10 minutes for your life you don't have much of a life so i do this 10 minute process and if people want to know it rather than walk through it right now they can go to tony robbins forward slash priming there's a video it's free but the essence of it is i changed my body radically and i do three things to make sure that my brain is primed and what i mean by primed is most people think their thoughts are their thoughts louis and you and i know better because you and i have read the studies right priming is a psychological principle where you think thoughts you think they're yours but very often they're created by the environment so one example was harvard has done multiple studies on this and one of the studies they did was taking people walking up to people they hired two actors they walked up to a hundred people they had to do the exact same thing men and women and what they did is they'd walk up with a cup of coffee in their hand and they'd look at you and go here we do all this for a second and look down and reach in their pocket to pull out their phone and most people then take the coffee there's nobody there you're not looking to give it back right and then they do what they're doing the phone they put it back in they go thank you so much and they take their coffee back and they walk away but then about 20 minutes later if you're in a mall or school campus or whatever a person comes by with a clipboard and they give you 20 and they say listen i know this sounds crazy but if you'll give me 30 seconds of your time the 20 is yours i need you to read two minutes of this literally this little story and then just answer three questions for me here's the interesting part half the people have a reaction more than 80 percent and half have a reaction 80 percent difference and here's the question they read the same story but half the people are handed hot coffee half the people handed iced coffee and the question they ask is how would you describe the main character of the story after they read a few paragraphs and the people who are handed hot coffee say the person is warm and genuine 81 of the people 79 to 80 79.8 it's almost it's a one percent difference you know natural variability who are given the iced coffee see the person is cold and uncaring i could tell you 20 studies like that that would blow your mind how your brain is conditioned or primed by the environment and think about all that's gone on with covert of the last two years and how many people's brains live in fear and my new health book i put in there just to remind people with covid outside being 80 years old the number one or having four or five comorbidities number one factor eighty percent of people die of cove and seventy nine point eight percent are obese that's something you can do something about the second factor according to the cdc is fear because anxiety makes people get short of breath they freak out and their whole nervous system starts to go shut down your immune system can be shut down just by fear alone and so this experience of life that we have most people just don't understand that you are being primed all the time and unless you prime yourself you're going to be primed by the environment which most people understand that your brain right now is being conditioned and triggered whether you know it or not if you're in any social network it's being done continuously by algorithms so i want to take control of my brain so i do three quick things one i take three minutes of those 10 minutes after i've changed my body and i focus on three different events in my life that i'm grateful for i usually pick two big ones and one small one it could be as simple as a smile my daughter's face the wind against you know my skin but i really i don't like if you've ever been on a roller coaster and you remember the roller coaster over there it's not the same as remember going over the edge like you're there so i do it in an associated way and it changes your biochemistry now it sounds pretty you know positive thinking i'm going to be grateful but there's a value to it because the two emotions that mess up your business your life your relationships are anger and fear and you can't be angry and grateful simultaneously and you can't be fearful and grateful simultaneously so by starting my day without and it's not some fake pump up positive thinking they're real experiences so it literally teaches your body to go in that state because otherwise the environment when right now there's a whole lot of uncertainty and fear then real fast i do this three-minute process it's kind of like a blessing and then three minutes the last three minutes are called three to thrive where i focus on three things i want to accomplish but instead of thinking i want to accomplish i see feel and experience it is done i feel grateful i celebrate it and it trains your brain so in 10 minutes i'm done third thing that i'll do i immediately send a message or a text or an audio message to somebody as a sincere compliment and i don't go dude great job or wow you're cool i say listen i saw you on tuesday with those kids and i saw you take that extra 20 minutes no one else did i just want you know i saw that i thought that was incredible so i'm always very specific so they know it's not just some positive thinking call it's sincerely doing and it makes me constantly look for the good in the people i work with fourth thing i do is whatever i don't want to do the most challenging part of the day i want to go handle that problem i want to handle that issue because after you do that everything has momentum so those four are my core now my workouts what i've done to be able to have more energy and vitality and strength i just finished a book called life force i spent three years on it and in there i give all the details of what to do depending upon what your goals are and what your direction is stage of life what you're are you looking for more energy or more strength are you looking to extend the quality of your life are you dealing with a real disease and you know i did money master the game and i interviewed you know at the time 50 of the smartest people in the world financially ray dalio warren buffett etc this time i needed 167 nobel laureates scientists and the greatest regenerative doctors on the face of the earth so there's nothing in here that's my opinion it is all science and it's stuff that you would think would happen 20 or 30 years in the future that's happening either right now or the things that are coming in the next 12 to 36 months that the fda is currently looking at for approval i want to ask you a follow-up to one thing you mentioned there which i think a lot of people don't do which i think you do incredibly well i've seen you do this many times you mentioned you reach out to someone you'll text someone you'll send a voice note or a video message or maybe you're calling them or just saying hi to them and telling them you're acknowledging something that they're doing well that you appreciate i don't think that many people do this why is this so important for you personally and why do you think this would help so many people get out of themselves and overcome anxiety and stress if they did this even a couple of times a week i know you do this every day but just a couple texts a week why was this so valuable for people well number one i love people so i love to sincerely if you just call someone to make a compliment and it's not sincere anybody can feel that i don't do that you know it's like i i pride myself on finding the goodness in people or the skill sets in people and i also know that what is acknowledged tends to grow so from standpoint of that i want them to feel that feeling of being appreciated i want them to know i see what's happening behind the camera so to speak you know it's like that's what matters it's not how everybody else sees you it's how you really are and then it also deepens every relationship you have when you sincerely acknowledge somebody and you notice something other people don't notice and so it deepens the connection and to me quality of life is the quality of two things your emotions and your relationships and you know if my emotions are terrible my relationships are going to be terrible but if i have great emotions and i can extend that out to help other people then it just makes me feel more alive so i i do it for me and them it's a virtuous cycle right yeah and i think if someone's feeling you know stressed the easiest way to overcome that is do what you said which is focus on the things you're grateful for and get out of yourself and start acknowledging someone else and you'll you'll you'll build that deeper relationship and feel better in the process now you've got positive momentum energy now you attack the most difficult thing of your day and when you make that your habit it the most difficult thing gets smaller and smaller because you're feeling stronger and stronger right and then you have momentum and so now you'll attack the next difficult thing and it doesn't even feel difficult at that point but the whole secret is most of us don't realize depending on which researcher you buy into somewhere between 45 and 55 of what we do is habitual and the great thing about habit is you don't have to think so i don't know about you but the first time i tried to drive a stick shift car when i was a little kid it's like i'm supposed to do this this this watch the rearview mirror and the ah it's too much but once you learn it most of driving 99 of its habits so now your brain is free to do other things that's the value of making something habitual the weakness of making it habitual is you don't grow right the weakness of making habitus you don't feel fully alive so it's like you've got to find that balance in your life but if you can create habits that make you do the right things for your mind your body your emotion and for others then let those take over then it becomes it's like working out you and i both are workout nuts and it's like in the early days it's hard to work out at this stage in my life of yours if you didn't work out i don't work out on my bed as you'd be pissed off and frustrated right you need to work out it's a part of who you are now in the beginning days is like the last thing i wanted to do but once it's in your life that now frees you up to use that energy for everything else that matters in your life yeah absolutely uh two and a half years ago i had a the privilege of being in your your island in fiji spending uh about a week with a small group of people uh dean and a a bunch of other guys and gals we got to spend some time with you and you had a prediction you said winter is coming yes and you you know dean has told me that you have predicted many things over the last you know four decades in you know the economy and what's happening in the world and all these different crises you're you're kind of on the front lines of access to the most brilliant people in the world so you you know what's happening before it happens and you said to us winter is coming you probably knew this two years prior to that and you said you don't know when exactly but it's coming soon and then i don't know four or five months later it hit and hit hard for a lot of people and it's still hitting hard like you're talking about over the last couple years and i don't think it's going to slow down anytime soon it seems like there might be some hope and then boom another wave and then another wave of something whatever it is what did you learn from researching in the new book with all these different experts on how we can really take back control of our mind our health in in new ways to support us when the winter continues to hit because it doesn't it doesn't seem like it's going away anytime soon you're hitting on a huge note i'd love to plant the seed