r/AmITheA--Hole My Coworker Hates Me Because I'm Muslim

Welcome to our slash am I the butthole where op's daughter almost kills the family dog am I the butthole for making my 15 year old daughter get a job to pay for our dog's vet bills I have three daughters Phoebe who's 19 Ali who's 18 and Janie who's 15. we also have a two-year-old Chiweenie a Chihuahua wiener dog mix named Pebble we were in the middle of a heat wave two weeks ago with temperatures hitting 107. small dogs are more sensitive to heat so we don't let him go to the backyard for long periods of time and the deck is off limits because there's no shade on the deck the problem is Pebble loves the deck because he can watch the cars people walking on the trail behind our house and can see our neighbor's chickens Jane doesn't have a first period at school and doesn't leave for school until 10 a.m a few days a week both Ali and Phoebe leave at 9 30 a.m so it's Janie's responsibility to make sure pebble is inside the fans are on and he has water two weeks ago in the worst of the heat wave pebble was crying at the deck door Cheney got annoyed and let him go out onto the deck then she left for school and forgot him on the deck Ally came home a few hours later and started looking for Pebble she found him passed out on the deck and called me sobbing I left work early took him to the emergency vet and they treated him for heat stroke he had to stay at the vet for a few days and Ali was inconsolable while he was gone she was constantly crying she wouldn't eat or leave her room and she had a panic attack every time the phone rang because she was terrified the vet was telling us that Pebble was dead Pebble made a full recovery but now we have an expensive vet bill and Ali still has extreme anxiety around losing Pebble Cheney's upset because Ali hasn't spoken to her since she forgot Pebble on the deck and Phoebe rarely speaks to her and doesn't hang out with her anymore Janie was upset about Pebble when he was at the vet but now she's very nonchalant about what what happened because he's fine my husband and I have been talking about what to do with Janie we decided on making her get a job to pay for pebble's bed expenses which are close to two thousand dollars after insurance Janie's very upset about it because she has to quit swim team to get a job and she says that we're ruining her life over a mistake now I'm starting to wonder if I'm the butthole for making her quit swim team to get a job so the comments on this one are super super divisive it seems to boil down to one Camp is saying that 15 year olds are old enough to have a degree of responsibility and to care for another living thing so expecting her to work off the bill is pretty reasonable the other Camp is saying no 15 is too young their brain is still developing so you can't fully expect her to be 100 accountable for the dog that should be op's job and like I understand where both sides are coming from so I think you have like a spectrum of responses here and on the weakest end of the spectrum you have ground Janie give her a Stern talking to to make our volunteer at shelters or something so that she understands that what she did was not okay and then at the harsh end of the spectrum you have forcing a 15 year old to work to pay off a two thousand dollar debts and I think it's probably the case that this full spectrum is like acceptable like both are okay it just kind of depends on individual interpretation as to which you prefer I think I think probably for me making a 15 year old work of a two thousand dollar debt is a bit harsh unfortunately op doesn't say how much that two thousand dollars is impacting the family it could be that op could just easily write a check for 2K it's not a big deal or it could be that losing two thousand dollars will set them back considerably and if that's the case like if their family is really really hurting from that two thousand dollars then I think it's fairly reasonable for op to expect her daughter to pay off the mistake that she made so I guess I'll say I understand both camps but personally I probably wouldn't make that decision I'd probably do something a little bit milder if my daughter made that mistake and I was looking for an unacceptable way to punish her so I'm going to give you um I suppose zero out of five buttholes op but if anyone in the comments disagrees with me and says that op does deserve a butthole score I wouldn't really disagree with you on that one and I guess I'll give Janie like 0.5 out of five buttholes because yeah she did endanger the family pet but like 15 is like right at that age where you can really start taking on more responsibilities but you can't fully expect them to be totally competent in those responsibilities so I feel like she's kind of in that gray area where she gets a pass because of her age am I the butthole for reporting a co-worker to HR and getting her transferred to another team I'm a 26 year old woman who's Muslim and Moroccan but I'm not obviously Muslim I guess I don't wear a hijab first of all my first name is a name that's common in Western countries too think like Sarah Lena Nadia Miriam Etc my last name I came to learn is actually a Jewish name I have a Jewish ancestor but it's a very common name in my country tree so just by my name alone you wouldn't think that I'm Moroccan then since I'm imazia a Moroccan native I'm very light-skinned with light hair and eyes I am not what you would think of when you hear the word African I came to the U.S when I was 14 so I don't have an accent during the pandemic I was hired by a company to work remotely a hundred percent of the time it was only recently that I started going to the office I have a co-worker Lisa Lisa and I have been sort of friends we both belong to the same team and even while working remotely we used to have friendly chat sometimes when we started working on site she was so happy to have a friend to chat with the first day back she wanted to share her lunch with me I declined