ANNOUNCER: THE FOLLOWING
PROGRAM IS PAID FOR BY THE FRIENDS AND PARTNERS OF
JOYCE MEYER MINISTRIES. GINGER: WHAT'S YOUR NAME
AND YOUR QUESTION? MONICA: MY NAME IS MONICA. MY QUESTION IS, IF YOU FEEL THAT
YOU'VE BEEN CALLED TO SPEAK IN PUBLIC, HOW DO YOU GET OVER
THE FEAR OF IT AND MOVE FORWARD WITH THAT? [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] GINGER: I THINK BETH WOULD
LIKE TO SAY SOMETHING. JOYCE: GO AHEAD,
'CAUSE I NEVER HAD ANY. GINGER: AS WE WALK THROUGH
EACH NEW DAY, WE ALL HAVE QUESTIONS. THEY'RE JUST PART OF LIFE. BUT DID YOU KNOW THERE ARE
ANSWERS FOR YOU? GOD SAYS WHEN WE LOOK,
WE'LL FIND HIM. HE'S NOT TRYING TO HIDE
ANYTHING. SO, TOGETHER, WE ARE DISCOVERING
LIFE'S EVERYDAY ANSWERS. GINGER: HI, YOU ARE GOING TO
LOVE WHAT WE ARE DOING TODAY ON "EVERYDAY ANSWERS." WE ARE TACKLING A VARIETY OF
QUESTIONS IN A SPECIAL WAY. AT OUR 2016 LOVE LIFE
WOMEN'S CONFERENCE, BETH MOORE AND CHRIS CAINE
JOINED JOYCE ON STAGE TO ANSWER QUESTIONS FROM
THE AUDIENCE. NOW, THESE LADIES ADDRESSED
QUESTIONS ABOUT SO MANY THINGS: FEAR, DEALING WITH DEATH,
RELATIONSHIPS, AND A LOT OF OTHER TOPICS, ALL CENTERED
AROUND HEALING A WOMAN'S SOUL. AS YOU CAN IMAGINE, THIS WAS
A GREAT CROWD OF WOMEN WITH SO MANY GOOD QUESTIONS, AND AS YOU
ARE WATCHING NOW, I CAN ABOUT GUARANTEE THAT MANY OF THESE
QUESTIONS WILL TOUCH YOU OR RELATE TO SOMEONE YOU KNOW. SO, LET'S CHECK IT OUT. FEMALE: MY QUESTIONS IS, AS I
READ BOOKS BY YOU, JOYCE, AND YOU OTHER LADIES, I REALIZE
THAT I GOT A LOT OF WORK. [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] FEMALE: AS A LEADER, HOW MUCH
SHOULD I--SHOULD MY SOUL MATURE BEFORE I ANSWER THE CALL? JOYCE: WELL, HA HA HA,
LORD HAVE MERCY. [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] JOYCE: WHEN I STARTED
TEACHING, I WAS BLOWING SMOKE IN EVERYBODY'S FACE AND SITTING
IN SHORT SHORTS. [AUDIENCE CHEERING] JOYCE: I MEAN, HONESTLY,
I WAS SITTING--I WOULD SIT IN MY LIVING ROOM WITH SHORTS
AND SHORT AS I COULD GET 'EM AND JUST PUFFIN' AWAY WHILE I
WAS TEACHING THE BIBLE. [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] JOYCE: AND ALL I CAN SAY,
HONEY, IS GOD NOT ONLY KNOWS WHERE YOU'RE AT, HE KNOWS
WHERE YOU WILL BE. [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING] JOYCE: AND I'M NOT SUGGESTING
THAT ANYBODY BE A BAD EXAMPLE. I DON'T THINK THAT, YOU KNOW,
WE NEED A LOT OF WOUNDED HEALERS OUT THERE RUNNING AROUND, BUT
GOD CERTAINLY DIDN'T LOOSE ME ON THE WORLD. HE LET ME TEACH 20 PEOPLE FOR
5 YEARS AND I GOT TO PRACTICE ON THEM. SO, I WOULD SAY, ASK GOD TO OPEN
A DOOR THAT YOU WOULD BE MATURE ENOUGH TO WALK THROUGH NOW, AND
START GETTING SOME EXPERIENCE. AND THEN EACH THING THAT GOD
DEALS WITH YOU ABOUT, WHICH THERE'LL BE MANY--HE STILL DEALS
WITH ALL OF US EVERY DAY. EACH THING THAT GOD DEALS WITH
YOU ABOUT, YOU WALK THROUGH THAT WITH HIM, YOU WORK THROUGH THAT
WITH HIM, AND THEN YOU LET HIM PROMOTE YOU TO THE NEXT LEVEL
WHEN HE KNOWS THE TIME IS RIGHT. I'LL TELL YOU HOW I PRAY. I DON'T PRAY LIKE I USED TO. I USED TO PRAY,
"GOD, GIVE ME THIS. GIVE ME THAT.
GIVE ME THIS. GIVE ME THAT.
