r/Trueoffmychest I Befriended My Wife's Kidnapper

welcome to r slash true off my chest where op's wife gets kidnapped today's episode is sponsored by bespoke post bespoke post is a monthly membership club delivering awesome boxes of top shelf goods from under the radar Brands it's free to join and you can skip a month or cancel any time all you have to do is complete a short quiz to share your interests and you get a cool new box every month that includes things like outdoor gear barware home and kitchen goods clothing and more even live oysters each box has about 70 dollars worth of products but you only pay a tiny fraction of that and if you're concerned that you might get something that you don't like don't worry you can preview each box before it's shipped you can decide if you want to keep it swap it with a different box or skip the month without paying I got the shucked box which comes with over two dozen oysters and some hot sauce because my wife is a huge fan of shellfish I also picked up the dwell box which comes with a warm blanket since the basement where I work can get pretty chilly as well as some 10 cents cones to get 20 off your first box go to bespokepost.com R 20 or click the link in the description and enter R 20 at checkout our next Reddit post is from deleted I'm leaving my husband because he's living another life online where my sister and her children are his family I stayed up until the wee hours going through his computer and phone my husband's a gamer and we have a gaming room he hasn't changed his passwords and login information since we were dating and while he was sleeping I snooped anyway I was shocked with what I saw Yes my husband is in love with or at least has a crush on my sister I'm not the only one that he's complaining to about her weight gain his best friend knows everything he actually sends him pictures of my sister and openly admits that he uses these pictures to pleasure himself some nights he complains that she's getting fatter he's annoyed that she might be pregnant or that she's just going to ruin her beauty one of the the pictures that he sent to his best friend where he admits that he Pleasures himself too is from her Facebook and and my toddler nephew is kissing her cheek he's also taken pictures of her on family vacations in her bikini maybe hundreds on some of those pictures he's cropped me out of them on his PC he has group chats with his gaming friends these are people who don't know him in real life to them he pretends that my sister and her kids are his family he proudly brags about having her his profile picture is of her her kids and him from a Christmas party I'm shocked and Disturbed and very confused I never pressure him to do anything nice to me but he tells me that he loves me every day he kisses and hugs me all the time he never complains about me or my appearance and although he never compliments my looks he never complains about them either my sister is very beautiful and she's always been beautiful I've learned that I could be good at other things and I'm fine with that I have many great qualities and I always get compliments for them that's why I never reacted to the lack of compliments from my husband this is just how things have always been for me I don't know if he loves me not two weeks ago we had our 10th anniversary and he surprised me with a weekend in Paris and a beautiful new engraved wedding band what is going on and what about posing her children as his my husband and I are child free which was more his choice he never wanted kids ever my sister is not involved with him she's an amazing sister and she would never do that to me after sweeping all of his devices there's nothing from her to him that could remotely be interpreted as suspicious they don't talk in private and the last text that he has from her is when I turn 30 and they were planning a surprise party other than that they communicate through group chats and then Opie posted an update in this update op told her sister who was understandably disgusted then my soon-to-be ex-husband called when he saw that I've been on his phone in PC he asked me where I was and when I'll be coming home I told him come on you know that I'm not coming back he sounded so defeated he told me he was disgusted with himself and that he was sorry and that he loved me he just wasn't in love with me and hasn't been for two years I told him that I never wanted to see him again and most importantly I never want him to contact my sister he said that he would never do that and that he never would have acted on his fantasies it's just his escape from reality he said that he hasn't been feeling well and that was his go-to comfort he's posing as a richer man more successful with a beautiful wife and beautiful kids and his friends admire him for it he says that it gives him the rush he needs to cope with reality anyway he begged me not to tell my sister and especially not her husband and promise to never bother me again I don't want to feel I'm numb maybe the hurt and sadness will come later I'm more repulsed and disappointed right now only last weekend we were planning new Renovations and a new car our next Reddit post is from a little bit of wacko I am happy that I walked in on my husband passionately hugging with his partner so about a year ago my husband Matthew who's 39 stated that he wanted us to open our marriage his reasoning was that he was no longer sexually attracted to me and he couldn't finish because I was too loose he didn't want to get a divorce because he still loved me he insisted that we continue being a happy couple that didn't passionately hug with one another that we would have our needs met by someone else who could be our other partner I was initially hurt by this because when he explained his reasoning he didn't miss a beat when insulting me I was no longer attractive to him because I was 34. I agreed to have an open marriage because I love him and and I didn't want to lose him here's a set of rules that we agreed on once we find a partner we have to introduce our partners to each other my husband introduces his partner to me and vice versa we can passionately hug other people but for it to be considered okay we'll have to tell each other about it if we're in a relationship with someone else we have to get tested regularly we won't passionately hug with our partner in our home we can