with everyone listening and that is we're about halfway through winter but my hope is this is the year where that part starts to change but we're still in winter meaning so many people have been conditioned to be fearful so many businesses have been shut down our children kept out of school for such a long period of time that there's after effects on that and it's also you want to be a student of history think of it this way for a second when did mankind really become a dominant force on earth when they made one distinction i've shared this with you when we're private i think i told you there's three skills that you want to master if you want an extraordinary life no matter what decade we're in you know you know you've probably read oxford and many other universities are doing these studies where they say half the jobs we have today will be gone by 2040 which sounds like a long time but it's 18 years from now and that'll go like this and so my grandkids my daughter it's like what i want to help them with well the first skill you got to master to be great you know you're the school of greatness is the ability to recognize patterns when humanity recognized the pattern of the seasons the whole world changed because we went from hunter gatherers trying to survive from place to place where we're exposed to everything to wait a second if we plant in the springtime we protect in the summer we reap in the fall and then we hang on to some of that so we can live through the winter that created communities for the first time and then eventually cities and states and countries so that changed the world what will change a person's life is when you realize there's also a set of seasons in your own life and so think of it this way 0 to 21 is springtime things are easy to grow in springtime you don't have to do that much growing as a kid happens naturally and some people live a protected childhood not some of us not so much but overall life is supporting you it's sending you teaching you sharing with you now when you get from you know 21 to 41 or 22 to 42 whatever range you want to talk about some people get there at 16 some people get their 25 you now are in the real world and now you go test what you learned in your springtime and it's a hot summer and you find out holy a relationship's different than i thought it was when i'm in an intimate relationship committed it's not the thing i just envisioned so easily or i'm not as bulletproof as i thought i was i'm not president united states already in a billionaire like i said it was going to be when i was you know 19. so you start to learn tests figure out what's real it's an important stage of life 42 43 to 62 63 is the power of your life it's the reaping time if you worked hard in the spring in the summer and you put yourself out there and you planted it's a reaping time it's a time when you really become a leader just everyone's different some sooner or later but it's a great stage to understand and then if you're lucky you go from 63 to 83 and maybe 83 to 103 of the oldest living humans 119 you have an extended final season of your life where you could be the mentor you get to share you get to make a difference and maybe towards the end of your life people look out for you again if you looked out for everybody else that's kind of the cycle of life but then there's a third pattern and that's a cycle of history the most powerful people by the way have used not only pattern recognition but the second skill pattern utilization they see a pattern and they use it so you'd say how did jeff bezos become the richest man in the world and the answer is simple he studied the growth in the internet at an early stage and saw how explosive it was it was like nothing else he could see and he just figured any product books was easy one to start with but he got himself in and then he started to learn the real secret the convenience is what people value more than anything else and when he honed in on that one distinction he not only recognized the pattern use the pattern the people that are real masters create their own patterns right you play everybody else's music and then eventually you get good enough you can create your own music right so the similar thing happens and so what's occurred is in humanity is you go through there's this seasons in nature there's seasons in my life and then there's seasons in history so watch this this is what gives me great optimism for everyone watching here first of all winter's not forever no pandemic lives forever no you know war lives forever nothing everything changes and everything ends and which means something new occurs you may not like it but that's how life is and the good news about winter is it's always followed by springtime historically some winters are long some are short but they're always followed by springtime what follows the night the daytime what a cool way to set it up if you were god or the universe right so imagine for a second all of your listeners are viewers and you think about it too what if you're born in 1910 now you know the seasons of a person's life so from 1910 the next 19 20 years of your life you're going to be absorbing what was happening war one ends the world looks like it's a great place new technology cars radio and then what happens an explosion of abundance the roaring 20s and so you're a kid you're 14 15 years old and you're like i can't wait to get a car to go but what happened when that person hit the next stage of life 19 20 21 years old as they came of age it's 1929 and suddenly people are jumping out of buildings total depression dust bowl nobody's got jobs it looks horrific and it was horrific but then did they get a break no when they turn 29 it's 1939. so think about it now world war two breaks out you and i don't remember we weren't there but anybody was alive will tell you it looked like the whole world was going in hitler was sweeping across europe bombing london it literally looked like the world as we know it was over and this group of people like millennials or z generation a lot of people make fun of and they go there you know whatever wall flowers i forget the terms they use and then the millennials and z generation argue about you're old because you parked in the middle versus the side i mean it's it's the same was happening then these people are called flappers they were irresponsible but here's the here's history and one thought good times create weak people weak people create bad times bad times create strong people strong people create good times that's the history of the world over and over and over again yes and so what happened is that generation who was weak became strong because the environment demanded it they became the heroes and think about how different the 1930s and 40s were versus after the war 45 through 50 up until kennedy 63 that 20-year period was what a lot of people thought was the greatest time in america now certainly wasn't if you're african-american started to become better if you're a woman but then think about after kennedy died and robert kennedy is killed and martin luther king is killed think about the 60s and the 70s how different they were than the 80s 90s 2000s so we go through these seasons i could show them to you a thousand years of roman history and you can see them there's a book i highly recommend um bill clinton gave me this book called generations when i was working with him 25 years ago about a 700 page book but the same authors william strauss and neil wrote a smaller book which might be more helpful and i call it's called the fourth turning i read it in 1997 and it shows you the seasons of history and how everybody enters that like everyone's going to have winter some are going to have it in their 20s some are going to have in their 40s somebody have their 60s or 80s so i'm going to have it when they're children and then we all move through these seasons that are pretty much historic because the older person dies everybody loses that lesson and then we tend to unfortunately have to relearn some lessons again so i want you to know that if it looks really horrible right now if you follow those cycles we're about halfway through winter and winter usually starts with a financial winter which i was referring to i did not predict the pandemic but there are pandemics as there were 80 years ago right but in addition to that there's always a great war and it could be a cyber war could be war with china but there's no question we are not done with what we're going to deal with in fact i'm reading right now you know one of the ways i stay on the cutting edge is i'm constantly studying history because you know people say you know it it doesn't repeat itself but it rhymes you know and this is a book that anybody who really wants to know where the world's going it's ray dalio's newest book the changing world order i mean it's it's incredible it's 500 years of history so my whole thing is leaders anticipate losers react if you can anticipate what's coming you can really take advantage if you wait till it hits you you're in trouble so i think we're in a time where you're gonna it's gonna be a better year if you're willing to be better right you know winter can be a beautiful time as you've heard me say before you can freeze the death or you can ski and snowboard and have a great time with your family and build something and so then when spring comes you know you can really take advantage but if you look at the world the most successful businesses started in the winter 68 of the fortune 1000 were started in either a recession or a depression i don't care if you're talking about disney or exxon in the depression or pizza hut or fedex in a recession or apple in a recession so this is your time but you have to get your head straight and you got to get your energy strong and that's not easy when most people shoved in their houses and isolated and heard nothing but fear so you got to take back control absolutely one of the things in the sports arena that i learned growing up was if you stay ready you don't have to get ready i love that and you again you've worked with interviewed you're friends with the top peak performers in the world and in all industries you know them all what are one or two practices besides the one you talked about with your morning routine from peak performers that you've studied or maybe you've implemented that keeps them prepared so they don't have to get ready they stay ready well i think um unfortunately the real things are simple that's why nobody does them so if you if you took it ray dalio you're or warren buffett i mean they're readers i'm i'm a constant reader but i don't just read anything i read something that i think can give me an edge of understanding because i mean look at it as you and i both know most people jim rohn used to say my teachers say most people major in minor things you know they know more about some actresses personal life than they know about their own physical body or their vitality or their energy or their emotion or their business or their career and so what matters a few subjects your body because your energy matters that energy is low everything i just said is worthless to you because you're just going to go he's talking too fast and there's a lot going on and yeah hopefully the future will be better because when you're low energy you don't use your full intelligence or ability and most of us have not moved so much because of the environment of covid where everybody was pretty much locked down and unless you live like i did in florida the point of the matter is most people that energy has been lower so you need energy you need emotion if you don't know how to master your emotion emotions start wars emotion creates peace emotions get in motion gets you laid emotion gets you children emotion is what can make that business work