MAKE MY MINISTRY GROW. GOD, MAKE MY MINISTRY GROW." NOW I PRAY, "GOD, PLEASE DON'T
EVER GIVE ME ANYTHING THAT I CANNOT HANDLE AND KEEP YOU
FIRST IN MY LIFE." SO, IF YOU PRAY THAT, YOU WON'T
GET IN TROUBLE. GINGER: WHAT'S YOUR NAME
AND YOUR QUESTION? JESSICA: HI, I'M JESSICA. MY QUESTION IS, HOW DO I HELP MY
MOM UNDERSTAND THAT GOD LOVES HER AND SHE'S NOT AN ORPHAN
ANYMORE? GINGER: GREAT QUESTION. CHRIS: THAT'S A FANTASTIC
QUESTION. I THINK, YOU KNOW, I WAS LEFT
IN A HOSPITAL, UNNAMED AND UNWANTED, AND IT COMES DOWN
TO TWO CHOICES. I DIDN'T ACTUALLY REALIZE AT
FIRST WHAT A BIG DEAL THAT IS FOR PEOPLE THAT HAVE BEEN
LEFT WITHOUT. SO, NUMBER ONE, YOU KNOW, YOUR
MOM IS PROBABLY DOING THE BEST THAT SHE CAN AT THIS POINT,
YOU KNOW? SHE REALLY IS, AND THERE ARE
SUCH DEEP WOUNDS THAT COME WITH BEING ABANDONED. SHE OBVIOUSLY LOVES YOU, AND
LOOK, SHE DID SOMETHING GREAT. LOOK HOW BEAUTIFUL YOU ARE.
HOW OLD ARE YOU? JESSICA: SIXTEEN. CHRIS: SIXTEEN, HONEY,
YOU ARE AWESOME. LET ME TELL YOU, YOU CAN'T--I
WANT YOU TO HEAR ME. YOU--DO YOU GO TO A CHURCH? DOES YOUR MUM? JESSICA: YES, MY MOM'S
ACTUALLY HERE. CHRIS: HI MUM! ALL RIGHT, SO NUMBER ONE, I'M
GONNA SAY, YOU'RE A HERO, AND NOW I'M NOT GONNA TALK TO YOU,
I'M GONNA TALK TO YOUR MUM. SO, WHEREVER YOU ARE, MUM,
THE GREATEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR DAUGHTERS--I'VE GOT
A 14-YEAR-OLD, I'VE GOT A 10-YEAR-OLD. THE GREATEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE
IS FOR YOU TO WRESTLE WITH THIS, GET WHATEVER COUNSELING YOU
NEED, READ WHATEVER YOU NEED TO READ, TO GET TO A PLACE WHERE
YOU CAN TRULY ACCEPT AND KNOW THE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE OF GOD. A WHOLE YOU IS THE BEST GIFT YOU
CAN GIVE THIS PRECIOUS, PRECIOUS DAUGHTER RIGHT IN THIS
PLACE NOW. AND SOMETIMES, AS MOTHERS,
WE HAVE TO DEAL WITH OUR STUFF AND NOT PUT IT ON OUR KIDS, BUT
DEAL WITH IT SO THAT THEY CAN FLOURISH IN LIFE. AND YOU KNOW, I THINK THE FACT
THAT YOUR DAUGHTER IS COURAGEOUS ENOUGH TO LOVE YOU ENOUGH TO
SAY, "HEY, I WANNA STAND BECAUSE I WANT MY MUM TO KNOW WHAT
I KNOW." I PRAY THAT THAT'S ENOUGH TO
TRIGGER SOMETHING TODAY TO START YOU ON THAT JOURNEY. [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING] MONICA: MY NAME IS MONICA. MY QUESTION IS, IF YOU FEEL THAT
YOU'VE BEEN CALLED TO SPEAK IN PUBLIC, HOW DO YOU GET OVER
THE FEAR OF IT AND MOVE FORWARD WITH THAT? GINGER: I THINK BETH WOULD
LIKE TO SAY SOMETHING. JOYCE: GO AHEAD, 'CAUSE
I NEVER HAD ANY. [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] BETH: SHE'S TELLING YOU
THE TRUTH, ISN'T SHE? SHE WENT--AND SO THAT'S WHY I
THOUGHT, YOU KNOW, OF THE THREE OF US, I BETTER GO WITH THIS
ONE, BECAUSE I'M THE ONE. IT HAS, I MEAN, HARASSED ME AND
HARASSED ME, BECAUSE I REALLY WASN'T GIVEN TO THE ENVIRONMENT. AS A KID, I SORT OF HID BEHIND
MY MOTHER'S SKIRT. AND I HAD A GREGARIOUS
PERSONALITY AS I GOT OLDER AND WAS, YOU KNOW, IN VARIOUS GROUPS
WHERE I WOULD BE IN LEADERSHIP. BUT THIS KIND OF THING, AND EVEN
SEVERAL HUNDRED PEOPLE, OH, IT DOES--I WOULD DEAL--EXCEPT
THROUGH THE HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD AND TAKING HIM AT HIS WORD, I
CANNOT TELL YOU THE ANXIETY AND FEAR I WOULD DEAL WITH. I'VE STOOD BEHIND MANY A CURTAIN
