Freeloader Sister Lives At Parents For Free & Gets Pregnant But Now They Demand I Give Her My Money

my friend bought this special office chair that molds to the person that uses it this chair is supposed to be really good for your back but the arms wouldn't fit under his desk he knew i didn't like my current office chair because it was uncomfortable and rickety so he gave the chair to me i replaced my office chair with it and i've been really enjoying it i think it's helped my posture a lot i did notice later that certain areas were getting flatter less form-fitting and uncomfortable i actually had to stop using it because it sort of hurt i thought maybe someone else had been using it so i asked my sister since we are the only ones that use the office she said she has and that it really helped her back since she's been getting back pains lately i explained how the chair seat and back change form when other people use and asked her not to use it anymore because it was hurting me i then put the chair in the corner so it could hopefully go back to its normal shape like the website said it would after a couple days of not using it a couple weeks go by and i noticed that the cushion is still compressed i thought maybe my sister was still using it i decided to put it in my room since the office is getting turned into a nursery anyway the next day i noticed that there are drag marks on my bedroom carpet leading to the chair i talked to my sister about it again and she says she needs it more since she works from home all day and i just use it while i'm drawing or playing games i also use it while doing my school work my parents also think i need to let her use it because of her circumstances and say i should just use her chair but her chair is just as bad as my old one i told them she should just buy a better chair for herself since she has a job but they just said it was too expensive and they all need to save the money for her baby and i need to contribute to i feel like since i have to give up my time to do all the heavy duty chores now by myself i shouldn't have to give up my stuff too so i went and got a steering wheel log to put on the arms of the chair so she couldn't use it without the key she went absolutely ballistic threw the chair on the ground and now i'm grounded until i apologize and let her use the chair again edit i've gotten a few comments asking how old we are i'm three years younger than her my sister is 18. holy moly you are not the idiot might get downvoted for this but your sister's pregnancy does not entitle her to such tantrums first of all it's your property since your friend gave it to you you've established that it's starting to hurt you and she keeps trying to use it but she's continuously crossed the line by going behind your back to use it preparing for a baby is a hard financial and physical situation for a lot of people but it does not justify her throwing the chair you are not the idiot if she can't afford a chair how is she supposed to afford a baby her inability to engage in safe intimacy is not your responsibility or problem if negotiating is an issue i'd wager babysitting for literally everything your sister sounds like the type that would demand babysitting from you sure take the chair but if you ever leave me with babysitting duty i will call cps for child abandonment because i will not babysit a single minute for you i female 18 have colon cancer i've gone through a few rounds of chemo and i'm up to have surgery soon i haven't lost my hair but i've noticeably lost a lot of weight due to just being so mentally and physically exhausted and just not having much appetite i will admit i've always been on the bigger side so if people saw me how there's a very massive difference in how i look i never made an announcement about it nor posted it on my social media accounts i only told my family members boyfriend and a couple of my very close and trusted friends i honestly just felt that i was lucky enough to even be able to have mine removed and have early intervention and have a couple months worth of recovery compared to those who don't get the same liberty there was a zoom meeting for my class who graduated last year i was on the screen with my boyfriend just had chemo and i was really tired i only went on there to just help the current year looking into university and discussing my bachelor course with them so one of my old friends female 20 no longer friends because she's toxic asked me if the rumor was true about me having cancer i told her that i do have cancer but i was lucky for early intervention she then asked if i was being truthful because i still had hair i told her that my hair is thinning i have really thick curly hair and i've only had chemo like a couple times but the doctor explained something about what they put in for what you have or something i don't really remember she was then like well why didn't i post it or whatever and i was like having cancer isn't something everybody needs to know i'm not gonna become instagram famous i tried to ignore it but she kept going on and on talking about how her uncle had cancer and lost his hair and died and that what i have probably isn't cancer etc and i just was really exhausted and said look i really don't feel like i need to validate my cancer to you don't believe me fine don't i really don't care i'm mentally and physically exhausted i've lost a crap ton of weight just look at my medical bills if you really want proof if you want to trade places let's do that or shut up she then went off at me calling me a liar and that i'm only seeking attention because colon cancer isn't serious and then she hung up and started blowing up my phone but i blocked her my boyfriend thinks it was hysterical one of my friends says that i hurt her feelings and publicly embarrassed her i feel bad now because obviously i didn't intend to do that i also feel pretty justified in how i handled it does that make sense am i the idiot for how i responded also the meeting was recorded so it's posted on an online forum where everyone can see it you are not the idiot if anything she embarrassed herself lots of people keep their diagnosis to themselves and or only share to those they're closest with because ready for this it's nobody's business unless you want to make it their business and then questioning that you're really not that sick because of x y and z is just plain rude keep her blocked and focus on your health omg no not the idiot you were so very very very tame in my opinion questioning your cancer because you still have hair is the nastiest thing