or fail and most people don't know how to direct their own emotions what's another lesson you got to look at your own financial world if you don't master it it's going to create enormous stress your relationships are everything as we've already said the your business or your career or hopefully it's your mission and then there's the spiritual side of life so you can take a half dozen areas and go let me find who's genius in this area and let me go learn from them let me go read let me listen to podcasts let me be conscious about feeding my brain things that are going to give me not only inspiration but insight and skill and tools and everyone i know who is not only successful but is able to contribute back to society it has a hunger to constantly improve at least one area of those six areas of their life and the most happy the ones that hit in multiple areas and that's why like like one of the reasons i wrote life force richest man in the graveyard is not your goal you know it's like there's an old phrase that says you know a person who's healthy has a million dreams a person's not healthy as one you know so i wanted to give people the cutting edge in that area because it's such a critical area of all these different areas of life mastering emotions financial world relationships what do you what do you think is the root of of people lacking what they really want in all those areas is it the confidence is it the skill set is it some what else do they you know what is the root cause of holding them back from really growing in all those areas i think it's a couple things one is the biggest problem people have is they think they're not supposed to have any and problems are the fuel for growth right and so it's like if you don't have any problems you're either a liar or you might call them challenges it feels better i understand that but you know anybody doesn't have problems he's either totally asleep with the wheel or they don't have much of any kind of a life you know no responsibility nothing in their building so i think the first thing is this misnomer that if i have a problem there's something wrong with me or my life and i think the second one is this delusion we've sold people on that getting what you want is going to make you happy you know you could call success getting what you want i i don't define it that way but that's how most people do but then there's fulfillment and fulfillment is living what you're made for it's like i think the biggest challenge people have and the reason they're not able to respond to challenges they're just thinking about themselves and it's not that hard to meet your own needs and it's nobody's fault i mean these little things in our pocket these little mini computers we used to call phones i mean they're constantly conditioning you to instantly get what you want and that's not how human relationship works and that sure as hell not how you build a business right it's not a straight line if you go to nature you will not see a straight line instead unless a human built it because everything grows a little up and down like a stock like anything else and but if it really grows it keeps growing but it's a winding process and so i think the problem is that people don't have something that they're wanting to serve more than themselves that's where my energy comes from i don't have to work in a day of my life why the hell do i do all this crazy stuff i got 105 companies now and i got all these different industries because it's so much more interesting to be in the game of life and keep growing and expanding and being challenged that's what makes you feel alive and do are there problems with 105 companies i can promise you but if i thought my life was supposed to be problem free i would be really stressed out and if i was just doing it for me i would have stopped a long time ago it's like i know you've asked me a lot of times about confidence you just mention it again like yes is there a lack of confidence no it's a lack of mission right because what happens is when you have something you want to serve if it's your child and everything's on the line you won't come up with answers you'll never come up with for yourself right so it's like having that sense of mission and then i think the next problem is that people think they have to know how i call it the tyranny of how like you get all excited i'm gonna do this and then your brain goes i've never done it before oh my god what did i say i don't know how to do this and they tend to focus on how to do it and when you start with how you're screwed like martin luther king had no idea how when he did his i have a dream speech in fact his wife was the one that pushed him because he was uncertain right you know the real history it's pretty interesting but the bottom line is he gets up there and he gives his vision of how it can be done he talked about what needs to happen and why if you can figure out what you want and why you want it and you get strong enough reasons reasons that'll drive you late at night it'll get you up early in the morning and the reasons are different some people do it for nitty gritty reasons jim rohn used to say because you know some guy told him he borrowed money from this finance company i forget the name of hfc finance whatever it was and you know he hadn't been back since he borrowed the money you know so they're calling him in those days they could harass you in ways they can't today right they can call them show up and embarrass him in front of his neighbors and so jim rohn this first real chunk of money he told me he made because it's like he set this goal it was his nitty gritty reason his reason to get rich was so we could go down and pay this thing off and he said he went to the bank and got it all in cash and in small bills and he bolted into this little hfc you know finance place and the guy who borrowed the money was the fourth best back and he said i walked up there i opened i opened up this brief and i dumped all the money all over his desk and small bills and i said count it it's all there i will never be back he said he was startled because i hadn't been there since i borrowed the money right but but he did it for the ingredients some people do it for their kid some people will do it like we almost all do it for something more than ourselves some people do it because they like winning right i know that about you right it's like i like winning i like being the best at what i do so i'm not going to settle for less than that why would i right so you got to find your reasons but if you know what you want and you get a big enough why now you'll figure out how to do it but if you start with how you know the small brain the fear brain goes oh i don't know what they don't know where to go i don't know what to do ninety percent of time either i know what and why and then i try some it doesn't work i try something else or hit something else now i speed it up by learning from the best so that's why you know money master game is a perfect example my companies you know at the time were 100 million companies i had one 500 million dollar company now we're doing 7 billion i took what i learned from these guys i applied it not only my investing i applied it to my own businesses why do i reinvent the wheel when i just learn from the best on earth i mean somebody's that good can tell you that little two millimeter thing that changes everything so my life is really about learn from the best but i don't start with the how i start with the what and the why and i think that's the mistake most people make and then how do you get confident you do stuff i mean like i'll give an example speaking you know it's supposedly outside of falling like the second biggest fear people have public speaking and you know you've trained yourself so you don't feel that challenge and but i don't feel that challenge and i'd not i have done it a million times but i didn't feel it early on and the reason was i try to explain to people i'm not getting up thinking about how i'm doing if i did i'd probably be a horrible critic of myself because i i can be brutal in those ways i'm focused on how do i serve them what do they need what do they want how can i serve and when you're focused on others and how to serve them there's no lack of confidence in you because if it's not working you just change your approach because it's all about serving people that are scared to speak are thinking constantly how am i doing am i good enough am i strong enough you'll never get confidence confidence comes from doing something so my confidence is tying your shoes right confidence on michael jordan making a thousand shots before you take a break every single day six days a week so you look at jordan or you look at you know lebron or you look at anybody who's the best in the world of what they do and you go aren't they lucky but if you actually study them you'll see they're doing things they're practicing in private things that make them certain in public and they get rewarded for what they do in public yeah and you got to do the same it's interesting because public speaking was probably my most terrifying thing i wasn't even able to speak in front of like five people without stuttering and just kind of forgetting what i wanted to say i couldn't get my message across so i took a year of public speaking class with toastmasters just to get reps in a group of people that are you know going to give you positive feedback and in a safe environment so i could just get in front of a room practice a five minute speech and know that i'm going to make mistakes it's interesting what you said is 100 true about thinking about serving others because for i think it was probably seven years i was i was speaking on stages and i would still get nervous like a day or two before it wasn't as bad as the first two years where it was like a week before and that was only like a day or two and i told my my coach at the time his name's chris lee and i said i don't know why i'm speaking i've been doing this for a long enough now shouldn't i be not afraid anymore and he said you're thinking about messing up missing the joke forgetting what you're gonna say in the first line forgetting you're thinking about how you're looking as opposed to serving people and he said exactly you know exactly what you just said he's like when you just know you're gonna mess up it's not gonna be perfect you're gonna get forget that line that you really wanted to say but just put all the energy on the audience everything starts to change and so your your message speaks to me because i'm an example of that and it really shows obviously you kick ass in that area now but think about that you just gave people the truth right how do you build confidence is action the biggest mistake people think they're supposed to walk out and be good at it and if they're not because you know they don't want any part of it i don't not look good not be good because we live in the social media world where they compare themselves to people that are you know i got a friend that owns a gym and we laugh about this all the time he says tony at least two or three times first time he told me i couldn't believe it but i saw it happen one time we went to go pick him up we were going to lunch and he goes look at this and these people would come out a woman or a man they both do it and lay out all this stuff take a million pictures themselves and then leave they didn't do any work out whatsoever that's the social media when filters on pictures and so people compare themselves to not other humans they compare to people this story and that's why so many people get depressed when these you know i'm sure you've seen the studies show the more time people spend on social media usually the greater levels of frustration and anger and certainly depression for a lot