IN AN ARENA AND THOUGHT, "IF I BEND OVER, I'LL THROW UP." IT'S JUST, THIS IS VERY
INTIMIDATING TO ME, VERY. SO, I'VE HAD A VERY DIFFICULT
TIME WITH IT, AND I HAD TO JUST BELIEVE GOD WITH EVERYTHING
I HAD. BUT WHAT I WILL SAY TO YOU,
AS YOU FOLLOW CHRIST JESUS IN YOUR CALLING AND YOU ASK HIM,
"LORD, YOU BURN--YOU BURN IT LIKE A FIRE IN MY CHEST. YOU BURN IT LIKE A FIRE IN MY
CHEST," WHAT HAPPENED FOR ME IS THAT MY PASSION TO OBEY GOD
AND TO DO WHAT HE'S CALLED ME TO DO EXCEEDS MY FEAR. THAT IS THE ONLY--IT'S NOT THAT
I DON'T HAVE ANY FEAR. I DEAL WITH A LOT OF FEAR. YOU CAN ASK CHRIS. I CALLED HER HERE RECENTLY AND
SAID, "MAN, SOME OF--I'VE HAD A LOT OF VICTORY OVER IT, AND SOME
OF IT'S CREEPING BACK UP ON ME." AND SO SHE SAID, "OKAY, LET'S
GET THIS GROUND BACK," AND WE REALLY PRAYED IT THROUGH. SO, THESE HAVE BEEN BUDDIES TO
ME IN THIS, BUT THIS HAS BEEN AN ONGOING STRUGGLE FOR ME. BUT I CAN TELL YOU WHAT I FEEL
LIKE, AND OF COURSE HE DOESN'T SAY THIS OUT LOUD TO ME, BUT
THIS STIRS IN MY HEART OVER AND OVER, THAT I'LL HAVE PREPARED
A LESSON AND THEN I'M THINKING, "OH MY WORD. OH, ALL THOSE PEOPLE." AND I START GETTING THAT
FEELING, AND I FEEL LIKE THE QUESTION THAT GOD PUTS ON
MY HEART OVER AND OVER AGAIN IS, "BETH, DO YOU WANNA TEACH
THIS WORD?" YES SIR. "DO YOU WANNA TEACH IT WORSE
THAN YOU WANNA RUN?" YES SIR. "THEN GO OUT AND TEACH
THE LESSON." AND SO, WHEN I AM DONE, I KINDA
LIKE HIGH-FIVE GOD. IT'S LIKE, RIGHT HERE,
RIGHT HERE. BECAUSE IT DOES NOT COME
NATURALLY TO ME TO BE IN FRONT OF THIS MANY PEOPLE. JOYCE: THAT'S GOOD, GOOD. [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING] FEMALE: MY QUESTION IS FOR
JOYCE MEYER. I TOO WAS ABUSED, SEXUALLY
ABUSED BY MY FATHER FOR 4 YEARS, DAILY AND CONSTANTLY. AND MY QUESTION TO YOU, I KNOW
YOU TOOK CARE OF YOUR FATHER IN HIS LAST YEARS OF HIS LIFE
AND YOU FORGAVE HIM. HOW DID YOU FORGIVE HIM BUT THEN
NOT ALLOW THE ABUSE TO CONTINUE OR ALLOW HIM TO CONTINUE
HURTING YOU? HOW DID YOU SEPARATE THOSE
TWO THINGS AND COME TO TERMS TO FORGIVE HIM? JOYCE: WELL, FIRST OF ALL,
WHEN I WENT BACK TO TAKE CARE OF MY FATHER, HE WAS TOO OLD TO DO
ANYTHING TO HURT ANYBODY AT THAT POINT. BUT YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T WANT TO,
NOR SHOULD YOU, PUT YOURSELF BACK IN A POSITION OF EVER BEING
ABUSED AGAIN. IF YOU THINK THAT THERE'S A
POSSIBILITY THAT HE WOULD STILL ABUSE YOU, THEN IT'S NOT WISE
AND IT'S NOT GOOD FOR YOU, NOR WOULD IT BE GOOD FOR HIM,
FOR YOU TO PUT YOURSELF IN THAT SITUATION. GOD DOESN'T ASK EVERYBODY TO DO
THE SAME THING. THAT WAS WHAT HE ASKED ME TO DO,
BUT HERE AGAIN, DON'T EVER DO IT JUST BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT I DID. YOU ONLY DO THAT IF THAT'S WHAT
YOU FEEL THAT GOD IS LEADING YOU TO DO, 'CAUSE WE DON'T WANT YOU
TO BE IN ANY KIND OF A SITUATION OF DANGER. IS YOUR FATHER OLDER? FEMALE: YES, HE'S OLDER. HE'S INCARCERATED AND I'VE BEEN
IN COMMUNICATION WITH HIM TRYING TO HELP HIM WITH HIS
FINANCIAL MATTERS. HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH ME, BUT
DURING THE PAST TWO YEARS OF ME HELPING HIM WITH HIS MONEY, AND
DOING ALL OF HIS TRANSACTIONS, AND THINGS LIKE THAT, HE STILL
SAYS THINGS TO ME ON THE PHONE. HE STILL SAYS THINGS, AND SO I'M
IN THIS PLACE WHERE I'M--OKAY, I WANNA FORGIVE HIM AND I WANNA
