People Who Dated A Sociopath Share Their Horror Stories - AskReddit

for most of my life I dated women who were broken vulnerable and had self-esteem issues people who dated a sociopath what was it like stay tuned for the last story written by an actual sociopath he explains very well why so many people fall for sociopaths throw away because the guy might find this I dated a guy who I am 90% sure was a sociopath not diagnosed but had all the signs he would find vulnerable girls like myself who was struggling with depression at the time and charmed them and make them feel special in my case I had rejected him multiple times and he just kept asking me out so finally I said yes he would constantly tell me I was special and made me very dependent on him he spoke very well to others almost too well he was perfectly mannered like he was out of a textbook after six months or so we started fighting he would say or do things that upset me and when I tried to confront him he would turn it all around on me and blame me for it all and tell me I was just starting drama and denied he ever did anything he made me question my idea of reality because I was sure these things had been done and said but he denied doing them intensely he also tried to delude me into thinking I was too good for people he told me I was too good for my family and that they were abusive anadi could save me from them his power revolved around the idea of him saving me and looking back I wasn't the first girl he had done this to at one stage he told me that I should be thankful he saved me from my depression because he had also apparently cured drug users as well he used to withhold affection from me and wouldn't talk to me until I apologized for whatever he did and he would threaten to leave me if I didn't apologize he believed he was too good for people and things and would often tell me I had done very well to be with him he also used the power he had managed to give himself to manipulate people he manipulated me into sex after we broke up with promises of love and then when I finally gave in to his multiples requests to get back together he told me he did not love me anymore never would again and neither would anyone else he treated me like a child and made all my decisions for me including how I dressed he would treat me differently when I was dressed nicely than when I wasn't I began to notice something was wrong when he wouldn't be happy for my achievements and instead would expect me be happy for things he did however if I did something good he would play it and tell me it was nothing an early warning sign should have been that he interfered and broke up my previous relationship so he could be with me he believed if he couldn't have me no one could he also constantly lied about his life and achievements and still does now overall 0/10 experience would not recommend to anyone he was at a party hosted by a friend and he decided that he never wanted to go back home because his parents were too strict he decided to steal the hosts truck after he fell asleep the keys were on a table in his friend's room but he was worried he'd wake up so instead he went to the kitchen got a long butcher's knife and stabbed his sleeping friend through the heart but luckily had poor aim he was so startled that his friend woke that he ran away without even taking the truck he told everyone except me that he was on 15 different drugs and there was a fight and he doesn't remember anything else but truthfully he remembers everything it was all premeditated and he thinks it's rather a funny story after he got out of prison he smoked meth on parole he didn't want to go to jail again so as they walked him up an outdoor flight of stairs he hurled himself off the second platform onto his skull it did just enough brain damage to get all charges dismissed and be remanded to the custody of his mother he thinks it's a pretty funny story - I was friends with benefits with one a few years ago she was fun to talk to and really vibrant we had sex really early on in to me knowing her I just thought she was a bit wild the only real warning signs I saw in her was her tendency to lash out at people and say really awful things to people who pissed her off but I thought oh that's just her things started to get weird when I found out just how much she lied and about little things - she's pit friends against each other if she thought that the dynamic was changing she was always a bit controlling but the way she explained why she did things was a bit concerning it was apparent she just liked being in charge of her friend group and would once again lash out if things didn't go her way I didn't really find out she was actually a sociopath or had a narcissistic personality disorder until I had a conversation with her mom get this she actually cut off her cat's tail when she was in Middle School and microwaved a hamster she's been in therapy nearly all her life and had severe behavioral issues throughout school apparently around the time we met she was a lot more mela than she used to be we ended up going our separate ways after a big fight she had started trying to make it seem as if a friend of mine was sleeping around on his girlfriend and when she got called out for it she was just laughing it off I don't know she was interesting and wait crazy in bed but unfortunately she was more Esso crazy in the day to day I dated one for three months before I saw any signs of him being a sociopath and yes he was absolutely charming and sweet and funny and witty and my friends all adored him six months later I was on the brink of losing my job had lost almost all of my friends lost my apartment and was contemplating suicide my family was devastated they tried everything to try and get me to stop seeing him the crazy thing is that I had seen so many warning signs that I should run early on but I chose to ignore them because I really liked