of people have because you're comparing a world that doesn't matter plus you're being reinforced by these algorithms in ways that go beyond your conscious awareness what happens when we don't lean into our fears or we just allow our fears to stay inside of us our insecurities to stay inside of us for years or decades and we never actually learn to act on them and improve them what happens to us if we just allow these fears to to hold us back well what happens to a muscle if you don't use it we say you lose it you don't actually lose it but it gets weaker and weaker as you well know right and what happens the minute you start making demands on it especially if you haven't made demands in a while it doesn't take much to see real muscle growth right and so it's like if you if you constantly live in fear your world gets smaller and smaller and it tends to get more fearful like who's more fearful someone has broken 10 bones in their body and healed them as a kid or someone never broke a bone you know the answer is the kids that are over protected are fearful all the time but if you've gone out in the street and you know you've gotten in a fight and you know you busted your arm or your hand or finger or you played football or whatever the hell it is or boxed or something it's like now it's like i'm not afraid of that crap because you've lived it and there's no substitute i always tell people a belief is a poor substitute for an experience you think you know what china is but i take you to china you have a little different experience and so almost everything i do is give someone an experience that's the reason you know i did the firewalk i still do but it did for so many years i did before that i used to do skydiving but it's hard to get 15 000 people above the sky in new york in the middle of the night so i had to come up with other tools but the firewalk was again giving you an experience of something that seemed difficult or impossible and then you get yourself to do it and your brain goes wait a second if i could do that what else can i get myself to do that psychological shift is the most important shift that people can make it's a shift in your identity why is identity so important for us to shape a positive powerful identity well first of all so everybody understands what i mean by identity is we all have a way of identifying ourselves we have a way of labeling ourselves so most of us came up with our labels based on how we behaved but really smart people can do stupid things really nice people can be mean mean people can be nice and so if you judge yourself too soon and most people's identity their labels for themselves who they think they are has been based on their past and often many years ago and so they don't update it so the the metaphor i'd give for identity is like it's your comfort zone it's not your goals so if you like if you took a temperature in the room and said 68 degrees is my comfort zone physically emotionally financially i want more in my relationship i want more physically energy-wise i want more financially my career but this is what i'm used to and so what happens people stay in their comfort zone for the most part and then let's say something happens and you dip you're a 68 degree or that's your mentality and you drop down to 62 61 60 somewhere around 60 or 59 the heaters kick on and go whoa whoa whoa you're a 68 degree or what the hell are you doing we've all experienced that all of a sudden you go i'm not going to live like this anymore i'm not going to be in this relationship i'm not going to be fat like this boom and you get this drive and you start to change but what most people don't understand is it happens on the upper end too meaning let's say you got momentum you start crushing it you start doing even better than you think you go from 68 to 70 88 you're 98 degrees financially emotionally spiritually whatever the metaphor is and then what happens you're going to say hey you're bringing us who the hell do you think you are you're not a 98 degree right you're back to 68 and if nothing else the heaters stop you lose your drive and that'll drift you back and not enough the air conditioning can kick on you start to kind of sabotage yourself till you get back to your comfort zone so unless you expand your identity change is temporary it's like when someone says to me i've stopped smoking it's been eight days and i say why are you counting so you can tell people how long you lasted this time like if i went to somebody and and i said to you hey you know louis you want a cigarette you're not going to say what brand is it you know no i'm not a smoker notice how people i'm not one of those that's not my identity identity is the strongest force in the human personality if you look lance armstrong was a mixed identity now in the culture this is a guy that had to win and found a way to win so when he was told he had cancer in his lungs in his brain and in his testicles and he rides a bike and he's going to die his answer was no i'm a champion i find the way i will find the answer and he did now unfortunately he bent the rules around the sport and it kind of ruined his reputation obviously but that mentality his identity is why he survived other people told they have cancer and they're like it's over they give up they start arranging their affairs and so that psychological difference is the number one thing i work with people on because unless you expand your identity you're going to basically keep where you are you might improve a little or not you might go up and down a bit but you're going to stay within a realm if you're going to have an explosive breakthrough to another level physically mentally financially spiritually then we've got to not only give you the tools we got to shift that internal sense of who you really are and have you find that you are more than anything that's ever happened to you that you can handle whatever shows up even if it's incredibly scary or uncomfortable one of the biggest challenge i see a lot of people having is the identity when they start to have some success they expand they get to you know 80 85 90 100 degrees and start to really grow and expand what would you say is one of the main factors to help people to continue to break through to a higher degree as opposed to going back into the comfort zone is it a habit is it a mindset is it a belief is it environment you know what is this uh what are those things would you say or a couple of things to help you continue and not fall back down it's it's i'm sorry to be a broken record but it's just the truth it's a purpose larger than yourself that keeps you going if it's only to meet your own needs you will drop back into your comfort zone but like you know for example you know one of the great things that came out of covid is i've spent most of my life as a vagabond right because i travel all over the earth so in most years i travel to you know 115 cities and as you know most of my seminars are multi-day seminars and i go to 12 to 16 countries you know like australia three times and so all of a sudden covet hits and i had to adapt i found this way to adapt and now i'm reaching ten dollars in my largest seminars now 900 000 people versus 15 000. i was trying i did one football stadium in 2019 with 38 000 people 40 000 people it was incredible now that's a tiny seminar you know because i couldn't put 900 000 people in any stadium right so all this good comes from that adaptation right figuring out what to do but i think the other part of it is you know during the same time when the great gifts was i could find a way to be home and still touch people's lives so deeply and do it in a way that was impactful i could see it and feel it in their home i could see their children i mean it's been amazing and now i do both i do hybrid i got a thousand people in front of me and 197 countries all around me but one of the other benefits was is we'd want to have a daughter and i told my wife i'm not having a kid after 50. i don't want to show up in high school reunion and be 70 years old but now i got an i've got a night i've got a 48 year old daughter and a nine-month-old daughter to give you an idea i got five kids of my grandkids but my daughter like all the things i've ever done for myself biohacking and health and all that stuff like now i'll be 80 at her high school reunion so like i got to use these things for a different reason and so that doesn't let me get to a certain level and stand there it's like man i you know i got to be 92 to 102 range in order to do that i got to know every tool in the tool book to turn around so gave me even more drive and then what comes out of that now is i can help anybody i mean you know this is my new book by the way it's called life force it's coming out february the 8th but you can pre-order it now on amazon or go to tony robbins.com but the point is it's like i want to know every single tool like i got totally obsessed even more than i normally have because it's like okay i got a higher purpose i got all my grandkids all my children but now i got my daughter it's like i gotta have these tools so you know you probably know that i think you remember about four years ago five years ago i was being crazy and i was snowboarding chasing somebody who was 25 years old and a professional right and i was not a professional regardless of age and i had one of the most horrific accidents i tore my rotator cuffs and you know i was i've lived with pain like you we both athletes so you know it's like to live in pain but i was nine nine nerve pain like couldn't sleep more than 30 minutes in a night going to see these doctors and what do they all say every single one says the same thing surgery you got to cut it it's the only way and then i go okay how long's the rehab well you know there's no guarantee your shoulder will work again completely it could break again but you know probably four to six months and i'm one of the best so it's like my brain's like no there's got to be a better way and i remember seeing this study at mayo clinic where they said you got to get a second opinion they recommend to this day it doesn't matter how good the doctor is because only 12 of the time is the second opinion the same as the first which means 88 of the time it's different and so it's like okay i need more opinions i was getting the same opinions i was going the same kind of doctor so then i went to peter diamandis who's my partner and friend and you know so he's an md from harvard but he's also a rocket scientist i was like what about stem cells i know a little bit about stem cells so he interviewed me interviewing me to dr bob ferrari and they're both my co-authors in the book now and both my partners and bob's the guy that took you know people remember probably remember years ago 38 years ago somebody took old rats and gave them young rats blood and vice versa and magically the old rats got young muscle strong hair darker and the old young rats got old it's kind of a vampire thing but that's how stem cells were discovered so i went to him and he said tony look your shoulder is shredded so i can't guarantee anything but if you go get stem cells here in the u.s forget it because the way they regulate everything else it's not going to do it so go to panama and he goes i want you to go down to this location and i want to get three day old stem cells and he said they're cord stem cells it's not fetal tissue i'd never do that they throw away the cords and it's full of this life force that literally can change everything and so i went down and i got this iv and yeah i felt okay and next day i was really sleepy i woke up the third morning not only was my shoulder perfect i have the mri to just blow your mind three days but the most important thing is i had spinal stenosis i've been in massive back pain for 14 years no back