DO WHAT'S RIGHT, BUT AT THE SAME TIME, NOW IN MY LIFE I CAN'T
ALLOW IT TO GO ON. JOYCE: NO, I TOTALLY AGREE. FEMALE: I CAN'T, AND I'M JUST
SO THANKFUL--SO THANKFUL FOR LISTENING TO YOU, THANKFUL FOR
BEING HERE. JOYCE: NO, I TOTALLY AGREE,
YOU DON'T HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF IN A POSITION OF BEING ABUSED,
AND SO YOU STAND STRONG, HONEY, AMEN? GINGER: WE HAVE A LOT MORE
FROM ALL THE LADIES COMING UP. AND I KNOW THAT I JUST LOVED AND
APPRECIATED HOW OPEN AND TENDER EVERYONE WAS IN THAT SESSION,
AND THE ENTIRE WOMEN'S CONFERENCE
IS REALLY LIKE THAT. THERE'S JUST SO MUCH ENERGY
AND ELECTRICITY IN THE AIR. EVERY YEAR, THOUSANDS OF WOMEN
COME AND THEY JOIN US AT THE CONFERENCE, AND THEY DISCOVER
A DEEPER RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, A SENSE OF UNITY AMONG NEW
FRIENDS, AND FREEDOM FROM SOME REALLY DIFFICULT SITUATIONS THAT
THEY MAY BE BRINGING IN. WHEN WE LEAVE, WE ARE ALL
DIFFERENT WOMEN AND WE HAVE A WHOLE LOT OF FUN. SO, PLEASE CONSIDER JOINING US
THIS YEAR. THIS IS A BIG ONE. THIS IS OUR 35TH
ANNUAL WOMEN'S CONFERENCE, AND WE HAVE GREAT GUESTS. OF COURSE, JOYCE WILL BE THERE. WE HAVE JOEL OSTEEN COMING,
ALONG WITH JOHN GRAY AND RUTH GRAHAM. AMAZING MUSIC. WE'VE GOT CHRIS TOMLIN,
MICHAEL W. SMITH, CECE WINANS. SO, JOIN US. YOU CAN GO ONLINE AND REGISTER
RIGHT NOW. WHY WAIT? MAKE THE DECISION,
MAKE THE PLAN, AND JOIN US. GO TO JOYCEMEYER.ORG OR GIVE US
A CALL HERE, AND WE WOULD LOVE TO SEE YOU THERE. OKAY, LET'S GET BACK TO OUR
QUESTION AND ANSWER SESSION. WE RECEIVED SEVERAL QUESTIONS
ABOUT DEALING WITH THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE. IT WAS DIFFICULT TO LISTEN TO,
IT MADE ME CRY, BUT WE REALLY BELIEVE THAT THESE ANSWERS ARE
SOMETHING THAT WILL HELP YOU. TAKE A LISTEN. GINGER: ALL RIGHT, WE'VE GOT
ANOTHER QUESTION FOR YOU. HONEY, WHAT'S YOUR NAME? BAILEY: BAILEY. GINGER: HOW OLD ARE YOU,
BAILEY? BAILEY: TEN. GINGER: YOU ARE A BRAVE
10-YEAR-OLD. WE'RE GLAD YOU'RE HERE. WHAT'S YOUR QUESTION? BAILEY: HOW DO YOU GET OVER
LOSING A SPECIAL PERSON, LIKE A FAMILY MEMBER? BETH: BAILEY, I'M SO GLAD YOU
ASKED THAT QUESTION, AND I'M SO SORRY, 'CAUSE THERE'S SOME
REASON WHY YOU ASKED THAT QUESTION THAT IS VERY, VERY
TENDER IN MY HEART, AND I'M SO SORRY THAT YOU EVEN HAD TO
ASK IT. BUT I'M GONNA TELL YOU THAT GOD
IS SO FAITHFUL, AND WHAT I DO KNOW IS THAT OUR TEARS, AND OUR
GRIEF, OUR SORROW IS SAFE WITH HIM, THAT WE DO GET TO WORK
THROUGH, AND CRY, AND MOURN WHEN WE LOSE SOMEONE, BECAUSE HE
KNOWS HOW HARD IT IS. THERE'S THIS WONDERFUL SCENE IN
JOHN CHAPTER 11 WHEN HE'S WATCHING HIS GOOD FRIENDS, MARY
AND MARTHA, SO GRIEF-STRICKEN OVER THEIR BROTHER, LAZARUS. AND HE KNOWS HE'S GONNA RAISE
HIM FROM THE DEAD, BUT HE'S STILL JUST HEARTBROKEN WATCHING
THE WAGES OF DEATH, WATCHING THE PAIN THAT IT CAUSES. AND YOU KNOW WHAT ELSE? THE BIBLE SAYS IN 1 CORINTHIANS
THAT THE VERY LAST ENEMY THAT JESUS IS GOING TO FIGHT,
THE VERY LAST THING THAT HE WILL DEFEAT, IS DEATH. I MEAN, HE HATES DEATH MORE THAN
HE HATES THE DEVIL. DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M
SAYING TO YOU? DEATH. SO, HE GETS IT IN EVERY WAY. HE KNOWS THAT LOSS. THE FATHER GAVE HIS ONE
AND ONLY SON. SO, YOU TAKE TIME WITH IT. AND YOU KNOW WHAT ELSE? YOU TALK A LOT ABOUT IT TOO, AND