him his own mother had tried to warn me about him even his ex-girlfriend tried to warn me about him I just really thought he would be different with me because I thought I was like no other girl he had dated that I could somehow change him ultimately I realized it didn't matter what type of girl he dated because he was the problem unfortunately it took me to domestic violent incidents being homeless living out of my car getting pregnant with his child and many other countless dark experiences before I was finally able to get out of it now 12 years later I am happily married and have full legal and sole custody of our son the only legitimate fear I have now in raising my son is just how strong his father's genes are after two months I accidentally introduced myself to his other girlfriend who had no idea I existed backstory Steve started talking to me on OkCupid his profile indicated that he was single and he perpetuated that story the entire time we dated once we met in real life we got close quickly at first things went great though he came with a lot of baggage each week seemed like a new bombshell he was a dad but didn't have a relationship with the mother or child for the mother's request he had previously done sex work a bullet a cuckolding team with a dominatrix but he was no longer doing that work on and on I could handle all this because I felt like he was being honest with me and because I'm a grown-up woman and I understand that people have a past Steve would always tell me how grateful he was to have me in his life when it seemed like so many others had abandoned him even the one friend he had an ex-girlfriend Deena was starting to be crazy and he was thinking of cutting her out of his life then Steve started getting flaky I'd invite him out and he'd flake last-minute always an excuse his phone would die someone was sick this or that I started getting the sense that something was up but couldn't put my finger on what exactly I had given Steve several opportunities to end things but he always insisted that I was so important to him and that he was happy to have me in his life I decided to get some perspective on what I should do by talking to the one friend of his that I had any real info about his ex Tina I had never met her but I'd figured out which bar she worked at so I went in to talk to her when I introduced myself to Tina she had never heard of me and it turned out she was Steve's girlfriend too both of us were pretty shocked later that same night she called him up and confronted him with me right there one of the most awkward situations of my life he refused to acknowledge I'd been dating him worse he had lied to me about his sexual health having unprotected sex with other people including sex workers thank God I never had unprotected sex with him in my early 20s I dated a guy that was ridiculously charming he was a veteran in the college graduate I thought I had found someone extraordinary however once we started dating there were cracks in his facade he would get angry over tiny little things he started saying awful things to me thinking that I could relate to this terrible sense of humor he thought he no longer needed to work because ou would happily support him it slowly turned into a nightmare he started drinking heavily and would take absolutely anything to get high he hated where I was from so we moved out west he stopped working altogether and was drunk 90% of the time he would hit on girls in front of me blatantly he became physically abusive I was stranded with him and we were living in a crappy motel every day was a nightmare we finally found jobs up north he decided he couldn't hack it in needed booze and drugs the night he left me he slept with a good friend of mine she was passed out drunk and he basically raped her my skin crawls thinking about him and all of the shameless lassie told I was happily single for four years afterwards he used to say he was the only one that would date me because I have OCD he was such a psycho he'd throw temper tantrums when I refused him beer money a lot of warning signs I missed because I was working so much I've been with an incredible guy for five years and have had to change my number and block my facebook this guy still thinks he has some bizarre power over me nope I dated one for six months she was charming until about four months in until that point it was a normal relationship but after that she got angry over little things everything was made to be my fault let me preface the remainder of this with the fact she was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder borderline personality disorder and was a sociopath and psychopath so a great choice to date obviously as a young teenager everything was my fault my friends were manipulated into believing this - she had me wrapped around her finger to the point even I believed it during one of the times she had broken up with me I believe this time was because of my musical tastes I got together with a much more sane cool friend of mine we kissed but I ended up for some stupid reason getting back with this girl as I always did for whatever reason well the psycho finds out I had kissed this other girl and starts emailing her death threats it was at this point I and my friends really realized she was insane I dumped her got with the other girl who had dated for nine months and my friends and I never have spoken to her again I was with my ex for four years before we got married just over four years actually I knew she was estranged from her parents because they were emotionally abusive but over the years things came out that made it seem a lot more two-sided than she admitted well as the wedding came and went they refused to come naturally but started trying to reconnect with her eventually it came out that they offered her a full ride at an expensive college and a new car to Lee so she cheated on me ended up marrying the