pain whatsoever no exaggeration so i became nuts first for stem cells and then for anything regenerative medicine so then i get invited by the pope to be the cleanup speaker on believe it or not the pope puts on the number one stem cell regenerative conference every two years because he sees it's not fetal tissue and he sees it as a gift from god and it's healing people in ways they've never seen before so they asked me to be the cleanup speaker i'm like i'm no idiot i'm not going to come clean up speak i'm going to go the whole four days and attend every class and so i met the greatest scientists on the face of the earth nobel laureates brilliant people who are doing these breakthroughs in cancer and heart disease and alzheimer's but also regenerative medicine and so i right then i said i'm going to write a book i'm going to do like money master the game i'm only there i interviewed 50 of the most you know financially successful people in history here i interviewed 168 of the greatest nobel laureates scientists mds the best on earth on how do you generate generate more energy so like for example for years if someone like a fireman or a person falls in a fire you know what they look like afterwards it's grotesque it's so sad for their life and the standard treatment is put cadaver skin on there to help them survive initially well today there's seven hospitals in the united states where they take your stem cells and they spray it on your face and in the book i show a picture of this fireman before and three weeks later and you could never tell he was even in the fire um you know jack nicholas one of the greatest golfers of all time couldn't stand for more than 10 minutes he gave me an endorsement for the book and he got stem cells and this other piece we'd show you on how to eliminate pain in a natural scientific way he's playing golf again for the first time uh christina ronaldo the greatest you know football soccer player in the world you know gave me a north smith book because it's the same thing he's used regenerative medicine to completely turn his life around so there are tools that are blow your mind there are tools for preventing things that'll blow your mind there's a new test that just came out i got a call from some of my partners about five six months ago and he said tony you know there's been a breakthrough in the number one killer in america which is heart disease right and they said there's this new scan called a ccta scan and if you've ever had a ct scan you know they tell you how much calc they give you a score in your calcium but hardened calcium is actually healed in the body it's the loose calcium they call the widowmaker that can then block an artery and give you a stroke or give you a heart attack and he goes tony it's so hard to read i'm sure you've had them before i said i have he goes they now this ai that literally opens digitally every single one of your you know entries in your body flow in your body arteries etc and it goes through using ai and shows what's actually hardened and good and what's loose and gives you a score and then shows you what to do he said they can predict a heart attack between seven and ten years in advance and show you what to do so it never happens so my father-in-law is with me at the time he's eighties about to be eight years old he's a strong and beautiful man but you know people around you start telling you you're getting older 80 and arrange your affairs and i can just see the decline in his psychology and then your physiology usually matches that so i said dad i said i'm going to go to our center here in florida i said i'm going to take a couple hours and do this new test and meet some guys and talk why don't you come with me let's do it together i see we're both a stage of life where we're going to obviously have some of this calcium but then it'll show us what to do i said why don't we go do it my father-in-law who you know worked his whole life lifting lumbery at his own business he is clean as a whistle and then we have these tools now i write about in the book too like i had this ankle of mind that if i ever had a massage the last 18 years like don't touch it because if you did the nerves go crazy and it literally all my spine like an electrical shock and i went in for a five minute procedure they scan what's going on in the tissue in your body right and then they put in this fluid that opens up the channel and then it heals it it's mu fluid for example and it was like it was a 10 minute procedure and i've never had a problem with my ankle since that was like three years ago so my dad had a hip issue so while we're there they do his hip and he walks perfectly out with no pain for the first time in 12 years so we're getting on the plane and this is what i want for the book for people it's one of the reasons i wrote it my dad says to me otherwise because you know tony those people talk about 120 and that i don't know about that stuff but he goes you know i'm 80. and my heart is solid and he goes and i'm my hips are working and my muscles are strong he goes i can't live another 20 years he goes you've only known my daughter for 22 years been married to her he goes that's like a lifetime you know he's got this whole new lease on life so there are so many things you can do that can take away your fears about cancer heart disease alzheimer's etc or if you're there things you can do so that you can have an alternative set of treatments that maybe are less toxic greater opportunity and again none of it's my opinion everything just like money master the game is coming from the greatest medical doctors and scientists in the world and it's everything from how to get stronger how to be able to eliminate challenges in your body how to produce more energy and strength in the shortest period of time or how to heal the body if you're going through some real challenges i'm so excited about life force and i read the first the first interview i did with you i think was six years ago and it was for money to master the game oh yeah and uh and is the book like 600 pages it's probably the biggest book i've ever read i mean it's like chock full of it's almost identical i use bible paper it's 674 pages right i i read the book and i remember being so i was in my early 30s at the time so i had gotten decent i would say at earning but i didn't know how to invest and i literally just did whatever you said in the book and i set it and forget it with index funds i didn't really know what an index fund or fiduciary was all these things you talked about in there and i just looked the last week i've doubled my investment i had a big investment in there and it's doubled in the last six years congratulations um more than doubled actually and um it's it's steady it's stable and i can see kind of where it's gonna go in the next five ten years so and you're not worried about day-to-day every not about crypto going up and down you know stocks going up and down and all these things it's just like it keeps growing as everything else in the world is uncertain i i have been really good at being an athlete working out you know being pretty healthy overall throughout most of my life but i can only imagine the things i'm going to learn when i read all of life force i i don't have a copy yet but when i get it soon literally just got this physical copy so i'll send you one right away exactly when i get it i'm going to go through this and uh start implementing it because if this does exactly what money mass the game did for money for me for my health then i'm i'm pumped about this so i'll tell you what i wrote this book every book i write i work with the intention of helping people change and improve their lives on a massive scale but i wrote this book because it actually can save lives without exaggeration hyperbole and i wrote it not only for you but for those you love because as you get older you'll discover more people call you and say i you know it happens to me every week somebody's got cancer somebody's got a family member with alzheimer's somebody's had a stroke and so now i can go here's the cutting edge right now here the doctor's people you go to right now here's how to educate yourself literally in minutes on virtually every subject that's why it's so robust you can take as little of it or as much as you want but you'll appreciate as an athlete some of the stuff in there that will blow your mind i'm saying blow your mind about how to increase your body's natural ability to produce energy and also how to keep you young longer because you know most people think of jeans as their destiny and i know you know better jeans are not your destiny jeans think of that as like the piano what you care about is the piano player right and a piano player is the process that your body uses to direct those genes and so there's a process that makes that possible that keeps your system running ideally think about it when you're young you have a mansion everybody works for you is young there's plenty of resources as you get older the mansion's older it breaks down a bit more the personnel is older because your stem cells are older like all these things start to break down but what if you could rejuvenate the house and the people in it and the systems going on in it was it's like you know i'm fortunate enough to have a really wonderful plane but my plane's not brand new i made it brand new i repainted it i put new engines in it but instead of spending a hundred million dollars i spent a third of that to have my own bbj i can fly anywhere on earth and i go i'm basically in a flying house of five thousand square feet but i refurbished it all well that's what's happening right now i don't know if you saw it today they i wrote about this in the book there's regeneration of body parts that has already been happening for some time dr tony atala has been doing this at wake forest university for like 15 years he's replaced parts of people's bodies where he's grown them literally with stem cells so it doesn't get rejected and goes your body well now they're doing it not only that way but they're doing it with pig implants and today was the first day i wrote about it coming i said it would happen by the time you're reading this book and it's happening right on schedule they just did the first implants for a heart for a gentleman who couldn't get a heart transplant because you know 100 000 people are on the list and 6 000 people are dying every year because they can't get it but they're able to actually change the genome of the pig because they have the right structure so your body doesn't reject it and so and we're at the beginning the beginning of that over the next two or three years over the next five years you're going to be able to to actually grow from your own stem cells this is not science fiction they're doing it right now but they'll do it in mass you'll be able to grow those pieces and if there's a breakdown boom you replace it with a new part and it's brand new just like you would like you know forget the plane think of a car most people had a car that maybe they've refurbished and now you can make it all new that's where we're heading to give you an idea not to mention the fact that everything is code so think of it this way you know it took uh 25 years ago it took 13 years to do something that no one thought was possible ray kurzweil was one of the people that drove it forward good friend of mine it was like mapping the genome they thought it would take a hundred years and a hundred billion dollars and guess what they did the thing in 13 years after seven years they'd only figured out one percent of it male said it'll never work and he explained one percent doubled over seven years will get us to a hundred percent we'll get to where we want to be so they spent 2.7 billion dollars in 13 years do you know what