Sarah Jakes, Daughter of T.D. Jakes, Shares Her Personal Struggles

I didn't actually tell them my sister wrote them a letter an anonymous letter and placed it in our mailbox but because we don't actually receive mail to our home my parents knew that it was from one of us and so she was the only one wise enough at the time to include adults yeah I know that kora actually wrote the letter Court hi Cory how are ya good see you again um yeah you but you knew she was writing a letter no so you were just ratting her out yes Mitchie I'm so glad you I'm so glad you wrote that letter yes I felt like the benefits of her getting prenatal care outweighed the risk of us possibly losing our friendship at the time yeah so you come home and they've read the letter yeah a warning would have been nice yeah so take me through that conversation you walk in the door they've gotten the letter they've read it who was there my siblings I have my sister and then I also have three brothers right and so my mother told me we had this letter and it says that you're pregnant and the moment that they said it I started crying I told them that it was true and it's like I said I remember them being completely silent for a very long time which I know may not be a big deal in most homes but when your father speaks for a living to render him speechless is quite the test I've never been around the bishop when it doesn't happen often um so what was their reaction once they did begin to speak extremely disappointed I was 14 years old no one dreams that their child will have a child at that age and so you know I believe for a very long time they grieve the dream that they thought would be for their daughter and then once we got through that and it was a process we started looking at the practical matters of it the health care and school education start working the problem right you describe this and this what I want parents to hear you describe this as puppy love sex and those don't seem to go in the same sentence but unfortunately they do and did anybody in your family have any idea that you had become sexually active at that point no no one no one knew and having been in the environment that you're in and let me define what I mean by that because I've actually shared the the pulpit with your dad and Sarita at your church and I know that this is a very hands-on real-world ministry meeting people where they are and I know that they talk about premarital sex I know they talk about teen sex I know they talk about all that you had been exposed to all of this growing up but yet you still put yourself in harm's way how do you see that looking back well I think that we all have our own journeys you know I know that it was something that we spoke about a lot in our ministry but just because my parents are preaching about it doesn't mean that I will live by it that's the reality of it that we all find out on our own and so I knew that it was against what our ministry stood for but those made the conscious decision to have sex anyway

Channel: Dr. Phil

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Id: jZsecbqO1v4

Length: 3min 23sec (203 seconds)

Published: Tue Apr 01 2014