because she wasn't able to tell me for sure if the pain that she cooked the chicken in was used to cook pork before so she said so you follow kosher to the letter huh and I replied actually it's Halal for me she was obviously confused the then she grasped the situation and she became cold on the spot I'm sad to say this but I'm used to that reaction in my mind all I heard was another one bites the dust and I moved on with my life but since then Lisa started acting very hostile towards me for example if she sees that I'm in hearing distance she would make blatantly islamophobic comments she follows me around the office and when other co-workers asked me out for a coffee with them she would loudly say that she won't be coming with us because she's going it's making me and everyone else very uncomfortable the last straw was Thursday I was going for a coffee run we take turns and I didn't want to take my bag with me it was a big tote bag well Lisa threw a fit and said that either I take my bag or she will call for security and ask them to go through it when I asked her what she meant by that she told me God knows what I have in my bag and your p people aren't exactly known for harmless bags everyone was shocked they said that she went too far I just went directly to HR and reported her a couple of co-workers did too HR called her in on Friday then they called me in too and I said that I could no longer work in the same space as her today I received an email that she will be transferred to another department and I felt relieved but my mom said that I know better than to do that that I should have dealt with it without impacting her livelihood so am I the butthole Lisa certainly didn't have an issue trying to affect your livelihood op you know the whole creating a toxic work environment and trying to turn your co-workers against you thing and like not only just the Baseline level of hey let's not be like really nasty to people that you work with there's also like the element of the company doesn't want this to happen either because if it keeps going on you can and should sue the company for allowing it to happen which is a huge lawsuit and they don't want that so it's really just better for everyone involved at least it's just gone from the team if you ask me gone from the company as well but clearly they didn't go that far I wouldn't worry about it op Lisa is a terrible person if she doesn't want to get transferred maybe she should stop being racist or is it racist religionist I give you 0 out of five buttholes I give Lisa 3 out of five buttholes am I the butthole for being honest about honeymoon passionate hugging my fiance and I are taking an eight day honeymoon in Brazil which is where he's originally from this trip has been in the works for a long time and a few weeks ago I learned that his parents were hoping to stop by and visit us during our honeymoon and even asked to stay with us for two of the nights I said absolutely not and my husband agreed he told them no because we won our privacy his parents who I've grown very close to sent me a separate text asking in a lighthearted way if it was really a big problem and I agreed with him and I said yeah I did agree his his mom asked me why and I was honest I said that I want to be able to be open and free with him without having to think about house guests she said so this is about passionate hugging I thought she was still being light-hearted I replied if I'm being honest I'm going to f his brains out in every room of that house no response so this has become a whole thing my mother-in-law thinks that I'm disrespectful and my father-in-law thinks that I'm a succubus my husband thinks that I went way too far am I the butthole do I owe them an apology okay so down in the comments most people have your back and like yeah I'll agree certainly that your in-laws have absolutely no business coming to your honeymoon however if I'm being honest the way that you reply to your mother-in-law is pretty vulgar I mean maybe that level of vulgarity is required because they seem to think that this invasion of privacy is okay so they need kind of like a wake-up call but I'm kind of getting the sense from this that like you could have handled it in a different better way so I'm giving your in-laws 1.5 out of 5 buttholes and I'm giving you 0.5 out of 5 buttholes am I the butthole for telling my mom that I won't put my future on pause just because she decided to start over I'm an 18 year old woman and I'm my 41 year old mom's first and oldest child she and my dad weren't together and I lived with my dad from a very young age because she was busy with her career so while she was around for my younger years she wasn't as present as she told me she would have liked to be she has a husband who's 38. he's a nice guy and he treats her like a queen so I'm happy that she's met him he and my mom wanted a kid of their own so they ended up having my little brother earlier this year I love my brother and I like spending time with him but I'm very aware that our age Gap is going to make a normal sibling relationship a bit unachievable I'm a dual enrolled College High School student so I got my associates the same time that I got my high school diploma the college I transferred to has a study abroad program that I got a full ride scholarship for I'm set to go next year and I'm seriously so excited my dad was really happy for me when I told him and so was my stepdad but my mom didn't seem all that excited about it she told me later that she doesn't think that me going to school in another country is a good idea I thought at first that maybe it was just her worrying about me being alone or something so I tried to reassure her by telling her that my friend was in the same program so we'd be together she clarified that her biggest concern was how much time I'd be spending away from home seeing as how it wouldn't be practical for me to fly back for all the holidays when I would have visited if I were in the same country she