it costs to do your human genome right now 600 bucks and you have it done overnight wow i mean transistors remember you're oh no you're probably not not as old as i am so you don't remember but original transistors you get 4 000 transistors you know put together to have this microchip and it was a buck a transistor well now you get six trillion for a fraction of a penny each so our bodies are code and so i'm sure you've heard about crispr and some things happening there where they're literally changing the code of what's going on in your body and eliminating the disease completely uh dr sinclair from harvard just did a piece where they turned on these yamanaka factors i won't try to explain it to you in two seconds but it reverses the aging process they took mice that are blind where the retinas you know they've had glaucoma so the nerves are gone and re-grew the nerves like reversed aging and their first time in history and these animals can see they're doing gene therapy as a young boy who can see again by gene therapy by changing what's going on the eyes we are living in the greatest time in human history and the changes are going to happen over the next three to 12 years are beyond any you could imagine it's amazing i'm so excited for this book and i want to be respectful of your time tony and and uh ask you about this challenge but before i ask you just before i ask the last question about this and have you speak on it again i just want to acknowledge you for constantly pushing the thermometer to the next level in your own life and uh just being uh on a mission to be in service with so many people to help us in all these different areas of our life it's really inspiring and i'm just grateful for all the work that you do and again the model you're creating for so many of us uh i i'm very excited about this i believe it's a five-day challenge challenge yeah which uh you know anytime you do anything for free it's like people should be paying tens of thousands of dollars for this because they get so much value from you you're there consistently showing up giving your passion giving your energy and wisdom uh you know over four decades of wisdom from learning and applying this and getting amazing results and you know learning from all your mistakes you've made as well that you've that you've overcome and uh this breakthrough challenge is really going to help people take control back of their lives and develop a stronger mindset to get through the second half of winter because i'm sure it's going to be some maybe some moments of ups and then some deeper downs and ups and downs throughout the way so what can we expect with this challenge how can we get signed up for it right now to make sure we don't miss out at all let me tell you why i created it and i'll tell you real quick how you can do it it's free there's no cost to it whatsoever but what i wanna mention you just said something really important i wanna make sure people don't leave without winter doesn't mean every night is every day is dark and rainy or snowy and horrible there's days that look like summer middle winter if you live in florida winter's a nice place right so the winter i don't want to make people feel like it's all going to be horrible it just means that the overall theme is more challenging than not and that's where we're going to probably be and we're going to face some bigger challenges going forward and it's gonna make us grow and then that'll set us up for a beautiful springtime where things are much easier and more fun for a while till you get the hot summer and then you go to fall it's the cycle of life but uh this all started in 2020 because before i figured out how to build these you know events where they could be done in people's homes and have a real transformational experience like people are home and i was hearing about all the suicides and kids stuck at home and what was happening to the parents and you know drug abuse going through the roof all the things that we now know they were happening then already but i'm connected to it because i know so many people and so i was like i got to do something so i said you know what i'm just going to do a one day free seminar like three four hours total immersion and help people like get a new perspective when you're in your house day after day you lose perspective you lose momentum you lose energy and i was like that's everything i do is you know by total immersion so like if you learn a language a little bit at a time high school and college few years later you can't even speak the language but if i said to you i'm going to drop you in rome for the next 12 weeks and i'm going to pick you up and you have no teacher 12 weeks later you're going to be speaking italian really well because that's how the brain works with immersion that's why i do seminars with immersion so i said you know what i'm going to do five days just 90 minutes a day it usually goes two and two two and a half hours i gotta be honest because i i get into it i really wanna help people i'm gonna charge them nothing and i'm gonna deliver to them in their homes so that there's no cost there's no travel and i can reach them when they need it right now and we had 430 000 people show up for the first one the biggest event had ever done and then last year it looked like things were going to turn and you know people are getting excited vaccines gonna go and i was like okay i'll do one more and let's do it for people so they get momentum to take on this new experience and we had eight hundred and something thirty five thousand people forty thousand people attend so this year looks like we'll have about a million people and i'm gonna do it one final time because i really believe we'll turn the corner on cover like we've talked about but what it is is five days and we're going to start with your energy because without that like this whole conversation we had is worthless because if you're tired or exhausted or you just burn out or you've been through it all your brain just doesn't function the right way so the first day is really about how we shift that energy in you and then the next day's about your emotions and next day's relationship and the next thing is going to be your finance the next day is going to be your career and in five days you get this massive burst of momentum and a whole new perspective and you create a plan for your year not some new year's resolution that's six weeks later you're doing nothing towards and then you're part of our community and i'll give you a fun story i'll give you 100 stories but this one's really fresh for me because i just saw this man his name's matt and tinsey matt was in a car accident i believe his car accident and he had an injury a brain injury he was put in bed he was told he couldn't get off oxygen ever he gained 700 pounds in that bed he couldn't even get up to go to the bathroom oh my god and this is over seven years he's completely isolated naked in bed for three of those years oh and here's the beauty of this challenge a buddy of his tells him you got to do this challenge you got no excuse you got nowhere to go you're in your bed i'll put this on on a big screen in front of you here we'll put it on a laptop you got to attend this thing and eve thought it was all bs but his buddy got him his buddy sat beside him set it up made him watch and the first day he got so excited i mean he was so moved that he took this little um like uh i don't know like a like a railing you'd use to hang curtains like curtain railing and he just started doing these little push-up type things in the bed anyway long story short in six weeks he got off the oxygen which they said he could never do he stood for the first time he made it to the bathroom on his own for the first time after eight weeks then he started losing weight and feeling stronger and so finally i don't know what number he's at but he lost 258 pounds so far but i called him up because you know you're part of our community after you do this it doesn't end in the five days and all these people around the world become your friends and he's getting all the support from people and he's showing videos of his improvement so that's how i knew what's going on with him because i'm i'm tuning in too so i reached out to him and i said listen you lose this much more weight and i will fly you to palm beach florida and you come to my live unleash the power within event the first one we're doing live in two years and you be my guest and you walk on the fire and he got so excited and he went for it lost 258 pounds but then he calls me up and goes okay i did what you said i'm ready to come i drove a car for the first time i'm ready to travel for the first time but he goes i fell in love and i'm engaged can i can i bring my girl he said of course you can so they just recently came here to palm beach they walked the fire together and like he's inspiring other people all this came because of a free challenge because you know somebody got him in there because there's no reason not to do it so if you've ever wanted to experience my work here's your chance costs nothing it's not partially free it's totally free and you don't have to go anywhere and if you want you can do with your family or a friend so you gotta like a partner and they don't be in the same room with you or you could be doing it with a group of people in your office so i'm doing it january 25th through the 29th it's coming up quick january 25th 2 p.m eastern 11 pacific but we have people from 195 countries so whatever time zone 2 pm eastern is for you and i promise you you do this each day for these five days you're gonna have a massive momentum and you're to be set up to win no matter what happens in 2022 and it's it's breakthrough 2022.com is that right if you're at 22.com to register again there's no cost you just got to register breakthrough22.com i'm telling you i've done i've i've been a part of these events the last couple years uh i've seen the energy i've seen the consistency people take on actions on overcoming their fears and insecurities i've seen the results they get i've met some of these people 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in some way right business their life that's nothing to be embarrassed by i don't give a damn how good you are but they get knocked to their knees and what is it it's the comeback it's the rocky it's that music where all of a sudden you step back up and you take control and rock that's what 2020 needs to be for you but you're not going to get there sitting at home having the same perspective you have you got to exit that world and enter another world filled with people that are ready to go the next level and that's what breakthrough 2022.com is about i have the tiger i got that music in my head right now um final final thought for you before we go real quick what was the biggest lesson of 2021 for you and what are you most excited about for 2022 and then we'll wrap it up i think the biggest lesson was uh that i could have even more impact without treating my body like it's a vagabond around the world and i think the other one that was the greatest gift that god gave was my daughter right like i we've almost given up on it but i said if i can really be home i don't wanna have a child where i'm never there i have to drag them around the earth but if i can be home a lot more here let's give it one more try and so you know my daughter's you know the gift that's come out of that so those are those are my breakthroughs for 2021. i love it tony thank you again so much for taking the time for uh being such an incredible teacher to so many of us and i appreciate you being here and again breakthrough 2022.com make sure you guys go sign up right now tony again thank you so much if you enjoyed that interview then i know you'll love what we have coming up