i've ever heard not every hardship you go through has to be posted on social media to be valid and true the entitlement of this woman astonishes me do not apologize for anything and do not accept her apology either in case you are unaware there's a bunch of losers in cameron who pretend to be part of the illuminati and message people on social media telling them they're invited and will receive benefits like a massive salary and be part of the secret and prestige organization after the initiation and registration fee of 666 dollars of course there are various youtube videos of it and the whole thing is so ridiculous i don't know how anyone could fall for it but lo and behold my stupid sister did she actually transferred 666 dollars but the bank stopped the transfer detecting it as fraudulent she told us how she was joining that nonsense and needed her help which is how we found out by the way she's not a kid she's 21. i was talking to my brother and i said something like i've seen videos of these on youtube i couldn't believe there were people this stupid to fall for it it's horrifying someone related to us is dumb enough to fall for it my sister overheard it and started crying and went to her mom parents said i needed to apologize and i said no what she did was the dumbest thing i've ever seen anyone do and i'm not going to sugarcoat it who does this this crap was even more obvious than the prince one most of my family's saying i'm an idiot for that but we shouldn't be comforting my sister we should be shaming her and letting her know that what she did was so stupid my god you are not the idiot i would have done the exact same thing your sister is so stupid she's 21 and fell for that crap even my 80 year old grandma could see from space it was a scam you were right to call her out at least she's unlikely to do it again just to be safe though take it as an opportunity to educate here there are loads of articles online about how to spot a scam as some more convincing ones might still get her you are the idiot you're not wrong that she was dumb but your sister is now very well aware how dumb she was she's likely terribly upset to see herself diminished in how you regard her you may be right that she's stupid but you don't have to be cruel you're a hundred percent correct that the term applies to her but it's mean and you can be right and kind at the same time or you can just be right and you're choosing to just be right if you were to have done the same thing if someone had somehow got you to act completely against your own self-interest and then you felt utterly humiliated by it how would you feel and then how could you feel of the people that are supposed to lift you up to joy in your error just salt in the wound to start off my ex-wife and i split up when my daughter was about four years old it was an amicable decision and my ex and i are still friends we have dinner together with our daughter at least once every couple of months since the divorce my daughter loves these times and we get to talk about boring co-parenting stuff when we finish dinner and our daughter's out of earshot i met my current wife when my daughter was little and wife had a bit older son they got along but she always seemed to want to hang out with him more than he wanted to be with her i didn't think anything of it just figured she thought he was cool and looked up to him she used to beg for the two of them to have sleepovers in the living room and things my stepson has never complained to me about this my daughter is three years younger than my stepson and we live a pretty boring life together but last week i heard my daughter scream crying from her brother's room i went to investigate and he was standing their fists clenched and red in the face my daughter was lying on the ground sobbing and hyperventilating immediately i separated the two and i started by talking to my daughter she told me that her stepbrother said he hated her and doesn't ever want her to talk to him again and then pushed her to where i found her i went to my stepson after talking to my daughter and confronted him he admitted to the words but not the shoving and he told me something that really freaked me out he had just taken a shower and had come out from the bathroom to his room but apparently he didn't hear the door latch closed when he had finished getting dressed and turned to leave he saw that the door was cracked and my daughter was on the other side that's when he flipped out on her and told her to leave him alone and not ever talk to him i honestly don't know what to think i went back to my daughter and after a bit of prodding she confessed and said she was curious and seemed really embarrassed i got really upset and told her what an invasion of privacy that was and how would she like it if she found someone looking at her change the way he found her i told her i was going to take away her laptop and her phone she freaked out she called my ex before i knew it and when she handed me the phone my ex was on speaker scolding me for something so trivial that every young one gets curious sometimes i told her it didn't matter her curiosity shouldn't impede my stepson's safety in my house and vice versa if it happened the other way around my daughter started screaming that she wanted to live with her mom and the next day my ex came to pick her up my daughter is refusing to answer my calls or come for visitation which used to be a 50 50 split my ex-wife says she's appalled by my clear favoritism towards my stepson and i just want my daughter back am i the idiot should i apologize you are not the idiot this is not okay your daughter needs to know what a clear violation of privacy this was and how not okay this is he needs to feel safe in his home just like she needs to feel safe in her home the fact she's throwing a temper tantrum about this instead of apologizing profusely and promising it will never happen again quite frankly is worrisome i'd explain to your ex that if the roles were reversed she'd be livid right now if your stepson did this to your daughter and the nonsense about favorites is the biggest load of crap i've ever heard and if she doesn't understand that then maybe you should get a mediator and explain it to them tell your daughter that it's her right not to see you but when you do you expect an apology to both your stepson and yourself i'd also let your ex know you're expecting an apology from her as well your ex acting like she is some petty stuff that needs to stop like yesterday i 26 male have an older brother jake 28. basically our mother died