YOU ALSO FEEL LIKE YOU CAN FIND SOME PEOPLE THAT YOU CAN TALK TO
FACE-TO-FACE. TALK IT OUT. WHAT THE BIBLE TELLS US IN
1 THESSALONIANS CHAPTER 4 IS THAT WE'RE JUST NOT TO GRIEVE
AS A HOPELESS PERSON GRIEVES, THAT IF WE--IF THEY ARE IN
CHRIST, WE KNOW THAT WE'RE GONNA SEE 'EM AGAIN,
AND IT'LL JUST BE A VERY, VERY LITTLE WHILE IN THAT WHOLE
SCOPE OF ETERNITY. SO, TALK IT OUT AND GRIEVE. AND ALSO, DON'T FEEL GUILTY WHEN
YOU ALSO FEEL LIKE LAUGHING ABOUT SOMETHING. THAT'S A MERCY IN A GRIEF. [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING] FEMALE: MY QUESTION IS, I HAD
A FRIEND, A VERY GOOD FRIEND, WHO PASSED AWAY ABOUT--SHE
PASSED AWAY LAST WEEK SATURDAY MORNING. AND WE HAD UNRECONCILED
DIFFERENCES, AND RATHER THAN GO ON THE REST OF MY LIFE FEELING
BEAT UP OR ALLOWING THE SITUATION TO BEAT ME UP,
BECAUSE I SENT HER A REAL NICE TEXT MESSAGE
AND LET HER KNOW THAT I HAD BEEN PRAYING FOR HER AND I
PUT IN THERE A COLOSSIANS SCRIPTURE FROM THERE. I CAN'T REMEMBER IT RIGHT NOW,
BUT I WANNA KNOW HOW DO I GO ON WITH THE REST OF MY LIFE,
BECAUSE I LOVED HER SO MUCH, AND NOT LET IT BE A HINDER--YOU
KNOW, NOT LET IT HINDER ME THAT WE DIDN'T RESOLVE OUR ISSUES? JOYCE: WELL, HONEY, GOD KNOWS
YOUR HEART, AND TO BE HONEST, SHE ALSO NOW AT THIS POINT KNOWS
EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. SHE COULDN'T HAVE KNOWN THAT
HERE ON EARTH, BUT WHEN WE GET TO HEAVEN, WE KNOW EVEN
AS HE KNOWS. AND SO, NOT ONLY THAT, I'M SURE
SHE PROBABLY SEES YOU AND HEARS YOU RIGHT NOW. SHE KNOWS HOW YOU FEEL,
AND THAT'S THE WAY YOU GO ON. YOU KNOW, IT'S NOT--WHAT'S IN
OUR HEART, REALLY, IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. AND IT'S NOT THAT WHAT WE DO IS
NOT IMPORTANT OR DON'T DO. IT IS IMPORTANT, BUT YOU'RE IN A
SITUATION NOW THAT YOU CANNOT GO BACK AND UNDO, SO YOU HAVE--YOU
DON'T HAVE TO, YOU HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF TRUSTING GOD
THAT HE CAN MAKE THIS THING WORK OUT RIGHT. SHE KNOWS. YOU TRUST ME, SHE KNOWS
THAT YOU'RE SORRY AND SHE FORGIVES YOU. [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING] GINGER: THAT'S REALLY GOOD
STUFF, THANK YOU. WHAT IS YOUR NAME AND YOUR
QUESTION? GAIL: HI GINGER, I'M
GAIL FROM MINNESOTA, OW OW! [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] GAIL: MY QUESTION IS,
LAST WEEK I HAD A DEAR FRIEND WHO LOST HER
ENGLISH SPRINGER SPANIEL PET OF 14 YEARS,
AND SHE'S GRIEVING. DO OUR PETS GO TO HEAVEN? WILL WE SEE 'EM? JOYCE: WELL, BETH AND I ARE
BOTH DOG LOVERS, AND CHRISTINE IS NOT, SO WE'RE NOT GONNA LET
HER ANSWER THAT QUESTION. [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] JOYCE: WELL, BETH, SINCE I
HAVEN'T BEEN TO HEAVEN YET, I'M NOT 100% FOR SURE, BUT--
BETH: I DON'T HAVE THE ANSWER TO THAT EITHER, BUT WHAT I DO
KNOW, I LOVE THE FACT THAT THERE'S HORSES, WE KNOW, THERE,
BECAUSE OF REVELATION 19. SO, WE KNOW THERE'S GOING TO BE
ANIMALS THERE. NO, WE DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT
WHAT HAPPENS WITH THEM, BUT I LOVE WHAT MY FRIEND SUSAN SAYS,
AND SHE SAID IT SO MANY TIMES, AND SHE'S A COWORKER OF MINE. AND SHE SAID, "LISTEN, WHAT GOD
HAS WAITING FOR US IS GOING TO BE THE ABSOLUTE MOST
PHENOMENAL BEST. WHATEVER IS BEST AND MOST