right now was there ever a moment where you didn't uh unconditionally love yourself and and if so and if so when did that shift where you stopped that and you started saying okay i appreciate myself because of my contribution and my service and who i am what was that shift i don't think it was ever i just didn't love myself there were times obviously be angry with yourself or frustrated yourself or think you know i'm not doing enough i mean i can remember my birthdays to be honest with you probably up to my 40th birthday including my 40th birthday you know you have a birthday with a zero on it once you're over past 30 you know 35 sometimes five years on it as well people look at their life differently culturally and i just think it was but sure enough i would do it i remember turning 40 and i was really really unhappy i was like jesus i've not done enough i've not helped enough people i know tens of millions of people at that point already all over the earth in 100 plus countries at that point but it was still kind of stuck in my head so i would earn the love by over delivering change somebody's life like i don't get it because somebody says oh i love you tony i mean i appreciate that or oh you're the greatest it's got to be my standard my standard's higher than their standard for me right so when i get up and someone's going to kill themself and it's they're suicidal and boom turn around they're no longer not going to kill themselves but they're transformed their life is there you know that's when i go okay you know now we've hit the center of what i'm made for now you know i deserve to feel this euphoric feeling within myself and appreciation and even then i still know it's god coming through me i don't have the delusion it's just me but i think sometime after 40 i finally saw the stupidity of it i accumulated enough that i looked at life with fresh eyes and i could say by the time i turned 60 a year ago i noticed it was interesting because my birthday i didn't have an ounce of it i was just like you know how could i at this stage of my life when i've had the privilege of serving so many humans in so many contexts you know from turning around you know guys going to kill themselves with ptsd to helping kids turn around to getting kids off cocaine or adults to you know help people build multi-billion dollar businesses from nothing and when i've lived this long i can't go by without hearing half a dozen stories a day or dozen stories a day from people telling me how something i did change their life so it's not that i'm so smart now it's just i've stacked it by the way though stacking is the way you can do things most of us stack the negative if you are really angry it's not usually because it's just the moment it's that it happened again you know it's like if you've ever lost it or overreacted to your kid or to a friend or a business or even within yourself it's because it happened again we hit this one two three many point and then our nervous system overreacts but what i've learned is you can stack the good and but for example if you're if you go into a state of really strong anger for more than five minutes your immune system is suppressed between an hour and a half to two hours that's a physiological fact but no one had done any study i started stacking good like okay let me stack a dozen great memories feel them see them experience them and i felt this biochemical change that didn't just last a half hour an hour or 10 minutes it went on for a day or two and so i think i've learned to stack the good so just having the experience is not enough you got to stack the good to be able to appreciate it but i i think just come back to the main point here from my perspective which could be completely just my perspective so i want to point that out i think the more you find unconditional love for others the easier it is to find in yourself and i think the focus is serving and loving and that's what will get you the point where you start doing it but if you want to speed it up stack all the good you've done you'll feel great about yourself i already know all the comments that have come through thousands of comments tell me but what about my family that's toxic what about my partner who is toxic and how do i love someone unconditionally when they don't respect me i can't trust them what about situations all those reactions are natural human reactions from ego because it's all about you me me me what i'm not getting what i'm not doing and that's why you're in pain and so don't i'm not telling you like i haven't done this but i've done it too in the past but it's an old pattern i don't really do anymore and it used to affect me now not a dominant one i wouldn't become who i become early in my life i developed this belief that life is calling not to give me something life is calling for me to deliver things for me to bring something to life and i felt the the joy that came from not getting but giving and i got hooked on that core pattern and then the pattern of learning so i'd have something to give which i know one things i respect about you lewis is that you have that same pattern in you you're you're always trying to learn more because underneath it all you also want to give it you want it you want it for you but you want to share it right and so those patterns help me not be what they're not giving and all this language language today people don't understand the power of their language like toxic what the hell are you talking about you've been wanting reading too much social media and thinking about yourself or somebody raised you to constantly judge everybody else we live in a culture now where people you know you're evil or you're like me that's basically how it is right the whole world everybody else does it more unless they do what you do think what you think experience you think i mean being a liberal i was a liberal right being a liberal growing up meant you i would i would fight for your ability to say and believe whatever you want different than me today now everybody wants everybody to think the same thing otherwise they're evil or otherwise they could hurt me whatever happened to sticks and stones will break your bones and words will never hurt me we have this whole thing that words are evil words are action word it's and all it does is make you incredibly weak as a human being and you're more than that we all are more than that but you know what like a kid that's never broken their bones definitely afraid of breaking the bone but if you're a kid and you're rough and dumb you broke multiple bones they heal you don't have any fear of it there's so many kids that have been raised to be safe and secure every moment anything that's insecure or unsafe they don't want to be a part of including language and what it does is make you incredibly weak and fearful and that's why there's so many people that are abundant that are angry all the time because their anger is they're not growing so don't get me wrong i know some people are not a good influence i'm not denying that i'm just saying you're more than somebody's influence unless you obsess about it every moment and make them wrong so you can make yourself feel superior morally psychologically or spiritually that's stop the pattern we've all done it catch yourself because if you want joy happiness and freedom and extraordinary life it will not come from blame never there's no pride that comes from blame i don't mean fake pride when you make to feel good i'm talking about real pride pride is something you earn like people tell me oh i have no self-esteem because my parents used to say this or they'd say that i'd say that's such i'm not saying it's both they didn't say that i said it's that's why you're self-esteem self-esteem does not come from what people say about you self-esteem comes from what you experience about yourself see someone tell your whole life you're a piece of crap and part of you goes you're full of it i'm going to show you lots of people have done that they never bought it or someone tell you a beautiful your life you go i'm not really beautiful so what people tell you doesn't matter at all it's what you stack it's what you assemble it's what you create it's the habit of what you put in your head and today i don't blame you because we got a whole culture that's always blaming somebody else for something in their life but blame is not a strategy for pride that's why you're listening blaming people they're all angry all the time listen if i wanted to blame i grew up in an environment i didn't even share it to my mom past then even then i didn't share i grew up in a pretty rough environment my mom was a beautiful soul but when she drank alcohol and she mixed it with prescription drugs it was a different creature and it was a violent creature and i have a younger brother five years younger and a younger sister seven years younger and my mom would get nuts and i didn't want them to get hurt so i was five one in high school she grabbed me about here and smashed me against the wall until i bled now i never shared this and i'm not denigrating her in any way i only shared it like four or five years after she died um because i was talking a group of kids in new york city um all without fathers um 80 african-american about 20 hispanic out of their group roughly no white kids and i'm talking about your biography is not your destiny and it doesn't matter what you've been through what you decide now is what's going to control your life what you decide each day going forwards inside your life and i look at them seeing me i can read their minds this big tall white rich guy is going to tell me biography doesn't matter so i said you let me tell you my story and i told them the whole story way more than i'm telling you and everyone was crying their eyes up when they're done i said look where i am right now because i wouldn't assemble the story that my past equals my future the past only equals your future if you live there if you're using a rear view mirror to guide yourself you're gonna crash so what you've been through is horrific what you've been through is unjust i'm on your side but if you hang on to it you have no future and you have no one to blame but yourself and these kids to their credit man they just responded to the challenge because they first cried their eyes out hearing all the stories my mom would think i was lying and i wasn't lying she poured liquid soap down my throat until i threw up and i wasn't lying so it's not the physical abuse it's the fact that this is the person you love most that's trying to hurt you that messes with your head so i could have been messed up for life but he didn't because something inside me says i'm responsible for this life and part of that's because i started reading when i was 13 14 biographies of people the greatest people in history and reading their lives and finding out guess what their lives were far from perfect some of them had worse lives than i had but when you have no reference and all you just go online you talk to other people making everybody else toxic and i'm like this and they didn't do that then you get to have the she life just like those other people why are they online so much because they don't have a life right don't be one of those free yourself from the chains of your past i'm not saying your past doesn't matter but listen my mother i tell people this all the time and it's the truth if my mother had been the mother i wanted to be the mother she should have been i would not be the man i'm proud to be today because i had to become a practical psychologist way before any schooling figure out when's she gonna go in the mood how do i change your state how to protect it from the kids what are we i mean it was felt life and death and it was to some extent so i developed skills at such a young age that when