build emotional relationships with someone but it can't be taken as far as love we show our partners the rules and explain our boundaries we don't call our partners pet names finally my husband and I must come home to each other every night sleep in the same bed wake up together Etc basically a typical marriage just without the passionate hugging a couple of weeks after Matthew insisted that we open our marriage he brought home his partner Jamie who's 24. Jamie is so pretty he looks like an angel a fresh-faced beautiful boy with the uttermost perfect smile the literal definition of Youth I had never been more intimidated in my life the introduction was so embarrassing I had no idea what to say and I just wanted to cry I literally witnessed my husband's type change in front of my eyes Jamie and I are complete opposites physically and personality wise now on to the story yesterday I came home on my lunch break to take a quick nap before returning to work and I came home to find my husband and Jamie passionately hugging in our bed I was shocked and I didn't really know what to do so I just left and went back to work honestly I wasn't even tired anymore as I was walking into work I saw that I was being bombarded with texts and calls from both of them so I just turned my phone off I got off work around 9pm but I didn't want to go home I went to a movie and just drove around after I fell asleep on the side of the road and I returned home at 8 AM this morning to get ready for work when I walked in saw Matthew and Jaime at the table Jaime looked sad while Matthew looked pissed I told them good morning and went and got ready for work Matthew followed me yelling saying that what I did was wrong and my reaction was completely uncalled for he told me that I was being over dramatic and I had him up all night worried because I wanted to act like a child I don't know what came over me but I stopped him mid-sentence and asked for a divorce I said you don't love me anymore and I don't want to love you I am so lonely and never had anyone nitpick my appearance more than you have if you aren't sexually attracted to me then marry someone that you are sexually attracted to I want a divorce he looked shocked and told me that I didn't know what I was saying and that I was just tired when he tried walking me to the bed I got really mad I smacked his hand away and left again this was the breaking point for me I usually let people walk all over me but today I didn't let him do it I never wanted an open marriage and I don't want someone who puts me second man op your partner basically forcing you into an open marriage is bad enough but then after he violated one of your rules which is to not have intercourse in your home he gets upset at you for being upset at him over it I hope he I'm relieved that you're getting a divorce because your husband is toxic I'm also going to assume that since Jaime was waiting for you at 8am he probably slept over that night which is another rule he violated alright guys um I gotta give you a heads up on this next story this next story is really really dark and it touches on some really adult themes including words that I can't even say on YouTube uh I've been trying to figure out if I even want to post this story because it's pretty out there but that's kind of the thing about Reddit is Reddit touches on some really like adult issues that YouTube kind of like tries to avoid so there's a pretty good chance that this video will get demonetized probably fairly to be honest but I think that I'm gonna publish it anyways because stories like these serve as a warning I'm just saying this and I'm sharing this story because you guys got to be careful out there man our next Reddit post is from Lost for Words I think that I've destroyed my marriage my wife refuses to see me or speak to me I'm not even allowed to know where she is I made a friend David at the gym we got on well and the friendship started to translate outside of just being gym buddies we regularly hung out after work or after the gym and it was nice having a friend that I could spend time with almost three weeks ago I invited him over to my house to have dinner with me and my wife my wife and I cook dinner and at some point her sister-in-law called asking if her three-year-old son left his alligator socks at our house as he refuses to breathe until he gets it back and he did leave his socks at our place so my wife decided to drop off the socks while my wife was away David arrived all was going well until my wife got back home and saw David she just suddenly started screaming and I mean she was letting out some blood curdling screams she was shouting for David to get out and waving a knife around David left and I tried to ask her what happened but she honestly couldn't talk as it seemed like she was having a stroke or a heart attack so I called for an ambulance and she was admitted at the hospital for having a severe panic attack she was hospitalized for three days and she didn't speak the entire time to literally anyone on her release date she just left and no one would tell me where she was I've called everyone we know and no one will speak to me or tell me where she is then finally her sister texted me a long text that was full of expertise tips but it did explain what I did wrong David was the man who took her hostage for nine days when she was 12. and then stalked her first seven years until he went to prison for another crime he was never punished for committing the r word against her or for holding her hostage I mean my jaw fell to the ground I knew all about this and she had told me about it from the beginning I just don't know how I didn't recognize him I don't know how to fix this she just refuses to see me speak to me and I don't know where she is now and then Opie posted an update yes I called the police but according to them he hasn't committed a crime I invited him into our home and it's not illegal to give someone a fake name or to befriend me yes I've seen pictures of him I just forgot I don't know how I forgot what he looked like but I forgot nonetheless I saw pictures of him in his late 20s and I saw like 3 prison pictures of him taken in 2017 and 18. yes he does look different now from those pictures but not enough for me to not recognize him I really don't have a reasonable excuse for not recognizing him it's clear that David had