WONDERFUL, HE WILL HAVE WAITING FOR US." AND I LOVE THAT, AND I OFTEN
THINK, "OKAY, HAVE ME THAT ONE BIRD DOG I LOVED SO MUCH. HAVE THAT THING WAITING FOR ME
IN MY CONDO." SO, WE DON'T KNOW THE ANSWER,
BUT WE CAN SURE HOPE. JOYCE: WAIT, WAIT, YOU'RE
LOOKING--YOU'RE WANTING TO LIVE IN A CONDO? CHRIS: I'M HAVING A MANSION. THAT'S WHAT I SAID. [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] BETH: OKAY, BUT THE GREEK
WORD THAT TRANSLATES "MANSION" IN THE KING JAMES VERSION--
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING] JOYCE: OH, COME ON NOW. BETH: I'M SORRY, Y'ALL. I'M SORRY. JOYCE: NOW YOU'RE GONNA GO
GREEK ON ME? BETH: I'M SORRY TO BE
DISAPPOINTING. CHRIS: WELCOME TO MY
BAPTIST FRIEND. SHE'S HAVING A CONDO,
I'M HAVING A MANSION. THAT'S ALL I'M SAYING. [AUDIENCE CHEERING] BETH: I KNOW, BUT I'M
A PESSIMISTIC BAPTIST. [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] BETH: LET'S JUST SAY
IT'S ROOMS. IT'S GONNA BE GREAT ROOMS, YES. JOYCE: ALL RIGHT, I COULDN'T
RESIST. I JUST THOUGHT,
"WELL, YOU KNOW." CHRIS: BUT YOU DO
UNDERSTAND--FOR THAT LADY, YOU DO UNDERSTAND THE GRIEF OF
AN ANIMAL. I KNOW, DON'T YOU? SO, THAT'S VERY REAL. BETH: OH, I DO, I DO. JOYCE: AND I DON'T KNOW IF
THERE'LL BE ANY OTHERS THERE, BUT MINE THAT DIED WILL
BE THERE. [AUDIENCE LAUGHING] [MUSIC] GINGER: THERE'S A LOT MORE
COMING UP. DO NOT GO AWAY. OUR FRIENDS WILL BE BACK TO
ANSWER MORE OF THOSE QUESTIONS COMING UP, TALKING ABOUT
RELATIONSHIPS. BUT FIRST, WE DO HAVE SOME
RESOURCES THAT WILL HELP YOU DO THE THINGS THAT WE HAVE BEEN
TALKING ABOUT. THEY'RE GOING TO HELP YOU
DISCOVER HEALING AND RESTORATION IN YOUR JOURNEY WITH CHRIST. AND A LOT OF THE THINGS THAT
THEY HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT ALL COME DOWN TO ONE THING, AND THAT
IS TRUSTING GOD, TRUSTING THAT HE HAS A GOOD PLAN FOR US,
TRUSTING THAT HE HAS HEALING FOR US, TRUSTING THAT HE CAN HELP US
THROUGH ANY SITUATION. THIS IS FOUR TEACHINGS ON CDS
CALLED, "TRUST GOD AND DO GOOD." THIS IS ONE OF MY FAVORITES FROM
JOYCE, AND LET ME TELL YOU WHY. WHEN YOU LISTEN TO THIS, YOU'RE
GOING TO LEARN HOW TO TRUST GOD WHEN THINGS ARE DIFFICULT. IT WILL ALSO TELL US HOW TO DO
GOOD AND HELP OTHERS THROUGH THOSE TIMES THAT WE NEED MORE
TRUST OURSELVES. THERE'S SOME KEYS IN HERE THAT
WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE. THEN, YOU'LL ALSO GET THESE
ENCOURAGING SCRIPTURE CARDS. THESE LITTLE CARDS ARE SO HANDY. WHAT THEY ARE ARE DIFFERENT
TOPICS, LIKE HERE'S ONE ON GOD'S TIMING. YOU FLIP IT OVER AND THERE'S
A SCRIPTURE PERFECT FOR THAT, TO ENCOURAGE YOU, TO REMIND YOU. AND THESE ARE JUST REALLY HANDY
TO HAVE IN YOUR PURSE, AROUND THE HOUSE, TO GIVE TO FRIENDS,
HAND THEM OUT, DO WHATEVER YOU WOULD LIKE TO DO WITH THEM. BUT GET THESE RESOURCES RIGHT
NOW, BECAUSE THEY WILL HELP YOU. BEFORE WE HEAR WHAT THE LADIES
HAVE TO SAY ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS, AS I PROMISED THAT'S COMING UP,
LET'S CHECK OUT YOUR VOICE. [MUSIC] GINGER: WE ASKED YOU TO SHARE
WHY YOU ENJOY HELPING OTHERS AND HOW IT HAS CHANGED YOUR LIFE,
AND THESE ARE SOME GREAT ANSWERS FROM SOCIAL MEDIA. TANYA SAYS, "MY CHURCH TEACHES
US TO SHARE OUR TIME, TREASURES, AND TALENT. I COULD NEVER IDENTIFY
MY TALENT. I WORK WITH TAXES. SO, 3 YEARS AGO, I VOLUNTEERED
