Girl Talk! | Mrs. Serita Jakes, Pastor Cora Jakes Coleman, & Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts

[Music] [Music] [Music] i am here with my girls well i think that we're in an amazing time right now the the woman is is rising started off with one person who said i want to bring a voice to these issues how are you if you're watching to know that you can bring a voice to issues we say woman thou art loose that means our suffering should end don't you think listen we want to break generational persons we don't just want to be so that we can lose we want to break generational percy so that my children aren't in the same chains that i learned to come out of the sacrifice of being heard really comes with being able to posture yourself in a in a place of humility but to really be willing to upset your world so that you can upgrade the world willing to upset your world so you can upgrade your world hello everybody welcome to woman thou art loose presents girl talk and i am here with my girls my real girls too i've got pester sarah jakes roberts and pastor cora jakes coleman and they're getting ready to join me in a conversation that we need every woman to begin to have and to hear so hi girls hi mommy bear hi mom i'm so looking forward to this conversation when we started talking just about what we wanted the woman to take away from this moment i was just so excited to know that not only is this going to be blessed and anointed and informative but that the women are going to come in here one way and leave absolutely transformed and i just can't wait to serve this vision i know it's going to be phenomenal i can piggyback on the same sentiment i know that this is going to be a chain breaking experience i know that it's going to be a spiritual enrichment a physical enrichment a mental enrichment and i'm just excited for all the topics that will be discussed not just in this girl talk but just overall i think this conference is going to be a monumental experience for everyone involved so i'm looking forward to seeing god's hand on all that is happening at the woman dart loose virtual experience i'm loving it already listen so let's get right into this because something very very sentimental to me is okay you know my birthday is august 19th okay so guess what a hundred years ago on august the 18th 1920 the 19th amendment to the constitution was finally ratified okay empowering all american women and declaring for the first time that we that they like men deserve all the rights and responsibilities of uh citizenship so that was a hundred years ago that the government declared that as women we have the same rights as men which freed us to vote hello voting's next month so we're going to have to exercise our right to vote of course but the contribution of leadership of women in faith communities is even more paramount because we fight for equality which had persisted for years but we still knew that there was much room for progress so faith leaders are defined the limitations that society has historically placed on us and in politics and activism and also in society more broadly so moving forward we will continue to rise in all areas of public life okay get that part and in faith communities in particular as an integral part of the rising tide of women's leadership and the continuing fight for gender equality now i know that this isn't a conversation that we usually have in church but this is girl talk and we want to talk about what's really really going on so talk to me a little bit about um what you feel is transpiring particularly cora in the role of representation amongst women well i think that we're in an amazing time right now the the woman is is rising we've got the first female vice president um that is is going to hopefully be elected here soon we've got women pastors who are going to be um rising and we've got ceos that are are coming out and and women judges we've got lawyers there's there is a woman in every high seat right now and i think that that represents just the strength of who we are and i think i was reading something the other day that said most of the countries that are doing well with this coronavirus are being ran by females the one the woman is is the head or the leader that is helping them get through that and so i think that the role of the woman is is really being emphasized and appreciated more now in this season than ever before um in every single industry and i i'm excited about the celebration of women i'm excited about the celebration of black women um specifically coming together because we are often uh put against each other uh we're often uh fighting one another and so it's important i believe that that in this time and in this season women are coming together women are taking their role women are being women are free to be heard and and i think that that is a beautiful beautiful thing that's happening in every industry we see we're seeing a strong woman and i i think it's long overdue i forgot to mention that we might as well go on and deem this girl talk free to be heard yeah yeah absolutely i think that's an incredible thing especially with you talking about the 19th amendment because that moment in history was so important for all women and i want to explain why i think that that was a moment in which women said we want to be more than just seen right because at that time women were seen but not heard and they said we want to move into the stratosphere where we are seen and heard and what's so powerful about that 19th amendment ratification is that though white women were the primary sole beneficiaries of this ratification there were black women who were involved with that movement as well and i think that that really goes to your point corey of us understanding the power of us coming together because black women knew at that time that they weren't going to benefit from that ratification but they also were able to connect the dots but if i can get her in position then once she's in position i can push that barrier a bit further and i push that very then eventually it leads to me and i think sometimes when we are