The Rude Tongue

study and we want to give everyone um that's watching my way of periscope or facebook a moment to post or tag and share let someone know that we are live here tonight our wednesday night bible study and while you're preparing to post and tag and let someone know we've been doing a study about how to tame the tongue in 30 days and god has blessed us to cover so many subjects but tonight i believe the subject that we have in the book topic tonight is going to help so many people and we're going to be teaching tonight still about the tongue and what we've discovered is that the power of death and life is in the tongue the bible says in proverbs and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof i know this for sure if you are a born-again christian and you love god and you're saved and you're sanctified you feel with the holy spirit this teaching will help you in so many capacities so i want you to get your book get your bible and let's get ready to get started all right and just before we go into our teaching i want to just take a minute and mention that our international intercessory prayer conference will be in the month of september august into september august the 30th through september 2nd tell your neighbor what are the dates august 30th through september 2nd our prayer conference is fastly approaching if you have not registered for the conference as of yet i want to encourage you to register right away if you've not gotten your hotel room i want to tell you this some of the hotels are already sold out but please don't let that stop you from coming there are other surrounding hotels in the area we just want you to be there to be blessed in prayer and in intercession amen also i want to say a special thank you for all of those readings i received on the other day for my birthday praise the lord [Applause] [Music] and so many young children came up you all were here some of you to just give me cards and things i'm telling you i had a moment of just pure joy it was just beautiful i'm so thankful for every card for every greeting and i give god the glory and lastly i want to thank god that on tomorrow will be four years of marriage [Music] amen let's go to our time of teaching again we've been teaching out of a book entitled 30 days to tame the time amen and so today the topic is in page number 80 we're talking tonight about the rude tongue so let's read our scripture it says there will be a highway called the road of the holy road no one rude or rebellious is permitted on this road it's for god's people exclusively and that is found in isaiah chapter 35 and verse number eight and we just want to mention that the book of isaiah is best known because it is a hebrew prophet a man of god who predicted or prophesied that the lord jesus christ would come and he really shows us even in the book of isaiah through the chapters isaiah helped us to see through his prophetic writing some of the things that would happen he painted a comprehension a comprehensive uh picture of jesus christ even in the old testament he announced his coming and shared even about his death and so we're reading out of the book of isaiah tonight again the bible talks about a highway that shall be there it's a description of a life of holiness of being set apart set aside for the glory of god amen amen so again in the in the king james version it reads like this and a highway shall be there and away and it shall be called the way of holiness the unclean shall not pass over it but it shall be for those the wayfaring men though fools shall not air therein and so tonight our topic is the rude tongue somebody say the rude tongue and so the word groove means discourteous and impolite especially in a deliberate way it means without culture it means without learning without refinement also it means rough in manners or behavior unmannerly or uncouth it also means to be rough or harsh or ungentle and as i studied this particular word i also discovered that rude also means uncivil unmanly it means to be a curse or short unrefined uncultured uncivilized and then it goes on further in the definition to say vulgar rough stormy and fierce and also turbulent and so we look at this we have to see it in the light of the word of god the bible teaches us that uh that that bitter and sweet water should not come out of the same fountain and if you are a born-again christian there should never be a rudeness in your life that comes from you amen and so let's look again at what the rule tongue is it's when you're impolite and just courteous and when you know i'm sure that if we just pass the microphone tonight that all of you have a story about someone who was rude or mean or evil or discourteous to you and so the question i want to ask the born-again church tonight is how do you respond when someone is being ruled to you you see the flesh or that natural old man has a tendency to want to immediately do what retaliate or get back but when you have the holy spirit he teaches you temperance he teaches you how to temper what you're going to say and how you're going to say it so let's remember these two words for the word rude they are discourteous would you say that with me discourteous and impolite all right now let's talk about why people are rude we need to discuss this for a minute what is the ultimate responsibility for rude behavior why are people rude in some cases when you talk about rudeness it means the lack of etiquette or the complete absence of compassion or empathy in public and so if a person is rude in their behavior and i want y'all to hear me some people have no etiquette they have no home training i know y'all with that that uh title if a person has no training then they don't know exactly what to do or how to do it now this is not an excuse because some people have been taught but some people have chosen not to do what they have been taught let me give you an example we came up with a young man saw an elderly person uh approaching a door the first thing a young man would do when i was younger they would run to the door and they would open the door for the sake of the older person to let them in but because of the social changes in our times nowadays young men just walk through the door and let the door close in the face of the person that's coming but if you had home training somebody say home training then you're not room you take a minute and