new guy to aborting our would-be child and leaving me four months after we were married we hadn't had any serious problems and it came out of the clear blue she was deeply troubled and actively made issues I'd worked for years to overcome worse to amuse herself since then I'm happily married and issue free in retrospect I realized a lot was her games do you care for something from another perspective I am probably a sociopath I am NOT diagnosed because well I'm not a criminal so I can't really think of another context where I could be there's a lot of reasons why I suspect I am not least of which is that a behavioral psychologist I went out with flat out accused me of it after a few dates she worked with autistic kids mostly but I expect anyone with a master's degree in the field will have a better opinion than a lay person I meet most though not quite all of the warning signs and criteria for the disorder up to an including massacring wildlife when I was a kid so pretty sure I am pretty sure I don't mind either but anyway on to the relevant bits I've absolutely been a lot of the guys people are talking about on here for most of my life I dated women who were broken vulnerable had self-esteem issues suicidal etc etc I didn't target them consciously but they were always the most receptive the sort of flirtation I knew how to offer in retrospect yeah it's kind of obvious what was happening but I didn't pick up on it for years I never intentionally created social drama or discord in their lives I never set out to wreck their relationships with friends or family nor to create dependence or all the other sorts of emotional bondage that is being described in this thread I simply would say whatever needed to be said try to convince them of whatever I needed them to believe to get what I wanted I was only trying to make my life better by these behaviors not her is worse if she wanted otherwise she could have stopped me it's not like I was using physical force or anything on the rare occasions when I'd get called out on it cos face it people at this spot in their life don't often recognize the problem or assert themselves if they do I back off I never feel bad it's just obviously going to cause me more problems irritation than any benefit I'd gained so I'd quit how she felt meant nothing me at any point it never even would cross my mind to consider her feelings my apathy was so profound that it wasn't until I was well into adulthood and the shrink chick called me out and talked to me that even realized I was treating people like that it simply never occurred to me that others didn't do things like this I knew I was weird and off I had been called creepy throughout high school too but I didn't think it extended that far into my life I was just trying to get what I wanted isn't that what everyone does yeah apparently not so much oddly enough psyche girl kept dating me for a few more months I liked her she made me bacon and mayonnaise sandwiches and we benched watched toss on TV shows and had a lot of sex things were good but she had medical conditions and couldn't make the drive more than 30 minutes to come see me and then I just sort of stopped talking to her which was bad but it's just what I did to girls I was bored with most of the time she never harassed me about it she's a saint in my eyes you'd probably call her an enabler maybe both I doubt I straight-up wrecked anyone's life at least never on purpose I know I made a lot of miserable women even more miserable and left a lot of them Dazed and Confused holding the ball in a game that suddenly vanished so that was lame I've cheated a lot I still want to I never felt guilty about it I also never did the other crap people are describing where I tried to blame others for my behavior the responsibility was mine obviously I violated the contract of the relationship if I couldn't easily smooth it over with the girl I was seeing I moved on water under the bridge some of these women really liked me a lot of them not to be too much of a crap but I'm easy to like knowing what people want to hear is something I've been good at all my life so much so that even typing this is bothering me because I absolutely understand how it reads to anyone but like I said throw away who cares I've never once made it to a job interview and failed to get an offer maybe that's not too abnormal I have no way of knowing but people like me everywhere I go I try to make people like me because the more they like me the more pliable there when I want something from them I like constantly to just about everyone I meet sometimes I cannot help it and some nonsense just spills out but equally as often I do it on purpose because I know that's what the other party wants to hear and the lie will cost me nothing so why the hell not I'm not proud of any of this and I try not to do it anymore I found a woman I think I loved though I have never felt anything which even approximates the feeling the way others have described it instead of my usual female fodder I tried to woo a different sort of lady perhaps hilariously an rants writings taught me the value in dating a powerful fleshed out woman I vowed to find myself one and did I like her admire her and enjoy spending time with her making her happy often makes me happy I've never felt like that about literally anyone else ever so I call it love we've been together for almost six years now so I'm probably a sociopath for a lot of other reasons unrelated to dating but I think I've figured out how to do this correctly now I also think I like it I miss having sex with lots of different women though thanks for listening to radio TTS hit the subscribe button and activate the notification bell for more videos about sociopaths share your own stories in the comments below and let us know if you've dated a sociopath [Music]

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Published: Mon Sep 23 2019