planned this he clearly befriended me to get to my wife he also gave me a different name than his real name I don't know where my wife is because I'm not trusted I'm not allowed to know her friends and family have completely Frozen me out people have literally changed numbers and privated their social media I mean this isn't their first rodeo with this man my wife was keeping track of him but he was released earlier from prison but the records weren't updated so we both were under the impression that he was still in prison but he was released early December last year and he went straight back to stalking her and I let him into our lives her private space of course I regret my actions I wish I recognized him earlier but I didn't I don't know why I didn't at the time of the incident he was 22 and she was 12. she knew him through his stepbrother a fellow student David had his own place and it was kind of like a party house where all the kids went to so he was the cool guy who hung around pre-teens and teens who he also sold drugs to ranging from alcohol to heavier stuff her family did try to get it to go to court but it was dropped by the prosecutors he also claimed that she was his girlfriend and that she had run away from home it was also known that she had a crush on him at the time and his lawyers Twisted it up to fit his claim of her being his secret girlfriend it was a a combination of [ __ ] shaming due to her having a crush on him and having visited his home of her own accord lack of physical evidence her inability to speak on the stand because she was too traumatized her vulnerable home life because her father was going through chemo at the time and the unwillingness of the prosecutors to go after him the stalking was taken slightly seriously at the time and he was ordered to stay away from her but he repeatedly broke the order the one time that he was punished by the judge he was only given a few days in jail so he just continued to stalk her for years until he was arrested for another crime alright op I hate to say this because you seem like a well-intentioned person but I don't blame your wife for completely cutting you out of her life you saw pictures of David So presumably the reason why you saw those pictures is because your wife was like this is the guy who kidnapped me if you ever see him run call the cops whatever so the fact that you didn't and that you just let him into her living room is unfortunately unforgivable in my opinion her home is supposed to be her safe place and you're supposed to be her safe person but because of what happened neither you nor her home are safe anymore so yeah if I were in her shoes I probably would have gone off the grid as well oh man I don't want to pile on you op because you're the victim of David scheming's as well it's just I've got to take your wife's side here what she did was super reasonable and do I want to say this you know what screw it this video is probably gonna get demonetized anyways I think this story is one of those situations where I would be like seriously considering do I want to commit murder over this do I want to do I want to kill this guy not like in the sense of oh I'm so angry at him I want to kill him I mean like literally you know our next Reddit post is from crazy tired my daughter doesn't want to go on our date and I'm trying not to be sad I'm a 35 year old guy I have a daughter who recently turned 13. her mom passed away when she was only three throughout the years I have always made sure to empower my daughter just to make sure that she's an independent young smart woman but even though my daughter is smart I as a dad worry about her ending up in a bad and toxic relationship so over the years I made it a thing for twice a year to take her out on a date somewhere fancy for dinner I always get her flowers and I always let her order whatever she wants from the menu we've done this since she was five so it's been going on for twice a year for about eight years last night I asked her where she wanted to go for our date so I can make reservations she asked me if we had to do that I told her of course we didn't have to but I also asked why she didn't want to she said that she thinks that it's becoming babyish and she thinks that she's too old to be going on daddy daughter dates I told her that I get it and we don't have to anymore I tried to play it off and act like I didn't mind but man does this hurt soon she probably won't want to hang out with me at all and I get that she's growing up but man she's still a little girl in my eyes Okay op so my personal experience which I think is true for most people who are in healthy relationships with their parents is that once your kid turns like 13 years old it's kind of like your parent throws him as a boomerang every year from 13 they get more and more distant from you peaking at like probably 16 or 17 and then like 18 is the age where the boomerang starts to turn around and then like 1920 21-22 is when the boomerang starts to come back to you one reason for that is that the age of like 13 to 17 is very much a teenage mentality so it's hard for teenagers to understand adults and vice versa but then like 18 to 22 is when you really start to shift your brain into like adult mode and then you start to kind of like look back and reflect on your your parents and your grandparents and realize I guess they weren't so bad after all also the other reason is that once someone turns 18 typically that's when they start paying for their own meals so I don't know what the future holds for your daughter op but when I was like 18 19 20 I so looked forward to having dinner with my parents because when I had dinner with my parents they paid and I was a cheap broke ass college student who ate sandwiches every day so being able to go out to Applebee's order an appetizer and a dessert with my parents oh my God hey Mom what are you doing you wanna you wanna hang out this weekend so yeah it stings now op but just think you're throwing a boomerang eventually that Boomerang will come back to you that was our slash true off my chest and if you like this content check out my podcast where I publish the exact same episodes also hit that subscribe button because I put out new Reddit videos every single day

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Length: 19min 10sec (1150 seconds)

Published: Thu Oct 13 2022