you go and open the door and you let the elderly person in so what are we saying is some of the reason for rudeness it's a lack of etiquette stay with me a lack of etiquette and also a complete absence of compassion say that with me a complete absence of inhabition you know if a person has no compassion for others they're not going to be concerned about what they're going through and i believe this is going to help you all in life because you're going to encounter rude people so now we know why they're rude especially if they're not christians is that they have no etiquette they lack empathy they lack sympathy and so that helps you understand that there is an ignorance there right now what does ignorance mean it means a lack of understanding so that ought to help you stop getting so angry when you deal with real people you're gonna have to learn how to say you know what they don't have no home training they were not raised like we were because if you deal with it the other way it's gonna keep you frustrated and angry and upset y'all quiet here [Applause] i'm saying we have to learn where the rude behavior comes from and then we go in the spirit realm there are some people that just carry a spirit of our arguments your spirit or angry or hostile or they're always ready for a fight have don't you let the rude person make you become rude all right all right are y'all learning something tonight amen so let's talk a little bit further about let's say this say this the absence of manners and you have to teach children how to be polite all right if you don't teach your child how to be polite they'll be selfish and self-centered and all they'll be concerned about is give me this give me my captain crunch give me my cereal give me give me you your money children how not to be rude you gotta teach them how to share with their brothers and their sisters y'all amen so let's read a little bit out of the book we're going down to the second paragraph on page number 80. would you all come along and read with me it says come on but what has made us so rude is it an older book scheduled longer community times demanding losses spoiled children and the stress of daily living perhaps our lack of patience can be attributed to the modern conveniences that allow us to do almost everything in mere seconds showing patience is a rare occurrence ill matter discouraged communication has become standard practice even among god's children stop right there for a minute before we go any further i want to also mention to you all that being impatient and being in a hurry can also create rudeness all right y'all say amen if you're constantly in a hurry then what happens is you're ready for everybody else to get out of your way or to do what you need you to do right there right now and people have become more and more impatient that's why people they have a term that says go postal on people that means they just go absolutely crazy why because they're ready to get the answer that they want at that moment and if they don't get it if the person is rude then they become belligerent and angry can i get an amen now if you work for the public you have to be extra careful how you treat people because people step up to your counter nowadays you need to be nice because people are snapping off and doing some crazy things because they're impatient they're in a hurry sometimes they're in pain you don't know what they're dealing with so it pays to be perfect somebody said be curvy hey now so we talked about it a little earlier sometimes rudeness comes from a lack of etiquette sometimes it's a complete absence of compassion sometimes it's because of impatience always being in a terrible hurry all right so let's talk about etiquette for a minute uh you all can just i'll read this for you it says etiquette is the conduct or procedure required by good breeding or prescribed by authority to be observed in social or official life there is an etiquette there's an on your [Music] there is a certain conduct that is appropriate and there is a conduct that is inappropriate and so what we have found is that disrespect and disrespectful and rude people have a lack of etiquette and manners because if you have manners they're just some things you just won't do all right just like i talked about earlier a young man who has manners he runs to open the door for the senior citizens but nowadays people are screaming at the young man for opening the door i'm telling y'all you have to just be careful but i say do what's right let's just do what's right now if you are a man and you're on the bus and there is a pregnant woman standing up on the bus holding the pole the bus is proud what is the proper thing for a real man to do he's gonna give up his seat and give the pregnant lady an opportunity to be seated and guess what nobody should ask the man to get up [Applause] it don't have to be your mother some things are just matters and some things are just etiquette somebody said hallelujah tonight to understand when you confront rude people you don't have to lose your christianity you don't have to lose your salvation over wicked evil and low down people i'm telling you let me tell y'all something else there are some people that have formed opinions about you based on what they have heard other people say that may not have even been valid or true about you and sometimes people are rude to you because of something somebody else has said but let me tell you about the holy ghost if you just pray right [Applause] [Music] and we know that all things work together for good to them that oh god y'all all right and then let's go to the bottom paragraph on page number 81 and i want to give a moment to people that are just coming in on facebook this is facebook live we're talking about the tongue taming the tongue in 30 days we're trying to show people why people are rude the rude tongue many people are rude because they don't have etiquette they don't have manners they're impatient amen but if you are a child of god you learn how to do unto others as you would have them do unto you which leads us hold on to the chapter leads us to luke chapter 6 and verse number 31 and it says and as he would want that men should do to you do he also to them likewise tell your neighbor do you want to others as you would have them do unto you amen when you're when you're rude you have no feeling or any concern about what you