i learned things i just added to my skills but i had a core sense of certainty that i could turn anybody around because it started with my mother and thank god for her and she encouraged me in so many ways she did so many great things and she loved me even though it didn't look like it at times so but if your parents if the people around you said all the things you thought they should have if they had just not been toxic if they'd encouraged you you wouldn't have any muscle and right now you don't have any muscle because you're using that as an excuse if you're thinking that and i'm not attacking you brothers and sisters i'm calling to you because i know you're more otherwise i just keep my mouth shut we're just you've been hypnotized by a culture of weakness now having said that i'll say one last thing i know you haven't got other questions but it's so important what you asked yes there are people that you don't want to hang out with that will not serve you but then move on don't sit there and talk about it constantly don't waste your time and you say but what if it's family tony mine was family too you learn to grow you go there in my life someone can get your goat if someone can piss you off if someone can make you feel less than that's god coming to you saying grow you need some spiritual growth there's got to be some change in your perception your belief your emotions your spiritual look of life so that can't happen anymore and when it happens like at 61 i've been through so many of those things and i like to do things in mass i took on big challenges so i'd have to grow more but then life throws them at you too when they come you just go okay it's gonna have me until i grow what needs a shift in me so that no longer has an impact but you know jim rohn used to say my original teacher he used to say tony what happens if i've got a cup of coffee here and he'd say what if your worst enemy drops sugar in your coffee what's going to happen and i go well you have sweet coffee and he goes what if your best friend your mother your father your brother your sister your loved one drops one drop of strychnine i said you'd you'd be dead he goes that's right life is a little sugar and strict night so watch your coffee this whole thing was stand guard at the door of your brain but some people take it oh my god you can kill me it was a metaphor these people are not so toxic they're toxic because you give them energy so if your mom's crazy and constantly criticizing you and it drives you nuts just go that's my mom that's her way of showing love and i find a new perspective and no matter what she does just stay in a beautiful state and love on her and think boy think of all that she cares and feels for all that she's frustrated in life or all that she's going through that's made her this way and think i don't have to go through this i can love her it's like your growth is the only limit to your happiness if you're not happy you're not growing in some area and usually it's a place where you're blaming you're pointing the finger i don't care if it's government don't get me wrong people can be unfair unjust that's for sure happens but you can't control that you can't make it not happen what you have to do is become stronger than any of it so you're free freedom comes from growth freedom does not come from control because control is an illusion you can't control everybody no matter how hard you try you can't control what they think or feel and not everybody's going to be fair and just and you my dear friends and i have not always been fair and just whether we admit it or not it's just the nature of being a being a human being but we can't make the largest pattern fair and just and loving and powerful and serving and growing until it becomes the dominant thing inside you and then you experience life as being great not you're great life's great because you're living a great path it seems like what i'm seeing and hearing from a lot of people that this past year everything has fallen apart for them their health their relationships their finances their mission or purpose and these their spiritual awareness like every area of life has been in breakdown mode for for some people not everyone some people have had incredible lives and have stepped up to the occasion and broken through on all these things but i'm seeing a pattern of a lot of people breaking down in many areas hypothetical scenario let's say you you could only focus on one thing to get you started you only have the time and energy to focus on one of these areas your health your relationships are all breaking down your finances you're in failing failing everywhere where should people lean into first to kind of create that foundation so that everything else can start to rise as well i think before you answer what to do you're going to answer why you're there it is not because of the pandemic i remember when 9 11 happened and people tell oh my god my life was destroyed because of 911 and there were people in the same building who turned their life around became grew spiritually grew closer to their family made their businesses larger and the same building burned down right i know in my case you know 911 comes if you can imagine you know i'm fortunate to have now more than 80 companies and all these different industries and obviously you know i've done pretty darn well but by most people's standards of business and life but my core mission is what i do for a living that's why i'm here talking to you right now it's getting people to be free and alive and have the level of fulfillment that they deserve to have i know they desire but i also believe they deserve to have but to deserve to have it you got to do certain things right and so you're not in the place of being overweight because you lost your job so stop the bull blame blame is not a strategy for a meaningful life blame is not a strategy for greatness so you've got to resolve that number one and then your question was what's the one thing to focus on if you only focus on one i think it's smart to focus on one thing primarily focus on too many can be overwhelming other people it's good to focus on multiple things it depends on your personality so i wouldn't presuppose but then the answer would be whichever thing you're most desirous of changing what everything is giving you the most pain so if it's your relationship i go full force on that now in the world we're in today you know you don't usually have the the privilege of going okay i want to work on just being happy well i can train you to be happy while hell's breaking loose you can sit in this chair and be totally euphoric but if you do that in a western culture people come and take your furniture right so you probably have to work on both your business or financial side and some personal side i would be working on both and to me the way to attack that if you're not sure which area is to start with the body and i know you can relate to this lewis because you and i both share this in common it's like i always teach physiology first as you well know if you change the body you'll change the emotions if you change the emotions you'll change your decisions you'll change the quality of your life because the quality of life is your emotions it's not what you get you have a billion dollars and commit suicide people have done it right you can have beautiful relationships and commit suicide you can have people loving you and be sad all the time our pattern of emotion is our home and you have to upgrade your home you have to train it and one way to train it is the emotion comes the way you move the way you breathe the way you speak so if i said to your listeners uh there's a depressed person behind the curtain over here and i'll give a hundred thousand dollars to their favorite charity if they had to describe their body their posture and they're depressed you tell me i'll just use the example what does that person look like they're this lunch down they're looking down at their feet they're not looking upward their their shoulders are over they're are they breathing full or shallow do you think they're shallow are they talking fast or slow they're talking probably if they're depressed they're probably talking fast because they're not calm well no that's usually stressed depressed is different than stressed they're slow they're probably talking low volume slower than and all those physical characteristics change your biochemistry towards this feeling of being depressed and in depressed state you won't do anything when i used to be depressed i don't get it anymore i just took it out of my life i even took the language of it out of my life because the words you create create a biochemical response but when i did that decades ago because i was like having those thoughts like is there a reason to still be here that kind of crazy in your head i got out of it by using anger originally i'd much like sometimes if somebody's really sad or depressed i'll make them angry and be like what's he doing he's making him angry because angry is much more resourceful than depressed from anger i can get into laughter i can get you know taking action i so and then gradually i got what i didn't need anger it was about growth it was about contribution was about meaning so there's like stages to go through but to answer your question they should work on both their business side of their life and personal one of each and in order for either one of those to work you need to be in a strong emotional state and if you start with your body like you know i start every morning in my cold water starting morning with my workout i started every morning on feeding my mind right so there's certain things you got to do physically so you're strong enough to remember the truth because remember fear is physical you feel your throat your gut so it's courage courage doesn't mean you're not afraid it just means you're strong enough you push through in spite of the fear right and courage feels different in the body so when you go lift or you go for a sprint or a strong run or you jump in that freezing water when you push your mind to go beyond what's comfortable you feel a strength inside you and that strength will help you to change your body your emotions relationships whatever but then the other thing i'm gonna say is model someone who's successful don't just do this by trial and error like find somebody who has what you want ideally maybe more than one person two or three and see god what are they doing different than you in their relationship what do they believe different than you about relationship if it's their body what are they doing they're not lucky they're doing things differently you might be slightly biochemically different but there's patterns there that you can see and so instead of learning by trial and error which can take decades you may never learn jim rohn taught me success leads clues man find someone's got what you want study what they do every aspect of it and then add yourself to it and that's the pathway to speed of transformation so now like you know i've done it i'm not the only person there's so many companies that went from worse off than they'd ever been in their history to the best off because they found a way to pivot but that required a psychological piece of not blame so maybe it's time for you to think for yourself and model what works instead of just what you're told that's something to consider for yourself well there are a lot of sources of brain fog the most obvious one would be a poor night's sleep and sleep of course being the most fundamental layer of mental and physical health you don't sleep well for one night you're probably okay for two nights you start to fall apart three four nights you're really a degraded version of yourself

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