said that me going away during my little brother's earliest years was going to make it difficult for the two of us to really get to know each other I told her that it's not like I'd never come back or anything and by the time I'm home again he probably won't even be in school yet so I'd still be around for his early years she insisted that it wouldn't be the same and that I should want to stay here anyways because a good sister wouldn't want to leave her little brother I got I got upset at that and I told her that I never asked to be a sister especially not this far into my life and that it's not fair of her to want me to put my future on pause all because she decided she needed to start over again with motherhood that really upset her and I didn't feel like arguing anymore so I just went over to my dad's house and I've been here ever since I did tell him what happened and he said that I should choose what I feel is best for myself and that no choice that I make about this would make me a bad older sister or even a bad daughter that did make me feel a little better about it but I still feel kind of awful I love my mom I love my brother too but I don't want to throw away this opportunity still though am I the butthole for what I said to her alright yeah I went down to the comments if other people were getting the same sort of Vibes I was getting and it looks like it so I'm going to read this post from California Jade because I think I think he's onto something here maybe I'm being cynical but it sounds to me like she's been counting on you to be her built-in babysitter this is an amazing opportunity for you you've worked hard for it a full scholarship is no joke let your mom think what she wants you're seeing the bigger picture Choose Yourself here not the butthole and yeah I agree with this person Opie I kinda also get the feeling that like the reasons why she's given you that she doesn't want you to leave isn't entirely accurate I think it probably is babysitting she just wants you to watch the kids so she can go you know do whatever and also it's super hypocritical for her to be all how could you possibly leave family because family is so important when she was basically a no-show for your childhood Opie I'm giving you 0 out of five buttholes I'm giving your mom 2.5 out of 5 buttholes trying to sabotage your daughter's scholarship just because you want someone to babysit your kid is pretty awful am I the butthole for making my husband fly coach while I flew first class my husband's company recently chose him to attend a conference in my Miami they chose just him and a few of his co-workers out of a ton of candidates so it was quite the honor the company told them that they were allowed to bring their Partners but they wouldn't be buying plane tickets for us so if they wanted to bring us they would have to buy tickets out of their own Pockets my husband asked me if I wanted to go and I emphatically told him that I did I'd never been to Florida in my life and I thought it'd be a fun trip he told me great but when we went to the website to buy tickets he asked if I'd be okay with flying coach even though he'd be flying first class on the way there and coach on the way home I asked him why we couldn't just fly together and he replied first class is just so expensive I feel bad but we just can't afford it especially if we want to go out and have fun in Miami the flight is only a few hours this really really bothered me I understand that a first class ticket for me would strain our budget but what kind of man lives It Up In First Class while his wife wife sits and Coach I asked him just that and he responded come on I'm taking you along on my work trip I earned my first class seat by working hard it's my reward but I insisted that if we truly couldn't afford a first class seat for me even though we could have that he as a gentleman should have given up his seat for me we argued but he ultimately agreed to give me his seat we had a good time in Miami but he's been a little mad at me since saying that he earned his first class seat that it was free and cost us nothing unlike my plane ticket and that I should have just let him enjoy what he'd earned instead of guilting him out of it I think that he's being a baby and that he should have put his wife's Comfort above his own especially since he's the one who made the choice to be cheap we're very close to his parents so we've taken this argument to them for mediation but they're split his father agrees with me that he wasn't being a gentleman while his mother thinks that he earned his first class seed and that I should have let him have it so I'll ask all of you am I the butthole yes op yes you are this is like the thing you don't seem to understand your husband was being a gentleman by offering to bring you on the trip and for buying you a plane seat but apparently that wasn't good enough for UOP he will also deserve the five-star luxury treatment even though you did absolutely nothing to earn it your husband earned that seat he literally he won it it's his this is like like an NFL player winning a Super Bowl ring and then his wife being like Oh if you were a gentleman you would let me wear the Super Bowl ring huh what but you didn't earn it he did op to be honest you sound like a high maintenance nightmare if flying first class is so important to you then why don't you buy the tickets op I'm giving your husband 0 out of five buttholes I'm giving you two out of five buttholes also I'd like to point out that just five days after posting this op deleted her account so despite being so enthusiastic about going to Miami op clearly can't handle the heat today's video is sponsored by expressvpn I use expressvpn pretty much every day because it has so many great uses the big one for me is privacy content creators have to be pretty serious about protecting their privacy and I've also got a 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Length: 18min 32sec (1112 seconds)

Published: Sat Oct 15 2022