not immediately affected by the results we don't engage we don't bring our power we don't bring our creativity but i think that this being free to be heard means that i want to be heard even if it's a whisper on one level so that one day it can be inhaled progression that takes place when we're moving to seen and heard and that takes time and i think as we celebrate this 19th amendment to remember the silent heroes of that movement were black women black women who understood the power of us all working together and there's still so much work to be done when it comes to equality there's such a pain in equity gap even though we have seats at the table sometimes our seats are our folding chairs and everyone else has executive plus chairs just because of the way that pay inequity exists but i think that as we continue to to be vocal and to encourage men to be vocal as well you know you've been raised by women you've got sisters you've had classmates who were women and who were a part of your journey and you would not be in position if it weren't for those women so to see what we add to the table as worthy of being valued at the same level of what men receive i think it's probably our next step is really making sure that equality shows up at that bank account as well but i think to just look back at how far we've come is so powerful yeah and i think it's really important when you say that about women of color because when you talked about the pay inequity that exists between uh women of color and our white counterparts white women are paid 78 cents for every dollar earned by men black women earn only 64 cents and latinos only 54 cents for each dollar earned by white men so when you said that about us being seen and not heard i thought about that scripture where they keep trying to silence us with saying let the woman be silent in the church and they were actually talking about women yelling across the the current to the congregation of men on one side women on one side and women yelling and asking their husband what did that mean you know and they wanted the women to just hush and so now we're coming out of our silence about so many things that have haunted us for generations and generations domestic violence breast cancer mental health all of these things have plagued us and we have just suffered in silence when we say woman thou art loose that means our suffering should end don't you think absolutely i think that there's such a power in being able to give yourself permission to be heard you know i've just been really this i i just turned 33 and this is my keep telling people this is my year of awareness i'm giving myself permission to be aware of those fruitful things in my life to be aware of those things that are strengthening uh to be aware of my mental health to be aware of my emotional health and all of those things as we're going through this pandemic there's such a a strength in just being able to say i have a voice and i can say something and i don't have to be muzzled for so long we as as a women as women rather um have been muzzled we've been muzzled or we've been pushed to the corner um and i think of dirty dancing don't leave baby in the corner you can't leave a baby in the corner and and i believe that's what we're doing we're rising out of our corners we're getting the mental health that we need we're deciding to give ourselves permission to be heard and not to be muzzled and to move in in just a mightier way i just really feel a strong victory for women in this season like never before i have to tell you poor when you were saying that i couldn't help but consider how that scene but not heard is really something that begins in our households that when we are able to validate the voices of our children then when they become adults they're more confident in their voices and i'm just thinking you're probably watching this right now and you didn't have any models any representation when it comes to communicating about your emotions what happens in this house stays in this house but what happens when what's going on in this house is traumatic and it has emotionally sparked me and i don't have the words to communicate how i'm feeling i just want you to know that all it takes is one person to say i want to take the muscle off i want to remove this silence that has been within our family by going to get help by talking about domestic violence by talking about uh our physical health and the the dangers that we're at with our breast cancer and just women's health issues in general and i know that this isn't something that we necessarily talk about a lot of times in families it's so much easier to keep things surfaced because getting vulnerable can be challenging but you know when i think about october and i think about breast cancer awareness and i think about domestic violence something that has become constant in our modern history started off with one person who said i want to bring a voice to these issues i just want to empower you if you're watching to know that you can bring a voice to issues they may be talking about it in the world but they're not talking about it in your family they're not talking about it within your household just because no one has spoken up doesn't mean that you can't be the change agent and you are free to be hurt that's what this is all about woman that work loose we're seeing us break the ceilings in so many areas but let's not forget to break the ceilings in our own households and have those tough conversations and it starts with having tough conversations with our health with ourselves i know dr need is going to be here uh throughout the virtual experience and she makes that me have so much faith in my ability to to go to therapy and to be confident that i am crazy and being crazy is okay sometimes yes when you said that about children and their right to be heard as well i often worry about children that are in homes where there are domestic issues and the child is usually the witness to a lot of the shootings that have occurred recently we hear of young children being witnesses to their parents or their loved ones being