say or do and how it affects other people amen let me give you an example people that are rude are forward say for instance you meet someone for the first time and that person might have a large gap in their teeth and you just write soon as you meet him hello how are you oh wow you sure you have a large book right there you'll be in rule amen just even if you're thinking that but you don't say you sure do have a big gap but that enhances your smile they just insulted you i'm just saying we have to learn how to think before you speak tell your neighbor i'mma think i'm gonna think i'm gonna think of a thing before i speak all right let's go we're on page number 81 and then we're talking about the rude tongue if you know anybody that's rude say a prayer for right now all right let's go paragraph number two page uh 81 what does it say being cruel to others is very denigrated to them and has spoiled their entire day whatever happened to the golden rule do to others as you would have them jews to you keep reading [Applause] [Music] who parade around public places talking at the top of their voices as if no one else is present you all stop for a minute um because the story goes on to talk about somebody whose cell phone went off in church and the phone was just ringing the church you know if you used to when we were coming up we wouldn't let the phone ring in the search i mean really you turned your phone off but you know nowadays people's attention span is so short that they cannot stop looking at their phone through the service [Applause] y'all somebody [Music] [Applause] give disrespectful to the house of god it's rude to be in church on your phone chatting along with uh y'all hear what i'm saying all right let's go let's go let's keep reading all right we're reading now many of us can be counted among cell phone users who parade around public places talking at the top of their voice as if no one else is present just tonight at church during a very critical moment a woman sitting near the front of the sanctuary received a call on her phone which rang loudly and several times before she answered it my husband was appalled that she she not only had the phone on in church but that she actually took the call cell phone seem to be totally oblivious to their annoying and offensive social misconduct and even though some speak quietly i have noticed people dining with others while spending an inordinate amount of time talking or talking on the phone it is no wonder that many relationships are shallow so shallow these days since god if you're in church and your your pastor is up with a choir singing or someone has testified give them your full attention and don't be distracted by what's going on on your phone guess what our young people are being raised to just really keep all of their focus on the internet i'm just telling you all what generation we're in so you all know that three-year-olds and two-year-olds that cannot even talk good yet get whole involved with their emphasis on a cell phone because it's going to affect their attention span you know i can prove this this is a proven fact it used to be that even in the gospel music industry that a song in the recording studio would be about eight minutes long if you think about the old gospel song back in the day there would be eight minutes nine minutes and we'd be getting caught up and so anointed with the song but now the radio will basically not even play a song unless it's about four minutes i'm just showing you the change in the attention span it's harder to keep the focus of people because there's so many things uh vying for your attention tell your neighbor the enemy is after your focus tell somebody else the enemy is after your hope because when your heart is the bible says that's where your treasure is also all right so we have learned tonight why people are rude we found out that they lack etiquette they lack manners they lack the ability to be polite or compassionate they don't have the ability to be empathetic many people that are rude are always in a terrible terrible hurry and they need things instantly fast and in the herbie man all right this is just what we're learning because we're in a society that wants things done right now at the drop of a hat amen all right let's keep going i'm just going to tell you all something that matters are connected to rude people if you don't teach your sons manners they're going to be rude if you don't teach your daughter's manners they're going to be rude which shows us part of the problem with the generation that we're dealing with today let me talk for a minute do you all know that many men that have been in the home the enemy has been attacking the family some men are not in the home which makes the women have to raise the children if a woman is going to work all day every day then the child is left to be raised by who the caregiver or the grandmother or somebody else can i just talk for a minute michael says a child left to himself will bring his mother to shame so that's what's happening in our society it's not the older older older people that's doing all the murdering in the city y'all can look at the stats for yourself it's the young people that are lacking empathy they don't have any sense of empathy or sympathy why somebody didn't teach them either they weren't talk or they refused to hear and if they refuse to hear that just means that they're rebelling all right let's talk about a list of things that people do that's rude okay y'all ready it's not in the book if you have a dog and your dog is going out for this special time the ordinances in the neighborhood is that you're supposed to take something to pick up after a little belt you hear them saying if you have a dog if you don't have anything to pick up after the fella then you are being rude to your neighbors if you're driving slow in the passing lane and being true don't look at nobody if you leave a mess in a public bathroom and then you don't even wash your hands before you leave you are ruined if you are having any kind of food whatsoever and you work in a restaurant industry you're supposed to wash your hands every time all right if you are blocking the aisle in the grocery store i'm gonna turn your car sideways and let somebody else get in front of you you being rude to the person behind you all right let me go on the other end if you're at the cashier and you're on