six months ago and in her will she split her estate quite a large sum worth over a million euros in two by half i received immediately but my brother's half was held in a trust with me as the trustee my mother's wish was for me to keep this money until a time that i thought jake wouldn't waste it all at once on partying and buying sugar but use it productively for his future despite my brother being in his late 20s he still spends all his time clubbing and honestly has never really got his life on track he never visited her mom on her deathbed which is something i will always represent him for jake was obviously not happy with this and began pestering me to give him the money immediately he began being really nasty with me and increasingly threatened me to give him the money i later found out that he had gotten into debt from gambling and had been counting on the money he was going to get from her mother's imminent death to pay it off i do not feel like this was in line with her mom's wishes as she wanted me to save the money so that he would spend it on starting a family deposit on a house etc so i refused to give it to him me and my brother have a terrible relationship he bullied me viciously when we were younger among other things for me being gay autistic and adopted i find his insults particularly hurtful about me being adopted and this is something he said to me a lot in the last few months i'm not a real son therefore i don't deserve any of our mother's inheritance let alone keeping half from her real son for my part i was not happy that her mom had given me the burden of looking after this money and would rather my mother had just given jake the money so i would never have to talk to him again jake has done lots of things to try to force me to give him his half of the inheritance the harshest was when he stole her mom's wedding ring from my house when i was hosting our mother's wake she had left me the ring so that i could propose to my long-term boyfriend jake said he would give it back to me if i gave him his half of the inheritance i didn't and he ended up pawning the ring i've been given a job offer from a different country and i'm gonna take it it will be basically impossible for jake to contact or visit me i am also going to keep the inheritance for myself this is going against my mom's wishes which is why i am likely the idiot however if i gave him the money now i would also be going against my mom's wishes and honestly i cannot bear to give him the money after how horrible he has been towards me i'm not sure what to do my boyfriend and mom's sister both support me keeping the money and i think my mother would support the decision too the only alternative is keeping it in the trust forever for my mental health i cannot keep in touch with him long term in order to properly fulfill my mother's wishes i feel bad but i cannot give my brother the money am i wrong you are wrong this is greasy and foolish greasy your mother intended that money to go to him she didn't say hold it six months but if he still hasn't gotten it together by then or he's being a pain in the butt just keep it come on foolish it could be true that your mother's will won't prevent him from getting the money if you appoint a trustee but that will is the document the courts will use so if you think it doesn't actually stipulate that the money can be withheld from him you're going to eventually get taken to court over this where you'll lose that's doubly if you don't just withhold the money without a legal right to but actually steal it and cut off contact instead i 39 male got married to my wife sarah three years ago my stepdaughter audrey used to have a good relationship with me but sometimes when she gets upset she says some pretty harsh stuff and lately she's been acting out and would literally yell at me for just asking how are things my wife says i should take a step back and let her have some space which is what i've been doing for the past two months yesterday while my wife was at the stores and i was watching the news i saw my step-daughter walking out of my bedroom i thought nothing of it she's usually there for a pack of tissues or her mother's laptop and other stuff when we finished dinner before i went to bed i went to check my closet and found that there was money missing 200 to be exact i was keeping the cash to give it to my brother the next day to help pay for his wife's hospital bill i was confused i asked my wife if she went shopping with my money and she said no i gotta say i had suspicions but didn't want to jump to conclusions the next day my stepdaughter came home with shopping bags and looked delighted i asked her where she was she said at the mall i asked her where she got the money she said that her mom gave her money i asked her how much but she got mad and told me off said i was being an idiot and that i ruined her mood i was furious so furious because that was the money i was supposed to help my brother out with i waited till my wife got home and i told her what happened my wife started begging me to not confront their daughter about the money she took because that would make her hate us both and made excuses saying she's just a kid she didn't know told me to hide the money elsewhere next time i lost it i told her to pay the money audrey took because that was not okay and since she chose to let her get away and that i shouldn't try to parent her trust me way too many people told me not to try and be a dad to her then she should be paying me my 200 back she tried to argue about how money is always more important to me and that i don't care about her or even try to understand why audrey is doing this the whole evening was quiet i sat there in silence unable to even tell my step-daughter what she did wrong because that's her mom's wish you are not the idiot something is seriously wrong here the fact that you have money missing and your wife does not want you to bring it up is concerning this smells like mama gave her the money or told her to take it not the idiot it's kind of sad that she doesn't want you to parent stepdaughter because somebody needs to start parenting her don't mention she's stealing because she gets mad she cares more about being her friend than being her mother her daughter's behavior will get so much worse if she gets away with this call out stepdaughter you don't have to do it as a parent do it as her theft victim tell step daughter that she needs to give you back the money or you file a police report [Music]

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Published: Tue Apr 13 2021