shot or killed and i think what's happening to those children now that they're isolated from their teachers the teachers can't see their bruises or if they're being beaten the teachers can't tell anybody and so i want our parents to think about what are you doing to your children while you bicker amongst yourself they're seeing and they can't say anything but we've got to be careful what we allow our children to see in our homes so that when they grow up they don't think that this is a generational thing and this is the same way that i have to walk don't you agree absolutely as a children's pastor um even before the pandemic i i seen a lot of children come into the the ministry just either being traumatized having gone through uh the trauma of seeing their family fight or tried to get in the middle of an argument and it went bad or horribly wrong and and so there is definitely i think um children who are suffering now uh but i don't think that it's it's um that they never suffered i think that it's being emphasized even more now because they're at home and and we were the the home for them i that's the most emotional part for me is that i was the hug for a lot of the children in children's ministry that weren't getting hugs during the week we were the i love you the keep going the affirmations and things and i think that sometimes as parents when we are going through our own emotional things we can tend to put our children's emotions to the back burner and um not really see what's going on with them emotionally as well and so it's just been really important for me like if you're going through emotional anxiety your child is probably going through a little bit of emotional anxiety and bickering and stuff is not going to help it and so what we've uh incorporated is 20 second hugs in in my home so whenever we feel get like we're getting too emotionally anxious or just down um someone will stop and say okay 20 second hug and you've got to hug the person that's closest to you for 20 seconds and it really does relieve a little bit of that tension i think what you and dad did so well with us growing up is we never saw you all bicker argue be violent towards one another at all and so it really set a standard a foundation of peace in our home and so i think that this gives us an opportunity to challenge those mothers and fathers who are bickering to try to find a different coping mechanism to try to find a different way to navigate through the friction and and the upsets that are happening in the home so that you can create an environment of peace not just for you but for your children our children they need peace if they can't get it at the church they can't go to the schools they can't have play dates the only place that they can find peace is in their home that's so powerful you know i was thinking even outside of being in situations where there's domestic violence and there's so many layers to that you know definitely we would want you to get to a safe place even if that means kind of starting from scratch your safety the safety of your children is so important and i think if you know someone who's probably being affected by a domestic violence situation that perhaps even if it's dropping cupcakes on the porch or dropping off cars to really let them know that they are loved and that there is something that uh there is someone rather outside of the home who's thinking of them and praying for them is so important but as you were speaking for even about that emotional anxiety i thought outside of just domestic violence that the pandemic and the racial unrest is something that we have to be talking to our children about mckenzie was watching the news with us one day and she's 11 and it was just on as i was cooking dinner and she started getting afraid because they were talking about the coronavirus and children and i realized that there's this is happening to her too you know nervous as we are her life has shifted as well she's not engaging with friends the way that she wants to she's in the house more than she has ever been and so we've been talking about like how do you feel i've been letting her know like you've been handling this very well you've been so strong throughout this but also giving her room to tell me how this is affecting her and i don't think you can ever underestimate them overhearing adult conversations i know they're kids and they need to stay in a child's place but there are some things that seep into the child's place and if we aren't there to help them filter and clean up with seeping into that child's place then we leave them to themselves to draw conclusions or to feel anxiety so to get down in that child's place with your children and say what does this world look like from the perspective i have to wear a mask i can't engage with my family the way that i once did and how are they handling that teenagers whose lives have been changed we have a four-year-old who grabbed her mask because she heard her grandmother was coming she grabbed her mask before going out now it's kind of become automatic for her but what does that feel like and i think that we have to be willing to risk our children being heard as well as we discover our voices so that we can break listen we want to break generational curses we don't just want to be so that we could be loose we want to break generational curses so that my children aren't in the same chains that i learned to come out of and that goes that starts with us learning how to get out of our own teams and going back and looking at what's changing our children and saying i think you're better than this you're wiser than this is what i learned this is what i discovered so that we can each one teach one and lead us to a better place i love it let's talk about the sacrifices that come with our right to be heard our insistence that that instinct for us to survive there's a great cost that comes with that and and how do we how do we embrace the freedom and the right to be heard and then embrace the fact that we also are going to lose a little bit of ourselves or there's going to be a sacrifice a measure of sacrifice