your cell phone and don't acknowledge the person that's behind the cashier if you treat people with an attitude and you treat them disrespectfully you are being all right if you take time and you're personally proving yourself in public you are being rude all right if you take the credit for somebody else's work if you take the credit for somebody else's work you are being what who's supposed to get the credit for the work the president you know i keep thinking about these little guys about 13 of them little boys that was trapped in a cave you know over in thailand and they had to call in listen they called in divers from around the world to come in and help them with their problem with these little boys i just want to thank the lord they got all of them [Applause] celebrate somebody other than self all right you're being rude all right y'all ready yes all right uh not teaching your children manners it's causing them to be rude if you don't teach them how to say thank you in advance okay i'm just see some of y'all are waiting on something real big it's the little things that have destroyed the mind teach your children how to say thank you teach them how to say please teach them how to respect other people's time respect other people's space is that right did your mother teach you are you glad to have parents that took time [Applause] this is for the church not just the church on the rock but for anybody that will receive it where is god moving in this hour he's moving through people that will be kind and full of compassion kindness is going to be the new gateway to blessings from god now now this is for some of y'all in here okay if you see a handicapped parking space [Music] is the handicapped parking space for so when you pull up in that space uh according to my list what are you doing being affected by your lack of being on time now some of y'all don't never you never ever ever on time the lord help you and then you gotta start respect remember the word respect okay i'm almost finished i'm almost finished all right if you are always littering oh yeah okay yeah when you're just throwing something [Music] not using any form of disrespect toward the elderly not returning your shopping cart at the grocery store parking lot [Music] and guess what else is rude if you have a neighbor and you're constantly noisy and you're so noisy that you're annoying your neighbor that you have to be respectful of your neighbor you're supposed to do unto you to them as you would have unto you right so these are some of the top uh rudest behaviors and i know we don't have too many offenders in the room tonight thank you amen so we in our final moments come on let's keep reading let's go to the next page i want us to start reading now at page 83 and what i want you to do is yes i want us to read from paige let's start at page 83 at the second sentence all right um actually i'm gonna have to go back in order for you to understand so here on page 82 the very last word says it may not be necessary to tell a person you are so rude however it is a good idea to let her know you are aware of her lack of graciousness at the moment sometimes a well-phrased caring question will do the trick so in other words if someone is being super rude to you you can ask a question like tough day huh of course if you really feel that you are being mistreated you should report the incident to someone in authority where possible some people will continue their rudeness because they get away with it reporting it may bring consequences that will ultimately change their behavior did you all see that part in the book is that sometimes you really do need to tell someone when a person has been ruled now i will tell you all a secret if you have a rude waiter and i mean they're a really low down and evil rule sometimes it's best to request another waiter you don't have to be mean to do that y'all hear what i'm saying you don't want nobody being rude just handling your food now i'm just telling y'all you might need to ask for a different person yes or after you finish your meal if you feel safe enough to finish your meal or whatever you need to talk to a manager and i'm gonna tell you all a secret they pay more attention to letters than they do to face defense so if you've been offended by someone on a particular place of business let me tell y'all something managers don't want to hear complaints about their employees and if you want to get results put it in writing i'm telling you i lost the results or you can just go and fuss at the manager and scream at him i'm telling you if you want to get results it's best to put it right or to talk to someone in the door the key word here is in authority because let me tell you something it's a futile waste of time to go with somebody that can't do nothing come on that's why you have to ask questions who is the manager who is an authority you know right that there is a way to deal with rude people without getting into a verbal confrontation and getting angry and fighting then fussing cause you saved right sanctify fill with the holy ghost you don't have to lose your character you can be like the queen of england she never lifts her voice say what you gotta say and keep it moving all right y'all all right let's keep reading let's go down to the on page 83 and let's start at if you find are you all there all right let's go tend to speak rudely to others repent and recommit to following the golden rule know that when you are rude you have made a very selfish and ungodly decision that your needs or concerns are paramount to all others keep reading god's people are what patient considerate and kind remember that tomorrow when you encounter a person whose actions beg you to respond in an ungodly way let's read the affirmation it says i will slow down and take the time to do unto others to me let's go to another scripture in the book of first corinthians from paul's letter it says first corinthians chapter 13 uh part of this has been also highlighted in this chapter it says charity suffereth law and is kind charity envieth not charity wanted not itself is not puffed up does not behave itself unseemly seek it not her own is not easily provoked you all know what the word provoked me it's not easily angered amen thinking no evil so what we have learned as we have studied this chapter tonight is that people that are rude are oftentimes ultimately