TO HELP LOW AND MODERATE INCOME INDIVIDUALS GET TAX FREE
PREPARATION SERVICES. IT'S BECOME THE JOY OF MY LIFE. I FOUND MY PASSION
AND MY MISSION. I LEARNED MY ORDINARY SKILLS
THAT GOD PROVIDED IS MY TALENT." THAT'S PRETTY GREAT. WHAT GOD GIVES YOU TO DO, WHAT
HE PUTS IN YOUR HAND IS QUITE OFTEN THAT SPECIAL TALENT THAT
YOU'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR. TAHESHA FROM BOSTON SAYS,
"I ENJOY HELPING OTHERS BECAUSE I FEEL BLESSED BY IT. I FEEL CLOSER TO GOD
BECAUSE OF IT. ALSO, IT MADE ME MORE
SYMPATHETIC TO THE PAIN AND THE NEEDS OF OTHERS." AND JOAN FROM LOUISIANA, "MY
RESCUED HORSES AND I HAVE HELPED OTHERS WHO ARE DEALING WITH
EMOTIONAL CHALLENGES. SOME INDIVIDUALS JUST HAVE
A HARD TIME TRUSTING THEIR FEELINGS WITH PEOPLE; SO WITH
HORSES, THEY GAIN NEW SKILLS, SELF-ESTEEM, AND ESPECIALLY
HOPE." WELL, THOSE ARE ALL GREAT, AND
WHATEVER YOUR TALENT IS, AND MAYBE IF YOU HAVEN'T QUITE FOUND
IT YET, I WANNA ENCOURAGE YOU TO JUST GET UP OFF YOUR SWEET
LITTLE BEHIND AND GO DO SOMETHING GOOD. MAYBE YOU'LL DISCOVER THAT IT
MAKES A HUGE DIFFERENCE FOR OTHER PEOPLE AND HELPS YOU TOO. WELL, COMING UP, WE HAVE
A QUESTION THAT WE ARE GOING TO ANSWER FROM A BRAND NEW
CHRISTIAN. SO, RIGHT NOW, I WANT TO ASK YOU
ON SOCIAL MEDIA TO SHARE YOUR VOICE AND YOUR BEST ADVICE TO
A NEW CHRISTIAN. YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE,
SO SHARE WHAT CAN HELP THEM. WHAT SHOULD THEY DO NOW? WHAT WAS SOME OF THE BEST ADVICE
YOU TOOK? USE FACEBOOK, TWITTER, USE #EA,
AND JUST LET THOSE PEOPLE KNOW OUT THERE, BECAUSE AS THEY'RE
READING THROUGH, THEY CAN REALLY BENEFIT FROM YOUR EXPERIENCE. ONE OF OUR QUESTIONS AT
THE WOMEN'S CONFERENCE CAME FROM A NEW BELIEVER WHO JUST GAVE HER
LIFE TO CHRIST THE NIGHT BEFORE, SO THAT'S PRETTY EXCITING. SHE WANTED HELP FOR
RELATIONSHIPS WITH HER NON-BELIEVING FRIENDS IN HER
LIFE, ESPECIALLY THE ONES WHO WILL NOT BE SO THRILLED ABOUT
HER NEW WALK WITH CHRIST. CHRIS: WHEN I FIRST
SURRENDERED MY LIFE TO CHRIST, THERE WERE A COUPLE OF
FRIENDSHIPS THAT HAD TO DRAMATICALLY BE CUT OFF, BECAUSE
THEY WOULD'VE DRAGGED ME BACK INTO JUST SOME PATTERNS OF
DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR THAT WEREN'T GREAT. AND AS PAINFUL AS IT WAS,
IT WOULD'VE BEEN MORE PAINFUL, BECAUSE EVENTUALLY IT WOULD'VE
ENDED UP PROBABLY THERE, MEANING WE HAD TO GO TWO SEPARATE PATHS
ANYWAY. YOU COULD MAKE THAT REALLY
PAINFUL AND GO KICKING AND SCREAMING OR NOT. NOW, WHEN YOU'VE GOT A TENDER
HEART AND YOU WANNA ALSO OBEY THE LORD, SO YOU DON'T JUST
WANNA BE RUDE TO PEOPLE, AND SOMETIMES YOU THINK--THERE
WAS, SAY, A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FAMILY THAT I DIDN'T GET ON
GREAT WITH, BUT GOD HAD ME, "I WANT YOU TO STICK AROUND
IN THIS AND I WANT YOU TO GO THE EXTRA MILE." SO, IN ONE CASE, I ACTUALLY HAD
TO TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND DO WHAT WAS REALLY HARD, WHICH WAS
TO STAY AND WORK THROUGH IT. WHEN IT CAME TO SOME
RELATIONSHIPS FOR MY OWN SAKE, AND I'M SURE FOR THEIRS TOO
THE LORD WOULD'VE HAD, I HAD TO CUT THEM OFF. THERE WERE PLACES I COULD NO
LONGER VISIT. I HAD TO BE DRAMATIC HUGELY,
BECAUSE YOU'RE VERY, VERY VULNERABLE IN THAT MOMENT. SO, THAT'S WHY I'M SAYING
THAT TO YOU. OKAY, I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU
ALL ARE, YEAH. [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING] JOYCE: I HAVE A LITTLE SAYING
THAT I GOT AHOLD OF A LONG TIME AGO. YOU CAN HANG WITH SOMEBODY AS
LONG AS THERE'S A CHANCE FOR YOU TO AFFECT THEM, BUT IF THEY
START TO INFECT YOU-- BETH: THAT'S GOOD, JOYCE. JOYCE: THEN YOU GOTTA MOVE
ON, AMEN? BETH: THAT'S GOOD. JOYCE: BECAUSE WE DON'T WANNA
RUN FROM EVERYBODY THAT'S NOT A BELIEVER. THEY NEED PEOPLE TO BE
AN EXAMPLE TO THEM. AND SO, I'M ALL FOR CONTINUING
TO TRY TO WORK IN SOMEBODY'S LIFE, AS LONG AS I'M HAVING SOME
KIND OF AN EFFECT. EVEN IF IT'S LONG TIME IN
BETWEEN TIMES WHEN I SEE PROGRESS IF I'M HAVING
AN EFFECT, BUT IF IT STARTS TO INFECT ME AND I START TO FEEL
COMPROMISED OR I START TO FEEL TEMPTED, YOU KNOW, IN SOME WAY,
THEN THAT'S IT. BETH: YOU KNOW, I KNOW THAT
WE CAN'T TAKE IT WHERE ALL THREE OF US ANSWER EVERY ONE, BUT I
GUESS YOU CAN SEE ANY WOMAN OF ANY AMOUNT OF DECADES HAS HAD
THIS HAPPEN, SO LET ME THROW THIS IN REAL QUICKLY TOO. AND CARLY, YOU SAID NOTHING
THAT'S MAKING ME THINK THIS, SO JUST LET ME GO A DIFFERENT
DIRECTION WITH THIS ANSWER. THIS--YOU DID NOT REFLECT THIS
IN ANY WAY, BUT I HAVE LEARNED, LADIES, THAT VERY OFTEN, ONE WAY
YOU KNOW A CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP IS IF IT WILL NOT
TOLERATE CHANGE. IF YOU DECIDE THAT YOU REALLY
WANT TO MAKE A CHANGE, BUT THAT FRIENDSHIP WON'T CHANGE WITH
YOU, VERY OFTEN THEY WOULD RATHER QUIT THAN CHANGE, AND
THAT'S NOT A HEALTHY FRIENDSHIP. SO, KEEP THAT IN MIND. IT'S VERY PAINFUL. THERE'S NOTHING EASY ABOUT EVEN
SAYING IT, LET ALONE LIVING IT, BUT I DO WANT TO TELL YOU THAT
THAT IS THE NATURE OF CODEPENDENCY, IS IT WANTS
THAT--IT FEEDS OFF OF THAT INNER WOVENNESS. AND ONCE YOU TRY TO CLEAN UP
THOSE LINES, THAT THING'S GONNA ARRIVE. GINGER: I LOVED THAT TODAY. I JUST LOVED THE WOMEN'S
QUESTIONS, THE ANSWERS WERE GREAT, AND SO MANY OF TODAY'S
ANSWERS ARE BASED ON TRUSTING GOD. THAT'S NOT ALWAYS AS EASY AS IT
SOUNDS, SO TO HELP YOU, WE HAVE SOME RESOURCES. THIS IS FOUR TEACHINGS ON CD
CALLED, "TRUST GOD AND DO GOOD." ONE OF JOYCE'S VERY BEST
TEACHINGS, I THINK, AND IT'S REALLY HELPFUL. WE ALSO HAVE THESE ENCOURAGING
SCRIPTURE CARDS. KEEP THESE WITH YOU. THEY'RE GREAT TO HAVE AROUND THE
HOUSE, IN YOUR PURSE TO HAND OUT TO OTHERS, AND IT IS A SCRIPTURE
FOR ABOUT EVERY SITUATION YOU CAN THINK OF RIGHT WHEN YOU
NEED IT. PICK THESE UP TODAY. DON'T WAIT.
GET IT RIGHT NOW. IT WILL HELP YOU IN LIFE'S BIG
QUESTIONS, AND SO WILL NEXT WEEK ON "EVERYDAY ANSWERS." JOYCE: I SPENT MANY YEARS OF
MY LIFE AS A CHRISTIAN MISERABLE BECAUSE I DID NOT KNOW HOW TO
ACCESS THE PEACE THAT WAS MINE THROUGH CHRIST. I CAN TELL YOU TONIGHT THAT YOU
NEVER AGAIN HAVE TO PRAY FOR PEACE. GINGER: ASK US YOUR
QUESTIONS. WE LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU. YOU CAN USE TWITTER,
USE THE HASHTAG #ASKJOYCE. YOU CAN GO RIGHT TO OUR
"EVERYDAY ANSWERS" PAGE ON OUR WEBSITE, JOYCEMEYER.ORG/EA. AND REMEMBER, WE LOVE YOU
SO MUCH. THERE IS ALWAYS AN ANSWER
TO LIFE'S QUESTIONS. NEVER GIVE UP. DIG INTO GOD'S WORD AND SEE WHAT
YOU CAN FIND. AND RIGHT NOW, GO OUT AND PUT
A SMILE ON SOMEONE ELSE'S FACE. ANNOUNCER: THE PRECEDING
WAS PAID FOR BY THE FRIENDS AND PARTNERS
OF JOYCE MEYER MINISTRIES.