that comes with that well i think for me the sacrifice of being heard really comes with being able to posture yourself in a in a place of humility and so there is a sacrifice of being able to move yourself from knowing you're important but putting yourself on the back burner so that someone else can lead ahead of you is such a strong humbling place and being able to put yourself in that place is i believe one of the first steps to being hurt in general maybe not just women but there is um there's a power in being able to know that you are important and still place yourself in a position that may be lower in order to lift someone else up and so there is that sacrifice of i i know i'm important but maybe i can't be in this place right now so i need to go to the back burner and push somebody else ahead until my turn comes so there's a patience that you you have to sacrifice waiting your turn waiting your season waiting for when your voice is is ready to be heard because everybody ain't ready for your voice everybody's not ready for what you have to say and so there there is a patience in the process of getting getting people prepared and getting yourself prepared to be heard as well i i believe for sure so i'd say humility and patience is something that you definitely end up um sacrificing and adjusting in order to be heard i agree i think what you said about everyone not being ready for your voice to be heard is so important for people to understand who are watching today because right now your world functions based off of one version of who you are and perhaps that version is loving and kind and she's there for everyone so much so that she's already put herself on the back but being heard from her in this season means that i am ready to come to the front burner okay i'm ready for me to start getting my time and what i would suggest doing as you're on this journey of being heard is to bring people along the journey with you sometimes we go through inner transformations and then we just present the finished product to the world that has functioned based on the old version of who we are and i think to be able to communicate to your spouses your friends your family your children like i've been thinking lately about my own dreams about what i want to do with the time that i have left and this is what's in my heart to do so that they're not surprised by this sudden volume going up with your voice i think bringing people along on that journey is so important and i think like poor said earlier is to understand understanding being heard there's a process attached to that and it takes us being willing to say okay let me see how i need to function now maybe i can't cook dinner and build the business maybe i have to pick which night i can do what but to really be willing to upset your world so that you can upgrade your world be willing to upset your world so you can upgrade your world yes we are strange but we don't want to upset our world i want everything to stay the same but i want for me to change but my world only functions based off of this version of who i am so if i'm going to change then it is going to upset my world you got to know what are my boundaries what's too far okay i'm not going to work past eight o'clock i'm not going to work past this time i want to take saturday all the way down you have to determine as you introduce your voice this new version of who you are into your world where are my boundaries how do i want to present this where are the limitations and most importantly you have to understand that other people are free to be heard too which is force point not everyone's going to agree with it some people may question it some people may challenge you just because someone challenges you doesn't mean they're hating on you someone may come along with the challenge that expands your idea and expands your potential be okay with that and that goes back to that posture of humility but it isn't whatever the sacrifice is what is more uh painful is the idea of sacrificing your potential sacrificing your people oh my god the kingdom because okay i'm gonna say this and then i'm gonna finish that at the end of the day anything that god's going to do in the world he's going to do through people he's using us he's giving us gifts talents ideas uh ability to communicate and create he's doing it through people and so whatever you're doing is going to be establishing and extending god's reign on the earth you're going to be a part of his kingdom that book is kingdom that nonprofit is kingdom that ministries kingdom the business is kingdom it's baked to get people into an environment that's different than anything that's taking place in the industry here we build people up we don't tear each other down whatever that is you just have to understand that i'm either going to sacrifice my place in the kingdom i'm going to sacrifice that gift your talent that god has given me or i'm going to sacrifice people knowing this one version with myself either way there's going to be laws you have to determine what is the greater loss and what you can live with when you get to them pearly gates you want to hear god say well done my good and faithful servant so i think we have to be willing to sacrifice and grow and change and upset so we can upgrade okay i love it um i think that when we talk about elevating one another um we are actually standing on our parents shoulders but in a way our children are standing on ours so that they can be as tall as strong probably taller and stronger than we are right now and so woman thou art loose has been such a generational curse breaker that women that were your age started coming but now they're my age and we're grandmothers but there's still a liberating force that's happening in our lives where it's not like we're preparing to die on my birthday i felt like i am preparing to live again and you know and so just blow out all of the sad candles and put up all of the droopy flowers because i'm not ready to die i'm ready to live and god has freed me so that i can do this and and if it took that woman in the bible that's the central figure of