responsible for their rude behavior because they have no home training i'm telling you all some people were not trained like you were some people don't have etiquette they don't have the information that you have so you gotta be even more forgiving to more people and just feel sorry for you know what i feel sorry for that person who's always angry always hostile always hasty always y'all give up instead of you getting angry with them you gotta learn how to be merciful to them amen and even on the expressway i know that some people they want you to get into an altercation with them they want to cut you off and get you into a fight you all people are getting shot on i-57 they're getting shot on ia they get killed on the expressway why because somebody cuts somebody off and the person gets so angry and so upset that they jump out the car and pull out a weapon and do somebody bothering him y'all we living in a whole nother season another day we can't afford to be rude amen do you know anybody that's rude but do you know somebody else we need to say a prayer for people that really really have a hard time relating to one another do you know that even when we were children when you were a child that there were kids on the on the school yard that that had not been raised and didn't have home training is that right some people are being raised in environments where they can do whatever they want to do that's why [Music] [Applause] at their mom and say shut up some of some of these parents are scared of that kid they're afraid of a little rascal that they've worked in the world but if you never be rude [Applause] to ask is to have a good parent to clap your hands [Applause] and if you don't know hear what i'm saying tonight if there are some things you don't know because nobody told you get your encyclopedia get your book you can google it now and find out if you don't know how to sit at a table with the place setting with the salad tour and the dinner for the soup school if you don't know that you're supposed to scoop the spoon into the soup and lift it up if you don't know the way things are supposed to be done search for it until you learn yeah [Applause] some people just need to ask people that don't amen right if you don't humility is that right and just stop looking like you can do everything right that's right [Music] do it myself [Applause] [Music] [Applause] thank you [Music] [Applause] y'all go usher's half crazy i'm telling you this has happened in churches all over the country either you come in the back door the usher point to the right and you just honey i'm gonna sit on that side my seat us now i understand why some people are so rude some people just don't know any better now i can hear some of y'all right now in the spirit say about pastor kim someone know better and amen amen amen some people do know better and choose not to do better those are the ones you just have to pray for just don't let them bring you down come on when they don't know [Applause] [Applause] [Applause] [Music] you got too much to do so don't let them make [Applause] from the very beginning of our teaching it is proverbs 15 and 1. a soft ancestor turn it away you can diffuse the situation or you can pour gasoline just like that ask your neighbor which one are you going to do are you going to refuse it or i don't want to make it worse some of you all have yelled and screamed at your little kids so until they have scared be kind even to your children we knew how far to go is that all right i gotta look at one time daddy said don't cross the street from the schoolyard that's all he said y'all could play on the school yard but don't leave the grounds of the studio see daddy and mom and dad knew something we didn't know they knew about directors and crazy folks that would grab our children then come up missing and never see them again y'all hear what i'm saying but one day i decided that i wanted to go across the street while i was a little girl in school i wanted to go over there to the candy store and i was bold and courageous at that moment i just wanted to go over there and danny had it they called him a deuce and a quarter oh he got a fourth door viewer was it a music show yeah dealing with white letter seats the whole survivor photos like in the longest of mine as soon as i stepped down and guess what was worse about the whooping that i got they gave me one of the words like you gonna get it after school feel like you have to wait all the way tonight so all the afternoon you're gonna have proof all i'm trying to tell you all is if you just listen to your parents if you just obey there are blessings in obedience to the amen lord blessings of god will rest upon you if you do the right thing all right keep completing our study tonight let's give god [Applause] [Music] me god in the name of jesus we ask that you will cause us to walk in humility lord we ask that you will teach your people about the highway that shall be there and the way that it's called holiness god help us to walk in righteousness help us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves to help us to treat people the way we want to be treated in the name of jesus overtake us with love and with charity overtake us god that we will learn how to be kind and how not to be offensive and rude to other people my father in the name of jesus thank you for your word thank you for this teaching thank you lord that you're giving unto us lord to do that which is right in your sight in jesus name and father i come against the assignment of rudeness in people that are trying to live a godly life i find the strong man that will cause them to be impolite or discourteous father i come against the assignment that will cause them not to behave as a child of god i find every unkind word every stronghold that will cause people to snap at others because of their own hurt because of their own frustration because of their own anger god deliver your people for being rude after being crude and uncivil father in jesus name teach us your way of god teach us how to walk according to your word in the name of jesus those who all teach us how to rattle our tongue help us god to say that which is right in your sight at all and god we thank you lord victory in this area [Music]

Channel: Angie Ray Ministries - Pastor Kimberly Ray-Gavin

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Published: Tue Aug 14 2018