r/AmITheA**hole for Ruining a Karen's Wedding?

Welcome to our slash am I the butthole where op gives the best man speech at a wedding and says that he can't wait for the divorce am I the butthole for telling the truth in a wedding toast I'm a 30 year old guy and my best friend got married last week I just bought a house and my wife is expecting our son in November so I let my friend know that I was pretty Limited in would I be able to contribute financially but I did say that I would try my best so I went to the bachelor party in Maine I rented the tux and I paid for mine and my wife's dinner at the rehearsal dinner I also had a gift of 300 that I was going to give them but we'll get to why I didn't later his now wife then fiancee texted me multiple times a day with updates fine I didn't always respond and it got to the point where if I didn't respond at least once a day I'd get a call from my buddy I have a full-time job and I'm redoing some of the rooms in my house so I'm busy she texted me for the following reasons one my wife was not allowed to talk about our pregnancy at all my friend's fiance didn't want anyone to focus on that more than her the bride 2. she was not going to order special food for my wife to be clear no one asked her to my wife was fine eating whatever three I wasn't helping the groom enough he had to help her with favors seating charts and programs so I had to help him with those things according to her she also said to get ready to help with thank you notes after the wedding four she said that if I was a true best man then I would offer to pay for the bar bill I don't even know what she means by that she wanted to read and approve my best man speech before the rehearsal dinner and she wanted me to mention her just as much as I mentioned my buddy she even told me to make up stories about her if I had to I wasn't allowed to mention anyone except for the two of them and I was allowed no inside jokes or stories about my buddy that didn't include her 6. in her most recent text she told me to tell my wife to keep it together and not make up pregnancy scene during the wedding also she wanted my wife to choose a dress that downplayed her pregnancy as much as possible I was just so aggravated that I spoke to my friend to see if he could reason with her he told me to just play ball on this one after all it's her day also he asked me to just cut him a break because he'd be dealing with her nonsense for the rest of his life I was annoyed but I calmed down the day of the wedding all the bride and my buddy do is scold me Beret me and bark orders at me I head down to the bar to have a drink the bride's mother is there and she warns me not to get drunk because I've already ruined her daughter's day enough that was the final straw I did not give them the card with the 300 cash in my best man speech I use my friend's exact wording about having to deal with her nonsense for the rest of his life I wish him the best and told him that I'd always be there for him especially during the divorce am I the butthole down in the comments I'm going to read this post from curiosukihimi because I think they really nailed it everyone sucks here here's why first the groom knew that he was marrying a piece of work and instead of protecting his friends he co-signed aided and abetted his wife's atrocious Behavior second his wife sucks for trying to regulate your wife's body for allowing her insecurities to Cloud her judgment and for being the very definition of a bridezilla third you for not taking the high road and waiting until the very last minute to defend your wife's honor look dude you were totally justified but you also had ample opportunity to jump off this crazy train before it got this far being a good friend means having the comfortability and latitude to say no when your friends are going off the rails you waited until the last minute and you let your emotions get the better of you your wife deserved better from these people and from you in this moment P.S get new friends because these people suck hardcore yeah I'd agree with this assessment the wife is a complete and total bridezilla I'm giving her three out of five buttholes your friends and enabler I'm giving him two out of five buttholes you op we're being petty and trashy you get three out of five buttholes am I the butthole for telling my wife that the lock on my daughter's door won't get removed until my brother-in-law and his daughters are out of our house my brother-in-law Sammy lost his home shortly after he got divorced 10 months ago he moved in with us and brought his twin daughters Olivia and Sloan who are 18. his sister is my wife and my wife and I have one daughter Zoe who's 16. Zoe and her cousins aren't closed but they get along fine Olivia and Sloane have no respect for Zoe's privacy none they'll just walk into Zoe's room and take everything they can get their hands on makeup phone accessories clothes school laptop Etc Zoe's complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoe's privacy and stop taking things my wife wife and Sami saw no issue with this after all they're just girls and this is typical teenage girl Behavior but I completely disagree the last straw was when Zoe bought a 60 makeup kit that looks like a paint set and she saved up for over a month to buy it Sloan took the makeup kit without permission and ruined it by mixing Shades together while using it I don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoe said when she found the kid on her bed and was crying I told my wife and she said that she'd ask Sloane to apologize later I got Zoe a lock after I found out that she was moving her valuables out of the house because of this incident Sammy and his daughter saw the lock and they were not happy his girls were extremely upset Sammy asked me about it and I straight up told him the reason he said my daughters aren't thieves it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each other's stuff he said that Zoe could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from Walmart and it shouldn't even be expensive all right I just gotta stop this story here and just say in that case dude couldn't you just easily get an apartment somewhere it's not that expensive anyways back to the story Sammy said that Zoe shouldn't even be buying expensive adult makeup in the first place and he suggested that my wife take care of this defect and Zoe's personality trying to appear older than she is he accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoe with this level of enablement I told Sammy that this was between me and my wife but then my wife shamed me for putting a lock on Zoe's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from spending time with her saying that I was supposed to treat them like daughters then my wife demanded that I remove the lock but I said the lock doesn't get removed until her brother and his daughters are out of our house she got mad that I was implying that we kicked them out and she said that her family would hate me for this so I reminded my wife that I let Sami and his family move in with us which is something that her own family refused to do so she should really start blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces and granddaughters in if it wasn't for her own family's unwillingness to help then we wouldn't be dealing with so much trouble at home everyone's been giving me and Zoe silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this okay op this story actually made me angry reading this because these people are so delusional if your wife thinks it's totally fine for these girls to steal other people's makeup