woman thou art lose 30 some years of being bent and bowed over and looking to people to resolve her issue it was her what god said to her that liberated her and she immediately stood up what did you say you stand up so that you can push up that little spin on that word we have to learn that what we have to do first is liberate ourselves because how are you going to free somebody when your chains are still jingling thanks you know and so i i just want each of you to to do me a finally my sister no matter what age you are if you're talking to your daughters if you're talking to your grandmother if you're talking to your great-grandmother there's a word that god has placed in your heart at this particular time for somebody that really really needs it what would you say um for me i i would say it's not going to your healing and your wholeness is not going to work if you're not willing to lay that pain that shame that embarrassment that hurt at the feet of god what i love about the woman with the alabaster box is that she put herself in a very uncomfortable position just so that she could have a abnormal encounter with god and i believe that when we're able to put ourselves in uncomfortable positions when we're able like sarah said to upset our our environment when we're able to do that then we're able to have an encounter with god that changes our life it upgrades our life that that woman when she was able to put her upset at the feet of god her angers her shames her her uh humiliations and everything at the feet of god he gave her a go and i believe that that is what god is giving us in this season if we are willing to lay our issues and our tears and our crown at the feet of god then he will give us a go and not just a a regular goal but a go in peace and so that's what i would would give to the sisters out there i know some of my spiritual daughters are probably listening uh aunties and all of the women out there i would just give you a go in peace once you lay your things at the feet of god give yourself permission to go in peace not to go in pain not to go in pressure not to even go in the pandemic but to go in peace that god can be full in you and everything that you laid out at his feet would be worth it um would be the the thing that that's in my heart today just to give people a lay it at his feet and and go in peace i love that if i could say anything i would just say that if you're watching this right now and you want to believe you're free to be heard but you're afraid that when you open up your mouth it's going to be like like when we first wake up in the morning and our voice is like a little shaky and and dry and a little bit incoherent i think one of the most powerful things that you can know is that god uses voices that shake that when we look back in scripture and we see how he used moses and we see how he used abraham and we see how he used all of these incredible figures in the bible i'm hard-pressed to find one person who he used who didn't start off with a shaky voice that didn't start off unsure that didn't start off uncertain but i want you to know that shaking voices can still shake the world and so when you're exercising this using your voice don't let the fact that you're afraid don't let the fact that you're nervous don't like the fact that maybe you don't even feel worthy sometimes keep you from speaking up into going in the rooms that maybe girls like us have no business being in but god sent me god sent you with your shaky voice he sent you to raise that child he sent you to be in that marriage he sent you to build that business and to be at that executive god is wants to use that voice no matter how powerful it is or how shaky it is and i hear god saying that the confidence you're looking for is waiting in the room you're supposed to be in that you're not going to be confident going into the room and that's good you need to be teachable you need to be vulnerable you need to be humble enough that you are so dependent on him and the more that you grow in that room and glean in that room that your confidence is waiting in next not in now so if you're waiting for now to become confident you may never go but if you recognize that now is the only moment i have so i have to move with what i've got i gotta move shaky voice and all i gotta move feeling unworthy and all i gotta move because i feel god pushing me i hear that saying that the version of you who owns it who's confident who believes in themselves is gonna just gonna be waiting for you and you're gonna collide with that person and you're gonna recognize that there was nothing wrong with being unsure there was just something wrong with being still so go my sister go in peace go in power go an anointing go and trust and go in confidence we need you to stand up rise and be loose and evolve oh my that was a sila moment i thought that come right to me i did i felt that come right to me and i know that there's been so many nuggets that we've shared and we could sit around and we could talk all day but the essence of what we're saying is that you are free to be heard and we thought we sing that song free to worship you are free your voice is free and it's important and i don't want you to think because there's millions upon millions and millions and billions of people occupying the earth your voice god knows distinctly from anyone else's and your voice is important to him it's important to the kingdom it's important to your family so i want you to walk in that freedom i want you to know that he set you free so you're free in deed and exercise your right to be heard by going to the polls our ancestors fought for this right you've got to show up because your voice has to be heard as never before i'm so glad that i had a chance to spend some just girl time with my girls and i hope that our relationship is echoed in the hearts of each and every one of you that are watching or listening that you stop by and that we said something that will encourage you along the way remember you are free to be heard [Music] you

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Published: Sun Oct 18 2020