then she can give her nieces her makeup right why is it okay for them to steal the daughter's makeup but not the wife's makeup also op your brother-in-law and his daughters are extremely entitled there's abs absolutely nothing wrong about having a lock on a bedroom door in fact in a lot of houses a lock on a bedroom door is just a fault and of course they're going to get upset about it because thieves don't like locks because they're thieves and on top of that literally every single sentence out of Sammy's mouth is just complete and utter BS that's just something that teenage girls do they borrow each other's stuff okay but if you take something without permission and then it's either destroyed or you don't give it back that's not borrowing that stealing also why is it the case that when a 16 year old girl buys adult makeup suddenly that's a defect in her personality but it's okay for 18 year old girls to use that makeup instead like it's just a two-year difference so if an 18 year old can use that makeup then so can a 16 year old and fundamentally when you get right down to it Sammy and his daughters just aren't respecting your household they're not being good guests they're not being good family members and deep down they're just not being good people also op your wife is clearly picking her brother's family over her own family your wife should always put her daughter and you first in all situations because that's what a family is op you get a rock solid 0 out of five buttholes you did nothing wrong here the only thing I'm seeing from you is a caring and protective father who's looking out for his little girl your nieces Sloan and Olivia get two out of five buttholes because honestly they're just bullying your daughter your brother-in-law and your wife both get four out of five buttholes because they're being extremely entitled and disrespectful I just hate the hypocrisy from this guy Sammy's coming into your house and telling your daughter how she can and she can't spend her own money when the entire reason why he moved his family into your house is so that he can save money on an apartment Sammy is an entitled hypocritical douchebag op I hope you show this r slash in my the butthole thread to your wife because she seriously needs a wake-up call am I the butthole for announcing that my dad isn't paying for my college tuition my aunt and uncle are paying for my cousin's College my dad had a college fund for me but he had a bunch of stipulations like he wanted nothing below a B for grades and he wanted to pre-approve any classes I take he also wanted to have weekly meetings to discuss grades and other stuff this would all be fine if you had a normal dad but my dad is not normal my dad has a temper and I spent from 6th grade to 12th grade stressed out about my grades and being screamed at are grounded over things that sometimes weren't even my fault like a teacher not updating online grades and my assignment being marked missing because of it also my dad would randomly search my backpack and Locker to make sure that you're not hiding anything so I decided to pay for college myself because number one I'm tired of being stressed and screamed at and number two I didn't want to constantly worry that he would disapprove of a class or a grade and then decide not to pay that's something that I could totally see him doing I would rather be in debt than be controlled for four more years I just finished my first year of college and paid for everything myself my family got together on the 4th of July and well sometimes they're nosy they were talking about my cousin's school and my uncle looked at my dad and said hey how much is op's college costing you I said what are you asking him for I'm the one paying for it later on my dad was pissed off and said that I was out of line to say that and that I embarrassed him I didn't do it to embarrass him I was just being honest he doesn't even know how much my tuition is so he's the wrong person to ask am I the butthole op what's going on here is that your father doesn't actually want to pay for college what he really wants is the credit for paying for your college he's totally fine letting his kid go into debt as long as his beloved brother thinks that he's such a generous person to pay for his kids college if you hurt his feelings so bad then maybe you should try communicating with him the way he prefers to communicate by yelling and screaming your dad made you feel like garbage for six years and you made him feel like garbage for six seconds and suddenly you're the butthole no op you get 0 out of five buttholes your dad gets 3.5 out of 5 buttholes am I the butthole for telling my mother that we won't be going to her wedding since she bleached my daughter's hair my mom is getting married at the end of July my daughter who's 11 was going to be her flower girl over the Fourth of July holiday my husband and I were both on call so my daughter stayed with my brother and his wife who went over to my mom and her fiance's house while they were there my mom bleached my daughter's hair without even asking me we dye my daughter's hair semi-regularly with arctic fox which is safe for kids about a week ago we dyed my daughter's hair very pretty blue my mom hates unnatural hair colors and she's been hounding me to fix it for the wedding my daughter was fine with being a brunette for a little while when I asked her I was going to let her blue Fade Out naturally then put a dark brown over it before the wedding I guess that wasn't soon enough for my mother obviously I would never bleach a child's hair but my mother in all of her wisdom decided that it was the perfect time to fix her hair for me this woman used to be a stylist over a decade ago so she should know better I was Furious her hair is so dry and damaged and the blue isn't even out it's like this splotchy faded greenish bluish thing with spots of blonde I don't want to put any product on it now because I don't want to risk even more damage the only thing that she didn't touch is the roots I made an appointment at a salon to go and try and fix her hair I told my mom that we won't be going to her wedding which is causing a commotion I've been getting a lot of your mom's a control freak it's just how she is it's not a big deal it's just hair from almost everyone I can't believe that my sister-in-law who's usually the best babysitter would let this happen my brother says just fix it like it's so easy my daughter hates her hair she expected a pretty bleach blonde like Billy eilish which is what her grandma promised her not this faded mess people are acting like I'm overreacting and that my mama's best intentions trumps my own parental rights I know that people already judge me for letting my kid have colored hair and they don't see how bleach is different okay so clearly this isn't about hair it's not about having blue hair or blonde hair this is about your mother doing something to your own child's body without your consent I think you're totally justified op you get 0 out of five buttholes your mom gets three out of five buttholes Opie I know that you said you didn't want to do anything to your daughter's hair because it was so damaged but I think the funny thing to do would be to re-dye her hair blue then tell your mother oh don't worry I fixed it we can come to the wedding now that was our slash in my the butthole and if you like this content check out my patreon where I publish extra episodes also hit that subscribe button because I put out new Reddit videos every single day

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Length: 15min 1sec (901 seconds)

Published: Tue Jul 13 2021